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hello you gorgeous mama Jammers are you
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excited and ready to embark on your
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hotness Journey because I'm certainly
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ready to teach you I may have a back
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spasm which means I cannot get up from
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this position after this I may have been
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looking after my child with the flu all
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week but yes I am here
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to let you know
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how to be hot the first thing that I
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want to address on a serious note
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is the concept of trend versus actually
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being seductive and a hot person that
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people are seduced by and want let us
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sip some tea
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because we're going to Spill the tea
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you need to understand first and
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foremost in the Paradigm of what beauty
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is and what hotness is because I'm not
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in this video we're going to talk about
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seductiveness attraction and hotness
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we're not going to talk about beauty
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because beauty is something that you can
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be looking at but not attracted to a
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tree is beautiful the view is beautiful
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some women are extremely beautiful but
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they're not attractive or they're hot
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right we're going to be talking about
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hotness okay sexiness
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you need to understand that if you buy
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into Trends and if you buy into the
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current concepts of what is sexy and
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attractive currently it might be Kirby
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Kardashian figure that's over said and
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overdone but that's just a really
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basic example of what hotness can be
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seen as right in the 90s it was the
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small hips in the Pamela Anderson boobs
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if you look at women's boobs at the
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moment in Media or press or whatever
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that kind of 90s silicone chest is
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considered matronly that's the word
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right now matronly everyone wants small
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and perky boobs but back in the 90s
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everyone wanted that matrony look
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because that's not what it was
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considered to be everything Ebbs and
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flows everyone wanted the Barbie legs
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the skinny legs in the 2000s now they
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want some meat on the legs it all
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changes through times now if you are
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going to hang the value of your
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attractiveness on current trends you
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will never truly truly feel hot and sexy
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you need to understand that if I take
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you on an airplane right now to five
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different countries your value and Merit
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is going to go up and down and all them
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cultures have different sexy limits and
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variations
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areas have different sexiness and
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variations some cultures like long nails
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some cultures like shorts some cultures
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like big brown eyes some cultures like
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smaller eyes some cultures like big lips
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and In some cultures big lips is a No-No
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you've got to have them small what is
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this to tell you that is not for you to
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get on the plane and travel to a country
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where you're going to be appreciated no
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it's to understand that if you are
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quintessentially that Pamela Anderson
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girl with a big chest and small hips you
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would have been trendy in the 90s and
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you wouldn't be so trendy now but that
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does not take away from your hotness
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because you know why ready for this
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ready for the groundbreaking thing that
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I'm going to tell you that you probably
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know but I'm going to remind you of just
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because something is trendy doesn't mean
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that the lover of that thing
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is not seeing it what do I mean by that
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if this is a percentage of men or
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whoever you're attracted to women men
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whatever this is all of them right in
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the 90s there was a certain look but
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still the same amount of people like
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that look this amount of people and now
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still the same amount of people like
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that look it doesn't matter that the
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times have changed not everybody looks
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into Trends and goes oh yeah now it's
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big bums I'm gonna like big bums it's
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just that now people those people have a
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voice you still have your Market it's
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just not what's trendy so that means
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you've got to come into this world and
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you've got to come correct having a
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certain confidence and Junior Sequoia
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and zhouge knowing that your percentage
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of people who like your type whatever
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you may look like are still out there
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if you're a Latina hottie or if you are
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this girl with Scandinavian features
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those men who would have liked you have
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not just gone in the bin and been thrown
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away just because the trend for your
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type isn't there they're still around
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it's just that your type isn't in the
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magazines at the moment and to be honest
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who cares about the magazines the media
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is just trying to sell you something
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trying to sell you a look an idea what
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you need to do is step away from that
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and have some value into your actual
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self and who you are and know that
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there's a market out there for you and
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in that knowledge you're going to
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transform from this like half-assed shy
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like apologetic version of yourself into
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a Powerhouse of of personal hotness so
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now if you're a girl who's not in trend
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you've got a certain type of physique I
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don't know what it is anymore because to
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be honest I don't care and I don't
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follow it but let's say you don't have
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that curvy butt the amount of men that
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don't like curvy butts are still out
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there
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so you with your tiny little tushy need
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to carry yourself with a tiny little
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tushy energy
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and and be out there for example big
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boobs aren't trendy anymore
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if I still walk around being proud of
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the fact that I have a certain body type
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those men who like boobs are still gonna
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look at me that way and again it's not
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just men it's whoever you're attracted
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to right but it comes from being the
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utmost and best version of yourself
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that's what hotness is that's what
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confidence is and not being apologetic
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and trying to shift yourself and dumb
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yourself down into something
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the second part of sensuality or
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sexuality or hotness
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is not
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to do with sexual activity
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and it's not to do with exemplifying
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assets you've got to understand that
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sexuality sexiness and seductiveness is
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got to do with inner knowledge and
