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Modern life is designed to break you.
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And no, I don't mean that in a poetic
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metaphorical way. I mean literally. Your
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job, your relationships, your lifestyle,
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even your sense of self. All of it is
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set up in a way that's meant to drain
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you. In a way that makes you feel like
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you're constantly behind, constantly not
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enough, constantly stuck, and constantly
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not as good as other people around you.
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And if you feel that way, it's probably
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not your fault. We're all going through
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something like this. Aside from the top
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0.001% 001% of people in wealth and
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status. I guarantee you that we're all
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going through something similar like
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this. It's not just dysfunctional, it's
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intentional on a macro level. It's
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almost like there's a system in place,
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some kind of weird partnership between
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corporations, government, and just the
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overall culture that's been designed to
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keep you alive just long enough to milk
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your money and drain your life force in
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the process. Is it just me who feels
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that way, or have you kind of started to
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see the same thing, too? I mean,
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something like that sounds extreme, but
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if you zoom out, I think that's exactly
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what it looks like. This system, if we
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should call it that, it's built for
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productivity, not people, for profit,
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not peace. And the craziest thing is
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that if you're not breaking under the
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weight of it all, then that probably
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means you're numbing yourself just
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enough to get by. And that's what they
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want.
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If you've ever wondered why you feel so
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disconnected from the world around you,
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why work feels so pointless, why dating
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feels like a rigged game, and why even
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basic happiness seems like something
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that's so difficult to achieve? You're
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not alone, and you're not crazy.
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The truth is that the world has changed,
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but we never got the memo. No one taught
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us that, and we find ourselves still
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trying to live out meaningful lives in a
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system that's quietly stripped away
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everything that used to make life
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meaningful. And while we're constantly
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told to just work harder and grind and
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hustle, the truth is that it's tough for
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most of us. If it were just myself going
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through this, I wouldn't have the
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arrogance to talk about this topic. It's
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only because I know that a lot of
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people, especially young guys my age,
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were feeling overwhelmed and just
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quietly wondering like, is this all
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there is to life? And I think no one
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wants to say this kind of stuff aloud
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because doing so feels like admitting
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defeat. But someone needs to talk about
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it. And I feel fine with doing that
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because I don't see it as defeat. I see
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it as awareness. And awareness is the
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first step to breaking free. Because
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what we're up against isn't just a
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country, a corporation, or a culture. I
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can't even explain it. But it just seems
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like some kind of machine that's
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designed to keep you constantly tired,
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consuming, and distracted from what's
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really going
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on. I feel like the most obvious problem
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nowadays is work and your career. For
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one, even just getting a job nowadays,
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it's like playing a slot machine that
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only pays out if you have a master's
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degree and already 5 years of experience
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for an entry-level job. Some of the
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demands you see on job applications is
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just crazy nowadays. It's hyper
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competitive. It's cutthroat. And thanks
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to AI, things are about to get even
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worse. It's already hard enough to
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compete with other people around you in
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a globalized economy. But soon, it's not
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just going to be other people. You're
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going to be competing against robots,
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too. machines that don't sleep, don't
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eat, don't get sick, don't take days
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off, and don't require money to survive.
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If a corporation can cut costs and get
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the same efficiency or even better, why
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the would they not do it? It seems
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like the job market is just evolving
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faster than we can adapt, and most of us
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are left scrambling to catch up. If
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you're not like the top 0.1% of talent,
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but let's say you do go through all that
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hassle of applying to the job, and you
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do get it, congrats. What's next? You
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get to work 9 to5 for the next 40 years
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of your life while the government takes
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your taxpayer money and send it to
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Israel, giving your entire life and your
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energy to a company that can just let
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you go without warning if they ever
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wanted to. But during the time that you
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are lucky enough for them to allow you
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to work for them, you spend your days
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doing tasks that just feel meaningless.
