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so for this trip they booked three rooms
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one for the daughter-in-law one for the
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father-in-law and one for the
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mother-in-law to sleep in the room with
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her son Mr
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km Hello friends and family this is
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Megan
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moona as you can hear in my voice I am
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sick okay my nose was so stuffy last
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night that I could not breathe out of it
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at all and I had to breathe out of my
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mouth and I am not a mouth breather by
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any stretch of the imagination so I got
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like zero sleep last night I am dead but
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I am here to share these stories with
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you last week I made a video talking
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about why marriage in Korea is difficult
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and I talked about a lot of the
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psychological aspects behind it and one
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of the main reasons why it's difficult
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is because of in-laws mom- in-laws and
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while doing the research for that video
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I came across a bunch of crazy
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mom-in-law stories so I asked you guys
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in the last video if you wanted me to sh
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share some of those with you you guys
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were like yes yes yes please share so
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that's what we're doing today so I do
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want to preface by saying the intention
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of this video is not to make fun of
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these people or to talk bad about Korean
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mom- in-laws because I do feel bad for
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them because the older generation is
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very much a product of that culture at
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that time and I do think that in
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cultures like this where husband and
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wife don't really have good quality
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marriages it's very easy easy for the
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women to just latch on to their sons
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which is what happens a lot so when you
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think about it it's sort of like a way
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for them to get and receive love so I
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totally understand the psychology behind
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that and I feel for these people however
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it doesn't mean that we can't enjoy
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listening to the drama and hearing the
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tea about these stories because they're
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very interesting today I'm going to
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share two stories from jtbc news jtbc
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news has a segment on it
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called and on that show people send in
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their stories there's a couple of news
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announcers sharing their opinion they
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always have therapists to sort of share
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their opinion about the psychology Andor
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if it's grounds for divorce Etc it's a
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really interesting show last month one
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came out and it blew up it's got like
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1.2 million views and like over 3,000
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comments we're going to go over that one
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second so this first story the person
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who sent in this story the news
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announcers just called her Mrs Kim and
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her future husband boyfriend let's just
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call him Mr Kim So Mr and Mrs Kim and
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then mom-in-law and father-in-law just
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call them mom and father-in-law so Mrs
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Kim met her boyfriend they seem to hit
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it off really well after about 6 months
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they decided that they wanted to move
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toward marriage so Mr Kim called up his
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parents set up a meeting between Mrs Kim
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and the parents you know in Korea people
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typically get permission to get married
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so it's always necessary that you set up
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a meeting with the parents and the
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parents have to approve of the person
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before any marriages can take place so
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the First Time Mrs Kim met the parents
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they met at a shrimp breant restaurant
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and I don't know what it is but I think
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Korean men really like to remove the
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shells from the shrimp for their ladies
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in Korea when you go get shrimp at
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restaurants especially grilled shrimp
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it's almost always going to have the
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shells and everything and all the little
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legs and like the head and like the
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little antennas everything is intact
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it's a fully intact shrimp and Mr Moon
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does this for me too like whenever we go
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out and have shrimp even to this day we
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have shrimp at home he's always going to
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peel my shrimp for me I thought it was a
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Mr Moon thing but I've heard so many
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stories of other men peeling shrimp for
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women I guess it's a thing in Korea men
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peel the shrimp for you which is great
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because they look like little nasty bugs
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to me and I personally don't like
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touching the little leg so thank you Mr
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Moon so Mr Kim and Mrs Kim are sat
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before Mother and father-in-law the
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shrimp comes out Mr Kim starts peeling
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the shrimp and he gives it to Mrs Kim
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his girlfriend at the time mom-in-law
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looks so you're not going to get your