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competence in the self
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and connectiveness to your body
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so if you're somebody who plays sport
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does yoga does what it is you need to do
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for your body it's the right foods for
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your body is connected to your body
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you're going to be that much hotter than
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the girl who is not in touch with her
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body doesn't know what she's doing
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doesn't know what's right for her but
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she's wearing a low-cut top and a tiny
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skirt I promise you and what we're
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talking about here is not instant oh my
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god look she's naked I'm going to look
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at her but real seductive qualities over
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time when someone can look at you and be
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like oh my God she's so alluring what is
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going on is breaking my brain you know
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she's just so seductive
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that kind of hotness and that kind of
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Allure and seductiveness comes from a
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self-knowledge so put self-knowledge
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before skimpy clothes if you want to
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wear skimpy clothes and that's your
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confidence level and that's your
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comfortability then by all means you can
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do that but that's not what sexuality is
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entitled is in involved in and wrapped
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in in named it's to do with your
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knowledge of your own body because when
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that person looks at you they know that
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you've got some kind of power over your
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own body over your own space over your
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own likes and dislikes and what people
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love to do
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when they see someone sexy and
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especially men is to bring you happiness
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is to bring you pleasure is to make you
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smile and it's to make you feel a type
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of way that's what makes people enamored
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with you and when they see that that is
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possible to do that with you because you
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have a knowledge of your own inner self
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that's what makes someone sexy because
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you can see in their eyes that they have
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that Allure already they have that
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connection with their body already
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it's not about being sexually active
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either just because you are somebody who
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is not quick on the uptake and sleeping
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with everybody
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it doesn't mean you're not sexy in fact
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having power in your own space and the
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ability to say yes or no and boundaries
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is way more sexy than being like yes I'm
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super sexually active everyone come at
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me that's not sexuality that's just a
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level of openness that I'm not sure one
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should even strive for to be honest but
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if that's you you do you but that is not
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what sexuality is wrapped in it's about
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knowing your body looking after your
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body and especially if you're a woman
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understanding your boundaries and
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understanding what it is you need to do
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for your body putting yourself first as
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a major one hot people put themselves
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first so they've got something to give
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to other people they've got some
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replenishment to give because they're
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pouring from a cup that's already full
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another thing that hot people do is not
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put themselves out for other people and
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then get resentment and rat like an
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angry
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they don't put themselves out they do
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what they need to do for themselves
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first without trying to control other
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people they're quiet and their
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confidence they're replenishing
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themselves they're on their own Journey
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they're not stalking you on their
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Instagram they're not trying to find out
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what you're doing you're not their main
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focus they are their main focus you are
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their secondary focus and you know
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because I know you know when you've met
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a person like that you are like damn
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they're so attractive because they're
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just in their own lane hot people are in
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their own lane
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hot people do things that are
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inadvertently hot like they won't always
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reply to you at the same time they're
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unpredictable you know why it's not
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because they're trying to reply to you
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at different times one day it's five
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minutes one day it's five hours it's
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because they actually have a life so on
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a Tuesday they might be with their
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friends and going to Pilates and doing
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this important work deal but on a Monday
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they might even buy their phone
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unanswered they're not playing games
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they just have a lifestyle which
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facilitates them to sometimes reply to
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you and sometimes not you by being
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around that person know that you're not
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the center of their attention and nor
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should you be because who are you you
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just met them hot people put themselves
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first they know to put themselves first
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and last but not least hot people
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can take up their space
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can take up their time
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can talk slowly
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they speak in a way to take up space
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they don't feel the need to rush they
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don't break eye contact I'm looking at
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you right now
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they can take up their space and they
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feel that people will be there for them
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they're not there stuttering over
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themselves looking down on all this
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stuff
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hot people can take up space and they
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don't have weird voice intonations
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we at Voice intonations come from a
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childhood where you either really had to
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stand out you really really wanted to
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stand out no one noticed you or you were
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really like
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everything in a voice that's a little
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bit unnatural
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is you trying to hide something in your
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childhood when your voice developed try
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and listen to your voice
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objectively from a outside point of view
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and see if there's any inflections in
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there or any
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tones in there
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which are not pleasant to listen to It's
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not judgmental it's just
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self-development
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so if you're irky and ah all the time
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like that in your voice maybe you
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wouldn't get seen enough relax
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take up your space make eye contact
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don't try and jump into people's
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conversations take it slowly it's way
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more seductive than squeaking into
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everyone's ear
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anyway thanks for watching I'll see you
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in the next one love you lots like jelly
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thoughts bye oh subscribe naughty
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