Little boy uses homophobic slurs to attack his brother! | The Benton Family | FULL EPISODE

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TLDRIn this episode, a family in South Carolina faces challenges with discipline and communication. Parents Greg and Amber struggle to manage their two sons, Rivers and Hunter, who frequently fight and have difficulty with homework. Supernanny Joe intervenes to observe the family's dynamics and provide guidance. She identifies the lack of effective discipline and communication between the parents, which contributes to the boys' behavior. Joe teaches the family techniques for discipline, such as clear warnings and follow-through, and emphasizes the importance of emotional connections. By the end of the episode, the family begins to implement these changes, showing hope for improvement in their relationships and dynamics.

Takeaways

  • 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦 Family struggles with discipline and communication.
  • 🗣️ Supernanny Joe provides guidance and support.
  • 📚 Homework issues create stress for the boys.
  • ⚖️ Effective discipline requires follow-through.
  • 💪 Emotional connections are essential for family dynamics.
  • 🤼‍♂️ The boys often fight and misbehave.
  • 📝 Independence in homework is encouraged.
  • 💔 Parents need to communicate better with each other.
  • 🔄 Change is necessary for family improvement.
  • 💡 Learning to listen is crucial for resolving conflicts.

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  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    The V family, consisting of parents Amber and Greg and their two sons Rivers and Hunter, struggles with daily conflicts and ineffective discipline methods. Greg tends to be more aggressive in his approach, while Amber often resorts to yelling and threats, leading to a chaotic household where the boys frequently fight and misbehave.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    Supernanny Joe arrives to observe the family's dynamics and identifies issues such as the boys' aggressive behavior and the lack of effective communication between parents. She notes that Hunter uses derogatory language, which is concerning, and that Rivers struggles with homework due to the pressure from his parents.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:15:00

    Joe witnesses the boys' homework struggles and the parents' impatience, particularly Greg's tendency to give answers instead of allowing Rivers to learn independently. This creates a hostile environment that exacerbates Rivers' anxiety about schoolwork.

  • 00:15:00 - 00:20:00

    Joe has a conversation with Hunter, who expresses fears about his parents' arguments and the possibility of divorce. This revelation highlights the emotional impact of the parents' conflicts on their children, prompting Joe to address the family's communication issues.

  • 00:20:00 - 00:25:00

    During a family meeting, Joe emphasizes the need for clear discipline and consequences for the boys' actions. She encourages the parents to foster emotional connections with their children rather than solely focusing on toughness and physical strength.

  • 00:25:00 - 00:30:00

    Joe introduces a structured approach to homework for Rivers, allowing him to identify when he needs help and when he can work independently. This aims to build Rivers' confidence and reduce the pressure on him during homework time.

  • 00:30:00 - 00:39:22

    As Joe prepares to leave, she reinforces the importance of following through with discipline and maintaining the techniques she has taught them. The family expresses a commitment to change, with Greg showing a willingness to connect with his sons on an emotional level, indicating a positive shift in their family dynamics.

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Video Tanya Jawab

  • What are the main issues in the family?

    The family struggles with discipline, communication, and the boys' aggressive behavior.

  • Who is Supernanny Joe?

    Supernanny Joe is a parenting expert who helps families improve their dynamics and discipline techniques.

  • What techniques does Joe suggest for discipline?

    Joe suggests clear warnings, follow-through on consequences, and emotional connection.

  • How do the parents react to Joe's observations?

    The parents initially feel defensive but gradually recognize the need for change.

  • What changes do the parents implement?

    The parents work on effective discipline, allowing independence in homework, and improving communication.

  • What is the boys' behavior like?

    The boys are aggressive, often fight, and struggle with homework.

  • How does Joe help with homework issues?

    Joe provides strategies for Rivers to manage his homework independently.

  • What emotional connections does Joe encourage?

    Joe encourages the father to connect with his sons through discussions about their feelings and family history.

  • What is the outcome of Joe's intervention?

    The family begins to implement changes and shows signs of improvement in their dynamics.

  • What is the overall message of the episode?

    The importance of effective communication, discipline, and emotional connection in family dynamics.