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Sitting in boring meetings, writing
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mundane emails, and overall just
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pretending to care about things you
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don't really care about if we're being
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honest. Also, you can do what? afford
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rent, food, a house, groceries, a
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Netflix subscription. It just becomes a
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cycle of living to work, and working to
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live. But what's the point in all that?
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It feels like there's no dignity in it
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anymore. And unlike in the past, not
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even like a sense of stability. Again,
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the global marketplace is more
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competitive than ever, and companies
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have more reasons than ever to fire you
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without warning. the whole process of
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going through like like a normal job and
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career. It just feels like endless
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resumes, endless rejections, and the
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looming fear of falling behind. But
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what's worse is that in the past, there
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was at least reason to justify living
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that way. They sold you the dream of a
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stable career with a pension and a
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paidoff house. But it's 2025 and it
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seems like that whole thing is a relic
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of the
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past. In the past, most people worked
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normal jobs and lived normal lives. But
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they had something to live for,
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something deeper, a family, a
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relationship, neighbors and friends
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around you, a community, a nice little
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house in the suburbs with the white
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picket fence and all that. It wasn't
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necessarily glamorous, but it gave life
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structure and it gave the average person
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something to live for and something that
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they could realistically achieve within
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their lifetimes. But now that vision is
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practically a fantasy. It's very hard to
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be just a normal person in today's world
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and succeed and be happy. Everything has
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changed. For example, with the prices
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nowadays, home ownership is out of reach
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for most young people unless you inherit
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wealth or get incredibly lucky. Starting
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a family feels like an impossible task
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when you're living alone or with
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roommates and rent takes up half your
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paycheck. Even if you do try your best
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to live the American dream of that
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previous era while working a normal job,
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it would cost so much to raise just one
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kid, let alone three or four like many
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families used to have in previous
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generations. But even dating, which is
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the starting point to get to all of
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that, has completely fundamentally
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changed. Back then, it was simple.
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People dated within their communities.
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There were natural opportunities to meet
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people through things like friends,
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school, church, or just hanging around
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the neighborhood when people went
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outside and cities were walkable. But
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now everything is digital. You see those
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graphs about how online dating has just
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skyrocketed in recent years.
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Relationships, something that used to be
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deeply meaningful to us as people, it's
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just been turned into a up game.
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Swiping, ghosting, algorithms, ELO
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scores. What the dude? It's harder
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than ever to find someone who wants to
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build a future together with you, let
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alone someone you connect with on a
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deeper level. And dating is extremely
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tough, especially if you're a young guy
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in this era. It just feels like you're
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playing a game that's stacked against
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you. Dating apps have basically ruined
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everything. Sure, they've made it more
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convenient, but they've also made it way
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more superficial. Your face and your
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height are what you get judged on, and
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if you don't look a certain way, you're
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practically invisible. You can be a
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kind, thoughtful, intelligent person,
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but if your photos don't scream 6 foot
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tall with a chiseled
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jawline, good luck. Good luck with that.
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And even if you do match with someone,
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the odds of it going anywhere meaningful
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are so slim. It seems like everyone's
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dating with one foot out the door
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already. And especially girls who have
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so many options on these dating apps.
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It's like trying to pick from a buffet.
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Everyone wants to keep their options
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open. Everyone wants to find the best
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person on paper instead of finding a
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person who's good enough and then trying
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to build the best relationship from
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that. So, long story short, we've gified
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human connection. And in doing so, we've
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made it disposable. That's why more
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people are lonier than ever, both guys
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and girls. That's why our mental health
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is worse than ever on a societal level.
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It's all just a system of endless
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short-term interactions. Cheap thrills,
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no depth, no commitment, just the next
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swipe. Everything is surface level and
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it seems like we're losing the ability
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to connect with people in any real
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lasting way. And part of it is because
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even the cultural messaging has shifted.
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A lot of people, but especially women
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nowadays, are encouraged to prioritize
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career and independence over everything
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else. Like, I want to be a boss babe.
