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what is up you guys welcome back to my
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channel and if you're new to my channel
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welcome to my channel my name is Tony
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Brienne in today's video we're going to
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be discussing the pressure Society puts
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on women to look good and even smell
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good if you guys are on social media or
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even just living an everyday life I'm
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sure you already see the amount of
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pressure society places on women to look
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their very best from being advertised
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numerous skin care products beauty
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products the newest makeup the newest
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fragrances the latest body washes and so
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on and so forth women are constantly put
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under such a tight scope and in today's
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video we're going to be discussing all
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the pressures women are constantly put
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under and why they're put under these
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without further Ado you guys let's get
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straight into today's
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video moment when it comes to the price
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of beauty study show that American women
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spend an average of $115 for makeup and
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beauty treatments per month or just
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about
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$1,380 per year just on beauty and in
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terms of skin care women spend an
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estimated $65 per month on anti-aging
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creams treatments lotions moisturizers
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you name it women are spending a bag on
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all of this on average women at the age
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of 20 are spending $400 per year on new
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clothes and that number Rises up until
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they're about 40 and right about that
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age they spend about
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$700 per year on the newest and latest
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trends among women all over the world
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there's like this unspoken rule that we
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all have to look Top tier and we have to
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look our absolute best at all times and
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this is despite being in the public eye
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this is something that we see even in
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offices we see this in school we see
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this when you just go out shopping women
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just are always told you have to look
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your absolute best the same pressures
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aren't applied to men as much and though
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men have their own set of societal
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pressures when it comes to beauty and
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just being pretty women definitely take
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the large amount when it comes to being
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their best and appearing as their best
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so a writer for the Washington Post asks
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27 of her colleagues how many products
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they put on their face in the morning to
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look their very best and according to
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her it was reported that the average
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amount of products that each of those
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women put on their face in the morning
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was five products and I think that's for
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me too I put on a vitamin C serum I
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Spritz my face for rose water I use a
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anti-aging I think it's like a fine line
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remover or something like that I got it
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sent by a company then I used sunscreen
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and then I used use cleanser as oh I use
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cleanser sunscreen and moisturizer I use
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six products I think that's it and then
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at night time I think it's about seven
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or eight products but we're putting a
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lot of stuff on our face because we're
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told we have to look our best and try to
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limit ourselves from aging or looking
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bad and tired that same writer asked her
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two male colleagues and she say they use
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less than half her product in the
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morning and it's very easy to label this
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as just women being Vain and just being
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superficial but that's not the case at
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all Society puts that pressure upon us
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and it doesn't put that same pressure on
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men which is why she has all her women
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colleagues the 27 of them putting at
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least five products on their face and
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then the men are putting half a product
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on their face that right there though
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it's not a scientific poll shows exactly
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what I'm trying to say whenever a woman
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steps out not looking her best she
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automatically is seen as unkempt she's
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seen as not caring about herself she's
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seen as not having any home training
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she's called lazy boring ugly and so on
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and so forth but the crazy part about it
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is is the way that women look closely
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Ties on the way people treat them and
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that's when the whole ideology of pretty
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privilege comes about I did a video
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about 2 years ago on pretty privilege
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and I definitely caused up a ster of
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controversy I shared my opinions dealing
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with pretty privilege because I do find
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myself to be an attractive woman and I
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do get attention when I am out and about
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but the reason why I probably do get
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that attention is because I always make
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sure to look my absolute best because
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when you look your absolute best you get
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way more opportunities and experiences
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when it comes to dealing with people in
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the real world y'all want to talk about
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pretty privilege I'm seeing a lot of
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pretty people talking about how pretty
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privilege isn't real and they don't
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have it and blah shut up no you
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want to talk about pretty privilege talk
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to people who had to glow up if they
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were ugly in some kind of way and now
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they're somewhat attractive or very
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attractive whatever they will tell you
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pretty privilege is real because
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when you weren't attractive it was like
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everything you did was like annoying
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like your present just like pissed
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people off if you asked a question you
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were the biggest like irritation of life
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but when you're like stereotypically
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attractive like whatever you get away
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with so much more people are so much
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nicer to you it is the realest it's
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beyond me that this is even a
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conversation let's be for real
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pretty people are perceived as smarter
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more confident more sociable healthier
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and successful compared to people that
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are deemed less attractive in society
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there are advantages when it comes to
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employment there are advantages when it
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comes to just going out and maybe
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getting a free drink getting free entry
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into a club there are a lot of things
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that benefit when you match the
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society's terms of beauty pretty by
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default Society will give you value and
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you won't even lose it no matter how
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crazy things you do but if you're not
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pretty you will have to prove yourself
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over and over and over again that you
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are valuable so you can imagine why
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women feel the need to put themselves on
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a pedestal to make themselves more
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attractive and to make themselves more
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pretty so they can also get that pretty
