Full Habits Guide: How to Make & Break ANY Habit
Summary
TLDRThe video is an extensive guide to habit formation, drawing from 'Atomic Habits' and 'The Upward Spiral.' It promises viewers a comprehensive understanding of how to set, maintain, and break habits by delving into the neuroscience of habit formation. Discussed topics include the brain regions involved, reasons why goals alone are insufficient, and practical frameworks for forming new habits and breaking undesirable ones. Major points include understanding habit change as identity change, using environmental design to facilitate habits, and employing systems over goals for continued progress. Techniques like habit stacking, the two-minute rule, and the Goldilocks Rule are suggested for more effective habit management. Additionally, the video provides insights on engaging the prefrontal cortex to overcome impulsive behavior and emphasizes the alignment of habits with personal identity. Practical advice is shared on making habits attractive, obvious, and satisfying, and avoiding bad habits through reverse engineering. The importance of continuous self-review and adapting to personal progress forms a crucial part of the habit-building process.
Takeaways
- π The video covers key insights from 'Atomic Habits' and 'The Upward Spiral.'
- π§ Neuroscience plays a crucial role in understanding habits, focusing on three brain regions.
- π― Goals alone are insufficient; systems and identity changes are more effective.
- π Habit formation involves four stages: cue, craving, response, and reward.
- π€ Identity change is essential in habit transformation.
- π Employ the Goldilocks Rule for maintaining motivation.
- π Make habits attractive, obvious, and satisfying to reinforce them.
- π Use habit stacking and the two-minute rule to simplify habit-making.
- π ββοΈ Break bad habits by reversing good habit strategies.
- π Continuous habit reviews are critical for sustained improvement.
Timeline
- 00:00:00 - 00:05:00
The video promises a comprehensive guide to habit formation using insights from 'Atomic Habits' and 'The Upward Spiral'. The speaker assures that viewers will learn to establish and maintain good habits while breaking bad ones, and achieve progress in desired areas. The content covers topics such as brain regions in habit formation, reasons why goals alone are insufficient, the four steps of habit formation, and more. A personal story from 2020 sets the stage, illustrating the speaker's journey from poor habits to self-improvement, emphasizing the importance of structure in habit formation.
- 00:05:00 - 00:10:00
The speaker explains the roles of three brain regions in habit formation: the nucleus accumbens (governs impulsivity), the dorsal striatum (repeats familiar actions), and the prefrontal cortex (manages planning and decision-making). These regions communicate differently, affecting how habits form and persist. The speaker notes that habits are encoded in the dorsal striatum over time, making it challenging to change them. Goals are contrasted with systems, and the shortcomings of goals are discussed, highlighting that systems (or habits) are necessary for sustained success beyond simply achieving goals.
- 00:10:00 - 00:15:00
The speaker emphasizes the importance of identity in habit change, suggesting that instead of focusing on what to do or how to do it, individuals should consider who they want to become. Actions should align with the desired identity, as consistent small wins reinforce this identity over time. The speaker uses analogies to illustrate that habits must align with personal interests for sustainability, and advises starting with self-introspection to determine which habits fit naturally. The significance of casting "votes" for the desired identity through aligned actions is highlighted.
- 00:15:00 - 00:20:00
The four stages of habit formation are detailed: cue, craving, response, and reward, with an explanation of how each stage supports the formation of behaviors. To create a new habit, these stages must be optimized: make it obvious, make it attractive, make it easy, and make it satisfying. Techniques such as temptation bundling, joining communities, and creating motivation rituals are suggested to enhance habit attractiveness. Clarity in habit-setting and reducing friction are emphasized to ensure successful habit formation.
- 00:20:00 - 00:25:00
The presentation teaches how to make a habit obvious through clarity and habit stacking, using environmental cues and structured planning. Techniques like pointing and calling provide clarity, while the two-minute rule and environmental priming reduce friction to make the habit easier. Reinforcement through immediate rewards helps the habit's cost-effectiveness. Success in habitual behavior relies on structuring supportive environments and ensuring precise habit formation, acknowledging that clarity often supersedes motivation in influencing behavior.
- 00:25:00 - 00:30:00
To break bad habits, the speaker suggests reversing the steps of forming good habits: make cues invisible, make cravings unattractive, increase friction, and make consequences unsatisfying. Understanding that bad habits often fulfill unmet emotional needs is key. Engaging the prefrontal cortex can help steer behavior away from impulsive and automatic decisions that are driven by the nucleus accumbens and dorsal striatum. Strategies involve removing triggers, highlighting negative outcomes, making the habit difficult to perform, and introducing penalties for undesirable actions.
- 00:30:00 - 00:35:00
Focusing on the Goldilocks rule for maintaining motivation, the speaker discusses setting challenges that are not too easy or too difficult, striking the right balance to sustain interest and growth. In practice, one should aim to fail about 15% of the time to ensure continuous learning without discouragement. The speaker encourages a mindset that views habit practice as a continuous game, leading to sustained engagement and progress. Systems are emphasized over rigid goal-setting to allow adaptability and consistent improvement without burnout.
- 00:35:00 - 00:40:00
The importance of habit reviews is highlighted to ensure that habits continue to serve the individualβs goals effectively. Regular evaluations help tweak approaches and maintain motivation by revisiting what worked, identifying areas for improvement, and ensuring the alignment of habits with core values and objectives. Avoiding rigid identities and embracing flexible self-concepts supports adaptability and long-term success. Reflective questions are recommended to facilitate these reviews, promoting continuous personal growth.
- 00:40:00 - 00:48:11
The video concludes by reiterating the comprehensive nature of the habit formation guide and inviting viewers to engage with additional resources, including future courses and newsletters. The emphasis is placed on discipline, playfulness, and the ongoing journey of personal development. The speaker thanks viewers for their support and encourages them to stay committed to self-improvement, offering a glimpse into upcoming content focused on social skills and mental flourishing.
Mind Map
Video Q&A
What books does the video discuss?
The video covers 'Atomic Habits' and 'The Upward Spiral.'
What is the video about?
The video is a guide on habit formation, focusing on setting, maintaining, and breaking habits.
Who is the target audience?
The video is aimed at anyone interested in improving their habit formation skills.
What are the four stages of habit formation mentioned?
The stages are cue, craving, response, and reward.
How does the video suggest making tasks more manageable?
It suggests breaking down tasks into the 'two-minute rule' and using habit stacking.
What technique is recommended for motivation?
The video suggests using the Goldilocks Rule to ensure tasks are neither too hard nor too easy.
How can bad habits be broken according to the video?
By making the cue less obvious, unattractive, difficult, and unsatisfying.
What is the significance of identity in habit formation?
Habit change is tied to identity change, focusing on becoming the type of person you wish to be.
What is the role of the brain in habit formation?
The video explains the roles of three brain regions: nucleus accumbens, dorsal striatum, and prefrontal cortex.
What advice is given for maintaining good habits?
Maintaining motivation through small wins and habit reviews is emphasized.
