Successful People Are Not Happy

00:34:24
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概要

TLDRÎn acest episod, Leo de la actualized.org discută despre iluzia succesului, subliniind că persoanele de succes nu sunt întotdeauna fericite, contrar așteptărilor societății. El argumentează că succesul este adesea o iluzie superficială, alimentată de cultura modernă, care promovează realizările externe și statutul social. Leo încurajează ascultătorii să facă o distincție clară între succes și fericire, sugerând că adevărata fericire provine din acceptarea realității și din dezvoltarea unei conexiuni profunde cu sine. El avertizează că urmărirea succesului poate duce la o viață neîmplinită și că este esențial să ne concentrăm pe fericire, nu pe succesul material.

収穫

  • 💡 Iluzia succesului poate duce la nefericire.
  • 💔 Oamenii de succes pot avea probleme emoționale.
  • 🌍 Cultura promovează o viziune distorsionată asupra succesului.
  • 🧘‍♂️ Fericirea vine din acceptarea realității.
  • 🚫 Succesul nu este același cu fericirea.
  • 🔍 Este important să ne concentrăm pe fericire, nu pe succesul material.
  • 📉 Urmărirea succesului poate duce la o viață neîmplinită.
  • 💪 Conexiunea cu sine este esențială pentru fericire.
  • 🧠 Înțelegerea fericirii este crucială pentru dezvoltarea personală.
  • 🌱 Întrebările profunde pot ajuta la spargerea iluziei succesului.

タイムライン

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    În acest episod, Leo discută despre iluzia succesului, subliniind că persoanele de succes nu sunt neapărat fericite, contrar așteptărilor comune. El explică cum această iluzie este alimentată de cultura modernă, care promovează imagini de succes prin celebrități și modele de succes, făcându-ne să credem că fericirea vine din realizările externe.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    Leo continuă să explice că, deși persoanele de succes par fericite, multe dintre ele se confruntă cu dependențe și probleme emoționale. El subliniază că succesul nu este același cu împlinirea personală și că mulți dintre acești indivizi sunt doar maeștri ai manipulării, care își construiesc o imagine de succes, dar care nu reflectă fericirea reală.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:15:00

    Se discută despre cum cultura promovează succesul extern, ignorând aspectele subtile ale fericirii. Leo afirmă că majoritatea oamenilor nu înțeleg adevărata natură a fericirii și că sunt atrași de realizările materiale, ceea ce îi împiedică să se dezvolte personal. Această iluzie este perpetuată de mass-media și de societate, care vând succesul ca un ideal.

  • 00:15:00 - 00:20:00

    Leo compară succesul cu o schemă piramidală, unde doar cei de la vârf beneficiază, iar cei de la bază rămân blocați în iluzia succesului. Chiar și cei care ajung la vârf descoperă că fericirea nu este garantată, iar mintea lor îi poate păcăli să creadă că sunt fericiți, chiar și atunci când nu sunt.

  • 00:20:00 - 00:25:00

    Leo subliniază importanța de a distinge între succes și fericire, afirmând că fericirea nu vine din acumularea de bunuri materiale sau din succesul extern. El sugerează că adevărata fericire provine din acceptarea realității și din conectarea cu momentul prezent, nu din manipularea circumstanțelor pentru a obține ceea ce ne dorim.

  • 00:25:00 - 00:34:24

    În final, Leo încurajează ascultătorii să renunțe la iluzia succesului și să se concentreze pe dezvoltarea fericirii interioare. El subliniază că fericirea este o stare de a fi, nu ceva ce putem obține prin succesul extern, și că trebuie să ne întrebăm ce fel de viață dorim să trăim, alegând fericirea necondiționată în locul celei condiționate.

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ビデオQ&A

  • Ce este iluzia succesului?

    Iluzia succesului este convingerea că persoanele de succes sunt fericite și împlinite, ceea ce nu este întotdeauna adevărat.

  • De ce oamenii de succes nu sunt neapărat fericiți?

    Mulți oameni de succes se confruntă cu dependențe, stres și probleme emoționale, chiar dacă par fericiți la exterior.

  • Cum putem distinge între succes și fericire?

    Succesul este adesea legat de realizări externe, în timp ce fericirea vine din acceptarea și conectarea cu realitatea.

  • Ce rol joacă cultura în percepția succesului?

    Cultura promovează o viziune superficială asupra succesului, concentrându-se pe realizările materiale și statutul social.

  • Cum putem obține fericirea adevărată?

    Fericirea adevărată vine din acceptarea momentului prezent și din dezvoltarea unei conexiuni profunde cu sine.