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privilege pretty privilege is not just
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about purchasing makeup it's a whole
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lifestyle to achieve a certain look that
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will get you that access there are a
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whole set of rules and Aesthetics that
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will grant you that access to the perks
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of life and best believe a majority of
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women are going to want those same perks
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whether that's going out and purchasing
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affordable and stylish clothing going
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out to get your hair done or trying on a
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numerous amount of hairstyles getting
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your eyebrows done getting your
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eyelashes done getting your nails done
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wearing the latest designer shoes all of
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that it all plays aart in order to
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achieve what pretty privilege gets you
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I'm naturally ugly so keeping myself
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together is not easy and it's not cheap
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so I want to walk you through what I do
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and how much it cost starting with nails
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every 3 weeks I get a fill in and then
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every three fills I get a new set and I
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always do nude clear or French and I get
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a pedicure every 3 weeks when I go get
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my nails done this runs me about 150
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every 3 weeks next is lash extensions I
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get those done every two weeks I'll get
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a fill and then after two fills I'll get
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a whole new set and this runs me about
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175 every 2 weeks now I don't do this
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very often but I am very open about
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getting Botox and filler Botox is
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something that lasts around three months
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or so I will say I go quarterly to get a
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Botox top up that costs me anywhere
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between like $150 and $200 I don't do a
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lot of units and then semiannually I
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will get a little bit of filler depends
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on how my face is looking where I'm
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going to get it and I typically will
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only do one syringe and that's about
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$600 semiannual next is my hair listen
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black girls do not play about their hair
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okay I have hair but what is better than
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having beautiful long thick luscious
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locks so I buy extensions I get them
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from Indique it costs about $600 every
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time I get new hair and an install is
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about $500 finally is laser hair removal
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now this stuff depending on where you go
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is expensive I like to go to nicer
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places because I have melanated skin and
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thick coarse hair so I want the results
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to last and I don't want the laser to
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burn my skin because of the cost I'll
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buy a package of like 8 to 10 sessions
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for one area at a time and I do take a
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break like a year or two years in
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between each area at Ideal Image
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specifically I will say a package of
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treatments will cost you on average
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$2,000 so pricey but worth it their
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results really do last their packages
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come with a lifetime guarantee so you
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don't have to worry about touchup and
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not having to worry about unwanted hair
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razor burn ingrown hairs has made a
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dramatic difference in my life but the
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crazy thing is we don't really put men
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underneath the same telescope I did a
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video when I was speaking about Society
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hating women in their 30s and I stated
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men kind of have pretty privilege up
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until they're about 22 to 23 and then
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after that when it comes primarily to
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dating women don't really care about
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looks as much it's more so about how you
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can provide but even then a man just
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needs his face to be attractive a woman
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needs the full package as a result of
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this women end up spending so much money
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more than they can afford to achieve
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this level of beauty standard I mean
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let's just talk about the entire concept
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of beauty is pain women go through
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strenuous procedures and different
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treatments to achieve a certain type of
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look whether that's getting a Brazilian
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wax whether that's getting your eyebrows
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done that hurts okay let's be real
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sitting hours to get our nails done
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sitting hours to get our eyebrows done
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sitting hours to get our hair done
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spending so much money on hair spending
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so much money on everything women are
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going through all of these extreme
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lengths in order to maintain a seat in
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society well a selectable seat I'm sure
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we all heard the saying that people are
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not ugly we are just poor
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we see old pictures of Cristiano Ronaldo
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and we're thinking wow money when I see
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all those conversations today on Tik Tok
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about how men prefer natural girls and
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you don't need to buy all that makeup I
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thought you do it for yourself stop
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hiding your insecurities like that's
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literally the same thing I started to
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look at attractive women not in a way
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that they are just lucky some of them of
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course are born beautiful but majority
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of women are just spending so much money
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to look that way as why did she wake up
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with such a beautiful shiny face and
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beautiful eyelashes she did because she
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spent so much money on serums oils
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facials some brow lamination eyelash
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extension some Botox or filler but
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because men don't see makeup they will
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think she's natural and the question is
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is this a choice on women's Parts I do
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believe it is a choice to some sort to a
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certain extent like for instance I do
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love dressing up I love putting makeup
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on I love looking my very best however
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if I really had to pick I'd rather be in
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my pajamas all day with a fresh face and
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my Bonnet on like come on the reason why
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I go out and look my very best is
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because I want to look presentable and I
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know how I look deeply affects the
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certain opportunities and experiences
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that I will get when I'm out and about
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like y'all I filmed this video yesterday
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unfortunately my SD card decided to get
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corrupted and everything got deleted Ed
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but I was kicking and screaming to get
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dressed up again today and to sit out in
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front of a camera with my hair done my
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makeup on and an outfit on I just want
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to be comfortable so this just shows I'm
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just one example of course but a lot of
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women probably can relate to me we'd
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rather wear leggings we'd rather wear
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sweatpants big t-shirts sweatshirts and
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just be cozy but we don't do that if we
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want to be able to achieve certain
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things in life even just when it comes
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to women finding a eligible bachelor
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women are told to dress a certain way
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and a lot of the ways that we're told to
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dress are quite uncomfortable whether
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that's wearing very high heels wearing
