INFPs: How To Be Productive Without Selling Your Soul
概要
TLDRIn this video, Heidi discusses her recent sunburn experience and introduces a tutorial on infp productivity. Unlike traditional methods, she emphasizes enjoying the process and aligning productivity with natural cognitive functions. For infps, who struggle with traditional productivity systems, she advises against hyper-structuring their time like an ESTJ might. Instead, she introduces a holistic approach focusing on emotional validation and syncing tasks with personal values and identity. She explains the importance of understanding one's emotional states for effective productivity, suggesting making appointments with oneself to manage emotions and incorporating enjoyable activities into tasks to foster productivity. Heidi also touches on using cognitive functions like introverted feeling and extroverted thinking mildly and beneficially. Moreover, she emphasizes constructing productive environments by identifying triggers and applying minor structural discipline. Her advice also includes how to break down larger objectives into small, manageable goals. The video invites viewers, particularly those with infp personalities, to rethink productivity through self-awareness and gradual, enjoyable steps.
収穫
- ☀️ Heidi shares her sunburn experience, surprising her with burnt lips.
- 📚 'The Midnight Library' is recommended as engaging fiction for NF types.
- 🧠 Infps should embrace their unique cognitive functions for productivity.
- 💡 Emotional management is crucial for productive personal and professional life.
- 🎯 Aligning tasks with personal values enhances infp's productivity.
- 🛠️ Small environmental changes can significantly impact productivity.
- 📅 Rather than rigid plans, small achievable goals can lead to success.
- 🔄 Identity alignment with actions fosters long-term productive habits.
- 🎨 Creativity thrives with slight structures, keeping stress away.
- 🏆 Emphasizes on small victories to maintain infp's motivation.
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- 00:00:00 - 00:05:00
Heidi discusses the challenges of sunburn and attempts to make a video on INFP productivity at the request of a viewer. She emphasizes the importance of enjoying productivity rather than forcing oneself to adhere to habits of other personality types, like ESTJs. The video will focus on using the cognitive functions of INFPs (Fi, Ne, Si, Te) to structure meaningful activities without overwhelming them.
- 00:05:00 - 00:10:00
Heidi introduces the concept of emotional management over time management, suggesting that unacknowledged emotions can interfere with productivity. She emphasizes validating emotions by scheduling time to address them, ensuring accountability to oneself. This builds self-trust and allows one to focus better, using one's natural emotional responses as a guide rather than suppressing them.
- 00:10:00 - 00:15:00
She suggests harnessing introverted feeling by pairing tasks with activities that naturally invoke positive emotions. This involves identifying negative emotional triggers related to tasks and countering them with confidence-boosting activities. This approach builds an emotional state conducive to productivity, leveraging confidence-enhancing habits alongside challenging tasks.
- 00:15:00 - 00:20:00
The focus shifts to structuring identity around the person one wishes to become, rather than the tasks themselves. This idea from 'Atomic Habits' involves accumulating small actions that align with one's desired identity. It empowers maintaining consistency by valuing progress over perfection and fostering long-term goal achievement through identity alignment rather than exhaustive action lists.
- 00:20:00 - 00:25:00
Heidi discusses embracing the natural INFP cognitive process, especially extroverted intuition, by allowing the exploration of multiple tasks or projects simultaneously. This approach leverages natural curiosity and cross-contextualization of ideas, encouraging productivity through a non-linear process. By embracing varied intellectual pursuits, INFPs can inherently boost creativity and focus.
- 00:25:00 - 00:30:00
She elaborates on using introverted sensing to optimize physical environments and routines to enhance productivity and reduce distractions. Tips include manipulating environmental triggers and developing habits that align with productive emotional states. The focus is on mitigating negative triggers and fostering structural consistency that fuels a sense of order and productivity.
- 00:30:00 - 00:38:48
The role of extroverted thinking as an auxiliary function is discussed, advising against over-structuring to avoid creativity stifling. Instead, small, achievable goals should be set, allowing flow and creativity to thrive within gentle structures. It's about creating a flexible framework that aligns with natural tendencies, ensuring productivity by harnessing feelings of accomplishment from manageable tasks.
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よくある質問
What book was Heidi reading when she got sunburned?
She was reading "The Midnight Library."
Why is Heidi making this video?
Someone requested her to make a video on infp productivity, similar to her previous one on ENFP productivity.
What is the key to productivity according to Heidi?
The key to productivity is to enjoy being productive, especially for infps.
What should infps focus on to prevent burnout, according to the video?
Infps should learn to enjoy being productive and structure their time in an enjoyable way to prevent burnout.
What does Heidi say about using emotions to enhance productivity?
Heidi suggests writing down distracting emotions to revisit later, then focusing on pairing work with activities that feel good.
What is the importance of identity in productivity, according to Heidi?
Heidi emphasizes defining oneself by the kind of person one wants to be, as aligning actions with identity helps sustain habits.
How does Heidi suggest infps handle their workspace environment?
Heidi advises identifying environmental triggers for productivity and distraction, then optimizing surroundings accordingly.
What does Heidi mean by 'structure hunger'?
'Structure hunger' refers to the need to organize one's time meaningfully to avoid feeling like they're wasting life.
What does Heidi suggest about achieving larger goals?
Larger goals should be broken down into smaller, achievable tasks to build confidence and momentum.
Why does Heidi value extroverted thinking for infps in productivity?
Extroverted thinking helps in providing structure and small, achievable goals, contributing to the balance of creativity and organization.
