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you want to hear something crazy the
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good old days are a lie you don't need
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to feel pressure to make your teenage
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years the most fun best years of your
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life because they won't be and guess
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what you also don't need to stress about
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being super productive to set your
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future self up for Success if you're
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between the ages of 13 through 18 and
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you play your cards right you will be
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living your best life for decades and
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still get to enjoy being a teenager now
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you know how I know because that's
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exactly my experience and those of my
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friends who are killing it at life I
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spent months creating this video because
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it's one of the most important ones I've
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ever made and every teenager should
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listen to these messages so buckle up
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buckle up imagine your life as playing a
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game of golf you have your golf ball in
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front of you and you have a club to hit
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it with so with each hit your goal is to
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get the golf ball as close to your
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destination as possible imagine you hit
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it in One Direction angle a now what if
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you change your angle just 2° so now you
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hit the ball at angle B well it seems
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like those 2° is so minimal right maybe
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you can't even see the difference but
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the farther the ball gets hit you will
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see that those two de made a larger and
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larger difference that represents each
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of the decisions you make in your life
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they may seem like small decisions now
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but the earlier you make them like in
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your teenage years the greater impact
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will materialize farther and farther
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down the line eventually when golf ball
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a and golf ball B land you wouldn't even
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know that they came from the same spot
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that's the power in your decisions now
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as early as possible when you're older
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and you're in your 20s only then trying
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to make good decisions that will make
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far less impact than if you had started
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earlier so that's why it's so incredibly
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critical to take care of your teenage
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years I'm sharing with you today how to
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hit that golf ball right so you're on
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the winning traj Factory hm but you
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might be wondering who the heck am I to
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tell you how to spend your precious
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teenage years well I'm Amy I got into a
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top 10 University while sleeping an
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average of 8 hours a night and having a
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social life now I'm currently living my
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best life in the playground of New York
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City yeah in New
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York my work barely feels like work and
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I get to share amazing experiences with
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the best people but how did I get here
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and how can you get to your best life as
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well just like I explained in my golf
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ball analogy what I did in the past
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significantly paid off later to get me
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to my dream life today as a teenager I
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didn't know it at the time but it wasn't
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good grades and awards that got me to
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where I am but it was these four keys
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that you will learn today remember the
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first way to get your golf ball on the
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winning trajectory is to set this video
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on full screen and lock in so you're
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already above average let's go how much
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do you care about fitting in in when I
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was in Middle School I was super
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insecure and felt like the least cool
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person especially because I was on the
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basketball and volleyball teams and the
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other girls made me feel way less than
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them I felt so much pressure to follow
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what other people were doing I had this
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friend who had very strong opinions and
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she was considered cool for example at
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dinner she would say ew this dish is so
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gross and even though I really liked it
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I would follow and be like yeah ew
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that's so gross even going into high
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school I didn't know know how to do
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makeup like the other girls I was never
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invited to parties and I was always the
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one who never got asked out to a single
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school dance I struggled with this
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desire of fitting in with a cool crowd
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but I also knew my values I valued to do
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what was good for me and for my future
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that includes studying doing math
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competitions but that also conflicted
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with what people thought was cool
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therefore to stick with my values and to
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cope I ref framed what I was doing as
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cooler than what other people were doing
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this habit of thinking also makes you
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more confident in your choices and
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opinions now instead of just agreeing
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with my friend that something is gross I
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can happily say hey I'm not going to go
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to that football game today because I
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need to study for my math test that was
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the best way to happily and sustainably
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develop my best self I stopped wanting
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to fit in I heard inspirational stories
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of people who stood out instead of
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fitting in in and thought I want to be
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like them I'm meant for more and I'm
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special I don't want to be like the
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other kids at my school thinking this
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way and then acting in accordance with
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this mindset paid off in AP
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environmental science class I was the
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only one who was in the back of the
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classroom studying on the black lab
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tables while my classmates were fooling
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around and chatting but guess what I was
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also the only one who got a five on that
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AP test and I was the only one there who
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got a five on the AP Physics test
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achieving things like that through my
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hard work and resilience made me proud
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to be the only one even better I was
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actually happier than many of my peers
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who also wanted straight A because they
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saw studying as uncool and as a burden
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but with my reframing I saw studying as
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being cool because I'm using my
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privilege and this opportunity if I
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tried hard I don't know what I will get
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exactly but I know it will pay off and I
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will be cooler than all of these peers
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in the future after volleyball practice
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when the girls are grouped together
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gossiping obviously leaving me out
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because they can't relate to me doing
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math competitions or me studying so much
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I thought hey that's okay you do you I'm
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going to do me and I know this will pay
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off because I'm okay with being the only
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one I feel like some people might take
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this the wrong way and think it's
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vengeful but I'm just trying to say that
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you want to take everything to your
