Hisham Abu Yusuf REPENTANCE Secret To Transforming Your Life | Masjid al-Humera

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Resumo

TLDRThe video elaborates on Toba (repentance) as a crucial aspect of Islamic faith, emphasizing its obligatory nature for believers. It outlines the four stages of Toba: Regret, Resolve, Reset, and Redeem, which are essential for true personal transformation. The speaker highlights obstacles that prevent repentance, such as denial and complacency, and the importance of recognizing one’s sins and striving for genuine change. It stresses the balance between hope in Allah’s mercy and the fear of His punishment as vital in the repentance process. Finally, it discusses how constant self-assessment and reflection on Allah’s attributes can enhance one’s consciousness and fear, leading to sincere Toba and spiritual growth.

Conclusões

  • 📝 Toba is obligatory for believers.
  • 🔄 The stages of Toba are Regret, Resolve, Reset, and Redeem.
  • ❌ Justification of sins can stop us from repenting.
  • 🔍 Sincere Toba involves contemplating our actions.
  • 💡 Allah's mercy is greater than our sins.
  • ⚖️ Balance between hope and fear is crucial for Toba.
  • 🗣️ The Dua for seeking forgiveness guarantees Paradise.
  • ⛓️ Overcoming denial requires accountability and feedback.
  • 😌 A sign of sincere Toba is a genuine attempt to change behavior.
  • ⚡ Increasing fear of Allah can be achieved by understanding His greatness and punishment.

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  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    The discussion begins on the concept of Toba (repentance) and its significance in Islam. It explores how sincerity in seeking Allah's forgiveness can transform a person's life. The speaker emphasizes that repentance is essential and should not be viewed as a mere checkbox but a continuous process tied closely to personal change.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    The speaker compares the stages of behavior change in addiction recovery to the stages of Toba, highlighting the importance of regret, resolve, reset, and redeem as critical components in the repentance process.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:15:00

    The four R's of Toba are introduced: Regret, where one acknowledges their wrongdoing; Resolve, a firm decision to stop the sinful behavior; Reset, actually stopping the sinful action; and Redeem, making amends if others have been wronged. These steps are crucial for genuine transformation.

  • 00:15:00 - 00:20:00

    The speaker illustrates the historical example of the Prophet's companions, once known for their vices, who underwent a significant transformation through consistent Toba, showing the power of repentance over time and its role in shaping a positive character.

  • 00:20:00 - 00:25:00

    The ruling of Toba is clarified as obligatory for believers, with the Quranic command emphasizing its importance. Failing to repent leads to an accumulation of sins, which can be detrimental to a believer's spiritual health.

  • 00:25:00 - 00:30:00

    Barriers to Toba include justification of sins, denial of wrongdoing, complacency, and despair. The speaker stresses that these attitudes can hinder personal growth and the journey back to Allah, warning of the gradual danger of accumulating sins.

  • 00:30:00 - 00:35:00

    The first sin committed by Adam serves as a cautionary tale, illustrating how justifications can prevent sincere repentance. The discussion highlights how acknowledging sins and the fear of consequences can lead to better behavior and awareness.

  • 00:35:00 - 00:40:00

    Understanding the dual nature of fear and hope in connection to Toba is essential. Recognizing Allah's mercy alongside the weight of one's sins encourages genuine repentance and behavior change.

  • 00:40:00 - 00:45:00

    Lifted from the teachings of the Prophet, it's noted that he regularly sought forgiveness, reminding believers of their need for constant self-reflection and repentance throughout their lives.

  • 00:45:00 - 00:51:14

    The session concludes with practical advice for establishing Toba as a daily practice, emphasizing sincerity, the importance of accountability, and the balance between fear of Allah and hope in His mercy as essential to leading a life that honors the principles of repentance.

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Vídeo de perguntas e respostas

  • What is the ruling on Toba?

    Toba (repentance) is obligatory for believers according to Islamic teachings.

  • What are the stages of Toba?

    The stages of Toba are Regret, Resolve, Reset, and Redeem.

  • What stops us from repenting?

    Common obstacles include justification of sins, denial, complacency, and despair.

  • How can we ensure sincerity in asking for forgiveness?

    To ensure sincerity, pause to contemplate the meaning of your words and recall your sins while asking for forgiveness.

  • What motivates a person to repent?

    Feeling the heaviness of one's sins and realizing Allah's mercy can motivate repentance.

  • Why does Allah link Toba with good deeds?

    Allah links Toba with good deeds to highlight the constant need for self-assessment and humility.

  • How can one increase their fear of Allah?

    Increasing fear of Allah can be achieved by learning His names related to power, observing His creation, and reflecting on verses that discuss judgment and punishment.

  • What is the significance of the Dua mentioned in the video?

    Reciting the Dua sincerely in the morning or evening guarantees entrance to Paradise if one dies before the next day or evening.

  • How do we overcome the denial aspect of sin?

    Feedback from trustworthy friends and accountability can help overcome denial.

  • What is a sign of sincere Toba?

    A sign of sincere Toba is someone who seriously tries to change their behavior, as opposed to someone who returns to sins without remorse.