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- 00:00:00hey guys Heidi PRI here I tried to
- 00:00:02record this video twice already this
- 00:00:04week which is why it's coming out so
- 00:00:05late I usually try to get something out
- 00:00:06by like midweek but this past weekend I
- 00:00:08went to my Cottage and I got sunburnt
- 00:00:10which usually does not happen I very
- 00:00:12rarely burn but I was on my dock reading
- 00:00:15the book The Midnight Library which by
- 00:00:16the way is like NFP crack if you're
- 00:00:18looking for a fiction book and I
- 00:00:20completely lost track of time and the
- 00:00:22weirdest part was that my lips burnt
- 00:00:25really badly which like I did not know
- 00:00:27could happen I didn't know you could
- 00:00:28sunburn your lips but yeah they burnt
- 00:00:31and then got like super dried out and it
- 00:00:32was so weird and painful and also it
- 00:00:36looked super distracting on video so I'm
- 00:00:38recording this for the third time cuz
- 00:00:39it's like mostly gone I've got like
- 00:00:41still a little tiny patch of it um but
- 00:00:43hopefully third time's a charm and this
- 00:00:46works out this time and you're not
- 00:00:47distracted by my red skin so this video
- 00:00:50is by I'm not going to say popular
- 00:00:52demand like one person asked me and I
- 00:00:54was like yeah sure I'll make that video
- 00:00:55because the other week I released a
- 00:00:57video on ENFP productivity and someone
- 00:00:59had requested if I could do the same
- 00:01:00thing for infps and I figured that even
- 00:01:03though enfps and infps share the same
- 00:01:05cognitive functions so they all use fi
- 00:01:08NE T and Si it would be useful to look
- 00:01:11at what those cognitive functions look
- 00:01:13like when they're in a slightly
- 00:01:14different order which is how it works in
- 00:01:15the in fp's brain so I made this promise
- 00:01:17at the beginning of the ENFP video and
- 00:01:19I'm going to do the same here that this
- 00:01:21video is not going to be about trying to
- 00:01:24hyper structure your life it's not going
- 00:01:25to be an attempt to turn you into an
- 00:01:27ESTJ because I think that the more
- 00:01:28you're trying to model the behaviors of
- 00:01:30a type that doesn't come naturally to
- 00:01:32you the quicker you're going to burn
- 00:01:33yourself out and if we're talking
- 00:01:35productivity we have to talk about how
- 00:01:37to not burn out and in order to not burn
- 00:01:39out as an infp you have to learn how to
- 00:01:42enjoy being productive okay because I
- 00:01:45don't care what anyone says that is the
- 00:01:47key to productivity for everyone the
- 00:01:49reason that estjs and entjs are
- 00:01:52hyperproductive is because they
- 00:01:54genuinely enjoy the feeling of getting
- 00:01:57stuff done and Crossing things off a
- 00:01:58to-do list and planning for the days and
- 00:02:00weeks and months and years ahead okay if
- 00:02:03you enjoy that of course you're going to
- 00:02:04do it all the time right but your
- 00:02:06creative process is something totally
- 00:02:08different and in order to be productive
- 00:02:10you have to learn how to lean into that
- 00:02:13process and how to structure your time
- 00:02:14in a way that you actually really enjoy
- 00:02:17and feel energized by or else you're
- 00:02:18never going to get anything done so this
- 00:02:20video is going to be about holistic
- 00:02:22productivity and how to harness your
- 00:02:24natural skills and abilities and
- 00:02:26cognitive functions as an infp in order
- 00:02:29to help you put some structure around
- 00:02:31the things that feel really meaningful
- 00:02:32for you so that you can get them done
- 00:02:34and just produce more of whatever it is
- 00:02:36that you love in your life because I
- 00:02:38think that that should always be the end
- 00:02:39goal by the way if you don't know what
- 00:02:41I'm talking about when I say cognitive
- 00:02:42functions I'm talking about the cast of
- 00:02:45characters that make up your brain as an
- 00:02:46infp so I do run a 6- week infp Soul
- 00:02:50boot camp program where I introduce you
- 00:02:52to introverted feeling extroverted
- 00:02:54intuition introverted sensing and
- 00:02:56extroverted thinking as little cartoon
- 00:02:58characters that govern the inside of
- 00:02:59your mind and we talk about things like
- 00:03:01emotional intelligence goal setting
- 00:03:04creativity and career and a whole range
- 00:03:06of other things that infps tend to
- 00:03:08either struggle with or just find really
- 00:03:10interesting and the focus is to make you
- 00:03:12feel more like yourself not less as is
- 00:03:15the focus of this video so in the
- 00:03:16interest of being productive with this
- 00:03:18time let's start talking about what that
- 00:03:20looks like for infps so there's this
- 00:03:22quote that I dropped somewhere in the
- 00:03:23middle of the ENFP video that I'm just
- 00:03:25going to open with here I don't remember
- 00:03:27where this quote comes from or who said
- 00:03:28it unfortunately but it's the idea that
- 00:03:31people who think they have a time
- 00:03:33management problem usually don't have a
- 00:03:35time management problem they have an
- 00:03:37emotional management problem okay and
- 00:03:39that doesn't mean that you have too many
- 00:03:41emotions it doesn't mean your emotions
- 00:03:43are too much it just means that
- 00:03:46sometimes when we feel like we're unable
- 00:03:48to complete the goals that we want to
- 00:03:49complete or to structure our time
- 00:03:51effectively the problem is actually that
- 00:03:53we're not dealing with our emotions
- 00:03:55effectively and we're not acknowledging
- 00:03:56them in the proper way and we're not
- 00:03:58giving them the seriousness that we need
- 00:04:00to give them in order for those emotions
- 00:04:02to kind of clear the way for us to focus
- 00:04:04on other things so I think that what a
- 00:04:06lot of infps naturally do when they're
- 00:04:08trying to get themselves to like zero in
- 00:04:09and get a bunch of work done is tell
- 00:04:11themselves okay it's time to ignore my
- 00:04:13emotions and that's actually the
- 00:04:15complete opposite of what I'm going to
- 00:04:18recommend that we start with when we
- 00:04:19start talking about infps and
- 00:04:21productivity so we have to look at
- 00:04:23everything through the lens of how your
- 00:04:24mind is made up right you are a dominant
- 00:04:27introverted Feeler and what that means
- 00:04:29is that you're very naturally and deeply
- 00:04:32in tune with your subjective
- 00:04:34interpretations of the world so what you
- 00:04:36perceive to be good or bad just or
- 00:04:38unjust interesting or uninteresting you
- 00:04:40cannot turn off the part of your brain
- 00:04:42that is constantly making subjective
- 00:04:44value judgments about the world around
- 00:04:46you and that's a wonderful thing that's
- 00:04:47your superpower but it also means
- 00:04:50sometimes when you sit down to work your
- 00:04:51brain is screaming at you to emotionally
- 00:04:53process something that really isn't
- 00:04:55conducive to the work that you're trying
- 00:04:56to do if at any point you need me I will
- 00:04:59be here here I will also be here when
- 00:05:01you don't need me important work meeting
- 00:05:03love it time to think about the futility
- 00:05:05of The Human Experience having a
- 00:05:07completely normal conversation with a
- 00:05:08stranger at a bus stop Don't Mind If I
- 00:05:11Do interject with a fantasy about the
- 00:05:12two of you marrying off the coast of
- 00:05:14France in an off-white gwn with a flute
- 00:05:16quartet Serena you from afar anyway what
- 00:05:20can I say it's just what I do best and
- 00:05:22the first thing I'm going to encourage
- 00:05:23you to do is not to try to shut down
- 00:05:25that part of your brain but to actually
- 00:05:27bring it to the surface and validate it
- 00:05:28so I am an anfp but inverted feeling is
- 00:05:31very high up in my cognitive stacking as
- 00:05:33well and something I like to do when I'm
- 00:05:35sitting down and trying to get down to
- 00:05:36work and I'm distracted by a lot of
- 00:05:38emotions or thoughts is just write them
- 00:05:40down on a piece of paper and then make
- 00:05:43an appointment with myself to visit
- 00:05:45those emotions properly at a time in the
- 00:05:48day that is better for me okay and this
- 00:05:50seems ridiculous it seems absolutely
- 00:05:53ludicrous to like make an appointment
- 00:05:55with yourself to think about your own
- 00:05:57feelings but the problem is that
- 00:05:58Emotions Don't Go away until we deal
- 00:06:00with them because emotions are very
- 00:06:02important Messengers for our brain right
- 00:06:04they're how we evaluate the world around
- 00:06:06us and how we should act and behave and
- 00:06:08what we should focus our attention on so
- 00:06:09if we just tell our emotions don't
- 00:06:10bother me what happens our emotions just
- 00:06:12get louder and louder and louder because
- 00:06:14they have something valuable to say so
- 00:06:15what can be helpful is just writing down