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    hey Leo here for actualized.org and in
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    this episode I'm going to be talking
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    about the illusion of success how
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    successful people are not happy the way
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    that we usually assume
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    [Music]
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    there's a very deep illusion within you
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    that keeps you from growing to your full
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    potential and this is the illusion of
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    success and this got imprinted into you
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    as part of our modern culture what is
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    this
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    illusion it goes something like this you
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    see celebrities all around you in the
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    news and in the movies you see your
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    successful friends you see your
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    co-workers who are are striving to climb
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    the corporate ladder and uh acquire
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    stuff for themselves in life maybe you
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    see certain family members who have uh a
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    lot of money and these people they seem
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    happy it seems like they're doing it
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    they're achieving it they're living the
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    right life they're out there doing the
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    normal stuff they're not sitting at home
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    reading books and doing personal
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    development they're out there engaging
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    in life they're having fun they're
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    working hard and they're putting their
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    lives
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    together and then you see these Mega
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    Achievers in the newspapers you see
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    these uh Bill Gates and Steve Jobs and
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    Elon musks who do all these big things
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    in business who are just like killing it
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    out there and you think to yourself
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    that's what I need to be like like one
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    of them if only my life was like that
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    then I would have the money and if I had
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    the good looks and I I would have my hot
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    girlfriend or my uh my dream husband and
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    then I have the great Social Circle and
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    I have free freedom and time and money
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    to travel and to do all these exotic
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    things and then I would have a really
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    exciting life and I would be doing big
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    things with my business I would be doing
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    significant things for the world for the
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    economy and that is basically the
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    epitome of uh self-actualization
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    right that's the illusion and this
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    illusion is further fed by all these
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    false role models that you see
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    highlighted in the news and in time mag
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    azine and uh just uh across the internet
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    Arnold Schwarzenegger Alon musk Tony
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    Robbins Oprah Steve Jobs Donald Trump
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    you know whoever your role models are uh
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    these all feed into this illusion now
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    Trump is an interesting example actually
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    because you might think like well Leo
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    who would take Trump as as a role model
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    um actually you'd be surprised I had a
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    client about two years ago a coaching
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    client of mine who um we would Skype
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    into coaching sessions and this guy was
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    really into success and so he wanted
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    help from me to kind of organize his
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    life help them put some productivity
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    habits into place and and so forth and
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    one day he was just picking my brain
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    about stuff related to productivity and
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    then he starts talking about his role
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    models and his role models are all these
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    like Mega successful people and then of
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    course uh Trump comes up and this was uh
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    couple years ago so Trump was like just
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    starting to get into the into the uh
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    presidential race and um I knew this guy
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    was trouble but but my client my client
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    is telling me like oh but Leo like look
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    at Trump and I'm like why do you bring
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    up Trump he's like well look he's he's
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    got the perfect everything he's got the
