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so look there are three types of men in
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this world the first one is the nice guy
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and regrettably this is who I was for
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most of my teens and 20s I was friendly
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I was respectful to other people and I
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thought that made me a good person but
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the reality is that I was afraid I was
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afraid of conflict I was afraid of doing
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anything that might make someone else
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not like me and of course that was
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devastating for my dating life because I
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couldn't take risks with girls so if
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this is where you are you need to move
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forward as fast as possible so you stop
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missing out on opportunities or getting
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friend zoned the second man is the fake
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Alpha and it's frustrating because a lot
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of times this is the guy who steals your
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girl and you're like man why would she
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choose him he's such an [ __ ] I'd be
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so much better for her but you also
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don't want to be this guy cuz really
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it's just someone who struggles to
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control their emotions they get
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frustrated and they lash out at other
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people it's the same guy who's driving
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his car he gets Road Rag and he's
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yelling at other people or he gets drunk
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and he gets aggressive yes it can work
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with women some women at least because
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it kind of like fake signals that he has
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confidence and that he can be a
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protector and a provider but it's really
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only going to work with women who are
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very young and naive or women who have
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low self-esteem and are used to being
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treated like [ __ ] not not the top
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quality girls that you actually want to
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build a relationship with now the third
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type of man is the one who is capable of
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violence and what makes him different is
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that he can face conflict in a calm
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calculated way and this allows him to
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get the hottest girls because he can can
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go after what he wants he can create
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that sexual spark but he can also set
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boundaries and lead the relationship
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forward in a way that allows it to grow
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and stay stable and these type of guys
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also tend to be the most financially
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successful because they're able to take
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those calculated risks and not let their
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emotions take control of them ever and
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that is why in this video we're going to
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take a look at the five things I had to
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do to kill my inner night guy and become
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this type of man now to be this type of
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out out number one remove the gray area
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so back when I was working as a personal
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trainer next to my gym there was a Lulu
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Lemon Store and there was this super hot
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blonde girl that worked in that store
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and I told myself I'm going to ask her
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out like it's not even a question I'm
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going to ask her out bro I just got to
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wait till the next opportunity I have so
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you know after work I'd stroll through
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the store but she'd be talking to a
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customer so I'd dip out or she'd be in
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the gym working out but there'd be like
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you know a few too many people close to
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her that that might overhear the
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conversation so I'd wait for the next
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next time and it's this super weak
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[ __ ] that I used to do I would
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always leave this gray area this wiggle
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room for myself rather than saying I'm
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going to ask out next time I see her I
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would say I'm going to ask her out the
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next time that I have an opportunity and
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the funny thing is by the time I worked
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up the courage to ask her out she had a
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boyfriend and I missed my chance what
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I've changed since then is that now I
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seek out these gray areas in my life and
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when I find them I destroy them next
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time I see her I'm going to ask her out
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even if I have to wait for her to finish
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dealing with a customer or if I have to
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do it with some other people in the gym
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nearby and a lot of times this has to do
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with saying no to people for example
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when I go out if my friends are drinking
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I'll have one or two drinks but it
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doesn't matter what they say after that
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no I'm not drinking more I'm going to
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feel like [ __ ] tomorrow or I'd be
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texting a girl trying to set up the
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first date and she'd ask hey is it cool
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if my friend comes along she's in town
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no I don't want your friend to come out
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on the date no I don't want to keep
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texting you if we're not going to meet
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up in person no it's not cool if my
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girlfriend is going on a girls trip to
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Miami or Dubai no I'm not okay staying
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in a relationship where there's no sex
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or spark anymore no I'm not okay with it
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if a girl I'm dating starts to
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prioritize her friends and her career
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above our
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relationship you cannot leave any gray
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room with these decisions or you're
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going to rationalize the weaker decision
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every time as you experience new things
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in life you have to decide and
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understand what is a no and what's a yes
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and you cannot compromise on those
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things otherwise you will always stay
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the nice guy and other people they're
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not going to respect you because they'll
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know they can just bully you into
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staying in whatever situation they want
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to keep you in number two you got to be
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able to break past being friendly from
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time to time now there's a massive
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difference between deciding to say no to
