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hi guys it is the day before my birthday
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it's 8:41 so have a few more hours of
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being 21 I wasn't planning on recording
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this clip but I just saw this Tik Tok
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and I was like I need to record this
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clip right now these girls like seniors
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blasting emotional music on their last
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nights is making me unwell and they're
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like in college or something I was
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reading some comments and people are so
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bitter they're like as a 27-year-old I
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promise things get worse in college is
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the most fun you'll ever have or like
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this other person as someone who just
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turned 29 everything goes downhill after
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22 hope this helps the fear of Aging
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these days is so common and I was like
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that too I was so afraid of Aging I just
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wanted to stay a teenager forever I felt
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like that was like the coolest age and
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the most relevant age and after your
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teenage years life is just whatever and
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boring you're just waiting for your
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deathbed and present day me is here to
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say that is not true and it's just it
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hurts my heart to see people who are so
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bitter and afraid of aging and hate
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their lives and obviously these negative
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people in the comments are projecting
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because even someone responding can't
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relate life is amazing at 31 for me and
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then people are like [ __ ] on this
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person saying almost 200 people agree
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with the original poster two people
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spoke out otherwise wait and see over
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someone saying how they like their life
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how bitter do you have to be to to bring
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someone down like that it pissed me off
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seeing someone hate on someone enjoying
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their age and be like just wait and see
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just wait and see you life will get
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shitty I understand we're human beings
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we get really nostalgic but I just wish
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everyone would realize aging is such a
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beautiful thing today we're going to
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talk about chasing the Teenage Dream and
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how to not fear aging as a person who
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loves Coming of Age movies and has based
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their entire brand on being a teenager
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back in high school I used to be heavily
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afraid of Aging but my mindset shifted
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when I turned 20 and in this video I'm
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going to tell you how hello this is the
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show
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called I want to dis C okay let's start
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our
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[Music]
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show it's my
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birthday let's go on a hip
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Oh What a Beautiful
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dream Oh What a Beautiful
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[Music]
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s going on a little birthday hike with
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my friend it is 9:00 a.m. pretty early
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for me honestly
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[Music]
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it's so
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beautiful wow I can't believe I've never
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been here before and I've lived here my
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entire life that's crazy this is one of
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the places that I've always heard about
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but just never got around to going to or
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seeing yeah I parked on the side too I'm
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literally parked where all these cars
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are parked yeah me too okay I'm here
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yeah I'll be right here waiting for you
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okay a good thing to remember is that
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with every new decade still comes new
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experiences memories and privileges I
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get it when you're a teenager you get
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experience High School beginning of
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college a lot of first and you're
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learning a lot but exciting things don't
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stop after being a teenager in your 20s
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you get to experience so much you're an
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adult you have more freedom and access
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to do things you couldn't before whether
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that's things like traveling or having
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nights out or even more seemingly
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mundane things for example me
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experiencing this hiking trail for the
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first time not to mention you learn more
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about yourself cuz when you're a
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teenager you're just a conglomerate of
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your PE and classmates judgments I feel
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like when we're young we're all just
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insecure impressionable wrecks I found
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as you get older you're going to meet so
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many more people outside of just your
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little Hometown and everyone is much
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more comfortable being themselves I
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imagine in your 30s it's the same but
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even better you get wiser and really
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settle into who you are oh my God look
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at this Fool's Gold though look at this
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Fool's Gold guys can you see
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it no oh can you see it can this is
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where people go panning for gold the
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Gold Rush it's like cold but it's so
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nice yeah for the weather yeah but don't
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go in there right no or you'll
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die a lot of dead bodies in here guys
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yeah lot of dead bodies not here though
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cuz they move out oh cuz of the current
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what advice would you give someone
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afraid of growing up
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I would say do not care about what
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anyone says cuz we live in this short
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amount of time and in this life so be a
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kid until you can no longer be one I'm
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still a kid I don't care I do what I
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want to do it's
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fun 1 two three slipping through my
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fingers all the time I try to capture
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every
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minute slipping through my fingers all
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the time is it called slipping slipping
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through my fingers like we just been
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[Music]
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singing keeps on
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gr there's someone hiking by Like We
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join us join sing with
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us I am back now to quickly get changed
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and pack my things and head to meet my
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friends to go the lake I also picked up
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some cupcakes for my friends and I so we
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can do a little you know birthday
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celebration all right let's
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[Music]
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go if you have ever wondered what's in
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my Lake bag SL beach bag this is my
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go-to bag it's a vintage not me calling
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a military bag vintage obviously it's
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[ __ ] vintage my journal and a pen my