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mom shrimp first you're going to get
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your girlfriend shrimp first so Mrs Kim
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feels a little bit uncomfortable like
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okay what what is this but nobody really
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says anything they just kind of gloss
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over it and apparently everything else
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was fine after that because Mrs Kim went
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on to marry Mr Kim so when they first
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got married the mom-in-law would come to
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the house often like several times a
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week to bring over you know side dishes
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and food for her son but one day she
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came over and she brought her son some
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underwear that she bought and she says
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to the daughter-in-law now so
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how can you know my son's underwear size
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like you don't know his underwear
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size I know the type of underwear that
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my son likes and then she goes on to
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say I'm going to buy his underwear from
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now
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on Mrs Kim is like um excuse me and here
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she sort of shared that she was worried
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that she's just being too sensitive like
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am I just being too sensitive is this
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something that's appropriate do all moms
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continue to buy their adult 30-some year
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old
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Sons even after marriage
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underwear so she just kind of Let It Go
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and whatever they didn't want to cause a
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fight so one day shortly after Mr and
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Mrs Kim went to mother and
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father-in-law's house to have a meal
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there's a bunch of side dishes one of my
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favorite side dishes is kadi which is
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like Fern break and then it just has a
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little bit of soy sauce and sesame oil
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on it a little bit of sesame seeds and
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mom-in-law made something called K which
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is bra short ribs and like awe sweet soy
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sauce sauce is really good so when you
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go to your mother-in-law's house and
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she's in the kitchen cooking you're
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supposed to go in and ask if she needs
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any help so Mrs Kim goes into her mom's
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kitchen hey do you need some help and
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she goes to pick up something to start
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helping mom-in-law smacks the
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hand I'm going to be cooking the food
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that my son eats so the daughter-in-law
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didn't do anything she just kind of sat
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around and then the table was set
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there's all these side dishes so
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delicious everything smells good so the
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mom-in-law takes her Chopsticks picks up
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a piece of the braid short ribs and puts
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it up to her son and
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says my son do you want to have some
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braid short ribs and to the
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daughter-in-law she picks up her
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Chopsticks and picks up some Kar which
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is Fern break that like brown stem
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looking thing that you see in the piping
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pop you might be like okay well she's
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offering the daughter-in-law some food
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like what's the big deal but how it is
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is she's saying this good thing this
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meat meat is going to be for my son and
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you the daughter-in-law you know you
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just have the vegetables right no matter
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how good these vegetables are obviously
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we know the
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meat that is the sustenance right the
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meat and potatoes is what we say even as
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a colloquial expression in English right
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like the main sustenance of the meal and
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basically she's saying I'm going to give
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my son these good things and you a you
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just take
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whatever Mrs Kim said this is the first
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time she seriously considered divorced
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because her husband didn't say anything
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like you would expect he would say oh my
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wife likes KY B Jim too or she can have
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KY B Jim or whatever but he didn't say
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anything but Mrs Kim felt like very just
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disrespected like why is this woman
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coming for me like this so then not too
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long after the father-in-law was like
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hey why don't we all travel together
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let's go on a trip you know Mr and Mrs
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Kim mother and father-in-law like what
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could go wrong we would all Bond and it
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would be a great trip right the problem
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started right from even reserving the
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accommodations for the trip if you going
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on a trip with your in-laws you you
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would expect that we would reserve two
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rooms one for Mr and Mrs Kim and one for
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mother and father-in-law but mom-in-law
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comes out and says you know what I want
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to sleep in the room with my son so how
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about we all get one big room and we all
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sleep in one big room together this is
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like one of the times when the son spoke
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up he was like um you know it probably