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    about today which is
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    Toba it's important to understand Toba
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    in its fullest
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    sense for many of us Toba is a
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    checkbox it's
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    at some point in time
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    window
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    opens and you say I'd like to confess my
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    confessing the things you've done to
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    we're going to compare these five phases
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    Toba they say stage one is called
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    precontemplation this person doesn't
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    know they have a problem they think that
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    realize oh no that penni's dropped
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    three they call it
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    preparation okay now the person has
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    realized now they start deciding I'm
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    going to stop doing this I'm going to
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    change my behavior I'm going to next
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    next time I get hungry I'm going to do
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    stop it and now they're going to
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    Toba in the Arabic language means to
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    return to take a
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    U-turn literally it means to to make a
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    around the stages of
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    Toba are
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    four there are four RS I'm going to ask
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    you all to repeat them after me so that
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    especially guys need the radiators I
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    nice and cozy four
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    hours
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    okay the first
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    one is Regret what's the first one
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    regret the prophet sallallahu alaihi
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    wasallam
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    says regret is Toba because it's the
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    hardest
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    part if you go to the science site it's
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    that realization phase where you realize
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    oh no what I'm doing is wrong it's
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    harming me I need to stop
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    this that stage of
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    regret second
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    stage resolve what's the second stage
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    resolve resolve not wraps you guys
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    thinking about chicken wraps no it's
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    resolve don't think about the wrong RS
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    think about the right RS regret then
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    resolve what's
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    resolve it's now I've thought oh no what
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    I'm doing is wrong resolve is I reached
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    a point I'm going to stop this now I'm
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    going to stop doing this I've
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    decided I've decided I'm not going to do
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    this anymore I've made a firm decision
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    I'm not going to go back to this deed
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    this action this Behavior this
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    sin stage
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    three reset what stage three reset I sto
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    doing the deed I was watching something
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    I realize this is harming my life I've
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    decided I'm not going going going to go
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    back and next time I'm at my screen I
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    don't do it I stop that reset is really
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    key you execute the behavior it's not
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    just a plan in your head yeah
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    theoretically I should stop doing no I
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    stop and then number four redeem what's
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    number four
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    redeem
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    regret
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    resolve reset redeem what is redeem
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    redeem is only if you have taken the
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    right of another human being you have
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    toed redeem their rights you scammed
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    somebody on eBay you got to give them a
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    refund you back bited or you you lied
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    you have to go and tell the truth you
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    to say oh Allah forgive me for scamming
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    checklist this completely changes a
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    human being
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    if you imagine all the areas of our life
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    in which we have issues whether it's
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    family with anger with it's personal
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    it's imman related whether it's private
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    public s if we follow this cycle with
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    every single area of our life we will
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    see the
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    transformation that Omar saw when he
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    from aggressive qurayshi Noble who has
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    alcohol issues to leader of a
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    civilization from east to west what
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    happened in the middle
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    was constant
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    Toba Toba is like a constant polish you
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    keep polishing you keep polishing you
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    keep polishing until eventually it's so
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    shiny it's blinding
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    you TBA is not a oneoff
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    thing it's something constant in your
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    life it's a
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    companion that's
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    why when he talks about
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    Toba he says
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    he said
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    repentance is not a oneof checkbox on
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    your journey to Allah it's the first and
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    the middle and the last like it's always
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    with you
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    it's a constant state of
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    being it's a constant state of mind I'm
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    constantly trimming away at my bad
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    habits I'm constantly assessing myself
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    I'm constantly chopping those bad habits
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    I'm constantly working on myself if you
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    give somebody 20 years in that state
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    this person is going to change the
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    world if they keep doing Toba again and
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    again in every aspect of their life who
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    can tell me what's the ruling on Toba is
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    it optional is it recommended
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    is it obligatory is it haram is it
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    disliked who can tell me what's the
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    ruling on
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    Toba
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    yes you think it's obligatory anybody
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    else anybody thinks Toba is recommended
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    you don't have to do
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    it who can give me the evidence that
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    Toba is obligatory
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    Allah says oh Believers repent to Allah
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    sincere repentance Allah commanded
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    default by default a command is
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    obligatory which
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    means if I commit a
