Teens open up about the impact of social media on their lives

00:12:15
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Summary

TLDRThe segment explores the effects of screen time and social media on youth mental health, revealing that a significant percentage of teens experience negative feelings due to social media. Personal accounts from teens illustrate the risks, including bullying and eating disorders, while experts stress the importance of parental guidance and open communication. The U.S. Surgeon General has raised concerns about the youth mental health crisis, linking it to social media use. Parents are encouraged to engage with their children about their online experiences and establish healthy boundaries around technology use.

Takeaways

  • 📱 86% of kids have smartphones by age 18.
  • 📊 95% of teens aged 13-17 use social media.
  • 😞 46% of teens feel worse due to social media.
  • ⚠️ Spending over 3 hours on social media doubles mental health risks.
  • 🛑 TikTok has a one-hour daily limit for teens under 18.
  • 🗣️ Open communication is key for parents and children.
  • 🛌 Tech-free zones can improve sleep quality.
  • 💬 Parents should lead discussions about social media.
  • 🔒 Know your child's social media passwords and access.
  • 💡 Encourage creativity and play to balance screen time.

Timeline

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    The segment discusses the impact of screen time and social media on children and teens, highlighting statistics that show a significant percentage of youth are using smartphones and social media. A personal story illustrates the negative effects of social media, including bullying and the development of eating disorders, leading to hospitalization. The U.S. Surgeon General warns about the mental health crisis among youth, linking excessive social media use to increased risks of depression and anxiety. Teens share their experiences with social media, acknowledging both the fun aspects and the pressures they feel from curated online personas.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:12:15

    The conversation shifts to parents and experts discussing how to manage children's screen time and foster open communication. A therapist emphasizes the importance of guiding children in their use of technology, suggesting that parents should maintain access to their children's devices and have ongoing discussions about online safety. Parents share their struggles with enforcing boundaries around phone use, and the therapist advises creating tech-free zones and engaging in activities that promote connection without screens. The segment concludes with a call for parents to model healthy behaviors and maintain open lines of communication with their children.

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Video Q&A

  • What percentage of kids have a smartphone by age 18?

    86% of kids have a smartphone by age 18.

  • What are the mental health risks associated with social media use?

    Teens that spend more than three hours a day on social media face double the risk for mental health issues like depression and anxiety.

  • What changes have social media companies made to protect teens?

    Meta has made changes to remove content promoting eating disorders, and TikTok has set a one-hour daily screen time limit for teens under 18.

  • How can parents foster open communication with their children about social media?

    Parents should be vulnerable, lead with curiosity, and engage in discussions about both the positive and negative aspects of social media.

  • What should parents do if their child is spending too much time on their phone?

    Establish tech-free zones, set boundaries, and have open conversations about phone use.

