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nice girls don't get the corner office
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by Lois P Frankle just as the old saying
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goes nice guys finished last the title
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is supposed to be a play on this alone
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stands out the chapters consist of what
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in the book were called mistakes what
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are these mistakes regarding what can we
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learn from this book and how does how
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does a girl get the corner office if she
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can't be nice let's talk about it just a
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brief overview of what you'll see in the
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welcome back to my channel my name is
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Sam and I want to make self-growth
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normal cuz people shouldn't have to look
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this information up it should just be
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mainstream knowledge if you agree then
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please make sure to smash that like
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button so for starters the mistakes are
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unconscious ones that the author says
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women make to sabotage their careers
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although in the past 10 20 years women
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have broken a glass ceiling there
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appears to remain a glass Treehouse
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above it and the author didn't want to
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write a 10th anniversary edition because
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she felt that ideally there shouldn't
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need to be one but she doesn't sound
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that pissed about it more like Fed Up
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the book contains not one mistake not
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five mistakes not 32 mistakes but
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133 mistakes that women make at work due
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to their socialization most women she
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says do not make all 133 mistakes but
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they do make more than one this is
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nothing against the author but I have a
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feeling that there are going to be be
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like so many mistakes in this book that
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a lot of them you could say about men
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and I also have a feeling that negative
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reviews of this book May point that out
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and try to take sex out of the whole
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equation tips for correcting the mistake
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however are found at the end of each one
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which is constructive I'm not going to
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go over every single mistake because you
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know there aren't 33 like literally 33
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like there were with the strategies of
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war by Robert Green there are 133 but
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she did categorize them and put and put
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each of them into multiple chapters uh
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chapter one is getting started media
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family and social messages they teach
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women from a young age to be polite uh
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compliant and softspoken so they are
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acting now in ways more consistent with
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their learning experiences the biggest
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word that comes to mind when it comes to
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how this affects a woman's ability to
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advance in the workplace to me is
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without aou Plateau you get to a certain
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point where it's like shaped instincts
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sabotage you and by the way on my part
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as a male when I say this a lot of the
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stuff in this review it's either
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straight from the book or it's an
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observation based on what I hear in the
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book unless closed otherwise chapter 2
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is how you play the game certain
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characteristics women are known for
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thriving in practicing more than men are
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listening compassion and collaboration
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which tend to equate to EQ or emotional
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quotient uh the author coaches men in
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excelling in these I looked this lady up
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and she is still alive here she
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discussed pregnancy and wanted to tell
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people at work about it and social media
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and using it to build your power base
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and much more like the rest of the book
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unless directed otherwise never ask for
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permission to spend money instead expect
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you'll be told if there's a problem and
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if there is don't apologize simply
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acknowledge your understanding of the
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message and ask for clarification around
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spending Authority so this chapter is
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what I would I would consider to be like
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chess moves or power moves chapter three
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is how you act this one covered actions
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and behaviors including preparation
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something that personally I've had great
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experiences focusing on multitasking
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which according to Jeb Blunt's uh
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fanatical prospecting basic Neuroscience
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refutes the effectiveness of therefore I
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don't see the point of having sections
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in books about using it in general but
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this book seems to agree with me
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receiving feedback taking the act of
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taking things personally off the table
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just simply getting over it I love the
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tip she gave uh the beer tip she called
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it where if you meet a client after a
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few minutes you asked yourself do I see
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myself going out and having a beer with
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this person um if you are an alcoholics
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synonymous put your own spin on that but
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I really really like how throughout this
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book I can't seem to think of anything
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that she doesn't address this chapter
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had one section about office decor and
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and another about having candy on your
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desk like what the heck who thinks of
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this chapter four speaking of thinking
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how you think this covered work like
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balance or integration as the author
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calls it because a woman can have it all
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but just not at the same exact time
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viewing men in Authority as father
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figures quidd proquo something for
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something which uh you should be subtly
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letting people know you're collecting
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chips by doing them favors this is so
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valuable it's unbelievable how little
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people talk about in business books not
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feeling entitled to being paid more when
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negotiating for a raise one of the main
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reasons according to other books I'll
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recommend later as to why men tend to
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get bigger raises more than women after
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they begin work postgraduation shout out
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to the author for name dropping getting
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to yes and covering mindset in one's own
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you know operating system I feel we're
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crucial in in a book like this chapter 5
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is how you brand and Market yourself
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this is something the author said women
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do not do nearly enough of in order to
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Market yourself you must be able to
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separate and differentiate yourself from
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your competition and explain clearly and
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professionally how and by the way most
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these chapters it's between 15 and 20
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different mistakes that each addresses
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with soliciting feedback she went over
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when to ignore it which I'm sure many
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would find helpful and overall she takes
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into account what people say about you