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    sin I swear I backbite I eat something
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    Haram I earn Haram income I look at
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    something I speak to my parents and if I
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    do something that's
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    prohibited it's obligatory on me to
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    repent for this it's not
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    optional if I don't repent on it I now
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    have two
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    sins the original sin and the sin of not
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    repenting I've made two
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    sins Toba is obligatory it's an
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    obligation it's like Salah it's like
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    fasting in Ramadan you can't not do
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    it it's an essential component of your
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    journey to
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    Allah so regret resolve reset and
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    redeem what I want to talk a little bit
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    about is what's stops us from repentance
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    and I want to go to this story that I
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    recited in the
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    beginning of this talk which is the
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    story of
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    adamai the first
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    repentance the first repentance is a
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    very telling story because it exposes
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    the psychology of
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    sin it exposes the strategies of of
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    Satan and it reveals to us what we need
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    to
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    do if we want to live a life of constant
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    Improvement constant change in our
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    behaviors and constant
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    repentance the first thing to notice is
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    that Allah subhanahu wa
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    taala when he orders Adam and his wife
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    to live in
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    Jenna before this he's ordered Shan to
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    do to do something which is to
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    prostrate what does say when Allah asks
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    him to Pro prostrate to Adam
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    I'm better than him you created me from
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    fire you created him from clay what is
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    this if I see you outside let's say for
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    instance I found you outside I found you
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    with a cigarette smoking said brother
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    don't smoke you say it's okay my lungs
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    can handle it what's that that sentence
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    my lungs can handled what is that what
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    would you call
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    that it's not
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    arrogance it starts with a J it's
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    justification I find you uh in a
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    shop somewhere I find you in a shisha
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    store you sat there smoking amongst a
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    group of women I said brother don't do
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    this you
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    say just a little while I you know we
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    all have to socialize what's this it's a
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    justification shows one of the greatest
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    he he knew he did something wrong he
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    passed a contemplation
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    phase but what stopped him from
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    repenting he gave himself an
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    excuse I don't need to prostrate because
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    I'm better than
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    him right this is how most of us often
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    one of the major ways in which we don't
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    repent to Allah we know we did something
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    wrong but we in our heads that we we
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    have an explanation for ourselves we
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    Justified
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    it brother why do you work in a Bank oh
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    you know I have to look at the economy
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    there's some Scholars some
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    fatwa but Allah wages war against RBA
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    but you know different interpretations
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    in this
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    matter
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    okay we this a justify in our heads
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    we've Justified the
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    sin someone goes back bite about
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    somebody else in a gathering he said
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    brother don't talk about that person
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    behind their back it's like eating their
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    flesh but they not subh brother you know
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    sometimes it's not backbiting I could
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    have said it to their face okay then you
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    would have two sins of insult and
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    backbiting kind of an excuse is
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    this we justify to ourselves so many
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    things and this is the manh of that's
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    the manage that we follow when we do
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    this we justify to ourselves us now let
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    us come to Adam and Allah tells him go
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    live in
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    Jenna and Allah subhana T says to them
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    do not come close to this
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    tree then what
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    happens Shan begins to whisper because
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    nothing happens overnight he begins to
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    justify to
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    them why that the fruit from The
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    Forbidden tree is actually the is the
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    best fruit
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    actually he gives them a sales
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    pitch begins to give them a sales pitch
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    what does he say he comes to them he
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    says guys the only reason Allah stopped
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    you from eating from this
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    tree is because if you eat from the tree
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    you'll become
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    Angels or you live forever there's so
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    many benefits there's so many positives
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    just one negative Allah didn't let you
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    do it but there's so many positives come
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    on guys
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    and he swore to them I'm sincere I'm a
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    sincere adviser to you I'm not trying to
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    I've Got No Agenda
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    here what's he doing what's he giving
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    them he's giving them a
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    justification you know it's Haram but
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    you know come on the good outweighs the
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    bad give it a
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    go this is the inner talk that we tell
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    ourselves when we when we're about to do
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    something wrong we give ourselves a
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    justification there are so many things
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    that we have Justified to ourselves so
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    many sins
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    and they go
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    eventually and through his slow but
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    steady
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    deception in Arabic Del is is a well and
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    Del is when you stand up top of the well