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    [Music]
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    well I'm in South Carolina and it's
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    rather humid but I'm here to help a
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    family so why don't we take a look hi
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    we're the V I'm Amber I'm Greg and we
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    have two boys Rivers who's 10 and Hunter
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    who's
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    [Music]
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    eight stop it that hurts Hunter is a
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    strong will
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    child stop it Rivers is the fuel 200 hun
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    SP fire and he instigates Hunter a lot
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    dude stop the boys fight on a daily
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    basis I'm going to kill you rivers and
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    Hunter both have potty Mouse is what I'd
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    like to call it man
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    hter rle like a man for my discipline
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    techniques I do a lot of yelling which
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    is not very effective at all turn off
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    your light and get in the B now I make a
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    lot of threats to the boys you go to
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    your room now you're supposed to be in
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    your room go to your own room I'm just
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    wore out where's the follow through on
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    discipline so wonder why these boys just
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    do what they
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    want stop it now go to your room I'm
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    probably a little more aggressive than
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    Amber is as far as discipline what are
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    you doing son why would you do that they
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    know how far they can go and how much
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    they can get away with yeah get the
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    gloves and go put them up now once I
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    reach that point then I will respond I'm
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    disappointed in you I mean seriously
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    like no room to breathe he wants us to
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    build off and get weight in here and
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    then run around the house cuz it helps
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    us run faster physical strength and
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    being physically fit that that is a
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    priority they work out with weights me
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    pushing them I'm giving them that little
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    extra Edge I do want my boys to be tough
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    you getting tired already just listen to
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    Dad Rivers you're faster but you're
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    hitting strong what kind of perfection
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    is he looking for get down there on your
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    homework now Rivers's big problem is his
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    homework sit at the table so you're not
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    daydreaming out there he can't even get
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    a book out without us there over him not
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    staying up 11:00 tonight doing homework
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    son hurry up you've been studying this
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    for all week and you can't tell me the
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    Mississippi River to sit up here and
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    learn how's this little boy meant to get
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    his homework done he's a nervous r heck
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    don't you dare do it huh Bo what's wrong
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    with you put that down things escalate
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    and it turns the whole house upside down
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    Hunter you didn't know
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    that not jump on my couch at times I H
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    felt like we were going to fall apart
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    and the boys were going to be the demise
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    of our family rivers go to your room
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    right now we can't handle it anymore and
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    we need some help stop Super Nanny
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    please come save us now hey guys I know
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    you frustrated but please hold on in
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    there because I'm going to be with you
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    pretty
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    [Music]
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    soon hello how are you pleased to meet
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    you nice to meet you when Joe first
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    walked in I couldn't believe she was
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    standing there at that door I didn't
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    know what to even say to her hi pleased
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    to meet you Joe I'm Greg nice to meet
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    you nice to meet you this is Hunter hi
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    Hunter please to meet you Joe is this
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    your brother here this is the older
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    brother Rivers hi Rivers nice to meet
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    you Joe how are you um what I would like
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    to see is just you guys do what you
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    normally do and what the boys usually do
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    is play
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    outside get them buddy get him get him
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    honey get
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    him good shot buddy I know Dad has some
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    unusual methods in how he keeps his boys
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    fit get him honey get him and I really
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    wanted to ask him about it what's the
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    purpose of the weights just to help them
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    be stronger we got the boys doing all
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    the different exercises to work on their
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    strength and work on development is
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    Sister You' be lifting the weights you
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    got the muscles yes I work out cuz it
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    gets me a six pack and T little sixs I
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    want to teach them how to take care of
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    their Sal as men above all else I can
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    see that Dad really values being a mine
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    don't let them get you Hunter Come On
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    Son you got to run them down why you so
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    tired
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    all right come on get