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    perfect he's got the perfect house the
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    perfect Lifestyle the perfect wife the
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    perfect kids it's all so well put
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    together and I'm sitting there and I'm
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    just trying to contain my uh my my my
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    shock and kind of laughter because of
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    like my jaw is a gape um at how he's
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    trying to emulate Trump and that he
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    thinks that this is his role model and
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    this is what he wants me to coach him to
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    be
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    like um and this client was a was a you
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    know was this fairly successful guy
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    already um he was uh he had his own
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    little small business that he was
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    working on and he was doing well for
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    himself and he was a well educated guy
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    well put together guy so he wasn't just
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    some you know um just uh some some
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    redneck uh in in the countryside or
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    something like that so um so yeah I just
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    that's an aside but anyways uh you got
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    to be careful with all these what I call
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    false Role Models these Role Models
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    Society puts them out there as these
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    very successful people but you got to be
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    very
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    careful this happens with celebrities
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    also you might fall into this trap with
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    puas uh whatever Pua teachers out there
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    pickup teachers that you're following be
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    very careful because all these people
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    the Pu the celebrities and all these
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    others that I mentioned really what
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    they're giving you is they're giving you
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    a veneer of success
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    this is all an
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    illusion all of this is surface level
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    stuff these people are not happy at all
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    at
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    all at all these people are on drugs
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    they're addicted to all manner of things
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    from gross to
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    subtle they are addicted to success they
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    are addicted to work they are addicted
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    to Ego they addicted to manipulation
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    they are stressed they are overworked
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    they are depressed
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    they just have a lot of stuff going on
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    in their
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    lives granted but that doesn't mean very
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    much it's got very little to do with
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    actual fulfillment in life and it's got
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    very little to do with your actual
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    development as a human being these are
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    not high quality human
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    beings they just happen to be Mega
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    successful and that's a very important
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    distinction to
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    draw what these people are really is
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    their masters of manipulation and they
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    have found their niche in life which has
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    allowed them then to become very
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    successful by masters of manipulation I
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    don't necessarily mean that they're
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    manipulating you in some nefarious way
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    although many of them
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    are um I'm more mean that they are
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    Masters at manipulating life and
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    themselves so they have become very very
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    good at manipulating their situation and
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    their lives and the lives of everybody
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    around them and the lives of Their
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    audience so that they have this sense of
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    success and it works to a large degree
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    because you create this bubble around
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    yourself of success and then you're able
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    to trick yourself into thinking that
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    well because I have all this success and
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    I'm able to manipulate reality so
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    effectively that that means that I'm a
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    good human being that I'm really
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    developed and that I'm really happy
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    whereas in fact it's a hollow victory
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    for these people and of course we see
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    this in the news periodically with
