Full Habits Guide: How to Make & Break ANY Habit

00:48:11
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bdA2hhXk98g

Summary

TLDRThe video is an extensive guide to habit formation, drawing from 'Atomic Habits' and 'The Upward Spiral.' It promises viewers a comprehensive understanding of how to set, maintain, and break habits by delving into the neuroscience of habit formation. Discussed topics include the brain regions involved, reasons why goals alone are insufficient, and practical frameworks for forming new habits and breaking undesirable ones. Major points include understanding habit change as identity change, using environmental design to facilitate habits, and employing systems over goals for continued progress. Techniques like habit stacking, the two-minute rule, and the Goldilocks Rule are suggested for more effective habit management. Additionally, the video provides insights on engaging the prefrontal cortex to overcome impulsive behavior and emphasizes the alignment of habits with personal identity. Practical advice is shared on making habits attractive, obvious, and satisfying, and avoiding bad habits through reverse engineering. The importance of continuous self-review and adapting to personal progress forms a crucial part of the habit-building process.

Takeaways

  • πŸ“š The video covers key insights from 'Atomic Habits' and 'The Upward Spiral.'
  • 🧠 Neuroscience plays a crucial role in understanding habits, focusing on three brain regions.
  • 🎯 Goals alone are insufficient; systems and identity changes are more effective.
  • πŸ”„ Habit formation involves four stages: cue, craving, response, and reward.
  • πŸ€” Identity change is essential in habit transformation.
  • πŸš€ Employ the Goldilocks Rule for maintaining motivation.
  • 🌟 Make habits attractive, obvious, and satisfying to reinforce them.
  • πŸ”„ Use habit stacking and the two-minute rule to simplify habit-making.
  • πŸ™…β€β™‚οΈ Break bad habits by reversing good habit strategies.
  • πŸ” Continuous habit reviews are critical for sustained improvement.

Timeline

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    The video promises a comprehensive guide to habit formation using insights from 'Atomic Habits' and 'The Upward Spiral'. The speaker assures that viewers will learn to establish and maintain good habits while breaking bad ones, and achieve progress in desired areas. The content covers topics such as brain regions in habit formation, reasons why goals alone are insufficient, the four steps of habit formation, and more. A personal story from 2020 sets the stage, illustrating the speaker's journey from poor habits to self-improvement, emphasizing the importance of structure in habit formation.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    The speaker explains the roles of three brain regions in habit formation: the nucleus accumbens (governs impulsivity), the dorsal striatum (repeats familiar actions), and the prefrontal cortex (manages planning and decision-making). These regions communicate differently, affecting how habits form and persist. The speaker notes that habits are encoded in the dorsal striatum over time, making it challenging to change them. Goals are contrasted with systems, and the shortcomings of goals are discussed, highlighting that systems (or habits) are necessary for sustained success beyond simply achieving goals.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:15:00

    The speaker emphasizes the importance of identity in habit change, suggesting that instead of focusing on what to do or how to do it, individuals should consider who they want to become. Actions should align with the desired identity, as consistent small wins reinforce this identity over time. The speaker uses analogies to illustrate that habits must align with personal interests for sustainability, and advises starting with self-introspection to determine which habits fit naturally. The significance of casting "votes" for the desired identity through aligned actions is highlighted.

  • 00:15:00 - 00:20:00

    The four stages of habit formation are detailed: cue, craving, response, and reward, with an explanation of how each stage supports the formation of behaviors. To create a new habit, these stages must be optimized: make it obvious, make it attractive, make it easy, and make it satisfying. Techniques such as temptation bundling, joining communities, and creating motivation rituals are suggested to enhance habit attractiveness. Clarity in habit-setting and reducing friction are emphasized to ensure successful habit formation.

  • 00:20:00 - 00:25:00

    The presentation teaches how to make a habit obvious through clarity and habit stacking, using environmental cues and structured planning. Techniques like pointing and calling provide clarity, while the two-minute rule and environmental priming reduce friction to make the habit easier. Reinforcement through immediate rewards helps the habit's cost-effectiveness. Success in habitual behavior relies on structuring supportive environments and ensuring precise habit formation, acknowledging that clarity often supersedes motivation in influencing behavior.

  • 00:25:00 - 00:30:00

    To break bad habits, the speaker suggests reversing the steps of forming good habits: make cues invisible, make cravings unattractive, increase friction, and make consequences unsatisfying. Understanding that bad habits often fulfill unmet emotional needs is key. Engaging the prefrontal cortex can help steer behavior away from impulsive and automatic decisions that are driven by the nucleus accumbens and dorsal striatum. Strategies involve removing triggers, highlighting negative outcomes, making the habit difficult to perform, and introducing penalties for undesirable actions.

  • 00:30:00 - 00:35:00

    Focusing on the Goldilocks rule for maintaining motivation, the speaker discusses setting challenges that are not too easy or too difficult, striking the right balance to sustain interest and growth. In practice, one should aim to fail about 15% of the time to ensure continuous learning without discouragement. The speaker encourages a mindset that views habit practice as a continuous game, leading to sustained engagement and progress. Systems are emphasized over rigid goal-setting to allow adaptability and consistent improvement without burnout.

  • 00:35:00 - 00:40:00

    The importance of habit reviews is highlighted to ensure that habits continue to serve the individual’s goals effectively. Regular evaluations help tweak approaches and maintain motivation by revisiting what worked, identifying areas for improvement, and ensuring the alignment of habits with core values and objectives. Avoiding rigid identities and embracing flexible self-concepts supports adaptability and long-term success. Reflective questions are recommended to facilitate these reviews, promoting continuous personal growth.

  • 00:40:00 - 00:48:11

    The video concludes by reiterating the comprehensive nature of the habit formation guide and inviting viewers to engage with additional resources, including future courses and newsletters. The emphasis is placed on discipline, playfulness, and the ongoing journey of personal development. The speaker thanks viewers for their support and encourages them to stay committed to self-improvement, offering a glimpse into upcoming content focused on social skills and mental flourishing.

Show more

Mind Map

Video Q&A

  • What books does the video discuss?

    The video covers 'Atomic Habits' and 'The Upward Spiral.'

  • What is the video about?

    The video is a guide on habit formation, focusing on setting, maintaining, and breaking habits.

  • Who is the target audience?

    The video is aimed at anyone interested in improving their habit formation skills.

  • What are the four stages of habit formation mentioned?

    The stages are cue, craving, response, and reward.

  • How does the video suggest making tasks more manageable?

    It suggests breaking down tasks into the 'two-minute rule' and using habit stacking.

  • What technique is recommended for motivation?

    The video suggests using the Goldilocks Rule to ensure tasks are neither too hard nor too easy.

  • How can bad habits be broken according to the video?

    By making the cue less obvious, unattractive, difficult, and unsatisfying.

  • What is the significance of identity in habit formation?

    Habit change is tied to identity change, focusing on becoming the type of person you wish to be.

  • What is the role of the brain in habit formation?

    The video explains the roles of three brain regions: nucleus accumbens, dorsal striatum, and prefrontal cortex.

  • What advice is given for maintaining good habits?

    Maintaining motivation through small wins and habit reviews is emphasized.