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    [Music]
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    up after Dad Went Away Rivers came to
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    Mom to share a problem with
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    [Music]
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    her Hunter why are you calling him
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    names
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    me gay I fix to show you was gay stop it
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    keep your hands to yourself and your
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    comments to
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    [Music]
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    yourself what did he call him he tell
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    him he was gay and
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    um called him a these boys should not be
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    using homophobic derogatory slur it's
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    offensive it's morally not right so is
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    that quite typical then of Hunter to be
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    abusive with his words yeah very abusive
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    with his words all the time I can see
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    that emotionally it's very upsetting for
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    you I want people to like them and I
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    don't want my child to be the one that
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    nobody wants
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    around which is what we've got right now
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    and people talk about it they do where
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    do you think he gets that ugly mouth
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    from I don't know he's his own person
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    mom's acting all mystified about the
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    language that the kids are using but you
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    know it's not rocket science to work out
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    where these kids are learning that
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    language
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    from with the boys back inside it was
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    time for River homework oh rivers and
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    homework work that is a very long drawn
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    out process every day we're going to go
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    over his spelling words so we're not up
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    until midnight tonight River started to
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    get the books out and then before we
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    knew it we were into a spelling test
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    gigantic g r g a n t r c I saw that
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    Rivers was relying on dad to give him
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    the answers he's not going to learn
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    anything this way a no s t o m h c h
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    again so dad started to lose patience oh
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    ho ho ho ho put a mark you don't know
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    that one let's get through this quickly
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    a s p i r e r no you don't know that one
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    spell Boston b o s t a r d no h get out
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    of here and then Hunter came in and then
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    hunter wanted a full-blown conversation
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    we're studying put that stick down no b
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    o s t o n I was just thinking how is
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    this really helping Rivers all right you
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    know which ones you miss all right those
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    five you miss aren't you go in there and
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    write them out two times
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    each I think that his parents have made
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    him feel like a nuisance like a
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    burden there is no patience there's no
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    tolerance and then it leads to him
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    feeling so incompetent about doing any
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    of his homework the problem is here at
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    this table so you think that the problem
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    lies with rivers yes
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    [Applause]
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    [Music]
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    the boys can be very aggressive and
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    mischievous especially Hunter Hunter I
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    really wanted to find out if Hunter
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    understood the impact on his family when
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    he misbehaves and so I decided to have a
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    conversation with him we have such an
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    aggressive family right who do you
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    think's more aggressive my daddy your
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    dad sometimes he's just
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    unhappy because my mama was unhappy with
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    him my mom says to my daddy get out my
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    life and stuff like that right okay so
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    basically mommy and daddy have the
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    arguments and stuff like that it usually
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    happens at night around 11: now stuff
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    like that and then how does that make
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    you feel makes me feel like you're about
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    to
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    divorce and have you ever heard your
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    parents mention that word before
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    divorce this was quite surprising to
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    hear this from Hunter because I hadn't
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    seen Mom and Dad in a place where I
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    thought it was that bad something smells
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    good sometimes Parents try too hard to
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    cover up the little flaws that are
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    happening there and then but you know
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    that there's got to be something going
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    on otherwise you wouldn't be there
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    father God we just give you thanks for
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    this meal we pray that you'll be with us
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    this evening in your gracious name we
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    pray amen
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    amen thanks for today and I'll see you
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    tomorrow for the family meeting okay
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    okay thanks
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    have a good night okay see you tomorrow
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    bye I am very nervous knowing I'm going
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    to sit down with Joe I've got all ideas
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    she's going to tell Greg and I it's not
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    the kids it's Greg and I that are
