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welcome back to my channel and today I
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would like to talk about psychological
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domination the mind games that you can
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play with your sub but before I start I
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would like to invite you to join my free
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telegram Channel if you haven't so let's
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begin when you hear what I'm going to
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talk about you'll probably think that oh
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my God but these are just
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manipulations exactly but you know the
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difference is that he wanted that he
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asked for it okay um obviously you can
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apply these techniques to any gender
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yeah whether you're man or a woman and
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whether your sub is man or a woman it
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doesn't matter but since I'm talking
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about my whole channel is about female
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domination I will talk about male Subs
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yeah and I will talk about him let's
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imagine that I have a submissive and I
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want
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to play with his mind this is something
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largely desired by man not to be just
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physically owned and bidden but also to
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have their mind possessed by someone
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someone who can control them on a deeper
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level not just physical one
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psychological domination is so much more
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sophisticated than just physical
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domination and it takes actual
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intelligence it also takes a lot of
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empathy but not necessarily in terms of
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feeling emotions but just intellectual
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empathy when you understand when you
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know how you make the other person feel
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and before I share all the manipulations
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with you I would like to remind you that
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we are talking about consenting adults
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who know what they're doing this man he
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wanted that he wanted to be dominated
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psychologically okay it's the same if
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you think about physical sadism and
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masochism um in terms of BDSM we don't
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see it as abuse because both people are
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mindful enough and they follow the rules
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they follow the protocol it's just a
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game for adults same goes for
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psychological domination okay first
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technique is push and pull or hot and
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cold you give him so much attention so
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much care he feels
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appreciated he feels cherished like the
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most precious thing for you mommy is
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going to take care of this little boy
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yes of course he is so
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important and he gets a lot of it from
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you it's not necessarily positive maybe
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you can express your affection in a
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different
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way but then you take it
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away you withdraw your attention you
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know how to make someone appreciate what
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they actually have is to take it away
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from them you can use this technique
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unattached to anything to any
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patterns just as a mind game just for
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your own fun and pleasure because when
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you withdraw your attention what's going
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to happen he will crave it and as I like
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to say if you don't crave it if you
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don't beg for it you don't really want
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it so it's really intensify the desire
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the
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obsession and obedience but if you want
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to make it even more beneficial for you
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you can tie to the pavlovian technique
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you can reward only the good behavior
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with your attention and when his
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behavior is less than good so it's
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either bad behavior or lack of good
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behavior you can ignore
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him yeah we can talk about silence
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treatment here because silence
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is the biggest punishment for a sub lack
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of any attention even negative attention
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because negative attention is basically
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given pleasure if you spank him or if
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you start scen him you reward him in
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fact but silence is the actual
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punishment and since we are talking only
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about consent in adults yeah who have
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clear
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communication and they had a prior
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conversation about wants and needs he's
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supposed to know what you
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want but actually if he tries to guess
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it's also not that bad and since we
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started talking about the pavlovian
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technique yeah it's not only about
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rewarding the good behavior it's also
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about creating the triggers when he
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understands that something good is going
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to happen for example
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you take off your shoes and he knows
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that it's a sign that he's going to suck
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on your toes for example when you lean
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back in your chair and you measure him
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look at him up and down he knows that
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you are getting into your dumb space and
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he's about to get dominated and you are
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about to have fun so he expected so
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these little things when he can read
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your behavior another technique is
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actually the opposite of that is when
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you are
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unpredictable especially when it comes
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to reward Maybe he's so used to you
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showing some signs that would mean that
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you are about about to spank him
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or to ask him to do something and once
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in a while just take it away from him
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take away this confidence take away all
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this
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expectations don't let him know your
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next
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move I personally love doing something a
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man does not expect such
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as it partially refers to tease and
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denial but it it it's not just that
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that's that's the element of surprise
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that's the element of shock for example
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you tie him up yeah you blindfold him
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you start touching him and he thinks
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that he is about to get something nice
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right now and then you just leave the
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room and he doesn't know when you're
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going to come back that's the fun part
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sometimes I do it with um vanilla
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guys um because I just don't like the
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same scenario I don't like when it goes
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um the path that is known for everyone
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especially when you by their behavior
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you realize that they probably watch
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porn yeah all
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this all these actions they're very
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similar they're all the same and I find
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it boring and I find it uh sometimes
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uncomfortable like I don't want to be in
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this and I just can do something that
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they don't expect such as like I can
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just stand up and leave not just leave
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the room but the house and go
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way and since I mentioned teas and
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denial yeah let's talk about teas and