- 00:06:17whatever thoughts or feelings are
- 00:06:19distracting you and then looking at that
- 00:06:21list validating it going yeah this is
- 00:06:23some stuff I could really stand to sit
- 00:06:24down with pay some attention to find
- 00:06:26some solutions for between 3:00 and 3:20
- 00:06:29I come back to this emotional experience
- 00:06:31and I will think about it for a while
- 00:06:33and then this is very important you have
- 00:06:35to actually do it I don't care if by
- 00:06:393:00 you're not feeling that emotion
- 00:06:41anymore you made an appointment with
- 00:06:42yourself in order to build
- 00:06:44accountability with yourself you have to
- 00:06:45show up to that appointment if you check
- 00:06:47in with yourself at 3: and your emotions
- 00:06:49are like oh hey cool no no worries I
- 00:06:50resolved that in the meantime we don't
- 00:06:51need to worry about it that's cool you
- 00:06:53can move on to the next thing but if you
- 00:06:55tell yourself I'm going to check in with
- 00:06:56myself at 3 and then you don't do it the
- 00:06:59next day if you try this exercise again
- 00:07:01guess what it's not going to work
- 00:07:02because your unconscious brain goes you
- 00:07:03never returned to this yesterday so now
- 00:07:05I don't trust you when you tell me that
- 00:07:07we're going to return to it later today
- 00:07:09okay when you are validating your
- 00:07:11emotional experience by telling it this
- 00:07:13is important it's just not the right
- 00:07:14time and then you actually make a point
- 00:07:17to show up for yourself and process and
- 00:07:19work with those emotions when it is time
- 00:07:21you're going to start to build a sense
- 00:07:22of trust with yourself and it will take
- 00:07:24a bit of time but that sense of self
- 00:07:26trust will eventually help you to quiet
- 00:07:28your mind a little bit during the times
- 00:07:30when you do really need to put something
- 00:07:31aside mentally because you're not
- 00:07:33telling yourself what you're thinking or
- 00:07:34feeling is unimportant you're telling
- 00:07:36yourself it is important and I am going
- 00:07:38to deal with it and here's when and that
- 00:07:41allows that part of you that maybe feels
- 00:07:42a bit frantic or like there's something
- 00:07:44really imminent to calm down and go okay
- 00:07:46I'm going to be seen I'm going to be
- 00:07:48heard I'm going to be dealt with and I
- 00:07:49know exactly when so for now I can leave
- 00:07:52this be and you'll find that if you
- 00:07:53practice this over and over and over
- 00:07:54again the more you build that self trust
- 00:07:57the better it will work so that's tip
- 00:07:58number one if you really need to put
- 00:08:00some sort of emotion or thought to the
- 00:08:02side temporarily make an appointment for
- 00:08:04when you'll come back to that emotion or
- 00:08:05thought and then go to the appointment
- 00:08:07and do this as many times as you need to
- 00:08:09but ideally you actually don't have to
- 00:08:11put your emotions aside to get good work
- 00:08:12done so that leads us to point number
- 00:08:14two instead of trying to put aside your
- 00:08:16introverted feeling in order to do work
- 00:08:18literally learn to harness your
- 00:08:20introverted feeling in order to improve
- 00:08:22your experience with working and the way
- 00:08:24that I recommend you do this is by
- 00:08:26pairing your work with something that
- 00:08:28already makes you feel really good so
- 00:08:30the first part of doing this is figuring
- 00:08:31out which negative emotions you already
- 00:08:33have paired with certain work projects
- 00:08:35so for myself I tend to procrastinate
- 00:08:37the most and be the least productive
- 00:08:39when I feel incompetent at something so
- 00:08:41if I sit down and look at my work and
- 00:08:42I'm like H I don't know what to write
- 00:08:45for this chapter I don't know what to
- 00:08:47say on this video I will go into
- 00:08:49overwhelm mode okay and when I'm in that
- 00:08:51mode it's really hard to be productive
- 00:08:53and so to counter this I think to myself
- 00:08:55what makes me feel competent naturally
- 00:08:58what am I already good at
- 00:08:59which things do I already pretty well
- 00:09:01have down and how can I pair one of
- 00:09:03those things with this assignment so for
- 00:09:06example there are a couple of meals that
- 00:09:08I know how to cook really really well
- 00:09:09I've had a lot of practice my SI is
- 00:09:11internalized exactly how many spices go
- 00:09:13into the recipe and when and how long to
- 00:09:14cook it for and when to check it and so
- 00:09:16if I need to write a chapter that I'm
- 00:09:18feeling not so confident about but I
- 00:09:19have a time crunch I will go okay I'm
- 00:09:22going to make this meal that I know I'm
- 00:09:24really good at making while I'm writing
- 00:09:26this chapter so I will season the
- 00:09:27chicken pop it in the oven and then give
- 00:09:29myself 20 minutes to just sit down and
- 00:09:31write as much as I can as quickly as I
- 00:09:33can take it out of the oven put in the
- 00:09:35carrots sit down again write another
- 00:09:37part of the chapter as quickly as I can
- 00:09:38and this plays on two different things
- 00:09:40right it plays on my extroverted
- 00:09:41thinking a little bit because I'm giving
- 00:09:43myself time frames to work within but
- 00:09:45it's also allowing me to step into my
- 00:09:47work with an energy of confidence
- 00:09:49present because I'm doing something that
- 00:09:50I know I do well and that I know I can
- 00:09:52do well on autopilot and so my body is
- 00:09:54now in confidence mode I'm feeling good
- 00:09:57and capable which is the exact energy
- 00:09:59that I need to feel in order to do my
- 00:10:01work and for you maybe it's not cooking
- 00:10:02maybe it's journaling maybe it's doing
- 00:10:04something creative maybe it's going for
- 00:10:06a walk through nature it can be
- 00:10:08literally anything as long as it gets
- 00:10:10you in that mode of feeling confident
- 00:10:12capable or whatever else the emotional
- 00:10:15antidote might be to the emotional
- 00:10:17problem that is getting in the way of
- 00:10:18you doing your work if your work
- 00:10:20triggers feelings of stupidity do
- 00:10:22something that makes you feel really
- 00:10:23smart if your work makes you feel
- 00:10:25stressed find something that makes you
- 00:10:26feel relaxed and schedule work blocks in
- 00:10:28between practicing that thing the idea
- 00:10:31here is just to get your physiology
- 00:10:33rewired in a way that kind of hijacks
- 00:10:35your nervous system and allows you to
- 00:10:37approach the work task with a new energy
- 00:10:39it's like a fun symbiotic relationship
- 00:10:41forming a lot of the time the problem is
- 00:10:43not that you can't do something it's
- 00:10:46just that you have forgotten the part of
- 00:10:48yourself that is capable of doing that
- 00:10:50so you just need to give yourself a
- 00:10:51little reminder to get that person back
- 00:10:53in business which kind of leads us to
- 00:10:55the third productivity tip for fi which
- 00:10:58is defining Yourself by the kind of
- 00:11:00person you want to be rather than the
- 00:11:03actions you take and this is a tactic
- 00:11:05that I directly lifted from Atomic habit
- 00:11:07so this is not my idea it is James
- 00:11:09clear's idea he is a habit formation
- 00:11:12expert and he talks a lot in his book
- 00:11:14about how we stick with things the
- 00:11:15hardest when we believe that they are in
- 00:11:17line with our identity and this is your
- 00:11:20superpower already as an infp okay you
- 00:11:22are very in tune with who you are what
- 00:11:24you like what you don't like what you're
- 00:11:26interested in what you believe is right
- 00:11:27or wrong how you Define yourself and how
- 00:11:30you show up in the world is already what
- 00:11:32you like to think about so we can now
- 00:11:34take that natural tendency and apply it
- 00:11:36to your work life if you are
- 00:11:38continuously making long lists for
- 00:11:40yourself and then not getting any of
- 00:11:41them done it's probably because that
- 00:11:43list is not aligned with the way that
- 00:11:45you think of yourself you're trying to
- 00:11:47act as though you're someone you're not
- 00:11:49however you can change the way that you
- 00:11:52start to think of yourself and then
- 00:11:53those actions become a lot easier so
- 00:11:55there is a quote from Atomic habits that
- 00:11:57I really like that I'm going to read to
- 00:11:58you verbatim
- 00:12:00every action you take is a vote for the
- 00:12:02type of person you wish to become so the
- 00:12:05way that James Clear explains this is
- 00:12:06instead of thinking about what you have
- 00:12:08to get done or what items are on your
- 00:12:09to-do list think about what kind of
- 00:12:12person do I want to be and then your
- 00:12:14action is a vote for or against that
- 00:12:17kind of person so do I want to be a kind
- 00:12:19of person who wakes up early well if I
- 00:12:21were the kind of person who wakes up
- 00:12:23early what would I do around 10: p.m.