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be uncomfortable if we're all sharing
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one big room like let's have our
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separate space
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k I'm going to sleep in the room with my
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son it's been a long time since we've
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done that and she said says to the
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daughter-in-law you just go sleep in
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another room and be comfortable so for
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this trip they booked three rooms one
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for the daughter-in-law one for the
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father-in-law and one for the
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mother-in-law to sleep in the room with
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her son Mr km the whole time I'm just
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thinking where is the father-in-law like
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the father-in-law should say hey honey
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maybe that's a bit much you going to
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sleep in the room with me and they going
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to sleep in the room together but the
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father-in-law's like what is he doing so
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they booked the accommodation that way
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and Mrs Kim was sort of complaining to
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her husband like hey what's going on and
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he was like you
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know I'm going to sleep with my mom
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she's just lonely that's why you know
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she wants to sleep with me but it's like
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she has a husband he's not dead even if
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her husband was dead and she was a widow
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still that would be just not even
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appropriate right it's like okay your
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husband died find some friends I don't
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know definitely don't be trying to sleep
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in the room with your son sometimes when
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these stories are on I'm like watching
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them like with Mr Moon and I be like sir
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if you
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ever if she as a mom-in-law
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ever we will be done because I could
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never ever but apparently this is a
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thing in the last video I mentioned this
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monk who's really popular on YouTube p
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he has like millions of subscribers and
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people call into him and like say their
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concerns and he gives them advice like
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two years ago there was a story on there
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and this Widow mom-in-law lived with her
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son and his wife in a one room apartment
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and there was just like a cur that
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blocked it off and the mom-in-law wants
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to sleep with the son so the wife has
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just been sleeping on the couch and
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mom-in-law and son-in-law have been
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sleeping like sort of out of the way
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behind the curtain and she was married
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to this man for 25 years I cannot anyway
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but I've heard many stories of like mom-
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in-laws wanting to like sleep like next
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to their sons and stuff it's not common
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I don't want people in here to think
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that I'm saying that it's super common
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but I've just heard a lot of stories and
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like of stuff like that happening so
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there are some people who do that but
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it's definitely not the most common
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thing but back to the story so I said
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what is the father-in-law doing like why
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isn't he saying wife get it together
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apparently he's just going along with
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whatever she wants because when they
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were on that trip together which they
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did actually go on if it was me I would
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have said well I'm not going on a trip
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why don't you just go with your mom by
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yourself cuz apparently that's what she
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wants and I don't know I probably would
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have gotten a divorce already but in the
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story she didn't say where they went but
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I'm going to say they went to jedu so
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they're in jedu do it's beautiful
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beautiful scenery and the mom's like why
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don't we all take a picture so the
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father-in-law is like okay I'll take the
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picture of everyone mom-in-law goes
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grabs her son's arm sort of nudges the
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wife Mrs Kim away and she
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says you got to take a picture with your
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mom first like she comes after me and
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Mrs Kim shared in her story that at this
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point she felt like she's the second
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wife to Mr Kim right the first wife is
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the mom the second wife is her and she's
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like I cannot stay in this situation
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much longer she didn't last very long
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she got a divorce after a year but even
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still that's longer than I would have
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lasted there are some people and stories
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I've heard from divorce lawyers where
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people in these situations literally
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like 2 3 months later they're like I'm
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out so at this point in the story she
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shares that Mr Kim also has a younger
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sister up until this point you thought
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that Mr cim was maybe an only child but
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no there's a younger sister and
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apparently the younger sister left the
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house because the mom shared so much
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favoritism toward the son and it's so