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    causing these issues that's in our
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    home well it's been an interesting
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    observation day to say the least but at
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    the end of the day I'm able to read
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    between the lines that's my job so we
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    get to have a family meeting I hope
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    they're ready for it
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    [Music]
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    so let's talk about discipline there
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    isn't really a discipline in this house
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    you talk a good talk but there is no
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    following through there is no warning
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    there is no this is what we expect from
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    you you're right the boys don't know
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    what their consequences are and
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    everybody has to learn that there are
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    consequences whether they're good or bad
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    for whatever action you take and it's
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    about teaching these kids to not be
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    impulsive but to listen
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    take Direction and do as they're
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    told okay so let's talk about homework
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    Rivers he's very very nervous when he
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    does his homework most definitely the
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    longer we sit here the more frustrated
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    we get the more nervous Rivers gets it's
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    creating this hostility between you all
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    and you're making the situation
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    worse I think that there's a good happy
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    medium in being able to find more
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    Independence in doing the subjects he
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    can do and the ones that he is going to
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    need more help with and pacing that
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    homework so that you're not forever
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    spending three or four hours a night
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    doing that are we ready to make a change
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    for
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    that okay so let's knuckle down and talk
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    about the Boys to Men stuff I've listen
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    to you talk about them needing to be
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    mentally strong and be tough and be able
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    to pack a punch but where does it leave
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    room for the three of you to be more
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    emotionally
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    connected it's not unmanly for them to
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    be in in tap with their emotions it's
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    very important because it allows them to
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    have smart intelligent conversations
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    that can lead to resolution rather than
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    using their
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    fists I'm wasn't happy in the slightest
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    to hear Hunter's mouth he thinks it's
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    okay to go around calling people a no
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    that's not okay he claims daddy says it
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    you lead by
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    example and what role model are you
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    being it's not okay it's got to change
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    it's got to
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    change you've kept quiet but your mouth
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    said a
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    lot look at this you've got a wife who's
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    almost too scared to speak at the table
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    in case it causes
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    conflict it's hard to point flaws out
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    because you know it's going to Resort in
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    an argument sooner or
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    later saying that I do want to talk
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    about communication because
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    communication between the pair of you is
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    hot when it shouldn't be Hunter has told
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    me that this is what's gone
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    down you fire off at one another you get
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    nasty with one another and it's not
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    good and everything that you're seeing
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    from your children is coming from what's
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    been going on between the pair of
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    you Hunter scared that his parents are
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    going to get a
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    divorce I'd like to get busy doing some
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    [Music]
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    work so I've watched the kids misbehave
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    Hunter's told me what he has everything
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    isn't what it seems so I do believe mom
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    and dad are in for a wakeup call I need
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    to show Mom and Dad what effect their
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    arguing is having on their family let's
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    take a look at some video footage and
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    talk about what we're going to see here
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    okay we have such an aggressive family
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    who do you think's more aggressive my
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    daddy your
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    dad sometimes he's just unhappy because
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    my mama was unhappy with her
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    my mom says to my dadd get out my life
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    and stuff like that how do you feel when
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    you have to listen to that makes me feel
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    like you're about your
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    divorce and have you ever heard your
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    parents mention that word before divorce
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    and have they both said it or has one
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    parent said it usually my mom says
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    [Music]
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    it there was this silence and you could
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    see that they were both thinking wow you
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    know this is our son saying this I knew
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    that I had now touched some very raw
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    nerves and I knew it was time for us all
