What are the main topics discussed in the video?

The video discusses experiences in single-sex vs co-ed schools, dating dynamics, and personal anecdotes from the speakers.

How did attending single-sex schools affect the speakers' social skills?

The speakers reflect on how being in single-sex schools may have impacted their confidence and ability to interact with the opposite sex.

What humorous anecdotes are shared?

The speakers share funny stories about their school days, including awkward dating experiences and interactions with girls.

How do the speakers feel about their past experiences?

They express a mix of nostalgia and humor, recognizing both the challenges and fun aspects of their school experiences.

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00:34:17

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Summary

TLDRIn this engaging conversation, a group of friends reflects on their experiences in single-sex and co-ed schools, discussing how these environments shaped their social skills and dating lives. They share humorous anecdotes about their school days, including awkward moments and the dynamics of interacting with the opposite sex. The discussion also touches on their experience as guests on a radio show, highlighting the excitement and challenges of live broadcasting. Overall, the conversation is light-hearted and nostalgic, revealing the complexities of growing up and navigating relationships.

Takeaways

🎓 Single-sex schools can impact social skills.
💬 Dating dynamics differ between school types.
😂 Humorous school anecdotes shared.
📻 Excitement of being on a live radio show.
🤔 Reflection on personal growth and experiences.

Timeline

00:00:00 - 00:05:00
The conversation begins with a confession of affection and a discussion on dating experiences from single-sex schools. The group expresses nervousness about public speaking and reflects on their radio debut experience, where they were invited by DJs to join a live broadcast. They share their excitement and challenges faced during the session, revealing the dynamics of casual conversation alongside formal duties.
00:05:00 - 00:10:00
The hosts discuss their experiences in single-sex versus co-ed schools, noting potential impacts on social skills and dating. They highlight the pressure and branding associated with their school identities, illustrating how positive and negative perceptions can shape interactions. The dynamic is further explored with anecdotes about childhood crushes and interactions with the opposite sex, emphasizing the varied experiences of each speaker.
00:10:00 - 00:15:00
The conversation shifts to the overall effects of attending single-sex schools for a decade, with some expressing confidence from their experiences while others highlight social awkwardness. They debate whether being in a same-sex environment raises standards or creates frustrations due to limited interaction with the opposite sex. They also touch on academic advantages that may come with single-sex education.
00:15:00 - 00:20:00
Reflecting on their friendships and interactions, the group recalls how meeting girls typically involved external social events rather than school interactions. They elaborate on how their relationships developed during and after school, illustrating various strategies used to connect with girls, including social gatherings and online platforms.
00:20:00 - 00:25:00
The topic then moves to how differing educational environments affected their romantic relationships. Those from co-ed backgrounds find co-ed girls more assertive in relationships while those from single-sex schools felt they often took the lead. The discussion sheds light on the nature of interactions shaped by their respective school experiences, revealing insights on maturity and approachability in romantic situations.
00:25:00 - 00:34:17
Towards the end, they share personal stories, reflecting on how their roles in public life and entertainment impacted their childhood and dating life. They conclude with anecdotes about awkward confessions and evolving perceptions, emphasizing the complexity of growing up in the spotlight, managing relationships, and the learning curve that comes with emotional development.

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What are the main topics discussed in the video?
The video discusses experiences in single-sex vs co-ed schools, dating dynamics, and personal anecdotes from the speakers.
How did attending single-sex schools affect the speakers' social skills?
The speakers reflect on how being in single-sex schools may have impacted their confidence and ability to interact with the opposite sex.
What humorous anecdotes are shared?
The speakers share funny stories about their school days, including awkward dating experiences and interactions with girls.
What is the significance of the radio DJ experience mentioned?
The speakers recount their experience as guests on a radio show, highlighting the excitement and challenges of live broadcasting.
How do the speakers feel about their past experiences?
They express a mix of nostalgia and humor, recognizing both the challenges and fun aspects of their school experiences.