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current read sunscreen this is kad's
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beauty Elixir it's basically just a
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facial M spray cuz my skin gets dry eyes
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so I can just like spray it after I go
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into the water hand sanitizer Aqua for
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Chopstick eye drops my eyes always get
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really dry with my contacts my film
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camera my Digi and then in this case a
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lighter for the cupcakes and a mini
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tripod for my blog camera and my keys
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and that is what's in my bag and also
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sunglasses this Puka shell necklace that
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I thrifted I don't know if Puka shell
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necklaces are like tacky I don't know
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how people view them but personally I
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really like it especially in the
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summertime I just I just got to pull
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this bad boy out I literally do not wear
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this anytime unless I'm near a body of
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water suddenly when I'm near a body of
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water this has to be on my neck when
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this is on my neck summer mode is
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activated it also just looks really cute
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hanging from the side of my bag anyway
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let's
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go here is my little sister Destiny and
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she is 13 years old now her first year
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being a teenager how does it feel feels
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great um what are you most excited for
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being a teenager now high school because
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actually um not really I'm more stressed
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about it um what age are you excited to
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be um 16 cuz I can D or wait did you get
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your 16 right mhm 16 because I could
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drive and hang
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out
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[Music]
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16 happy birthday should I read this
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first or should I look this
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[Music]
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okay it's okay St thank you you made
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prints I made print oh my just one print
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yay thank you wo it's turn out a lot
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better it's so cute guys she finally did
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it she made an an art print take it up
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when do you think your art Shop's going
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to go up I don't know hopefully by that
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you have like a month okay before this
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video gets up she has her Art Shop up I
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will have it linked go go
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[Music]
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sh do you guys only take cash as
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well okay yay there's this like cherry
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strawberry stand when you drive to the
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lake and I've always wanted to stop and
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get some and we're finally doing it
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today now that you're 22 now that I'm 22
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I can get strawberries can we have just
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a cherries one
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you okay thank you have a nice day you
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too what is one piece of advice you give
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someone who's afraid of growing up it's
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not as scary as you would
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[Music]
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think guys a minute ago she was like
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like me like like just keep pushing girl
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that's what she said I don't have any
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advice I don't know what to do someone
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give me that advice well watch this
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video I'll be given that
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[Music]
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advice what is one piece of advice you
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would give to someone who's afraid of
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growing up don't think too fast try to
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Center yourself in the now I mean you
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can't really predict the future so all
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you really have is today so just strive
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each day to be your better version of
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yourself better than my
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her answer just keep pushing girl that's
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true though that's honestly true though
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oh damn these are hella sweet see guys
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you got to try new things that
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strawberry stand you always want to go
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to go to it people tend to forget
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there's a beauty in getting to
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experience every age aging is a
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privilege we've heard this before but
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not everyone gets to grow old yes it's
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bittersweet that we have no control over
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how long we got to stay in a certain
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period but I think that's the beauty of
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it there's a time limit to life if helps
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remind you to stay present and be
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grateful also you already got to
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experience that past age don't you want
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to experience something else and see
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what's to come high school and your
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teenage years are only a small portion
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of your life and honestly it truly
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doesn't matter afterwards you don't
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realize it till you're out of it there's
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so much more excitement in the future
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and that's the mindset you have to
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adapt
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summer funny enough the Sex in the City
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really helps me they were these group of
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women in their 30s and 40s still living
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it up in New York City that's why I
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truly believe we need more media based
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on older protagonists we just have too
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much media based on teenagers and stuff
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even college students I feel like we
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don't have enough media based on college
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students either so I think showcasing
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just older people living their lives and
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it's not just them playing a parent role
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or something like that could really show
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everyone that life doesn't stop after
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being a teenager being young and also I
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feel like in general just the Teenage
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Dream the concept so unrealistic you're
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expected to have you know the perfect
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friends that you hang out with every
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weekend and you can go to their house
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unannounced and open their fridge like
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in the TV shows or experience your first
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relationship your first love have the
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perfect boyfriend girlfriend have the
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perfect family where you eat family
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dinners every night and just have the
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perfect life a lot of that stuff takes a
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lot of time and a lot of luck to develop
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so obviously it's not super realistic to
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achieve all that get all that while
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you're young and you don't really have
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too much control over that but when
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you're older things develop you have a
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little bit more control over your life
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and you know you could get those things
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so I just feel like it's kind of like
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trying to be successful when you're
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young but in life terms like you don't
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have to be successful all in your young