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    >>> WE ARE BACK WITH MORE OF OUR
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    >>> WE ARE BACK WITH MORE OF OUR
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    SPECIAL EVENT KIDS IN CRISIS
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    SCREEN TIME.
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    AND IT IS TIME TO HEAR FROM THE
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    KIDS THEMSELVES.
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    >> YEAH.
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    HOW DO THEY FEEL ABOUT THEIR
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    DEVICES AND THE TIME THEY SPEND
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    ON THEM?
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    KATE SNOW IS HERE WITH THAT PART
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    OF THE STORY.
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    HI, KATE.
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    >> GOOD MORNING, GUYS.
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    BY THE AGE OF 18, 86% OF KIDS
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    HAVE A SMARTPHONE ACCORDING TO
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    COMMON SENSE MEDIA.
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    AND THE U.S. SURGEON GENERAL
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    SAYS 95% OF TEENS 13 TO 17 ARE
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    USING SOCIAL MEDIA.
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    THERE ARE A LOT OF POSITIVES,
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    CONNECTING WITH FRIENDS, FOR
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    EXAMPLE.
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    BUT THERE ARE ALSO REAL RISKS.
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    >> SHE REMEMBERS THE MOMENT SHE
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    JOINED SOCIAL MEDIA.
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    IT WAS THE DAY OF HER 10th
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    BIRTHDAY PARTY.
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    >> I WAS SOMEONE THAT GREW UP
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    HEAVILY BULLIED AND STRUGGLED TO
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    FIT IN SOCIALLY.
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    SO WHEN MY PEERS TOLD ME THERE
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    WAS THIS APP THEY WERE
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    DOWNLOADING TO STAY CONNECTED TO
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    EACH OTHER TO EXPAND THEIR
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    SOCIAL LIFE, I THOUGHT IF I
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    DOWNLOADED IT, IT WOULD HELP ME
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    FIT IN, TOO.
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    >> SHE DOWNLOADED INSTAGRAM AND
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    FOLLOWED A FEW OTHER STUDENTS.
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    BUT WHEN SHE TURNED TO THE
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    EXPLORE PAGE, SHE SAW CONTENT
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    FROM ACCOUNTS SHE DIDN'T FOLLOW.
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    WHEN SHE STARTED CLICKING ON
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    POSTS ABOUT MODELS AND WEIGHT
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    LOSS, SHE SAYS IT TOOK A TURN.
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    >> IT WENT FROM SWAP OUT A CANDY
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    BAR FOR A CARROT TO THIS IS HOW
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    TO HIDE YOUR FOOD, HOW TO AVOID
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    EATING COMPLETELY.
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    >> SHE SAYS THE CONTENT HELPED
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    LEAD TO HER EATING DISORDER.
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    SHE WAS HOSPITALIZED 13 TIMES
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    STARTING AT THE AGE OF 15 WHEN
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    HER DOCTOR DELIVERED THIS DIRE
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    WARNING.
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    >> HE LOOKED ME IN THE EYES AND
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    SAID THE INSURANCE CALLED AND
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    ASKED FOR YOUR PROGNOSIS, AND I
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    HAD TO TELL THEM THAT YOU ARE
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    GOING TO DIE IN THE NEXT COUPLE
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    OF WEEKS.
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    YOUR HEART, LIVER, KIDNEYS,
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    THEY'RE ALL FAILING.
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    >> SHE MADE MAJOR CHANGES IN HER
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    LIFE AND SHE'S IN A HEALTHIER
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    PLACE NOW GOING TO THERAPY AND
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    TAKING A TWO-YEAR BREAK FROM
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    SOCIAL MEDIA.
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    HER STORY IS NOT UNIQUE.
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    46% OF TEENS 13 TO 17 SAID THAT
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    SOCIAL MEDIA MAKES THEM FEEL
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    WORSE.
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    BACK IN MAY, THE U.S. SURGEON
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    GENERAL ISSUED A WARNING CALLING
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    THE YOUTH MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS,
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    THE DEFINING PUBLIC ISSUE OF OUR
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    TIME.
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    >> WE SEE RATES OF DEPRESSION OF
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    DISEASE AND LONELINESS GOING UP
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    IN YOUNG PEOPLE.
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    I EACH'M CONCERNED SOCIAL MEDIA