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    various celebrities who commit suicide
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    side or overdose on drugs or have
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    behavioral problems or get angry and
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    rant at people or whatever right we see
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    their true colors once in a while but
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    only once in a
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    while and generally though what we have
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    in a culture is we have this
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    um this illusion of success and then
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    this illusion is so deeply soaked into
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    your bones you so believe in it that you
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    think that this is what
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    self-actualization is
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    about what it's for is to help you to do
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    that well I got news for you you're
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    envying the wrong people all these
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    people that you envy these are the wrong
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    people if you actually became like them
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    and here's the really counterintuitive
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    and difficult to believe thing is that
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    if you actually became like them you
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    would be miserable you would be
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    absolutely miserable
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    able and your life would be a
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    mess even though on the surface you
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    would be able to put on a good
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    appearance and everybody around you
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    would think that well this guy really
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    has it all together look at him I want
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    to be like
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    him that's the illusion and it's a very
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    dangerous
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    illusion there's also this Echo chamber
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    effect in our culture because our
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    culture feeds into this and it creates
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    this illusion because it largely only
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    highlights external
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    successes see uh the common mob doesn't
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    understand anything but material and
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    gross things their minds are not subtle
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    enough to to tap into the subtle aspects
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    of
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    life and therefore they can't really
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    even start to self-actualize because
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    they're chasing
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    external gross things
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    and our culture feeds into this because
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    it's very easy to sell success and
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    resell success that's why you have all
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    these magazines like time magazines and
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    Fortune 500 and all of these what do
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    they do they package and sell the
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    illusion of success by putting these
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    people on their front covers and then
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    writing articles about them how they're
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    successful this person this millionaire
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    that billionaire how much money they
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    made in the stock markets and what kind
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    of company they founded none of that has
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    anything to do with real success in life
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    that's all a veneer of success but see
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    it's easy to sell that because once
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    you've got that thing going people are
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    bought into that illusion now you can
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    sell them courses seminars books they
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    buy your magazine they read your
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    self-help books they read your
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    biographies they take you as an expert
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    as an authority in your field then they
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    want to hire you as a consultant and so
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    it just goes on and on and on this
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    success gets resold this illusion gets
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    resold over and over and over again and
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    really what it is is just like a pyramid
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    scheme of success because um it's only
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    like the top of the pyramid that can
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    survive because they're riding on the
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    backs of the base of the pyramid which
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    is the common masses which will never
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    even rise to that level of success but
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    the shocking thing is is that even if
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    they do even if you do manage to go from
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    the bottom of the pyramid all the way to
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    the top you'll realize that the whole
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    thing was a sham to begin with because
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    even the people at the top are not