- 00:12:25each night would I start surfing the
- 00:12:27internet or would I start powering down
- 00:12:28to go to sleep so that I could wake up
- 00:12:30sometime around 600 and that going to
- 00:12:32bed early is a vote for the kind of
- 00:12:34person you want to be when you wake up
- 00:12:36at 600 the next morning that's a vote
- 00:12:38for the kind of person you want to be
- 00:12:40when you don't drink a coffee at 5:00
- 00:12:42p.m. which I am tremendously guilty of
- 00:12:45that is a vote for the kind of person
- 00:12:47you want to be so it's not just about
- 00:12:49what you're doing it's about the
- 00:12:50identity that you're constructing for
- 00:12:52yourself and what's nice about this is
- 00:12:54that it takes the pressure off each
- 00:12:55individual circumstance right let's say
- 00:12:57you want to be the kind of person who is
- 00:12:59very active in their day-to-day life you
- 00:13:02don't have to have a great workout every
- 00:13:03time you don't have to eat perfectly you
- 00:13:06don't have to run the fastest every time
- 00:13:08you go for a jog all you have to do is
- 00:13:10show up again and again and again and
- 00:13:12keep making tiny votes for the kind of
- 00:13:15person you want to be and those votes
- 00:13:17eventually accumulate into an identity
- 00:13:20and once you identify with the actions
- 00:13:22that you take you are much much more
- 00:13:24likely to continue to take them because
- 00:13:26we get very attached to our identities
- 00:13:28especially when you have fi as your
- 00:13:30dominant function so this is more of a
- 00:13:32long-term strategy but when you're
- 00:13:34looking at setting longer term goals
- 00:13:37worry less about am I doing the hardest
- 00:13:39workout every day am I showing up at the
- 00:13:41absolute top of my game every time at
- 00:13:42work am I getting to bed earlier and
- 00:13:44earlier every night we don't have to do
- 00:13:47everything 100% in order to be moving in
- 00:13:50the direction of being the kind of
- 00:13:52person who does this kind of thing a
- 00:13:54person who is usually active could
- 00:13:57probably skip a week of activity and
- 00:13:58then get right back into it the next
- 00:14:00week a person who generally wakes up
- 00:14:03early probably sleeps in every once in a
- 00:14:05while but they don't let that deter them
- 00:14:07from getting back into their normal wake
- 00:14:08up early habit as soon as they feel well
- 00:14:10rested again if we were the kind of
- 00:14:12person who did these things we wouldn't
- 00:14:15have to do them every single day all of
- 00:14:17the time we would just have to do them
- 00:14:18more often than not and that takes a lot
- 00:14:21of pressure off of our long-term goals
- 00:14:23it becomes progress not Perfection okay
- 00:14:26extroverted intuition is your second
- 00:14:28cognitive function and this is the part
- 00:14:29of your brain that really likes to cross
- 00:14:32contextualize information hey guys what
- 00:14:34are we doing in
- 00:14:39here Fi Fi said that it would be fun if
- 00:14:43we stayed up all night researching poly
- 00:14:45vagel Theory and I mean you know I don't
- 00:14:48think of time in a linear sense so I was
- 00:14:51in so any likes to cast a very wide net
- 00:14:55intellectually it likes to research a
- 00:14:57lot of different theories understand
- 00:14:58things from multiple different angles
- 00:15:00and then it likes to cross reference all
- 00:15:01of those ideas figure out which one of
- 00:15:03these things is not like the others and
- 00:15:05in which way and what is this beautiful
- 00:15:07kind of pearl of wisdom that pulls it
- 00:15:09all together and in order to
- 00:15:10self-actualize in any form as an infp
- 00:15:13you have to accept that that is how your
- 00:15:15brain works you do not have that same
- 00:15:17laser focus that other types might have
- 00:15:19because your intellectual mind is kind
- 00:15:21of more like a playground for you and
- 00:15:23that's a wonderful thing work with that
- 00:15:25okay so I was thinking about this when I
- 00:15:26was babysitting my nieces I have three
- 00:15:28nieces who are all under 10 years old
- 00:15:30and if you want anyone between the ages
- 00:15:31of like 1 and 10 to do absolutely
- 00:15:34anything you have to make them think
- 00:15:36that it was their idea and because your
- 00:15:38brain as an NP type is kind of like a
- 00:15:40child on a playground you have to treat
- 00:15:42it the same way so if you tell your
- 00:15:44extroverted intuition focus on one thing
- 00:15:46it absolutely will not focus on that one
- 00:15:48thing it will focus on that one thing
- 00:15:49and also 10 other things that that thing
- 00:15:51reminds it of okay cool let's work with
- 00:15:54that like a child you have to give your
- 00:15:56extroverted intuition options okay let
- 00:15:59it feel like it has chosen what to focus
- 00:16:01on so for NP types I actually really
- 00:16:04highly recommend always having multiple
- 00:16:07projects on the go deliberately to an
- 00:16:09extent your brain just needs to jump
- 00:16:11around that's how it works best so if
- 00:16:13you have an option of three different
- 00:16:15things you could work on it makes your
- 00:16:16brain feel like it has some breathing
- 00:16:18room okay if you sit down at your desk
- 00:16:20in the morning and you go I have to do
- 00:16:22this one thing what happens if you tell
- 00:16:24a four-year-old that no even if that's
- 00:16:25what they wanted to do they don't want
- 00:16:26to do it cuz now they have to you can
- 00:16:28treat your brain the same way tell it
- 00:16:30you get to pick what we do this morning
- 00:16:31here are three things I need to get done
- 00:16:33where do you want to start and I really
- 00:16:35encourage you to listen to your natural
- 00:16:36energy here if you start on one task and
- 00:16:38it's really really draining your energy
- 00:16:40and you're really not getting where you
- 00:16:42want to get to with it allow yourself to
- 00:16:44switch Focus try task B and I recommend
- 00:16:47that you don't pick let's say three
- 00:16:49tasks that you have to get done for work
- 00:16:51let one of them be a personal project or
- 00:16:53a passion project and let yourself take
- 00:16:55breaks and focus on that for a little
- 00:16:57bit if that's what you need to put
- 00:16:58yourself back in the zone giving
- 00:16:59yourself permission to work on the thing
- 00:17:01that you're not supposed to be working
- 00:17:03on makes your brain feel kind of like
- 00:17:04rebellious and excited and that puts you
- 00:17:06in Creative Energy a lot of the time
- 00:17:08right so if you let yourself Rebel a
- 00:17:10little bit do some of that work you're
- 00:17:12not supposed to be doing and then come
- 00:17:14back to the work that you are supposed
- 00:17:15to be doing you're probably going to
- 00:17:17come back into it with a lot more energy
- 00:17:19than you originally had so treat your
- 00:17:21extroverted intuition like a child in a
- 00:17:23playground give it lots of room to
- 00:17:25explore give it lots of different
- 00:17:26options for what it could focus on and
- 00:17:28then let it take the resins because when
- 00:17:30you let it do that playing and exploring
- 00:17:32and experimenting it comes up with
- 00:17:34absolutely brilliant results you just
- 00:17:37have to let it run its natural course
- 00:17:39with a little bit of Parental structure
- 00:17:41in place next metaphor for extroverted