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Oh my god, JP. Actually, I've been
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wanting to tell you like I think you're
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very cute and I like you. Whoa.
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Whoa. Have you ever dated people from
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single sex schools and all the girls
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school come together and someone's like
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that's how we imagine. You think that
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lowers your standard cuz like there's a
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lot of pent up sexual frustration,
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right? I'm scared for my job now.
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I don't think I've ever said this
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publicly before. There was a bunch of
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secondary school kids that came up to me
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and they for many years I was like
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genuinely like terrified. It's so
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terrifying for me to say it because I've
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never said it before. Like I'm scared.
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Since you have such a nice like radio
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voice out there, right? Can you help us
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do like the TDK intro? This is your
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daily catchup.
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So a few months ago, we were actually
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very kindly invited by two lovely DJs to
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be on live radio as the daily catchup.
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So we showed up, we tried to figure out,
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hey, got plan or got anything to just,
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you know, just come, just come. Okay. So
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we thought that we bring the magic to
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you guys as well. So we've invited the
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lovely radio DJs here to hopefully bring
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some of the magic here. So please
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welcome Gerald and K.
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Thank you guys for having us. Welcome,
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welcome. You guys can imagine this is
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actually um very exciting for me because
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I've been a longtime listener of the
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Daily Catchup.
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I don't need to suck up. to be honest.
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Um, every time when I when I drive,
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you guys are my on my Spotify. I don't
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know what how you all felt. We didn't
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really have a debrief after that radio
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session because already 8:00 p.m. We
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stay for like 2 hour
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plus some real to go. Okay. We overcome.
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No, but I was actually exactly like you
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like it was a cha experience for me cuz
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like I love radio until today like I'm
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just like always radio first ahead of
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like Spotify. You said you wanted to be
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a radio DJ. I do. We're having a
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competition now. Can you join? I heard
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um star right age thing. He's quite
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young. How old are you? 23. Huh? Really?
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No, but if you cut off
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as I'm already 40 is fine. So, so when
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we were invited, right? I think each of
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us you let us experience like different
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parts of how to be a DJ out there,
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right? How do we perform? Like then did
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uh he did my sports sports. I messed up
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lots of names. No, he was amazing. I
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think we should hire him. Yeah, to to be
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honest, I think Dan has got this certain
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flare. Um, I don't have to suck up,
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right? But I guess, you know, because
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Dan has got a little passion in radio
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and therefore, you know, he he has
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listened to DJ speak before and
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therefore, you know, he's got that
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thing. Uh, so that's that's that's him.
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Uh, for John Paul, um, you were a bit
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kong a little bit. can sense but still
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you managed to so sad not memorable my
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performance memorable memorable
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huh I tried to make it different he did
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traffic I remember Gerald said to you
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drive safe for you to end off drive safe
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but when I say drive safe you said okay
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of course this guy is natural very
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natural I was so nervous and then the
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caller's name was my name then was the
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whole thing was so confusing cuz I
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didn't introduce myself introduce
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That's true. But I hope you guys had
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fun. So much fun. Okay. I I I want to
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caveat. It's not that It's not that they
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were unprofessional at all. It was the
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fact that they were so comfortable in
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doing it. It felt like they were not
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DJing. They were going throughout
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they're doing their life, hanging out,
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but then they're doing their job.
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Exactly. Yeah. So, you just talk talk.
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And for some reason, I don't know the
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way you move the mics, but we can't hear
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you lower or turn off our mics, you see.
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So, we would just talk like that and
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then suddenly Gerald over there, right?
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He would just do the traffic, right?
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Then we're like, where's the let's
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everybody shut up. Yeah. We like the
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ambient sounds, you know, and you know,
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sometimes when she coughs as well or
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when I cough like No, no, it doesn't
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work. There's actually a cough button