View more video summaries

Get instant access to free YouTube video summaries powered by AI!
Subtitles
en
Auto Scroll:
  • 00:00:00
    this is the last video you'll ever have
  • 00:00:01
    to watch on habit
  • 00:00:03
    formation enjoy there we go we are going
  • 00:00:07
    to be covering two books which I have
  • 00:00:08
    distilled and synthesized the knowledge
  • 00:00:10
    from in this habit formation guide
  • 00:00:12
    Atomic habits and the upward spiral
  • 00:00:14
    which is a neuroscientific book about
  • 00:00:16
    depression But it includes Some solid
  • 00:00:18
    things about habit formation this is my
  • 00:00:20
    promise to you in exchange for the time
  • 00:00:22
    that you dedicate for this video in the
  • 00:00:24
    next few minutes of your life after
  • 00:00:26
    watching this guide you will have a
  • 00:00:28
    complete understanding of how to set
  • 00:00:30
    stick to and maintain good habits whilst
  • 00:00:33
    understanding how to break your bad ones
  • 00:00:35
    forever I'll give you the framework
  • 00:00:38
    you'll also learn how to achieve
  • 00:00:39
    boundless progress in your life within
  • 00:00:41
    the areas that are important to you I'm
  • 00:00:43
    not going to tell you what they are that
  • 00:00:44
    is completely up to you to decide let's
  • 00:00:47
    go this is the contents of what we're
  • 00:00:49
    going to be covering a quick story which
  • 00:00:51
    happened in 2020 why bother with habits
  • 00:00:53
    in the first place everything you need
  • 00:00:54
    to know about the brain regions involved
  • 00:00:56
    in habit formation the Neuroscience
  • 00:00:58
    within 30 seconds four reasons why goals
  • 00:01:01
    alone don't work don't ask what how ask
  • 00:01:04
    who the four steps of habit formation
  • 00:01:06
    how to form a good habit how to break a
  • 00:01:08
    bad habit environment the Goldilocks
  • 00:01:10
    rule how to stay motivated forever in
  • 00:01:12
    whatever you're doing and then we're
  • 00:01:13
    going to finalize with some extra tips
  • 00:01:16
    on how to go from good to great in
  • 00:01:18
    whatever habit you are following 2020
  • 00:01:21
    story there is me with long hair and a
  • 00:01:24
    beard in 2020 I used to live in Poland
  • 00:01:27
    and I was in a stage of life where covid
  • 00:01:29
    had hit I was inside most of the time I
  • 00:01:31
    was living with my girlfriend at the
  • 00:01:33
    time and I just didn't have good habits
  • 00:01:37
    I you can see the little journal in my
  • 00:01:38
    pocket there your boy was still
  • 00:01:40
    journaling and doing the
  • 00:01:41
    self-improvement stuff but as far as
  • 00:01:44
    stopping my bad habits which were always
  • 00:01:46
    watching YouTube and how to actually
  • 00:01:49
    start exercising more and be more
  • 00:01:52
    dedicated to the things that were
  • 00:01:53
    important to me I had absolutely no idea
  • 00:01:55
    how to do it you can tell from my
  • 00:01:58
    incredibly creased t-shir shirts your
  • 00:02:00
    boy was a mess and then one day
  • 00:02:04
    absolutely disgruntled at the fact that
  • 00:02:06
    I had wasted another day just binge
  • 00:02:08
    watching YouTube I was on YouTube and I
  • 00:02:11
    came across a video from a YouTuber who
  • 00:02:13
    you might know called better ideas and
  • 00:02:16
    this video was all about how to stop
  • 00:02:17
    checking your phone because that was the
  • 00:02:19
    problem I was dealing with the most at
  • 00:02:21
    that time but he mentioned a book in
  • 00:02:23
    that video called Atomic habits and I
  • 00:02:25
    instantly got the audio book and it was
  • 00:02:27
    like Divine timing in the sense that
  • 00:02:29
    covid had just happened I was inside and
  • 00:02:32
    I finally started to gather the
  • 00:02:33
    Frameworks of what works with behavior
  • 00:02:36
    change how can I actually instill better
  • 00:02:39
    habits within my life and more
  • 00:02:41
    importantly how can I stop doing my bad
  • 00:02:44
    habits so I came across this video came
  • 00:02:46
    across the book and then long story
  • 00:02:49
    short got a bit ripped I was very skinny
  • 00:02:52
    at the time because I was eating
  • 00:02:54
    vegetarian as well so I had a lot of
  • 00:02:56
    Health choices that weren't gearing me
  • 00:02:59
    towards flourishing health and I got a
  • 00:03:02
    habit tracker at that time as well and I
  • 00:03:04
    started tracking the five main habits
  • 00:03:06
    that I wanted to adhere to which was
  • 00:03:08
    waking up early practicing polish as the
  • 00:03:11
    language eating healthy doing a run or a
  • 00:03:14
    workout each day and stretching in the
  • 00:03:16
    evenings as well and that's what I
  • 00:03:17
    dedicated all of my time to and as you
  • 00:03:19
    can see most of the time it was all 100%
  • 00:03:21
    but I went from very skinny to in a
  • 00:03:24
    decent shape you know I'm not the most
  • 00:03:26
    ripped person but what I want to
  • 00:03:28
    highlight is I wasn't making any
  • 00:03:30
    progress in my life until I came across
  • 00:03:32
    the knowledge that I'm going to share
  • 00:03:33
    with you in these slides next up why
  • 00:03:35
    bother with habits this is one of my
  • 00:03:37
    favorite sculptures it is often
  • 00:03:39
    attributed to the idea of
  • 00:03:40
    self-development and I very much feel it
  • 00:03:42
    encapsulates what self-development is
  • 00:03:44
    because this piece of material is being
  • 00:03:48
    sculptured out of what the material is
  • 00:03:50
    which is the person so it captures the
  • 00:03:52
    idea that with your habit formation you
  • 00:03:55
    are the material but you are also the
  • 00:03:57
    thing that sculpts that material in to
  • 00:04:00
    whatever form you want to sculpt it in
  • 00:04:02
    arti there is a idea in Greek thought or
  • 00:04:06
    Greek philosophy called arti which
  • 00:04:08
    essentially means Excellence there is a
  • 00:04:11
    quote that's misattributed to Aristotle
  • 00:04:13
    he put half of it and then the writer
  • 00:04:15
    will Duran finished it off Aristotle
  • 00:04:17
    said virtues are formed in Man by his
  • 00:04:20
    doing the actions and then the writer
  • 00:04:22
    will Duran interpreted thusly we are
  • 00:04:25
    what we repeatedly do therefore
  • 00:04:27
    Excellence is not an act but a habit
  • 00:04:30
    it doesn't matter what you want to do if
  • 00:04:32
    you want to study more if you want to
  • 00:04:33
    work out if you want to improve your
  • 00:04:35
    social skills if you're learning a
  • 00:04:37
    language or you want to start doing deep
  • 00:04:38
    work anything that you want to do
  • 00:04:41
    requires habit formation if you want to
  • 00:04:43
    do it well so this is what we're going
  • 00:04:46
    into next 30 second Neuroscience let's
  • 00:04:50
    see set your timers let's go there are
  • 00:04:52
    three main brain regions you need to
  • 00:04:54
    know when it comes to Habit formation
  • 00:04:56
    the nuclear cumbent the dorsal striatum
  • 00:04:59
    and the pre frontal cortex the only
  • 00:05:01
    thing you need to know about these brain
  • 00:05:03
    regions is they communicate with each
  • 00:05:05
    other but what they say is very
  • 00:05:08
    different the nuclear succumbent is the
  • 00:05:10
    part of the brain which governs
  • 00:05:12
    impulsivity and it would say oh that
  • 00:05:14
    cupcake looks delicious because it just
  • 00:05:16
    wants to do whatever is most impulsive
  • 00:05:18
    right now the dorsal striatum this part
  • 00:05:21
    in the middle is not rational nor is it
  • 00:05:24
    a conscious part of the brain it's a
  • 00:05:26
    very old part of the brain in our
  • 00:05:28
    evolutionary history and it just wants
  • 00:05:30
    to do whatever you've usually done in
  • 00:05:32
    that scenario so it would argue let's do
  • 00:05:35
    it this way because that's how we've
  • 00:05:36
    always done it but the prefrontal cortex
  • 00:05:39
    is the most evolved part of our brain
  • 00:05:41
    and it gives us a huge evolutionary
  • 00:05:43
    advantage over other animals because it
  • 00:05:45
    is essentially what governs our behavior
  • 00:05:48
    and it is responsible for planning
  • 00:05:51
    decision making but also worrying and
  • 00:05:53
    other things like that it would argue
  • 00:05:55
    but that won't help us get to where we
  • 00:05:57
    want to go in response to the nuclear
  • 00:05:59
    cumbent and saying oh that cupcake looks
  • 00:06:01
    delicious just like Congress members
  • 00:06:02
    when people are debating in politics
  • 00:06:05
    your habits are a result of these three
  • 00:06:07
    brain regions communicating but they
  • 00:06:10
    don't always agree because if they
  • 00:06:12
    always agreed your habits would just be
  • 00:06:14
    certain and you would always know what
  • 00:06:15
    you need to do remember oh that cupcake
  • 00:06:18
    looks delicious nuclear succumbent let's
  • 00:06:20
    do it this way because that's how we've
  • 00:06:22
    always done it dorsal stri hat
  • 00:06:25
    Trump prefrontal cortex but that won't
  • 00:06:28
    help us get to where we want to go as we
  • 00:06:30
    mentioned the dorsal striatum is heavily
  • 00:06:33
    responsible for encoding behaviors that