- 00:17:44intuition because this is also the part
- 00:17:45of your brain that is a metaphor junkie
- 00:17:47is going to be treating your extroverted
- 00:17:49intuition like a cake that you are
- 00:17:51baking okay I made banana bread this
- 00:17:54morning and the way that you make banana
- 00:17:56bread like the way that you make any
- 00:17:57loaf of bread is you put a whole bunch
- 00:17:59of different things together and then
- 00:18:01you mix them all together and then you
- 00:18:02put it in an oven and some scientific
- 00:18:04stuff that I don't understand happens
- 00:18:06and then you take it out and it is in a
- 00:18:07different and more digestible form and
- 00:18:10this is also the way that you are going
- 00:18:12to produce your best ideas as someone
- 00:18:14who uses extroverted intuition step one
- 00:18:16get all the right ingredients so so so
- 00:18:19so so often when NP types are feeling
- 00:18:23burnt out it's not an output problem
- 00:18:25it's an input problem they are not
- 00:18:27feeding their brains a wide enough
- 00:18:29variety of information it's like trying
- 00:18:31to make banana bread with only bananas
- 00:18:33and baking powder okay that's not going
- 00:18:35to give you a loaf you need to add more
- 00:18:36things in so if you are feeling
- 00:18:38creatively uninspired maybe you are not
- 00:18:41feeding your brain enough new ideas and
- 00:18:43theories and Concepts give yourself time
- 00:18:45and space to fill your mind up with new
- 00:18:47experiences new theories new thoughts
- 00:18:50new emotions talk to different people
- 00:18:52walk through different parts of your
- 00:18:54city pick up a book on a topic that you
- 00:18:55would normally never pick up feed your
- 00:18:58brain a wide variety of things and then
- 00:19:01you're going to pick which of those
- 00:19:03things are going to be the ingredients
- 00:19:05for whatever it is that you're trying to
- 00:19:06work on and you're going to put those
- 00:19:08things in an oven so here's how this
- 00:19:10works extroverted intuition does not go
- 00:19:13from brain to paper or from brain to
- 00:19:15computer or from brain to meeting okay
- 00:19:18extroverted intuition needs to work with
- 00:19:20inverted sensing in order to figure out
- 00:19:23what the best synthesis of ideas is so
- 00:19:25you need to give your brain lots of
- 00:19:27stimulation lots of different things to
- 00:19:28to think about and then you need to find
- 00:19:31some sort of practice for how you're
- 00:19:33going to bring those ideas together and
- 00:19:35produce something as a result of them so
- 00:19:37I can't remember if this one is from
- 00:19:38Atomic habits or deep work but one of
- 00:19:41those two books recommends figuring out
- 00:19:42what problem it is you're trying to
- 00:19:44solve so let's say there's something at
- 00:19:45work that you need to come up with a
- 00:19:46solution to ask yourself the question
- 00:19:49very intentionally spend a bit of time
- 00:19:51brainstorming which things are related
- 00:19:53to that thing and what concepts you need
- 00:19:56to keep at the Forefront of your brain
- 00:19:57in order to solve it it and then go for
- 00:20:00a really long walk and just let your
- 00:20:02mind passively focus on it so try to
- 00:20:05keep your attention in the arena of this
- 00:20:07problem that you're trying to solve and
- 00:20:09continuously guide your attention back
- 00:20:11to how could all of these different
- 00:20:13things come together to form the
- 00:20:15solution but Ponder this while you're
- 00:20:17doing something else something very
- 00:20:19calming that you can do on autopilot go
- 00:20:21for a walk go for a drive do some
- 00:20:23meditation and then sit silently with
- 00:20:25the problem this is your version of
- 00:20:27putting those ingredients for problem
- 00:20:29solving into the oven and giving them
- 00:20:31time to bake and you might find that the
- 00:20:33more you practice this the more you
- 00:20:35learn about how to improve that recipe
- 00:20:38right so maybe you're out on a walk
- 00:20:39thinking about this and realizing hey
- 00:20:41I'm actually missing a bit of
- 00:20:42information I should have read this book
- 00:20:44before I tried to solve this problem or
- 00:20:46maybe you're driving through your city
- 00:20:47thinking about how you're going to solve
- 00:20:49this problem and realizing I actually
- 00:20:50need to give these ideas a little bit
- 00:20:52more time to marinade just like pulling
- 00:20:54something out of the oven and checking
- 00:20:55to see if it's done you're going to
- 00:20:57learn as you practice it how to optimize
- 00:20:59this process and how much time you need
- 00:21:01for various parts of it but the
- 00:21:02important part is giving yourself those
- 00:21:05ingredients and then finding a practice
- 00:21:06that puts a little bit of pressure on
- 00:21:08those ideas so that they bake themselves
- 00:21:10into something that looks more like a
- 00:21:11finished product and a lot of the time
- 00:21:13that pressure is just the pressure of an
- 00:21:15impending deadline right so if
- 00:21:16something's due at 4 p.m. and you put it
- 00:21:18in the oven at 10:00 might not have time
- 00:21:20to cool before the deadline right so you
- 00:21:21learn okay the next time I need to put
- 00:21:23it in the oven the day before I need to
- 00:21:25go do that process of active problem
- 00:21:27solving a little bit before this project
- 00:21:29is due but it's all about having a
- 00:21:30process because if we don't have one
- 00:21:32we're just eating different parts of the
- 00:21:33batter and that's delicious but not
- 00:21:35always the most productive so inverted
- 00:21:38sensing so we've been don't want to in
- 00:21:41when it comes to our work for a couple
- 00:21:43weeks now have you guys noticed that
- 00:21:45yeah I spend like 2 hours a day looking
- 00:21:47up different careers on the internet
- 00:21:49which is the exact same thing as
- 00:21:51applying for jobs okay we'll Circle back
- 00:21:54to that when we're in a better head
- 00:21:55space but for now how about this I'll go
- 00:21:58put some some towels in the dryer so
- 00:21:59that they're nice and fluffy for when
- 00:22:01the infp comes out of the shower and
- 00:22:03then I'll help her prepare a healthy
- 00:22:04smoothie put on some clean clothes and
- 00:22:07then we'll find an excuse to leave work
- 00:22:08midday and nap but this is the last time
- 00:22:11that is so nice of you thank you SI I'm
- 00:22:15here to take care of you guys inverted
- 00:22:17sensing is the part of your brain that
- 00:22:19checks in with your body and your
- 00:22:21environment that keeps you aware of how
- 00:22:22you're physically responding to the
- 00:22:24things in your environment and that
- 00:22:25helps you form reliable routines to
- 00:22:28navigate the sensory world so in 2018 I
- 00:22:31started studying neurolinguistic
- 00:22:32programming and neurolinguistic
- 00:22:34programming puts a huge emphasis on
- 00:22:36figuring out what is triggering us in
- 00:22:38our environment and when I say the word
- 00:22:39trigger here I don't mean it like in the
- 00:22:41sense of trauma work where something
- 00:22:43really dramatically disregulated your
- 00:22:44system okay I'm talking about really
- 00:22:47really small scale triggers for example
- 00:22:50opening up your computer and seeing 16
- 00:22:52tabs could instantly trigger some sort
- 00:22:54of thought that happens so quickly and
