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what's going on everyone welcome or
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welcome back to the Improvement for
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imbeciles podcast I'm your podcast host
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Natalie etched and in today's podcast we
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are going to be talking about 13
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psychological tricks to make people
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respect you and if you happen to be new
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here we do things a little bit different
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here on my channel this is where I share
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ways in which I am getting my
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together so that you can get your
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together meaning these are all things
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I'm realizing as I'm making this video
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or not exactly as I'm making this video
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but as of recently I've really been
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focusing on my own self-respect and
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wanting to gain other people's respect
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for a lot of my life I've thought you
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know respect has to be earned I'm going
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to tell you guys right now that is all
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backwards that is all brainwashing I
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used to go out of my way to do all of
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these things for people who I wanted to
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respect me because I didn't respect
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myself I'm going to clarify something
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really really fast so yes you do have to
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give respect in order to get respect but
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going out of your way to make some
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respect you is a waste of your time
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recognize when someone is disrespecting
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you and place them accordingly just
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realize that I try to avoid being
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redundant in this video obviously give
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people basic respect use your manners
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say please and thank you those are
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obvious ways to make people respect you
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on a basic level however don't go out of
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your way to make someone who's
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disrespecting you respect you remove
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your energy and focus to people who
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actually do give you respect okay back
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to the video gain gaining other people's
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respect has everything to do with the
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level of self-respect you have inside
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and how you react to other people who
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happen to disrespect you even if they're
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not consciously disrespecting you you
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still need to choose to act in a certain
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way so that you can prove to yourself
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and others that you are not to be played
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with and if you're coming back to my
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channel I know the type of person you
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are I know you're not the type of person
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to misuse your respect or misuse power
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you are the type of person to sit back
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and just let people do whatever to you
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and I'm going to tell you right now
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bestie after this video you are going to
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find a new level of respect for yourself
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and you are going to start standing up
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for what you believe in because I'm
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tired of it okay I see how people have
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been treating you I see how you've been
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going out of your way breaking your back
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so that people acknowledge the type of
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person you are and your big huge heart
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and I know you just want to give give
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give but bestie let me tell you not
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everyone is to be given to so before we
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get into all of those psychological
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tricks I wanted to discuss what respect
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is because a lot of people get it
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confused respect is a feeling or a deep
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admiration for someone's capabilities
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respect also has an aspect of it that is
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a regard for someone's feelings okay to
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have people regard your feelings you
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must first have to regard your own
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feelings respect is less about who you
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are and more about how you make people
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feel it has nothing to do with how old
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you are it has nothing to do with how
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you look in society it has nothing to do
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with with where you come from or where
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you're going respect is purely based on
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how you reflect back other people
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themselves if other people can see
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themselves in you they will naturally
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have a greater respect for you this is
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why people who go out of their way to
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demand respect often lose respect from
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people think about that one overly
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bearing boss telling you like I need
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your respect like do you side eye them
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and go um like you're not being
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respectful to me why would I be
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respectful to you that is what I mean it
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is a lot less about who you actually are
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and more about your demeanor and how you
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choose to respect yourself which brings
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me into the first psychological trick
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when you walk into the room let people
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know who you are if you do not introduce
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yourself the second that you step into a
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room you're not someone that's worth
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knowing sit on that like truly sit on
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that I understand that you might be a
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shy person you might be more of an
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introvert but just by not introd ucing
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yourself you are just going to stand
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there and not be heard and not be
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someone that is acknowledged obviously
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read the room but often times if you
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introduce yourself to people and take
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the time to let people know who you are
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you are more rememberable to them and
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you are also more respectable to them
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because it shows I'm not someone who
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will just sit back and let myself not be
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known which brings me into number two
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try to remember people's names and this
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is something that I am learning a lot
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more more as I go out and I go to these
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various events I'm going to and
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introduce myself to people to network
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what helps me remember people's names is
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also getting their social media handle
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we live in a world where it's very easy
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to not remember people's names we all
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have our own agenda for the day right we
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all have things that we're doing for
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ourselves but simply remembering
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someone's name especially if they's
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someone that's important helps you
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because if you meet them again and you