  • 00:06:35
    you do now to then make sure that they
  • 00:06:37
    become automatic and become habits it
  • 00:06:40
    just wants us to do what we've done
  • 00:06:42
    before you can imagine it like a train
  • 00:06:43
    track it's not really bothered about
  • 00:06:45
    going off track or exploring any new
  • 00:06:48
    adventures or new directions it will
  • 00:06:50
    just give you we've done this before so
  • 00:06:51
    we can do this or we did this in the
  • 00:06:53
    past we can do this as well it's not
  • 00:06:55
    rational or conscious as mentioned so
  • 00:06:58
    give you a little bit of a passing for
  • 00:06:59
    your bad habits you're not exactly to
  • 00:07:02
    blame for falling into your bad habits
  • 00:07:04
    because when you feel that urge to
  • 00:07:06
    indulge in them you're not necessarily
  • 00:07:09
    acting
  • 00:07:10
    rationally it's a little pass from me to
  • 00:07:13
    control your impulses and to create
  • 00:07:15
    better habits this Neuroscience is
  • 00:07:17
    definitely going over 30 seconds the
  • 00:07:19
    prefrontal cortex remember the front
  • 00:07:21
    part of your brain needs to program new
  • 00:07:24
    behaviors into the
  • 00:07:26
    striatum remember that cuz we're going
  • 00:07:28
    to come back to this later
  • 00:07:31
    now we're moving on goals versus systems
  • 00:07:34
    let's go the four reasons why goals
  • 00:07:36
    alone don't work as according to James
  • 00:07:39
    Clear in atomic habits number one goals
  • 00:07:42
    restrict your happiness because what as
  • 00:07:45
    the famous quote goes from nval Ravon
  • 00:07:47
    desire is a contract you make with
  • 00:07:49
    yourself to be unhappy until you get
  • 00:07:51
    what you want naturally when we want to
  • 00:07:53
    achieve something in the future we just
  • 00:07:55
    delay our happiness until we get it two
  • 00:07:58
    goals inhibit your future Improvement
  • 00:08:00
    they help you win the game but it's your
  • 00:08:03
    systems that help you continue playing
  • 00:08:05
    the game systems a word used
  • 00:08:07
    interchangeably for habits and processes
  • 00:08:10
    number three winners and losers have the
  • 00:08:12
    exact same
  • 00:08:14
    goals remember when you was in school
  • 00:08:16
    everyone most people wanted to pass the
  • 00:08:18
    test but only a few people did because
  • 00:08:21
    the way they went about it was different
  • 00:08:23
    in terms of their studying habits number
  • 00:08:25
    four lastly achieving a goal is only a
  • 00:08:27
    momentary change because the thing to
  • 00:08:30
    consider is okay you achieved the goal
  • 00:08:32
    but what comes next this is what we're
  • 00:08:34
    going to focus on goals aren't all bad
  • 00:08:36
    though I don't want to paint the picture
  • 00:08:38
    that they are absolutely terrible goals
  • 00:08:41
    are governed by our prefrontal cortex to
  • 00:08:44
    give us direction to dictate what comes
  • 00:08:46
    next they help us win the game but
  • 00:08:49
    habits systems processes they give us
  • 00:08:51
    the feeling of progress where we
  • 00:08:53
    continue playing the game you can
  • 00:08:55
    consider the illustration here of an
  • 00:08:57
    infinity symbol indicating in an
  • 00:08:59
    infinite game rather than a finite
  • 00:09:01
    symbol for example getting into a
  • 00:09:04
    relationship is a finite game it's a
  • 00:09:07
    goal but to continue being in a
  • 00:09:09
    relationship is an infinite game one
  • 00:09:12
    that you will require habits of love and
  • 00:09:15
    communication and date nights and all of
  • 00:09:17
    that stuff in order to maintain it to
  • 00:09:20
    lose 10 kilograms is a goal after you do
  • 00:09:23
    that you likely slack off unless you
  • 00:09:26
    substitute achieving that goal with the
  • 00:09:28
    system okay staying in shape is the
  • 00:09:30
    infinite game now let's move on to the
  • 00:09:34
    most important thing throughout this
  • 00:09:35
    whole presentation in the confidence of
  • 00:09:38
    me saying if you just pay attention to
  • 00:09:40
    this part you'll be fine habit change is
  • 00:09:43
    identity change so don't ask what or how
  • 00:09:46
    ask
  • 00:09:48
    who quote from James clear here the
  • 00:09:50
    author of atomic habits every action you
  • 00:09:53
    take is a vote for the type of person
  • 00:09:55
    you wish to become no single instance
  • 00:09:57
    will transform your belief
  • 00:09:59
    but as the votes build up so does the
  • 00:10:02
    evidence of your new identity this
  • 00:10:05
    captures a theme we're going to explore
  • 00:10:06
    in a second moving on going to go down
  • 00:10:09
    here a little bit on the left we have a
  • 00:10:11
    very skinny guy on the right we have an
  • 00:10:14
    absolutely jacked guy the skinny guy who
  • 00:10:17
    wants to achieve the goal or instill the
  • 00:10:20
    habit of going to the gym could simply
  • 00:10:22
    ask one question who is the type of
  • 00:10:25
    person who could achieve that type of
  • 00:10:28
    physique that he wants he could ask what
  • 00:10:30
    would a gym goer do what would a high
  • 00:10:32
    performing a testosterone charged
  • 00:10:36
    athlete do decide who you want to become
  • 00:10:39
    when you're considering the habits you
  • 00:10:41
    want to instill in your life and then
  • 00:10:43
    you need to work backwards which we're
  • 00:10:45
    going to cover in the next slide you
  • 00:10:47
    need to prioritize becoming the type of
  • 00:10:50
    person over achieving the
  • 00:10:54
    thing think of the identity you wish to
  • 00:10:56
    form then prove it to yourself through
  • 00:10:58
    small w
  • 00:10:59
    you can imagine we have two types of
  • 00:11:01
    people here it's just simply Illustrated
  • 00:11:03
    this arrow in the middle which gets this
  • 00:11:05
    person from a state of diminishment
  • 00:11:07
    where he doesn't have the habits or she
  • 00:11:09
    doesn't have the habits that she wants
  • 00:11:10
    to actually have in her life and then
  • 00:11:13
    becoming the type of person she wants to
  • 00:11:15
    be the path that dictates her progress
  • 00:11:18
    is
  • 00:11:19
    habits one thing to note about identity
  • 00:11:22
    is our brains called BS if we try to
  • 00:11:25
    convince ourselves we're a certain type
  • 00:11:27
    of person when we're not for example
  • 00:11:29
    if I say I am the type of person who
  • 00:11:31
    takes care of their health but I never
  • 00:11:33
    exercise or eat healthy my brain will be
  • 00:11:36
    like yeah right no you're not however if
  • 00:11:40
    I highlight with humility that I'm not
  • 00:11:43
    that type of person yet but I want to
  • 00:11:45
    become the type of person who takes care
  • 00:11:46
    of their health I set that goal and then
  • 00:11:48
    I prove it to myself through small wins
  • 00:11:51
    with my habit formation so for example
  • 00:11:53
    perhaps I exercise for 5 minutes a day
  • 00:11:56
    and then after I eat one bowl of
  • 00:11:58
    vegetables and fruit fruits for lunch
  • 00:12:00
    with a high protein steak then I start
  • 00:12:03
    to cast the votes in favor of I'm the
  • 00:12:05
    type of person who takes care of their
  • 00:12:07
    health and a week of doing that becomes
  • 00:12:10
    oh my brain is now working with me and
  • 00:12:13
    not calling BS on everything I'm doing
  • 00:12:15
    an analogy here is to consider if we put
  • 00:12:18
    so their potatoes on the left in case
  • 00:12:20
    your mind went to a dirty
  • 00:12:23
    place they are eggs on the right boiling
  • 00:12:27
    water in the middle boiling water will
  • 00:12:29
    soften a potato but it will harden an
  • 00:12:32
    egg which is to say that if you try to
  • 00:12:35
    instill habits within your life that AR
  • 00:12:39
    in alignment with who you actually are
  • 00:12:41
    or who you want to be they won't last so
  • 00:12:44
    although our personalities are very
  • 00:12:46
    changeable it makes sense to have an
  • 00:12:49
    initial self-introspection to understand
  • 00:12:51
    what habits you would naturally like to
  • 00:12:55
    instill within your life what that means
  • 00:12:57
    if you look at the example of exercise
  • 00:12:59
    CU it's quite easy to look at if you're
  • 00:13:01
    not the type of person who likes going
  • 00:13:02
    to a gym but you want to become the type
  • 00:13:05
    of person who takes care of their health
  • 00:13:07
    and works out trying to form the habit
  • 00:13:10
    of going to the gym won't be congruent
  • 00:13:12
    in alignment with who you actually are
  • 00:13:14
    and your inner interests but perhaps
  • 00:13:17
    going to jiujitsu once a week or doing
  • 00:13:19
    calisthenics or yoga is much more
  • 00:13:22
    congruent with yourself so habit
  • 00:13:24
    formation does involve finding those
  • 00:13:27
    activities which will make you
  • 00:13:30
    soften rather than an egg and hard the
  • 00:13:32
    four reasons why go suck and identity
  • 00:13:35
    tick we have covered those aspects let's
  • 00:13:37
    move on to the next part let's get into
  • 00:13:39
    the juicy stuff how do you actually form
  • 00:13:41
    a habit the four stages of a habit and
  • 00:13:43
    without these four stages no habit can
  • 00:13:46