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like on my side cuz he So, on the panel
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side, you can move like the volume up
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and down. So, you can kind of control
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everybody's microphones. But on my side,
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if I want to cough or like, you know,
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you choke or something, you're like
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there's actually a button that you can
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press. Most of the time I'm just eating
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so he has to continue talking. Yeah, she
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eats a lot. But anyway, wa yika maybe I
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tell you where we are coming from. We
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are not worried about embarrassing
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ourselves. We are worried about getting
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in trouble. No. Yeah. So when we when we
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didn't get the 5 4 3 2 1 Everyone shut
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the hell up. I'm going live. Right. My
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worry is that will us coming on your
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show then you all get a call after that
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and be like you were very quiet. Are you
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guys were like a little bit scared and
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very honest? My auntie is wet and I was
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one of the things that we talked about
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and Jerro brought up during the the live
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show session, right? Was that we
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actually from the same school? Hey, what
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which one? Sing all boy school. Were you
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there for 10 years? Primary school and
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secondary school. So you were there for
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10 years also. There's a lot of debate
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online when it comes to same sex versus
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coet schools. Yeah. I'm wondering like
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how do you think being in a same sex
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school for 10 years right affected you
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in your adulthood? Wow. I well I had a
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lot I I had a good time in SE girls. I
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don't think it affected him. He got game
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on. Tell the stories how you jo the
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girls. You got meaning being in the same
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sex school upped your game. I don't know
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about how how you felt JP uh but when
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you in all boys school right somehow you
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are branded as boy school then the girls
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somehow feel like wow this boy from boy
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school. I think there's negative and
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positive. Okay. Okay. Yeah. And and it
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kind of balances out. Yeah. It's like
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it's like when you when you hear Oh,
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convent girl. I see. I see. I was a con
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girl. You think good or bad? Good. Like
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a premium like one level. Correct. So
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it's it's like branded. Yeah. Right.
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Like LV. But anyway, uh so actually for
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convent a bit more so than for boys
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school. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. I feel
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depends which convent right. Which are
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you from? I was from IG cartoon primary.
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So it's not one of the good ones, right?
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You got a really good chili me in
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school. Okay. Wow. It's like
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every primary cartoon girl. Why do you
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have to always relate anything to food?
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No. This is like
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legendary. You go and try today you like
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it. I tried it last year cuz auntie
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how good it is. And then I asked auntie,
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do you remember me? Then she don't
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remember me. St. Gab's got no legendary
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food. I only remember you buy me for
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like 50 cent in primary school, right?
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Then they give you like five strand of
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the yellow noodle and sauce then right I
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don't know this guy go Japan to learn
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his knife skills right but the sliver of
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egg that they give
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you what protein last time no such thing
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I think they use the string right or
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something
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so like you know when I was after uh uh
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secondary school I went to like CJC and
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somehow like all the boys school will
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like come together and all the girls
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school will come together and somehow
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it's like that's how we
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All
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the coet schools are like just at one
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corner already making out cuz they
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already No. No. What?
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Tinder.
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Okay. Okay. So, it's like I I I felt
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like, you know, I was in this membership
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law. So, how do you mean? Cuz like for
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coherent, you think that lowers your
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standard cuz like there's a lot of pent
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up sexual frustration, right? Like the
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lack of supply. No, I don't think so.
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I'm scared for my job now.
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No. So, it's interesting because right
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there has been research that has been
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done right that if you go to a single
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sex school, your social development is
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actually impacted. Oh, really? However,
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academically there's a tendency for
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better performance. No distraction
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associated with like single sex schools.
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It's more prestigious accounting. So,
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it's harder to get in whatever. So the
