The REAL Reason Guys Stare But Don’t Approach You! | (No, it’s not because he’s scared)

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Summary

TLDRIn this discussion, the speaker addresses the common misconception that men who look at women but do not approach them are simply afraid. He explains that many factors contribute to this behavior, including respect for existing relationships, misinterpretation of body language, and a cultural shift where some men prefer women to initiate contact. The speaker highlights the importance of body language, noting that a woman's demeanor can signal whether she is open to being approached. He encourages women to use eye contact and smiles to indicate their interest, suggesting that this can help bridge the gap between looking and approaching.

Takeaways

  • 👀 Men may look but not approach due to respect for relationships.
  • 😐 'Resting face' can signal disinterest to men.
  • 🚫 Fear is not the main reason men avoid approaching women.
  • 💬 Body language plays a crucial role in attraction.
  • 👩‍❤️‍👨 Some men prefer women to initiate contact.
  • 👁️ Eye contact can encourage men to approach.
  • 😊 A smile can signal interest to a man.
  • ⏳ Women can use playful looks to prompt a man to act.
  • 🤔 Misinterpretation of signals can lead to missed connections.
  • 💔 Anticipation of rejection affects men's decisions.

Timeline

  • 00:00:00 - 00:04:07

    The speaker addresses the misconception that men who look at women but don't approach them are simply afraid. He clarifies that this isn't necessarily true, even for decent men with confidence. Instead, there are various reasons for this behavior, such as being in a relationship, wanting to respect boundaries, or being part of a new generation of men who prefer women to pursue them. He emphasizes that decent men often expect rejection based on a woman's body language, which can signal disinterest. If a man makes eye contact but perceives negative signals, he may choose not to approach to avoid wasting time. The speaker also notes that women can unintentionally give off signals that discourage men from approaching, and he suggests ways for women to indicate interest if they want a man to make a move.

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Video Q&A

  • Why do some men stare but not approach?

    It's often due to misreading body language or respect for relationships, not fear.

  • What does 'resting face' mean in this context?

    It refers to a woman's neutral expression that may signal disinterest or unapproachability.

  • How can women signal interest to men?

    Women can make eye contact and smile or give a playful look to encourage men to approach.

  • Is fear the main reason men don't approach women?

    No, many men expect rejection based on the woman's body language.

  • What should a woman do if she wants a man to approach her?

    She can give inviting looks or smiles to indicate her interest.

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    team Jackson what's happening so y'all
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    keep asking me man to explain why I do
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    look at you maybe even stare at you but
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    not make a move and I'm gonna tell you
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    why because a lot of y'all's are under
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    the misconception that has something to
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    do with fear it's because he's scared
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    that's not true you know we even if we
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    talking about decent dude a good guy
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    with plenty of heart and confidence it
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    ain't because of fear now if you're
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    talking about the absolute worst of guys
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    and yeah that may be one of them and
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    even then I think there are other
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    reasons that maybe come before that like
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    you know he's married or he's taken so
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    he could look but not touch so he's just
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    gonna admire from a distance you know
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    cuz he trying to half way at least
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    respect his relationship which is a cool
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    thing to do or because he's one of those
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    creeps when it was straight-up weirdos
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    type that will smell your hair and when
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    a snow your panties and print pictures
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    of you from Instagram out and put them
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    on his mirror and do things to himself
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    because uh like he could be one of those
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    or it could be a part of this new flock
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    of guys it's new generation of guys that
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    says you know what I want a woman to
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    come and chase me a woman should be
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    trying to court me and pursue me cuz it
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    hits mine a woman gets hollered at like
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    10 to 15 times a day so if you get an
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    eyeful of him and you just can't stand
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    you'll see you just must come and say
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    something oh let me hear the [ __ ] that
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    means you're gonna be easy work now if
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    we're talking about decent guys right a
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    decent guy well look at you but not
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    coming holla truth not because he's
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    fearful of you or scared of rejection
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    but because he expects rejection based
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    on your body language huge difference
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    because in a mind of the average man
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    right he's looking at the situation sees
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    a girl he thinks this attractive woman
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    or whatever and he says to himself I'm
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    aware sometimes they don't want to be
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    bothered I'm aware that she could be
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    having a bad day or that she could just
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    be taken so let me make sure I can
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    verify that I'm on her radar and once I
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    do once we make that eye contact I'll go
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    based on her body language now if he
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    gets the wrong signal from you like if
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    he gets what I call resting [ __ ]
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    from you
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    our be face and figures that from you it
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    could be a Miss read on his part or it
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    could be something that you chronically
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    suffer from he and go make no move
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    because our be face basically says that
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    you're not in the mood to be bothering
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    and if you get bothered you're gonna
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    embarrass whoever it is they did it to
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    you
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    because women with our be face don't
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    tend to reject people quietly and
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    silently they tend to make everybody
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    around them aware that they do not feel
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    like hearing from your laughs and you
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    should have known better now like I said
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    some women suffer from this chronically
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    you just have it in this sometimes it's
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    situational like it may be just that
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    time of your day it may be because of
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    that time of the month it may be because
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    you was on Twitter or Instagram and
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    you're a barb & cardi B them said some
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    oh [ __ ] or you looked at your email and
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    navient is thank you for that automatic
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    payment on your student loans when you
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    didn't really want to make that
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    automatic payment they took it from your
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    ass it could be for a number of reasons
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    however you want to put it if a do look
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    at you right he make eye contact with
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    you and then what he gets back from you
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    is he's not coming to holla at you man
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    he's not gonna do it or if he looks at
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    you he makes eye contact and he gets to
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    he's not gonna come a howl at you that's
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    just what it is it's not fear it's a you
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    know what let me not waste both our
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    times I'm going about my day she's still
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    fine cuz you rejecting him to stop you
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    from being sexy as hell but let me go
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    ahead and go on about my date I don't
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    need those problems now if you are in
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    the mood to be Holly that bye dude
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    you're single you ready to mingle and
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    you want to kind of open that door from
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    a distance my favorite two ways to do it
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    is instead of giving him the what the
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    [ __ ] are you looking at eyes the one I
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    did earlier to give him them okay you
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    gonna look at me all day or are you
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    gonna come and actually ask me for my
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    number and name which is done that's
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    that's that's one of my favorites now
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    the other one the other one would be the
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    we ain't gon do this all day your time
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    is running out so if you're gonna make a
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    move you better hurry eyes we chose to
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    look at him and it's loaded look away
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    but kind of grin like like I
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    [ __ ] you better hurry up but
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    however you want to put it man the point
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    that I was making is if a guy doesn't
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    come a holla true but he's gonna lookin
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    at you or he continues to look at you
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    nine times out of ten it him because
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    he's fearful
Tags
  • relationships
  • body language
  • dating
  • men's behavior
  • women's behavior
  • communication
  • social dynamics
  • confidence
  • misconceptions
  • attraction