- 00:22:56so unconsciously that you have noide
- 00:22:58idea ever passed through your mind but
- 00:23:00that thought may have been a judgment
- 00:23:01about your ability to keep yourself
- 00:23:03organized and on task and as soon as
- 00:23:05you've made that judgment your body is
- 00:23:07already responding to it right maybe
- 00:23:09you're feeling dejected and full of
- 00:23:11Shame and that shame makes you want to
- 00:23:13go seek comfort so now you're getting
- 00:23:14distracted and you're thinking about
- 00:23:16what you're going to do for comfort and
- 00:23:17this little tiny thing this tiny visual
- 00:23:20trigger in your environment completely
- 00:23:22changed your physiological State and
- 00:23:24pulled your focus somewhere where you
- 00:23:25never intended it to go and I did not
- 00:23:27believe that tiny environmental things
- 00:23:30made that much of a difference until I
- 00:23:31started using NLP practices to work with
- 00:23:34my own mind and realized oh my God these
- 00:23:37things make a really big difference so
- 00:23:39this one might actually be kind of fun
- 00:23:41for you because introverted sensing is
- 00:23:42your tertiary function as an infp and
- 00:23:44you kind of enjoy using it and flexing
- 00:23:46it a little bit and this is your
- 00:23:47opportunity for you to get really really
- 00:23:49well acquainted with what your
- 00:23:51environmental triggers are so your
- 00:23:53triggers can be anything you see hear
- 00:23:56feel touch or taste so any parts of the
- 00:23:59world that you take in through your five
- 00:24:00senses can trigger a physiological and
- 00:24:03mental response in you and if you want
- 00:24:04to be more productive you have to figure
- 00:24:07out what triggers you into an
- 00:24:08unproductive thought pattern and what
- 00:24:10triggers you into a productive thought
- 00:24:12pattern and then you can optimize your
- 00:24:14literal physical environment so that
- 00:24:17you're being triggered more in the
- 00:24:18direction of productivity than you are
- 00:24:20in the direction of distraction so the
- 00:24:22way that you do this is you first figure
- 00:24:24out the path to productivity so all the
- 00:24:27things that happen between you waking up
- 00:24:29in the morning and you beginning to do
- 00:24:30whatever kind of work it is that you're
- 00:24:32trying to do and you physically not in
- 00:24:34your mind do this literally with your
- 00:24:35body in reality move through that
- 00:24:38process so if you're someone who gets up
- 00:24:40and commutes to work literally start in
- 00:24:42your bed I purposely filmed this in my
- 00:24:43bedroom because this is where my
- 00:24:45productivity starts right at the
- 00:24:46beginning of the day and figure out when
- 00:24:48I wake up in the morning what do I see
- 00:24:51what do I hear what do I smell what do I
- 00:24:53taste what do I feel notice all of these
- 00:24:55things and also notice what response you
- 00:24:57have to each of them so for example I
- 00:24:59wake up in the mornings and if my room
- 00:25:01is messy automatically I have a
- 00:25:03physiological response to that and I
- 00:25:05feel scattered disordered things are out
- 00:25:07of place I'm thinking about okay I need
- 00:25:09to put this here and this here and oh I
- 00:25:11can't believe I left that out I'm
- 00:25:12already within seconds of waking up
- 00:25:15feeling distracted judgmental towards
- 00:25:17myself there's a feeling of stress in my
- 00:25:19body and all of these things are already
- 00:25:21pulling my focus away from what I want
- 00:25:23to do that day so if I want to eliminate
- 00:25:26this trigger I have to make sure that
- 00:25:27before I go to bed bed each night my
- 00:25:29room is in relatively good order and if
- 00:25:31it isn't I have to at the least make an
- 00:25:33appointment with myself so I know
- 00:25:35exactly when I'm going to clean my room
- 00:25:37so that I don't get distracted by
- 00:25:38thoughts of it first thing in the
- 00:25:39morning and then again I actually have
- 00:25:41to show up to that appointment or else
- 00:25:42this whole thing doesn't work so maybe
- 00:25:44every day you get out of your house you
- 00:25:45get into your car and you commute to
- 00:25:47work and maybe you usually listen to the
- 00:25:49radio and sometimes a song comes on that
- 00:25:51triggers some old memory that puts you
- 00:25:53into an emotional flashback and gets
- 00:25:55your entire body reacting to an
- 00:25:57emotional experience you're having that
- 00:25:59you didn't plan or expect to have and
- 00:26:01maybe by the time you show up to work
- 00:26:03your mood and your entire physiological
- 00:26:05state is actually just a response to
- 00:26:06whatever music you listen to on the way
- 00:26:08over but what if you could mediate that
- 00:26:10what if you could make a certain
- 00:26:11playlist or plan to listen to an audio
- 00:26:13book that you knew was going to keep you
- 00:26:15fairly regulated and fairly focused you
- 00:26:17would be eliminating an unpredictable
- 00:26:20environmental trigger now as soon as you
- 00:26:22sit down at your desk what are you
- 00:26:23seeing hearing feeling tasting and
- 00:26:25touching some of these things are going
- 00:26:27to be within your control and some of
- 00:26:28them are going to be out of your control
- 00:26:30but step one is just developing a really
- 00:26:32deep awareness of which things in your
- 00:26:35environment make you feel which way so I
- 00:26:37don't know if any of you have read Marie
- 00:26:39condo's books I actually haven't but I
- 00:26:41have heard rumor that she might be an
- 00:26:43infp I have no idea if that's true but I
- 00:26:45do think that her philosophy is actually
- 00:26:48very very infp looking at what sparks
- 00:26:50Joy right there's something very real to
- 00:26:52that it is using introverted sensing to
- 00:26:54tune into your body's Sensations in
- 00:26:56response to your Environmental stimuli
- 00:26:59and then checking in on how is this
- 00:27:01being processed in my introverted
- 00:27:02feeling and that's kind of what you need
- 00:27:04to do in order to figure out which
- 00:27:06environmental cues are sparking
- 00:27:08productivity and which ones are sparking
- 00:27:11distraction so I know for myself without
- 00:27:13a shadow of a doubt that if I wake up in
- 00:27:15the morning and check my phone right
- 00:27:16away instantly my productivity is going
- 00:27:19out the window do I still do it most
- 00:27:20mornings yeah but if I want to be
- 00:27:22hyperproductive one day I know that not
- 00:27:25checking my phone when I wake up is a
- 00:27:27really good way to get myself in the
- 00:27:29zone because I can bypass a distraction
- 00:27:31trigger so if I have a day where it's
- 00:27:33super important that I don't get
- 00:27:34distracted I have to make sure my house
- 00:27:36is clean before I go to sleep I wake up
- 00:27:38in an uncluttered space I don't check my
- 00:27:41phone I don't even turn on my internet
- 00:27:42in the best case scenario I just sit
- 00:27:44down at my desk right away and begin
- 00:27:46writing and a kind of fun experiment to
- 00:27:48play is to try to reverse this process
- 00:27:50and think to yourself if I wanted to be
- 00:27:52as distracted as humanly possible what
- 00:27:54would I do and figure out every single
- 00:27:56thing in your environment that you could
- 00:27:58do to take your focus away from your
- 00:28:00work so I would wake up and I would have
