Your Plan for Ending Juvenile Behavior (5 Steps)

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概要

TLDRVideoen tar for seg fem ting som kan svekke menn: 1) Fysisk svakhet, som ofte også indikerer emosjonell svakhet. Det vektlegges at fysisk utfordrende arbeid bygger mental og emosjonell utholdenhet. 2) Bannskap, som ses på som et tegn på mental svakhet da det ofte stammer fra emosjonell ustabilitet. 3) Overdreven smil, der videoen argumenterer for at constant lykke ikke er realistisk. 4) Manglende planlegging, som kan føre til mangel på struktur og effektivitet i livet. 5) Ikke å være sårbar, der det oppfordres til å dele følelser og tanker med minst én person for å fremme personlig vekst og motta innsikt fra andre. Videoen oppfordrer menn til å søke styrke, struktur, og modenhet gjennom egen refleksjon og ved å være åpne for andres veiledning.

収穫

  • 💪 Fysisk hardhet fremmer mental styrke.
  • 🗣 Bannskap er et tegn på emosjonell ustabilitet.
  • 😊 Overdreven smil er ikke alltid positivt.
  • 📅 Planlegging gir livsstruktur.
  • ❤️ Sårbarhet fremmer personlig vekst.
  • 🤔 Refleksjon er nøkkelen til mannlighet.
  • 🧘 Hold emosjonell balanse til enhver tid.
  • 👁️ Øyekontakt viser selvtillit.
  • ⏰ Ha en fast daglig rutine.
  • 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Følg et modent og balansert liv.

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    Fysisk svakhet kan sees på som både en kroppslig og mental utfordring. Når kroppen opplever smerte eller utmattelse, må sinnet overstyre, noe som utvikler mental styrke. Det er ikke nødvendigvis knyttet til kroppsfett, men heller den fysiske utholdenheten man bygger opp gjennom utfordringer. Menn som banner, viser i følge forfatteren mental svakhet da banning anses som en måte å overføre sin sårbarhet og frustrasjon til andre på. Å smile hele tiden er heller ikke ansett som passende for menn ifølge den russiske oppfatningen nevnt, da livet i seg selv er alvorlig og krever en seriøs disposisjon det meste av tiden.

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    Det å ha en fast timeplan og holde seg til den blir sett på som essensielt for en mann. Mangel på struktur fører til flukt og overdrevne aktiviteter som videospill eller TV-titting. Å ha klare mål, leggetider, periodevis bønn og en strukturert hverdag gjenspeiles i hvordan et kloster fungerer, og dette bør etterstrebes. Å være sårbar og ha en mentor eller en tillitsperson er også viktig. Det ble delt eksempler fra forfatterens liv hvor veiledning bidro til personlig vekst og forståelse. Å ha et åpent forhold til hvordan man takler livets utfordringer, og søke råd fra de som har en god forståelse av livet er kritisk.

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よくある質問

  • Hva sier videoen om fysisk svakhet hos menn?

    Videoen hevder at fysisk svakhet kan indikere emosjonell svakhet og vektlegger viktigheten av fysisk utfordrende arbeid for mental og emosjonell styrke.

  • Hvordan blir banning sett på i videoen?

    Banning blir sett på som et tegn på mental svakhet, ettersom det ofte kommer fra emosjonell ustabilitet og manglende mestring.

  • Hvorfor er det ikke bra å smile for mye ifølge videoen?

    Smiling ses som urealistisk, og overdreven smiling kan indikere at en person ikke tar livet seriøst nok.

  • Hvordan påvirker det å ikke ha en plan en manns styrke?

    Manglende planlegging kan føre til ineffektivitet og manglende struktur i livet, noe som svekker en manns evne til å oppnå sine mål.

  • Hvorfor er det viktig å være sårbar ifølge videoen?

    Å være sårbar med minst én person kan hjelpe en mann til å vokse mentalt ved å motta feedback og veiledning.