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sad this daughter said that she never
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felt any type of Love or warmth from her
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mom at all so it's as soon as she could
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she started working and left the house
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and like how sad is that to not feel any
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love for your mom and see your mom
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fawning over you know your brother like
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that like I can't imagine what kind of
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big impact it would have on her but at
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least she was somebody who was like you
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know what I'm going to get out and take
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control of my own life and live cuz I've
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heard that there are people who go
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opposite and like bendo backwards to try
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and please their parents instead so good
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on her for getting out anyway the trip
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to Judo is over everyone's back at home
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a couple days later after coming back
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from Judo Mrs Kim is at home getting
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some cleaning done Ding Dong doorbell
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rings she goes and gets it it's a
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package she opens it up it's some couple
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clothes it's like a sweatpants like
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sweatshirt and sweatpants couple set
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there's like a man's size and a woman's
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size in there so she's thinking because
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of that trip that didn't go so well
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maybe mom-in-law is just trying to make
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amends and send them some couple clothes
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that they can wear mom-in-law
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calls the couple clothes arrived all
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right right
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Mrs Kim is like what you just ordered
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some couple clothes that you want to
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wear with your son-in-law for the next
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time we go on a trip the mom-in-law goes
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on to say that she had them sent to the
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house so her son could try it on to make
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sure it fits so that she can get a
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different size if she needed later on it
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was at this point in time that Miss Kim
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decided to divorce I don't blame her
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everyone in the comments was like
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divorce divorce divorce one thing that a
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lot of people are saying nowadays and I
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think a lot of people are feeling is
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that mainly it's up to the husband to
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sort of set those boundaries like the
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older generation is sort of set in their
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ways and are a product of their ways and
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mother-in-law's husband father-in-law
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definitely should have been blocking
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that from a while ago but maybe her
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personality is just strong and people
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just don't want to fight with her and
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they think it's easier to just give her
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what she wants instead
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of going against it cuz maybe she throws
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a big tantrum but definitely one thing I
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said in the last video all crane mom-
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in-laws are not like this where they're
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like really trying to treat your uh
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husband like their husband but they
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inevitably will do things that you feel
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like cross the line so you have to make
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sure that you have a partner who's
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willing to speak up and set those
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boundaries really strongly like Mr Moon
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does otherwise it would be very
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difficult and also you have to be
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someone who's willing to speak up for
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what you feel uncomfortable with and
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what you will and will not tolerate it's
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not for the faint of heart if you're
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somebody who's a people pleaser and
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you're married here and you have in-laws
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that are like very traditional
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it could be very difficult to you just a
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for warning so this next story I
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actually found this morning I was going
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to do another story but I found this one
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it popped up immediately because it's
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been one of the most viral ones that
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they've had and the person who sent in
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the stor to jtbc news is also a Miss Kim
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so we will be calling Mr and Mrs Kim and
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mother and father-in-law once again so
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Mrs Kim is around 35 years old she met
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an amazing man figured that they should
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get married so on the first meeting she
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had with her mother-in-law her
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mother-in-law addressed her like yeah no
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which is very disrespectful language
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when you're first meeting people in
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Korea there's different type of language
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that you use there's like a very
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respectful language where you're saying
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things and you're putting you at the end
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there's also something called very high
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language where you might use IM and you
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use a completely different set of words
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for stuff for example house is jib but
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when you're being respectful tone you
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will say Tech so the words are different
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I'm assuming many of you guys maybe know
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basic level Korean but eat M for older
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person you use a word like like it's
