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hey guys today I just wanted to do a
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more serious video about a topic that
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I've been thinking a lot about lately
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which is getting older I am 33 right now
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which is a sort of weird age to be
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you're not middle-aged but you're not
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that young anymore either according to
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my YouTube stats the majority of my
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audience is around my age or maybe 10 to
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15 years younger so I figured you guys
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might get something out of hearing what
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I have to say on the topic of aging
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either as a preview of the future or
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something you can relate to in the
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present so here are 8 truths about
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getting older these are not necessarily
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things that I personally have all
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experienced myself but I do think that
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they are generally pretty Universal
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experiences of people in their late 20s
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or early 30s the first truth about
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getting older is that your parents get
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older too this seems obvious but it is
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easy to forget when you're young there
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is this strong line separating you who
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is a kid from your parents who are
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adults but eventually you're all adults
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together the only difference is that
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they are old adults and you are a
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younger adult older parents have a lot
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of needs they come to rely on you for
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things they never did in the past like
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medical help or help with money or help
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solving fights in the family in a way as
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you get older you almost start to parent
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them a bit of course sometimes part of
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getting older means that you move very
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far away from your parents but they'll
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still get very old and needy without you
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which means that they'll probably be
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getting more dependent on someone who
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isn't you
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maybe your brother or sister in either
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case the end result is a very different
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sort of relationship with your folks an
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increasingly challenging sense of what
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exactly it means to be someone's child
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the second truth aboot getting older is
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related and it is that the amount of
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family drama in your life increases when
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you're young you tend to be kept in the
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dark a lot about what's going on in the
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personal lives of your grandparents and
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your aunt's and your uncles and your
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cousins your parents probably hide a lot
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of stuff from you because they figure
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well it's not for kids to know but as
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you get older you start to learn it all
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you're finally trusted to learn stuff
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like why someone really got divorced or
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who is the alcoholic or why so-and-so
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doesn't talk to so-and-so and this kind
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of stuff and that kind of stuff can be
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tough to learn and tough to deal with
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sometimes you miss being a kid and just
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being in the dark speaking of families
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the third thing is that as you get older
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your friends start to have them people
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get married and have kids and start to
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have more complicated adult lives it's
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harder for them to hang out
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and a lot of the time they probably
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don't even want to hang out because they
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would rather spend time with their
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families which makes sense but that
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means if you don't have a family of your
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own you know things can get pretty
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lonely which leads to thing number four
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aboot getting older which is an
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increased intensity aboot comparing your
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life to other people's lives
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obviously comparing yourself to others
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is something that we do from the time
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we're babies and one baby has a better
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ducky than we do and this is generally
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the theme of comparing yourself to
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others when you're young it tends to
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focus there in material things you know
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people having better clothes or nicer
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rooms or more video games or whatever
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but when you get older the comparisons
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start to have a new intensity because
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you start to really compare life
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progress a lot you start to envy people
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who are ahead of you on some major life
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milestone maybe they have a stable
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career or they're married or they have
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kids or they own their own home and you
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begin to worry because you're not there
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yet this can be a really intense source
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of insecurity because when you are too
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far behind in the game of life it really
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makes you feel immature and feeling
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immature when you're in your 20s or 30s
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is a lot different from feeling immature
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when you're a teenager it's one thing to
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be a sort of juvenile goofball it's
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something very different to be a
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man-child
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the fifth truth about getting older is
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that you start to experience more
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physical decay this can often be the
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most shocking thing when it happens to
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you because it is the most stereotypical
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old person thing you know we tend to
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think that physical decay only happens
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to you when you're like a hundred years
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old but no it actually starts to
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manifest when you're quite young as you
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get older you inevitably start to
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develop some weird adult health problems
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stuff like back and joint pain or maybe
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something to do with your blood pressure
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or your cholesterol or something with
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your heart or your lungs or your eyes or
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maybe something to do with your weight
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and in a lot of cases this might result
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in you not being able to do quite as
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many physical things as you used or at
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least being very cautious about them in
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a way you never had to be when you were
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young which can be a pretty crippling
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feeling the six truth about getting
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older is that you start to have a new
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form of concern about the way that you
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dress see an inescapable part of getting
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older is worrying that you are trying
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too hard to look young when you're young
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you can wear whatever because young
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people look cool in anything but at some
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unclear point dressing cool starts to
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mean dressing immature which means you
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have to suddenly figure out some way to
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dress and look in tune with the time
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without also looking like you're in
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denial aboot how old you actually are
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this is obviously a bigger issue for
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women than men but I think it's pretty
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hard to get away from no matter what
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your gender
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vii truth aboot getting older is that
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you start to have a lot more nostalgia
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now I will admit that this one is a big
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problem for me personally it's very easy
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for me to get nostalgic because I had a
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pretty happy childhood so I tend to get
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pretty easily obsessed with happy
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memories of when I was younger and more
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carefree the problem is that as I get
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older those happy memories become
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further and further in the past which
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means eh I don't remember them as well
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so it is very easy to imagine that they
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were better than they probably were and
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be I get sad about how long ago it was
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that they happened I remember when I was
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young I used to often get annoyed with
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my father because he would spend a lot
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of time reminiscing about how things
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were when he was my age but now I find
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that I'm often doing this whenever I
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talk to kids and lastly number eight is
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you find yourself growing increasingly
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bored and cynical of current events
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people generally speaking get more
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conservative as they get older and it's
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easy to assume that this is just because
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older people cling to outdated opinions
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but I think another part of it is that
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as you get older you just tend to get a
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lot less idealistic because you realize
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how little things actually change over
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time people often ask me what I think
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about Donald Trump and honestly a lot of
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the time I'm just kind of like whatever
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because I've now seen several times in
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both Canada and America what always
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happens whenever a new leader comes to
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power from either party whenever a
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right-wing guy comes to power the left
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goes bananas and says it's the end of
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the world and whenever a left-wing guy
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gets elected the right goes bananas and
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says it's the end of the world and it's
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not just politics living longer means
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you start to realize just how
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predictable a lot of the news is and
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people's reactions to it it doesn't
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necessarily mean that you'll wind up as
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a cranky right winger but it does mean
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that you will probably start to get
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pretty good at tuning out a lot of
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headlines so yeah those are eight truths
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about getting older for you let me know
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in the comments if you particularly
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related to any of them or let me know if
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I missed any big ones obviously we all
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experience getting older in different
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ways and some of us have an easier time
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with it than others and obviously there
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are a lot of people for whom getting
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older is pretty great because it means
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escaping a youth that was much worse but
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I do think overall the aging process is
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something that we do not talk openly and
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honestly a bhoot nearly enough because
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it's tough in that sense I hope this
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video has been useful