- 00:28:02a super messy room and I would not have
- 00:28:04figured out what I was going to wear
- 00:28:05that morning so I would try on 25
- 00:28:07different outfits and then I would sit
- 00:28:09down at my computer and open up a whole
- 00:28:10bunch of different internet tabs and I
- 00:28:12would look at airbnbs in foreign
- 00:28:14countries for a while and then I would
- 00:28:16find the book that i' left half open on
- 00:28:17my desk from the night before and I
- 00:28:19would start reading a new chapter of the
- 00:28:20book and then I would answer some text
- 00:28:22messages from people and then I would
- 00:28:23probably turn on a playlist and get
- 00:28:25distracted by some feelings i' left
- 00:28:26unprocessed and then I would obsess over
- 00:28:29what I was going to eat for lunch for a
- 00:28:30little while and by this point I would
- 00:28:32have successfully wasted most of the
- 00:28:34morning and all of those things are tiny
- 00:28:36environmental triggers that I could have
- 00:28:38avoided I could have cleaned my room
- 00:28:40picked out what I was going to wear the
- 00:28:41night before not put on music not open
- 00:28:44the tabs already decided what I was
- 00:28:46going to have for lunch and that would
- 00:28:47have given me my entire morning back so
- 00:28:49taking some time to just be aware of
- 00:28:52what as many as possible of those tiny
- 00:28:54environmental triggers are for you
- 00:28:57allows you to design a routine for
- 00:28:59yourself where you are bypassing as many
- 00:29:01of the distraction triggers as possible
- 00:29:03and where you're optimizing the
- 00:29:05productivity triggers so a morning where
- 00:29:07you wake up don't check your phone
- 00:29:08already have your clothes picked out
- 00:29:10don't listen to music that derails you
- 00:29:11open your computer and figure out that
- 00:29:13you already cleared all your tabs the
- 00:29:14night before and now the only thing
- 00:29:16that's open on your computer is the
- 00:29:18blank Word document that you need to
- 00:29:19start writing in okay environmental
- 00:29:21design goes really really far when it
- 00:29:23comes to intered sensing so why not Flex
- 00:29:26that muscle that you enjoy flexing and
- 00:29:28work with rather than against yourself
- 00:29:30when it comes to designing your
- 00:29:31environment okay the one that we are all
- 00:29:34excited for extroverted thinking or te I
- 00:29:36just made a rule that the infp isn't
- 00:29:38allowed to shower until she works out
- 00:29:40and then I turned the neuroticism volume
- 00:29:42up on that rule to like 200% works every
- 00:29:45time look I'm not trying to cause any
- 00:29:47trouble I know you guys are busy I just
- 00:29:49I organized a few agenda items that I
- 00:29:52thought maybe we could go over together
- 00:29:54I'm open to hearing them out great okay
- 00:29:57so first first of all uh last week the
- 00:30:00constructive criticism that we got from
- 00:30:01the infp's mom look fi I know that it
- 00:30:04was hurtful yeah but she's not wrong we
- 00:30:08probably should be showering more than
- 00:30:10two to three times a week okay it's like
- 00:30:13you didn't even hear what I said so
- 00:30:15extroverted thinking is your inferior
- 00:30:17cognitive function as an infp which
- 00:30:19means it's the one that you prefer to
- 00:30:20use the least out of the four functions
- 00:30:22that you do prefer so extroverted
- 00:30:24thinking is never going to look the same
- 00:30:26in you as it does isn't an ESTJ or istj
- 00:30:29or entj or inj or any of the other types
- 00:30:32who prefer to use it as one of their top
- 00:30:34couple of functions but this is the
- 00:30:36cognitive function that really likes to
- 00:30:38put things in order to make plans and
- 00:30:40schedules to keep you on track with your
- 00:30:41goals and to structure your time
- 00:30:44effectively now as an infp you might
- 00:30:46feel like having overly rigid plans or
- 00:30:49structuring your time too much really
- 00:30:51impedes upon your ability to feel
- 00:30:52creative and free and happy in life and
- 00:30:55so I do not encourage you to overly
- 00:30:58structure your time in fact I think that
- 00:31:01infps put too much pressure on
- 00:31:04themselves to do this okay so something
- 00:31:05that I've noticed as with any inferior
- 00:31:07function is that infps tend to overdo
- 00:31:11their extroverted thinking when they
- 00:31:12decide to start working with it and it's
- 00:31:14not just I'm going to think about what
- 00:31:16I'm going to do today it's I'm going to
- 00:31:17plan out the next six months of my life
- 00:31:19and I'm going to have a rigid
- 00:31:21week-by-week schedule and I'm going to
- 00:31:23have absolutely every project lined out
- 00:31:25and I am never going to miss a deadline
- 00:31:27and I'm going to work really
- 00:31:28consistently towards this stuff and then
- 00:31:29the moment that that motivation wains
- 00:31:32and introverted feeling is no longer on
- 00:31:33board the entire plan goes out the
- 00:31:35window because the plan feels super
- 00:31:37overwhelming so the idea here is to
- 00:31:40avoid productivity dysmorphia okay so
- 00:31:43avoid that fantasy where you're turning
- 00:31:45yourself into an entj and suddenly being
- 00:31:47nothing but productive all of the time
- 00:31:49that will not work for you okay it's
- 00:31:51like telling an intern who just started
- 00:31:53at the company that they're now the CEO
- 00:31:55that is going to be a disaster and
- 00:31:56they're going to quit and if you try to
- 00:31:58make extroverted thinking the CEO of
- 00:32:00your life that is going to be a disaster
- 00:32:02and it is going to quit so you have to
- 00:32:04train it to fulfill the duties of being
- 00:32:06an intern first there is a certain high
- 00:32:09that you get from using extroverted
- 00:32:11thinking right so the reason that you
- 00:32:12sometimes like to plan and structure
- 00:32:14your life so intensely is because you
- 00:32:16get this really good feeling from doing
- 00:32:17it but you can get that same feeling
- 00:32:20from doing very small extroverted
- 00:32:22thinking tasks you just have to figure
- 00:32:24out what those are you will be
- 00:32:26productive if it feels good to be but
- 00:32:28the reason that you're often not
- 00:32:30productive is because you set too big of
- 00:32:32goals and then you don't feel the payoff
- 00:32:34of reaching them but if you're to start
- 00:32:36setting very small very achievable goals
- 00:32:39then you're going to start getting that
- 00:32:40Rush of dopamine from completing them
- 00:32:42and then you're going to want to do more
- 00:32:44of that and this is the process of
- 00:32:46beginning an upward spiral right so you
- 00:32:48don't even need to be focusing on let's
- 00:32:50say the work task that you want to get
- 00:32:51done in order to get the ball rolling
- 00:32:53here you can wake up in the morning walk
- 00:32:55into your kitchen and go I'm going to
- 00:32:56put 10 things in in the dishwasher put
- 00:32:5810 things in and then notice how you
- 00:33:00feel looking around the kitchen and
- 00:33:02seeing it be slightly cleaner than it
- 00:33:03was 30 seconds ago that's going to give
- 00:33:05you a little hit of that extroverted
- 00:33:07thinking dopamine rush if you want to
- 00:33:09get started on exercise just do 30
- 00:33:11Jumping Jacks and then check in and see
- 00:33:13how you feel after the important part is