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- 00:00:00this is the last video you'll ever have
- 00:00:01to watch on habit
- 00:00:03formation enjoy there we go we are going
- 00:00:07to be covering two books which I have
- 00:00:08distilled and synthesized the knowledge
- 00:00:10from in this habit formation guide
- 00:00:12Atomic habits and the upward spiral
- 00:00:14which is a neuroscientific book about
- 00:00:16depression But it includes Some solid
- 00:00:18things about habit formation this is my
- 00:00:20promise to you in exchange for the time
- 00:00:22that you dedicate for this video in the
- 00:00:24next few minutes of your life after
- 00:00:26watching this guide you will have a
- 00:00:28complete understanding of how to set
- 00:00:30stick to and maintain good habits whilst
- 00:00:33understanding how to break your bad ones
- 00:00:35forever I'll give you the framework
- 00:00:38you'll also learn how to achieve
- 00:00:39boundless progress in your life within
- 00:00:41the areas that are important to you I'm
- 00:00:43not going to tell you what they are that
- 00:00:44is completely up to you to decide let's
- 00:00:47go this is the contents of what we're
- 00:00:49going to be covering a quick story which
- 00:00:51happened in 2020 why bother with habits
- 00:00:53in the first place everything you need
- 00:00:54to know about the brain regions involved
- 00:00:56in habit formation the Neuroscience
- 00:00:58within 30 seconds four reasons why goals
- 00:01:01alone don't work don't ask what how ask
- 00:01:04who the four steps of habit formation
- 00:01:06how to form a good habit how to break a
- 00:01:08bad habit environment the Goldilocks
- 00:01:10rule how to stay motivated forever in
- 00:01:12whatever you're doing and then we're
- 00:01:13going to finalize with some extra tips
- 00:01:16on how to go from good to great in
- 00:01:18whatever habit you are following 2020
- 00:01:21story there is me with long hair and a
- 00:01:24beard in 2020 I used to live in Poland
- 00:01:27and I was in a stage of life where covid
- 00:01:29had hit I was inside most of the time I
- 00:01:31was living with my girlfriend at the
- 00:01:33time and I just didn't have good habits
- 00:01:37I you can see the little journal in my
- 00:01:38pocket there your boy was still
- 00:01:40journaling and doing the
- 00:01:41self-improvement stuff but as far as
- 00:01:44stopping my bad habits which were always
- 00:01:46watching YouTube and how to actually
- 00:01:49start exercising more and be more
- 00:01:52dedicated to the things that were
- 00:01:53important to me I had absolutely no idea
- 00:01:55how to do it you can tell from my
- 00:01:58incredibly creased t-shir shirts your
- 00:02:00boy was a mess and then one day
- 00:02:04absolutely disgruntled at the fact that
- 00:02:06I had wasted another day just binge
- 00:02:08watching YouTube I was on YouTube and I
- 00:02:11came across a video from a YouTuber who
- 00:02:13you might know called better ideas and
- 00:02:16this video was all about how to stop
- 00:02:17checking your phone because that was the
- 00:02:19problem I was dealing with the most at
- 00:02:21that time but he mentioned a book in
- 00:02:23that video called Atomic habits and I
- 00:02:25instantly got the audio book and it was
- 00:02:27like Divine timing in the sense that
- 00:02:29covid had just happened I was inside and
- 00:02:32I finally started to gather the
- 00:02:33Frameworks of what works with behavior
- 00:02:36change how can I actually instill better
- 00:02:39habits within my life and more
- 00:02:41importantly how can I stop doing my bad
- 00:02:44habits so I came across this video came
- 00:02:46across the book and then long story
- 00:02:49short got a bit ripped I was very skinny
- 00:02:52at the time because I was eating
- 00:02:54vegetarian as well so I had a lot of
- 00:02:56Health choices that weren't gearing me
- 00:02:59towards flourishing health and I got a
- 00:03:02habit tracker at that time as well and I
- 00:03:04started tracking the five main habits
- 00:03:06that I wanted to adhere to which was
- 00:03:08waking up early practicing polish as the
- 00:03:11language eating healthy doing a run or a
- 00:03:14workout each day and stretching in the
- 00:03:16evenings as well and that's what I
- 00:03:17dedicated all of my time to and as you
- 00:03:19can see most of the time it was all 100%
- 00:03:21but I went from very skinny to in a
- 00:03:24decent shape you know I'm not the most
- 00:03:26ripped person but what I want to
- 00:03:28highlight is I wasn't making any
- 00:03:30progress in my life until I came across
- 00:03:32the knowledge that I'm going to share
- 00:03:33with you in these slides next up why
- 00:03:35bother with habits this is one of my
- 00:03:37favorite sculptures it is often
- 00:03:39attributed to the idea of
- 00:03:40self-development and I very much feel it
- 00:03:42encapsulates what self-development is
- 00:03:44because this piece of material is being
- 00:03:48sculptured out of what the material is
- 00:03:50which is the person so it captures the
- 00:03:52idea that with your habit formation you
- 00:03:55are the material but you are also the
- 00:03:57thing that sculpts that material in to
- 00:04:00whatever form you want to sculpt it in
- 00:04:02arti there is a idea in Greek thought or
- 00:04:06Greek philosophy called arti which
- 00:04:08essentially means Excellence there is a
- 00:04:11quote that's misattributed to Aristotle
- 00:04:13he put half of it and then the writer
- 00:04:15will Duran finished it off Aristotle
- 00:04:17said virtues are formed in Man by his
- 00:04:20doing the actions and then the writer
- 00:04:22will Duran interpreted thusly we are
- 00:04:25what we repeatedly do therefore
- 00:04:27Excellence is not an act but a habit
- 00:04:30it doesn't matter what you want to do if
- 00:04:32you want to study more if you want to
- 00:04:33work out if you want to improve your
- 00:04:35social skills if you're learning a
- 00:04:37language or you want to start doing deep
- 00:04:38work anything that you want to do
- 00:04:41requires habit formation if you want to
- 00:04:43do it well so this is what we're going
- 00:04:46into next 30 second Neuroscience let's
- 00:04:50see set your timers let's go there are
- 00:04:52three main brain regions you need to
- 00:04:54know when it comes to Habit formation
- 00:04:56the nuclear cumbent the dorsal striatum
- 00:04:59and the pre frontal cortex the only
- 00:05:01thing you need to know about these brain
- 00:05:03regions is they communicate with each
- 00:05:05other but what they say is very
- 00:05:08different the nuclear succumbent is the
- 00:05:10part of the brain which governs
- 00:05:12impulsivity and it would say oh that
- 00:05:14cupcake looks delicious because it just
- 00:05:16wants to do whatever is most impulsive
- 00:05:18right now the dorsal striatum this part
- 00:05:21in the middle is not rational nor is it
- 00:05:24a conscious part of the brain it's a
- 00:05:26very old part of the brain in our
- 00:05:28evolutionary history and it just wants
- 00:05:30to do whatever you've usually done in
- 00:05:32that scenario so it would argue let's do
- 00:05:35it this way because that's how we've
- 00:05:36always done it but the prefrontal cortex
- 00:05:39is the most evolved part of our brain
- 00:05:41and it gives us a huge evolutionary
- 00:05:43advantage over other animals because it
- 00:05:45is essentially what governs our behavior
- 00:05:48and it is responsible for planning
- 00:05:51decision making but also worrying and
- 00:05:53other things like that it would argue
- 00:05:55but that won't help us get to where we
- 00:05:57want to go in response to the nuclear
- 00:05:59cumbent and saying oh that cupcake looks
- 00:06:01delicious just like Congress members
- 00:06:02when people are debating in politics
- 00:06:05your habits are a result of these three
- 00:06:07brain regions communicating but they
- 00:06:10don't always agree because if they
- 00:06:12always agreed your habits would just be
- 00:06:14certain and you would always know what
- 00:06:15you need to do remember oh that cupcake
- 00:06:18looks delicious nuclear succumbent let's
- 00:06:20do it this way because that's how we've
- 00:06:22always done it dorsal stri hat
- 00:06:25Trump prefrontal cortex but that won't
- 00:06:28help us get to where we want to go as we