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    and you pull the Rope to slowly get the
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    bucket out that's how Shan slowly he
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    reels them
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    in the moment they taste the fruit from
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    the
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    tree their clothes begin to be stripped
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    from them and they become be become
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    exposed what was El's objective was his
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    objective for them to sin for them to
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    break the law of Allah that wasn't his
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    ultimate objective what was his
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    objective he wanted them to be
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    exposed El's goal is not for them to eat
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    the forbidden fruit he has a deeper more
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    dangerous agenda he wants them to strip
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    themselves and lose their
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    modesty he wanted the ultimate goal the
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    ultimate agenda he wants them to strip
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    themselves because El's
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    agenda he helps you justify a
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    sin he tells you you don't need to do
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    Toba it's okay mate minor keep it moving
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    you do the next one you do another it's
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    a domino effect
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    suddenly you find yourself committing a
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    major
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    sin never expected yourself to be
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    here but his ultimate goal is for you to
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    disbelieve but he's happy to wait and
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    push you towards minor sins for five six
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    years you miss one Salah great
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    breakthrough as now that now that the
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    the status of Salah is broken in your
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    heart you'll keep missing
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    Salah then one day you'll swear at your
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    parents then one one by one he'll knock
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    the dominoes until you get to the point
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    you've got this accumulation of sins
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    you've got this high threshold of
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    Tolerance now and now he's going to
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    completely break you this is the
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    antithesis of Toba if you don't do Toba
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    it will lead to your destruction this is
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    the story of Adam Alam if you leave
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    Satan to play his tricks and you leave
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    yourself to justify to yourself your
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    sins it will just be a gradual
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    stepbystep domino effect to your
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    complete and utter
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    destruction
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    said a Believer sees their sins as a
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    mountain they're terrified is going to
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    collapse on them at any
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    time but a hypocrite sees their sins as
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    a
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    fly this annoying little
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    thing get it away from me
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    so there's
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    two three four reasons why we don't do
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    Toba the first one we've discussed
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    justification we justify to ourselves
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    it's
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    okay the second one is denial we we
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    think we've not done a sin we actually
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    think we've done nothing
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    wrong is in denial complete denial
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    doesn't realize doesn't acknowledge that
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    what he did was wrong many of us fall
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    into this category some of us know what
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    we did was wrong but we then justify
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    it's okay because of this circumstance
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    of
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    mine the third one is
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    complacency sometimes we just get too
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    comfortable you
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    see with your health your physical
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    health you stop exercising one week 2
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    weeks 3 weeks four 6 months 9 12 months
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    one day a friend calls you let's go play
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    some football you say great let's go you
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    put on your football boots you go within
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    the first 3 minutes you're lying down
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    breathing in pain because of some muscle
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    pull what happened Habi 12 months no
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    exercise you don't know stretching now
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    you think you're usin bolt what do you
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    think is going to happen you say you're
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    going to you're going to pull
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    something this when you get too
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    comfortable this is exactly the way that
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    we fall into further and further sins if
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    you don't do TBA for a long time you
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    don't cleanse the heart you don't
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    cleanse CLE yourself of the effects of
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    the sins at some point you're going to
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    your behavior is going to slowly get
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    worse worse worse worse a person without
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    Toba is walking slowly but surely to
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    their own
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    destruction and that's exactly what
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    happens and suddenly they find
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    themselves having pulled a muscle oh
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    no I haven't done Toba for so long and
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    now I've committed I've done something
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    major I got too
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    comfortable one of the secrets of being
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    consistent with Toba every day of your
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    life is to constantly be on your toes to
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    constantly exercise your accountability
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    to be harsh with yourself to hold
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    yourself to account to be real with
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    yourself to understand really what I did
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    was terrible what I did was wrong what I
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    did was unacceptable to constantly feel
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    you know what these sins could destroy
  • 00:21:56
    me these sins are not small
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    and the last one is
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    despair the reason people don't do
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    Toba
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    denial
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    justification
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    complacency
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    Despair and
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    despair is considered a form of
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    disbelief kufur people don't realize
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    this Allah subhana T says in the Quran
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    the only people who despair in Allah's
  • 00:22:34
    Mercy are
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    disbelievers a Muslim cannot despair in
  • 00:22:38
    Allah's Mercy it's not possible either
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    you don't know
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    Allah or you know Allah but you
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    misunderstood
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    him Allah subhana T's Mercy is