- 00:33:16to have that moment after you complete
- 00:33:19every small task where you check in with
- 00:33:21yourself and really anchor yourself in
- 00:33:24that feeling of Pride accomplishment and
- 00:33:26excitement about but what you could do
- 00:33:28next that is that dopamine Rush that
- 00:33:31entjs and estjs live off of you just
- 00:33:33have to make it appropriately sized for
- 00:33:35where extroverted thinking is in your
- 00:33:37stacking now this doesn't mean you can't
- 00:33:39take on very big goals it just means
- 00:33:42that for you those goals have to be
- 00:33:43broken way way way way way way way down
- 00:33:47into little tiny itty bitty tasks that
- 00:33:49you complete in tiny increments getting
- 00:33:51that little tiny hit that keeps you
- 00:33:53going every step of the way you're
- 00:33:55training an intern not a CEO so again
- 00:33:57usually when I talk to ifp types so
- 00:33:59infps or isfps they're down on
- 00:34:01themselves for not having big enough
- 00:34:03goals but a lot of the time I find it's
- 00:34:05the complete opposite they have bigger
- 00:34:06goals than anyone else they just haven't
- 00:34:09trained themsel to get there in tiny
- 00:34:12little increments and that's what you
- 00:34:13have to do in order for your te to
- 00:34:15finally reach those overarching goals
- 00:34:17right none of them are too big for you
- 00:34:19it's just that you need the process and
- 00:34:21you need to use your te in the position
- 00:34:23that it's in in order to eventually
- 00:34:25arrive there and this requires you
- 00:34:27making friends with your extroverted
- 00:34:28thinking okay don't think of it as this
- 00:34:30monster that is trying to suck all of
- 00:34:32the fun and creativity and joy out of
- 00:34:34your life think of it as the banks of a
- 00:34:36river that gives the water somewhere to
- 00:34:38flow your fi is always going to be that
- 00:34:41creative energetic force in your life
- 00:34:44but if you don't give it any boundaries
- 00:34:46to function within it can't do what it
- 00:34:48naturally wants to do which is get into
- 00:34:50that flow State te is just about
- 00:34:53structuring your environment just enough
- 00:34:56to allow your fi to get into that flow
- 00:34:58because if your fi is distracted by
- 00:35:00thoughts about how disorganized your
- 00:35:02life is it's really hard to get it into
- 00:35:04that flow right te is the thing that
- 00:35:06allows your fi to do more of its good
- 00:35:10work not less okay you're not supposed
- 00:35:12to be replacing your fi with te you're
- 00:35:14supposed to be using your te to give a
- 00:35:17little bit of structure to the things
- 00:35:18that don't matter as much so that your
- 00:35:20fi can focus really intensely on what
- 00:35:23does matter and sometimes that's just a
- 00:35:25matter of what you're noticing so Eric
- 00:35:27burn who spearheaded the field of
- 00:35:28transactional analysis which if you are
- 00:35:30ever looking for some brain candy is a
- 00:35:32really fun field to explore you have to
- 00:35:34take his work with a grain of salt cuz
- 00:35:35he wrote it back in like the 60s or 70s
- 00:35:37so it's a little on the like sexist and
- 00:35:40homophobic side of things but if you
- 00:35:42cannot throw the baby out with a bath
- 00:35:43water there a lot of his ideas are super
- 00:35:45super interesting about how humans
- 00:35:47interact with each other and all of the
- 00:35:48kind of subtext that's going on beneath
- 00:35:50the surface of normal day-to-day
- 00:35:52conversations but anyway he talks about
- 00:35:54different needs that we have as humans
- 00:35:56as different types of hunger so so we
- 00:35:57have things like recognition hunger
- 00:35:59sexual hunger contact hunger but one of
- 00:36:02the hungers he talks about that I think
- 00:36:03is really cool is structure hunger so he
- 00:36:06says that all of us want to feel like
- 00:36:07we're living a meaningful life and in
- 00:36:09order to feel like we're living a
- 00:36:10meaningful life we have to feel like
- 00:36:12we're using our time in the right ways
- 00:36:14and when we don't feel like we're using
- 00:36:15our time in the right ways we start to
- 00:36:17feel like we're wasting our life we're
- 00:36:19wasting our time we're wasting our
- 00:36:21emotional energy and we get what he
- 00:36:23calls structure hunger so just like
- 00:36:25literal hunger in our body alerts us to
- 00:36:27the fact that it's time to eat some food
- 00:36:29structure hunger that feeling of I'm
- 00:36:31wasting my time and my life and my
- 00:36:33emotional energy wakes us up to that
- 00:36:35need to put some boundaries around our
- 00:36:37time so that we can let that beautiful
- 00:36:40deep rich sense of meaning that comes
- 00:36:42out of our inverted feeling to flourish
- 00:36:45and I think that NPS are almost
- 00:36:47perpetually in a state of structure
- 00:36:49hunger when we don't learn to structure
- 00:36:51our time effectively because we
- 00:36:52automatically identify that feeling as a
- 00:36:54negative thing we just use it to make
- 00:36:56judgments about ourselves and think oo
- 00:36:58I'm feeling lethargic and unaccomplished
- 00:37:00time to beat myself up but what that is
- 00:37:02is a hunger in you it is your mind
- 00:37:05calling you to put some loving structure
- 00:37:07around your behavior to give yourself
- 00:37:10more choices more opportunities to do
- 00:37:12creative work that feels really really
- 00:37:14meaningful for you because you've put
- 00:37:16all of the less important stuff on
- 00:37:17autopilot if you can learn to tune in to
- 00:37:20your hunger for structure recognize it
- 00:37:23when it comes up and then feed yourself
- 00:37:25that sense of structure the same way you
- 00:37:27would feed yourself a healthy meal
- 00:37:29you'll find that the hunger goes away
- 00:37:31and what takes its place is this
- 00:37:33beautiful feeling of creative fullness
- 00:37:35creative satiation and if there is
- 00:37:37anything on Earth that I wish for infps
- 00:37:39and enfps it is not a hyper rigid hyper
- 00:37:42structured lifestyle it is a feeling of
- 00:37:44deep personal interpersonal and creative
- 00:37:48fulfillment and everything you do to
- 00:37:50structure your time should always serve
- 00:37:52the eventual end goal of getting you
- 00:37:54there okay I think that is all that I
- 00:37:57have have for today also quick reminder
- 00:37:59that I do run six week soulle boot camp
- 00:38:01virtual courses for infp personality
- 00:38:04types I will put the link in this
- 00:38:05description if you want to talk more
- 00:38:08about how to optimize your cognitive
- 00:38:09functions it is a resource that's
- 00:38:11designed to help you do exactly that so
- 00:38:13if that interests you you can check it
- 00:38:14out below but also make sure that you
- 00:38:16are dropping in the comments any
- 00:38:18productivity tips that you have as an
- 00:38:20infp that have helped you work better
- 00:38:22because I think the more that we can
- 00:38:23share and learn from each other the
- 00:38:24better so I know that on the ENFP video
- 00:38:26we had some really helpful comments get
- 00:38:28left I would love to see those here as
- 00:38:29well and as always I hope you guys are
- 00:38:31doing awesome I love you so much and
- 00:38:33provided I do not get another sunburn I
- 00:38:35will see you next week
- 00:38:37[Music]
- INFP
- Productivity
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