- 00:06:30mentioned the dorsal striatum is heavily
- 00:06:33responsible for encoding behaviors that
- 00:06:35you do now to then make sure that they
- 00:06:37become automatic and become habits it
- 00:06:40just wants us to do what we've done
- 00:06:42before you can imagine it like a train
- 00:06:43track it's not really bothered about
- 00:06:45going off track or exploring any new
- 00:06:48adventures or new directions it will
- 00:06:50just give you we've done this before so
- 00:06:51we can do this or we did this in the
- 00:06:53past we can do this as well it's not
- 00:06:55rational or conscious as mentioned so
- 00:06:58give you a little bit of a passing for
- 00:06:59your bad habits you're not exactly to
- 00:07:02blame for falling into your bad habits
- 00:07:04because when you feel that urge to
- 00:07:06indulge in them you're not necessarily
- 00:07:09acting
- 00:07:10rationally it's a little pass from me to
- 00:07:13control your impulses and to create
- 00:07:15better habits this Neuroscience is
- 00:07:17definitely going over 30 seconds the
- 00:07:19prefrontal cortex remember the front
- 00:07:21part of your brain needs to program new
- 00:07:24behaviors into the
- 00:07:26striatum remember that cuz we're going
- 00:07:28to come back to this later
- 00:07:31now we're moving on goals versus systems
- 00:07:34let's go the four reasons why goals
- 00:07:36alone don't work as according to James
- 00:07:39Clear in atomic habits number one goals
- 00:07:42restrict your happiness because what as
- 00:07:45the famous quote goes from nval Ravon
- 00:07:47desire is a contract you make with
- 00:07:49yourself to be unhappy until you get
- 00:07:51what you want naturally when we want to
- 00:07:53achieve something in the future we just
- 00:07:55delay our happiness until we get it two
- 00:07:58goals inhibit your future Improvement
- 00:08:00they help you win the game but it's your
- 00:08:03systems that help you continue playing
- 00:08:05the game systems a word used
- 00:08:07interchangeably for habits and processes
- 00:08:10number three winners and losers have the
- 00:08:12exact same
- 00:08:14goals remember when you was in school
- 00:08:16everyone most people wanted to pass the
- 00:08:18test but only a few people did because
- 00:08:21the way they went about it was different
- 00:08:23in terms of their studying habits number
- 00:08:25four lastly achieving a goal is only a
- 00:08:27momentary change because the thing to
- 00:08:30consider is okay you achieved the goal
- 00:08:32but what comes next this is what we're
- 00:08:34going to focus on goals aren't all bad
- 00:08:36though I don't want to paint the picture
- 00:08:38that they are absolutely terrible goals
- 00:08:41are governed by our prefrontal cortex to
- 00:08:44give us direction to dictate what comes
- 00:08:46next they help us win the game but
- 00:08:49habits systems processes they give us
- 00:08:51the feeling of progress where we
- 00:08:53continue playing the game you can
- 00:08:55consider the illustration here of an
- 00:08:57infinity symbol indicating in an
- 00:08:59infinite game rather than a finite
- 00:09:01symbol for example getting into a
- 00:09:04relationship is a finite game it's a
- 00:09:07goal but to continue being in a
- 00:09:09relationship is an infinite game one
- 00:09:12that you will require habits of love and
- 00:09:15communication and date nights and all of
- 00:09:17that stuff in order to maintain it to
- 00:09:20lose 10 kilograms is a goal after you do
- 00:09:23that you likely slack off unless you
- 00:09:26substitute achieving that goal with the
- 00:09:28system okay staying in shape is the
- 00:09:30infinite game now let's move on to the
- 00:09:34most important thing throughout this
- 00:09:35whole presentation in the confidence of
- 00:09:38me saying if you just pay attention to
- 00:09:40this part you'll be fine habit change is
- 00:09:43identity change so don't ask what or how
- 00:09:46ask
- 00:09:48who quote from James clear here the
- 00:09:50author of atomic habits every action you
- 00:09:53take is a vote for the type of person
- 00:09:55you wish to become no single instance
- 00:09:57will transform your belief
- 00:09:59but as the votes build up so does the
- 00:10:02evidence of your new identity this
- 00:10:05captures a theme we're going to explore
- 00:10:06in a second moving on going to go down
- 00:10:09here a little bit on the left we have a
- 00:10:11very skinny guy on the right we have an
- 00:10:14absolutely jacked guy the skinny guy who
- 00:10:17wants to achieve the goal or instill the
- 00:10:20habit of going to the gym could simply
- 00:10:22ask one question who is the type of
- 00:10:25person who could achieve that type of
- 00:10:28physique that he wants he could ask what
- 00:10:30would a gym goer do what would a high
- 00:10:32performing a testosterone charged
- 00:10:36athlete do decide who you want to become
- 00:10:39when you're considering the habits you
- 00:10:41want to instill in your life and then
- 00:10:43you need to work backwards which we're
- 00:10:45going to cover in the next slide you
- 00:10:47need to prioritize becoming the type of
- 00:10:50person over achieving the
- 00:10:54thing think of the identity you wish to
- 00:10:56form then prove it to yourself through
- 00:10:58small w
- 00:10:59you can imagine we have two types of
- 00:11:01people here it's just simply Illustrated
- 00:11:03this arrow in the middle which gets this
- 00:11:05person from a state of diminishment
- 00:11:07where he doesn't have the habits or she
- 00:11:09doesn't have the habits that she wants
- 00:11:10to actually have in her life and then
- 00:11:13becoming the type of person she wants to
- 00:11:15be the path that dictates her progress
- 00:11:18is
- 00:11:19habits one thing to note about identity
- 00:11:22is our brains called BS if we try to
- 00:11:25convince ourselves we're a certain type
- 00:11:27of person when we're not for example
- 00:11:29if I say I am the type of person who
- 00:11:31takes care of their health but I never
- 00:11:33exercise or eat healthy my brain will be
- 00:11:36like yeah right no you're not however if
- 00:11:40I highlight with humility that I'm not
- 00:11:43that type of person yet but I want to
- 00:11:45become the type of person who takes care
- 00:11:46of their health I set that goal and then
- 00:11:48I prove it to myself through small wins
- 00:11:51with my habit formation so for example
- 00:11:53perhaps I exercise for 5 minutes a day
- 00:11:56and then after I eat one bowl of
- 00:11:58vegetables and fruit fruits for lunch
- 00:12:00with a high protein steak then I start
- 00:12:03to cast the votes in favor of I'm the
- 00:12:05type of person who takes care of their
- 00:12:07health and a week of doing that becomes
- 00:12:10oh my brain is now working with me and
- 00:12:13not calling BS on everything I'm doing
- 00:12:15an analogy here is to consider if we put
- 00:12:18so their potatoes on the left in case
- 00:12:20your mind went to a dirty
- 00:12:23place they are eggs on the right boiling
- 00:12:27water in the middle boiling water will
- 00:12:29soften a potato but it will harden an
- 00:12:32egg which is to say that if you try to
- 00:12:35instill habits within your life that AR
- 00:12:39in alignment with who you actually are
- 00:12:41or who you want to be they won't last so
- 00:12:44although our personalities are very
- 00:12:46changeable it makes sense to have an
- 00:12:49initial self-introspection to understand
- 00:12:51what habits you would naturally like to
- 00:12:55instill within your life what that means
- 00:12:57if you look at the example of exercise
- 00:12:59CU it's quite easy to look at if you're
- 00:13:01not the type of person who likes going
- 00:13:02to a gym but you want to become the type
- 00:13:05of person who takes care of their health
- 00:13:07and works out trying to form the habit
- 00:13:10of going to the gym won't be congruent
- 00:13:12in alignment with who you actually are
- 00:13:14and your inner interests but perhaps
- 00:13:17going to jiujitsu once a week or doing
- 00:13:19calisthenics or yoga is much more
- 00:13:22congruent with yourself so habit
- 00:13:24formation does involve finding those
- 00:13:27activities which will make you
- 00:13:30soften rather than an egg and hard the
- 00:13:32four reasons why go suck and identity