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remember their name and they don't
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happen to remember your name they will
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remember your name the second time a
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trick that helps me remember people's
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names is when they introduce themselves
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to me I say their name I say nice to
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meet you blank their name you know what
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I mean like I say their name as they're
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introducing them to me and then
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throughout the interaction I'll use
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their name when you use someone's name
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you are acknowledging them directly
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which means that they are more likely to
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remember you number three this one's
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very obvious fix your posture if you
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walk into the room with your shoulders
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back and you're standing straight you're
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walking with confidence you have a
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purpose people are more likely to see
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you and acknowledge you rather than when
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your posture is down and you're looking
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to the ground it just looks a lot better
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and it also makes you feel a lot better
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like before you walk into any room even
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if you have a lot of nerves walk into
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the room like you are meant to be in
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that room even say to yourself if you're
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that nervous say I am meant to be in
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this room number four always stay busy
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don't be too easily available when you
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say yes to everything your time becomes
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less Val valuable because people are
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seeing you all the time and often times
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we do this because we fear that we're
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going to be forgotten about if we leave
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but in reality it's the opposite when
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people don't see us especially people
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who were hoping to see us at an event
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when they see that we haven't showed up
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they'll ask you know like what are they
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doing and the next time you're there
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they will make use of your time just
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never be the person that's just like
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laying around doing nothing even if you
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are laying around doing nothing make it
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up like say that you're doing something
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also when you're too easily available it
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also shows that you're like desperate
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and that's not the idea you want to give
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if you want people to respect you you
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cannot be desperate number five if
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someone disrespects your time this is so
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important okay if you feel like your
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time is being disrespected don't be so
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willing to reschedule or just be easily
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available after that and what I mean is
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let's say someone cancels on you very
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very last minute check for a couple of
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things number one are they apologetic of
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the fact that they had to cancel did
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they provide you a reason because if
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they provided you a reason that shows
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that most likely they are being genuine
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you know give people the benefit of the
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doubt however remind them of these
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things did you have to text them first
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to remind them of certain plans is this
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a pattern do they always flake on you
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are they a business connection or are
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they a friend Connection because it's
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different if someone who's actually
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beneficial to you maybe keep it in mind
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for next time but have them be the one
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that reaches out to reschedule or make
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other plans with you be like we'll see
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you know we'll see if I have time this
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month I'm really booked and busy this
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month but you know I might be able to
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make time for you don't make things a
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big deal but also recognize what place
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this person is in your life and don't be
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afraid to kind of distance yourself if
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someone has constantly proven to you
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that they will always flake on you
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accept people how they are place them
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where they belong number six replace
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sorry with thank you especially if it's
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something that is a small mistake of
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yours I think a lot of us misuse the
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term sorry and I used to be one of these
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people I would always be like oh my God
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I'm so sorry for things that I didn't
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even know I was supposed to do maybe it
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was just a mistake right think of the
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term sorry for actually taking
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accountability for something like you
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did something wrong don't always say it
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for the most minor inconveniences like
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if you drop something don't be like oh
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my God sorry or if someone says hey you
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should do this instead of this thank you
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I'll keep that in mind for next time
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it's a lot more classy than saying I'm
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sorry for things that were just genuine
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mistakes if you say sorry all the time
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too it devalues when you actually mean
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I'm sorry and this is something I really
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really had to learn because I would
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always be the type of person saying oh
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my God I'm so sorry I'm so sorry I'm so
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sorry and I realized like I wasn't
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actually sorry it was like a trained
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response from other people in my life
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who trained me to always take
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accountability for even something that I
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didn't do I I highly suggest that you do
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some Shadow work behind that too because
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a lot of the times I recognize the
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reason I would always say sorry is
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because I literally felt guilty for just
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like taking up space number seven take
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accountability for when you actually do
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something wrong this will show character
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okay when you know you are in the wrong
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and you say sorry number one people will
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know that you have the ability to
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self-reflect and the ability to know
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that you are not perfect right like we
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are all human we are not perfect however
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we have to acknowledge that fact and be
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able to own up to all of our tacky
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nobody likes having people in their life
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that have no self-awareness of when they
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messed up when you are arrogant and you