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quality of the students there is
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supposedly better. Okay. So my
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children trade off. I really think it
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depends you know like it also depends on
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depends is a answer the friends make a
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stand right. It all depends on the
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friends that you meet and uh like I was
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lucky that I had good friends you know
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like friends who who wouldn't mind
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studying but but also friends who was
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willing to like just have fun. So
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although you know we we we were kind of
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like nerds and everything but then after
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school we would go to like junction A or
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whatever just to meet up with with girls
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from different schools. How you all meet
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them like how do you you know so like
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friends of friends of friends. Oh so you
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lucky you're kind of like well
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connected. for S. Gibbs, right? I think
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the specific one is that because it's a
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Catholic schooling.
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Yeah. Okay. Anyway, so because it's St.
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Gabes, it's a Catholic school. So all
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these like Catholic students go to
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church, they go to the same churches as
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the girls from the the church. So they
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interact there. Yeah. Then when they go
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and hang out together then you meet all
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these girls. If not right is the
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McDonald.
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So tell us more tell us more about your
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experience. You have so many questions.
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You must have some experience as well. I
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personally feel that 10 years with just
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dudes right I struggle to talk to women
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after that. Like I there I feel like
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there are certain disadvantages. The
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boys with older brothers right ah they
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different their game all different. They
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learn a lot other things already but I
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don't have any older people like a
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reference. Yeah. Yeah. They have
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somebody to like guide them then I don't
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know anything. I have no clue. People
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taper pants all these kind of things. So
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cool. Right. My pants like five size
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bigger kind cuz I lost weight from sec
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one to
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[Music]
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sec
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not. But if given a chance to whether or
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not, you know, I want to put my kid uh
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in a single sex school or like a quad
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school, I think I would choose single
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sex still. Why? Why? I really had a good
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time. I think in terms of like the
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culture as well as, you know, how how
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the teachers actually, you know, like
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communicate with the the students. It's
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a little bit different. So I compare
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this with my wife as well. You know, my
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wife is from was from an a co-et school
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and I could I could sense the
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difference. Yeah. What what what was the
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difference? I I don't know if if it's
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because they have got like you know like
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okay for this month it's going to be a
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month of learning about uh manners and
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then later on in October that depends on
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your school you go to shop and then you
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learn about how to like treat a
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girl they removed it they gave up on the
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rest
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gentleman things to say ethics
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class so so like went for this this
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class and then um they will tell you
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okay how you eat, you know, from outside
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to inside kind of thing. Fair enough.
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Yeah. And and then uh when you when you
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when you go out as well, you know, like
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open a door for a girl and stuff like
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that. How to dress for like dance with
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the girl as well. I had that class. You
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want to MC?
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Huh? Surely have one. But you are not
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from the same generation as Gerald. So
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it's quite different. Yeah. Yeah. But
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but then they took it out.
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Not important. I guess perform this in
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also how to guys open doors for you. No,
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no, no, no, no. Of course not. We had
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ethical classes and stuff like that
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also. But then they will teach you. I
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think that was more under like sexual
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education like oh you know things that
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you have to take note of. If a person
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makes you feel uncomfortable, how do you
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say yes or no and all that kind of stuff
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has that? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But I went
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to a Ket school for secondary school and
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I was permanently like envious of my
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friends who continue on in in like
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convent schools or like singles. So what
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were you what were you envious about? I
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feel like it's different like the
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friendships. The sisterhood. Yeah. Well,