- 00:13:35tick we have covered those aspects let's
- 00:13:37move on to the next part let's get into
- 00:13:39the juicy stuff how do you actually form
- 00:13:41a habit the four stages of a habit and
- 00:13:43without these four stages no habit can
- 00:13:46be formed and then we're going to
- 00:13:47reverse engineer these for how to break
- 00:13:49a bad habit these four stages are Q
- 00:13:53craving response and
- 00:13:56reward number one Q the Q is the trigger
- 00:14:00this is the thing that you see in your
- 00:14:02environment or the internal emotional
- 00:14:05state you notice inside that you want to
- 00:14:07change which triggers you to move
- 00:14:09towards a certain activity governed by
- 00:14:12the neuromodulator dopamine if you don't
- 00:14:14have a Q then you're not going to have a
- 00:14:16trigger to start the behavior stage
- 00:14:18number two is craving so we have the
- 00:14:20desire to change our internal State and
- 00:14:23this is one thing you'll start to notice
- 00:14:25about all habit formation is when you
- 00:14:27want to perform a habit you want to
- 00:14:29change your internal State into one
- 00:14:32that's different from the one you
- 00:14:33currently feel in terms of your emotions
- 00:14:35dopamine is then released in the nuclear
- 00:14:37succumbent in anticipation of doing this
- 00:14:40thing if you don't have craving to do
- 00:14:42something you don't have motivation so
- 00:14:44if you imagine this guy is's at work and
- 00:14:47he's thinking feeling pretty bored you
- 00:14:49know I feel a bit groggy and he thinks I
- 00:14:51can go to the gym in an hour at 4: when
- 00:14:53I finish work and then he has the
- 00:14:54craving to perform that action point
- 00:14:57number three is the response this is is
- 00:14:59when you actually perform the behavior
- 00:15:00or the Habit if a habit is difficult to
- 00:15:03perform as in there's High friction to
- 00:15:05do it as in maybe you have to drive two
- 00:15:08hours to go to the gym and then you have
- 00:15:09to get changed and then you have to
- 00:15:11clock in and do all of this stuff you
- 00:15:13won't perform it or it will be very
- 00:15:16difficult to sustain your performance of
- 00:15:18it so image here this is the person
- 00:15:20actually walking into the gym to train
- 00:15:23number four this is the end of the Habit
- 00:15:25after you've completed it and this is
- 00:15:26the satisfying stage of feeling
- 00:15:28accomplished with of yourself after
- 00:15:30having completed it the thing to note
- 00:15:31here in contrast to our boy down here
- 00:15:33who's just done his workout if an action
- 00:15:36or a habit is not satisfying you have no
- 00:15:38reason to repeat it now let's move on to
- 00:15:41the intricate details of how to form a
- 00:15:44good habit after having understood the
- 00:15:47four stages of habit formation we have
- 00:15:49make it obvious in terms of the que make
- 00:15:52it attractive in terms of the craving
- 00:15:55make it easy in terms of the response
- 00:15:57and finally make it satisfying to
- 00:16:00complete the reward let's go make it
- 00:16:03attractive you need to highlight the
- 00:16:06reasons of why this habit would benefit
- 00:16:08you so you can feel pulled towards doing
- 00:16:11it rather than dragged towards doing it
- 00:16:13one of the few ways you can do this is
- 00:16:15using something called Temptation
- 00:16:16building where you pair an action you
- 00:16:19want to do with one you have to do for
- 00:16:21example if you want to instill the
- 00:16:23frequent habit of studying but you're
- 00:16:25experiencing a little bit of resistance
- 00:16:27to do so St study with music relaxing
- 00:16:30music so it becomes a more enjoyable
- 00:16:32process run while listening to a podcast
- 00:16:35if running alone isn't as enjoyable for
- 00:16:37you second of all you can join a culture
- 00:16:40where this behavior is the norm think
- 00:16:43about online communities they're very
- 00:16:45popular now on school the reason why
- 00:16:47these work so well is because you're
- 00:16:50gathered in a space with like-minded
- 00:16:52people who you know are also studying
- 00:16:54again in the context of studying you
- 00:16:56have videos online which is study with
- 00:16:58me for 6 hours where some other nerd is
- 00:17:01studying with you I say nerd I'm a very
- 00:17:03big nerd I'm probably the biggest nerd
- 00:17:04of all of us so no disrespect there
- 00:17:07there are three categories of people
- 00:17:09that you can associate with with your
- 00:17:11habit formation the close the many the
- 00:17:13powerful the close are the people you
- 00:17:15have within your physical proximity
- 00:17:17maybe you have a friend who also wants
- 00:17:19to start going to the gym or learning a
- 00:17:21language or start studying the many are
- 00:17:23the people online who you could reach
- 00:17:25out to or the people at a local
- 00:17:27community you could get involved with
- 00:17:29for example your local Jiu-Jitsu
- 00:17:31Community people there are going to be
- 00:17:32like-minded and then the powerful the
- 00:17:35people who are the top performers in
- 00:17:37that field who you feel inspired to
- 00:17:40emulate using the context of your
- 00:17:42desired sport you might think of a
- 00:17:44athlete who is the star performer in
- 00:17:46that field at the moment who you want to
- 00:17:48mimic your habit formation on in order
- 00:17:51to emulate their behavior third of all
- 00:17:54you can create a motivation ritual this
- 00:17:56is where you do something you enjoy
- 00:17:58immedi immediately before you do
- 00:17:59something difficult and from my
- 00:18:01experience this works wonders I did this
- 00:18:04when I was studying my first year at
- 00:18:05University because sitting down to study
- 00:18:08is actually quite laborous and
- 00:18:09intimidating if you're thinking I'm
- 00:18:11going to study for two hours and also
- 00:18:13this really works with habit formation
- 00:18:15around language learning for example you
- 00:18:17could set the Habit in a social context
- 00:18:19of walking into social situations or big
- 00:18:22groups or events and every time you do
- 00:18:25take a deep breath and smile so you are
- 00:18:27tune in your behavior you before you go
- 00:18:29in or one thing I do when I sit down to
- 00:18:32study Spanish each day for 30 minutes I
- 00:18:34have a bit of dark chocolate or I eat an
- 00:18:36apple as I'm getting into the studying
- 00:18:39process for the first two or three
- 00:18:41minutes and it's so much more enjoyable
- 00:18:43a more philosophical way you can make
- 00:18:44things more attractive is through the
- 00:18:46use of images so one thing that I really
- 00:18:49try and instill Within Myself whenever
- 00:18:51I'm reading alone is I think about how
- 00:18:54I'm extracting valuable wisdom and
- 00:18:58knowledge centuries ago from these books
- 00:19:00and suddenly it doesn't just become oh
- 00:19:02I'm reading a book it's no I'm having a
- 00:19:04deep conversation with deep thinkers
- 00:19:06it's an example number two make it
- 00:19:09obvious one thing that you'll start to
- 00:19:11pay attention to after this slide when
- 00:19:13all of this knowledge sinks in is most
- 00:19:16people struggle in their habit formation
- 00:19:18because they just don't make things
- 00:19:19clear enough you need to be clear you
- 00:19:22need to use the sentence of this new
- 00:19:24habit you want to form with I will
- 00:19:26Behavior at time in in location so I
- 00:19:30will study Spanish at 8:00 p.m. in my
- 00:19:33garden while sitting on the lounge chair
- 00:19:36with my phone you need to give yourself
- 00:19:38as much clarity as you possibly can and
- 00:19:41not set vague goals as we covered in
- 00:19:42another video setting vague goals is
- 00:19:45very characteristic of people with
- 00:19:46depression which means they don't
- 00:19:48achieve the goal and then they're more
- 00:19:50depressed unfortunately one thing you
- 00:19:53can use is habit stacking if you want to
- 00:19:55create a positive fly wheel where after
- 00:19:57you complete one habit you then are fly
- 00:20:00wheeled into the next one use the
- 00:20:02sentence of after current habit I will
- 00:20:05new habit after I practice Spanish in