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deflect all the time and you never ever
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take accountability for your tacky
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people will notice that and in fact
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people will distance themselves from you
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when you can acknowledge how your
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actions impacted people and really truly
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take accountability for that and feel
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remorse for what you did even if people
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are angry at you they'll respect the
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fact that you owned up to what you did
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they'll respect the fact that you had
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the courage to be like yeah that was
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shitty and I'm sorry number eight stand
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in your authenticity authenticity is one
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of the purest energies that you can work
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around like if you know you're being
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authentic to yourself and what you
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believe in everything falls into place
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everything aligns with you authenticity
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also means acknowledging the parts of
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you that aren't really that healed yet
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yet acknowledging the parts of you that
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you don't really like looking at
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arrogance is loud confidence is quiet
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when you know yourself when you know you
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have things to work on when you can see
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yourself for everything you are the
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mistakes the good qualities the bad
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qualities everything when you can see
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yourself for the whole of who you are
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and stand in it that energy is the most
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powerful thing ever and that in of
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itself will make people respect you more
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number nine avoid emotional reactions
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and I I know this one's going to be hard
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for some of you to hear but your
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emotions don't always play a part in
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what you should do and how you should
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act in a situation and this is coming
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from someone who used to let her
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emotions control her you know I'd feel
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like I miss my ex for one day and then I
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text my ex I'd feel abandoned by my
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friends and then I text them this long
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paragraph like that's how I used to act
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however once I grew up and I acknowledge
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like where these emotions were coming
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from and how they were actually working
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to my detriment I realized that
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something needed to change and that
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change started Within Myself there is a
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time and place for feelings okay I'm not
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saying ignore your feelings I'm not
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saying suppress them I'm saying avoid
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the emotional reactions and handle your
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emotions in private so you can react in
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the best way possible if you are feeling
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a very very strong emotion do not act on
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that emotion nobody is perfect with this
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but if you can find an outlet for
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yourself whether that is journaling
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whether that is going to the gym whether
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that is painting painting whether that
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is doing something creative do something
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to distract yourself from the emotion
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temporarily until you can find a
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resolution that makes sense instead of
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dwelling on the problem start thinking
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how can I solve this problem how can
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this situation work to my benefit it's
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so often that we encounter a situation
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in our lives and the first thing we want
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to do like we we react on our impulses
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and we make the situation worse for
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ourselves and this is where I'm going to
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start talking about starting to regard
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yourself as a person that needs to be
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respected think of a person that you
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respect in life whether that is think
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about like Albert Einstein or something
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like someone who's really really
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respected in society whoever that is for
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you just think of someone that you
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highly highly respect and think of them
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in the situation that you are in how
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would this person react to this
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situation smart people utilize negative
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situations to their benefit they see a
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negative situation and they go okay what
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is the best possible outcome for this
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and how would I have to react in order
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to get that best possible outcome before
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you do something impulsive ask yourself
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what your grandma would think if you did
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that like number 10 start regarding
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yourself as a highly respectable person
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this is similar to the last one but it
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more so goes into the affirmations of it
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all start affirming to yourself I am
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respectable I am someone that people
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look up to I am someone that deserves
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respect like genuinely feel like you
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deserve respect and don't deny yourself
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that respect from yourself learn how to
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respect yourself like you expect other
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people to respect you for example if you
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were in a relationship with yourself
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like you were a completely different
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person and you were giving this person
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respect like how would you act to
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yourself would you talk to yourself the
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way you've been talking to yourself
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would you tell yourself bad advice to go
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follow it would you treat your body how
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you've been treating it as soon as I
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started thinking about how I would treat
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myself if I was a like completely
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different person like seeing like the
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child version of myself would I treat
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myself like how my inner monologue
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treats me most of you the answer is
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absolutely not replace negative thought
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patterns with yourself with positive
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thought patterns as soon as you
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recognize that you are going into a
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negative thought pattern choose to flip
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it around and I know it's difficult to
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choose to flip it around but you need to
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become consciously aware of where your
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mental state is that is the only way you
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reframe your mind into regarding
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yourself as a person that should be
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respected is you identify when you are
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not respecting yourself through your
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mental state and you choose to act
