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guys so recently I was going through my
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DMs on Instagram and I received a DM
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from a girl that said to me hiis my
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boyfriend and his parents are making me
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feel very insecure about myself she said
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this is the lowest my self-confidence
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has ever been and the reason why she
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can't leave him is because her family
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lives very far away so she doesn't know
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what to do and she's very lonely and
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attached to this man this video I will
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tell you what you can do when someone is
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trying to make you feel insecure about
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yourself this can be your parents
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friends relationship it does not matter
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hi guys my name is l and welcome back to
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my channel okay let's get into it first
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things first always look at what kind of
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insults is someone giving you this is
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such a fascinating subject to me because
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recently I actually got a lot of clarity
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on this because I was talking to my high
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school friend and my high school friend
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she used to be very very insecure
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especially about her appearance and she
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said you know when I was very insecure
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and I was kind of toxic in my own ways
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what I would do to make me feel better
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about myself is I would go to Instagram
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models or beautiful women and I would
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comment underneath their pictures like
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very nasty things about their appearance
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because she said it would make me feel
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better that they would go to bed that
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night seeing my comment and also feeling
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bad about themselves because obviously
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misery loves company and then she said
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to me that's why now I know because she
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she obviously she healed from this and
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she stopped doing this but she said now
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I know when someone comments something
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that is their own projection so when you
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just look at okay what are they actually
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saying to me are they insulting your
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intelligence are they insulting your
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looks are they insulting let's say your
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weight um your character whatever
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everything someone is insulting you
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about with no
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reason that is something that they're
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insecure about themselves when I was
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deep into my Ed and my eating disorder
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in my head I used to judge people that
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were overweight because I was struggling
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with my own weight when I got out of my
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eating disorder I stopped doing that
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understand when someone says something
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to you they're just revealing how they
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feel about themselves another thing you
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should do is you should find yourself
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again know who you are honey listen when
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you know who you are when you know who
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you are without this person no one can
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shake or rock your boat your boat has to
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be stable first okay what his parents
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are saying what he's saying are all
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projections onto you but you have to be
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so stable that whatever comes whatever
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water comes in it cannot shake you
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someone cannot tell you hey you're
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purple when you know you're not purple
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okay so those insults will go one ear in
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other ear out when you know who you are
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what do you like what do you love about
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yourself how do you treat yourself on a
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DayDay basis uh what are your hobby
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never allow anyone to talk down on you
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see the thing is when you from the first
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time allow someone to do that it will
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only get worse and worse down the line
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toxic people don't get nicer down the
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line they just see how far they can go
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the first time you show them okay I
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forgave you after you did this to me
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that's an in for them to get worse and
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worse so either you cut it from there
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and you're like okay get out get out
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enough like no there was no need to
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disrespect me was good to you or you
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make them suffer and you make them learn
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their lesson so they never repeat it
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again when someone insults you give them
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a passive aggressive comment back if
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let's say his mother tells you oh you
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don't look good today or you're ugly
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whatever you should tell her uh thank
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you but you know I love to look at you
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and every day you just give me
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inspiration to feel confident because if
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you look like that and you can be
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confident then I can too ban makes you
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feel ugly and he says something you
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should say that oh my god really you
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know what's so conf confusing to me
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though every time I send a picture of
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you to the group chat of my friends they
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just laugh at me and I don't understand
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what would they mean by that can can you
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explain to me why they laugh at your
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picture like they literally tell me
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always that you're so ugly but I I don't
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get it why do you think they say that
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either you're going to do that your
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whole life be passive G and act like a
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bimbo that you don't understand anything
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and just insult these people back or you
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start thinking like you know what these
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people are not worth my energy you
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should be lucky to breede the same air
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as me honestly you guys are beneath me
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walk away honey walk away you will find
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much better than him okay he is the bare
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minimum he's under the bare minimum he's
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the he's in hell this guy's in Hell okay
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you can create heaven for yourself why
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are you in hell with him you don't
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belong there baby you're too good if
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someone has to insult you to bring you
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down you're already above them you're
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already above them why are they trying
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to bring you down look at the people you
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guys are surrounding yourself with look
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at the people you guys are constantly
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spending your time with if these people