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    to sit down and and get talking and Dad
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    wasted no time a whole volcano erupted
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    there and then in front of me you come
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    here in front of me and my wife and
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    start bringing up divorce as if we're
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    about to get a divorce you turn into
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    something that it's not turning what
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    into what this whole situation Greg
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    became very defensive he felt that you
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    know he was coming off looking bad then
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    you insinuate that we're on a brink of a
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    divorce because my child told you that
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    nobody has insinuated we're on the brink
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    of a divorce baby that's what it seems
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    like to me that's what it seems like to
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    me that's why she's trying to portray
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    not wait I'm be a part of it Hunter just
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    said my mom has talked about divorce so
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    you said that yes I've said it in front
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    of them I have said why don't we just
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    get a divorce if we're this unhappy I
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    have said that okay Hunter's expressing
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    his feelings to somebody he feels like
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    he can open up to and you should respect
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    that I do respect that I don't respect
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    Joe taking him out there by hisself and
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    start putting words in his getting him
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    to say things about divorce and then and
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    come over here put on a tape and like
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    this is what's going on with your family
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    I mean it wasn't good at all to listen
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    to this man feel this way but I realize
  • 00:15:27
    that the truth had hit him hard do you
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    know what Greg you refuse to accept and
  • 00:15:33
    listen and respect what your wife has to
  • 00:15:37
    say because you don't like what you're
  • 00:15:39
    hearing that's not so really J's not
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    here to us she's here to help us I'm
  • 00:15:44
    asking you since since everything's
  • 00:15:46
    coming out it's a big surprise now why
  • 00:15:47
    haven't you ever said anything you know
  • 00:15:50
    how we all feel you know I love you you
  • 00:15:53
    know your children love you you know we
  • 00:15:56
    all love you but the fact is we have
  • 00:15:59
    problems in this family that need to be
  • 00:16:02
    resolved and I'm at my last resort no
  • 00:16:06
    it's not the last resort yes it
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    is so this is the last resort it's been
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    how long have we had our boys now 8 10
  • 00:16:16
    years between the two of them we have
  • 00:16:19
    problems and for you to sit there and
  • 00:16:21
    say we don't you're in denial I mean we
  • 00:16:25
    are dysfunctional and nobody's blaming
  • 00:16:27
    it just on you
  • 00:16:29
    it's all of us it's me and you as a pair
  • 00:16:33
    fighting the way we do constantly around
  • 00:16:36
    our boys there's a better way for us to
  • 00:16:38
    handle our situations than what we're
  • 00:16:40
    doing
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    [Music]
  • 00:16:47
    now so you got anything to say
  • 00:16:52
    no not a word don't shut down Greg don't
  • 00:16:57
    shut down no does ball game y'all finish
  • 00:17:00
    it I told you I told you don't throw me
  • 00:17:03
    under the bus and this is exactly what
  • 00:17:05
    you
  • 00:17:07
    did I don't see what you got what you
  • 00:17:10
    want you got what you want you feel like
  • 00:17:12
    it's all being you finish your ball
  • 00:17:15
    games at this point I don't care what
  • 00:17:18
    any of y'all say GRE don't
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    quit
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    Greg will you just give me the respect
  • 00:17:29
    to talk for 2 minutes please I'm not
  • 00:17:30
    talking to you will you give me the
  • 00:17:32
    respect I'm not even talking to you and
  • 00:17:34
    I hope you're
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    [Music]
  • 00:17:41
    happy I showed mom and dad a video of
  • 00:17:44
    Hunter being aware of the word divorc
  • 00:17:47
    being used and Dad lost his call will
  • 00:17:49
    you just give me the respect to talk for
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    2 minutes please I'm not talking to you
  • 00:17:53
    you give me the respect I'm not even
  • 00:17:54
    talking to you and I hope you're happy
  • 00:18:00
    she wants to talk to you I don't want to
  • 00:18:04
    talk listen I feel like a lot of these
  • 00:18:08
    situations you are the one taking them
  • 00:18:11
    out of context Hunter felt comfortable
  • 00:18:13
    enough to go to Joe and air out his
  • 00:18:16
    problems that's his he you wait a minute
  • 00:18:19
    let's finish that he didn't just go and
  • 00:18:22
    say that
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    she she got that out look look what
  • 00:18:26
    you're doing watching both parents talk
  • 00:18:28
    to one another mother is no healthy
  • 00:18:30
    situation they talk over each other not
  • 00:18:32
    listening to the other person and it's a
  • 00:18:34
    shambles Time Out Hold on time out time
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    out okay hold on let me just get
  • 00:18:41
    something out my bag hold on a minute
  • 00:18:42
    time so I brought in a timer to let this
  • 00:18:44
    family know that every time it turns
  • 00:18:47
    that they have 2 minutes to talk and the
  • 00:18:48
    other person has to be disciplined
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    enough to listen to what they have to
  • 00:18:52
    say the pair of you you start to talk
  • 00:18:55
    then you talk over you start to talk and
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    you talk over
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    nobody's
  • 00:19:01
    listening you talk when this water runs
  • 00:19:04
    out then you start okay listen to what
  • 00:19:07
    the other person's
  • 00:19:09
    saying hear it and then
  • 00:19:13
    respond Joe was a safe place for Hunter
  • 00:19:16
    to go to and I think you feel like I
  • 00:19:18
    knew all about that it was as big a
  • 00:19:21
    surprise to me as it was to you so a lot
  • 00:19:23
    of things you're taken out of context
  • 00:19:27
    and then you're getting offended
  • 00:19:29
    at me and upset with me because you
  • 00:19:31
    think I'm throwing you under the bus
  • 00:19:33
    you're very well aware of the problems
  • 00:19:34
    around here just as I am just as the two
  • 00:19:37
    boys
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    are so nothing should be a
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    surprise the only point I'm trying to
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    make is I'm not shocked by what you're
  • 00:19:49
    saying I just I don't like the way that
  • 00:19:52
    we went about it I'm not saying that
  • 00:19:54
    Hunter's creating things I I do he's
  • 00:19:57
    obviously heard the word because he's
  • 00:19:58
    said that his mama said it and you know
  • 00:20:02
    if that word is being thrown around then
  • 00:20:05
    you know let's do something about it we
  • 00:20:09
    say a lot of words and anger that we
  • 00:20:11
    shouldn't say and not meaning it so that
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    that's a fault and that's something we
  • 00:20:16
    need help with and I recognize that
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    that's an area that we need tremendous
  • 00:20:20
    help
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    in I think the timer worked well as they
  • 00:20:24
    started to recognize it was important to
  • 00:20:26
    listen to one another it she brought
  • 00:20:29
    their tempers down so I think it's a
  • 00:20:31