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when you leave the room and how to
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improve it chapter six is how you sound
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communication is a premier Cornerstone
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of relationships and communicating in a
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way that admits nervousness lack of
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self-confidence and a lack of
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credibility cannot help you in really
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any way so the author brought up
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examples of apologizing and using
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qualifiers as ways to play it safe also
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speaking with higher versus a lower
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voice I know a woman of authority with a
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deep voice that I wouldn't describe as
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masculine it's it's interesting trailing
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voicemails were also a thing there a
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quick tip I've done that works really
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well but wasn't in the book is typing
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out the voicemail or whatever I'm going
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to say and just reading it out loud um
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if the person doesn't answer and in a
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way that conveys confidence and not a
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robotic emotionless nature
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uh chapter 7 is how you look this
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included attire and Body Language she
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said to budget for buying nice clothes
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every year because when you feel good in
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clothes you act more confidently and she
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gives many many many examples of this
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something I really liked to hear was how
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she touched upon body language the
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importance of body language it cannot be
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overstated a few good reads on this are
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what everybody is saying and presence
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something interesting here was was not
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sitting with your foot on the chair
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which I've never even heard of and where
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you're at a meeting sitting next to
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someone powerful um there was even a
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section on makeup tips and there's
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something despite all these details that
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just doesn't come off as the author
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scrutinizing The Listener in any
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particular manner which I found easy to
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appreciate it may sound pointless for me
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to be reviewing this book since I'm not
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a woman but I have a very specific way
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of choosing these books and this one
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happens to show up on my radar along
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with multiple others so far this year
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about how women can better excel in a
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modern workplace after all I do believe
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that it's an important topic I totally
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should have said this at the beginning
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of the video but I digress and chapter
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eight is how you respond something I
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always love in a book like this is an
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all-encompassing take on something when
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done in the right way and there was a
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fair amount of stoicism uh going on in
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this chapter controlling how you respond
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to things that may upset you much of it
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has to do with personal values but it
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also has to do with being professional
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and making sure you speak up and fast
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knowing when to report sexual harassment
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and the reasons for when not to by the
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way are brilliant like you can tell that
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she has plenty of experience in this and
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not experience like you know there were
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many cases that I personally had to deal
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with myself experience as in she
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directly had to be one of the people who
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kind of looked over them and the last
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mistake interestingly enough was about
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crying and how to excuse yourself when
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you feel like you're about to she's like
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she's like I bet you thought I probably
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wasn't going to include this but I did
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overall I mean I love this whole list of
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mistakes it's extremely long it's
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comprehensive it's not very scientific
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at all and it's super accessible I think
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a lot of books like this it's it can be
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sort of a drawback when the author
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they're just constantly reminding the
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The Listener or reader this is human a
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lot of you know everyone does stuff like
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this but you can't let that get you down
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the author doesn't really do that at all
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in this book and for some reason it
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didn't bother me it's also super
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accessible it just covers pretty much
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anything you can think of uh it's very
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organized all of the mistakes are
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divided into like each of the chapters
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so they're categorized and it's very
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easy to go through them topic by topic
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and I would say that you know all of
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this has been done before but another
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book I would usually recommend in
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conjunction with this one how women rise
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actually came out like 14 years later
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unless you can come up with one in the
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comments that's older than this one I
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imagine this is probably the first one
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to do it perhaps it was ahead of its
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time quotes success comes from acting
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not more like a man but acting more like
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a woman instead of a girl doing
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everything you're supposed to isn't
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proactive it's only doing everything
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you're supposed to backstabbing is
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gender blind miracle workers aren't
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recognized they're canonized most people
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are reluctant to give honest feedback so
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when you receive it it accept it no one
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can make you feel inferior without your
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consent if you wouldn't make the comment
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to someone's face don't say it in an
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email or letter Direction one I
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recommend this book for anyone who's
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like what is a woman doing wrong in the
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workplace and what could she be doing
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right if you want to exclude sex from
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the equation like I may have mentioned I
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as a male have experiened with certain
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mistakes like this just being overly
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compliant polite and not knowing when
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and how exactly to put my foot down when
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it doesn't come naturally to you or
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you're not taught how to do it from a
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younger age after having check out the
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book I would say it's never too late to
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start Direction two if you like this
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book I recommend checking out The
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Confidence Code by Claire Shipman and
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catty K how women Rise by Sally helgason
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and Marshall Goldsmith and a hell of a
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recommendation here lean in by Cheryl
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Sandberg night girls don't get the
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corner office by Lois P Frankle there's
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a link in the description if you want to
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check it out and read the reviews that
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and all the other books that I mentioned
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in this video if you want to check those
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out too if there are any other books
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that you want me to check out and review
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please let me know in the comments below
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