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don't grow you if these people are not
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making you feel happy or good about
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yourself why are you there why is your
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confidence so low that you accept shitty
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behavior from people that in one second
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will leave your life if you just close
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the door you can say hey you know what
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get the out of here bye bye and
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close the door and never open it again
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I'm so tired of us wasting our time
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because I'm honestly doing the same
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thing I honestly was in a same boat as
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you constantly forgiving forgiving
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because I'm thinking oh I'm lonely I
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don't have anyone I also don't live with
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my family so I only have this person but
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I'm not happy with this person but then
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I feel bad for them so I'm continuing a
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cycle that I don't like and I will end
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up in a cycle that I don't like because
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when will Liz's life change when Liz
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changes and nothing else and the same
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with you your life will not change honey
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nothing will happen I saw this quote
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that said we accept the love that we
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think we deserve and it's again the same
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thing why do you think this is the best
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you can do why do you think that a
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person that disrespects you is the best
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you can
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do do you really think that low of
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yourself I'm telling you there's people
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that just believe they deserve the best
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and they get
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that but you are doubting yourself
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you're thinking I'm not good enough and
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that's why you are left with crumbs of a
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person that's why I'm also saying it
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shouldn't be about him it should be
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about you what do you want is this what
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you want for yourself is this where your
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precious energy is going cuz honey right
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now it's all fun and games you're young
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you're in your 20s funny but down the
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line you'll be 60 stuck with this person
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if you don't leave now and time goes
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very fast people have spent years years
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thinking a I will be done one day and
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they won't and some people don't make it
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out alive it's all like oh until that do
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is a part and then you don't come out of
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it alive they should be blessed to sit
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in the same room as you they should feel
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blessed to breathe the same air as you
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and you're letting people sit there and
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talk down on you hello hello value
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yourself protect yourself no one is
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going to do that for you when you have a
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partner when you have a friend when even
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your parents they should make you feel
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like you're the king and queen on Earth
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they should like hype you up they should
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be like you're amazing you're
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beautiful like that's how people should
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talk to each other if they don't there's
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no benefit honey you will always keep
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either in the same position or he will
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drag you down sometimes you have to look
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at some people and you have to be like
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you know what I'm too pretty to accept
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your behavior I'm too pretty for this
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you have to stop telling people oh I
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will leave I will do this I that no just
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leave shut up create your exit plan and
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leave okay don't tell anything because
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these people they don't believe you
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first of all they'll never take you
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serious because you have always always
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threatened that before and you never do
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it so this time just keep your mouth
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shut okay and start creating an exit
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plan think okay how can I make money how
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can I save up money to live on my own
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how can I make friends so I feel less
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lonely so I have at least a community
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around me can I find other room that
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also have been in an abusive
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relationship uh then I can find a
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community in that St start thinking
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these things and slowly slowly you're
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just moving out and then one day he
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comes home and all of your stuff is gone
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me a toxic person will not miss you they
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will just find another victim that's it
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because that's who you are to them a
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victim honey you have to understand not
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everyone you lose is a loss A lot of
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times it's a gain if I look at the
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people that I had in my life I'm very
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happy that all of them are gone because
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that's was that was not meant for me
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anymore and at that time it was it was
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what I needed it was what I needed to
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grow and I needed to learn but right now
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I'm in a state where I just grown so
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much I don't resonate with those people
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anymore and that's okay it wasn't a loss
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it was a lesson and I'm grateful for
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those lessons and I'm grateful for the
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time that I had with them even if it was
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bad it I T I learned something and I
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moved on with my life and you should do
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the same thing don't look at it as how
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could I have stayed I feel so dumb blah
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blah no honey there was a lesson there
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we learned through relationships we
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learned through these things and when
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when you've learned your lesson you're
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also supposed to move on you shouldn't
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linger there you shouldn't linger where
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there's no respect just know that you're
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the queen on Earth and you can get
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anything you want if you set your mind
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to it and you know this you literally
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know this okay don't waste your time on
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people that are not worth to be around
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you they're not worthy of you okay if
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you have pure intentions and if you have
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a good heart you deserve people with the
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same intentions and with the same heart
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anyways I love you guys so much and yeah
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I hope you guys learned something I hope
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this helped and yeah I love you guys so
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much and I see you next video bye-bye