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not Yeah. about the French but basically
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my entire clay just went went to like
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you know kissy sex then I was just like
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okay okay I think also it depends if you
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are hingu whether or not you get good
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friends around I had really good friends
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I think in secondary secondary three and
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four onwards I had like really really
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like close friends I mean I still hang
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out with my secondary school primary
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school I have friends from like every
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basically like um part but I think the
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experience is just different and
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actually I see I feel like if you if you
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you grow up in a coat school you might
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grow out a little bit slower because as
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a girl you are you get to be a girl for
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a long time as a boy you'll be a boy for
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a long time for a long time but I feel
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like school is not you see your friends
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date then a lot of fights happen as a
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result of co at school because egos are
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being stoked every day oh especially
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when you get to secondary level or upper
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primary level even right then you got
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fights really because you disrespect me
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in front of this girl but if you
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disrespect me as okay oh you know but if
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it's in front of the girl I like maybe
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not okay okay I never experienced that
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yeah so I feel like you you start
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putting yourself situation a lot from a
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very very young age maybe because you're
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very popular people always fight over
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you I don't know must be must be I
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[Music]
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mean for me like like for me it was that
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it was it was very distracting because
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like you are literally surrounded with
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like like the girls are surrounded by
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boys surrounded by girls and so like
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that day the when when we were in
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secondary school so it was when MSN
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messenger was like huge so everyone's
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just waiting to go home and then just
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waiting for like your your like your the
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girls to come online and then she was
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just like online offline online offline
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to get them to talk to how you know I
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don't know a lot of losers do
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he just said a lot of losers do
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[Applause]
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that
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exactly offline she comes on right oh
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you happen to be here and then like
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using the song lyrics as
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like I saw you go offline yeah it's me
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and the girls all know that but they for
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sure started letting you put like what
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song you're playing I will wait for like
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that girl that I crush on to see what
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she was playing right then 2 days
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basically then she will think that you
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know we are in sync like you know same
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and it's worked it's worked before like
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she was like oh my god I love this song
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this is my favorite album right now I
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was like oh wait so you got a lot of
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girlfriends in like secondary school
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yeah I was about to ask her actually
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handsome I don't know why nothing to do
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with looks I don't think I'm handsome it
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was purely MSN no I think he he was
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purely he was traditional like because
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he play guitar he got like more friends
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oh the guitar is a weapon yeah
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Yeah, he went to he went to play guitar
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just so he can he can see girls
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there because I was You said you were
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like guitar. So no so CJC CJ not guitar
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and then we had like praise and worship.
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So I was the praise and worship leader.
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So I had to like learn how to play
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guitar and everything. Then when I
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started playing suddenly all the girls
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would sit around and then you think he
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got long French right? So he'll play
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with him.
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[Music]
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the story. The guitar was
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was okay. Yeah. Have you ever dated
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people from single sex schools and coat
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schools? In my dating history of two.
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Yes.
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So much so much for this conversation.
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Not bad. So if Okay. If you have, have
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you all felt like any difference? I felt
00:15:04
like the single sex school girls were a
00:15:07
lot more confident. M like they were
00:15:09
willing to say whatever they they want
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to say. But is that confident or less
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nervous? I feel like different.
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I feel like that's very very individual.
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It depends on individual. Who makes you
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less less nervous? Uh more nervous
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because you see your friend like my
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friend like this girl right then he go
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and confess. Then you you see in your