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years you have your entire life to live
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to get all those
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things birthday to my dearest
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that's happy birthday to you today was
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such a lovely birthday doing things I
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love being outside in nature with my
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friends and just spending time with them
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and doing Sumer things and I got to you
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know cut a cake with my with my parents
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my family today was honestly like the
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most perfect day lately in life I've
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just been having like so many good days
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I feel very happy I'm so content now I'm
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back home from the lake took my shower I
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got that nice you know sun-kissed tan
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sleepiness right now one of the best
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parts about going to the lake or going
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to the beach or something it's like that
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post afterwards when you're all tan but
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a little bit sweaty but then you shower
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and then you're all tan and Sun kiss and
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you feel good even though my birthday
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this year was very simple like nothing
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too crazy nothing too big but it still
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felt so lovely and special to me in past
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birthdays I feel like I've always done
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something like a little bit grander also
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these ages always felt special and
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that's the thing about being 22 now this
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year is the first year in a in a long
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time that it's been just like very
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quaint but I still loved it just as much
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I feel like 22 gets a bad rep like any
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age past 21 gets a bad rep people look
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at it as filler years they're not looked
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at as very special when people are past
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the age of 21 no one is really proud of
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their age I'm not going to lie I kind of
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felt that cuz every year I stay up till
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midnight for my birthday this is the
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first year I stayed up for my birthday
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and I didn't feel like this special
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energy inside I didn't feel like this
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excitement where I was like oh my God
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I'm 22 and I think that's because every
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age prior to to 22 18 to 21 that age
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demographic not only am I no longer part
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of that 18 to 21 age demographic anymore
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which feels weird but there's nothing
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really special that comes with 22 when
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you're 18 you can like I think buy
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cigarettes and stuff like that and like
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you know stuff happens you're legal
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you're legal adult and when you're 19 I
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think 19 is looked at as not as a
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special year but I looked at it as a
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special year because I'm a I'm a lord
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fan and she has a whole album about
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being 19 and also I think 19 is just
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such a special age cuz it's your last
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year being a teenager you just kind of
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really live it up and turning 20
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obviously you're entering your 20s
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that's special and then 21 you can drink
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legally in the US so that's also really
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special every age the past four years
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has been so special and this is the
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first year that nothing really special
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has come but honestly I don't really
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like the bad rap it gets I don't like
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the propaganda on ages past 21 until you
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hit 25 I think 25 is a cool age but then
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after that it's like 30s then you know
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every five is the the special age but I
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hate that I'm trying really hard to not
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feel that way even though now naturally
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I do feel that way but I'm trying to
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shift my perspective I don't want to be
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that person that that ages and you know
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is bitter and hates their age and thinks
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they're old I want to look at every age
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as special cuz every age is special I
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mean it does help that I am literally
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when I'm filming this I am well in a few
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hours to start my backpacking trip
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around the world oh just casual So that
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obviously really helps it helps me
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correlate 22 with something special
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which is I'm about to travel the world
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at age 22 and I think it does help to
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correlate something with the age so this
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year it's traveling abroad but maybe 23
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it's correlated with something else even
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something more simple like maybe I don't
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know knock something off my bucket list
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every age is special because every day
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you're still living your life although
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22 isn't looked at as the most
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significant age but I disagree I think
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22 is a very cool and special age and
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I'm going to cherish it and I'm so
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excited to see what 22 has to come and
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bring me actually I want to read a
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journal entry I'm only going to read a
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section of the journal entry that's like
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relevant to what I want to talk about
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Amber asked me today what has been my
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favorite age and I responded I feel like
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every age has only gotten better and
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genuinely I couldn't think of a specific
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age that I thought was the best age I
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genuinely have felt like every year
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every age has been good and every year
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the age just gets better and that's not
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to say oh 21 was the best age no I
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appreciate every age for what it was and
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genuinely I have loved living through
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every age and I don't think one is
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better than the other I don't have a
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favorite every year comes so many new
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new memories new experiences new growth
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new friends this past year has been so
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good having that conversation today I
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wish I was filming it but I didn't want
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to pull out my camera just cuz we were
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it was just such like a organic the
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conversation just happened very briefly
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that little conversation made me realize
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lot I was like wow that was such like a
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beautiful conversation and I didn't even
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know I felt that way until she asked me
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that question and I just naturally set
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it out loud also I wanted to do a little
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birthday haul I'm never the one to get a
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lot of gifts on my birthday I've just
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never have gotten gifts from people it's
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just not really a thing that happens in
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my life and honestly I'm okay with it
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I'm not even a huge gift guy I'm the