- 00:20:07the garden on the lounge chair for 30
- 00:20:09minutes I will get up clear the space
- 00:20:12and do a 1 hour workout on the pull-up
- 00:20:14bar outside even though we're going to
- 00:20:16cover it in a natural section in a
- 00:20:17second pay attention here to the
- 00:20:19importance of environment when it comes
- 00:20:21to making things obvious if you look
- 00:20:23around my room for the little bit that I
- 00:20:25show you all of my books are out in the
- 00:20:28worst case my phone is out so that could
- 00:20:29lead me into some bad habits you need to
- 00:20:31make your cues to your behavior as
- 00:20:34obvious and out there as possible for
- 00:20:36example put your running shoes by the
- 00:20:38front door so you can always see them
- 00:20:40switch on a special lamp when it's time
- 00:20:42to study or always keep your books by
- 00:20:45your bed very simple ways that you can
- 00:20:48facilitate your habit formation process
- 00:20:51now key point you do not lack motivation
- 00:20:55you lack Clarity going into what we just
- 00:20:57covered at the first first point on that
- 00:20:59last slide there is a special technique
- 00:21:01that Japanese train operators use which
- 00:21:04is called pointing and calling so
- 00:21:06technique you use in unconscious ways
- 00:21:08throughout your life as well and this is
- 00:21:11where they literally say things out loud
- 00:21:14they call the time of the train when the
- 00:21:15next train is meant to come in order to
- 00:21:18give everyone that they're working with
- 00:21:20Clarity over what's going on and when
- 00:21:23you might do this in unconscious ways
- 00:21:25when you're leaving your house let's
- 00:21:26imagine you're with your girlfriend and
- 00:21:27you're leaving you might say have I got
- 00:21:29my keys wallet phone passports if you're
- 00:21:32about to go on a flight this is how we
- 00:21:34do it this is what you can do with habit
- 00:21:35formation as well to give yourself
- 00:21:37Clarity be precise when you are
- 00:21:40implementing a new habit I will act in I
- 00:21:44will Behavior at time in location I
- 00:21:47cannot tell you how important this is
- 00:21:49you do not lack motivation you lack
- 00:21:51Clarity don't say I want to practice
- 00:21:53Spanish
- 00:21:54later what does that even mean it means
- 00:21:57nothing I will practice Spanish at 8:00
- 00:22:00p.m. in the sun lounger in the garden
- 00:22:02with my phone boom I want to read more
- 00:22:05or be healthier they're great they're
- 00:22:09really really great and the intention
- 00:22:10for yourself is awesome you want to be
- 00:22:12healthier but they're so unclear it's
- 00:22:15laughable again after I get in from work
- 00:22:18and close the door I will make a cup of
- 00:22:20tea and sit down to read on my sofa at
- 00:22:236:00 p.m. after I close the door after I
- 00:22:26sit down you need to give your brain as
- 00:22:28much clarity as possible as much clarity
- 00:22:31as possible number three make it easy
- 00:22:34you need to reduce the friction in order
- 00:22:36to perform the habit and you can do so
- 00:22:39by instilling something called the
- 00:22:40two-minute rule does what it says on the
- 00:22:42tin you just perform it an action when
- 00:22:45resistance is high for 2 minutes it's
- 00:22:48all you need to do and this in the early
- 00:22:51stages of after you've clarified the
- 00:22:53type of person you want to become this
- 00:22:55will really help you form the identity
- 00:22:57and cast the votes in your behavior
- 00:22:59being the type of person who's wise and
- 00:23:01reads A Lot suddenly becomes I'll read
- 00:23:04for 2 minutes every day you can also
- 00:23:06prime your environment again so it's
- 00:23:08easier for you to do this don't hide
- 00:23:10your workout clothes don't make them
- 00:23:12really hard to reach don't go to a gym
- 00:23:15if the closest one is two hours away get
- 00:23:17some workout gear set up in your garden
- 00:23:19and lastly Master the decisive moment
- 00:23:23you need to win that moment of
- 00:23:25inspiration throughout the day where the
- 00:23:27choice to proceed into the Habit is
- 00:23:30there or the choice to actually go away
- 00:23:33from The Habit is also there when you
- 00:23:35feel the resistance these moments
- 00:23:37they're key for example you can consider
- 00:23:39two couples one couple when they come in
- 00:23:41from work at 6:00 p.m. they get changed
- 00:23:44straight into their running clothes and
- 00:23:45they go to the gym the other couple
- 00:23:47comes in puts all their stuff down sits
- 00:23:50on the sofa and just watches Netflix for
- 00:23:52the rest of the evening Master the
- 00:23:54decisive moment four finally make it
- 00:23:57satisfying
- 00:23:59what is rewarded is repeated what is
- 00:24:01punished is avoided and what this means
- 00:24:03for your habit formation is you need to
- 00:24:05instill something called positive
- 00:24:06reinforcement now you'll notice that
- 00:24:09when the flywheel starts to get under
- 00:24:11the way and you're consistently
- 00:24:13performing your habits The Habit itself
- 00:24:16the process will become the reward
- 00:24:18however in the early stages you can
- 00:24:22actually start to reward yourself in
- 00:24:24other direct ways for example on the
- 00:24:26Habit tracker I showed you at the
- 00:24:27beginning of this guide one of them for
- 00:24:30me was waking up at quarter 6 every day
- 00:24:33when I was living in Poland and the way
- 00:24:34I motivated myself at the beginning is
- 00:24:37one I put my phone in the kitchen so I
- 00:24:40had to get up and walk out there and
- 00:24:42turn it off and then I was like oh I'm
- 00:24:43by the toilet might as well have a Wei
- 00:24:45and then I would have a shower and I'd
- 00:24:47be up but I really was getting into
- 00:24:49reading at that point so I said every
- 00:24:51time I wake up on time I can put free
- 00:24:53pound into a budgeting account on my
- 00:24:56bank which I could then use at the end
- 00:24:58of the week to buy as many books as I
- 00:25:00wanted to if I didn't wake up early I
- 00:25:02couldn't buy any books so not waking up
- 00:25:04early hindered my progress in something
- 00:25:06that was very meaningful to me also you
- 00:25:08can use a habit tracker to track your
- 00:25:10progress as well one thing I have one
- 00:25:13here i' would recommend getting like a
- 00:25:16squared notepad they're really good I
- 00:25:18put the goals here and then I put my
- 00:25:21habit trackers here so I only have three
- 00:25:23habits at a particular time now as well
- 00:25:26because I think any more than three and
- 00:25:27you got absolutely no progress in any of
- 00:25:30them remember for new habits and
- 00:25:32behaviors to stick they need to be
- 00:25:34encoded into the dorsal stray ATM by the
- 00:25:37prefrontal cortex so that they become
- 00:25:40automatic and the way that we do this
- 00:25:43bad news good news is through repetition
- 00:25:46you're going to mess up again and again
- 00:25:48and again and it will be tough to stick
- 00:25:50to this Habit in the early stages or not
- 00:25:53as tough if you follow all of the parts
- 00:25:55but you need to remember that it will
- 00:25:57take time to actually encodes this new
- 00:25:59Behavior into the dorsal striatum
- 00:26:02because it is biased to doing what we've
- 00:26:03always done before two principles for
- 00:26:06you to pay attention to here fail and
- 00:26:08fail and fail but less and less and less
- 00:26:11I think that's a Dutch proverb and then
- 00:26:13finally fall down 7even times but get up
- 00:26:15on the eighth as the Japanese say now
- 00:26:19we've covered how to form a good
- 00:26:21habit now we're going to cover extra
- 00:26:24tips and environment design CU these are
- 00:26:26very important never Miss twice as I
- 00:26:30mentioned life will happen and you'll
- 00:26:32have days where you don't want to do
- 00:26:34that habit maybe you're traveling maybe
- 00:26:36something's come up and for whatever
- 00:26:37reason you can't do this habit that you
- 00:26:39usually do that's fine just make sure
- 00:26:43sign a contract with me now that you'll
- 00:26:45never miss two days in a row because
- 00:26:48missing one day is fine that happens but
- 00:26:51it's when we miss two days in a row that