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    DRIVER OF THAT.
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    >> TEENS THAT SPEND MORE THAN
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    THREE HOURS A DAY ON SOCIAL
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    MEDIA FACE DOUBLE THE RISK FOR
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    MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES LIKE
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    DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY.
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    AND A LOT OF AMERICAN TEENS ARE
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    SPENDING MORE TIME THAN THAT.
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    A POLL THIS MONTH FOUND JUST
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    OVER HALF OF TEENS SAY THEY'RE
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    SPENDING AT LEAST FOUR HOURS A
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    DAY ON SOCIAL MEDIA APPS.
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    FAVORITE APP?
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    >> I'D PROBABLY SAY LIKE TIKTOK.
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    >> TIKTOK.
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    >> INSTAGRAM.
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    >> YEAH, INSTAGRAM.
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    >> WE HAVE A DIVIDE.
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    >> I SAT DOWN WITH 15-YEAR-OLD
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    ELIZABETH, 13-YEAR-OLD JOSIAH,
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    16-YEAR-OLD AND 17-YEAR-OLD
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    AARON AT THEIR SCHOOL OUTSIDE
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    NEW YORK CITY TO LEARN ABOUT
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    THEIR OWN SOCIAL MEDIA USE.
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    WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE WHEN YOU
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    START LOOKING ATTIC TOK TIKTOK.
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    >> IT IS JUST SO MANY FUNNY
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    VIDEOS AND I JUST KEEP
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    SCROLLING.
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    >> I'M JUST AVOIDING EVERYTHING
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    ELSE IN MY LIFE.
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    >> I WATCH TIKTOK TO FALL
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    ASLEEP.
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    >> THESE TEENS SAY THEY DON'T
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    USE FILTERS WHEN THEY POST ON
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    SOCIAL MEDIA, BUT THEY SEE A LOT
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    OF THAT.
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    >> WHAT ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS?
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    >> I HAVE ONE FRIEND THAT USES A
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    FILTER ON EVERY SINGLE PHOTO,
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    EVERY SINGLE VIDEO.
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    I DON'T KNOW WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE
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    FOR REAL ANYMORE.
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    I HAVEN'T SEEN HER.
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    >> HOW MUCH OF YOUR MENTAL
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    HEALTH IS TIED TO USING THE
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    PHONES OR SCREENS?
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    DO YOU SEE A CONNECTION THERE OR
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    NOT?
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    >> NOT SO MUCH NOW BUT WHEN I
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    WAS YOUNGER I WAS MORE
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    IMPRESSIONABLE TO WHAT I WOULD
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    SAY.
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    AND I WAS DEFINITELY MORE DOWN
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    ON MYSELF THEN.
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    >> WHAT WOULD YOU SEE?
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    >> PEOPLE LIKE WITH THE FILTERS
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    OR PEOPLE WITH THE UNIMAGINABLE
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    BODIES THAT ARE ALL FAKE AND
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    PERFECT.
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    AND IT'S LIKE, WHY CAN'T THAT BE
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    ME?
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    YOU KNOW?
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    >> MOST OF THEIR PARENTS FOLLOW
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    THEM ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
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    >> MY MOM DOES SEND ME A LOT OF
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    TIKTOKS, MY DAD INSTAREELS AND
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    STUFF.
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    >> THEY TELL ME THEY HAVE TAKEN
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    STEPS TO HAVE A HEALTHIER
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    RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR PHONES.
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    MEGAN SAYS LAST SCHOOL YEAR SHE
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    WOULD SNEAK HER PHONE INTO HER
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    ROOM AT NIGHT.
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    THIS YEAR HER PARENTS MAKE HER
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    HAND IT OVER AT 9:30.
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    >> MY WORK WASN'T GETTING DONE.
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    I WASN'T GETTING GOOD SLEEP
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    BECAUSE I WAS SCROLLING.
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    IT SEEMS LIKE SCROLLING AT NIGHT
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    IS THE ONLY FREE TIME WE HAVE.