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just a totally different language so you
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have to
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learn extra words for stuff to address
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old people like is that serious like
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rankings and who's older and who's not
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now when you meet an older person they
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can talk to you and P my right away it
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really irritates me because old people
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sometimes show such a huge lack of
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respect for anybody and so it really
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irritates me when you meet someone for
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the very first time older are not and
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they speak p in like informal language
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um I guess I've been in Korea too long I
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expect to be respected in the amount of
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respect that I give to you so it's not
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typical for a respectful old person even
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if they meet someone younger they
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typically will use a bit of formal
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language they'll end everything with you
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right because they don't know you still
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right maybe after you met a couple times
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then maybe they'll switch to informal
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language because they're older they can
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make that decision but when you first
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meet someone especially not the person
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who's going to be marrying your son you
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definitely wouldn't be like yeah no
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no means you yah is just like hey like
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that's completely disrespectful I don't
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even talk to moon like that like we
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don't even talk to each other like that
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so her mom-in-law was addressing her in
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that way just very very informally and
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disrespectfully but she thought you know
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maybe that's just how my mother-in-law
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my future mother-in-law is whatever for
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whatever reason she proceeded to go
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along with the marriage when Mr and Mrs
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Kim decided to get married they decided
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not to get any help from either side of
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the family and they also decided that
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they weren't going to exchange gifts
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there's something called Y and Yan which
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are gifts that either side sort of
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exchanges for themselves sometimes it
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could be a huge amount of money or just
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like very very expensive gifts like I'm
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talking in the thousands or tens of
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thousands of dollars of money that you
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exchange between families for this
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marriage to happen nowadays people don't
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do that I didn't do that it's just it's
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outdated but there are still a lot of
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older people who want to do it and think
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it's necessary nowadays when people get
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married they typically up until marriage
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the parents support you even get you a
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house like to live in after marriage but
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in a case where your parents are paying
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for your marriage paying for your house
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after marriage you know that they're
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going to be intruding and Breaking All
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the boundaries because they feel
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entitled to do so because they are the
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ones who set up this marriage for you so
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a lot of younger people are like they
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don't want to accept money or anything
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from their parents because they feel
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less entitled to sort of intrude in that
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marriage so it's very admirable that the
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couple got married without any help from
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their families so they go through with
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their marriage after the marriage mom
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andlaw calls up
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daughter-in-law like aren't you you're
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doing the most
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basically how could you not even pay
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even just a penny to take my son and
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live with
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him don't tell my son but you need to
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send me
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$10,000 for the Yan price so the
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Mother-in-law calls the daughter-in-law
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secretly to demand
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$10,000 Mrs Kim didn't want to cause any
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trouble so she didn't tell her husband
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and she sent her mom-in-law
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$10,000 now I'm saying $10,000 Chan
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Manan is 10 million Korean W I think it
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would be maybe like
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$8,000 so let me just clarify that but
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she did wind up telling her husband and
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the husband asked the mom and the mom
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was like well I already called the other
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in-laws and then you know I sent them
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some stuff too just without telling you
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but even still that's crazy like your
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son and daughter got married without
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asking you guys for any they just got
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married so you're calling up these
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people and saying I deserve money
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because they got married that is such
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old school thinking and so disrespectful
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to go behind your son and daughter's
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back to like get money from people
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because they got married on their own
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but even still Mrs Kim carried on and
