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all right man so the next question is
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what do you do if you threw everything
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into your career and you flopped not
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because of lack of effort but lack of
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opportunity and you were forced to move
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on later in life and he puts at the end
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he said you literally lost everything
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pursuing that dream yeah man that
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happens That's The Human Condition right
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you you bet the farm on this career you
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put everything into it you fully
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committed to it you sacrificed a lot you
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probably summoned your time your energy
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your weekends your took away from family
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and then it didn't pan out like maybe
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you were promised or you were told it
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would you lost it all you're giving the
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boot you're given the exit maybe the
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company got acquired by another company
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and they're like hey we don't need your
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position anymore I've seen that happen
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to people maybe maybe the economy is in
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a place where they're going to downsize
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you maybe they have a reason to get rid
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of you that they haven't told you
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whatever it is that's the Human
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Condition and as soon as you understand
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that The Human Condition comes with
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suffering after suffering after
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suffering in order to get to success
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then all you're doing is what the
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Jehovah's Witnesses do you knock on
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enough doors like they're crying it's
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one of the highest fastest growing
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religions
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yet they have to knock on 99 doors
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to get 99 no's to get one yes so they
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know their metrics so the same thing
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applies to business like same with
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relationships like it's rare for someone
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to be like the first girl I dated is the
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one I married and the one I died with
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like that is a rare thing you're
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probably gonna date several people and
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in fact you're probably gonna get
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married to one of those people after
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making the right decision and even then
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there's like a 50 success rate right
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right because the other half gets
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divorced and maybe they learned a lesson
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there and the second time around
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hopefully things work out better but we
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also know that there's a 50 divorce rate
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there third time around hopefully things
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work better so this is a human condition
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you can't grovel in this pain you can't
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do anything other than go
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I'm still alive I've got a heartbeat I
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got value to that I can add to any
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organization and
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I'm gonna go and reinvest in myself with
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a company that I believe I can add value
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to and I'm going to demand this kind of
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pay or ask for this kind of pay the
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alternative might be you look at this as
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a blessing and he's like you know what
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here's my chance to go all in on me I
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lost it all anyway here's my chance to
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go all in on me to tighten the belt and
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to live off Top Ramen for a while and to
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maybe go back and watch one of those
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episodes on the four high income skills
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that we talk about on the VK show and
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pick one of those four high income
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skills and start doing it and become
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Your Own Boss you know this might be a
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blessing in disguise but I'm here to
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tell this person that it does take a lot
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of failures defeats and adversity and
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suffering to get to the success the road
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to success is paved with Dead Squirrels
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potholes and detours it always has been
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for me I've got multiple businesses and
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not a single one of those businesses
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was a straight line from start to
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multi-millions it was literally a
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squiggly line that went up and down
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sometimes back sometimes underground
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sometimes up and then over and it always
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took longer in time and More in money
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and energy investment than I thought
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that's just a human condition what do
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you tell the person that has analysis
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paralysis where they just over analyze
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everything right they they
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kind of found a Direction they want to
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go and they're going in that direction
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to do whatever they can to do it but
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they're kind of maybe putting along a
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little bit because they're unsure if
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this is the right path maybe their last
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pass path they felt like 100 certain
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they went all in and now they're scared
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because like what if I do the same thing
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and it happens again like what do you
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tell that person to that to that person
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it's as simple as this again it's The
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Human Condition to have to feel that way
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right like when you fall down ice
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skating the next time you're on Ice
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you're going to have a little
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trepidation that doesn't mean you're not
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gonna get on the get on the ice you're
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just going to be more cautious you're
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probably going to think about what did I
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do wrong when I fell and injured myself
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you know someone would say chokes on a
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spoonful of soup that doesn't mean
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they're not going to eat a bowl of soup
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again that just maybe you're going to
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start paying attention to how you eat
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because if we do this whole
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procrastination which is procrastination
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analysis by paralysis or paralysis by
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analysis it's just procrastination it's
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I don't want to get hurt I don't want to
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look stupid I don't want to make this
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mistake again so I'm going to hand ring
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and think about it and look for
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Perfection and gather as much
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information as I can as procrastination
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we only have to jump out of the airplane
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and then build the parachute on our way
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down every successful person I know has