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And that's fine if that's genuinely what
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you want to do. Like, no one's here to
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judge your life preferences. But if
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we're just being honest, it's led to a
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dynamic where relationships are seen as
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optional, even burdensome. And again,
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while some people might enjoy that
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freedom, I feel like a lot of us are
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afraid to admit it, but on a deeper
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level, we're craving something more. And
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that gives rise to the the loneliness
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epidemic, as everyone likes to call
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it. It's so ironic that we're the most
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connected generation in history, but
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also the loneliest. You see the studies
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about people who say they feel like
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they're chronically lonely and the
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numbers are only going up. Social
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isolation is really like a public health
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crisis, but no one's talking about it
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because no one wants to admit their
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problems. Because I feel like people
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think that's uh embarrassing to admit.
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But just being real, most people that I
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know live alone, work alone, scroll
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alone, and just aren't in relationships
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either. At least not long term. Me and
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my friends spend way too much time
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sending each other reals on Instagram.
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But even though we're technically
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connected through our phones, it's not
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genuine. And in general, just through
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social media, we find ourselves watching
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other people live their lives while
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quietly wondering why ours feel so
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empty. But the truth is that everyone's
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feeling empty. It's not just you. Even
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the ones who post how glorious their
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lives are on their stories and Facebook
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pages. And again, the lack of third
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spaces is another reason. Most people's
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lives nowadays are just condensed to you
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work, you go home, you scroll or watch
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Netflix or some Cities aren't
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really walkable. It seems like
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everyone's in their own little bubbles.
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There's not too many socially acceptable
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places where you can just talk to people
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or just hang out or meet someone new.
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Everyone seems isolated and atomized.
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And then you wonder, why does life feel
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so hollow? But the answer is obvious.
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It's because we're not meant to live
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like this.
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But even if everything does seem to work
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out for you on the surface, like you
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have a job, you have a partner, if
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you're planning for the future, how do
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you afford everything? Housing prices,
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like I mentioned earlier, are going
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insane. The cost of food is rising. I
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show this picture all the time, but I've
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seen eggs that are selling for like $18
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at my local grocery store. In all this
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time, wages are barely budging. It's not
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like wages are increasing so much to
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make up for it. Most young adults today
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just will never be able to match the
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buying power of their parents. And
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meanwhile, every aspect of life is being
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turned into a payment plan right in
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front of our eyes. You don't buy a car
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anymore. You lease it. You don't buy a
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service anymore. You have to subscribe
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to it. Even when I go on Amazon, which
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is supposed to be for like one-time
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purchases, I see all these options for
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like subscribe and save where they
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deliver that thing like every few weeks
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or something. You're being conditioned
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to normalize renting out your life, but
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there's no alternative, so you keep on
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paying. The system is rigged for
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dependency and and those big companies
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just make more and more money off of
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you. It's not like I can just use a flip
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phone instead of an iPhone. And the
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looming threat of all this is that
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especially in country like America, a
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single emergency like a like a medical
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bill, it can set you back months, even
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years in some cases. So for many people,
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the idea of saving up for wealth, it
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feels like a joke. No matter how well
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off you are, if you're not in like the
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0.1% of earners, you're essentially in
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survival mode. And when you're in
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survival mode, it's hard to find actual
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joy and achieve your true potential and
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everything. No time for passion, no time
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for a dream, just time to go to work and
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scroll on social media.