    be formed and then we're going to
  • 00:13:47
    reverse engineer these for how to break
  • 00:13:49
    a bad habit these four stages are Q
  • 00:13:53
    craving response and
  • 00:13:56
    reward number one Q the Q is the trigger
  • 00:14:00
    this is the thing that you see in your
  • 00:14:02
    environment or the internal emotional
  • 00:14:05
    state you notice inside that you want to
  • 00:14:07
    change which triggers you to move
  • 00:14:09
    towards a certain activity governed by
  • 00:14:12
    the neuromodulator dopamine if you don't
  • 00:14:14
    have a Q then you're not going to have a
  • 00:14:16
    trigger to start the behavior stage
  • 00:14:18
    number two is craving so we have the
  • 00:14:20
    desire to change our internal State and
  • 00:14:23
    this is one thing you'll start to notice
  • 00:14:25
    about all habit formation is when you
  • 00:14:27
    want to perform a habit you want to
  • 00:14:29
    change your internal State into one
  • 00:14:32
    that's different from the one you
  • 00:14:33
    currently feel in terms of your emotions
  • 00:14:35
    dopamine is then released in the nuclear
  • 00:14:37
    succumbent in anticipation of doing this
  • 00:14:40
    thing if you don't have craving to do
  • 00:14:42
    something you don't have motivation so
  • 00:14:44
    if you imagine this guy is's at work and
  • 00:14:47
    he's thinking feeling pretty bored you
  • 00:14:49
    know I feel a bit groggy and he thinks I
  • 00:14:51
    can go to the gym in an hour at 4: when
  • 00:14:53
    I finish work and then he has the
  • 00:14:54
    craving to perform that action point
  • 00:14:57
    number three is the response this is is
  • 00:14:59
    when you actually perform the behavior
  • 00:15:00
    or the Habit if a habit is difficult to
  • 00:15:03
    perform as in there's High friction to
  • 00:15:05
    do it as in maybe you have to drive two
  • 00:15:08
    hours to go to the gym and then you have
  • 00:15:09
    to get changed and then you have to
  • 00:15:11
    clock in and do all of this stuff you
  • 00:15:13
    won't perform it or it will be very
  • 00:15:16
    difficult to sustain your performance of
  • 00:15:18
    it so image here this is the person
  • 00:15:20
    actually walking into the gym to train
  • 00:15:23
    number four this is the end of the Habit
  • 00:15:25
    after you've completed it and this is
  • 00:15:26
    the satisfying stage of feeling
  • 00:15:28
    accomplished with of yourself after
  • 00:15:30
    having completed it the thing to note
  • 00:15:31
    here in contrast to our boy down here
  • 00:15:33
    who's just done his workout if an action
  • 00:15:36
    or a habit is not satisfying you have no
  • 00:15:38
    reason to repeat it now let's move on to
  • 00:15:41
    the intricate details of how to form a
  • 00:15:44
    good habit after having understood the
  • 00:15:47
    four stages of habit formation we have
  • 00:15:49
    make it obvious in terms of the que make
  • 00:15:52
    it attractive in terms of the craving
  • 00:15:55
    make it easy in terms of the response
  • 00:15:57
    and finally make it satisfying to
  • 00:16:00
    complete the reward let's go make it
  • 00:16:03
    attractive you need to highlight the
  • 00:16:06
    reasons of why this habit would benefit
  • 00:16:08
    you so you can feel pulled towards doing
  • 00:16:11
    it rather than dragged towards doing it
  • 00:16:13
    one of the few ways you can do this is
  • 00:16:15
    using something called Temptation
  • 00:16:16
    building where you pair an action you
  • 00:16:19
    want to do with one you have to do for
  • 00:16:21
    example if you want to instill the
  • 00:16:23
    frequent habit of studying but you're
  • 00:16:25
    experiencing a little bit of resistance
  • 00:16:27
    to do so St study with music relaxing
  • 00:16:30
    music so it becomes a more enjoyable
  • 00:16:32
    process run while listening to a podcast
  • 00:16:35
    if running alone isn't as enjoyable for
  • 00:16:37
    you second of all you can join a culture
  • 00:16:40
    where this behavior is the norm think
  • 00:16:43
    about online communities they're very
  • 00:16:45
    popular now on school the reason why
  • 00:16:47
    these work so well is because you're
  • 00:16:50
    gathered in a space with like-minded
  • 00:16:52
    people who you know are also studying
  • 00:16:54
    again in the context of studying you
  • 00:16:56
    have videos online which is study with
  • 00:16:58
    me for 6 hours where some other nerd is
  • 00:17:01
    studying with you I say nerd I'm a very
  • 00:17:03
    big nerd I'm probably the biggest nerd
  • 00:17:04
    of all of us so no disrespect there
  • 00:17:07
    there are three categories of people
  • 00:17:09
    that you can associate with with your
  • 00:17:11
    habit formation the close the many the
  • 00:17:13
    powerful the close are the people you
  • 00:17:15
    have within your physical proximity
  • 00:17:17
    maybe you have a friend who also wants
  • 00:17:19
    to start going to the gym or learning a
  • 00:17:21
    language or start studying the many are
  • 00:17:23
    the people online who you could reach
  • 00:17:25
    out to or the people at a local
  • 00:17:27
    community you could get involved with
  • 00:17:29
    for example your local Jiu-Jitsu
  • 00:17:31
    Community people there are going to be
  • 00:17:32
    like-minded and then the powerful the
  • 00:17:35
    people who are the top performers in
  • 00:17:37
    that field who you feel inspired to
  • 00:17:40
    emulate using the context of your
  • 00:17:42
    desired sport you might think of a
  • 00:17:44
    athlete who is the star performer in
  • 00:17:46
    that field at the moment who you want to
  • 00:17:48
    mimic your habit formation on in order
  • 00:17:51
    to emulate their behavior third of all
  • 00:17:54
    you can create a motivation ritual this
  • 00:17:56
    is where you do something you enjoy
  • 00:17:58
    immedi immediately before you do
  • 00:17:59
    something difficult and from my
  • 00:18:01
    experience this works wonders I did this
  • 00:18:04
    when I was studying my first year at
  • 00:18:05
    University because sitting down to study
  • 00:18:08
    is actually quite laborous and
  • 00:18:09
    intimidating if you're thinking I'm
  • 00:18:11
    going to study for two hours and also
  • 00:18:13
    this really works with habit formation
  • 00:18:15
    around language learning for example you
  • 00:18:17
    could set the Habit in a social context
  • 00:18:19
    of walking into social situations or big
  • 00:18:22
    groups or events and every time you do
  • 00:18:25
    take a deep breath and smile so you are
  • 00:18:27
    tune in your behavior you before you go
  • 00:18:29
    in or one thing I do when I sit down to
  • 00:18:32
    study Spanish each day for 30 minutes I
  • 00:18:34
    have a bit of dark chocolate or I eat an
  • 00:18:36
    apple as I'm getting into the studying
  • 00:18:39
    process for the first two or three
  • 00:18:41
    minutes and it's so much more enjoyable
  • 00:18:43
    a more philosophical way you can make
  • 00:18:44
    things more attractive is through the
  • 00:18:46
    use of images so one thing that I really
  • 00:18:49
    try and instill Within Myself whenever
  • 00:18:51
    I'm reading alone is I think about how
  • 00:18:54
    I'm extracting valuable wisdom and
  • 00:18:58
    knowledge centuries ago from these books
  • 00:19:00
    and suddenly it doesn't just become oh
  • 00:19:02
    I'm reading a book it's no I'm having a
  • 00:19:04
    deep conversation with deep thinkers
  • 00:19:06
    it's an example number two make it
  • 00:19:09
    obvious one thing that you'll start to
  • 00:19:11
    pay attention to after this slide when
  • 00:19:13
    all of this knowledge sinks in is most
  • 00:19:16
    people struggle in their habit formation
  • 00:19:18
    because they just don't make things
  • 00:19:19
    clear enough you need to be clear you
  • 00:19:22
    need to use the sentence of this new
  • 00:19:24
    habit you want to form with I will
  • 00:19:26
    Behavior at time in in location so I
  • 00:19:30
    will study Spanish at 8:00 p.m. in my
  • 00:19:33
    garden while sitting on the lounge chair
  • 00:19:36
    with my phone you need to give yourself
  • 00:19:38
    as much clarity as you possibly can and
  • 00:19:41
    not set vague goals as we covered in
  • 00:19:42
    another video setting vague goals is
  • 00:19:45
    very characteristic of people with
  • 00:19:46
    depression which means they don't
  • 00:19:48
    achieve the goal and then they're more
  • 00:19:50
    depressed unfortunately one thing you
  • 00:19:53
    can use is habit stacking if you want to
  • 00:19:55
    create a positive fly wheel where after
  • 00:19:57
    you complete one habit you then are fly
  • 00:20:00
    wheeled into the next one use the
  • 00:20:02
    sentence of after current habit I will
  • 00:20:05
    new habit after I practice Spanish in
  • 00:20:07
    the garden on the lounge chair for 30
  • 00:20:09
    minutes I will get up clear the space
  • 00:20:12
    and do a 1 hour workout on the pull-up
  • 00:20:14
    bar outside even though we're going to
  • 00:20:16
    cover it in a natural section in a
  • 00:20:17
    second pay attention here to the
  • 00:20:19
    importance of environment when it comes
  • 00:20:21
    to making things obvious if you look
  • 00:20:23
    around my room for the little bit that I
  • 00:20:25
