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hello welcome or welcome back to my
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channel I'm Beth and today I'm going to
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be talking about self-care just a note
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from editing Beth I'm so sorry but my
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face is not in focus for the whole video
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but I'm not re-recording
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it you're just going to have to see me a
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little bit blurry I'm sorry love you wi
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is a topic that is very dear to my heart
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because it's something that I practice
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every single day and without it I don't
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know how I'd cope to be honest um I'm
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somebody who struggles with mental
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health is issues and skin condition and
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I generally get quite burnt out um just
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from daily life and being able to
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implement self-care practices really
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really helps me to stay grounded and to
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stay More Level throughout my life um so
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yeah that's something I wanted to talk
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about today and a big thing I wanted to
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talk about before I get into some good
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self-care techniques is what self-care
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isn't
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because I find that self-care is so so
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often
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misunderstood and misrepresented on
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social media specifically um places like
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Tik Tok it is very very often shown to
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be something that's heavily reliant on
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products especially hygiene products um
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there are many hauls on Tik Tok titled
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self-care hauls which I'm going to show
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a couple on the screen um as I'm talking
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about this and and this is no hate to
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these people who make these videos but
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it is
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damaging in my opinion
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because this isn't genuine self-care
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that is going to help you it is just a
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way for companies to get you to spend
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more money on their products and and to
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feel like you're reliant on their
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products um yeah I see a lot of these
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videos about people going around like
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boots or Target or whatever kind of um
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drugstore or shop and they buy they
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spend an insane amount of money on body
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scrubs and moisturizers and bath bombs
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and face masks face masks is the really
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big one if you like for self-care um
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it's what a lot of people first think
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when they think of self-care it's oh a
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face mask and a bath um which don't get
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me wrong can be a part of self-care for
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some people depending on your needs but
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it is not the be all and end all and you
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do not need products to practice it so
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that's what self-care isn't is products
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and skin care and so on inherently not
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just those things
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um like I said it can be a part of a
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self-care routine for me um I have a
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skin condition I have eczema that is
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quite sore at the moment so for me um
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using skincare and Etc can actually be
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really helpful for me and puts me out a
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lot of pain and soreness um that I would
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otherwise be in but um there are so many
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other things that I Implement into my
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life that really really helped me from
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um
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overwhelm and they do not rely
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on spending
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money um so yeah just don't ever think
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that because you don't have any money to
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spend on a bunch of stuff that you can't
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look after yourself and take care of
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yourself just remember that self-care is
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so much more than buying things I feel
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like I repeated myself a lot there but
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it's just something that I want to get
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across probably because I think it's
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just so important that people understand
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that
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self-care can be so many different
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things depending on your individual
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needs as a person um depending on what
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relaxes you and what you struggle with
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personally I when I'm stressed the first
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thing that goes out the window is I stop
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feeding myself I don't nourish my body I
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don't look after myself properly and I
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will just eat whatever is very quick and
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easy to consume and then I feel way
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worse um so a really really big
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self-care thing for me is cooking for
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myself and nourishing my body and
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listening to my body's needs and
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respecting that
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um it's not starving myself it's really
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taking the time to look after my body
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properly um and that's something I don't
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I don't see in these in these self-care
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videos is like nourishing your body on
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the on the inside like properly
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nourishing it not just slapping a cream
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on and calling it the day calling it a
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day
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um for me
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also it you know this is probably not
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one of the things you think of when it
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comes to self-care but I get a lot of um
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stress background stress from say if I
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have an email to send or I have a bill
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to pay or some sort
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of little chore that I need to get out
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of the way that I've been putting off
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sometimes the biggest self-care thing I
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can do for myself is getting that out
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the way even if it's 5 minutes of GH I
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don't want to do this the Elation I feel
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afterwards is just so nice and it allows
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me to be able to actually relax properly
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and shut my brain off without obsessing
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over it in the back of my mind but just
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putting it off because oh I want to
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relax sometimes relaxing is doing the
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thing you really need to do and then you
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can relax I used to as well just when I
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thought oh I need to have a selfcare
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night I'd run a bath for myself um which
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is great but then I'd sit in the bath
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and I would be on my phone the whole
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time scrolling which is not self-care
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you're not giving your brain a break and
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it is just you know it's going from the
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sofa and scrolling to going in the bath
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and scrolling and I've done that for so
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long
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because it is kind of scary to be in
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your own thoughts sometimes as somebody
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who is kind of addicted to social media
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it's difficult but the most amazing
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thing I did the other day and it sounds
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so so simple it was just just having a
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bath by candle light and having no fun
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not even a book just nothing and I just
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sat there and I just relaxed and I
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enjoyed the bath and it sounds so stupid
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but something as simple as that is
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so just relieving um if you if you don't
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do that if you already do it great keep
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doing it but I know a lot of people do
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stay on their phone in the bath and on
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the topic of phones and technology a
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really big thing you can do for yourself
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is to set boundaries in regards to them
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um taking days where you don't go on
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your phone or you don't go on social
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media is very very beneficial and it's
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so easy to forget that it's not natural
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for us to be constantly glued to a
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device because it's so entrenched in our
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daily lives at this point but if you
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take even an hour or however long you
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can away from your phone it genuinely is
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just such a good feeling and your brain
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needs that break um sometimes I think
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from even doing anything because I read
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every night and that's great but
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sometimes even taking time from just not
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doing anything no reading no consuming
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literally just sitting with your
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thoughts um that is a form of
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meditation even just cuz you don't have
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your eyes closed and you're humming
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doesn't mean you're not meditating I
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think just allowing your thoughts to
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come and go and not judging them just
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allowing them to be there and not trying
