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confidence is your best accessory
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there is nothing else you need if you
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the only thing you need to wear well is
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your confidence
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confidence truly is the key to
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getting ahead in life if you believe in
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yourself the world will believe in you
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because perception is reality
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i don't think confidence is something
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that
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you are born with i don't think
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confidence is it's a skill set
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and i had no confidence growing up as a
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child
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i had very low self-esteem
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i was a kid full of fear insecurities
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somebody who had very low self-esteem
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didn't believe in myself at all
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the only thing that i knew that i had
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was the ability to work bloody damn hard
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and that's the only thing that i did
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confidence is something i taught myself
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over the years i started becoming okay
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with who i am i became the best version
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of me
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and then i sort of said i'm okay you
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know i'm all right
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your flaws are fine
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no one is perfect none of us we all have
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bad days we're all gonna feel like
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sometimes you're all gonna have bad days
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and that's fine
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we have this crazy standard especially
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with the internet where everything has
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to be perfect all the time and we have
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to look perfect or to behave perfect we
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have to say the right things everyone
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screws up and that's all right
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laugh through it don't take yourself too
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seriously and make sure that you don't
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live for someone else's validation
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it's your validation
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that you need
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be yourselves guys it's great to be you
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whatever you might want to be
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that is the best version of you so you
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drop stuff around or you are clumsy and
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you're a klutz but
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it's you
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and that's what makes you special
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we are going through our problems as a
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world right now because that's what we
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do because we put people in boxes
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because we stereotype because we say
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everyone who's like this will be like
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that but not in my experience
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nothing is a straight line
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and we need to stop looking at the world
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like that
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diversity shouldn't even be a
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conversation it should be normal
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when we look around this room there's
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not one kind of person i don't even see
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one kind of person in one row
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and that's our normal
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we've forgotten that eventually we're
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all human
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it's this one little planet that we have
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which in this big universe is really
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tiny
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so we should stop giving ourselves so
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much importance and saying oh well
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you're better than me or i'm better than
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you we all are basically humanity and
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let's like go back to that and bring
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compassion and kindness into beauty and
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not be so hard on ourselves or other
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people
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in life you know there are moments when
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you stop and ask yourself
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how did i get here like why am i
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standing here
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and i find myself going back to the
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beginning
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back to my roots
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i was born to incredible parents
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amazing parents
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both my my parents were very progressive
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in their mindsets especially coming from
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a country at that time which india was
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which was a little bit like this you
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know a woman's life sort of
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ends when she gets married because after
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that yeah you can think about
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progressive families will tell you yeah
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you can achieve whatever but your
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milestone is to get married my mother
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still says she's like you know you get
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married the day you find someone who
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will appreciate how hard you have worked
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to get where you are who will appreciate
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the sacrifices you made and that's the
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man you will get married to and if you
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don't doesn't matter
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we're in the world of science can still
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have babies
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and i was like what kind of mom says
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that
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but the idea was the philosophy behind
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it that it didn't define me
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and it's so important for us to be able
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to empower each other
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in everyday life we don't have to
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conquer the world you don't have to be
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the only person who reaches space like
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you don't have to have crazy wild
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ambitions you just have to find your
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power and to say that oh i can do this
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too
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i don't have to
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create like this crazy opportunity for
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me to thrive you can thrive in anything
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you choose just have to find that
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confidence within yourself
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life can never be safe
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and if it's safe
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it's not worth living
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it really isn't
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you have to take risks risks are so
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important in evolution
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playing it safe
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yeah you can have an existence but
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you'll never be someone who's a
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trailblazer
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the world is your oyster if i a girl
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from a small town like barely
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from an army officer's family middle
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class background can today be a movie
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star giving an inspirational speech to
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you today be
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debuting in america as an international
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pop star can't any one of you do it
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if i can do it
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you can do it right
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the world is your oyster
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finding our own confidence no one is
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going to give that to you no one is
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gonna tell you here's an opportunity
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go make something of yourself you're
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gonna do it for you
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i just love growing like i said i think
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growing is a very important thing and
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when i was very young i started working
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when i was 17 years old
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you need to be responsible for your