- 00:26:53it then becomes a week two weeks a month
- 00:26:56and suddenly we're not doing that habit
- 00:26:58anymore never miss twice Keystone habits
- 00:27:02awesome Point here these are the cues or
- 00:27:04things that get you into the zone of
- 00:27:06doing a habit for example putting your
- 00:27:08running shoes by the front door turning
- 00:27:10on your study light when it's time to
- 00:27:12study pardon me unfolding your yoga mat
- 00:27:16when it's time to stretch cleaning your
- 00:27:18desk when it's time to study or record
- 00:27:21these are the things that when you do it
- 00:27:22signals to your brain ah we're now about
- 00:27:25to do that habit so it starts to gather
- 00:27:27that momentum of anticipation I would
- 00:27:29say for every habit think of one
- 00:27:31Keystone habit waking up early Keystone
- 00:27:33habits for example might be be home by
- 00:27:3610:00 every single night turn all your
- 00:27:38lights and devices off by 10 p.m. and
- 00:27:41make sure you're up at 6 p.m. they
- 00:27:43become free Keystone habits habit
- 00:27:47stacking turn that light off this is
- 00:27:51really fun and if this isn't me in the
- 00:27:52shower don't have that much air but this
- 00:27:54is something I do after current habit I
- 00:27:57will new habit this is the sentence you
- 00:27:59want to create this is where you combine
- 00:28:02two habits that don't require the same
- 00:28:04sensory output so for example don't
- 00:28:07combine writing and listening to a
- 00:28:09podcast at the same time because they
- 00:28:10both involve verbal output a good
- 00:28:13example of two habits you can perform at
- 00:28:15the same time taking both off the list
- 00:28:17is running while listening to an audio
- 00:28:19book or listening to a podcas in that
- 00:28:22language that you're learning I while I
- 00:28:24have a shower most of the time listen to
- 00:28:26a Spanish podcast so so I can instill
- 00:28:29that habit get my 30 minutes in while
- 00:28:32I'm doing something else how you
- 00:28:34implement this is you make a list of all
- 00:28:36of your current habits and then you make
- 00:28:39a list of the things that happen to you
- 00:28:41each day just normally and then you
- 00:28:43search for the best place to include
- 00:28:45that new habit you can use the framework
- 00:28:47here of course understanding the Q crav
- 00:28:49and response and reward to do things
- 00:28:51after one another because remember habit
- 00:28:53stacking is usually when you do it at
- 00:28:55the same time but doing it after one
- 00:28:57another is when you create these
- 00:28:59positive fly wheels so after you work
- 00:29:01out you then have a nutritious meal I'll
- 00:29:04show you on the next screen yeah
- 00:29:07flywheels positive fly wheels are things
- 00:29:09that Kickstart you into forward momentum
- 00:29:12it creates a logic where I can't help
- 00:29:15but sentence when you work out you can't
- 00:29:18help but eat nutritious food which means
- 00:29:20you can't help but go to bed early which
- 00:29:22means you can't help but wake up
- 00:29:24energized and work out more and suddenly
- 00:29:26the process goes round and round and
- 00:29:27round that's how you can use this
- 00:29:29framework to understand what are the
- 00:29:32habits that link into each other that
- 00:29:34will give me the best chance of gaining
- 00:29:36forward momentum into my life have a
- 00:29:39think how to like doing hard things I
- 00:29:42like that art it's basically say no to
- 00:29:45alcohol in terms of the language that
- 00:29:48you can use language is a really
- 00:29:49important factor when it comes to Habit
- 00:29:51formation change the word have to get
- 00:29:56think of these two examples oh I have to
- 00:29:58wake up early tomorrow I get to wake up
- 00:30:00early tomorrow in fact I was talking to
- 00:30:02my cousin yesterday and we was talking
- 00:30:04about how we're both YouTubers and we
- 00:30:06get to wake up and make videos and
- 00:30:08suddenly it clicked in my mind again
- 00:30:10where I thought oh my God it's a
- 00:30:12privilege when you use the sentence I
- 00:30:14get to do whatever you're doing it
- 00:30:17becomes a privilege rather than a chore
- 00:30:19also change I can't for I don't when
- 00:30:24battling
- 00:30:25Temptations I can't signals external
- 00:30:28force is contributing to the reason you
- 00:30:32can't do something when you say I don't
- 00:30:35I'm going to give you examples on the
- 00:30:36next screen it signals it's our decision
- 00:30:39or personal choice to not do that
- 00:30:42thing think about these even close your
- 00:30:45eyes and just listen to how different
- 00:30:46these sound I can't eat chocolate I
- 00:30:49can't come out tonight I can't drink
- 00:30:53maybe the reasons would be I can't eat
- 00:30:54chocolate I'm on a diet I can't come out
- 00:30:56tonight because I've got work I can't
- 00:30:58drink you know I'm 30 days sober rather
- 00:31:02than I don't eat chocolate I don't party
- 00:31:05I don't drink what you're indicating in
- 00:31:08the last few examples is I'm not the
- 00:31:10type of person who eats sugary things
- 00:31:14I'm the type of person who takes care of
- 00:31:15their health I don't party I'm the type
- 00:31:17of person who's focused and disciplined
- 00:31:19I don't drink I'm the type of person who
- 00:31:22takes care of their health again another
- 00:31:25few examples of how language can be
- 00:31:26really ow powerful and impactful when it
- 00:31:29comes to Habit formation is don't say
- 00:31:32again I have to go for a run this
- 00:31:34morning of course say I get to go for a
- 00:31:36run but you can change the
- 00:31:39attractiveness of the Habit that you're
- 00:31:41doing rather than saying I have to go
- 00:31:43for a run you might say it's time to
- 00:31:45build some speed and endurance suddenly
- 00:31:48the dynamic becomes very different and
- 00:31:50it's almost excitable saving money you
- 00:31:54can start associating that not with
- 00:31:57limiting your freedom but expanding your
- 00:32:00freedom because you'll have more wealth
- 00:32:02in the future saving now increases your
- 00:32:04funds for next month lastly if you're
- 00:32:06doing a public speech or something of
- 00:32:08that sort or you're just facing a
- 00:32:10nerve-wracking situation frame it in
- 00:32:12your mind with your language instead of
- 00:32:15saying oh I'm terrified I'm feeling
- 00:32:16really nervous this is all going to go
- 00:32:18wrong say when you get that feeling of
- 00:32:20nerves which is the same biochemical
- 00:32:23villain of excitedness I feel excited
- 00:32:25and ready and I feel an adrenaline rush
- 00:32:27to help me concentrate and that will
- 00:32:29help you frame the interaction much
- 00:32:31better environment design two analogies
- 00:32:34for you here self-control and willpower
- 00:32:37by the way a short term and they're not
- 00:32:39good things to rely on when it comes to
- 00:32:41Habit formation photo number one is a
- 00:32:43water pressure system which increases
- 00:32:46the water pressure if you're not paying
- 00:32:47attention to how your environment is
- 00:32:49designed you try to increase the
- 00:32:52pressure of your habits by increasing
- 00:32:54your willpower and motivation which just
- 00:32:56leads to tension and Revenge bedtime
- 00:32:59procrastination however in the second
- 00:33:01instance if you untie the hose and
- 00:33:04release the tension and the pressure
- 00:33:07what you're doing is you're designing
- 00:33:08your environment so it's as easy as
- 00:33:11possible for you to do your good habits
- 00:33:12and avoid your bad habits remember your
- 00:33:15habits must fit into the natural flow of
- 00:33:18your life environment design on the left
- 00:33:22he has his phone next to his bed on the
- 00:33:24right he has a book my boy alex or look
- 00:33:28at that devilish look Alex Orosi is
- 00:33:30great at this the thing to know about
- 00:33:33environment design is new environments
- 00:33:35help us escape the subtle cues and
- 00:33:37triggers which usually lure us into our
- 00:33:40bad habits and your options as to what
- 00:33:43you do behaviorally are constrained by
- 00:33:46what you have available in terms of your
- 00:33:48cues which trigger your action or your