    show you all of my books are out in the
  • 00:20:28
    worst case my phone is out so that could
  • 00:20:29
    lead me into some bad habits you need to
  • 00:20:31
    make your cues to your behavior as
  • 00:20:34
    obvious and out there as possible for
  • 00:20:36
    example put your running shoes by the
  • 00:20:38
    front door so you can always see them
  • 00:20:40
    switch on a special lamp when it's time
  • 00:20:42
    to study or always keep your books by
  • 00:20:45
    your bed very simple ways that you can
  • 00:20:48
    facilitate your habit formation process
  • 00:20:51
    now key point you do not lack motivation
  • 00:20:55
    you lack Clarity going into what we just
  • 00:20:57
    covered at the first first point on that
  • 00:20:59
    last slide there is a special technique
  • 00:21:01
    that Japanese train operators use which
  • 00:21:04
    is called pointing and calling so
  • 00:21:06
    technique you use in unconscious ways
  • 00:21:08
    throughout your life as well and this is
  • 00:21:11
    where they literally say things out loud
  • 00:21:14
    they call the time of the train when the
  • 00:21:15
    next train is meant to come in order to
  • 00:21:18
    give everyone that they're working with
  • 00:21:20
    Clarity over what's going on and when
  • 00:21:23
    you might do this in unconscious ways
  • 00:21:25
    when you're leaving your house let's
  • 00:21:26
    imagine you're with your girlfriend and
  • 00:21:27
    you're leaving you might say have I got
  • 00:21:29
    my keys wallet phone passports if you're
  • 00:21:32
    about to go on a flight this is how we
  • 00:21:34
    do it this is what you can do with habit
  • 00:21:35
    formation as well to give yourself
  • 00:21:37
    Clarity be precise when you are
  • 00:21:40
    implementing a new habit I will act in I
  • 00:21:44
    will Behavior at time in location I
  • 00:21:47
    cannot tell you how important this is
  • 00:21:49
    you do not lack motivation you lack
  • 00:21:51
    Clarity don't say I want to practice
  • 00:21:53
    Spanish
  • 00:21:54
    later what does that even mean it means
  • 00:21:57
    nothing I will practice Spanish at 8:00
  • 00:22:00
    p.m. in the sun lounger in the garden
  • 00:22:02
    with my phone boom I want to read more
  • 00:22:05
    or be healthier they're great they're
  • 00:22:09
    really really great and the intention
  • 00:22:10
    for yourself is awesome you want to be
  • 00:22:12
    healthier but they're so unclear it's
  • 00:22:15
    laughable again after I get in from work
  • 00:22:18
    and close the door I will make a cup of
  • 00:22:20
    tea and sit down to read on my sofa at
  • 00:22:23
    6:00 p.m. after I close the door after I
  • 00:22:26
    sit down you need to give your brain as
  • 00:22:28
    much clarity as possible as much clarity
  • 00:22:31
    as possible number three make it easy
  • 00:22:34
    you need to reduce the friction in order
  • 00:22:36
    to perform the habit and you can do so
  • 00:22:39
    by instilling something called the
  • 00:22:40
    two-minute rule does what it says on the
  • 00:22:42
    tin you just perform it an action when
  • 00:22:45
    resistance is high for 2 minutes it's
  • 00:22:48
    all you need to do and this in the early
  • 00:22:51
    stages of after you've clarified the
  • 00:22:53
    type of person you want to become this
  • 00:22:55
    will really help you form the identity
  • 00:22:57
    and cast the votes in your behavior
  • 00:22:59
    being the type of person who's wise and
  • 00:23:01
    reads A Lot suddenly becomes I'll read
  • 00:23:04
    for 2 minutes every day you can also
  • 00:23:06
    prime your environment again so it's
  • 00:23:08
    easier for you to do this don't hide
  • 00:23:10
    your workout clothes don't make them
  • 00:23:12
    really hard to reach don't go to a gym
  • 00:23:15
    if the closest one is two hours away get
  • 00:23:17
    some workout gear set up in your garden
  • 00:23:19
    and lastly Master the decisive moment
  • 00:23:23
    you need to win that moment of
  • 00:23:25
    inspiration throughout the day where the
  • 00:23:27
    choice to proceed into the Habit is
  • 00:23:30
    there or the choice to actually go away
  • 00:23:33
    from The Habit is also there when you
  • 00:23:35
    feel the resistance these moments
  • 00:23:37
    they're key for example you can consider
  • 00:23:39
    two couples one couple when they come in
  • 00:23:41
    from work at 6:00 p.m. they get changed
  • 00:23:44
    straight into their running clothes and
  • 00:23:45
    they go to the gym the other couple
  • 00:23:47
    comes in puts all their stuff down sits
  • 00:23:50
    on the sofa and just watches Netflix for
  • 00:23:52
    the rest of the evening Master the
  • 00:23:54
    decisive moment four finally make it
  • 00:23:57
    satisfying
  • 00:23:59
    what is rewarded is repeated what is
  • 00:24:01
    punished is avoided and what this means
  • 00:24:03
    for your habit formation is you need to
  • 00:24:05
    instill something called positive
  • 00:24:06
    reinforcement now you'll notice that
  • 00:24:09
    when the flywheel starts to get under
  • 00:24:11
    the way and you're consistently
  • 00:24:13
    performing your habits The Habit itself
  • 00:24:16
    the process will become the reward
  • 00:24:18
    however in the early stages you can
  • 00:24:22
    actually start to reward yourself in
  • 00:24:24
    other direct ways for example on the
  • 00:24:26
    Habit tracker I showed you at the
  • 00:24:27
    beginning of this guide one of them for
  • 00:24:30
    me was waking up at quarter 6 every day
  • 00:24:33
    when I was living in Poland and the way
  • 00:24:34
    I motivated myself at the beginning is
  • 00:24:37
    one I put my phone in the kitchen so I
  • 00:24:40
    had to get up and walk out there and
  • 00:24:42
    turn it off and then I was like oh I'm
  • 00:24:43
    by the toilet might as well have a Wei
  • 00:24:45
    and then I would have a shower and I'd
  • 00:24:47
    be up but I really was getting into
  • 00:24:49
    reading at that point so I said every
  • 00:24:51
    time I wake up on time I can put free
  • 00:24:53
    pound into a budgeting account on my
  • 00:24:56
    bank which I could then use at the end
  • 00:24:58
    of the week to buy as many books as I
  • 00:25:00
    wanted to if I didn't wake up early I
  • 00:25:02
    couldn't buy any books so not waking up
  • 00:25:04
    early hindered my progress in something
  • 00:25:06
    that was very meaningful to me also you
  • 00:25:08
    can use a habit tracker to track your
  • 00:25:10
    progress as well one thing I have one
  • 00:25:13
    here i' would recommend getting like a
  • 00:25:16
    squared notepad they're really good I
  • 00:25:18
    put the goals here and then I put my
  • 00:25:21
    habit trackers here so I only have three
  • 00:25:23
    habits at a particular time now as well
  • 00:25:26
    because I think any more than three and
  • 00:25:27
    you got absolutely no progress in any of
  • 00:25:30
    them remember for new habits and
  • 00:25:32
    behaviors to stick they need to be
  • 00:25:34
    encoded into the dorsal stray ATM by the
  • 00:25:37
    prefrontal cortex so that they become
  • 00:25:40
    automatic and the way that we do this
  • 00:25:43
    bad news good news is through repetition
  • 00:25:46
    you're going to mess up again and again
  • 00:25:48
    and again and it will be tough to stick
  • 00:25:50
    to this Habit in the early stages or not
  • 00:25:53
    as tough if you follow all of the parts
  • 00:25:55
    but you need to remember that it will
  • 00:25:57
    take time to actually encodes this new
  • 00:25:59
    Behavior into the dorsal striatum
  • 00:26:02
    because it is biased to doing what we've
  • 00:26:03
    always done before two principles for
  • 00:26:06
    you to pay attention to here fail and
  • 00:26:08
    fail and fail but less and less and less
  • 00:26:11
    I think that's a Dutch proverb and then
  • 00:26:13
    finally fall down 7even times but get up
  • 00:26:15
    on the eighth as the Japanese say now
  • 00:26:19
    we've covered how to form a good
  • 00:26:21
    habit now we're going to cover extra
  • 00:26:24
    tips and environment design CU these are
  • 00:26:26
    very important never Miss twice as I
  • 00:26:30
    mentioned life will happen and you'll
  • 00:26:32
    have days where you don't want to do
  • 00:26:34
    that habit maybe you're traveling maybe
  • 00:26:36
    something's come up and for whatever
  • 00:26:37
    reason you can't do this habit that you
  • 00:26:39
    usually do that's fine just make sure
  • 00:26:43
    sign a contract with me now that you'll
  • 00:26:45
    never miss two days in a row because
  • 00:26:48
    missing one day is fine that happens but
  • 00:26:51
    it's when we miss two days in a row that
  • 00:26:53
    it then becomes a week two weeks a month
  • 00:26:56
    and suddenly we're not doing that habit
  • 00:26:58
    anymore never miss twice Keystone habits
  • 00:27:02
    awesome Point here these are the cues or
  • 00:27:04
    things that get you into the zone of
  • 00:27:06
    doing a habit for example putting your
  • 00:27:08
    running shoes by the front door turning
  • 00:27:10
    on your study light when it's time to
  • 00:27:12
    study pardon me unfolding your yoga mat
  • 00:27:16
    when it's time to stretch cleaning your
  • 00:27:18
    desk when it's time to study or record
  • 00:27:21
    these are the things that when you do it
  • 00:27:22