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    endless but we have to go on this
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    journey if we are to
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    realize
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    TBA is the way way Allah changes
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    people and not having Toba is the way
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    people become worse and worse until they
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    destroyed this is what I want everybody
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    to really understand there's a reason
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    why the prophet sallallah alaihi
  • 00:23:12
    wasallam
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    said he says sometimes my heart feels
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    agitated and I sit and I seek
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    forgiveness 70 times 70 times the man
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    who is free of sin who is innocent who
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    has no major or minor sins he ask
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    Allah's forgiveness 70 times a day there
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    is a reason why when you complete a good
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    deed when you complete an act of worship
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    if you notice the pattern Allah asks you
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    to seek his forgiveness you
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    say what's the first thing You' say
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    after
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    you go to you go
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    to when you finish your acts of worship
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    your rights of Haj Allah says what do
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    you do do sit down do ask Allah's
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    forgiveness why does Allah link Toba
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    with completing a good deed With Victory
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    with reaching the other side imagine the
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    prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam 23
  • 00:24:26
    years of struggle Strife loss death
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    Blood Sweat tears finally he gets to the
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    other side Allah reveals the last
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    complete
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    [Laughter]
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    Surah when the victory of Allah
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    comes when you see people entering the
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    dean of Allah in
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    hordes what do you do you've reached the
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    end you achieve the goal oh Muhammad s.
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    wasam it's done now what do I want you
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    to
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    do I want you to seek my forgiveness
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    what did I do wrong why is he seeking
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    forgiveness you finished Salah you did a
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    great act of worship why are you sing
  • 00:25:20
    what did you do
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    wrong what is the secret behind Allah
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    linking the seeking of his forgiveness
  • 00:25:28
    with the completion of Good
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    Deeds it's because when you complete a
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    good deed you know what can creep into
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    your heart little bit of
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    arrogance look at me I prayed my Salah
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    look at me I'm the Conqueror look at me
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    I'm the boss man you're not the boss man
  • 00:25:47
    Habi definitely not because how many
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    shortcomings did you have in that act of
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    worship how many shortcomings did you
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    have on the way to that Victory humble
  • 00:25:56
    yourself now
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    from the day theah was
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    revealed until the day the prophet
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    passed away he changed his
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    Salah what do you say in R when you go
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    into bowing what do you say sub he
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    stopped saying
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    this he
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    said because Allah commanded him seek
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    forgiveness from me from that day
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    every single time he went in oh Allah
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    forgive me what does he have to ask
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    forgiveness
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    for it is not that asking forgiveness is
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    just an obligation he's fulfilling
  • 00:26:39
    seeking repentance from Allah is a model
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    for Change and Improvement constant
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    Improvement until you are the best
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    version of
  • 00:26:49
    yourself one of the greatest examples of
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    Toba and the impact of Toba on a human
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    being and the way it can completely
  • 00:26:56
    transform a human being are The
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    Magicians of
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    Fon these magicians are disbelievers who
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    are coming to wage war against one of
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    Allah's
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    Messengers these are the most disgusting
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    of Allah's
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    creation but as they are Waging War in
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    front of M with their magic and they
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    have a realization what did I say the
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    first step was regret you need you need
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    to realize what I'm doing is wrong they
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    had a realization that what mam brought
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    is not Magic is something
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    else immediately they took action
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    because Toba is not sitting down and
  • 00:27:37
    saying no Toba is changing your behavior
  • 00:27:42
    that's what Toba is
  • 00:27:44
    about if you're not dropping the bad
  • 00:27:46
    habits dropping those addictions
  • 00:27:48
    dropping those flaws dropping those that
  • 00:27:51
    backbiting dropping that anger issue
  • 00:27:52
    dropping that delaying of Salah those
  • 00:27:55
    issues that we have if we don't drop
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    those Behavior if behavior is not
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    changing that Toba is
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    incomplete Toba needs to
  • 00:28:03
    show somebody it shows in their behavior
  • 00:28:06
    this person Last 5 Years look where they
  • 00:28:07
    were look where they're now this is
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    someone who's T they're constantly
  • 00:28:11
    improving changing cutting bad habits
  • 00:28:14
    these magicians the moment they realize
  • 00:28:15
    what do they
  • 00:28:20
    do they fall on their faces
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    [Music]
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    we believe in Allah lord of the
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    worlds the Lord of M and Har begins to
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    threaten
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    [Laughter]
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    them you believed before I allowed
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    you I will off your arms and legs you're
  • 00:28:53
    not getting away from me what did they
  • 00:28:55
    say
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    we don't
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    care have
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    fun we're going back to Allah that's
  • 00:29:07
    what Toba is about going back to Allah
  • 00:29:11
    returning to
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    Allah what happened they changed these
  • 00:29:16
    people were ready to defeat and fight a
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    prophet after one minute they in sujud
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    what this this
  • 00:29:24
    Toba Toba in one minute a sincere
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    Toba the worst criminal in one minute
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    sincere Toba they can be a different
  • 00:29:34
    person if the Toba was
  • 00:29:37
    sincere it is a model that defies all
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    behavioral change theories a person can
  • 00:29:42
    change
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    overnight
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    Abu I'm not saying these specific names
  • 00:29:49
    but many sahab who Embrace Islam before
  • 00:29:52
    Islam they had Jah they committed Zena
  • 00:29:55
    they were thieves they were Bandits they
  • 00:29:56
    were robbers watching change them
  • 00:29:59
    constantly making Toba constantly saying
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    oh Allah this is wrong I need to cut
  • 00:30:04
    this from my list of behaviors I'm going
