What is Black Cat Energy?

Black Cat Energy is the dynamic where one person in a relationship embodies traits of being elusive and desired, akin to a cat, while the other is the pursuer.

Why is it called Black Cat Energy?

It's inspired by the behavior of black cats and how they are chased, similar to how one person should be in demand in a relationship.

What happens if you're mothering your partner?

Mothering your partner diminishes the feminine energy, as it's forward-moving and instructional, which can feel masculine.

Can you be a Black Cat if married for long?

Yes, being a Black Cat is about maintaining an aura of being pursued, it's not hindered by marital status.

How to avoid being the chaser in a relationship?

Focus on whether you like the other person rather than worrying if they like you, maintaining self-assurance.

What does a dismissive avoidant attachment style mean?

It refers to individuals who, due to past experiences, tend to avoid closeness and are often emotionally aloof.

How can Black Cat Energy apply to social media?

By not seeking validation or trying to attract attention; post genuinely without concern for impressions.

Can Black Cat Energy be applied to all men?

Yes, it works across cultures as it revolves around the concept of individuals enjoying the pursuit.

Black Cat Energy: How to Have Him Chase You.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IHzqIhH4L7A

Summary

TLDRBlack Cat Energy refers to a relationship dynamic where one person assumes the role of being pursued, akin to the behavior of a black cat. This concept suggests that women, who embody this energy, enjoy being chased and allow men to fulfill their instinct to pursue and achieve. The video stresses the importance of maintaining this energy by avoiding mothering one's partner, which can kill feminine energy. Mothering involves over-caring behaviors that can squash the chase dynamic by making one seem controlling. The speaker draws upon TikTok references and gives advice on maintaining individuality and self-worth within relationships, suggesting a rebranding process if one currently possesses the opposite energy. Additionally, Black Cat Energy can be adapted to different situations, such as interactions on social media or dealing with varying attachment styles, like dismissive avoidant partners. Throughout the video, there is an emphasis on self-assurance, independence, and self-appreciation to sustain this energy.

Takeaways

🐾 Black Cat Energy involves being the pursued in a relationship similar to a cat being chased.
💪 Preserve feminine energy by avoiding mothering behaviors in a relationship.
✔️ Focus on whether you like them, not if they like you.
🙅‍♀️ Black Cat Energy works similarly with men across different cultures.
🕵️‍♀️ Avoid the need for validation in social media interactions.
⚖️ Understand personal attachment styles to navigate relationships better.
🌟 Cultivate self-assurance and independence to radiate Black Cat Energy.
⏳ Don't control; let relationships progress naturally to maintain interest.
🔄 Rebrand oneself to shift from being chaser to chased.
📚 Embrace individuality and self-worth in any relationship dynamic.

Timeline

00:00:00 - 00:05:00
The speaker introduces the concept of 'Black Cat Energy,' emphasizing the dynamic of being pursued in a relationship rather than being the pursuer. Drawing a metaphor from black cats being chased and golden retrievers being chasers, the importance of letting the masculine pursue and not taking a mothering role in a relationship is highlighted.
00:05:00 - 00:10:00
A discussion about maintaining 'Black Cat Energy' within long-term relationships, emphasizing not trying to control a partner and letting them prove their worth. It also addresses challenges when dealing with dismissive avoidant partners, suggesting staying secure in oneself and not being drawn into chasing them, which diminishes the allure of 'Black Cat Energy.'
00:10:00 - 00:15:00
Exploration of strategic emotional dynamics, emphasizing maintaining self-worth and not vying for attention from unreciprocated romantic interests. Guidance suggests focusing on self-rebranding and emotional independence to transition from 'golden retriever' to 'Black Cat Energy,' and the inward transformation required within oneself rather than seeking external validation.
00:15:00 - 00:20:00
Examines dynamics around emotion management in relationships, encouraging respondents to maintain personal standards and not prioritize others’ interactions with potential romantic rivals. The strategy includes maintaining a sense of self-worth and letting relationships develop naturally without direct confrontation, highlighting the role of self-assuredness and confidence.
00:20:00 - 00:29:27
The conclusion wraps up practical applications of 'Black Cat Energy,' focusing on emotional independence and strategic relationships. It includes sponsorship advertisements targeting needs for mental well-being, cookware, and other products to support personal growth and health, reinforcing the idea that self-reliance and personal value are core to achieving 'Black Cat Energy.'

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Frequently Asked Question

What is Black Cat Energy?
Black Cat Energy is the dynamic where one person in a relationship embodies traits of being elusive and desired, akin to a cat, while the other is the pursuer.
Why is it called Black Cat Energy?
It's inspired by the behavior of black cats and how they are chased, similar to how one person should be in demand in a relationship.
What happens if you're mothering your partner?
Mothering your partner diminishes the feminine energy, as it's forward-moving and instructional, which can feel masculine.
Can you be a Black Cat if married for long?
Yes, being a Black Cat is about maintaining an aura of being pursued, it's not hindered by marital status.
How to avoid being the chaser in a relationship?
Focus on whether you like the other person rather than worrying if they like you, maintaining self-assurance.
What does a dismissive avoidant attachment style mean?
It refers to individuals who, due to past experiences, tend to avoid closeness and are often emotionally aloof.
How can Black Cat Energy apply to social media?
By not seeking validation or trying to attract attention; post genuinely without concern for impressions.
Can Black Cat Energy be applied to all men?
Yes, it works across cultures as it revolves around the concept of individuals enjoying the pursuit.