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to sh them away by watching Tik toks um
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yeah that's very very beneficial for you
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ooh another big one is movement and uh
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whatever kind of movement you enjoy
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doing that can be going to the gym or
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which I doubt is a lot of people because
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going to the gym sometimes is so rigid
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and just not the most fun unless it's
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something that you do as a hobby um but
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it can be stretching or it can be yoga
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or it can be pole dancing or going to a
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dance class or swimming or whatever you
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enjoy doing but when you're feeling down
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Sometimes the best thing you can do for
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yourself is to get some movement in and
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to exercise because it does Rel release
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endorphins and it's sometimes the last
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thing you want to do is really what you
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need to be doing for
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yourself um and I think that's the point
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I'm trying to create here is that self
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care isn't always just this pretty
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little cream in a pink pink pot it's you
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know sometimes it's doing what you kind
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of don't want to do and then you will
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feel so much better during and after um
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it's looking out for yourself in a way
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that is goes more than just past the
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surface it's genuinely looking at what
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you need as a person and what is lacking
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in your life and following through with
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that so for me like just a very low
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stakes easy sort of movement is just
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stretching um I just put some slow music
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on and I just stretch however my body
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wants me to you can watch a YouTube
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video whatever you want to do but the
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relief my body feels when I do that it's
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like God I forgot how good this feels to
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just stretch my body um it's definitely
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something I need to do more and I mean
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so are most of these things to be honest
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just listening to your body things like
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having a good sleep schedule having good
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sleep hygiene um getting enough rest
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exercising when you need to um just
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whatever your body is really asking you
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listen to it um even sometimes like I'll
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be sitting there on my phone the phone
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is always the issue here um and I'll
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really need to go and pee and I put it
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off rages cuz I don't listen to my body
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and I think it's something a lot of
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people struggle with now um people from
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like younger people from our generation
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we struggle to listen to our own bodies
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because
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it's we just want to be distracted
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constantly but sometimes just tuning in
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is just really really what you need and
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going back to the issue of the
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misconception of self-care with products
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and
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everything sometimes again depending on
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the
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individual the best thing you can do is
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not spend money you know if you if
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you're struggling financially like me um
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if you don't have a big income or any
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income like me um being aware of your
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finances and being honest with yourself
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about what you can and cannot afford
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goes a long way because sure it might
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feel great the dopamine hit you get when
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you first buy something um but most of
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the time at least for myself I feel
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really crap like 20 minutes after or
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after I've opened it because I'm like
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great I'm even further into debt now and
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I have this other thing lying around
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that actually doesn't really make a
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difference to my life at all um so yeah
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having B iies with yourself in terms of
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finances and all the other things I've
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already spoken about um it's very
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important and talking about boundaries
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as well I think having boundaries with
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the people in your life um is also very
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important to take care of yourself
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because there's some people that maybe
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we do need to keep at arms length um or
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there's just certain things we need to
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request in our relationships and
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friendships and that's okay advocating
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for yourself and being there for
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yourself um is very important but yeah I
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think it really comes down to yourself
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as an individual some people have very
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very busy day-to-day lives um and what
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they really need to do for themselves is
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to allow themselves to rest I've known
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people throughout my life that are the
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opposite to me and they will just
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constantly be doing things and they
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won't say no to anything and they'll
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make plans constantly and they never
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ever allow themselves rest and I do see
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that coming back to bite them um and
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then there's other people like myself
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who I probably don't do enough um
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because I have struggled with depression
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and a lot of anxiety but now that I'm
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trying to work on that and improve that
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I do recognize that I need to do more
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for myself I need to socialize more with
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people I need to exercise a little bit
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more and I am trying to slowly um
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improve those things something i' maybe
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recommend doing is getting a notepad or
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writing it in your notes and your phone
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or whatever you can write it down on um
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maybe write down a list of things that
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have been bothering you recently or
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creating stress in your life or
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discomfort and then looking at how you
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might be able to alleviate these things
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um if it is that you're just super super
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busy taking time to slow down would be
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great or if it's somebody in your life
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that you need to communicate with
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sometimes having that uncomfortable
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communication is the best thing you can
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do for yourself um to alleviate the
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anxiety around that yeah just remember
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it comes from within self-care does and
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very rarely comes from items and
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commodities I decided to make this video
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today because I'm Ill um I've got a cold
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from my boyfriend who's just got better
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and now he's given it to me um I'm my
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period starting in a day my Eczema is
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bad at the moment and I'm just generally
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really burnt out so I'm going to have a
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nice self-care evening I'm going to have
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a bath um I'm not going to take my phone
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in I'm going to read my book about
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anxiety it's all about anxiety and how
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it exists in the body and the anatomy of
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it um I'm going to make a lovely meal
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for myself and then I'm going to make
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some
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pancakes and I'm going to do a jigsaw
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just something slow to wind down whilst
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I listen to an audio book before bed and
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I'm going to spend some nice time with
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my partner when he gets home from work
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so I'm just going to slow down um and
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probably before all those things I am
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going to give my a little clean because
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that's something that's been stressing
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me out and it's something that I need to
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do I really hope this video has helped
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you even if it's a little bit if you
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have made this far in the video I
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applaud you I'm so proud of you thank
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you um and if you have then leave me a
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comment so I know um saying telling me
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one thing that you implement in your
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life for self-care um CU I'm interested
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in how different
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people combat their stress um
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and who knows we might all be able to
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help each other with some new techniques
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and especially help me because I'm
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stressed at the moment please help me um
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but yeah I hope you have a lovely
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evening or morning or night or whatever
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time of day it is and I love you and
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yeah bye-bye