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    five things that make you weak as a man
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    number one easiest loow hanging fruit
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    which is physically soft men in my
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    experience are also emotionally
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    soft why is
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    that physical hard work makes you
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    tenacious when your body tells you not
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    to do something because it's painful or
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    exhausting or you could
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    fail your mind has to take over the
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    inclination and the words the groaning
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    of the body and your mind has to tell
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    your body what it is going to do in no
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    uncertain
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    terms this builds a mental emotional
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    fortitude so that when things don't go
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    your way when things are stacked against
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    you when problems happen when un
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    certainty hits you you have that switch
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    in your mind and you're used to turning
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    it on that switch to turn it on and say
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    adversity no problem I'm going to get
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    after it I'm going to plow through it
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    I'm going to attack it now this isn't in
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    regards to body fat or something like
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    that I think people often make too much
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    about having six packs and all of this
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    kind of vain glorious things
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    what I'm talking about is a man who has
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    physical
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    fortitude there are guys who compete in
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    strong man who have
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    guts but have bowling ball shoulders
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    huge traps thick necks big hands and uh
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    almost unrivaled ability to block out
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    pain and push through so don't confuse
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    somebody who is ripped
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    with somebody who is actually hard
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    physical hardness comes from enduring
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    challenges and fighting through them and
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    your mind telling your body it is going
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    to submit to its
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    will number two cussing cussing every
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    time I hear someone cuss a man cuss I
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    know that's a mentally weak
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    man why because when somebody cusses
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    they're expecting you to carry the
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    burden of their
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    fragility they're upset they're angry
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    they're
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    uh uh you know reacting in an
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    emotionally exaggerated way and the only
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    way for them to cope with that is to let
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    off all these swear words and kind of
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    dump it on you you know when somebody
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    says uh oh David goggin he's so hard
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    when I hear that man talk forgive me
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    that doesn't sound like a man who has it
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    rained
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    in that sounds like a man whose emotions
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    just fly off the fence you know he's
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    just he's just
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    overboard with his emotional reaction to
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    things this isn't healthy this isn't
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    normal this isn't
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    stability men should not be talking
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    about things that bother them too much
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    men should not be getting getting
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    frustrated too often even frustration
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    even when I hear myself get frustrated
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    sometimes I go that is
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    weakness that is me seeing something
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    that is out of my control and being a
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    victim to what is out of my control and
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    allowing it to uh rock my
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    stability number three smiling too much
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    smiling too much there's a saying in
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    Russia if you see a person uh smiling in
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    the streets they are either uh mentally
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    defective or they're
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    American you know in American culture
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    it's all about being happy all the time
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    smiling putting off of this air of you
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    know I'm happy with everything in life
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    that's not reality there's a time and a
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    place to be sober and to be sober minded
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    and that is most of life you know my
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    wife used to talk to me I would finish
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    serving The Divine Liturgy
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    and I would come out of the Altar and
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    she said you look like like almost like
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    you're angry and I'm like I'm not angry
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    but I've just spent two hours
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    interceding before God for the people
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    calling on his
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    Mercy that sobriety that's
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    soberness that's firmness of character
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    that isn't L dah smiling all the time
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    life is serious Sal is serious we should
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    have a serious disposition does that
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    mean that we smile absolutely does it
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    mean that we tell jokes absolutely can
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    we be light-hearted at times
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    sure but going around and being
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    light-hearted all the
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    time is not befitting a
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    man a man has to be dialed in and
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    focused on his salvation saying the
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    Jesus prayer being in a state of
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    repentance keeping himself emotionally
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    grounded being focused on eternity and
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    then and then he has times where he can
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    let
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    loose this is also why a man needs to
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    make eye
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    contact when you make eye contact you're
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    allowing other people to look into you
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    and when you look into them you should
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    not be afraid of them looking back into
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    you you should have a resolve and an
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    understanding and acceptance for who you
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    are as a person that is not afraid of
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    what other people's judgments thoughts
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    or cares are for
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    you number four not having a
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    schedule not knowing what you're doing
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    each day it's not a problem to do some
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    video games it's not a problem to watch
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    a show or a movie on Netflix it's not a
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    problem to sit down with a
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    book okay the problem becomes when it's
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    out of balance and it's not pre-arranged
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    it's not
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    scheduled and when it's binging when
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    it's escapism when it's just too
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    much a man should have a set of tasks
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    that he knows he needs to accomplish
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    every day my goal right now is to write
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    to actually text message myself four or
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    five goals every single night before I
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    go to bed so that I have those things
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    that are focused in my mind that I need
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    to check off and accomplish for the day
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    and not only that ideally a man has a
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    time he goes to bed he has a time that
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    he wakes up he knows when he's going to
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    eat he eats on a scheduled time he has
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    everything dialed in in an orderly