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eyes the way she reject him and the way
00:15:28
his life went downhill, right? You know
00:15:30
what to avoid. Yeah. Or you exposed to
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rejection and you see more. So you learn
00:15:34
that it's okay. No, I for I learned that
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it was social suicide. I didn't realize
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that guys care about all these kind of
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things. Yeah. Once a guy friend goes,
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"Hey, then like this girl, then like
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everyone knows, right?" No, you have a
00:15:47
split second when this thing happens,
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right? You must straight up just own it,
00:15:51
then you'll be fine. You'll be like,
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"Yeah, so why can I?" If you t one
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second, right, then after you just have
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to sell that it's not true. You know how
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okay I the reason okay the reason why I
00:16:00
brought this also right is because I did
00:16:02
have an experience in secondary school
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where a girl confessed to me and then
00:16:09
bro that's why you want to bring this
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story for the last four years you don't
00:16:13
want to bring up okay for me to share
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this talked about this on 9872 by the
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way so I was so not well adjusted and
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this is the first like female like group
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of female friends that we made um from
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another like single sex school. So yeah.
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So then this girl confesses to me and
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just say that I like you that kind of
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thing, you know. I kind of just like
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found a reason to just walk away. Oh my
00:16:39
god. And then I just never talked to her
00:16:41
again. Oh my god. Cuz I didn't like her
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reply her. I don't know how to Yeah.
00:16:46
Sure. Sure. Not sure. No wonder. Wait,
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how how does she compare to you? She
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like in person and you just walked away.
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Yeah. I didn't know how to react and
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interact. This was secondary school
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though he hasn't fully developed
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emotionally. So it's not fair to
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say I have a very testical hair story.
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[Music]
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We do one session. No. Yeah. So I I just
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completely didn't know how to interact
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in that situation. Then how so what's
00:17:27
the purpose of you telling us this story
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like
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no that socially just no no development.
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I don't know. I never see what this
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interaction look like in my life. This
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is my first time being in it. No clue
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what to do. Do you even know what were
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your peacocking opportunity right to
00:17:45
make her even like you? Was there
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something you blind to this? I to me I'm
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just hanging with the boys. Hey, they
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are females. So your looks they all boys
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also to me then we are just hanging
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together then I know okay this guy
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trying to ch that girl but I don't care
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not my I'm not thinking about these
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things how old are you no sex three or
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sex the hair got some people long
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that's late that's for for me I think
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very similar to to John but I'll go one
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step further like I think the
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relationship that I've been with co
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versus single sex the co-et girls right
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took the lead in those relationships I
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think they know what they want to do
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also I a very late boomer. More
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aggressive really a bit some aggressive
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but not just aggressive just like okay I
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know one I'm going to like take lead so
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I really just like follow along get get
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dragged along but like with the single
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sex girls I think they are like like new
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don't don't really know how to interact
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with boys or so so I feel like I was the
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one like kind of guiding them through
00:18:39
relationship like young days secondary
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school days I had the opposite I feel
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like in my when I dated someone from a
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convent I feel like their interaction
00:18:47
with someone of opposite sex is more
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it's rarer okay Okay. So they kind of
00:18:51
just tell you where are we going with
00:18:53
this? Like what's next? More
00:18:54
straightforward. Yeah. As opposed to
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like Pat for example. She was a pretty
00:18:57
girl in secondary school. Every day she
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go to school like or guys school over
00:19:00
her. So it's just like I'm another guy.
00:19:03
Okay. Okay. Some like constantly being
00:19:05
qualified qualified qualified I think.
00:19:07
And turns out you're the only guy.
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You got a
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pet. Wait. I'm curious. So if a girl
00:19:20
came up to you now and then she
00:19:21
confesses to you in the exact same way,
00:19:23
how would you react now? No. Now okay,
00:19:25
thank you kind of thing. I'll interact.
00:19:27
Thank you. No, like no. Like okay,
00:19:29
pretend that it's just happened and then
00:19:32
she flattering. We can have a great
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trailer. We can have a great trailer.
00:19:38
Oh my god. She will die. Oh my god, JP.
00:19:41
Actually, I've been wanting to tell you
00:19:42
like I think you're very cute and I like
00:19:44
you.
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He's walking away. You're a very nice
00:19:49
person, but I'm attached. No, you're
00:19:51
single. Single. Single. I'm single.
00:19:54
Yeah. Hypothetically.
00:19:56
Okay. Hypothetically. Emotionally mature
00:19:58
response now. Okay. Say you kind of like
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her. I hang there for an
00:20:05
hour. Cannot. I cannot die. How do you
00:20:08
confess? How do you not confess? How do
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when people I'll die with my feelings.
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And I will look like I will look like I
00:20:16
have zero interest in the guy. Oh, okay.
00:20:20
So that's the sign. Yeah. So if I go and
00:20:22
say, "Hey JP, I like you. I think
00:20:24
you're someone you money was involved."
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So what was your game with your with
00:20:32
your wife? So I met my wife. Uh she was