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denial teas and denial is a great game
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which you can play with yourself and
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since we're talking about psychological
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domination not physical one you should
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tease only by speaking so you satisfy
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his
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needs through
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words okay you don't actually do the
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action you don't even touch him you can
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just describe how exactly you would do
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it where you would touch him and how
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good it would
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be I don't know to
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finish but you're not going to do
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that just create the expectation the
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craving but he's not going to get
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anything another manipulation is the
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illusion of choice so it's when you give
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him a couple of choices which are not
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really choices and you predetermined
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everything the the point is that he is
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not dumb and he knows that you are
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manipulating him and that's arousing
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okay cuz you are in control here he
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doesn't get to decide when you tell him
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would you like to scrub the floor or to
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wash the dishes okay he picks one he
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does it yeah perfect maybe you should do
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the second one to the next one reverse
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psychology oh maybe you don't really
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want that H maybe we shouldn't continue
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maybe we should just stop it's when I
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see when he gets like really obsessed
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with
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something or maybe if he doesn't yeah
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maybe when the desire isn't strong
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enough or maybe he doesn't express it
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strongly enough I would use the reverse
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psychology because I'm not waiting for
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someone to get tired of the game because
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a dum is not supposed to jump around the
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sub satisfying his needs and trying to
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um fulfill his every desire okay let's
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do this let's do this let's try this
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no you started with one
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thing and you see well maybe he's uh I'm
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not saying not into that yeah and not
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even hesitant It's just sometimes men
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don't express themselves
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explicitly so in this case you can say
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well I don't think that you actually
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want it show me how much you want it
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show me how much you want to please me
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and as I said you can also use it when
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he's obsessed and desperate it also
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works and it's quite funny when they beg
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then the next game I would like to
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suggest is role reversal I just love
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role
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play I suggest that you tell your sub
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that now he's going to be the dominant
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one okay for example let's play now
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you're going to be a teacher or my boss
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or some kind of
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instructor so he's supposed to tell you
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what to do maybe it's going to be way
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too awkward for him but he will try and
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it doesn't matter if he's good or bad or
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this yeah that's not the point you just
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tell him that uh listen that's not how
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you do it it okay that's like the words
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that you use they don't actually touch
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this in me yeah they don't cause
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submission in me that's how you're
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supposed to do it and then you show him
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how to actually dominate someone next
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game that I really like is causing the
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deepest suppressed
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emotions such as guilt and shame guilt
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and shame are powerful tools that's why
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I prefer to know the background of a sub
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I want to know about his childhood
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traumas about his insecurity so I can
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use it against him in fact I already
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mentioned it many times that I
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like well some sort of self therapy I
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love therapy work and I see BDSM is a
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great tool I think that
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through Dom sub Dynamic we can actually
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work through a lot of things if both
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people are Mindful and wish well to each
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other
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so you can actually help usab go through
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certain trauma in his life by dropping
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him into the same state he was at when
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he was a child remind him of something
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traumatic maybe talk to him the way his
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mom talked to him make him feel ashamed
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and guilty for whatever it doesn't
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doesn't really matter you're just having
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dinner and you don't like the way he
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holds a fork here you can obviously
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attach your
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disappointment yeah you are disappointed
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in him every
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action is just so
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insufficient he's not enough I know that
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sounds really painful but that's the
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point of psychological domination yeah
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cuz you don't ask what's the point of
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sadism and masochism yeah why people
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it's a separate topic why people are
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into that but somehow most people
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understand physical
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stuff but why would someone want to be
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degraded and
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manipulated well they want their mind to
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be possessed by someone else they don't
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want to be in control they want to let
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go of control and that's also a form of
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masochism but through pain you can reach
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catharsis and Enlightenment and the last
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one for Desert is my favorite G
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light what are you talking about it
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never happened I never saw that you were
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the most pathetic person in the world it
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all was maybe in your dream I don't know
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gas lighting is a serious form of
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psychological abuse but since we are
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talking about psychological
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domination the sub knows that you're
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just playing with him that's the main
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difference from actual abuse right
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you're not trying to drive him crazy
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only at the moment only within the
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frames the time frames you don't do it
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on a daily basis I'm not teaching you
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how to be like pure evil I'm talking
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about games and these are obviously not
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all psychological manipulations because
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there are so many of them I just wanted
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to share something that I use like more
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or less frequently
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something that I find
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interesting
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something well I think lots of Subs
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appreciate from my experience
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and you can share in the comments down
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below yeah maybe something I missed
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maybe if there more maybe like at least
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five more I would make another video I
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didn't mention blackmail because I'm not
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really into
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blackmail but if you want a video about
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it yeah I can think about it and that's
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