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    really happy
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    but often times they don't know it
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    because the mind is very tricky and of
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    course when you're at the top to
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    maintain this whole structure you're
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    going to have to lie to yourself in
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    sneaky ways that you're not even
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    conscious of yet that actually it's
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    working and that actually you are happy
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    it's very easy to trick yourself into
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    thinking that you're happy when you have
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    a lot of money and a lot of power and
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    you're very good at manipulating your
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    circumstances very easy to trick
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    yourself into that
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    it's very easy to Coast on Celebrity
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    Status and to milk celebrity status and
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    to turn any bit of recognition that you
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    get or any publicity that you get into
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    money and into more publicity and into
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    more success and so this creates this
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    cycle of NeverEnding success
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    chasing what we need to do if you really
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    want to Unleash Your Potential in life
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    and you want to really grow in the
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    proper manner is to shatter this
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    illusion right
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    now otherwise you will waste Decades of
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    your life if not your entire life misled
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    going in the opposite direction of where
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    you need to go in order to really grow
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    and to be really
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    fulfilled but this illusion is very
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    difficult to shake it's not enough just
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    to hear me say it once because like I
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    said it's it's it's an illusion that
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    goes down to the marrow of your bones
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    it's a very deep cultural
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    Paradigm that you are trying to shake
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    here so what needs to happen is we need
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    to come back to it over and over and
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    over again have you thinking about it
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    over and over and over again to
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    undermine this illusion until you stop
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    believing in
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    it so let's get to work first make a
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    very sharp distinction in your mind
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    between success and happiness these
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    things are really
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    orthogonal orthogonal and often times
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    they're actually opposite in that to
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    become happy you're going to have to let
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    go of success not Chase more success and
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    that by chasing more success you're
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    actually making yourself
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    miserable it's also important to
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    understand the fundamentals of how
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    happiness works because it works in very
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    counterintuitive
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    ways what you need to know about
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    happiness is that every human action is
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    always aimed towards maximizing
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    happiness I don't care what it is it
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    could be a terrorist it could be Hitler
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    it could be a rapist it could be your
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    politician uh pick anyone you hate Whose
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    actions you despise and realize for a
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    moment just for a moment right now that
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    they are actually acting in what they
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    believe will produce the most happiness
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    for
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    them hard to
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    believe so why then do they act in such
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    Stupid Ways well for the same way uh for
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    the same reason that you act in Stupid
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    Ways because from the inside it's very
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    difficult to see that your actions
  • 00:13:25
    actually aren't moving you towards
  • 00:13:27
    happiness because like I said happiness
  • 00:13:29
    is a very counterintuitive thing it's
  • 00:13:30
    easy to lose track of when your actions
  • 00:13:33
    stop working and producing
  • 00:13:35
    happiness because the success will
  • 00:13:40
    seduce
  • 00:13:41
    you see you start off planning your
  • 00:13:45
    actions to maximize your happiness and
  • 00:13:47
    your ha and your actions and your
  • 00:13:49
    happiness are like this they're together
  • 00:13:53
    and you sort of assume that that's how
  • 00:13:54
    it's going to keep being but then you
  • 00:13:56
    start taking more actions more actions
  • 00:13:57
    you start getting a little bit of
  • 00:13:58
    success you start assuming that oh
  • 00:14:00
    success is the same as happiness and so