    good little measure for those first 5 or
  • 00:20:33
    10 minutes when they're like two balls
  • 00:20:35
    in a china shop I want to now do what I
  • 00:20:39
    have to do to make things right and
  • 00:20:41
    better for my children cuz if we don't
  • 00:20:44
    change Hunter's never going to
  • 00:20:46
    change the fact is now we're looking at
  • 00:20:48
    boys that are in a place that everything
  • 00:20:50
    they take now they're going to take into
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    their
  • 00:20:54
    adulthood what kind of got me the most
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    is it's not about me you know it's about
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    about my wife and it's about my two sons
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    it's about the Benton family I'm ready
  • 00:21:04
    to move forward I'm ready to change
  • 00:21:07
    things I've been
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    ready well let's let's do
  • 00:21:15
    it you mean you're not going to kick me
  • 00:21:16
    out your house I guess I'll let you stay
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    a little bit
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    [Music]
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    longer so now with Greg on board I
  • 00:21:28
    wanted to dive in straight away and work
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    out homework for Rivers so I am going to
  • 00:21:34
    have to put in a technique that would
  • 00:21:36
    allow rivers to identify when he needed
  • 00:21:39
    his parents help and when he could do it
  • 00:21:40
    himself the subjects that you need more
  • 00:21:43
    help on you're going to place an m and d
  • 00:21:46
    on does anybody know what m and d stands
  • 00:21:48
    for most difficult no but that was
  • 00:21:51
    pretty good that was good okay Mom and
  • 00:21:53
    Dad right the work that you don't need
  • 00:21:57
    Mom and Dad's help for have rivers on
  • 00:21:59
    them and the reason for this Rivers is
  • 00:22:02
    because I want you to become more
  • 00:22:03
    confident doing your homework yourself
  • 00:22:06
    and not being dependent on Mom and Dad
  • 00:22:08
    to give you the answers all the time
  • 00:22:10
    Rivers you're going to put your stickers
  • 00:22:12
    on the appropriate books okay okay so
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    let him do it you do it yeah let him do
  • 00:22:18
    it so you put a r on there sh telling
  • 00:22:21
    him the whole thing let him do it let
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    him do it Greg we're still modic
  • 00:22:24
    coddling him through everything he let
  • 00:22:27
    him do it he's got to think for himself
  • 00:22:28
    he's got to think for himself because
  • 00:22:30
    he's not going to have you always
  • 00:22:32
    thatass going to be there buddy Joe
  • 00:22:34
    recognized right away us being right
  • 00:22:36
    over here just got to
  • 00:22:39
    start the last part of homework is
  • 00:22:41
    creating some boundaries between the
  • 00:22:44
    parents and rivers and now okay we're
  • 00:22:47
    going to find you a place for you to go
  • 00:22:50
    when it's just you doing the our work
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    okay sound good yeah you're smiling
  • 00:22:54
    you're like yeah this sounds good all
  • 00:22:56
    right Smiles for everybody okay I felt
  • 00:22:59
    relieved when I saw Joe giving us a plan
  • 00:23:01
    of action to deal with this homework
  • 00:23:04
    situation and rivers was exatic about it
  • 00:23:07
    and I think that that's going to be a
  • 00:23:09
    confidence builder for
  • 00:23:14
    him get out your penmanship book you are
  • 00:23:17
    supposed to be doing your penmanship
  • 00:23:19
    when Hunter wouldn't sit down and do his
  • 00:23:20
    homework it was a perfect opportunity
  • 00:23:23
    for me to teach mom how to do discipline
  • 00:23:25
    properly take that piece of metal out of
  • 00:23:28
    your mouth now before you break your
  • 00:23:33
    teeth thank you no sir I don't think so
  • 00:23:38
    it doesn't matter if you're playing
  • 00:23:39
    we're not playing right now I couldn't
  • 00:23:41
    believe my eyes mom was in his face and
  • 00:23:43
    he couldn't care less place the pencil
  • 00:23:45
    in my
  • 00:23:46
    hand gently Hunter this is your Warning
  • 00:23:50
    Hunter hand me the other pencil hand me
  • 00:23:52
    the pencil hand this is your last chance
  • 00:23:56
    excuse me this was your chance this was
  • 00:23:59
    your warning that no no no no he's
  • 00:24:01
    already had a warning he needs some
  • 00:24:04
    discipline so he can go and sit up in
  • 00:24:07
    his room and he can stay there for 8
  • 00:24:09
    minutes and think about what he's done
  • 00:24:11
    and I suggest you tell him you got to
  • 00:24:12
    step up anber otherwise you're always
  • 00:24:14
    going to get this from Hunter it's all
  • 00:24:16
    very well me stepping in and talking to
  • 00:24:18
    Hunter but I'm not Hunter's mother and
  • 00:24:20
    I'm not going to be there forever mom
  • 00:24:22
    needs to recognize that if she follows
  • 00:24:24
    through she will get that respect from
  • 00:24:26
    Hunter but she's going to need to work
  • 00:24:28
    for it go to your room look what he's
  • 00:24:30
    doing Hunter I'm talking to you you have
  • 00:24:33
    8 minutes in your room and I will let
  • 00:24:35
    you
  • 00:24:36
    know I know you don't Hunter come here
  • 00:24:39
    please right now Mom was really
  • 00:24:42
    struggling to get Hunter to get into his
  • 00:24:44
    room and so I had to step in again you
  • 00:24:47
    see the stuff that you're doing there in
  • 00:24:48
    the kitchen with your mom it's not
  • 00:24:51
    acceptable do you understand
  • 00:24:53
    me now take yourself upstairs please
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    [Music]
  • 00:25:05
    and when those 8 minutes were over I
  • 00:25:06
    went with Mom to help her finish her
  • 00:25:10
    first proper time out could you sit up
  • 00:25:12
    and look at me please could you that
  • 00:25:14
    question are you asking or you telling
  • 00:25:16
    sit up and look at me yeah do you know
  • 00:25:18
    why you were sent to your room M what
  • 00:25:22
    should you do for mist trading mommy
  • 00:25:24
    sorry Amber recognizes the importance
  • 00:25:27
    now of disappear but she needs to do it
  • 00:25:29
    correctly her biggest challenge is going
  • 00:25:31
    to be following through I'm going for
  • 00:25:33
    several days and I just don't know if
  • 00:25:35
    Mom can keep this up I mean only time
  • 00:25:37
    will
  • 00:25:41
    tell I'm going away for 3 days I've left
  • 00:25:44
    quite a few techniques in this house to
  • 00:25:46
    be followed through on they certainly
  • 00:25:49
    have a lot of homework to do and I
  • 00:25:51
    really hope that they get these
  • 00:25:52
    techniques underneath their belt because
  • 00:25:54
    it's going to make a huge difference Dad
  • 00:25:57
    yes if you get chance for you to do
  • 00:26:00
    anything with the boys that's just
  • 00:26:01
    nurturing the emotional side Spot On
  • 00:26:04
    with Joe being gone you know these um
  • 00:26:07
    the rules are going to have to be
  • 00:26:08
    enforced you know we we cannot just let
  • 00:26:11
    it slide andar you showed good promise
  • 00:26:14
    when you were stepping up doing
  • 00:26:15
    discipline I want to see you follow
  • 00:26:16
    through and do that okay I've exhausted
  • 00:26:18
    everything with Hunter and I'm not
  • 00:26:20
    really sure which way to turn now and
  • 00:26:22
    I'm not going to have Joe there to jump
  • 00:26:24
    in and help me with that that's going to
  • 00:26:26
    be the toughest thing for me
  • 00:26:30
    [Music]
  • 00:26:38
    all right ready to watch this DVD or not
  • 00:26:42
    yeah I'm ready I know we'll see so
  • 00:26:45
    homework let's take a look see how we
  • 00:26:47
    got on with
  • 00:26:50
    that what do you mean you're done with
  • 00:26:52
    this math how can you be done with it
  • 00:26:55
    the first one I looked at you ain't done
  • 00:26:57
    is that supposed to be a two or a three
  • 00:26:59
    right there a three you sure that's
  • 00:27:02
    supposed to be a three how about a two
  • 00:27:05
    we're going to finish those three cuz
  • 00:27:07
    really technically you're supposed to
  • 00:27:08
    work all the way up to page
  • 00:27:10
    36 I might make you do it today though
  • 00:27:13
    but we're taking your science book to
  • 00:27:15
    the beach come here before you leave
  • 00:27:17
    okay this is your area here but one
  • 00:27:21
    thing I expect you to do is clean it
  • 00:27:24
    up oh dear AA
  • 00:27:28
    what happened well I go back and I look
  • 00:27:31
    up all the answers to make sure he's
  • 00:27:33
    answered them correct it's not your
  • 00:27:36
    homework it's River's homework I mean
  • 00:27:39
    it's one thing to look over work and say
  • 00:27:42
    hey son you've got a couple wrong here
  • 00:27:44
    and circle them but you're doing it for
  • 00:27:47
    him you're over contr controlling you
  • 00:27:50
    have got to step back seriously you're a