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    to change I'm going to stop doing this
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    and the next day is a changed
  • 00:30:11
    man there are two things we
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    need to feel because Toba is a state of
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    being it's not an action it's not a
  • 00:30:20
    belief It's a combination of things a
  • 00:30:22
    constant state as says
  • 00:30:26
    [Music]
  • 00:30:28
    how do you reach a state what will
  • 00:30:30
    motivate a person to feel that Toba to
  • 00:30:35
    feel that need to return to Allah the
  • 00:30:37
    first thing is we must feel the
  • 00:30:38
    heaviness of our sins we must feel
  • 00:30:41
    it if we are committing sins and making
  • 00:30:44
    mistakes and we have issues and we are
  • 00:30:46
    ignoring them dismissing them minimizing
  • 00:30:50
    them something's really wrong we are
  • 00:30:53
    like that you can get desensitized to
  • 00:30:55
    sin it can just be not be normal and
  • 00:30:59
    this is the most dangerous of all
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    calamities to feel that a sins
  • 00:31:05
    nothing used to
  • 00:31:12
    say do not look at the size of the sin
  • 00:31:16
    but look at the one you
  • 00:31:18
    disobeyed look at the Grandeur the
  • 00:31:21
    generosity the mercy of who I disobeyed
  • 00:31:24
    don't look at the sin
  • 00:31:25
    itself that should create some real
  • 00:31:27
    ization some pain some guilt some regret
  • 00:31:32
    some sadness that must be there if that
  • 00:31:35
    is not there then we are dead inside a
  • 00:31:37
    person who doesn't feel the pain of a
  • 00:31:39
    sin has died inside before death This is
  • 00:31:42
    the first step Second Step the mercy of
  • 00:31:46
    Allah subhana wa tala yes you feel the
  • 00:31:48
    regret you feel the pain you feel that
  • 00:31:50
    guilt you that feeling it must be there
  • 00:31:54
    but the second step you have to realize
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    Allah's Mercy is greater than what ever
  • 00:31:58
    it is you are
  • 00:32:05
    feeling or those who have transgressed
  • 00:32:08
    sinned disobeyed cross the
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    [Music]
  • 00:32:13
    lines never ever despair of Allah's
  • 00:32:21
    Mercy Allah can forgive all sins
  • 00:32:29
    he is the most forgiving the most
  • 00:32:35
    merciful come back to Allah come back
  • 00:32:38
    there's always space the back door is
  • 00:32:40
    always open you feel the regret come
  • 00:32:42
    back that's the second step is to fall
  • 00:32:45
    into prostration to feel the magnitude
  • 00:32:47
    of Allah's Mercy to realize that no
  • 00:32:50
    matter how far you went it is just one
  • 00:32:52
    step to come back but it doesn't end
  • 00:32:55
    here there's a third step
  • 00:32:58
    you have to
  • 00:32:59
    change you have to stop that habit you
  • 00:33:03
    have to kill that behavior otherwise
  • 00:33:05
    it's not
  • 00:33:07
    Toba if you don't actually stop the deed
  • 00:33:10
    and reset the deed you didn't do
  • 00:33:12
    Toba you fulfill two or three conditions
  • 00:33:15
    not complete em failed go back to the
  • 00:33:17
    garage repair the deed has to be stopped
  • 00:33:21
    what's going to make you stop what's
  • 00:33:23
    going to make you stop speaking that way
  • 00:33:25
    swearing in this way smoking in this way
  • 00:33:27
    way uh dealing in this sin indulging it
  • 00:33:30
    what's going to make you stop is only
  • 00:33:31
    one
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    thing the fear of Allah subhana Waal
  • 00:33:37
    there is no other way there is no other
  • 00:33:39
    engine that can stop a human being what
  • 00:33:42
    makes people Drive slowly on the
  • 00:33:44
    motorway fear of that speeding ticket
  • 00:33:47
    it's the only way if you told people
  • 00:33:49
    Drive slowly and we'll give you shopping
  • 00:33:52
    discounts nobody will Drive
  • 00:33:54
    slowly but there's a camera and there's
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    Black Point and this fines why you need
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    that fear it's part of the human psyche
  • 00:34:04
    we cannot survive without
  • 00:34:10
    it whoever fears the standing in front
  • 00:34:13
    of Allah will get two
  • 00:34:15
    gardens there has to be some level of
  • 00:34:18
    fear that the Lord who's been generous
  • 00:34:21
    to me and who has loved me and has been
  • 00:34:23
    merciful to me I decided I don't care
  • 00:34:28
    and I decided to spit in his Direction
  • 00:34:30
    and disobey him and I am going to face
  • 00:34:33
    some wrath because of this why does
  • 00:34:36
    Allah describe Janam why does Allah
  • 00:34:38
    describe consequences to plant that fear
  • 00:34:41
    in our heart to make us realize it's not
  • 00:34:43
    all fun games there's consequences and
  • 00:34:47
    if you forget the consequences for a
  • 00:34:49
    moment you'll further
  • 00:34:51
    indulge so when you've realized and
  • 00:34:53
    you've remembered the mercy of Allah and
  • 00:34:56
    you've gone to suud and you've asked for
  • 00:34:57
    forgiveness then to change you need to
  • 00:35:00
    remember the fear that if I don't change
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    this Behavior if I don't stop this habit
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    something dark something dangerous
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    something wrathful some punishment is
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    coming for
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    me and when the prophet sallallahu
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    alaihi wasallam used to recite the
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    verses about Janam he used to pause to
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    stop and he used to say
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    [Music]
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    how often he would ask Allah for
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    protection from the fire does he have to
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    ask Allah's protection from the fire but
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    when you realize you remember those
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    verses you remember there's a serious
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    [Music]
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    consequence in Janam there's a tree
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    called the food of the sinners
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    [Music]
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    it's thorny you eat it and your stomach
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    inter signs come
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    out it burns the
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    [Music]
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    insides the verses about
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    Janam are very crucial to the process of
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    Toba
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    because without the fear of Allah
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    subhana wa tala there's no change
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    there's no behavioral change we'll never
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    take it seriously and so this is a very
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    important part that we have to remind
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    ourselves what is waiting for us if we
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    don't fulfill
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    Toba so you go through realization then
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    you need the hope then you need the fear
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    and that will push you towards change
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    and it's always a balance between the
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    two hope and fear is why the Quran
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    always balances the two passages of Hope
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    and fear hope and
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    fear and what happens after fear and
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    after change and after the realization
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    is you have a person who is not the same
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    as the person who began the process and
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    this is the power of
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    TBA the prophet sallallahu wasam informs
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    us that Allah subhana wa ta'ala is so
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    happy about the Toba the returning of a
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    slave of
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    his more than a bedwin who lost his
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    camel in the desert and he finds his
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    camel he got so excited he
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    [Music]
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    said yeah had the slave sorry and he
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    lost his slave he found him he got so
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    excited he jumbled up his words he said
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    you are my Lord and I'm the slave Allah
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    is more excited more happy about the
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    returning of a slave than this man the
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    prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
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    said if not for you committing
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    sins Allah would have gotten rid of you
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    and he would have brought other people
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    who came and sinned and they repented
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    because the process of repentance is
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    really crucial Allah does not want
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    Angels Allah does not want Perfection
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    Allah wants people who fall down and
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    they get back up straight away that is
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    what Toba is about the path to Allah is