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she got pregnant on their honeymoon they
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are having a honeymoon baby in Korean
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the word is honeymoon baby they have the
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same word like in English honeymoon baby
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you just say it with a Korean accent
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honeymoon baby and everybody knows what
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you're talking about so mom-in-law goes
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to visit daughter-in-law and she says
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hey even though you're pregnant you soon
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need to cook my son three meals a day
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and at night if you get hungry or have
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cravings or whatever don't send him out
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to like go get you stuff like don't
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bother him with that don't go asking him
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to buy you this and that while you're
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pregnant Mrs Kim didn't say whether or
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not she followed her mother-in-law's
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directions she just moves directly on to
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a couple days before the birth so anyway
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they're a few days away from the birth
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birth and suddenly there's complications
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with the birth now Mrs Kim doesn't tell
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us exactly what those complications were
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but her husband Mr Kim rushed her to the
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hospital and at the hospital the doctor
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says you guys need to have an emergency
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C-section I guess for whatever reason
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probably Mr Kim called his mom and had
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her come to the hospital with them but
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mother-in-law comes into the hospital
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and says you cannot have a C-section
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they're literally at the hospital in an
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emergency situation the doctor is saying
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we have to do a C-section and the
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mom-in-law is coming in saying no you
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cannot her reasoning is that when you
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have a natural birth the baby is smarter
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and more healthy so the mom-in-law says
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we need to go to another hospital well
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they will let us do a natural birth you
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know typically in an emergency like this
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we want to care more for the mom's
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health than maybe the possible health of
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the future baby I know that that sounds
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horrible but typically in hospital
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situations they're thinking about the
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mom's life right how do we make sure the
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mom's life is safe but it seems like
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that mom-in-law is only interested in
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the baby she's like I don't care if
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you're healthy or not or if it's good
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for you or not or whatever emergency
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you're going through losing blood or
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whatever okay you just need to have a
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natural birth cuz that's better for the
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baby thankfully this is one of the times
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where the husband sort of stood up and
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said okay Mom you need to head out right
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because this is an emergency like I
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don't know if the wife could die or
00:20:45
whatever Mrs Kim didn't say what the
00:20:46
issue was but it's like okay okay you
00:20:49
need to go need to go so he sent the mom
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out and they wound up having a c-section
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and delivering a healthy baby boy and
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typically in Korea when babies are born
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right away you don't actually have to
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have a name and birth certificate you
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just do that typically within one month
00:21:03
of birth and so we also didn't have a
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name for one of our kids uh right at
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Birth either um and another reason why
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they do that is because a lot of people
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at Birth when they get the names they
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actually go to a lot of people are
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superstitious still so they'll go to
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monks or other sort of people who do
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tarot type of things and they'll go to
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them and give them the baby's date and
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time of birth and then they will go and
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find a lucky name for them like in Korea
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a lot of people have Superstition around
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name like choosing a name determines
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your future even to the point where if
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people go to a fortune teller and they
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tell them that their current name is not
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lucky and they need to change their name
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they will change their name even you
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guys I don't know if you follow me on
00:21:45
Instagram you know years ago uh when I
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was first training to like do
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competitions and stuff my trainer she
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actually did that um like two years ago
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she was like you know I was told that
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this name is not lucky and that my son's
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name is not lucky so she changed her
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name and and her son's name based on
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what the fortune teller said so it's
00:22:02
very common for people to not have names
00:22:03
for their kids like right at Birth but
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Mr and Mrs Kim decided when they named
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their kids that they were going to take
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one syllable from Mr Kim's name one
00:22:11
syllable from Mrs Kim name put it
00:22:13
together and that was what they were
00:22:15
going to name their baby typically in
00:22:16
Korea people's name have two syllables
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plus the last name so three syllables
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total so that actually sounds like a
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good idea I think me and moon should
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steal that if we have a third kid do you