  • 00:14:01
    these things start to drift apart though
  • 00:14:03
    you don't really notice that they're
  • 00:14:04
    drifting apart your happiness is going
  • 00:14:06
    one way your success is taking you
  • 00:14:08
    another way but see the happiness the
  • 00:14:11
    happiness is a
  • 00:14:12
    very abstract and air fairy thing it's
  • 00:14:15
    intangible it's
  • 00:14:17
    subtle it's going this direction your
  • 00:14:20
    success is a gross material thing it's
  • 00:14:22
    money or bank account it's cars it's
  • 00:14:24
    houses it's your growing business it's
  • 00:14:26
    how many people know your name it's your
  • 00:14:28
    audience your number of subscribers you
  • 00:14:30
    have all this and it's going this
  • 00:14:31
    direction you see and you just assume
  • 00:14:33
    that oh well this this is the same thing
  • 00:14:35
    as this because as you're getting this
  • 00:14:37
    it's sort of addictive and it's
  • 00:14:39
    stimulating right oh I got more
  • 00:14:41
    subscribers like oh I got more money in
  • 00:14:43
    my bank account I got a new car oh all
  • 00:14:45
    that's addictive and oh I got a new
  • 00:14:46
    girlfriend look she came to me because
  • 00:14:48
    she saw my success oh okay and so now
  • 00:14:51
    you think oh now I'm really living the
  • 00:14:52
    good life and you're living into this
  • 00:14:54
    illusion of success and now by that
  • 00:14:56
    point you're
  • 00:14:58
    completely 180° now in the opposite
  • 00:15:01
    direction of
  • 00:15:02
    happiness and the trick with this is is
  • 00:15:05
    that the reason this is such an easy
  • 00:15:08
    separation that happens is
  • 00:15:11
    because happiness what is happiness it's
  • 00:15:14
    such an Airy fairy thing it's an emotion
  • 00:15:16
    it's a
  • 00:15:17
    feeling and many
  • 00:15:19
    people live their life as though they're
  • 00:15:22
    very rational and pragmatic so a
  • 00:15:24
    rational pragmatic person when he puts
  • 00:15:27
    on the scale has happiness over here
  • 00:15:29
    this Airy fairy feeling of happiness and
  • 00:15:32
    then a car a house lots of stocks money
  • 00:15:37
    in your bank account and a hot
  • 00:15:39
    girlfriend or a husband and a family and
  • 00:15:43
    and vacations and uh fancy Italian
  • 00:15:46
    restaurants and all this stuff over here
  • 00:15:48
    which one is he going to Value
  • 00:15:51
    more you see it takes a lot of wisdom to
  • 00:15:54
    Value this over all of this
  • 00:15:59
    you see
  • 00:16:00
    that takes a lot of
  • 00:16:04
    wisdom um your problem in life is not
  • 00:16:08
    that you lack
  • 00:16:09
    success that is not why you're
  • 00:16:13
    unfulfilled that is a huge part of the
  • 00:16:15
    solution we tell ourselves that man if I
  • 00:16:18
    was just doing a little better for
  • 00:16:20
    myself that would really do it for me in
  • 00:16:23
    life my life would be great that is not
  • 00:16:26
    the problem the problem is that you
  • 00:16:28
    fundament mentally misunderstand how
  • 00:16:31
    happiness works that's the real problem
  • 00:16:34
    because if you really understood what
  • 00:16:37
    happiness is and how happiness works you
  • 00:16:39
    would not be Under This Spell mesmerized
  • 00:16:43
    by this illusion of success chasing
  • 00:16:49
    it success is largely about manipulating
  • 00:16:53
    reality to fit
  • 00:16:56
    you that's what success is about out
  • 00:16:59
    that's how you acquire success you want
  • 00:17:01
    a lot of success become a really good
  • 00:17:03
    manipulator of reality and you will have
  • 00:17:06
    massive
  • 00:17:08
    success happiness is the opposite of
  • 00:17:11
    that it's about surrendering yourself to
  • 00:17:17
    reality this is where people go wrong is
  • 00:17:19
    they misunderstand
  • 00:17:22
    this surrendering yourself to reality
  • 00:17:26
    and not getting the things you
  • 00:17:29
    want see you think that to be happy you
  • 00:17:33
    need to get all the things you want and
  • 00:17:36
    the more you go and you pursue these
  • 00:17:37
    things and you get them eventually you
  • 00:17:39
    will realize what I'm telling you here
  • 00:17:41
    now which is that actually happiness is
  • 00:17:45
    about being okay and happy with exactly
  • 00:17:51
    whatever you have even if you have
  • 00:17:53
    nothing
  • 00:18:00
    now that's easy to say the trick is how
  • 00:18:02
    do you start to embody
  • 00:18:04
    this you might think well
  • 00:18:07
    Leo uh this is all kind of basic stuff I
  • 00:18:09
    mean why aren't you talking about more
  • 00:18:11
    advanced topics this is such a basic
  • 00:18:13
    topic this is like a topic for newbies
  • 00:18:15
    no no no this is a very fundamental
  • 00:18:18
    topic even if you're pursuing
  • 00:18:20
    Enlightenment even if you think you're
  • 00:18:21
    doing all this Advanced personal
  • 00:18:23
    development
  • 00:18:25
    stuff you're probably still wrapped up
  • 00:18:28
    in the illusion of
  • 00:18:29
    success I know because to a large degree
  • 00:18:32
    I still am and that's something I
  • 00:18:34
    struggle to shed every single day it's a
  • 00:18:36
    real
  • 00:18:38
    challenge you need to really deeply
  • 00:18:41
    grasp what I'm saying
  • 00:18:44
    here that happiness is about
  • 00:18:46
    surrendering yourself to reality not
  • 00:18:49
    about acquiring things or even acquiring
  • 00:18:53
    what you might call the good things or
  • 00:18:57
    the spiritual things like a loving
  • 00:18:59
    relationship if I acquire a loving
  • 00:19:01
    relationship then I'll be happy that's
  • 00:19:03
    better than acquiring money no that's
  • 00:19:05
    still a very wrong-headed approach to
  • 00:19:09
    happiness happiness is not something you
  • 00:19:11
    acquire It's Your
  • 00:19:13
    Capacity to surrender yourself to this
  • 00:19:16
    very moment right
  • 00:19:20
    now you need to grasp this to such a
  • 00:19:23
    deep level that your entire life starts
  • 00:19:26
    to
  • 00:19:27
    unravel and the reason your life is
  • 00:19:29
    going to start to unravel and it's going
  • 00:19:31
    to be scary is because you spent
  • 00:19:34
    probably 20 or 30 years of your life if
  • 00:19:37
    not
  • 00:19:38
    more building this entire house of cards
  • 00:19:42
    of success on this assumption that it
  • 00:19:46
    would make you
  • 00:19:48
    fulfilled and it's very difficult to
  • 00:19:50
    admit to yourself that it's not going to
  • 00:19:53
    work so when you hear me talking about
  • 00:19:56
    it right now you might very easily be in
  • 00:19:58
    Den about it not just for a week or a
  • 00:20:01
    month but maybe for the next 10 years
  • 00:20:03
    you will resist what I'm saying until
  • 00:20:07
    finally you have enough of this illusion
  • 00:20:09
    of success and it becomes so sour you
  • 00:20:13
    get so disenchanted with it that you
  • 00:20:15
    come back and you're really able to
  • 00:20:18
    deeply grasp what I'm saying here and
  • 00:20:20
    when that happens that will
  • 00:20:23
    be the beginning of true growth for you
  • 00:20:30
    that will be the beginning and you will
  • 00:20:33
    realize how much time you've wasted
  • 00:20:34
    decades have been wasted just to get to
  • 00:20:37
    the beginning of this path that's why
  • 00:20:40
    this topic is so important I really need
  • 00:20:43
    you to understand that you can never
  • 00:20:46
    ever ever never
  • 00:20:49