- 00:33:50desire to want to act when you're going
- 00:33:53to do a new habit especially if it's in
- 00:33:56your house go to new place go to a new
- 00:33:59room go to a new place or spot in your
- 00:34:02room to perform that habit for example
- 00:34:04when I was starting to meditate when I
- 00:34:07used to live in Poland I went to a
- 00:34:09specific corner of the room and I sat on
- 00:34:11a specific cushion I only study in the
- 00:34:13garage or downstairs I don't necessarily
- 00:34:16study in my room because I'm either
- 00:34:18sleeping in here or recording videos
- 00:34:20also what is important is to not create
- 00:34:23residue from previous habits when you
- 00:34:25finish one habit clear the space and go
- 00:34:28and do the next one so clear your desk
- 00:34:31after you study don't leave your things
- 00:34:33out all of the time of course leave them
- 00:34:35out so you can see the cues and your
- 00:34:36books and everything but don't leave it
- 00:34:38spread out on the table make sure you
- 00:34:40clean so that you can roll into the next
- 00:34:42habit if it requires that same space
- 00:34:45again remember the Keystone habits of
- 00:34:47priming your environment so it signals
- 00:34:49to your brain is study time it's
- 00:34:51practice language time it's workout time
- 00:34:54let's go now we've covered the extra
- 00:34:56tips and environment design next part
- 00:35:00how to break a bad habit let's go the
- 00:35:03main thing to note about your bad habits
- 00:35:05one we're going to reverse all the
- 00:35:06points we did to form good habits you
- 00:35:08just reverse engineer it but your brain
- 00:35:11did not evolve to smoke cigarettes play
- 00:35:13video games eat sugar or whatever bad
- 00:35:16habit you're currently doing it evolved
- 00:35:18to reduce stress relieve anxiety gain
- 00:35:20social acceptance and nourish the body
- 00:35:23and maintain Health that is one key
- 00:35:26breakthrough with Breaking Bad habits
- 00:35:28you're not wired to do this thing you're
- 00:35:30wired to relieve whatever emotional
- 00:35:35distress you
- 00:35:37feel by doing that habit underlying your
- 00:35:41bad habits are emotional distress or
- 00:35:44stress in general that you trying to
- 00:35:46cope with your habits are modern
- 00:35:49solutions to ancient desires so once a
- 00:35:51habit successfully meets an underlying
- 00:35:53desire you will crave the habit and
- 00:35:56perform it again life is predictive not
- 00:35:59reactive fighting your impulses alone
- 00:36:02the analogy here is as if you're
- 00:36:04fighting off a zombie horde which is
- 00:36:07infinite and there's no they're not
- 00:36:08going to run out but you have limited
- 00:36:11bullets eventually you're going to get
- 00:36:13eaten and you're going to give into your
- 00:36:14impulses so you need to understand habit
- 00:36:16formation in order to solve this problem
- 00:36:19now it's time to engage your prefrontal
- 00:36:21cortex remember the slides we covered at
- 00:36:24the beginning of this presentation let's
- 00:36:26call it the three brain regions that are
- 00:36:28most important the nucleus cumbus the
- 00:36:31dorsal striatum and the prefrontal
- 00:36:32cortex remember the nucleus cumbus just
- 00:36:34wants us to act impulsively oh that
- 00:36:37cupcake looks delicious the dorsal
- 00:36:38striatum wants us to do whatever we've
- 00:36:40done before let's do it this way because
- 00:36:42that's how we've always done it but the
- 00:36:43prefrontal cortex when we have a goal
- 00:36:45and a direction we want to achieve is
- 00:36:47what steers us on course towards
- 00:36:49achieving it now the way to overcome bad
- 00:36:51habits is we need to snap ourselves out
- 00:36:53of the impulsive ways of acting that we
- 00:36:55have governed ourselves into and our
- 00:36:59unconscious following of whatever coping
- 00:37:02mechanisms we've done in the past to now
- 00:37:05do them again which is what the dorsal
- 00:37:06striatum leads us into none of these
- 00:37:09brain regions are bad by the way they
- 00:37:11all work together as mentioned it's just
- 00:37:13the way that we overcome bad habits is
- 00:37:15we need to engage the conscious rational
- 00:37:19directional decision-making part of our
- 00:37:21brain which is the prefrontal cortex so
- 00:37:23it can inhibit the bad actions that the
- 00:37:27nuclear cumbent and the dorsal striatum
- 00:37:29lead us into oversimplifying
- 00:37:32Neuroscience but anyway we break bad
- 00:37:34habits by reverse engineering everything
- 00:37:36we did to form good habits we reduce the
- 00:37:38exposure we make it unattractive we make
- 00:37:41it difficult and we make it unsatisfying
- 00:37:43number one Drake meme everyone do
- 00:37:47it remove all the cues to your bad habit
- 00:37:51you cannot eat an ice cream you don't
- 00:37:53have you can see two examples with the
- 00:37:55fridge if you want to start eating
- 00:37:57healthy you fill your fridge with
- 00:37:59healthy things get rid of all the
- 00:38:01unhealthy stuff now I understand if you
- 00:38:02live with other people this might be
- 00:38:04quite hard when I was young I was trying
- 00:38:05to do the same with stopping eating
- 00:38:07sugar but I lived with my mom who didn't
- 00:38:10really give a toss about breaking that
- 00:38:12habit so what I would say is reduce the
- 00:38:17exposure you have to the queue as much
- 00:38:19as you possibly can but not always is
- 00:38:21lost if you can't do so fully because
- 00:38:24these next parts will help you number
- 00:38:26two make it unattractive
- 00:38:28highlight the reasons why avoiding this
- 00:38:29habit is a net benefit to your life and
- 00:38:32highlight what the consequences are if
- 00:38:34you engage in this habit and continue to
- 00:38:36do it really really meditate on it
- 00:38:39doesn't matter what bad habit it is
- 00:38:41really paint it in the most negative way
- 00:38:42you possibly can and then join a culture
- 00:38:45if possible where the behavior is
- 00:38:48collectively seen as unattractive for
- 00:38:50example nofap Alcoholics Anonymous
- 00:38:52Whatever It Is by the way little hack
- 00:38:55grayscale your phone to make go on your
- 00:38:57phone even more unattractive that's an
- 00:38:59example number three make it difficult
- 00:39:02going back to environment design
- 00:39:04increase the number of steps required to
- 00:39:07do this bad habit for instance if
- 00:39:09watching Netflix for you is a problem
- 00:39:12remove your TV or just remove your TV
- 00:39:15from your room so you have to go
- 00:39:17downstairs you have to get it out you
- 00:39:18have to plug it in suddenly watch your
- 00:39:20Netflix becomes this really laborous
- 00:39:22thing and you pick up a book instead
- 00:39:24remove all unhealthy food from your
- 00:39:26house of course block websites on your
- 00:39:29phone or place your phone above your
- 00:39:31wardrobe somewhere really high or
- 00:39:33outside in a garage or just switch it
- 00:39:35off I know Andrew huberman when he was
- 00:39:37working in his research lab would go in
- 00:39:39each day and give his phone to one of
- 00:39:42his colleagues and say I'm not allowed
- 00:39:45this back until 5:00 p.m. and if I ask
- 00:39:47for it back I have to pay you $1,000
- 00:39:49it's an example number four lastly bit
- 00:39:53of an extreme photo that one don't know
- 00:39:55why I put that one in there but anyway
- 00:39:56make it satisfying add instant
- 00:39:59consequences for performing that action
- 00:40:02an example if you binge eat biscuits
- 00:40:05remove all of your money from your
- 00:40:06savings account get an accountability
- 00:40:09partner and allow them to cash a check
- 00:40:12of Β£500 if you do this bad habit if you
- 00:40:15really want to not do this thing it
- 00:40:17doesn't matter if you take Extreme
- 00:40:19Measures write out a check give it to
- 00:40:21your trust most trusted friend or family
- 00:40:24member and say if I do this thing if I
- 00:40:27smoke if I bingee if I miss a day of
- 00:40:29working out if I fap whatever it is you
- 00:40:32want to stop doing or start doing if I
- 00:40:34miss a day or if I do it you can cash
- 00:40:36this check the last thing I wanted to
- 00:40:38mention mainly from a neuroscientific
- 00:40:40point of view is all of your bad coping