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someone versus actually following
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through and telling them no you might be
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watching this video right now hyped up
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like [ __ ] yeah David I would never
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tolerate that [ __ ] from a girl but then
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the situation happens and it's going to
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test your resolve you're texting a girl
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you ask her if she wants to hang out she
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says say you know no I'm busy this week
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so you try again next week you say hey
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do you want to hang out then she doesn't
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respond for a day then she responds the
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day later and says haha how's your week
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going she doesn't even answer the
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question about wanting to hang out what
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do you do you know it should be an
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automatic no if you ask a girl to hang
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out twice and she flakes or ignores the
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question but she texted you back and
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she's hot so
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maybe maybe this time I don't say no
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maybe I give her one more shot for this
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girl ready here are three ways that I
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practice conflict in my everyday life so
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when these situations come up I can
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approach them with confidence and I can
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tell people no number one do not explain
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decisions so maybe a buddy of mine texts
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me and says hey bro tomorrow can you
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help me move this furniture and maybe
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tomorrow I'm really busy but I feel bad
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saying no and I want to be like well my
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girl's not feeling well so I can't make
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it there're no do not explain instead I
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practice by just saying no tomorrow I
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cannot do that unfortunately or maybe I
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got to date scheduled and the girl hits
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me up the day before and says hey can we
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actually meet closer to my place I'm
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going to say no let's stick with the
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plan no explanation not only is this
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good practice but also with girls in the
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early stages man if you give them an
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inch they'll take a mile she's going to
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continue to walk all over your ass after
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that number two challenge people this is
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one of my favorite things to do socially
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because no one ever does it and it's
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actually fun but when someone says
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something you don't agree with so for
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example a lot of guys Beast Nation
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recently have been telling me when
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they're showing up to dates or messaging
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with girls a lot of girls right now are
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like I can't believe Trump won man like
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the United States is going to be is
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going to be held for the next four years
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the democracy is
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gone well you know I think that's a
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ridiculous claim so I would say really
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why why do you think that what makes you
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believe that then I would just sit back
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and
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observe people are not used to being
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challenged because you usually you'll
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just like let it go and not address it
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or you might get a bit emotional and be
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like [ __ ] that [ __ ] why would you say
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that and I don't just do this with
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politics maybe someone's talking about
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how Kanye West is crazy and I think
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Kanye West I know Kanye West is the goat
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the greatest musician of all time I
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would ask him really you don't like
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Kanye why not the key is to do it in a
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very neutral just curious tone but this
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is the best practice for conflict really
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and the point's not even to prove them
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wrong or to get into disagreement it's
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just to practice the conflict and after
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they respond I might just say oh you
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know I I disagree but that's an
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interesting perspective and number three
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this is the most difficult one confront
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disrespect immediately if someone
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blatantly disrespects
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you even though you don't to cause a
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scene or you don't want things to
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escalate as a man you must confront that
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disrespect so for example earlier this
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year I was on a flight with Julia from
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Germany back to Spain this is when we
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were living in Marb and I had paid for
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us to sit in the front row it wasn't
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business class the flight didn't have
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business but there was more leg room so
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I was Sat by the window Julia in the
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middle and then the aisle seat was open
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so a guy gets on with his daughter and
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this is his seat next to us and he looks
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at us and he says Hey can my daughter
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take your seats because she gets nervous
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when she flies and I was like this guy
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just like assumed and said it in the
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most presumptive way that we would just
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give up our seats that he knows very
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well cuz he paid for that seat too and
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on top of that if you really want your
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daughter to sit in the front can't you
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switch seats with her so I took it as
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disrespect I looked up at him and I said
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no we chose these seats and I looked
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back forward and I said it in a bit of
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aggressive tone because afterwards Julia
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was like oh man you didn't have to like
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escalate things but the interesting
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thing is it did not escalate because
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when you confront the disrespect
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immediately before it goes on it tends
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to squash things right there I promise
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bro if you look for opportunities to
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practice these three things in your
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daily life approaching conflict and
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setting boundaries is going to feel so
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much easier number three identify your
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fist of control so question for you
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right now what do you have going on in