    ever have
  • 00:20:52
    happiness happiness is not something you
  • 00:20:54
    have it's not something you acquire you
  • 00:20:56
    can only be happy right
  • 00:21:02
    now with exactly what
  • 00:21:05
    is without manipulating what
  • 00:21:08
    is without trying to make it
  • 00:21:12
    better without trying to make it fit
  • 00:21:14
    your desires happiness is about making
  • 00:21:17
    your desires fit reality and not about
  • 00:21:21
    making reality fit your desires you see
  • 00:21:24
    how it's exactly the opposite of what
  • 00:21:26
    we're taught by our culture it is
  • 00:21:29
    and no wonder then that so many people
  • 00:21:32
    are not truly happy even though they
  • 00:21:35
    project a veneer of
  • 00:21:38
    happiness but deep down inside they're
  • 00:21:46
    Hollow what you really want in your life
  • 00:21:49
    is you want to develop a connection to
  • 00:21:50
    being and being is that which is right
  • 00:21:53
    now whether there's an itch in your ass
  • 00:21:57
    or on your foot or something's going
  • 00:22:00
    wrong with your kids or you didn't get
  • 00:22:02
    the new job you wanted you didn't get
  • 00:22:04
    the promotion you wanted or your car
  • 00:22:06
    broke down you got a flat tire or you
  • 00:22:09
    have a health problem or uh you're
  • 00:22:12
    running low on money whatever your
  • 00:22:14
    situation is if you're connected with
  • 00:22:17
    being you can be happy through
  • 00:22:20
    that regardless of that that's
  • 00:22:23
    unconditional
  • 00:22:25
    happiness that's being happy all the
  • 00:22:28
    time
  • 00:22:30
    so just think about this do you want to
  • 00:22:33
    be conditionally happy or
  • 00:22:34
    unconditionally
  • 00:22:36
    happy which do you
  • 00:22:40
    want to be conditionally happy means
  • 00:22:43
    that your happiness depends upon success
  • 00:22:46
    Freedom money your comfort the
  • 00:22:48
    possessions you have and everything
  • 00:22:51
    basically going your
  • 00:22:53
    way think of how fragile that is does
  • 00:22:57
    that strike you as a wise strategy for
  • 00:22:59
    living life to be conditionally happy to
  • 00:23:02
    be putting yourself further and further
  • 00:23:04
    into a situation of conditional
  • 00:23:07
    happiness does that sound like a good
  • 00:23:10
    life does that sound like a smart
  • 00:23:12
    investment into your
  • 00:23:14
    future to invest a lot of time and
  • 00:23:16
    energy into that because you will invest
  • 00:23:18
    years into
  • 00:23:19
    this or does it strike you as a better
  • 00:23:22
    investment to invest that time and
  • 00:23:24
    energy into developing your connection
  • 00:23:26
    to being
  • 00:23:28
    such that you can be happy without
  • 00:23:33
    relying on success Freedom money or
  • 00:23:39
    Comfort think about this right now think
  • 00:23:41
    about it be very conscious here you have
  • 00:23:45
    to actually think through the logic of
  • 00:23:47
    this because that's how something's
  • 00:23:48
    going to shift in your mind don't just
  • 00:23:52
    agree with me and just say oh yeah yeah
  • 00:23:54
    I already know that I already know that
  • 00:23:55
    I already know money won't make me happy
  • 00:23:57
    no at what level of depth do you know
  • 00:24:01
    it cuz when you really know it your
  • 00:24:04
    whole life will change all your actions
  • 00:24:07
    all your motivations will change
  • 00:24:09
    radically if you really grasp what's
  • 00:24:11
    being said
  • 00:24:14
    here this is not easy stuff to to grasp
  • 00:24:18
    if someone told me this stuff five years
  • 00:24:21
    ago it would just go in one ear and out
  • 00:24:24
    the other it's taken a lot of work for
  • 00:24:26
    me to get to this point where these
  • 00:24:28
    things really resonate with me and then
  • 00:24:30
    I'm passionate about communicating them
  • 00:24:32
    to you because I want them to resonate
  • 00:24:33
    in you as well but um if you haven't
  • 00:24:36
    laid your foundation um I'm worried that
  • 00:24:40
    it'll go in one ear and out the
  • 00:24:43
    other now you might say but Leo getting
  • 00:24:46
    X whatever X's money
  • 00:24:49
    sex husband marriage whatever kids
  • 00:24:52
    getting X will make me
  • 00:24:54
    happier I know that in the past these
  • 00:24:56
    things have made me happier I get
  • 00:24:57
    something I like and then I'm
  • 00:25:00
    happier look very closely at that it
  • 00:25:03
    only seems so the keyword here being
  • 00:25:07
    seems it seems so but really this
  • 00:25:12
    getting X is like a drug you get X and
  • 00:25:17
    it boosts your mood a little bit but
  • 00:25:19
    then a week later you're just back down
  • 00:25:21
    the Baseline and need another hit and
  • 00:25:24
    another hit another hit another hit
  • 00:25:28
    but in the long run it never works
  • 00:25:31
    you're just
  • 00:25:32
    delaying uh the real inner growth that
  • 00:25:34
    needs to happen in order to develop your
  • 00:25:36
    connection with being you're just
  • 00:25:37
    putting that off till another day to
  • 00:25:39
    another day to another day because you
  • 00:25:40
    keep telling yourself no just one more
  • 00:25:43
    thing one extra thing let me just
  • 00:25:44
    acquire that house or that girlfriend or
  • 00:25:47
    uh that yacht or that whatever and that
  • 00:25:51
    that that will do it for me if I just
  • 00:25:53
    get that one
  • 00:25:55
    thing but then notice you've been doing
  • 00:25:57
    that your whole life and it hasn't
  • 00:25:58
    really worked and you keep saying no no
  • 00:26:00
    I just need that one extra thing this
  • 00:26:02
    time I know it'll really
  • 00:26:06
    work do you really think it'll
  • 00:26:10
    work think about it really take a look
  • 00:26:13
    at all the stuff you've acquired in your
  • 00:26:15
    life and how it hasn't really made you
  • 00:26:18
    fulfilled and in fact the more you
  • 00:26:20
    acquire the more miserable you
  • 00:26:23
    become because success is very addictive
  • 00:26:28
    one success is Never Enough it never
  • 00:26:31
    satisfies notice this this is a general
  • 00:26:33
    principle of
  • 00:26:35
    Life what this creates is a never-ending
  • 00:26:38
    cycle of achievement constantly
  • 00:26:40
    acquiring more and more and more and
  • 00:26:45
    more
  • 00:26:46
    but when you're going in an orthogonal
  • 00:26:50
    direction to where you need to be going
  • 00:26:52
    you're never going to get there can you
  • 00:26:53
    see that if you need to go north and
  • 00:26:56
    you're going east west you're never
  • 00:26:59
    going to get North you see that's the
  • 00:27:02
    problem it's very tricky you tell
  • 00:27:05
    yourself oh well if I just keep going
  • 00:27:06
    east a little bit more eventually I'll
  • 00:27:08
    get North no you won't you're just going
  • 00:27:11
    to go East you're never going to get
  • 00:27:15
    North success is very addictive because
  • 00:27:17
    it's very hard to say no to
  • 00:27:20
    success notice this as well when you're
  • 00:27:23
    doing well and people around you are
  • 00:27:25
    telling you how well you're doing and
  • 00:27:26
    then the world and the economy is
  • 00:27:28
    rewarding you for doing so well it's
  • 00:27:32
    ridiculously easy to convince yourself
  • 00:27:34
    that this is the right path and that you
  • 00:27:36
    should just do more of it and more and
  • 00:27:39
    more and more and more and that's