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    THAT'S WHAT IT FEELS LIKE
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    ANYWAY.
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    BUT NOW THAT THEY TAKE MY PHONE,
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    I'M GETTING MUCH BETTER SLEEP.
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    >> SOPHIE IS A SOPHOMORE AT
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    STANFORD AND A MENTAL HEALTH
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    ADVOCATE, MEETING PRESIDENT
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    BIDEN LAST YEAR.
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    SHE SAYS HER RELATIONSHIP WITH
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    IT IS DIFFERENT.
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    >> SOCIAL MEDIA NOW IS A PLACE
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    OF LEARNING.
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    BUT IT IS A PLACE WHERE I HAVE
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    TO BE ABLE TO MAKE DECISIONS IN
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    ORDER TO PROTECT MYSELF AND TO
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    PROTECT THAT 10-YEAR-OLD SOPHIE
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    EVERY SINGLE DAY.
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    >> IN THE YEARS SINCE HER
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    EXPERIENCE, INSTAGRAM MADE
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    CHANGES.
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    META SAYS THEY DON'T ALLOW
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    ANYONE TO ENCOURAGE OR PROMOTE
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    EATING DISORDERS.
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    AND THEY REMOVE CONTENT WHEN
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    THEY SEE IT, WHEN THEY BECOME
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    AWARE OF IT.
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    NBC NEWS REACHED OUT TO SOCIAL
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    MEDIA COMPANIES ABOUT SAFETY
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    MEASURES FOR TEENS.
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    SNAPCHAT HAS IN APP PARENTAL
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    TOOLS THAT ALLOWS YOU TO VIEW
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    YOUR TEENS' FRIENDS AND WHO THEY
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    MESSAGED RECENTLY.
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    YOU CAN RESTRICT SENSITIVE
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    CONTENT, REPORT ANY CONCERNS
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    THAT YOU HAVE.
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    TIKTOK SAID THEY SET A ONE-HOUR
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    DAILY SCREEN TIME LIMIT ON TEENS
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    UNDER 18.
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    BUT THE TEENS CAN ENTER A PASS
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    CODE TO OVERRIDE THAT AND
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    CONTINUE WATCHING.
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    >> A LOT OF TEENS WILL TELL YOU
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    THEY KNOW THE PASS CODE.
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    KATE, THANK YOU VERY MUCH.
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    LET'S KEEP THE CONVERSATION
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    GOING WITH A GROUP OF PARENTS
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    THAT UNDERSTAND THIS BATTLE.
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    >> AND TO ANSWER THEIR
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    QUESTIONS, A RELATIONSHIP
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    THERAPIST WHO HELPS FAMILIES
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    OVERCOME MENTAL HEALTH
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    CHALLENGES, INCLUDING THE
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    CHALLENGES OF SCREEN TIME.
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    SHE'S THE AUTHOR OF "COURAGEOUS
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    CONVERSATIONS CONNECT."
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    >> SO WHAT WAS YOUR WAKE-UP
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    CALL?
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    YOU'RE YOUNG.
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    YOU'RE A PART OF THIS GENERATION
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    NOT TOO LONG AGO.
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    WHEN DID YOU REALIZE THIS WAS A
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    REAL PROBLEM?
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    AND WHAT IS YOUR MESSAGE TO
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    THOSE OUT HERE LISTENING TODAY?
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    >> MY WAKE-UP CALL IS WHEN I
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    ALMOST ENDED MY LIFE.
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    THEY ASKED ME ABOUT FORMS OF
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    WELLNESS.
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    I WAS SPENDING BETWEEN 10 AND 12
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    HOURS A DAY.
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    MY MESSAGE AND WHAT I BUILT IS
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    AN ORGANIZATION TO SOLVE THIS
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    PROBLEM.
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    I BELIEFVE WE NEED TO GIVE KIDS
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    THE TOOLS TO HAVE RELATIONSHIPS
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    TO ACHIEVE DIGITAL FLOURISHING.
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    >> A LOT OF PARENTS GIVE THEIR
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    KIDS PHONES BECAUSE THEY SAY I
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    WANT MY KIDS TO BE SAFE.
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    WHEN REALLY WHAT WE HAVE SEEN
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    THROUGHOUT THIS HOUR IS THE
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    BOOGIE MAN IS INSIDE THE PHONE,
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    NOT OUTSIDE THE PHONE.