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a good plan but that plan looks good
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only on paper before they launch once
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they launch they realize [ __ ] that
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parachute didn't open I'm gonna have to
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use my pants my underwear my shirt and
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my hat and my belt to rig up a parachute
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before I Splat on the ground it's The
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Human Condition or you can have this
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paralysis by analysis and again live an
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average life with regret and look back
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a decade later and go this is what I
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could have become right like who wants
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to be that person right I'd rather take
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a risk and fail again and fail again
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knowing that the path to success
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is riddled with failures but ultimately
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the universe does provide you the
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outcome as long as you're putting in the
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effort when you say bet on yourself and
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you know it's kind of like take that
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risk take that jump do you mean
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um I kind of just want to hear you go a
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little bit more in depth on uh betting
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on yourself like going in like what
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exactly do you mean by that is it is it
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like for example somebody who wants to
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be uh maybe they don't necessarily want
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to be but let's say a firefighter right
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like a career job versus
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um they want to make music and that's
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not going to pay right away but that's
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kind of going in and betting on
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themselves like what exactly
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I guess you're gonna have to do both
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right but you need somebody makes money
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and then something to give you passion
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right so that person that's actually
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really good analogy right betting on
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yourself is exactly that if you're going
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to be a fighter fighter but you've got
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this passion you know that you're
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calling on this planet is to be an
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artist to create music to move Humanity
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through your music well guess what
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unless you're independently wealthy
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you're gonna have to still be a
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firefighter you're gonna have to work
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your four twelves and ride on the fire
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truck and help people out and then while
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everyone else because I've got a good
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friend uh Bobby vaccio he's a fire
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captain and black uh Blacklick Ohio just
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outside of Columbus shout out to Bobby
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um
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you know me and Andrew went and spent
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the whole 24 hours at the fire station
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with them let's do it
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buildings aren't on fire and people
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aren't having heart attacks around the
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clock right so I was like Bobby these
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dudes just hang out on [ __ ] lounge
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chairs and watch movies he's like yeah
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for the most part that's what you know
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we cleaned the engine we cleaned the
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[ __ ] fire station and then we work
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out and then
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we're eating and then busting balls and
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cracking jokes like it was really fun
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but then there's a lot of movie watching
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but then like the alarm goes off and
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then you know Andrew they put a fire hat
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on on Andrew and then you know we're in
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there and it was actually really cool
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because Andrew was probably 10 or 11
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years old that we went and we're in the
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back of the fire truck and these guys
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are putting on all their gear and um
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they're having to stand up in the fire
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truck because the fire truck's driving
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yeah and me and Andrew are watching and
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this they put on a little you know fire
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coat on Andrew and we all have a little
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headphone on them so we can hear what
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the driver's saying and obviously there
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was some car in front of the driver that
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wasn't going out of the way and he just
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kept blasting the horn and he's like
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that [ __ ] driver and then you know
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Bobby's like sorry Andrew like in the
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radio you know like on the earbuds and
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Andrew got a good laugh out of it but um
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but the point of this being is that that
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guy
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he can't hang out on the lounge chair
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and watch movies he can't on the
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weekends hang out with boys his boys he
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can't he can't do all those things
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because if you feel the higher calling
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betting on yourself is
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I'm gonna do my shift at the fire
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station no matter how much they bust my
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balls while they're watching movies I'm
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gonna work on my art on the weekends
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when I have my three days off while some
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of them want to hang out I'm gonna have
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to work on my art I might have to miss
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some birthdays and weekends and work on
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my art I might have to sacrifice other
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things and work on my art and the thing
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is there's no guarantee that that Art's
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gonna succeed after all those years but
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guess what you developed resiliency
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right you developed other traits that
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are marketable in other areas of life
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and other things you can do maybe that
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guy doesn't become an artist but maybe
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he becomes an amazing songwriter instead
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of an actual singer he becomes a writer
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or producer he becomes the next tray
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right and so we don't know where your
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path is going to go like it's not
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guaranteed that if you do all these
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things and sacrifices and bet on
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yourself that you're gonna have to win
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the win might look very different you
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will have a win it will look different
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but betting on yourself means
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sacrificing the time with the homies
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and and the weekends and the TV for the
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big goal and passion and purpose that
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you feel you're cut for so that
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eventually you can turn in your
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resignation to fire station and then go
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all in on your art