    signals to your brain ah we're now about
  • 00:27:25
    to do that habit so it starts to gather
  • 00:27:27
    that momentum of anticipation I would
  • 00:27:29
    say for every habit think of one
  • 00:27:31
    Keystone habit waking up early Keystone
  • 00:27:33
    habits for example might be be home by
  • 00:27:36
    10:00 every single night turn all your
  • 00:27:38
    lights and devices off by 10 p.m. and
  • 00:27:41
    make sure you're up at 6 p.m. they
  • 00:27:43
    become free Keystone habits habit
  • 00:27:47
    stacking turn that light off this is
  • 00:27:51
    really fun and if this isn't me in the
  • 00:27:52
    shower don't have that much air but this
  • 00:27:54
    is something I do after current habit I
  • 00:27:57
    will new habit this is the sentence you
  • 00:27:59
    want to create this is where you combine
  • 00:28:02
    two habits that don't require the same
  • 00:28:04
    sensory output so for example don't
  • 00:28:07
    combine writing and listening to a
  • 00:28:09
    podcast at the same time because they
  • 00:28:10
    both involve verbal output a good
  • 00:28:13
    example of two habits you can perform at
  • 00:28:15
    the same time taking both off the list
  • 00:28:17
    is running while listening to an audio
  • 00:28:19
    book or listening to a podcas in that
  • 00:28:22
    language that you're learning I while I
  • 00:28:24
    have a shower most of the time listen to
  • 00:28:26
    a Spanish podcast so so I can instill
  • 00:28:29
    that habit get my 30 minutes in while
  • 00:28:32
    I'm doing something else how you
  • 00:28:34
    implement this is you make a list of all
  • 00:28:36
    of your current habits and then you make
  • 00:28:39
    a list of the things that happen to you
  • 00:28:41
    each day just normally and then you
  • 00:28:43
    search for the best place to include
  • 00:28:45
    that new habit you can use the framework
  • 00:28:47
    here of course understanding the Q crav
  • 00:28:49
    and response and reward to do things
  • 00:28:51
    after one another because remember habit
  • 00:28:53
    stacking is usually when you do it at
  • 00:28:55
    the same time but doing it after one
  • 00:28:57
    another is when you create these
  • 00:28:59
    positive fly wheels so after you work
  • 00:29:01
    out you then have a nutritious meal I'll
  • 00:29:04
    show you on the next screen yeah
  • 00:29:07
    flywheels positive fly wheels are things
  • 00:29:09
    that Kickstart you into forward momentum
  • 00:29:12
    it creates a logic where I can't help
  • 00:29:15
    but sentence when you work out you can't
  • 00:29:18
    help but eat nutritious food which means
  • 00:29:20
    you can't help but go to bed early which
  • 00:29:22
    means you can't help but wake up
  • 00:29:24
    energized and work out more and suddenly
  • 00:29:26
    the process goes round and round and
  • 00:29:27
    round that's how you can use this
  • 00:29:29
    framework to understand what are the
  • 00:29:32
    habits that link into each other that
  • 00:29:34
    will give me the best chance of gaining
  • 00:29:36
    forward momentum into my life have a
  • 00:29:39
    think how to like doing hard things I
  • 00:29:42
    like that art it's basically say no to
  • 00:29:45
    alcohol in terms of the language that
  • 00:29:48
    you can use language is a really
  • 00:29:49
    important factor when it comes to Habit
  • 00:29:51
    formation change the word have to get
  • 00:29:56
    think of these two examples oh I have to
  • 00:29:58
    wake up early tomorrow I get to wake up
  • 00:30:00
    early tomorrow in fact I was talking to
  • 00:30:02
    my cousin yesterday and we was talking
  • 00:30:04
    about how we're both YouTubers and we
  • 00:30:06
    get to wake up and make videos and
  • 00:30:08
    suddenly it clicked in my mind again
  • 00:30:10
    where I thought oh my God it's a
  • 00:30:12
    privilege when you use the sentence I
  • 00:30:14
    get to do whatever you're doing it
  • 00:30:17
    becomes a privilege rather than a chore
  • 00:30:19
    also change I can't for I don't when
  • 00:30:24
    battling
  • 00:30:25
    Temptations I can't signals external
  • 00:30:28
    force is contributing to the reason you
  • 00:30:32
    can't do something when you say I don't
  • 00:30:35
    I'm going to give you examples on the
  • 00:30:36
    next screen it signals it's our decision
  • 00:30:39
    or personal choice to not do that
  • 00:30:42
    thing think about these even close your
  • 00:30:45
    eyes and just listen to how different
  • 00:30:46
    these sound I can't eat chocolate I
  • 00:30:49
    can't come out tonight I can't drink
  • 00:30:53
    maybe the reasons would be I can't eat
  • 00:30:54
    chocolate I'm on a diet I can't come out
  • 00:30:56
    tonight because I've got work I can't
  • 00:30:58
    drink you know I'm 30 days sober rather
  • 00:31:02
    than I don't eat chocolate I don't party
  • 00:31:05
    I don't drink what you're indicating in
  • 00:31:08
    the last few examples is I'm not the
  • 00:31:10
    type of person who eats sugary things
  • 00:31:14
    I'm the type of person who takes care of
  • 00:31:15
    their health I don't party I'm the type
  • 00:31:17
    of person who's focused and disciplined
  • 00:31:19
    I don't drink I'm the type of person who
  • 00:31:22
    takes care of their health again another
  • 00:31:25
    few examples of how language can be
  • 00:31:26
    really ow powerful and impactful when it
  • 00:31:29
    comes to Habit formation is don't say
  • 00:31:32
    again I have to go for a run this
  • 00:31:34
    morning of course say I get to go for a
  • 00:31:36
    run but you can change the
  • 00:31:39
    attractiveness of the Habit that you're
  • 00:31:41
    doing rather than saying I have to go
  • 00:31:43
    for a run you might say it's time to
  • 00:31:45
    build some speed and endurance suddenly
  • 00:31:48
    the dynamic becomes very different and
  • 00:31:50
    it's almost excitable saving money you
  • 00:31:54
    can start associating that not with
  • 00:31:57
    limiting your freedom but expanding your
  • 00:32:00
    freedom because you'll have more wealth
  • 00:32:02
    in the future saving now increases your
  • 00:32:04
    funds for next month lastly if you're
  • 00:32:06
    doing a public speech or something of
  • 00:32:08
    that sort or you're just facing a
  • 00:32:10
    nerve-wracking situation frame it in
  • 00:32:12
    your mind with your language instead of
  • 00:32:15
    saying oh I'm terrified I'm feeling
  • 00:32:16
    really nervous this is all going to go
  • 00:32:18
    wrong say when you get that feeling of
  • 00:32:20
    nerves which is the same biochemical
  • 00:32:23
    villain of excitedness I feel excited
  • 00:32:25
    and ready and I feel an adrenaline rush
  • 00:32:27
    to help me concentrate and that will
  • 00:32:29
    help you frame the interaction much
  • 00:32:31
    better environment design two analogies
  • 00:32:34
    for you here self-control and willpower
  • 00:32:37
    by the way a short term and they're not
  • 00:32:39
    good things to rely on when it comes to
  • 00:32:41
    Habit formation photo number one is a
  • 00:32:43
    water pressure system which increases
  • 00:32:46
    the water pressure if you're not paying
  • 00:32:47
    attention to how your environment is
  • 00:32:49
    designed you try to increase the
  • 00:32:52
    pressure of your habits by increasing
  • 00:32:54
    your willpower and motivation which just
  • 00:32:56
    leads to tension and Revenge bedtime
  • 00:32:59
    procrastination however in the second
  • 00:33:01
    instance if you untie the hose and
  • 00:33:04
    release the tension and the pressure
  • 00:33:07
    what you're doing is you're designing
  • 00:33:08
    your environment so it's as easy as
  • 00:33:11
    possible for you to do your good habits
  • 00:33:12
    and avoid your bad habits remember your
  • 00:33:15
    habits must fit into the natural flow of
  • 00:33:18
    your life environment design on the left
  • 00:33:22
    he has his phone next to his bed on the
  • 00:33:24
    right he has a book my boy alex or look
  • 00:33:28
    at that devilish look Alex Orosi is
  • 00:33:30
    great at this the thing to know about
  • 00:33:33
    environment design is new environments
  • 00:33:35
    help us escape the subtle cues and
  • 00:33:37
    triggers which usually lure us into our
  • 00:33:40
    bad habits and your options as to what
  • 00:33:43
    you do behaviorally are constrained by
  • 00:33:46
    what you have available in terms of your
  • 00:33:48
    cues which trigger your action or your
  • 00:33:50
    desire to want to act when you're going
  • 00:33:53
    to do a new habit especially if it's in
  • 00:33:56
    your house go to new place go to a new
  • 00:33:59
    room go to a new place or spot in your
  • 00:34:02
    room to perform that habit for example
  • 00:34:04
    when I was starting to meditate when I
  • 00:34:07
    used to live in Poland I went to a
  • 00:34:09
    specific corner of the room and I sat on
  • 00:34:11
    a specific cushion I only study in the
  • 00:34:13
    garage or downstairs I don't necessarily
  • 00:34:16
    study in my room because I'm either
  • 00:34:18
    sleeping in here or recording videos
  • 00:34:20
    also what is important is to not create
  • 00:34:23
    residue from previous habits when you
  • 00:34:25
    finish one habit clear the space and go
  • 00:34:28
    and do the next one so clear your desk
  • 00:34:31