  • 00:27:41
    exactly what these Millionaires and
  • 00:27:42
    billionaires and these Venture
  • 00:27:44
    capitalists and Silicon Valley CEOs and
  • 00:27:48
    the Donald Trumps of the world that's
  • 00:27:49
    exactly the game that they're playing is
  • 00:27:52
    this game they can never say no to
  • 00:27:54
    success and then they're hooked on it
  • 00:27:56
    it's their drug
  • 00:27:58
    and some of our best people our
  • 00:28:01
    brightest minds are lost to this trap of
  • 00:28:04
    success and they are lost
  • 00:28:06
    forever
  • 00:28:08
    forever this this absorbs and sucks in
  • 00:28:12
    your entire
  • 00:28:13
    life you know a drug addiction can take
  • 00:28:16
    up quite a bit of your time and waste a
  • 00:28:18
    lot of energy but a success addiction
  • 00:28:21
    nothing eats up time and energy like a
  • 00:28:23
    success addiction it'll eat up decades
  • 00:28:29
    and also once you acquire the success
  • 00:28:31
    and the money what are you going to do
  • 00:28:33
    with it you're going to use it to buy
  • 00:28:36
    Comfort aren't you and comfort is
  • 00:28:40
    extremely addictive as well so the
  • 00:28:43
    success feeds comfort and then the
  • 00:28:45
    Comfort feeds the desire for more
  • 00:28:47
    Comfort which then necessitates pursuing
  • 00:28:49
    more success and so your life becomes
  • 00:28:52
    about maximizing
  • 00:28:55
    Comfort without realizing that
  • 00:28:58
    maximizing Comfort is not how you
  • 00:29:01
    develop fulfillment in life actually you
  • 00:29:03
    get yourself more and more
  • 00:29:06
    stuck and then this is why people get
  • 00:29:08
    really depressed and ultimately suicidal
  • 00:29:11
    is because they they realize that all
  • 00:29:14
    this this time that they spent
  • 00:29:16
    developing their comfort and acquiring
  • 00:29:17
    all this stuff all this success has
  • 00:29:20
    really led to um a miserable
  • 00:29:25
    life now with that said does this mean
  • 00:29:28
    that you should be a lazy
  • 00:29:31
    loser and of course the answer is
  • 00:29:35
    no success principles are still
  • 00:29:37
    important to
  • 00:29:39
    learn there's value in pursuing success
  • 00:29:42
    and that it does build some discipline
  • 00:29:44
    in you and it teaches you what does work
  • 00:29:47
    in the world what doesn't work in the
  • 00:29:48
    world it um develops some robustness
  • 00:29:52
    within you so those are all good things
  • 00:29:56
    uh the only thing you need to do is you
  • 00:29:58
    just need to apply these principles of
  • 00:30:00
    success to the right areas in life what
  • 00:30:03
    I would call the wise
  • 00:30:05
    areas like if you applied the principles
  • 00:30:07
    of success not to business for example
  • 00:30:09
    but to The Pursuit Of
  • 00:30:12
    Truth or to The Pursuit Of
  • 00:30:15
    Love or the the pursuit of
  • 00:30:19
    being or the pursuit of authentic
  • 00:30:21
    relationships and authentic
  • 00:30:24
    communication which has virtually
  • 00:30:26
    nothing to do with
  • 00:30:29
    uh typical marriages or typical
  • 00:30:32
    relationships
  • 00:30:34
    um these would be good places to apply
  • 00:30:37
    the principles of success that you have
  • 00:30:40
    learned from running your business or
  • 00:30:42
    from being successful in pickup or from
  • 00:30:44
    being successful um with whatever
  • 00:30:48
    else see but these are much less
  • 00:30:51
    tangible things and so if you've been
  • 00:30:54
    addicted to success it's going to be
  • 00:30:55
    very hard for you to to make that switch
  • 00:30:57
    from going from something that's so
  • 00:30:59
    gross like pursuing money or business
  • 00:31:01
    success or success with women to now
  • 00:31:05
    pursuing something like success in truth
  • 00:31:12
    seeking but that's the
  • 00:31:15
    solution that's what we're talking about
  • 00:31:17
    here we're talking about making a really
  • 00:31:20
    big shift
  • 00:31:23
    in what you're motivated towards in
  • 00:31:26
    life and why you're motivated towards it
  • 00:31:30
    by understanding the deeper dynamics
  • 00:31:32
    that work
  • 00:31:34
    here you need to deeply grasp that what
  • 00:31:38
    you want is happiness not success
  • 00:31:43
    itself and then when you grasp that then
  • 00:31:47
    try to convince yourself to pursue the
  • 00:31:49
    happiness directly eliminate all the
  • 00:31:53
    side
  • 00:31:54
    roads all the detours go straight for
  • 00:31:57
    the happiness and see what that means
  • 00:32:00
    for your life it might mean some radical
  • 00:32:04
    stuff don't get sidetracked by the
  • 00:32:06
    parade of
  • 00:32:07
    chimps the parade of chimps are all
  • 00:32:10
    these people these chimps and Suits
  • 00:32:13
    these chimps and tuxedos that you see on
  • 00:32:16
    the cover of Time Magazine who are put
  • 00:32:19
    up there as these successful chimps that
  • 00:32:22
    you're supposed to
  • 00:32:23
    emulate see that for what it is it's
  • 00:32:26
    just chimps in suits chimps with dollar
  • 00:32:29
    bills chimps that know how to manipulate
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    the stock market chimps that know how to
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    start a new mobile app or some new
  • 00:32:38
    Venture Capital project in Silicon
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    Valley but they're nevertheless chimps
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    these are not developed human beings
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    these are not high Consciousness human
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    beings you're envying the wrong people
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    who you should be envying are the monks
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    and the yogis and the Saints not these
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    guys
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    so keep questioning this culture of
  • 00:33:01
    success that you've been indoctrinated
  • 00:33:04
    with I've been indoctrinated with it too
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    and I've spent a lot of time questioning
  • 00:33:07
    it questioning it and the deeper I go
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    into my uh spiritual work the uh the
  • 00:33:13
    more I realize how hollow it is and how
  • 00:33:15
    it just is just a parade of chimps and
  • 00:33:18
    just because everyone's in the parade
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    and the parade makes a lot of noise and
  • 00:33:21
    it's very flashy it sounds like hey I
  • 00:33:23
    should be part of that
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    parade but um the more I the more I
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    realize that man I've wasted so much
  • 00:33:30
    time being part of that parade and that
  • 00:33:32
    it's time to call it
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    quits do that questioning until you stop
  • 00:33:38
    believing in this this whole illusion
  • 00:33:40
    needs to be shattered when you do that
  • 00:33:43
    you will be on track for some of the
  • 00:33:46
    biggest growth that you've ever
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    experienced in your
  • 00:33:50
    life all right that's it I'm done here
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