  • 00:27:53
    pain in the butt how is he
  • 00:27:56
    learning what's going to happen when the
  • 00:27:57
    boy has to sit with 30 other kids and do
  • 00:28:00
    an exam how's he going to do it on his
  • 00:28:03
    own let's move on to Dad's tone okay I'm
  • 00:28:07
    not even going to do it okay well that's
  • 00:28:09
    your choice let me go downstairs listen
  • 00:28:11
    when I come back up here you better be
  • 00:28:13
    writing no spelling words and you better
  • 00:28:15
    have all this stuff here picked up pick
  • 00:28:17
    this stuff up now I will no you pick it
  • 00:28:19
    up now I am pick it up now to add an
  • 00:28:22
    hour to your time out going I'm going
  • 00:28:25
    I'm going I'm going dang stop talking to
  • 00:28:27
    me like that stop rushing me I'm not
  • 00:28:29
    rushing you I'm asking you I'm asking
  • 00:28:32
    you pick your stuff out of my hurry up
  • 00:28:36
    I'm trying you don't see
  • 00:28:38
    me me okay Gang Stop talking to me like
  • 00:28:43
    that look at me look at me stop talking
  • 00:28:47
    to me like that I'm your daddy you're
  • 00:28:49
    not going to talk to me like that do you
  • 00:28:50
    understand listen buddy you working hard
  • 00:28:52
    on restriction do you
  • 00:28:55
    understand thought was an episode of
  • 00:28:56
    boot camp going on there where did where
  • 00:28:59
    did I go wrong there you walked in and
  • 00:29:02
    your tone started off okay and you let
  • 00:29:04
    him know what you needed to be done and
  • 00:29:07
    what she could have then said is I'll be
  • 00:29:08
    back in 20 minutes to see that you've
  • 00:29:10
    done that or give me a call and you let
  • 00:29:13
    me know when that's done and walk out
  • 00:29:15
    but when you didn't do that he met you
  • 00:29:17
    with the same of what you were
  • 00:29:18
    delivering and you just go around in
  • 00:29:20
    this circle that's quite nasty
  • 00:29:23
    everything that you say is true it's not
  • 00:29:25
    just the boy changing there's things
  • 00:29:27
    that we got a
  • 00:29:29
    change take a moment to look at
  • 00:29:31
    discipline and see how we got on
  • 00:29:33
    here you have yet to get your grammar
  • 00:29:36
    out and do your grammar work as you were
  • 00:29:38
    told to do go get your grammar book now
  • 00:29:42
    sit down and do your grammar now I am
  • 00:29:45
    tired of
  • 00:29:46
    asking now go to your room now go to
  • 00:29:50
    your room I'm trying to get go to your
  • 00:29:52
    room go to your room you see what he's
  • 00:29:54
    doing he cannot move you have invaded
  • 00:29:59
    his space and to be honest with you you
  • 00:30:02
    you you're all but far from basically
  • 00:30:03
    giving a slap across the backside oh
  • 00:30:06
    yeah yeah that's you can see I mean I've
  • 00:30:08
    been here before with parents you've
  • 00:30:10
    lost control there you've lost
  • 00:30:13
    control I've gave you enough of warnings
  • 00:30:16
    so go to your room for 8 minutes why
  • 00:30:20
    because I don't like your attitude I
  • 00:30:22
    don't like the way you're acting toward
  • 00:30:24
    me and you're not doing as I told you do
  • 00:30:27
    not slam that door I did not slam it
  • 00:30:30
    okay you can stay in your room for an
  • 00:30:33
    [Music]
  • 00:30:36
    hour you get your grammar book and you
  • 00:30:39
    go back to your room for
  • 00:30:42
    another I'm going to tell you 30 minutes
  • 00:30:45
    this
  • 00:30:47
    [Music]
  • 00:30:48
    time open this door better than that you
  • 00:30:53
    stay in your room until it's time to go
  • 00:30:55
    to football do you understand me you
  • 00:30:58
    will not come out of this room until
  • 00:30:59
    it's time to go to
  • 00:31:03
    [Music]
  • 00:31:06
    football when you gave him a warning you
  • 00:31:09
    didn't allow him to be able to put
  • 00:31:11
    things right this boy didn't have he
  • 00:31:14
    didn't have a chance a chance how do I
  • 00:31:16
    decide 8 minutes 30 minutes an hour in
  • 00:31:19
    your room you were told 8 minutes full
  • 00:31:21
    stop of its to be in his room when you
  • 00:31:24
    step up as a parent and you implement
  • 00:31:26
    discipline and you follow through
  • 00:31:27
    through very calmly then you show them
  • 00:31:30
    that you can be firm but fair so we need
  • 00:31:33
    to go over discipline again with you
  • 00:31:35
    okay we do need to look at homework we
  • 00:31:38
    need to work on your tone we need to
  • 00:31:41
    work on your frustration with discipline
  • 00:31:43
    and we need to get that underneath your
  • 00:31:44
    belt you need to be more clear on the
  • 00:31:47
    discipline otherwise it's going to
  • 00:31:49
    become worse and more destructive so we
  • 00:31:51
    have got some more work to do we're not
  • 00:31:52
    out the woods yet as we say so should we
  • 00:31:55
    get cracking let's get cracking
  • 00:31:59
    [Music]
  • 00:32:03
    having watched mom not following through
  • 00:32:06
    with discipline it was important for me
  • 00:32:08
    to go and give her a nice reminder of
  • 00:32:09
    what she needed to do discipline steps
  • 00:32:13
    warning only one follow through and the
  • 00:32:17
    last one here is makeup that's it I'm
  • 00:32:19
    going to place them up here okay so you
  • 00:32:22
    start to memorize them however if you're
  • 00:32:25
    in the Heat of the Moment and you have
  • 00:32:27
    have this memory loss I'm going to ask
  • 00:32:30
    you to wear this oh with a scroll on
  • 00:32:35
    it oh now that's good mommy do have any
  • 00:32:40
    excuses I'd put the discipline scroll up
  • 00:32:43
    on the wall mom had looked at her tiny
  • 00:32:46
    scroll a few times and I just wanted to
  • 00:32:48
    see whether she was taking anything in
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    EM uh can you give me off the top of
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    your head the three main points of
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    discipline warning follow through wake
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    up mom had the three steps down but it's
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    one thing to say them you got to do
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    it I could see on the DVD that Mom just
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    wasn't leaving Rivers alone when it came
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    to him doing his homework so I gave her
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    one last exercise so that Rivers could
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    get the space that he needed this is
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    what would normally
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    happen are you all right there rivers
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    are you able to do that yeah you right
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    there right and what's that you're doing
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    did I just break your
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    concentration
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    sorry all right she's kicking on you bir
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    so this is what would normally happen I
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    think Mom and Dad have learned from my
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    example but it remains to be seen
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    whether they can resist temptation the
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    more you leave him to be independent in
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    doing it the more he'll learn how to
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    cope so we want you from here okay all
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    right staying out the room is a good
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    idea cuz it gives Rivers more
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    Independence and it keeps me off of his
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    back we got to let him go sometime and
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    spread his
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    wings sounds good it's going to create
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    more
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    space this was a completely different
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    mom to what I'd seen on the DVD she was
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    calm and she was leaving him
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    be okay fabulous so I'm happy with this
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    if you find that he's coming into you a
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    lot because now you don't go into him I
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    just want you to be able to say you need
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    to go back into your room and get on
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    with what you're doing