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    not a path of perfection a path of
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    sinless angels you and me are not Angels
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    but it is
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    about turning back to Allah every time
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    we fall there's a
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    Dua that we will end with inshallah
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    there a very important Dua that every
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    day of his life the prophet Sall alhi
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    wasallam used to
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    say every morning every
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    evening the prophet sallallahu alaih
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    wasallam used to say this Dua and I'm
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    going to ask you all to repeat after
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    me oh Allah you are my
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    Lord there's none worthy of worship but
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    you
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    you created me and I am your
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    slave and I am trying my best with my
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    promise to you and my deal with
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    [Music]
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    you oh Allah protect me from the evil I
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    have done
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    [Music]
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    I confess your many blessings upon me
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    and I confess to you my many
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    sins this Dua is called the greatest
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    form of seeking forgiveness of Allah the
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    prophet Sall Al wasallam said if
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    somebody says this in the morning and
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    they die before the evening they said it
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    sincerely from the bottom of their heart
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    and they die before the evening they'll
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    be entered into
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    paradise and if someone says it in the
  • 00:40:10
    evening sincerely from the bottom of
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    their heart and they die before the
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    morning they will be entered into
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    Paradise this is the power of Toba Toba
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    cleans the Slate it formats the dis it
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    empties the sins the prophet sallallahu
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    alaihi wasallam informed us that Allah
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    subhana wa T conveyed to
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    oh son of
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    Adam if your sins reached the height of
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    the
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    heavens you came to me sincerely with no
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    Partners you addressed
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    me I will forgive everything you did and
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    I don't
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    care that is the Readiness of Allah to
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    accept but who is ready to turn
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    in the story We recited at the beginning
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    it ends with some beautiful words the
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    first Toba but certainly not the last
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    when Adam has his realization he makes
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    his resolve he changes his behavior and
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    he stands in front of Allah and he
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    [Music]
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    says Allah we wronged ourselves
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    if you don't forgive us and you don't
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    have mercy on us we are going to be
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    destroyed without Toba we are
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    destroyed because the mountain of our
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    sins will slowly change us and devolve
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    us until the Satan has devoured us we
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    cannot survive without Toba Toba to us
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    is like water to fish Is Like Oxygen you
  • 00:41:52
    can't do without it every morning and
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    evening we need to say this Dua say
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    memorize it download it screenshot it
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    whatever you want so that if Allah takes
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    your life before the evening you will
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    guaranteed an entrance to paradise and
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    if Allah takes your life at night in the
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    morning you are guaranteed entrance to
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    Paradise may Allah make us from the
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    people of paradise may Allah make us
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    from the people of
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    there's any questions please you can
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    continue you can bring them forth he
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    said if a person feels like they're
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    committing a sin and they're making Toba
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    and they're going back again they're
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    making Toba they're going back again
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    they're stuck in a vicious cycle what
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    would you advise them this is not a
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    vicious cycle brother this is a virtuous
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    cycle I know it feels like you're stuck
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    in the deed you feel
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    stuck but you have to almost see it like
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    Toba is a
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    cycle every time you make TBA it gets
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    slightly
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    better until the circles are slowly
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    moving
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    upwards it might take 10 15 20 Cycles
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    until you rid yourself of that
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    deed but the key
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    thing every time you make the
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    sin that firm resolve this is a
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    disgusting thing I have to stop I'm not
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    going to go back to this and I will stop
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    that has to be
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    there and you fall into it the next day
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    fine in that moment that commitment has
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    to be there 100% solid if that
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    commitment is there you are bound to
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    improve you're bound to improve and if
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    you don't you're not it's not that you
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    should not sin you should not fall into
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    the sin it's every time you fall you
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    have to get back up it's
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    exhausting but it is the path to change
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    you trust the process every time I will
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    sincerely follow the steps of pro of
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    Toba
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    regret resolve reset redeem I will
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    follow these steps you are bound to
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    change and make Dua Allah subhana tala
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    is merciful and you may be stuck for 6
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    months for a year but you won't be stuck
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    forever Allah subhana wa is merciful so
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    trust that process it's a virtuous cycle
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    and it takes a lot of stamina and it
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    takes a lot of Iman to get through it
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    but keep going inshallah and you will
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    get through it there's two ways to
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    overcome denial the first one is
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    feedback when you have real good
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    friends is when you sat on dinner and
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    you talk about somebody and they give
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    you the death
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    glare say brother we don't back by on