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advantage if you're left out think huh
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maybe I'm being left out as a good thing
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if 99% of people are going to that party
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hey I'm the 1% and maybe me being that
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1% that stays back to study will
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actually make me the top 1% in the
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future I got to excel in school while
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being more content while building my
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human capital these skills ended up
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being invaluable to me by the time I
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went to apply for college make new
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friends and search for my first job when
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you choose to stand out and work on
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yourself you give yourself options
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because now I have the option of working
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anywhere I want in the world but I could
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not have this flexibility right now if I
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didn't build my human capital to do so
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the people who limit themselves by
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fitting into boxes now will be limiting
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themselves far more in the future now
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this doesn't mean you write off all your
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friends and outwardly become this
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strange Lone Wolf I still had friends
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this just means that you have to be
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super strong about your own beliefs on
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the inside I know it can be really hard
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with peer pressure and if you don't have
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anyone to do this with you so you can
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strengthen your mindset with my podcast
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your A+ life just like on this channel I
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hope that by sharing my experiences
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excelling in school sustainably and
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building my dream life can help you do
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the same for example in this episode I
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talked about how I made myself lucky
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even though I was technically unlucky by
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having a disability of migraines don't
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forget that you can't be number one one
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without being
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odd I discovered this really helpful
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piece of advice that I haven't seen
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anyone else talk about in my
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interactions with others whether it was
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in high school college and Caltech or
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work there are some people who tend to
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be more efficient diligent proactive
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resilient these are the people who are
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disciplined enough to pull themselves
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away from a conversation late at night
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and say they have to go to sleep these
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are also the people who I found are much
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more passionate about living a fun and
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exciting life instead of being on their
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phones all the time I realized that
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there was something in common with most
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of these people can you guess what it is
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before I share playing sports I talked
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about this with my sister and she agreed
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and said she realized the exact same
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thing playing organized Sports where you
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might have to wake up at 4:00 a.m. you
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have to practice for 3 hours a day no
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matter what you have to show up to
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practice 15 minutes early and stretch
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and run laps and then you have to play
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games where you're under tons of
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pressure you have to be on a team and
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cheer each other on you have to pick
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yourself up even when you feel down for
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the well-being of the whole group these
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experiences give you years upon years of
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maturity you accelerate your life skills
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you get so much discipline because you
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have to push yourself even when you feel
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like you can't go any longer when I was
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at Caltech and on the basketball team
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teams I felt like I was going to
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collapse half the time but I had to
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still run sprints and make my free
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throws when you have commitments and
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practices that you can't just shrug off
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you have to learn how to be efficient
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and manage almost like a part-time job
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of playing sports in addition to school
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and homework and other activities for
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this tip I was contemplating saying oh
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you can just do some activity that has
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competitions but no Sports Just Hits
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different okay to say that least if you
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can't do Sports then at least be on some
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organized team like robotics that
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requires commitment cooperation and
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growth in fact you could suck at that
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activity you could suck at that sport
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but it doesn't matter your experience
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will set you eons ahead of other people
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who don't have exposure to that kind of
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environment and commitment I had no
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natural Talent at basketball and
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volleyball and I was a benchwarmer at
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Caltech but did I still gain a ton from
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them yes and so will you and the cool
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thing is that because everything is
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holistic these skills will carry into
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other areas of your life such that you
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will become a better student friend and
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everything else you want to be more
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easily what do you think is more
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important hard skills or soft skills
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hard skills are technical abilities like
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being able to code do math chemistry
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while soft skills are ability to present
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something to speak with others to
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empathize and to write ding ding ding it
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is the soft skills part and this is very
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interesting because I really really
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worked on my hard skills hence being
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able to get into Caltech which is one of
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the hardest stem universities in the
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world but when it came to career
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opportunities fun events with friends
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and just making life better overall it
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was my soft skills that I realized paid
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off so much but how did I get those soft
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skills if I was doing a lot of math and
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Technical work well that came from
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having jobs that help people ever since
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high school I've been privately tutoring
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students it's been amazing for me to
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adapt to different students learning
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styles their backgrounds and experiences
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I have a more open mind and can
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empathize with people who think
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differently from me and I learned how to
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work with people who are different from
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me and how to be persuasive and get the
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result I want even when someone is
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difficult this isn't a job where I earn
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money per se but I also volunteered at
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the hospital I worked at the front desk
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so often patients and really stressed
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moms about to give birth would come up
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and ask me for help and I had to be able
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to calm them down and handle people
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relationships Under Pressure working a
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job in Services is highly underrated
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every single person should have the
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experience of serving other people like
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being a waitress at a restaurant that
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experience just makes you a better
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person honestly because then you also