    after you study don't leave your things
  • 00:34:33
    out all of the time of course leave them
  • 00:34:35
    out so you can see the cues and your
  • 00:34:36
    books and everything but don't leave it
  • 00:34:38
    spread out on the table make sure you
  • 00:34:40
    clean so that you can roll into the next
  • 00:34:42
    habit if it requires that same space
  • 00:34:45
    again remember the Keystone habits of
  • 00:34:47
    priming your environment so it signals
  • 00:34:49
    to your brain is study time it's
  • 00:34:51
    practice language time it's workout time
  • 00:34:54
    let's go now we've covered the extra
  • 00:34:56
    tips and environment design next part
  • 00:35:00
    how to break a bad habit let's go the
  • 00:35:03
    main thing to note about your bad habits
  • 00:35:05
    one we're going to reverse all the
  • 00:35:06
    points we did to form good habits you
  • 00:35:08
    just reverse engineer it but your brain
  • 00:35:11
    did not evolve to smoke cigarettes play
  • 00:35:13
    video games eat sugar or whatever bad
  • 00:35:16
    habit you're currently doing it evolved
  • 00:35:18
    to reduce stress relieve anxiety gain
  • 00:35:20
    social acceptance and nourish the body
  • 00:35:23
    and maintain Health that is one key
  • 00:35:26
    breakthrough with Breaking Bad habits
  • 00:35:28
    you're not wired to do this thing you're
  • 00:35:30
    wired to relieve whatever emotional
  • 00:35:35
    distress you
  • 00:35:37
    feel by doing that habit underlying your
  • 00:35:41
    bad habits are emotional distress or
  • 00:35:44
    stress in general that you trying to
  • 00:35:46
    cope with your habits are modern
  • 00:35:49
    solutions to ancient desires so once a
  • 00:35:51
    habit successfully meets an underlying
  • 00:35:53
    desire you will crave the habit and
  • 00:35:56
    perform it again life is predictive not
  • 00:35:59
    reactive fighting your impulses alone
  • 00:36:02
    the analogy here is as if you're
  • 00:36:04
    fighting off a zombie horde which is
  • 00:36:07
    infinite and there's no they're not
  • 00:36:08
    going to run out but you have limited
  • 00:36:11
    bullets eventually you're going to get
  • 00:36:13
    eaten and you're going to give into your
  • 00:36:14
    impulses so you need to understand habit
  • 00:36:16
    formation in order to solve this problem
  • 00:36:19
    now it's time to engage your prefrontal
  • 00:36:21
    cortex remember the slides we covered at
  • 00:36:24
    the beginning of this presentation let's
  • 00:36:26
    call it the three brain regions that are
  • 00:36:28
    most important the nucleus cumbus the
  • 00:36:31
    dorsal striatum and the prefrontal
  • 00:36:32
    cortex remember the nucleus cumbus just
  • 00:36:34
    wants us to act impulsively oh that
  • 00:36:37
    cupcake looks delicious the dorsal
  • 00:36:38
    striatum wants us to do whatever we've
  • 00:36:40
    done before let's do it this way because
  • 00:36:42
    that's how we've always done it but the
  • 00:36:43
    prefrontal cortex when we have a goal
  • 00:36:45
    and a direction we want to achieve is
  • 00:36:47
    what steers us on course towards
  • 00:36:49
    achieving it now the way to overcome bad
  • 00:36:51
    habits is we need to snap ourselves out
  • 00:36:53
    of the impulsive ways of acting that we
  • 00:36:55
    have governed ourselves into and our
  • 00:36:59
    unconscious following of whatever coping
  • 00:37:02
    mechanisms we've done in the past to now
  • 00:37:05
    do them again which is what the dorsal
  • 00:37:06
    striatum leads us into none of these
  • 00:37:09
    brain regions are bad by the way they
  • 00:37:11
    all work together as mentioned it's just
  • 00:37:13
    the way that we overcome bad habits is
  • 00:37:15
    we need to engage the conscious rational
  • 00:37:19
    directional decision-making part of our
  • 00:37:21
    brain which is the prefrontal cortex so
  • 00:37:23
    it can inhibit the bad actions that the
  • 00:37:27
    nuclear cumbent and the dorsal striatum
  • 00:37:29
    lead us into oversimplifying
  • 00:37:32
    Neuroscience but anyway we break bad
  • 00:37:34
    habits by reverse engineering everything
  • 00:37:36
    we did to form good habits we reduce the
  • 00:37:38
    exposure we make it unattractive we make
  • 00:37:41
    it difficult and we make it unsatisfying
  • 00:37:43
    number one Drake meme everyone do
  • 00:37:47
    it remove all the cues to your bad habit
  • 00:37:51
    you cannot eat an ice cream you don't
  • 00:37:53
    have you can see two examples with the
  • 00:37:55
    fridge if you want to start eating
  • 00:37:57
    healthy you fill your fridge with
  • 00:37:59
    healthy things get rid of all the
  • 00:38:01
    unhealthy stuff now I understand if you
  • 00:38:02
    live with other people this might be
  • 00:38:04
    quite hard when I was young I was trying
  • 00:38:05
    to do the same with stopping eating
  • 00:38:07
    sugar but I lived with my mom who didn't
  • 00:38:10
    really give a toss about breaking that
  • 00:38:12
    habit so what I would say is reduce the
  • 00:38:17
    exposure you have to the queue as much
  • 00:38:19
    as you possibly can but not always is
  • 00:38:21
    lost if you can't do so fully because
  • 00:38:24
    these next parts will help you number
  • 00:38:26
    two make it unattractive
  • 00:38:28
    highlight the reasons why avoiding this
  • 00:38:29
    habit is a net benefit to your life and
  • 00:38:32
    highlight what the consequences are if
  • 00:38:34
    you engage in this habit and continue to
  • 00:38:36
    do it really really meditate on it
  • 00:38:39
    doesn't matter what bad habit it is
  • 00:38:41
    really paint it in the most negative way
  • 00:38:42
    you possibly can and then join a culture
  • 00:38:45
    if possible where the behavior is
  • 00:38:48
    collectively seen as unattractive for
  • 00:38:50
    example nofap Alcoholics Anonymous
  • 00:38:52
    Whatever It Is by the way little hack
  • 00:38:55
    grayscale your phone to make go on your
  • 00:38:57
    phone even more unattractive that's an
  • 00:38:59
    example number three make it difficult
  • 00:39:02
    going back to environment design
  • 00:39:04
    increase the number of steps required to
  • 00:39:07
    do this bad habit for instance if
  • 00:39:09
    watching Netflix for you is a problem
  • 00:39:12
    remove your TV or just remove your TV
  • 00:39:15
    from your room so you have to go
  • 00:39:17
    downstairs you have to get it out you
  • 00:39:18
    have to plug it in suddenly watch your
  • 00:39:20
    Netflix becomes this really laborous
  • 00:39:22
    thing and you pick up a book instead
  • 00:39:24
    remove all unhealthy food from your
  • 00:39:26
    house of course block websites on your
  • 00:39:29
    phone or place your phone above your
  • 00:39:31
    wardrobe somewhere really high or
  • 00:39:33
    outside in a garage or just switch it
  • 00:39:35
    off I know Andrew huberman when he was
  • 00:39:37
    working in his research lab would go in
  • 00:39:39
    each day and give his phone to one of
  • 00:39:42
    his colleagues and say I'm not allowed
  • 00:39:45
    this back until 5:00 p.m. and if I ask
  • 00:39:47
    for it back I have to pay you $1,000
  • 00:39:49
    it's an example number four lastly bit
  • 00:39:53
    of an extreme photo that one don't know
  • 00:39:55
    why I put that one in there but anyway
  • 00:39:56
    make it satisfying add instant
  • 00:39:59
    consequences for performing that action
  • 00:40:02
    an example if you binge eat biscuits
  • 00:40:05
    remove all of your money from your
  • 00:40:06
    savings account get an accountability
  • 00:40:09
    partner and allow them to cash a check
  • 00:40:12
    of Β£500 if you do this bad habit if you
  • 00:40:15
    really want to not do this thing it
  • 00:40:17
    doesn't matter if you take Extreme
  • 00:40:19
    Measures write out a check give it to
  • 00:40:21
    your trust most trusted friend or family
  • 00:40:24
    member and say if I do this thing if I
  • 00:40:27
    smoke if I bingee if I miss a day of
  • 00:40:29
    working out if I fap whatever it is you
  • 00:40:32
    want to stop doing or start doing if I
  • 00:40:34
    miss a day or if I do it you can cash
  • 00:40:36
    this check the last thing I wanted to
  • 00:40:38
    mention mainly from a neuroscientific
  • 00:40:40
    point of view is all of your bad coping
  • 00:40:44
    mechanisms all of your bad habits that
  • 00:40:47
    you do that you currently don't want to
  • 00:40:48
    do are triggered by stress so when you
  • 00:40:51
    really understand this principle that we
  • 00:40:53
    mentioned in this part of the slide that
  • 00:40:56
    your brain did not evolved to smoke
  • 00:40:58
    cigarettes play video games eat sugar it
  • 00:40:59
    evolved to reduce stress relieve anxiety
  • 00:41:02
    gain social acceptance and nourish the
  • 00:41:03
    body and maintain Health you can just
  • 00:41:05
    start to understand
  • 00:41:07
    that if you smoke cigarettes when you're
  • 00:41:11
    stressed if you scroll when you're bored
  • 00:41:14
    if you address the underlying problem
  • 00:41:17
    which is boredom or stress in a more
  • 00:41:19
    constructive way you can then replace
  • 00:41:22
    your bad habit with a good habit and of
  • 00:41:25
    course it takes time to actually do so
  • 00:41:27
    which you'll have to respect the process
  • 00:41:28
    what this might look like is if you fap