- 00:40:44mechanisms all of your bad habits that
- 00:40:47you do that you currently don't want to
- 00:40:48do are triggered by stress so when you
- 00:40:51really understand this principle that we
- 00:40:53mentioned in this part of the slide that
- 00:40:56your brain did not evolved to smoke
- 00:40:58cigarettes play video games eat sugar it
- 00:40:59evolved to reduce stress relieve anxiety
- 00:41:02gain social acceptance and nourish the
- 00:41:03body and maintain Health you can just
- 00:41:05start to understand
- 00:41:07that if you smoke cigarettes when you're
- 00:41:11stressed if you scroll when you're bored
- 00:41:14if you address the underlying problem
- 00:41:17which is boredom or stress in a more
- 00:41:19constructive way you can then replace
- 00:41:22your bad habit with a good habit and of
- 00:41:25course it takes time to actually do so
- 00:41:27which you'll have to respect the process
- 00:41:28what this might look like is if you fap
- 00:41:31when you're stressed or if you scroll
- 00:41:33when you're stressed or if you binge
- 00:41:36when you're sad just replace that with a
- 00:41:39better way of dealing with that stress
- 00:41:41or that sadness instead of fapping you
- 00:41:43go for a run instead of scrolling you
- 00:41:46meditate instead of binge eting you call
- 00:41:48a friend while on a walk replacement is
- 00:41:51the key let's finalize cuz we've covered
- 00:41:54how to break a bad habit almost at an
- 00:41:56hour
- 00:41:58the Goldilocks rule how to stay
- 00:42:00motivated in life and in whatever you're
- 00:42:02doing especially with your habits quick
- 00:42:05question doesn't matter whether you have
- 00:42:07boxing experience or not it doesn't
- 00:42:09matter whether you've never punched
- 00:42:11anything in your life let say you are an
- 00:42:14average boxer okay you go twice a week
- 00:42:17which one out of these three people do
- 00:42:20you think you'd have the most challenge
- 00:42:23facing in a boxing ring you got a little
- 00:42:25kid you got an average boxer and you got
- 00:42:28Canelo Alvarez who's one of the best
- 00:42:30pound-for-pound boxers in the world
- 00:42:32number one would be too easy Canelo
- 00:42:34would bite your head off but number two
- 00:42:35would give you an adequate challenge
- 00:42:37because he was he would be at your same
- 00:42:38level think about it again in the
- 00:42:40context of tennis who' you reckon you'd
- 00:42:42be a little girl an average man or
- 00:42:45Serena
- 00:42:47Williams probably you'd have most
- 00:42:49challenge facing this guy Jerry so you
- 00:42:52need to make sure that your habits in
- 00:42:55order to make progress and stay
- 00:42:56motivated ated in them are not too hard
- 00:42:59but they're not too easy they're just
- 00:43:01right the way to conceptualize this is
- 00:43:04there's a principle in Neuroscience it's
- 00:43:06called like the 8515 rule when you're
- 00:43:08practicing something in order to
- 00:43:10maintain motivation to do it you want to
- 00:43:13be failing around 15% of the time in the
- 00:43:17context of language learning let's look
- 00:43:19at it during a 30 minute study session
- 00:43:22you want to be making mistakes 15% of
- 00:43:25the time to make sure your continuously
- 00:43:27learning but it's just enough of a
- 00:43:29challenge not to dishearten you because
- 00:43:32if you're failing 90% of the time you're
- 00:43:34going to have to be quite resilient to
- 00:43:35keep motivated in what you're doing
- 00:43:37you'll learn loads because you're making
- 00:43:39a lot more mistakes but the point is
- 00:43:40valid that whenever you're practicing
- 00:43:42something aim for 15% of the time you
- 00:43:45are failing in order to maintain
- 00:43:47progress there's a famous quote from
- 00:43:48Steve Martin who has mentioned in atomic
- 00:43:50habits and he was a famous comedian 10
- 00:43:53years spent learning four years spent
- 00:43:54refining and four years as a w
- 00:43:57success stick to the goldilux rule and
- 00:44:00work on tasks of just manageable
- 00:44:02difficulty measure your progress and
- 00:44:04also receive immediate feedback whenever
- 00:44:07possible which links Us in to our next
- 00:44:09point now the Goldilocks rule is done
- 00:44:12the importance of habit reviews my boys
- 00:44:16comeing you Gunners I had to sorry if
- 00:44:18you don't support Arsenal but you know
- 00:44:20your boy had to do it when a measuring
- 00:44:22technique becomes the aim of the Habit
- 00:44:25the technique no longer serves you and
- 00:44:27what this means is let's imagine in
- 00:44:30order to track your habit you're using
- 00:44:32an app to tick off the days you
- 00:44:34performed the habit or you have a habit
- 00:44:36tracker like I have here but you only do
- 00:44:40the Habit in order to tick off those
- 00:44:42days if that's the case you need to
- 00:44:45review your system because you're now
- 00:44:47optimizing for the wrong thing so you
- 00:44:49need to fall in love with the process of
- 00:44:51the Habit that you're doing and just
- 00:44:52treat yourself as an engineer where
- 00:44:54every now and then you check in to see
- 00:44:56how how often you've done it and to see
- 00:44:58what needs working on and What needs
- 00:45:00tweaking think about it this way 80% of
- 00:45:04you in terms of productivity and habit
- 00:45:06formation is a plane 10% is the pilot
- 00:45:10the prefrontal cortex deciding what
- 00:45:12direction you're going towards and what
- 00:45:14the goal of your habit formation is 10%
- 00:45:17is the engineer that is where you tweak
- 00:45:20what needs tweaking in the plane you
- 00:45:21check up on your energy levels and you
- 00:45:23do reviews so you can see what's working
- 00:45:25and what isn't man is alive and changing
- 00:45:28not rigid and stiff leading into our
- 00:45:31next point on this slide with identities
- 00:45:34there's one thing that you can do to
- 00:45:37prevent yourself from tripping up by
- 00:45:39forming the wrong identity don't form
- 00:45:41rigid identities for instance if your
- 00:45:44doctor tells you that you have severe
- 00:45:46health problems but your identity is
- 00:45:48that you're vegan his suggestions that
- 00:45:52you need to change your diet are going
- 00:45:53to contradict an identity that you have
- 00:45:56so in this case it would be much better
- 00:45:58to have the identity of instead of I'm a
- 00:46:01vegan I am someone who takes care of
- 00:46:03their health and the planet and then if
- 00:46:06you have to change your diet you can and
- 00:46:09it doesn't completely coincide and
- 00:46:10shatter one of your identities last two
- 00:46:13slides now the importance of a habit
- 00:46:15review as mentioned briefly in the last
- 00:46:17Slide the good thing is that you form
- 00:46:19effective habits that you stick to
- 00:46:21throughout your habit formation the only
- 00:46:23bad thing is that these habits can
- 00:46:25become too automatic so you neglect how
- 00:46:28to improve and how to instill more
- 00:46:31errors so you're making more progress
- 00:46:33I've had this many times throughout my
- 00:46:34life with learning Spanish where I've
- 00:46:36just got into the routine of practicing
- 00:46:38what I already know feeling like I'm
- 00:46:40making progress but then realizing I'm
- 00:46:42not I'm just wasting my time because I'm
- 00:46:44doing the same thing all I needed was a
- 00:46:45tweak I needed to act oh I needed to
- 00:46:48activate my engineer
- 00:46:50mindset so make sure you review what's
- 00:46:53working at least once a week or once a
- 00:46:55month and tweak
- 00:46:57what needs to be tweaked and you can do
- 00:46:59so by asking these questions in your
- 00:47:01review what went well this week maybe
- 00:47:03you do a bit of journaling how am I
- 00:47:05living or working with Integrity right
- 00:47:07now what did I learn what are the core
- 00:47:10values that drive my life and work and
- 00:47:13how can I set a higher standard in the
- 00:47:15future if you ask these questions most
- 00:47:17importantly what went well this week and
- 00:47:19what did I learn also instill in one
- 00:47:21more is there anything I would change in
- 00:47:23order to improve my processes next week
- 00:47:26then you'll experience all the progress
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