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    [Music]
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    okay and sure enough Rivers came out
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    just as I
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    predicted how about your spelling I
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    don't think I to do okay you don't worry
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    about this right now okay M okay you
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    don't worry about this right now
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    how you handled that was good well thank
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    you very much you were just
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    calmer it's a lot more productive and
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    you're less stressed I think Mom's come
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    a long way she's not barking in his face
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    and she's not doing River's homework for
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    him and that's going to be better for
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    the whole family let's face
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    [Music]
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    it before I left there was one other
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    thing I wanted to do with Dad you see
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    Dad all the time connect with his boys
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    when he's really physical and he rough
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    houses with them get him honey get him
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    but I wanted him to connect with his
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    boys in a more emotional way so I asked
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    him to get out some old photos and talk
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    to the boys about the day they were born
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    guess what I got baby pictures let's
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    look at Rivers first this is a picture
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    of you inside of mommy's belly we found
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    out that it was a little boy and I was
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    so excited
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    you always want a little boy always want
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    a little boy you can't describe it how
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    wonderful it is sitting out on a blanket
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    and taking some pictures of Hunter
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    rivers and talking about things that we
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    don't talk about every day and that's
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    Rivers look like a little peanut head
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    sticking up right to have the boys out
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    there those are the kind of moments that
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    you will remember could di there
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    R how happy you are and guess who
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    changed your first diaper you did I did
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    thank you
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    then mama was pregnant with Hunter there
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    he is that's little
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    Cannonball sitting down and actually
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    listening to Greg talk about when the
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    boys were born was a nice moment you
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    could see that Dad was connecting with
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    the boys on an emotional level look look
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    at your mommy she looks like she's about
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    to puke but unfortunately it was ruined
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    when Hunter became very disrespectful
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    your mom did a lot for you she
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    sacrificed for you can you imagine
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    having to be in your mommy's Billy for 9
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    months I can imagine puking all
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    over stop hey look at me that's your
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    warning okay that's the warning I know
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    how was mommy feeling mommy actually had
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    some complications so she had to stay in
  • 00:37:12
    the hospital a few days but uh she was
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    very excited she puking B I know what
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    you're saying that we're talking out
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    here but inevitably Hunter continued
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    being smart with his mouth and he ended
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    up having to do a timeout Hunter's going
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    to time
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    out there's some bears there's some bear
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    and for me as a father had to sit there
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    and listen to my son say those things
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    but you're doing something about it and
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    that's what's important and when Huna
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    played up it gave dad an opportunity
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    there and then to deal with the
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    discipline technique okay so uh it's
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    been about 8 minutes now I saw from the
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    DVD that the last time dad was in
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    Hunter's room it became a shouting match
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    this time dad needed to follow through
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    with discipline and keep his call I'm
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    asking you to tell me what you did and
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    apologize for
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    it I'm sorry I'm sorry for disrespecting
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    my part now okay now come here and give
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    me a
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    hug
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    [Music]
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    boy I was proud of Greg he was firm but
  • 00:38:21
    fair he kept very calm and I do feel
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    that I'm able to leave Greg knowing how
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    to discipline
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    properly bye
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    boys
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    VI I'm going to really miss Joe when she
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    goes away but I know we can't have her
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    there forever so once she's gone she's
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    gone different man I seen the emotional
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    man now Ain I look I am I'm seeing you
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    I'm looking at your face Joe comes and
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    she's laid out the the foundation and
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    the groundwork so it's up to us now as a
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    a family to make it happen you have to
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    maintain it for it to work keep up your
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    work take care
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    [Applause]
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    [Music]
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    [Music]
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