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a listener and what happened was she
00:20:38
No, no, no, no, no. She doesn't She
00:20:40
didn't know who I was at all. She was an
00:20:41
Adam Lebert fan, right? Oh, she took a
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in a competition and she won an Adam
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Lambert poster. Okay. Okay. It was a
00:20:48
sign poster and I was a DJ back then.
00:20:50
And then I don't know why there was like
00:20:52
this delay in the delivery of the
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poster. So she kept she kept I don't
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know why. Don't know why. I don't know
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why. So she kept not really for for
00:21:00
reals.
00:21:04
So she kept texting into the station
00:21:06
like hey you know where's my poster?
00:21:07
What is it? And it was a month, right?
00:21:10
So, uh, I replied to her. I was like,
00:21:11
"Okay, I'm sorry because, uh, there
00:21:13
there seems to be a bit of an issue."
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Uh, and then when I received the poster,
00:21:18
actually, I didn't know how she looked
00:21:20
like. I delivered the poster all the way
00:21:23
to her house together with a few other
00:21:25
um, at Lambert merchandise whatsoever.
00:21:27
So, I gave to her house. When she opened
00:21:28
the door, I was like, "Just you?" Just
00:21:29
me, right? Yeah. Cuz I felt bad, right?
00:21:31
Cuz all the other listeners didn't
00:21:33
complain. It was only, right? So, I
00:21:36
delivered over and then um she opened
00:21:38
the door. I was like, "I'm so sorry. Uh
00:21:40
th this is your poster and I also
00:21:42
prepared some extra gifts for you. Uh
00:21:44
hope you like it. Thank you." So, when
00:21:45
the door opened, I was like
00:21:47
like literally Yes. Yes. Because in my
00:21:49
head, I was like, "Who is this weird
00:21:51
person, you
00:21:54
know, beautiful girl?" So, she opened
00:21:56
the door. I was like,
00:21:58
"Yeah." I closed the door and then I
00:22:00
went down. How old were you then? She
00:22:02
was 19. I'm seven years older, right?
00:22:05
Okay. Yeah. Yeah. So then then I went
00:22:08
downstairs to my car. I straight away I
00:22:10
went back to um the the contest page,
00:22:13
right? I went to find out what was her
00:22:15
Facebook.
00:22:17
I don't know.
00:22:20
You see, I tell you not well
00:22:22
adjusted. And then I I I quickly replied
00:22:26
her using my own Facebook and I was like
00:22:28
uh yeah, you know, I'm so sorry for the
00:22:30
delay again and uh uh please uh enjoy.
00:22:33
You saw the opportunity and you took it
00:22:35
and she replied back and then after that
00:22:37
we just kept talking.
00:22:39
Shot your shot. Fast forward to about 4
00:22:41
years later when I wanted to propose. Uh
00:22:45
I knew that you know she was because I I
00:22:47
I knew of her as a huge Alam Le fan. Uh
00:22:50
Adam Le came to Singapore. Oh my god.
00:22:53
the greatest wingman. Sony music was
00:22:55
very nice. Uh she knew about my story
00:22:57
because at that time I got a block,
00:22:58
right? So I blog about the whole thing
00:22:59
and then and then she was like, "Gerald,
00:23:01
uh could you do the interview?" I was
00:23:04
like, "Sure, sure." Yeah. So then I
00:23:06
printed out this sign, say yes to
00:23:07
Gerald. Yeah. Yeah. I went to this
00:23:09
interview and I did the usual interview
00:23:11
and then I asked Adam, I was like, "I
00:23:13
want to propose to her, but I need your
00:23:14
help." You asked, you asked Adam. I
00:23:16
asked Adam in front of me and then he
00:23:18
was like, "Sure, why not?" So he held up
00:23:20
and I was like, "Please say yes." Wow,
00:23:22
they'll do it. And then it came out on
00:23:24
like different news outlets and
00:23:25
everything. And then um American Idol
00:23:28
was was uh I think Freemal Media or
00:23:31
whatever. Uh they were doing like like
00:23:32
his his
00:23:33
his tour abouts in different countries
00:23:36
and it was also shot and it was also
00:23:37
featured on American Idol about him
00:23:40
helping this guy propose. Wow. Yeah.
00:23:43
Being a radio DJ.
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I took the picture and then when I sent
00:23:48
her the picture of course I was next to
00:23:49
her. I sent her on uh WhatsApp and I was
00:23:52
like, "Hey, check out this picture." And
00:23:55
then that was my first proposal.
00:23:57
Proposal, but you never asked for years.
00:23:59
Cuz she got confused. She thought Adam.
00:24:03
No, because I I had it planned to
00:24:05
propose to her at Disneyland. Yeah. So
00:24:07
that was already we were already going
00:24:09
on this trip. Then Mickey Mouse.
00:24:16
No, it was even better. So he planned to
00:24:18
do it during the fireworks, right? But
00:24:19
you know during the fireworks it was
00:24:20
very crowded. So he was like fumbling
00:24:23
for the ring and then put the ring in a
00:24:25
rose. Remember I can't remember. He did
00:24:27
something and then like the fire was
00:24:28
going off and then he was trying to get
00:24:30
the ring and then the ring dropped then
00:24:31
he tried to find the ring. No. So
00:24:33
okay I was with Paris because we were we
00:24:37
were there for a work trip right and
00:24:38
then I told him I said hey can you
00:24:40
follow me to Paris Disneyland? I want to
00:24:42
find like a spot to um propose to my
00:24:45
wife right my wife to be. And then the
00:24:48
whole day we instead of looking for a
00:24:49
spot, we ended up like just playing
00:24:51
riding on the rides and everything. And
00:24:53
then at night we were there at the
00:24:54
fireworks um and and and I saw this this
00:24:56
moment and it was like tangled
00:24:59
because we we like tangle a lot. So it
00:25:01
was that moment that I I wanted to
00:25:03
propose. Two weeks later I brought her
00:25:05
to Disneyland with me. I put the ring in
00:25:08
the rose and then after that I I walked
00:25:10
towards this area and I and she kept
00:25:11
taking pictures of the fireworks. I was
00:25:13
like, "Can you please stop?" And then we
00:25:14
started quarreling. Oh, why you want me
00:25:16
to stop? They wanted to be to the side.
00:25:18
I was like, "Just stop, please." And
00:25:20
then um there was like a small little
00:25:21
barricade like a like like shin height,
00:25:24
right? And then because we were like not
00:25:27
quarreling, but I mean like it was like
00:25:29
more of like
00:25:31
and then I fell over this this shin
00:25:33
height barrier thing and she fell as
00:25:36
well. And then it was the moment it was
00:25:42
and then and then she looked at me,
00:25:43
she's like, "Wow." I was like, "Will you
00:25:45
marry me?
00:25:48
If you don't want at this point,
00:25:51
then like is this the reason why you
00:25:54
kept asking me to stop taking pictures?"
00:25:55
I'm like, "Yes."
00:25:57
Well done.
00:26:00
So, sing boys are cheesy in the best
00:26:02
way. I I think something that's
00:26:04
interesting is that Kim, right, you've
00:26:06
actually been in the public eye for a
00:26:08
very long time and from a very
00:26:10
completely Okay. Yeah. No, no. It's
00:26:12
relevant to this.
00:26:13
Now, when you look back, do you think
00:26:15
that that experience has affected you in
00:26:18
any like how do you think that
00:26:20
experience has affected you? I don't
00:26:22
think I've ever said this publicly
00:26:24
before. Like, if people ask me like
00:26:26
one-on-one, I've shared it, but I've
00:26:27
never shared it like on a public
00:26:29
platform or like social media, like
00:26:31
nothing. When I was little, cuz I used
00:26:32
to be in theater school, so we did like
00:26:35
a lot of like plays and stuff like that.
00:26:36
So, acting was always like a part of my
00:26:37
DNA. It was very enjoyable. I really,
00:26:39
really, really loved it. It was very
00:26:40
fun. It was a different world. It was
00:26:42
just very magical for me. So when I got
00:26:44
older and I was uh and I started to be
00:26:47
on TV, I also still really enjoyed it a
00:26:49
lot because it's a different experience
00:26:50
for me. It's like for me as a kid at
00:26:52
that point in time, I was hosting a kids
00:26:54
show. That was when I first started. And
00:26:56
this you started as a host really. Yeah.
00:26:57
I started as a Chinese kids show host.
00:27:00
At what age? At like 9 or 10. Yeah. The
00:27:03
Chinese really And it was your choice,
00:27:05
not like your parents. It was my choice.
00:27:07
No, as in like my my cousin was like I
00:27:09
think she saw that there was an audition
00:27:10
going on or something. And then my
00:27:11
parents brought me. It was like a random
00:27:12
like weekend like being dragged to.
00:27:14
Yeah. So it's like I was just like just
00:27:16
like as a kid I was very gung-ho. I was
00:27:18
okay to do anything. I think the
00:27:19
inhibitions only came in when I was much
00:27:20
older. So as a I had no sense of like
00:27:23
the world when I was a kid. To me it's
00:27:24
just like another activity. So I didn't
00:27:26
think so much about it. Right. So when
00:27:27
audition and because it was a variety
00:27:28
show, we got to do a lot of things. We
00:27:30
like flew to different countries. Then
00:27:32
like we would host this this segment
00:27:33
that I love. It's called like mon which
00:27:35