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your life that requires absolutely no
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help or approval or assistance from
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anybody else so for me even if all my
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friends abandoned me and Julia left my
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ass I would still have the gym to go and
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work on my body and experience growth
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there I would still have this YouTube
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channel to to to grind out videos create
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new content and and try to experience
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growth there but for you what do you
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have going on that you can work on and
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grow regardless of anyone else drop a
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comment below right now because this is
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your fist of control and this should
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give you peace of mind that even if
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everyone abandons you and no girl ever
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shows you any attention you still have a
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life you still have have something to
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focus on you still have something to
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dedicate yourself to and that gives me
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intense peace of mind because I don't
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have to rely on anyone else I don't have
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to rely on women giving me approval yes
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it would be devastating if my wife left
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me that would suck but it wouldn't be
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the end of the world I got plenty other
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[ __ ] that I can keep my head down on but
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if you're still in the nice Scot phase
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likely what you'll find is that you
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don't have anything going on in your
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life and because of that you're latching
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to every opportunity you get with girls
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and you're hoping that that's where
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you're going to get your happiness and
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your contentment from or maybe you do
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have things going on in your life but
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you haven't been aware of the Fist of
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control and now bring all of your
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attention to those things those are
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things you can depend on but without
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that you'll continue to obsess over
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girls be afraid of rejection whenever
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they give you any attention you'll chase
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them and text them until you've SED them
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away without the fist of control you'll
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always feel and act in a hopeless manner
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number number four learn to fight so
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let's be very logical here you can never
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be a man who is capable of violence
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without having some experience of
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violence it's impossible you can't just
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hype yourself up into having this type
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of calm certainty that comes with
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knowing that hey if I walked out the
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door right now and someone tried to
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physically attack me at the very least
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like I've trained mu Thai on and off for
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5 years I I haven't in the last year I
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haven't been active but at the very
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least I've faced those situations before
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in fights and sparring and I would have
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some idea of of how I would defend
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myself and attack back with my fists
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with my knees with my legs if you have
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zero fighting experience you'll always
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have a bit of this fearful look in your
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eyes that men and women will recognize
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this is not a guy who's confident this
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is not a guy who could protect me if the
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[ __ ] hit the fan and there's no other
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substitute other than getting some
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actual fighting experience so if that's
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you right now I would just open up your
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phone and search for Brazilian jiu-jitsu
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or mu Tai or MMA gyms in your area and
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just go in usually they'll give you a
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free class to make sure you you like the
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vibe and sign up for weekly classes and
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ideally sign up at a location that
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actually allows for sparring so you're
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not just sitting there practicing
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technique in some cardio boxing class
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you can actually experience getting
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punched in the
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face it's not a good experience but I'm
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glad I've experienced it many times
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number five realize that this is
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masculinity literally bro this is
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something you're either going to figure
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out and you're going to adapt and you're
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going to become comfortable with
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conflict or you're not and you're going
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to continue to miss out on women and
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opportunities to men who are comfortable
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with conflict and again we're not
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talking about being an [ __ ] and
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searching for conflict but rather being
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able to put yourself in uncomfortable
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situations when it calls for being able
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to approach a girl when it calls for
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being able to set a boundary with the
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girl when it calls for being able to
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stand up for yourself when another man
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disrespects you these things don't
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happen you know 15 20 times a day but
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they are happening a few times a week
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and if you're slipping up and hiding
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from all of those opportunities well
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that's going to compound week after week
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after month after year and you'll always
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feel like a feminine boy this is the
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difference between the masculine and The
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Feminine the masculine must be prepared
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to rise to the challenge and face the
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conflict when the opportunity comes and
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speak speaking of opportunities make
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sure you don't miss out on the edge
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Black Friday deals bro once they're gone
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they're gone that being said right now
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if you're able to talk to and even date
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you know the sixes and the sevens the
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above average looking girls but not the
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nines and the tens then you need to
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watch this video next that is about how
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to date the nines and the 10 it takes a
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different strategy a different approach
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click there to watch that now if you're
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