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think the Mother-in-law liked the name
00:22:28
no ho ho she said guys I already went to
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a monk and I got a name chosen for us
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that name is Pac bong Pai I've been in
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Korea for quite some time so just upon
00:22:39
hearing that name I know that it's a
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very old people name it doesn't really
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fit with current society and that kid is
00:22:46
going to be mocked in school if he has
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that name so this is another one of the
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situations where the couple put their
00:22:51
foot down they were like okay no we are
00:22:53
not naming our kid P okay we're going to
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name our kid blah blah blah so the
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Mother-in-law was Furious that they
00:23:00
weren't going to name their kid
00:23:04
P very dramatically she says if you
00:23:07
don't name your kid this your house is
00:23:09
going to fall basically I guess the monk
00:23:12
said this is a lucky name for this child
00:23:14
and if this child is not named that
00:23:15
you're going to have bad luck basically
00:23:17
is what she's saying so that was another
00:23:19
big issue that the mom-in-law put up a
00:23:21
huge fight with with the name but
00:23:22
obviously did not name their kid bomai
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nobody who's my age here in Korea would
00:23:27
probably name their kid that so fast
00:23:28
forward a little bit later um Mrs Kim's
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mom lives in the countryside and she
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made a whole bunch of Mrs Kim's favorite
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dishes and Mrs Kim was out I believe at
00:23:39
work mom-in-law was at the house and um
00:23:43
Mrs Kim's mom came up from the
00:23:45
countryside probably took a couple hours
00:23:47
and she brought a whole bunch of side
00:23:49
dishes and she told Mrs Kim her daughter
00:23:51
I brought all these side dishes for you
00:23:52
they'll be waiting for you when you get
00:23:54
home so Mrs Kim is at work and she's
00:23:56
thinking about her mom's cooking and
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she's like
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I just can't wait to have my mom's
00:24:00
cooking she gets home she opens the
00:24:05
refrigerator none of the mom's food that
00:24:08
she brought is there so she asked the
00:24:09
mom-in-law Hey where's the food that my
00:24:12
mom brought up from the countryside I
00:24:13
cook
00:24:15
all oh I threw all that food
00:24:20
away I'm going to give you money so you
00:24:22
can go buy the ingredients but you need
00:24:25
to remake that food daughter-in-law Mrs
00:24:27
cam is like um excuse me and a fight
00:24:30
ensued she's like why would you do that
00:24:32
and the mom-in-law is like because there
00:24:33
was a hair in it Mrs cim is like well
00:24:35
you can take the hair out why would you
00:24:37
throw all the food away mom-in-law is
00:24:38
like that food is dirty then mom-in-law
00:24:40
gets really heated because I think this
00:24:42
is the first time daughter-in-law really
00:24:43
stepped up to her and like gave her a
00:24:45
piece of her mind but mother-in-law
00:24:47
starts like pushing her face you know
00:24:49
when some people are talking they're all
00:24:51
in your face they're like hey like hey I
00:24:54
said this and she's just going off on
00:24:57
Mrs Kim she's saying how dare you talk
00:24:58
to me like that your parents must not
00:25:00
have taught you anything and she's just
00:25:02
pushing Mrs Kim's head right there so
00:25:04
Mrs Kim in an effort to get her to stop
00:25:06
pushing her head back sort of does a
00:25:07
slapping motion and she accidentally
00:25:10
slaps the mom-in-law in the face just
00:25:13
ever so lightly while she's pushing the
00:25:14
hand back and mom-in-law
00:25:16
flips she hits Mrs Kim her
00:25:20
daughter-in-law in the face so hard that
00:25:22
her glasses fly off and she just keeps
00:25:25
on hitting her and then mother
00:25:28
mother-in-law goes into the trash can
00:25:31
gets the food that she threw away gets
00:25:34
food out of the trash can starts
00:25:35
throwing it all around the house she's
00:25:37
legit having the Tantrum of her life and
00:25:40
daughter-in-law is not hitting her back
00:25:42
or anything she's just sort of okay you
00:25:44
know it was an accident I didn't mean to
00:25:45
punch her in the face but even still
00:25:47
after she accidentally hit her in the
00:25:49
face mom-in-law proceeds to actually hit
00:25:51
her up like in her face like actual
00:25:54
violence so then the husband comes home
00:25:56
mom-in-law starts crying oh
00:25:59
daughter-in-law hit me in the face like
00:26:02
that and the husband's like what how
00:26:04
dare you hit my mom you get on your
00:26:06
knees right now and you beg for
00:26:08
forgiveness how dare you do that and
00:26:11
then Mrs Kim is like um no sir so Mr Kim
00:26:14
grabs his mom's hand and proceeds to
00:26:17
leave the people in the comment section
00:26:20
were going crazy like what what is wrong
00:26:24
like with that husband but even the MC
00:26:26
and stuff was like yeah this seems like
00:26:28
a situation where you wouldn't really be
00:26:29
able to get out of it seems like he's
00:26:31
going to continue to just be on the side
00:26:33
of his mom for everything and while I do
00:26:36
understand listening to a situation like
00:26:38
that where somebody like accidentally
00:26:40
hit your mom could be jarring for a lot
00:26:41
of people in a society where you know
00:26:45
things are so hierarchal but the fact
00:26:46
that it was overlooked at the mom
00:26:48
actually went ham Rambo on her but like
00:26:51
with a fist instead of a gun punching
00:26:53
everything and through food all around
00:26:55
the house that he just lets that go and
00:26:57
it's just the wife's fault and only she
00:26:58
needs
00:26:59
to apologize like everybody was going
00:27:02
crazy this video has over 3,000 comments
00:27:05
and people were
00:27:07
like the mom-in-law just needs to live
00:27:11
with her son forever why would you take
00:27:13
someone's precious daughter and cause
00:27:15
her so much grief and it has 3,000 likes
00:27:19
and somebody's like uh yeah a husband
00:27:21
like that is not a husband that you
00:27:23
could believe in and have faith in
00:27:25
definitely needs to get a divorce 3,500
00:27:27
l somebody was saying like what I was
00:27:29
saying girl you shouldn't have got
00:27:31
married like who when they first meet
00:27:34
you would call you yah and no like use
00:27:36
that like informal language and there's
00:27:38
a lot of people saying that they had
00:27:39
similar situations with their
00:27:41
mother-in-law there's a lot of people on
00:27:42
there that are like they had similar
00:27:43
situations like with their mom-in-law
00:27:45
and stuff like that and it's so sad that
00:27:47
like even to this day there's still such
00:27:49
extreme cases um of that going on but I
00:27:53
think this after this next Generation it
00:27:55
will most likely like die out a lot
00:27:58
so I have faith that the next generation
00:28:00
of parent children relationships will be
00:28:02
much more healthy Korea is making a big
00:28:04
effort to educate and teach Korean moms
00:28:07
and- laws I've come across some TV shows
00:28:10
where they literally sat down Korean mom
00:28:11
in-laws and they're like okay this is
00:28:13
how you treat your children in marriage
00:28:15
and I think just overall on Korean TV
00:28:18
shows and like talk shows when they
00:28:20
bring these stories on everyone is sort
00:28:22
of telling the mom- in-laws you can't do
00:28:23
that you can't be that way so it is
00:28:26
changing a lot I think people are
00:28:27
starting to take notice of like mental
00:28:29
health and stuff like that and there's a
00:28:30
lot of programs like geared toward
00:28:32
helping people's mental health um it's
00:28:35
still kind of taboo to talk about mental
00:28:37
health or to say that obviously this
00:28:39
person is not mentally healthy they need
00:28:40
help um so hopefully as time goes on
00:28:45
things will change and get better and we
00:28:47
will have less and less of these kind of
00:28:50
insane mom-in-law stories there are
00:28:51
still so many stories out there um but
00:28:55
today I just wanted to share these two
00:28:57
um this video was quite long already um
00:29:00
but if there are some videos topics but
00:29:02
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00:29:05
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00:29:13
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00:29:14
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00:29:16
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00:29:18
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00:29:20
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00:29:22
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00:29:23
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00:29:25
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00:29:27
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