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I feel like I've been all over the place
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in this video, but the bottom line I'm
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trying to get across is that the things
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that used to give people a sense of
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happiness, like community, connection,
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stability, family, purpose, raising a
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child, those things are no longer
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guaranteed to us, and it's not even
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close to that, honestly. And the system
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didn't give us anything meaningful to
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replace those things with. Instead, it
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gave us screens. It gave us social
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media. It gave us hustle culture. It
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gave us endless content and dopamine
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hits. Every app you use is designed to
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keep you distracted. Even the news cycle
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is meant to keep you scared. I go on
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YouTube and a lot of my YouTube feed
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nowadays is just bombarded with what's
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going on in in the world when it's not
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like I search for that in the first
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place. The content machine is engineered
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to keep you scared. And when you're
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scared, you're more likely to listen to
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what the powers that be tell you. It
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seems like we're being kept stimulated
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just enough to never question why we're
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unhappy. And when we do it, we're told
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that we're the problem. That we're lazy
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or entitled or not trying hard enough or
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just too negative. But that's not the
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truth. The truth is that Gen Z or
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whatever you want to call it, we're
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still trying. It's not like an entire
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generation of people just got lazy
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overnight all of a sudden. Some might
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say we're trying harder than any
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generation before us. At least on the
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mental side of things, but we're getting
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less in return. The game has changed,
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the ship has sailed, and the rules are
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different than what it used to be. And
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if you've ever personally felt like
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you're not built for this world,
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something just feels off, I just want to
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say that it's it's probably not you.
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Stop blaming yourself. You're
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conditioned to want to blame yourself,
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but it's not always your
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fault. In the end, there's no perfect
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answer. But if modern life is designed
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to break us, then the only way forward
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is to stop letting it. And by that, I
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mean to try to at least build something
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different. Why play by the rules of a
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game that's rigged against you to begin
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with? Maybe it's not the right time to
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just sit back and accept the hand that
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was dealt to you. Maybe it's time to
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fight back, but in your own way because
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maybe the solution isn't to play a
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broken game harder. Maybe it's to build
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a new game. And that's what I'm trying
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to do for myself. If you've watched till
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here, I can share some stuff about my
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personal
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worldview. Over the course of my life,
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I've been hurt to the point where I've
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accepted the fact that I will never be
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able to live the life that I used to
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imagine. I'm someone who's not built to
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succeed in this modern world. I'm
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extremely short and I'm not attractive
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in a world that prioritizes your
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superficial features. My mind works very
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differently than a lot of people. Like,
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I'm neurode divergent. I've never fit
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in. I've never been successful with
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girls. I've always felt like an outcast.
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I was a good student until I wasn't and
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started to really struggle with that to
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the point where my stress and anxiety
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over school made me physically sick. I'm
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also just not the type of person who
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does well in very structured
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environments like an office. I feel like
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almost everything in my life has sort of
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set me up for failure and all of that
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again just means that I'm not the type
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of person who can succeed trying to live
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a normal life in this world. But maybe
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that's okay because the result of all
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that is that I've stopped comparing
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myself to other people. I've stopped
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chasing what I'm supposed to want
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because I feel like I can see through
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the the trap of it all. And instead, I'm
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focused on building something that feels
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right for me, no matter what other
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people think. Because them. I'm not
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going to succeed in their world anyways.
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So, I might as well try to succeed in my
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own. Because if you're also like me, if
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you also feel like the world is broke in
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some way, or if you just don't fit in,
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maybe the solution isn't to play the
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rigged game harder. It's to build a new
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game for yourself. That doesn't mean
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it's easy. But if you're doing that or
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at least trying trying to find a way to
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exist in this world without losing
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yourself completely and kind of are able
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to see the things going on around you
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for what they are at least, then I think
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you're doing better than you realize.
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You're not broken. You're just awake.
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Was that a hard quote to end it? I like
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that. Anyway, if you uh enjoyed this
00:15:42
video, if you felt like you connected
00:15:44
with this message in some way, or if my
00:15:46
videos on this channel have ever helped
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you, I'd really appreciate if you'd
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consider joining me over on Patreon or
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my channel memberships. I'm really
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trying to build something with this
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happen so that I can continue making
00:15:58
videos long term and speaking about
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these kinds of issues, then your support
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would be greatly appreciated. And also
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check out my second channel where I post
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travel and hiking stuff. Really cool
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videos on there. and I'll have new ones
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out soon. And uh whatever you're going
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through in life, just keep fighting.
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Just keep fighting.