  • 00:41:31
    when you're stressed or if you scroll
  • 00:41:33
    when you're stressed or if you binge
  • 00:41:36
    when you're sad just replace that with a
  • 00:41:39
    better way of dealing with that stress
  • 00:41:41
    or that sadness instead of fapping you
  • 00:41:43
    go for a run instead of scrolling you
  • 00:41:46
    meditate instead of binge eting you call
  • 00:41:48
    a friend while on a walk replacement is
  • 00:41:51
    the key let's finalize cuz we've covered
  • 00:41:54
    how to break a bad habit almost at an
  • 00:41:56
    hour
  • 00:41:58
    the Goldilocks rule how to stay
  • 00:42:00
    motivated in life and in whatever you're
  • 00:42:02
    doing especially with your habits quick
  • 00:42:05
    question doesn't matter whether you have
  • 00:42:07
    boxing experience or not it doesn't
  • 00:42:09
    matter whether you've never punched
  • 00:42:11
    anything in your life let say you are an
  • 00:42:14
    average boxer okay you go twice a week
  • 00:42:17
    which one out of these three people do
  • 00:42:20
    you think you'd have the most challenge
  • 00:42:23
    facing in a boxing ring you got a little
  • 00:42:25
    kid you got an average boxer and you got
  • 00:42:28
    Canelo Alvarez who's one of the best
  • 00:42:30
    pound-for-pound boxers in the world
  • 00:42:32
    number one would be too easy Canelo
  • 00:42:34
    would bite your head off but number two
  • 00:42:35
    would give you an adequate challenge
  • 00:42:37
    because he was he would be at your same
  • 00:42:38
    level think about it again in the
  • 00:42:40
    context of tennis who' you reckon you'd
  • 00:42:42
    be a little girl an average man or
  • 00:42:45
    Serena
  • 00:42:47
    Williams probably you'd have most
  • 00:42:49
    challenge facing this guy Jerry so you
  • 00:42:52
    need to make sure that your habits in
  • 00:42:55
    order to make progress and stay
  • 00:42:56
    motivated ated in them are not too hard
  • 00:42:59
    but they're not too easy they're just
  • 00:43:01
    right the way to conceptualize this is
  • 00:43:04
    there's a principle in Neuroscience it's
  • 00:43:06
    called like the 8515 rule when you're
  • 00:43:08
    practicing something in order to
  • 00:43:10
    maintain motivation to do it you want to
  • 00:43:13
    be failing around 15% of the time in the
  • 00:43:17
    context of language learning let's look
  • 00:43:19
    at it during a 30 minute study session
  • 00:43:22
    you want to be making mistakes 15% of
  • 00:43:25
    the time to make sure your continuously
  • 00:43:27
    learning but it's just enough of a
  • 00:43:29
    challenge not to dishearten you because
  • 00:43:32
    if you're failing 90% of the time you're
  • 00:43:34
    going to have to be quite resilient to
  • 00:43:35
    keep motivated in what you're doing
  • 00:43:37
    you'll learn loads because you're making
  • 00:43:39
    a lot more mistakes but the point is
  • 00:43:40
    valid that whenever you're practicing
  • 00:43:42
    something aim for 15% of the time you
  • 00:43:45
    are failing in order to maintain
  • 00:43:47
    progress there's a famous quote from
  • 00:43:48
    Steve Martin who has mentioned in atomic
  • 00:43:50
    habits and he was a famous comedian 10
  • 00:43:53
    years spent learning four years spent
  • 00:43:54
    refining and four years as a w
  • 00:43:57
    success stick to the goldilux rule and
  • 00:44:00
    work on tasks of just manageable
  • 00:44:02
    difficulty measure your progress and
  • 00:44:04
    also receive immediate feedback whenever
  • 00:44:07
    possible which links Us in to our next
  • 00:44:09
    point now the Goldilocks rule is done
  • 00:44:12
    the importance of habit reviews my boys
  • 00:44:16
    comeing you Gunners I had to sorry if
  • 00:44:18
    you don't support Arsenal but you know
  • 00:44:20
    your boy had to do it when a measuring
  • 00:44:22
    technique becomes the aim of the Habit
  • 00:44:25
    the technique no longer serves you and
  • 00:44:27
    what this means is let's imagine in
  • 00:44:30
    order to track your habit you're using
  • 00:44:32
    an app to tick off the days you
  • 00:44:34
    performed the habit or you have a habit
  • 00:44:36
    tracker like I have here but you only do
  • 00:44:40
    the Habit in order to tick off those
  • 00:44:42
    days if that's the case you need to
  • 00:44:45
    review your system because you're now
  • 00:44:47
    optimizing for the wrong thing so you
  • 00:44:49
    need to fall in love with the process of
  • 00:44:51
    the Habit that you're doing and just
  • 00:44:52
    treat yourself as an engineer where
  • 00:44:54
    every now and then you check in to see
  • 00:44:56
    how how often you've done it and to see
  • 00:44:58
    what needs working on and What needs
  • 00:45:00
    tweaking think about it this way 80% of
  • 00:45:04
    you in terms of productivity and habit
  • 00:45:06
    formation is a plane 10% is the pilot
  • 00:45:10
    the prefrontal cortex deciding what
  • 00:45:12
    direction you're going towards and what
  • 00:45:14
    the goal of your habit formation is 10%
  • 00:45:17
    is the engineer that is where you tweak
  • 00:45:20
    what needs tweaking in the plane you
  • 00:45:21
    check up on your energy levels and you
  • 00:45:23
    do reviews so you can see what's working
  • 00:45:25
    and what isn't man is alive and changing
  • 00:45:28
    not rigid and stiff leading into our
  • 00:45:31
    next point on this slide with identities
  • 00:45:34
    there's one thing that you can do to
  • 00:45:37
    prevent yourself from tripping up by
  • 00:45:39
    forming the wrong identity don't form
  • 00:45:41
    rigid identities for instance if your
  • 00:45:44
    doctor tells you that you have severe
  • 00:45:46
    health problems but your identity is
  • 00:45:48
    that you're vegan his suggestions that
  • 00:45:52
    you need to change your diet are going
  • 00:45:53
    to contradict an identity that you have
  • 00:45:56
    so in this case it would be much better
  • 00:45:58
    to have the identity of instead of I'm a
  • 00:46:01
    vegan I am someone who takes care of
  • 00:46:03
    their health and the planet and then if
  • 00:46:06
    you have to change your diet you can and
  • 00:46:09
    it doesn't completely coincide and
  • 00:46:10
    shatter one of your identities last two
  • 00:46:13
    slides now the importance of a habit
  • 00:46:15
    review as mentioned briefly in the last
  • 00:46:17
    Slide the good thing is that you form
  • 00:46:19
    effective habits that you stick to
  • 00:46:21
    throughout your habit formation the only
  • 00:46:23
    bad thing is that these habits can
  • 00:46:25
    become too automatic so you neglect how
  • 00:46:28
    to improve and how to instill more
  • 00:46:31
    errors so you're making more progress
  • 00:46:33
    I've had this many times throughout my
  • 00:46:34
    life with learning Spanish where I've
  • 00:46:36
    just got into the routine of practicing
  • 00:46:38
    what I already know feeling like I'm
  • 00:46:40
    making progress but then realizing I'm
  • 00:46:42
    not I'm just wasting my time because I'm
  • 00:46:44
    doing the same thing all I needed was a
  • 00:46:45
    tweak I needed to act oh I needed to
  • 00:46:48
    activate my engineer
  • 00:46:50
    mindset so make sure you review what's
  • 00:46:53
    working at least once a week or once a
  • 00:46:55
    month and tweak
  • 00:46:57
    what needs to be tweaked and you can do
  • 00:46:59
    so by asking these questions in your
  • 00:47:01
    review what went well this week maybe
  • 00:47:03
    you do a bit of journaling how am I
  • 00:47:05
    living or working with Integrity right
  • 00:47:07
    now what did I learn what are the core
  • 00:47:10
    values that drive my life and work and
  • 00:47:13
    how can I set a higher standard in the
  • 00:47:15
    future if you ask these questions most
  • 00:47:17
    importantly what went well this week and
  • 00:47:19
    what did I learn also instill in one
  • 00:47:21
    more is there anything I would change in
  • 00:47:23
    order to improve my processes next week
  • 00:47:26
    then you'll experience all the progress
  • 00:47:28
    in the world we've covered everything
  • 00:47:30
    thank you very much for your time and
  • 00:47:32
    attention hopefully it was worth it to
  • 00:47:34
    support the channel continue supporting
  • 00:47:36
    the videos as long as they're good of
  • 00:47:37
    course don't blindly follow the Habit
  • 00:47:40
    currently working on some projects which
  • 00:47:41
    are going to be released next year one
  • 00:47:43
    there going to be two courses and
  • 00:47:45
    hopefully some books in the works as
  • 00:47:47
    well all about social skills and mental
  • 00:47:49
    flourishing they're going to be
  • 00:47:50
    synthesizing everything that I'm
  • 00:47:51
    learning at the moment I'm doing like
  • 00:47:53
    three hours of study a day about those
  • 00:47:55
    two topics social skills and mental
  • 00:47:57
    flourishing so wait for them they can be
  • 00:48:00
    great ways to support the channel also
  • 00:48:02
    feel free to join the free newsletter in
  • 00:48:04
    the description other than that stay
  • 00:48:06
    disciplined playful dangerous adios
Tags
  • habit formation
  • Atomic Habits
  • The Upward Spiral
  • neuroscience
  • identity change
  • environmental design
  • habit stacking
  • goal setting
  • motivation
  • habit breaking