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know to respect other service workers
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and you will become a superstar at
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dealing with different kinds of people
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no matter if they are grumpy or they're
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stressed about a certain situation you
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will be able to handle it all and you
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will be so surprised at how much that
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helps you in the future even if you are
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bad at the technical skills as a bonus
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if this experience helps you earn money
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you will start to learn the value of
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money and how hard it is to actually get
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it so you won't just want to buy
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whatever you want now with your parents
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money and you will work harder for your
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future finally if you're watching this
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this might be controversial but you'll
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see what I mean if you're watching this
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you probably care about self-improvement
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and you've been watching videos to work
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on your
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self-improvement however when I was a
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teenager did I care about doing extra ex
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ra self-improvement outside of school
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heck I could barely get my homework done
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and do Sports and extracurriculars and
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just live a happy Teenage life so I
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didn't have time to search the latest
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self-improvement books or to decide hey
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I'm going to do five push-ups a day to
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get better and be more disciplined and
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if I do say so myself I think I turned
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out pretty well actually I have the
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resilience the efficiency the discipline
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and all those other skills those
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self-improvement Guru talk about but I
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didn't purposefully search them out as a
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teenager see the thing is as a teenager
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please don't care too much about doing
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extra self-improvement you are already
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doing so much and these are the years
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where you're developing your character
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your skills your awareness your
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relationships so much that you are
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automatically self-improving you just
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need to try your best in the things you
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have to do in your life and then reflect
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on how you can do them better like I
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didn't read a single self-development
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book before college but what's crazy is
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that when I read my first
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self-development book I discovered that
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the tips in there were things that I've
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already developed myself like I knew a
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lot of the advice by simply trying my
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best and reflecting in the things that I
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was already busy with as a teenager tips
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and videos are great and super helpful
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but you should adapt them to things
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you're already doing and you you don't
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need to go out of your way and be like
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hey I need to learn discipline so I'm
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going to add climbing a mountain to my
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list no you can learn discipline by
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doing better in your math class or
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working harder in tennis and staying off
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your phone if you have five things
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you're working on in your life already
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then get those all to 100% before you
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try and addon self-improvement extra
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self-improvement by doing these four
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things as a teenager I accidentally set
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myself up to have the dream life I have
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now just because you're younger doesn't
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mean it's going to be the good old days
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because right now I honestly wouldn't
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choose to go back in time and live as a
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teenager again because I just love the
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kind of life that I've built for myself
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I have the freedom I have the
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flexibility I have the most amazing
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people around me because I found myself
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and my values putting myself in a place
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where I'm always growing like I am
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always leveling up the past and when I'm
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young is not where I peeed I am never
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peeking I'm always growing even if you
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are 18 or 19 or any age outside of this
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age range that I said remember I'm
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trying not to be exclusive it's just a
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good it's just a good title you've been
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seeing how those videos are blowing up
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okay I got to do what I got to do anyway
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even if you're outside of this age range
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it's never too late start doing these
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now even if you weren't on the best
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trajectory you have time to sh shift
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over to the winning path and you're
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doing great because here in this YouTube
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Community We Are The A Team the best
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team where our amazing members are acing
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join by hitting that subscribe button
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mindset and make getting getting on the
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right golf trajectory easier than ever
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because just like I always say mindset
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is something really undervalued nowadays
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like all the advice is about what
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actions to take but you cannot do those
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helpful actions without the right
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mindset great job and I'll see you next
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time reaching out and having coffee
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chats with people who are more
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experienced and more knowledgeable is so
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so helpful in my latest coffee chat the
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guy told me that people will try to
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conform their profile and their essays
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into something they think the admissions
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officers will like but what that ends up
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doing as he predicts is make everyone
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look more similar his recommendation is
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at the end of the day just be super
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authentic share your true story as long
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as it makes sense with a program and
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have fun with it and knowing that bottom
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line just took a lot of pressure off of
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me because I think a lot of the stress
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was what do they want to see how do I
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make myself look more like that
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but I remember that I actually am I
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think exactly the kind of person this
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program wants so I just have to present
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that I just have to let that shine
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through the words on the page and yeah
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that's all I have to say oh also I have
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been reaching out to those I want to
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write my letters of recommendation and
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both of them said yes so I'm just
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researching and preparing the documents
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for my recommenders such that they can
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more easily know what to write about get
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ahead of the deadlines and overall just
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an outline to make the process easier
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for them I know it's been a long time
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coming it's been a long time coming now
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do me um so I will be revealing what
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program I'm applying to finally in the
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next video the next mini Vlog so if you
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would like right know guess in the
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comments before I review it it's
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actually probably pretty easy to guess I
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think so hint is that it will be in the
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same city as the previous program I got
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into
