Wellcast: How to Apologize

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U3Ou-578ekM

Resumo

TLDRThe video emphasizes the importance of apologizing and provides a four-step guide to help individuals navigate the process. It highlights that the ability to apologize is linked to emotional health and self-esteem, with studies showing that those who apologize tend to fare better in life. The four steps include assessing the situation, writing a game plan for the apology, engaging in a conversation rather than a monologue, and making amends to prevent future mistakes. The video encourages viewers to confront their fears about apologizing and offers practical advice to make the process easier.

Conclusões

  • 📝 Apologizing is a crucial life skill.
  • 💪 Strong self-esteem correlates with the ability to apologize.
  • 📊 Apologizers may fare better financially.
  • ⛰️ Assess the situation before apologizing.
  • 🗣️ Write a practice apology speech.
  • 🤝 An apology should be a conversation, not a monologue.
  • 🔄 Make amends to prevent repeating mistakes.
  • 😌 Putting off an apology is often more painful than apologizing.
  • 💬 Be honest about your feelings during the apology.
  • 🚫 Avoid using 'but' in your apology.

Linha do tempo

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:20

    The video discusses the importance of apologizing, countering the famous quote 'love means never having to say you're sorry.' It emphasizes that the ability to apologize is a crucial life skill, particularly in relationships. Research indicates that those who apologize tend to be emotionally healthier and even financially better off. The video outlines four steps to effectively apologize: 1) Assess the situation by writing down the story of the conflict, 2) Prepare a script for the apology, ensuring to acknowledge wrongdoing without excuses, 3) Engage in a conversation rather than delivering a monologue, and 4) Make amends by committing to change. Overall, the video encourages viewers to confront the discomfort of apologizing and to take actionable steps towards resolution.

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Vídeo de perguntas e respostas

  • Why is apologizing important?

    Apologizing is crucial for emotional health and maintaining relationships.

  • What are the benefits of being able to apologize?

    People who apologize tend to be emotionally healthier and may fare better financially.

  • What is the first step in the apology process?

    Assess the situation by writing down the story of what happened.

  • How should I prepare for an apology?

    Write out a practice apology speech that acknowledges your mistake and takes responsibility.

  • What should I avoid when apologizing?

    Avoid using 'but' in your apology and don't over-apologize for everything.

  • What is the role of conversation in an apology?

    An apology should be a conversation, allowing the other person to express their feelings.

  • What should I do after apologizing?

    Make amends by writing down ways to change your actions for the better.

  • How can I overcome the fear of apologizing?

    Recognize that putting off an apology is often more painful than the act of apologizing itself.

  • What is a common misconception about apologies?

    The idea that love means never having to say you're sorry is misleading.

  • How can I ensure I don't repeat my mistakes?

    Reflect on your actions and commit to making changes to avoid similar situations.

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    breath and say I'm
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    sorry it turns out people who are able
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    to bite the bullet and apologize are
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    emotionally healthier than those who
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    can't a study done at Grant mchan
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    University in Edmonton found that people
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    with low self-esteem feel worse after a
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    conflict and are less likely to
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    apologize for it on the other hand
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    there's a strong correlation between
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    strong self-esteem and the ability to
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    apologize here's one more thing a
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    University of Illinois study found that
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    people who apologized tend to Faire
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    better financially than those who don't
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    are you still putting it off all right
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    but just remember what William
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    Shakespeare said cowards die many times
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    before their death what o will means
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    here is putting off an a apology is a
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    lot more painful than actually
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    apologizing let's get to our four steps
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    pause and print this worksheet at
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    watchwellcast
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    tocom step one assess the
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    situation making this apology is going
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    to be like climbing a mountain you want
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    to survey the terrain and watch out for
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    any big rocks or Boulders that are going
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    to be especially hard to get over so
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    first on your well-cast worksheet simply
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    write down the whole story of whatever
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    happened
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    for example I came home late one evening
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    after an exhausting day of work and my
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    roommate was eating my
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    Doritos I completely blew up at her she
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    then proceeded to weep for 2 hours step
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    two write out your game plan and stick
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    to it we're big fans of scripting out
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    what we're going to say beforehand here
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    at wildcast it takes a little bit of the
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    nerves away from actually you know doing
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    the thing so on your cast worksheet try
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    writing out a practice apology speech
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    make sure you hit the following points
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    when you're giving your apology
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    acknowledge what you did wrong and take
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    responsibility for it hey I shouldn't
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    have flipped out all right that was a
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    completely unfair and ridiculous
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    response to you eating my
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    Doritos say a genuine I'm sorry and
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    don't temper it with any butts this
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    means none of this I am sorry that you
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    felt that way or hey I'm sorry but you
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    really need to respect my snack foods
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    hey don't go overboard though you
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    shouldn't have to apologize for your
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    whole existence just be specific to the
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    actual incident don't try to rationalize
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    your actions but don't be afraid of
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    explaining your emotions at the time be
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    honest have you been really stressed out
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    lately have you for some reason
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    developed a very emotional attachment to
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    to
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    Doritos okay as long as you're not using
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    these reasons as justification for your
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    actions honesty can't hurt step three an
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    apology should be a conversation not a
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    monologue yeah yeah yeah okay I know I
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    just told you to write down a script but
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    that can only take you so far after you
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    say what you've prepared allow them to
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    express their feelings and actually
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    listen you owe it to them step four make
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    amends so technically the hard part's
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    over right you've actually broken the
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    ice and said what you've wanted to say
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    they've
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    responded but you don't want to fall
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    into that category of talking the talk
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    and not walking the walk so at the end
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    of your worksheet write down several
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    ways that you're going to make an effort
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    to change your actions for the
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    better okay let's recap well casters
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    today you learn four steps to getting up
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    the Curve courage to actually give a
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    sincere apology you learn to assess the
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    situation like a mountaineer write out
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    your apology beforehand engage in a
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    fruitful conversation with the person to
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    whom you're
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    apologizing and you learn how to try to
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    keep yourself from making the same
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    mistake
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    again tweet us at watchwellcast email us
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    we'll see you next time
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Etiquetas
  • apology
  • emotional health
  • self-esteem
  • communication
  • relationships
  • conflict resolution
  • personal growth
  • sincere apology
  • making amends
  • life skills