is like dreams, right? So basically what
00:27:37
dream does a kid have? They they'll
00:27:38
write in like email or whatever. where
00:27:39
they'll tell us, send them letters, and
00:27:41
then they'll say like, "Oh, I've always
00:27:42
wanted to try um ice skating, and then
00:27:44
we'll get the kit in, and then we'll
00:27:45
bring them like to learn how to do ice
00:27:46
skating for the episode." Wow. You make
00:27:48
a wish at 10. Yeah. And then like, so
00:27:50
like the hosts get to do it, too. So, I
00:27:52
got to do a lot of different activities.
00:27:53
I went on like cruises. I went like
00:27:55
overseas and it was just really, really
00:27:57
fun. So, to me, it was like I don't
00:27:58
think I will ever forget it. Like so
00:27:59
many experiences, climbing like the
00:28:01
mountains and all that kind of stuff.
00:28:03
Um, and then after that, I went into
00:28:05
acting. At this point in time, I was in
00:28:07
primary school, right? So I already had
00:28:08
friends and all and like they already
00:28:10
know me as me. So they're still my very
00:28:12
close friends. Like I'm still close with
00:28:13
all my primary school friends. Wow. But
00:28:15
there was a moment that I think I had
00:28:17
like a mental switch or like realization
00:28:20
that being in all these things actually
00:28:22
comes with a lot of other stuff. So
00:28:24
there was one day I was at a bus stop at
00:28:26
Tanamera. I was with my best friend
00:28:28
Darlin. Um we were taking we were going
00:28:31
to split there and then she was going to
00:28:32
take another bus. I was going to take
00:28:33
out the bus and there was a bunch of
00:28:34
secondary school kids that came up to me
00:28:36
and they they recognized me from being
00:28:38
on TV um from some like Chinese drama
00:28:41
series and they were like, "Hey, you're
00:28:42
that girl d and I was from girl school."
00:28:46
Yeah. So I like never see boys before.
00:28:47
No scared, right? And it was a girl that
00:28:49
came up to me and then she was very
00:28:50
friendly and then she like basically put
00:28:52
her arm around my shoulder and she was
00:28:53
like talking to me but I was terrified.
00:28:56
And you were still primary level at I
00:28:57
was still I think I was in primary six.
00:28:59
Not her fault though. like she wasn't
00:29:01
like nasty or mean or anything. She was
00:29:03
just very friendly talking to me. But I
00:29:05
think I couldn't register that that this
00:29:08
has become like a an regular interaction
00:29:12
or I don't know like you know public
00:29:13
property. Yeah. In that moment. So I
00:29:15
think at like 12 I was just like huh.
00:29:17
And then my best friend who is in the US
00:29:19
right now if you watch this podcast she
00:29:21
stepped backwards and she was looking at
00:29:22
me like and I was like wait where you
00:29:25
going like you know it was a very
00:29:27
unusual moment for me. And in that
00:29:29
moment I realized that oh like it does
00:29:32
come with a lot of other things and then
00:29:34
you go on to secondary school. So
00:29:35
because you have a change in environment
00:29:38
then you realize then everything hits
00:29:39
you like all at once like attention is
00:29:41
not always a good thing. I feel
00:29:42
sometimes people just have a certain
00:29:44
perception of who you are already and
00:29:46
then they kind of just like go with
00:29:48
that. So and I'm not really one to like
00:29:51
explain myself. I kind of just like okay
00:29:53
you know sure like whatever. So I think
00:29:56
at that point I started to feel more and
00:29:59
more intimidated about being in the
00:30:01
media. So past a certain point I just
00:30:04
said I was busy cuz I was like in CCAs
00:30:06
and stuff like that and I kind of just
00:30:07
like faded away. I enjoyed to live like
00:30:11
a like a normal life outside of all
00:30:12
that. Not even that like
00:30:17
seriously he's the 80% of the extrovert
00:30:20
but people give me things I take.
00:30:23
So in secondary school I had a period
00:30:25
was I was still acting until like about
00:30:26
13 14 and then I remember there was once
00:30:28
when I was about like 14 15 that going
00:30:31
to media call when my dad was driving me
00:30:33
I could feel this sense of like fear.
00:30:34
Oh, like dread. Yeah, like a sense of
00:30:37
dread. And at a point of time, you know,
00:30:38
people nobody talks about mental health.
00:30:39
They don't understand what these
00:30:40
emotions are. But I just knew I felt
00:30:42
scared or like dreadful. Not about
00:30:45
acting. I still like acting. That was
00:30:47
really fun for me. But I think it's more
00:30:49
of like everything else that came with
00:30:50
it. And I couldn't put two and two
00:30:52
together. So I eventually kind of like
00:30:53
faded out. And then when I came back, I
00:30:56
still did some hosting and stuff. Like
00:30:57
it was always like part of my life. That
00:30:59
was more for income really at that
00:31:01
point. Yeah. Yeah. More or less
00:31:02
actually. That's true. But I I enjoy it.
00:31:04
It's just that it's also less popular.
00:31:06
So like you know then after that when I
00:31:08
came back into the media was through
00:31:09
radio. Why I wanted to join radio was
00:31:11
also because I thought about it. It's
00:31:13
basically the job that I had always been
00:31:14
doing. So like you're hosting you're
00:31:16
doing all those things but then you're
00:31:17
alone in the air conditioned room and
00:31:19
you don't really have to radio like you
00:31:21
don't really have to be on screen you
00:31:23
know. So I thought like oh my god that's
00:31:25
perfect. It's like it's like the dream
00:31:27
job but the introvert's dream you know.
00:31:29
So I was like okay I think radio is like
00:31:30
I can do it. I wouldn't have to be. So
00:31:32
and then they changed it. And now
00:31:33
everybody got to be everything else. So
00:31:34
yeah, I know social media general there.
00:31:36
But yeah, but I got to say though, I
00:31:40
think at that point in time because I
00:31:41
had grown up, right, and obviously you
00:31:43
you mature and you understand yourself
00:31:44
better. You learn how to be professional
00:31:46
like that slow grow back into I guess
00:31:48
being in front of the camera was
00:31:50
actually very helpful. Yeah. Cuz for
00:31:53
many years I was like genuinely like
00:31:55
terrified. I I've never as it's so
00:31:58
terrifying for me to say it because I've
00:31:59
never said it before. Like I'm scared.
00:32:02
I feel like I feel like me as a person I
00:32:03
love you so much more for that laughter
00:32:04
after oh my god bring it back to what I
00:32:06
mean is I don't think at any point in
00:32:08
time did I ever feel like my parents
00:32:11
could have made better decisions for me
00:32:13
right because some people might be like
00:32:15
oh then why did they put you in like a
00:32:16
theater school why did they allow you to
00:32:18
go to media actually my mom was quite
00:32:19
protective she didn't want me to join
00:32:20
until much later cuz I was talent
00:32:21
spotted when I was like maybe about four
00:32:23
wo yeah cuz what were you doing in
00:32:26
theater so they will come and watch then
00:32:28
there was this show called like
00:32:30
um so they wanted me to join. Yeah. And
00:32:32
then my mom actually said no. I didn't
00:32:33
know this. She was the one told me. And
00:32:34
then she only allowed me to kind of like
00:32:36
join like much later when I was about
00:32:38
like 9 or I think 9 years old cuz she
00:32:41
felt like maybe I was a bit more like
00:32:42
you know ready at that point in time.
00:32:44
Also it was my decision like they were
00:32:46
asking me you want to do. Okay. So
00:32:47
thanks so much J for joining us today.
00:32:50
You can check them out on 987 this
00:32:52
evening. Every evening. I don't know. It
00:32:53
depends on what time you're tuning in to
00:32:55
the podcast. 66. I remember when we went
00:32:57
to your studio, right? Then Kim had this
00:32:59
um he had this wall of toys, the glass
00:33:02
thing. So I thought she was just kind of
00:33:03
playing. I was a bit spooked up by to be
00:33:05
very honest when she started talking to
00:33:06
it, right? I was like, "Oh, small size.
00:33:08
This woman's a little bit different,
00:33:08
right?" Yeah. A little bit different. A
00:33:10
bit different. No, but talking to them
00:33:12
like actual people. Yeah. No. So I
00:33:14
thought maybe she's like we never met.
00:33:17
So this is the character she wants to
00:33:18
present to us. Sure. Right. I can't
00:33:20
imagine how it was like in his mind. I
00:33:23
saw Instagram really. She still plays
00:33:25
with it like your her story. She just
00:33:27
take picture on like people adding to
00:33:28
her collection and then she still talks
00:33:30
to them and [ __ ] I'm like dude bro I
00:33:32
tell you something. I went with her same
00:33:34
overseas. This was over to um LA LA we
00:33:39
were there at night right and then and
00:33:41
then suddenly she took out from her
00:33:43
luggage. I always travel with her the
00:33:45
bunny and nobody was
00:33:47
looking to she didn't know I was behind
00:33:51
her. She started talking to this thing.
00:33:53
Oh my. He was like, "Are you okay? Okay,
00:33:56
you sleep on me tonight."
00:33:59
[Applause]
00:34:00
Whatever she said. And I was not like,
00:34:03
"Is she taking a video of herself doing
00:34:04
this or what?" She wasn't.