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kind of guy who likes really specific
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things and will just buy things for
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myself right away when I want them this
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year I was asking my family what I want
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for my birthday my mom got me this
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backpack that I was already going to buy
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for my backpacking trip my brothers
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asked me what I wanted for my birthday
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and I literally think I'm just going to
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have them go havies on my travel
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insurance so if you ever wonder what you
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need to get me for my birthday that's
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the kind of stuff I'm going to ask for
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very prac gold I was honestly pleasantly
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surprised this year that my my friends
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gave me little gifts friend Amber she
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gave me this like first of all beautiful
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handmade card Amber has been in her
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scrapbooking bag lately I keep every
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birthday card so I have like a shoe box
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just filled with birthday cards from
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years prior a handwritten letter or note
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that is love you know what I mean that
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is something I will cherish forever and
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I do I keep it all it's all in my shoe
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box for the actual gift she gave me this
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art print this is her original artwork
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she's been working on this piece and
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I've been like sliding up on her stories
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and telling her how much I love this
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piece and like I want art prints of this
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if you guys don't know the lore if you
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guys watch our painting video that we
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did few years back I've been telling
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this girl to open an art shop for so
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freaking long y'all the art print thing
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is practically just like an inside joke
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at this point it's like just a running
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gag will she ever open her Art Shop we
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shall see I'll probably make it happen
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guys I'll make it happen for you guys
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I'll push her to do it I've just been
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talking about this art piece a lot from
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par just cuz I just think it's so cool
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and I love the colors and she got the
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art print made for me this is I think
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the only art print of this piece that
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she's made so far so I feel very special
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the first and only one for right now I
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can't wait to frame it and hang it in my
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room and then my friend Ella she gave me
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a birthday card as well I will say with
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Ella every year we have given each other
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just really long messages on birthday
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cards it's quite a tradition we have
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right now it's generally so
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sweet so sweet I love my friend so much
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Ella's just so good at writing cards
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honestly she gave me a gift this year
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which I was very shocked about cuz like
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we never give each other gifts she
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actually got me this like mini radio how
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cute is that and it's also a bluetooth
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speaker at the same
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time9 got to the offse yeah it's like a
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real ass radio and it has like a whole
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antenna like oh my God it's so so cool
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literally every time I go to the lake
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dude I'm bringing this to me that was
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the little birthday gift haul I've just
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been feeling so grateful for everyone in
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my life lately I think this is like the
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first time I felt really loved
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especially by my friends I feel like my
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friendships have been the strongest
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they've ever been like I got so many
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birthday messages and made me realize
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wow I have like a lot of friends now if
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you guys have been watching me for a
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while I've never been one to have that
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many friends ever or like friend groups
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I've never had a friend group before so
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the fact that I have like so many
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friends now this is like what younger me
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always wanted just was like a lot of
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friends and to feel loved and I feel
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that way way which this is what age does
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guys you meet more people you experience
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more life and 16-year-old me would have
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never thought I'd have this many friends
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who actually care about me and love me
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and look at me now Look at me freaking
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now y'all that's why I'm saying Adent is
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so good and you know you're genuinely
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happy when yes you still have the things
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that you want and you envy for like for
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me personally like I still have some
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career goals I would like to hit but yet
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even though I still have those wants I'm
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still so content and grateful for I
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already have and that's how you know
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you're happy when you have this like
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warm full feeling yes I have these goals
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but I'm also just so happy with what I
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already have honestly if this is what I
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end up with for my entire life I'm happy
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with that cuz like honestly one of the
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most important things is life is your
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community and I have that now to wrap
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this up if you leave this video with
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anything I will just say once you accept
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the fact that you were just scared and
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start embracing that there's still so
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many great new things that are coming
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and can come into your life is when you
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won't be as fearful anymore and I think
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that's just the key to growing up
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there's just so much of life to
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experience and you haven't experienced
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it all yet and I think that's how I'm
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going to conclude this so anyway I hope
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you guys enjoyed my annual birthday
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video and I hope it helped you whether
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it opened up your mind a little bit
00:21:16
brought new ideas or even just brought
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you a little bit of comfort happy
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birthday to me and I am now going to get
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2 hours of sleep and then go on a plane
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cuz I'm traveling the world baby come on
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22 hey also I will say I'm not on this
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like high hor I've not figured out
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everything I think with this and with
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everything in life there's highs and
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lows there's you know days where I
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probably won't like getting older
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obviously Cons with getting older as
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well health stuff like that again you
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just have to embrace what's to come even
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embrace the down days of how you feel
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about aging bye guys bye