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finances and be financially independent
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and that kind of really stuck with me
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i just
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love what i do and i'm good at it and i
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love the ability to wake up in the
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morning and say oh my god i get to go to
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work i mean how many people
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in their lifetimes do a job
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that they love doing most people do it
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for survival
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kitchen we need to feed our families we
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need to survive but to wake up with you
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know my my feet and my fingers tingling
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and say wow i have this to do i have
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that to do today
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and
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it's an amazing feeling and i don't take
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it for granted
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i'm a high achiever i've always been a
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high achiever i'm someone who
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is goal oriented i i like challenges i
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like growth i like evolution i like
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knowledge so when you put all of those
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things combined i have a lot more i want
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to do
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i've had multiple things that haven't
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worked out in my life i mean i i just
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don't talk about them i'm not someone
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who
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rests on my failures i believe that they
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are natural part of life and failure
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will happen to every single person and
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what you do after failure that makes you
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the person that you will become
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you know i've always said that i'm
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ambitious and i i have that's my sense
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of purpose is my drive is my
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contribution to the arts
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that's where i feel like i'll have most
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purpose and you know that's just my
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quest is always that to push the
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envelope
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i don't really have regrets but i have
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to say i think
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my biggest achievement i feel is
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honestly
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the ability to get over my fears
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i'm hugely emotional and i get affected
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by a lot of things and i know i come
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across as this tough sassy witty thing
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and but i do think that is a big part of
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keeping myself protected
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um and surviving i've always had to do
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it for myself there's not been anyone
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who's held a safety net for me in all
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the decisions that i've taken so i think
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my biggest achievement is
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to trust my feet to trust my legs to
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trust my instinct and say even if i fall
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it's okay it'll be my mistake
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there's only one you
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okay because there's no one like you
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and i don't mean the superfluous
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superficial parts
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i'm talking about the core of you who
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you are inside your values your beliefs
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your flaws and once you understand
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who really that person is
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you would have made taken the first step
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in finding your unique self and that is
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the best version of you who am i really
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most often we don't allow ourselves the
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ability to dream beyond
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our imagination we don't allow ourselves
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to think about the future because we are
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afraid of change we are afraid to move
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away from what is familiar
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either that or sometimes you know we are
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too rigid to let our dreams evolve
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loosen up
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you know shake it off a little bit
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change is the only constant thing in
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life and you are never too old or never
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too experienced to learn something new
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believe that you have everything already
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as your brahmastra in your will
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to be able to be and achieve your dreams
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be fearless
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funny thing aren't these opportunities
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they don't come very often
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they come far and few in between
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but when they do do we recognize them
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our job is to recognize them and make
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the most of them i look back on all the
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things that i've done and i marvel at
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the opportunities that came my way
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more like the universe sort of guiding
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me towards these opportunities all i had
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to do was recognize them and make sure i
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worked so hard that i squeezed every
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drop out of these opportunities
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this ladies and gentlemen is called
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drive it's called ambition
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be greedy
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be greedy for your ambitions be hungry
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for it don't live on someone else's
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benchmarks
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i've always believed that you have to
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take risks calculated educated risks
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to evolve because if you've not truly
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explored the full extent of your
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possibilities you'll always remain
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stagnant
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excellence is the pursuit of my life in
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anything that i do my ambition gives me
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purpose and i think purpose is very
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important in life you have to have a
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sense of purpose you whatever that might
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be it could be your children it could be
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your family it could be your career it
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could be anything
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i think my purpose is the pursuit of
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excellence in anything that i do i don't
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like doing anything less than perfect i
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want them to say that i left behind a
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legacy
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i want my kids to feel like you know
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proud to say that that's our mom i want
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people to say that i made a dent in my
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art in entertainment in my profession
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i think people confuse discipline with
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like punctuality sometimes but that's
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not what discipline is discipline is
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being prepared discipline is riaz
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discipline is training discipline is
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learning discipline is knowing that if
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i'm going to do a job i'm going to give
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it my 120 otherwise i'm not going to do
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it
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one mistake can cause a big big
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butterfly effect
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learn to be like what
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adaptable fit into any vessel have a
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sense of calm have a sense of patience
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but ambition is extremely important and
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i don't just say this to girls i say
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this to boys and girls just everyone who
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wants to be able to have a purpose in
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life have an ambition have the guts to
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find your glory
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