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differently if I respected myself how
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would I react would I react emotionally
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would I throw this friendship out of the
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window or would I just accept this
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person for how they are and place them
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where they belong number 11 is to look
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at people's actions rather than the role
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they play in your life everyone knows
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actions speak louder than words if
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someone is disrespecting you you need to
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to react in a way that would give
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yourself power back for example reacting
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emotionally and demanding respect often
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turns off people from wanting to give
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you respect regardless instead withdraw
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your energy think of yourself as an
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eagle right you are flying through these
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trees and all of a sudden you reach
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these two trees that are super super
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close together do you just run straight
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through those trees and damage your
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wings or do you rise above certain
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obstacles do you choose to rise above
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certain circumstances that don't benefit
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you I know it's easier said than done
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and I think there's a lot of nuance
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there if someone is super close to you
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and they are disrespecting your
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boundaries I think it's important to
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have a conversation with that person but
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if it becomes a pattern you need to
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start distancing yourself from this
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person when we see people disrespect us
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and hurt us it's so normal to want them
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to feel exactly how we're feeling
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however you need to realize at some
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point that it is a waste of your energy
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some people are not worth your energy
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and you must rise above the people who
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are just not worth it anymore and just
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don't burn Bridges just learn how to
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distance yourself from them instead of
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going over that bridge every day choose
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to go a different way on your commute to
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work choose a different bridge to cross
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look at how people treat you and your
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reactions to how people treat you and
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it'll reveal a lot about how you feel
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about
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yourself use Nuance okay number 12 is to
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stop taking disrespect so personally
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especially if it's someone in your life
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who is trying to go out of their way to
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disrespect you often times it's
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projection often times they are trying
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to make you feel less than them because
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they don't feel like more it is their
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only way in their brain to make you seem
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less than them a lot of disrespect from
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people is usually just projection yeah
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there's that 5% where it's like actually
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someone trying to hurt you and
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everything but even then often times
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it's just people projecting their own
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hurt onto other people hurt people hurt
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people and as soon as you realize this
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when other people are disrespecting you
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let's say they say a joke that wasn't
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really that nice first of all recognize
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that those people most likely aren't
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your friends recognize that some jokes
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people say are not just jokes and number
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two recognize that some people love to
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make fun of other people to make
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themselves feel better know how to
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defend yourself and call out people's
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shitty behavior however also know when
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to laugh it off and be unbothered by the
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situ situation and number 13 is to
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surround yourself with people that you
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respect a lot of you guys stay around
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people who you don't respect because it
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gives you a false sense of superiority
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it's like well I don't really like
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myself but at least I'm not like this
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person that's my friend misery loves
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company if you are a miserable person
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you will surround yourself with
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miserable people who you don't even
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respect and let me just tell you honey
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it shows you don't like yourself which
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means other people around you don't like
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themselves and it's a constant power
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struggle because you are constantly
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feeling threatened by other people who
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start to be a little bit more successful
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than you you will project on a people
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who are doing things with themselves and
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judge other people because you are not
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where you want to be that is a loser's
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mindset you need to start surrounding
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yourself with people who intimidate you
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honestly surround yourself with people
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who when you meet them you feel like you
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need to get your together instead
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of getting jealous get inspired because
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when you surround yourself with people
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that you genuinely respect you start
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taking on their attitude towards life
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you stop seeing Life as a competition
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and you start seeing life as something
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where you can learn from everyone
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everyone has their own journey and
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there's so many people in the world that
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want to help you get to where you want
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to be when you're surrounded by a lot of
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unhappy people you will often adopt this
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unhappy depressed mindset because you
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fear actually getting to the point and
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actually taking personal responsibility
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for your life you'll hate people who are
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doing better than you because it's
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easier than acknowledging why you are
00:19:00
not doing better for yourself and that's
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a hard pill to swallow but it's a
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necessary pill to swallow get yourself
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out of nasty environments with negative
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people if you want to be respected by
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other people you need to step into rooms
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where you respect others and you go out
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of your way to become a person worth
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respecting with that being said you guys
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I'm showing you guys my process of
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getting ready for a pageant I'm in this
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really excited to represent my city so
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