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    BUT IF YOU ARE GOING TO GIVE
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    YOUR KID A PHONE, WHAT ARE SOME
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    THINGS YOU SHOULD DO TO MAKE
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    SURE YOU DO IT PROPERLY?
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    >> YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER, THE
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    PHONE IS A POWERFUL TOOL THAT
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    YOU ARE PUTTING IN THE HANDS OF
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    YOUR CHILDREN.
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    IT IS LIKE PUTTING A
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    TWO-YEAR-OLD IN THE DRIVER'S
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    SEAT AND SAYING DRIVE.
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    YOU'RE GOING TO CRASH.
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    SO THE CHILDREN'S BRAINS AREN'T
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    FULLY DEVELOPED.
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    THE PARENTS HAVE TO GUIDE THEM
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    JUST LIKE ANYTHING ELSE.
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    SO OPEN CONVERSATION, NOT ONE OR
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    DONE.
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    HAVING A CONVERSATION, WHAT ARE
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    YOU GOING TO DO WITH THE PHONE?
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    HOW ARE YOU GOING TO MANAGE THE
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    PHONE?
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    HERE ARE THE SIGNS TO LOOK FOR,
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    WHAT ARE THE DANGER SIGNS.
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    THOSE ARE IMPORTANT.
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    ALSO THINKING ABOUT, ALL RIGHT,
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    NOW THAT YOU HAVE OPEN
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    COMMUNICATION, THE PROTECTIVE
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    FACTORS.
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    KNOW THE CODES.
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    KNOW THE ACCESSES.
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    KNOW THE SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS
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    THAT THOSE KIDS ARE ON.
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    THEN MAKE SURE THAT YOU HAVE
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    ACCESS.
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    YOUR PARENTS ARE NOT YOUR
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    FRIENDS REALLY.
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    AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOU'RE
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    THE PARENT.
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    YOUR JOB IS TO PROTECT THEM.
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    SO HAVE THAT ACCESS.
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    >> LET'S GET SOME OF THE PARENTS
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    QUESTIONS.
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    WE HAVE WANDA WHO HAS A
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    12-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER.
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    WHAT IS YOUR QUESTION?
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    >> SO I SEEM TO FIND THAT EVERY
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    TIME I ASK MY DAUGHTER TO PUT
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    HER PHONE DOWN, IT TURNS INTO A
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    FIGHT.
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    HOW CAN I GET HER TO PUT HER
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    PHONE AWAY WITHOUT CAUSING AN
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    ARGUMENT?
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    >> THIS IS SUCH A BIG ISSUE.
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    PARENTS SAY THIS IS THE ONLY
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    THING THEY'RE FIGHTING ABOUT
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    ANYMORE.
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    >> YES.
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    WANDA AND ALL YOU OTHER PARENTS,
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    THANK YOU FOR HAVING THAT
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    QUESTION.
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    YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
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    THIS IS A COMMUNITY
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    CONVERSATION.
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    THIS IS NOT THE INDIVIDUAL
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    CONVERSATION.
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    YOU GUYS GOT TO TALK TO EACH
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    OTHER.
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    WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH EACH
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    OTHER AND FOR YOUR DAUGHTER OR
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    FOR YOUR SONS, FIND COMMON
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    GROUND.
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    THERE IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE
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    COMMON GROUND.
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    KEEP THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION
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    OPEN.
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    THE COMMON GROUND MIGHT BE,
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    OKAY, WE WILL STAY ON THE PHONE
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    LESS.
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    WE WILL HAVE TECH FREE ZONES.
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    >> DID THAT WORK FOR YOU?
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    >> I DEFINITELY NEEDED