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pounds of makeup wearing outfits that
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are tight and right in all the right
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places wearing jewelry that may pull and
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tug at our ears like it's a lot that
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goes into it in order to make sure that
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you are somewhat acceptable in society
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and that's going to go into my next part
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of the hygiene Olympics there is a
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common Trend that women are expected to
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smell and look their best um we kind of
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touched on this earlier when it comes to
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skincare and what women spend money on
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or what they're willing to spend money
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on the amount of products I see get sold
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for women to make sure their hoo-ha
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smells good and to make sure that
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they're the freshest and the best and
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how to please your man is absolutely out
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of control we're always being advertised
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on how to smell our best or we're being
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shamed for not smelling our best for
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instance if you ever hear women
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attacking other women or even men
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attacking women when they're arguing
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with them n out of 10 times you're going
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to hear them talk about how their smells
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or how they smell in general you have
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bad breath you have this this this and
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the third how many times do you pass by
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a group of men and they not smelling as
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snazzy as they should be we know men and
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women we know that a woman's hygiene is
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an insult if you say that a woman does
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not smell good it is very insulting
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that's why people say oh you smell like
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a fish or oh it smells bad you have BV
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there are a lot of things at hand that
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kind of agree with my point and given
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we're now speaking about sexual health
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and I definitely believe the whole idea
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of the hygiene Olympics definitely stems
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within the black community there's a lot
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of history that comes with that in
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regard to slavery and how we were put in
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very unkempt situations that led us to
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be very smelly not even unkempt inhumane
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places and I'm not even going to get
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into detail with that because it just
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pisses me off but now we just have this
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idea we have to be the cleanest person
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outse squeaky clean and women in general
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have this same idea too but just with
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the idea of like I need to have three
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different washcloths and I have to
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shower nine times a day or if you don't
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shower eight times or don't switch your
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underwear four times a day you're
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disgusting and dirty these are all
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anti-woman okay and I could say
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anti-black woman but I might do a whole
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different video for this on another day
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where I can do deeper details and we
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could talk about the hygiene Olympics a
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bit more but women are shamed for not
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smelling their very best and don't get
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me wrong I like to smell good too okay I
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like to look good I like to wear
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perfumes I like to wear really good
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smelling lotions delicious smelling body
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washes I love all of that do not get me
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wrong but women do go extreme lengths in
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order to smell a certain way because
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they're feared of being judged by
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somebody whereas men just use what head
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and shoulders and then just head out the
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door so my point really with this video
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or the making of this video is just to
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emphasize that whenever you see a woman
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that may not look her best in your eyes
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there is no reason to shame her there's
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no reason to judge her or make her feel
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less than because she already has
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Society on a tight scope doing that to
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her we as women have a bunch of
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pressures put on us to look our very
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best to be our very best and to do
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everything perfectly and if we don't we
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get annihilated for it whereas men can
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kind of do whatever the heck they want
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and I'm not saying that men don't have
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their own problems but we're speaking
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about women so don't even try that and
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even then when it comes to women feeling
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good and wanting to look good we
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shouldn't be shamed for that either I
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feel as if women were so in fear of
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wanting to emphasize our Beauty and
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we're so in fear of people thinking that
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we're all of that that we kind of
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deflect and diminish the value within
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ourselves and that leads to even further
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insecurities take a look at yourself
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when someone gives you a compliment do
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you automatically say like oh no I look
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a mess or oh God I don't look my very
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best today if you're doing that you're
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among the many women that do the same
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exact thing because we're told that we
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shouldn't be too confident and we
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shouldn't be too cocky about how we look
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then at the same time we're ashamed for
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not looking our very best either live
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for you love you don't let Society tell
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you how you should and should not look
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you have to just value on what you find
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important but don't go breaking the bank
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trying to adhere to societal pressures I
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even just think about how stressed I get
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when I'm picking out an outfit I'm like
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oh my God I have to look my very best I
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have pressures to look my best because
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I'm like what if somebody from online
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sees me in person what if someone that I
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know personally sees me in person I
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don't look my best it gets very
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stressful and I'm out here looking for a
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new outfit for every event I go to I'm
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making sure to wear a hat and a mask
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when my face isn't look look and how I
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wanted to look and that's all due to us
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feeling like we have to always be our
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very best but you guys that is the end
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of today's video and I of course want to
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know what you guys think in the comments
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down below do you think that women are
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just vain do you think Society puts
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these pressures on us why do you think
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they do well why do you think either
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answer why do you think any of those
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answers make sense I want to get the
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discussion going in the comments down
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below I'm very intrigued to hear what
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you guys have to say if you guys like
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this video don't forget to like comment
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subscribe and share please remember to
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stay true to yourself stay beautiful in
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your own way don't have Society put
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those upon you and yeah I guess I will
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see you all in my very next video I love
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you all so much bye
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guys taking you in come get close like
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you name a you want more of all this
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love you'll be your name release all of
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you