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    fashion this is what you see when you go
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    to a monastery to me a monastery is the
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    kind of Pinnacle of when everything is
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    controllable and right how it should
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    look and whenever you go to a monastery
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    there's one common theme which are they
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    are very orderly they have a schedule
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    they have days they have commitments
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    they have a daily schedule weekly
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    schedule monthly schedule everything is
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    laid out in advance and a man needs to
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    know what he's doing when he's doing it
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    the worst thing in the world is for a
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    man to wake up and not know what he's
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    supposed to be doing or where he's
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    supposed to be going or what he's
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    supposed to be
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    accomplishing every man should should be
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    waking up knowing number one I have
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    allocated enough time to pray and my
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    number one job is to
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    pray and number two at the end of the
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    day I have allocated enough time to pray
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    and I know what time I need to pray and
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    what time I need to accomplish these
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    things that's number four number five
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    not being
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    vulnerable not being
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    vulnerable you have to have a means of
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    opening yourself up to somebody else now
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    does this have to be everybody
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    absolutely not that would be both
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    unwise and potentially dangerous to
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    share your thoughts and feelings with
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    everyone but you need to find at least
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    one at least one person in your life
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    that you can share everything with I
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    remember when I was in my mid 20s and I
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    really began to realize how juvenile I
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    was as a person and one of the things
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    that I read in the Saints and was this
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    idea of revealing your thoughts they
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    said Reveal Your Daily thoughts to
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    somebody and from an older more
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    experienced person so that they can give
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    you feedback on how you're thinking and
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    approaching life and I had a man in my
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    life who to this day is kind of the
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    closest thing do I have that I have as a
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    father figure and he's a very mature
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    solid man and I said hey can I call you
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    regularly to talk about my thoughts
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    thoughts on how I'm processing life and
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    he's like yeah no problem and I mean I
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    probably called
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    him hundreds of
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    times for a year or two straight to
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    discuss every thought and thing that I
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    was grappling over everything that
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    caused me mental anguish
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    discomfort I lacked peace or Clarity on
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    I would call him and the funny thing is
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    at the end of two
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    years I said what would and I and
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    because I began to change and I began to
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    see how he thought about things I
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    thought about things like this he
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    thought about them like this and I was
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    constantly moving my will over to his
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    will and his Insight because I knew I
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    would head in the direction of maturity
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    and manliness if I did this and so after
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    two years I asked him I said what was it
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    like when you used to talk to me and he
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    said when I first started talking to you
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    he said 80% of what you thought was
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    wrong and 10% was legit imately
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    crazy so 25 years old 10% of what I
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    thought was
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    correct 80% was wrong and 10% of it was
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    mentally
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    deranged I'm okay with that because I
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    didn't want to stay in that and the only
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    way not to stay in that is to expose it
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    and so it is you have to find somebody
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    that you can tell on yourself to you can
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    say hey I'm having these crazy thoughts
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    or these crazy feelings or I'm
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    processing this and it's giving me a lot
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    of Anguish help me out tell me what to
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    do and with this gentleman that I did
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    this with when I would call him on the
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    phone I'd say hey I've got an issue he'd
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    say okay shoot I would lay out the issue
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    the problem the discomfort whatever it
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    was I'll give you an example one time I
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    called him and I said okay I'm upset I
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    got something going on he goes shoot
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    what's happening I I go I asked my wife
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    not to buy more than one pair of shoes
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    she went out and bought three pairs of
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    shoes on the credit card and she
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    Justified it somehow in this whole thing
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    and blah blah blah blah blah and uh I'm
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    you know livid at the time and he said
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    okay this is what he would always say
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    okay are you ready for feedback and I'd
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    say yes whatever he told me at that
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    point was gospel truth I just took it
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    and ran with it because anything he
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    offered was better than what I had
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    and I remember in that situation said
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    okay are you ready and I saides and he
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    said there's only room in the marriage
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    for one
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    wife and what he was saying was one
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    person in the marriage May complain may
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    get upset may get flustered may get
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    overwhelmed may do things and that we
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    allow to be the wife you're the husband
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    stop acting like this and as soon as he
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    said that I said okay I got it I'll dial
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    it in I'll figure it out I'll find a
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    solution that's the key that's the key
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    winners find a solution in life and
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    you've got to surround yourself with
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    people who can show you how to win at
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    life they've got good marriages they've
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    got good children they've got good
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    careers they have a good work ethic
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    they're servants they pray they're at
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    church they're in the services maybe
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    they're the your priest also all of
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    those factors you want to glean and grab
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    from them and so you have to open
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    yourself up to their direction and you
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    have to open up yourself to following
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    what they tell you to do and treating it
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    and high regard may God bless you I pray
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    this video strengthens you as a man and
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    that you may enter more fully into your
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    manliness
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  • fysisk styrke
  • emosjonell stabilitet
  • banning
  • sårbarhet
  • mental styrke
  • planlegging
  • personlig vekst
  • refleksjon
  • modenhet
  • livsstruktur