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    BOUNDARIES.
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    I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO HAVE THEM
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    BECAUSE MY BRAIN WAS STILL
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    DEVELOPING.
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    >> THE BOUNDARIES WILL LEAD TO A
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    FIGHT.
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    I THINK ABOUT THIS AS A PARENT.
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    PARENTING IS HARD.
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    LETTING IT SLIDE IS SO MUCH
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    EASIER.
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    SOMETIMES YOU ARE NOT IN THE
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    MOOD TO FIGHT, SO YOU GIVE IN.
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    >> YOU CAN'T GIVE IN.
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    >> WE HAVE DIANA NAPIER WHO HAS
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    A TEENAGER AT HOME.
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    SHE HAS A QUESTION.
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    >> HI.
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    GOOD MORNING.
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    HOW DO YOU FOSTER OPEN
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    COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN
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    SO THEY FEEL THEY CAN COME AND
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    TALK TO YOU IF THEY SEE
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    SOMETHING ONLINE THAT MAKES THEM
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    FEEL JEALOUS OR SCARED?
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    >> WELL, THE REALITY IS THAT
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    TECH IS VERY EMOTIONAL.
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    THERE IS SO MUCH FEAR.
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    WE'RE OFTEN POINTS AND YELLING
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    AT OUR KIDS FOR BEING ON THEIR
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    DEVICES.
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    BUT MORE OFTEN THAN NOT, I
  • 00:09:46
    ESCAPE THROUGH MY SCREEN TO NUMB
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    OUT.
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    THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO AS A
  • 00:09:49
    PARENT IS TO BE VULNERABLE
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    YOURSELF AND SIT DOWN AND HOLD
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    YOUR TEENAGER BECAUSE THEY NEED
  • 00:09:54
    THAT MORE THAN YOU NEED FINGER
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    POINTING.
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    AND ASK THEM, SOCIAL MEDIA IS
  • 00:09:58
    MAKING ME FEEL BAD ABOUT MY
  • 00:09:59
    BODY.
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    LEAD WITH CURIOSITY.
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    ASK THEM NOT JUST THE BAD THINGS
  • 00:10:04
    BUT ALSO WHAT REALLY EXCITES YOU
  • 00:10:06
    ABOUT BEING IN THE DIGITAL
  • 00:10:07
    WORLD.
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    SHOW ME BECAUSE I HAVE NO IDEA
  • 00:10:09
    WHAT FOR YOU PAGE IS.
  • 00:10:11
    >> SO WE WANT TO PLAY A CLIP
  • 00:10:13
    FROM PROJECT HEALTHY MINDS AT AN
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    EVENT THAT'S A NONPROFIT.
  • 00:10:17
    LAST WEEK THERE WERE TWO PARENTS
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    AT AN EVENT.
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    THEIR 14-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER DIED
  • 00:10:24
    BY SUICIDE.
  • 00:10:25
    THEY LEARNED SHE WAS DEPRESSED
  • 00:10:27
    AFTER OPENING HER OWN.
  • 00:10:29
    TONY HAD A MESSAGE HE WANTED TO
  • 00:10:30
    SHARE.
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    TAKE A LISTEN.
  • 00:10:32
    >> ONE OF THE THINGS I REALLY
  • 00:10:33
    WANT THE WORLD TO KNOW.
  • 00:10:35
    PLEASE KNOW YOUR CHILDREN'S
  • 00:10:37
    UNLOCK CODE.
  • 00:10:38
    WE KNEW HER UNLOCK CODE.
  • 00:10:40
    WE KNEW HER PASSWORDS AND
  • 00:10:41
    EVERYTHING, BUT I JUST DIDN'T
  • 00:10:43
    KNOW HOW TO NAVIGATE THROUGH
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    THESE PLATFORMS.
  • 00:10:45
    >> THAT'S IT.
  • 00:10:46
    YOU CAN SET ALL THESE RULES.
  • 00:10:47
    BUT IF YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW
  • 00:10:49
    TO USE IT -- WE KEEP SAYING IT
  • 00:10:50
    IS NOT A FAIR FIGHT.
  • 00:10:51
    WHAT DO YOU DO?
  • 00:10:53
    >> FOR PARENTS YOU HAVE TO MAKE
  • 00:10:54
    SPACE.
  • 00:10:54
    WE TALK A LOT ABOUT BOUNDARIES,
  • 00:10:57
    BUT WE ALSO HAVE TO MAKE THIS
  • 00:11:00
    FUN AND BRING PLAY AND CREATIVITY TO THIS.
  • 00:11:01
    CREATIVITY TO THIS.
  • 00:11:02
    A LOT OF TIMES WE SAY HAVE A
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    SCREEN FREE STRAV GER HUNT.
  • 00:11:12
    PARENTS ARE THE MODELS, JUST
  • 00:11:14
    LIKE MY OTHER SUBSTANCE.
  • 00:11:15
    YOU HAVE TO SAVE YOURSELF FIRST.
  • 00:11:18
    >> AND YOU SAID AT NIGHTTIME
  • 00:11:19
    LOCK THE PHONE UP.
  • 00:11:20
    >> YEAH.
  • 00:11:21
    >> I MEAN, AL ROKER DID THAT
  • 00:11:23
    WITH HIS SON.
  • 00:11:24
    HE TOOK HIS KIDS' PHONE, HE PUT
  • 00:11:26
    IT IN A LOCK BOX IN A SAFE AND
  • 00:11:28
    SAID, SEE YOU IN THE MORNING.
  • 00:11:28
    >> YEAH.
  • 00:11:30
    >> IT MAY CAUSE A HUGE TO DO,
  • 00:11:33
    BUT AFTERWARDS, THEY SLEPT THAT
  • 00:11:34
    NIGHT.
  • 00:11:35
    THEY HAVE WOKEN UP IN THE
  • 00:11:36
    MORNING AND THEY CAN START
  • 00:11:37
    AGAIN.
  • 00:11:38
    >> IT'S LIKE CREATE TECH FREE
  • 00:11:42
    ZONES AND OPPORTUNITY FOR
  • 00:11:43
    TALKING.
  • 00:11:43
    GO OUT AND TALK.
  • 00:11:44
    IN THE CAR, DON'T MISS THE
  • 00:11:46
    OPPORTUNITY TO GET OFF THE
  • 00:11:47
    SCREEN AND BE THE MODEL FOR YOUR
  • 00:11:49
    CHILDREN BECAUSE YOU'RE CREATING
  • 00:11:50
    DIFFERENT CULTURE.
  • 00:11:51
    >> IT IS A WAKEUP CALL FOR ALL
  • 00:11:53
    OF US.
  • 00:11:54
    MY KIDS ARE THE FIRST ONE TO
  • 00:11:56
    SAY, YOU ARE ON THE SCREEN.
  • 00:11:57
    GUESS WHAT?
  • 00:11:58
    WE CAN ALL DO BETTER.
  • 00:12:00
    THANK YOU TO ALL OF OUR PARENTS.
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