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    this table those are really good friends
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    you keep them very close you pay to keep
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    them around if you have to because if
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    you're in denial sometimes it takes a
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    third person to remind you Hab no that's
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    why the prophet sallai wasallam said
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    a Believer is a mirror of another
  • 00:44:59
    believer when you look in the mirror you
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    see some chocolate smudge on your cheek
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    you say oh no what happened here oh my
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    tie is not in the right place oh my the
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    mirror exposes your faults so if you are
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    in denial it just takes another person
  • 00:45:13
    to say no what you did was wrong that's
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    the first the first way advice feedback
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    family friends who fear Allah and they
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    fear Allah for
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    you the second one is
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    accountability ultimately at the core of
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    this
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    denial there's a lack of fear of
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    Allah or a lack of a realization of that
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    these sins can devour me if I let them
  • 00:45:45
    accumulate you know when you go to the
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    doctor and the doctor says look you know
  • 00:45:50
    your BMI has been increasing you've been
  • 00:45:51
    Gathering weight you see people they say
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    look you put on weight you can visibly
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    see things are getting worse
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    with sins you can't that's a problem you
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    don't see that account of sins that bank
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    of sins you don't see they're increasing
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    you don't see that they're impacting you
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    but they absolutely
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    are used to
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    say I see the effects of my sins in the
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    horse that I ride and the behavior of my
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    wife it comes back on you right so you
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    need that that realization is important
  • 00:46:24
    and there's no other way other than to
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    sit down and hold yourself to account
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    and have a hard real raw honest
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    conversation with yourself there's no
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    other
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    way
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    so what I will say is the morning and
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    evening if you have the routine of
  • 00:46:40
    sitting down 5 minutes for remembering
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    Allah when you come to this
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    Dua try to recall all the stuff you did
  • 00:46:52
    today all of the things that just need
  • 00:46:54
    to be wiped out
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    so use that routine of use that as an
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    opportunity or if you're going to say 50
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    20 times a day 10 times a day when you
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    sit down every time you say think of
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    something you did that needs to be
  • 00:47:09
    cleaned so you you need to confront it
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    in that either the feedback the
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    self-accountability will help with the
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    denial I don't believe there's any other
  • 00:47:17
    way it's a good question question is
  • 00:47:19
    like how do we ensure that we are
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    sincere when we ask Allah's
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    forgiveness you can't
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    nobody can know you can only
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    try unless anybody here has got like a
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    heart microscope that they've invented
  • 00:47:35
    that shows us what's what someone's
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    intention is you can't know that you're
  • 00:47:39
    sincere but there are some simple steps
  • 00:47:41
    that we can take and the first thing is
  • 00:47:44
    to pause and contemplate the meaning of
  • 00:47:46
    what we're
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    saying second is to pause and recall our
  • 00:47:50
    sins while we are saying it you know so
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    to slow it
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    down after
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    why and one time I was reciting to
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    my he said to me look behind
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    you I said what he said is there someone
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    behind you I said no he said why you
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    reciting so fast I oh yeah it's a good
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    point said nobody's running after
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    you take your
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    time slowing it down is more likely to
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    help you appreciate relish the taste of
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    the and I think that's the key component
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    slow everything down and let yourself
  • 00:48:30
    enjoy and taste and understand and feel
  • 00:48:33
    the weight of what you're
  • 00:48:34
    saying that's the and the other thing is
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    to remember what I mentioned the mercy
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    the fear of Allah the weight of your sin
  • 00:48:42
    if you're thinking about those things
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    your Toba is bound to be
  • 00:48:47
    sincere but you won't know if it's
  • 00:48:50
    sincere you can only try and these are
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    the ingredients may Allah grant us
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    sincere Toba
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    the sign of a sincere Toba there's a
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    symptom sign of a sincere Toba is
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    someone seriously trying to change their
  • 00:49:04
    behavior the sign of a lip service Toba
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    is go back right let's go back to the
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    Joint have a few sigs that's a sign of a
  • 00:49:12
    fake Toba sign of a sincere to someone
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    is wrestling with themselves to stop
  • 00:49:16
    doing what they're doing fighting with
  • 00:49:19
    themselves right they're really
  • 00:49:21
    determined to change that's the sign of
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    a sincere Toba Allah knows best how do
  • 00:49:25
    you increase your fear of Allah
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    first one is to know Allah his names
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    that are related to his strength and
  • 00:49:34
    might and
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    power the quick in
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    accounting the severe in
  • 00:49:42
    punishment the
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    Avenger these names of Allah if you
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    spend a bit of time with them they would
  • 00:49:56
    strike a deep into your heart there's
  • 00:49:57
    another way also to spend some time
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    observing Allah's
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    creation go watch videos of the
  • 00:50:04
    wildfires and what it can do in 20
  • 00:50:07
    minutes go look at videos of tsunamis
  • 00:50:10
    car
  • 00:50:11
    accidents natural disasters When You
  • 00:50:14
    observe the might and power of Allah it
  • 00:50:16
    leaves in you a sense of awe and a sense
  • 00:50:18
    of fear that you you don't want to mess
  • 00:50:20
    with Allah that's one that's one way the
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    second one is to read
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    [Music]
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    these suras which are full of reminders
  • 00:50:35
    of the fire and the day of judgment and
  • 00:50:37
    the standing in front of Allah the
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    prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
  • 00:50:42
    said H and its five sister suras made me
  • 00:50:46
    have gray hair that's how scary they
  • 00:50:49
    were so choose a Surah something as
  • 00:50:52
    small as
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    Al the small Surah
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    they're
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    deadly eight verses if you spend some
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    time with those eight verses you won't
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    sleep at
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    night so spend some time with the suras
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    that instill the fear of Allah and the
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    consciousness of Allah's
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    punishment Allah Knows Best
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