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you want to talk some more about black
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cat energy do you while you're in luck
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because I am here today to talk to you
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about black cat energy what is black cat
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energy what is black cat energy
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Margarita what is black cat energy all
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these questions all these questions it's
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okay I got you if you want him to be
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chasing you if you want to be the one in
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demand if you don't want to be the one
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who's trying to orchestrate the
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relationship because let's let's get
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this straight right now let's get this
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straight before we get it twisted if
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it's your project that the relationship
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is then it is you who is in the driver's
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seat then it is you who's always the one
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pushing then it is you who's always
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trying to create the connection then it
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is you who's writing to Margarita asking
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I don't know why he doesn't buy me
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flowers for anniversaries then it is you
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contacting me contacting your friends
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contacting your dog contacting your cat
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asking why he does not care so what
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we're going to do is we're going to
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deploy a little bit of black cat energy
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the reason it is called Black Cat energy
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and first I found this kind of rhetoric
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on Tik Tok is there is a black cat in a
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relationship and then that is being
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chased and then there is a golden
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retriever the one who chases and in the
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best case scenario you want to be the
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black cat why the female the feminine is
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better in the black cat role because we
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enjoy being chased we enjoy biologically
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being the ones who
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are one over if woman has to win over a
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man and he's the Black Cat and you are
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the golden retriever both of you are
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going to feel very sad indeed why are
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you going to feel sad why why why
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because he's going to feel like he's not
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winning the prize the masculine is to
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drive forward and to achieve so if he's
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the Black Cat and you're the golden
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retriever always winning him over always
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trying to please him he's going to feel
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intrinsically not in his masculine and
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he is going to not feel fulfilled he
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wants to be the golden retriever let him
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chase you and for every golden retriever
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there is a black cat so you might not be
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the black cat for his golden retriever
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but you will be the black cat for
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somebody Okay the reason I wanted to
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make this video is because you guys
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still have questions about what it is to
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be the black cat and how to be and how
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to do it okay and I want to delve into
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those questions I want to get connected
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about this whole energetic shift and you
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might not call it a black cat you might
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call it being her like the podcast is
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called you might call it being that girl
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that whatever you want to call it
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let's talk about it how to stay the
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black cat if you're married 16 years
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together the black oh the phone fell oh
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my gosh it's getting serious the black
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cat doesn't stop being the black cat
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because the black cat is married the
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black cat loves to be married the black
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cat loves to be married
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because that golden retriever is
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intrinsically there to worship her and
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support her the thing that kills the
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black cat energy the most in a
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relationship is I think what you're
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asking me how do you maintain that kind
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of quintessential feminine chase me look
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after me serve me energy and it is like
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this we often fall into the mothering
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role in a relationship what is mothering
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Margarita very simple you fulfill the
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role of a mother for him did you take
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your tablets sweetie what are you going
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to have for lunch today do you remember
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to flush the toilet after yourself why
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can't you do this you look after him
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essentially like you would a
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child this kills your feminine energy
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dram
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atically I know it's counterintuitive to
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believe and say but mothering energy is
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very forward moving very instructional
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in terms of like looking after your
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child and that can be very masculine I
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know that's a counterproductive thing to
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kind of say counterintuitive thing to
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say sorry that mothering is masculine
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I'm not saying mothering is a masculine
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role what I'm saying is energetically
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you have to think a lot in the modern
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world what are we going to do where's
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the cookies are they organic are they
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holistic are we going to put them in the
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pack are we going to bring water what
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are we drinking all that stuff is very
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not with the flow and masculine energy
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okay if you start treating your man like
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a Pampered poodle as opposed to the
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golden retriever or the terrier or
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whatever dog you like that's serving you
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that is going to push him into a black
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cat energy because now he's getting
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pampered if you're mothering him you are
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going to pamper him resist restrain
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refrain from looking after him like that
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nurturing and being an amazing wife and
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cooking him a meal is not mothering
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mothering
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for example you don't mother your friend
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your friend comes over you do something
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really nice for her I really go into it
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in my book if you haven't read it or
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haven't listened to it on Audible I
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suggest you do there's a chapter on
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mothering your man don't do it you can
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look after your friend in a really nice
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way like you can offer her a nice drink
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when she comes over you can even cook
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her a meal but you don't mother her you
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don't say um what time are you getting
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up for work have you set your alarm let
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the man live he lived for 35 years
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before he met you he can live for 35
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years again without having you you've
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been together for 16 years it's your
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role to be always developing and be an
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enigma the way to be a black cat in a
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marriage is to not try and control your
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partner black cats don't give a flying F
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what you do okay you do you and I will
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sit on my Black Cat pedest stool and
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judge whether you're good enough for me
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yes even in a marriage even if you are
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going to be together forever I'm still
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going to judge what you do and see if I
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want to be with you make him feel that
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way that you're always seeing you're
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always deciding you're always choosing
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him every day you are choosing him okay
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next question how to have black hair
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energy with dismissive avoidance well
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baby you're trying to out black cat a
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black cat dismissive avoidant people
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have a very black cat aloof energy in
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terms of the fact that they are
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somewhere from childhood they decided
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that the way they're going to deal with
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this world and be in this world is by
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acting like the other people can't meet
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their needs some people are secure let's
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say 50% of people are secure that means
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they can be attached to other people
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that means they like interpersonal
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relationships that means they like to
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get to rely on other people and other
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people rely on them and then there's the
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other 50% of us who are either 25% let's
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just say for argument sake anxiously
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attached that means love me love me why
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don't you love me oh oh you said
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something wrong did I do that thing
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wrong oh how can I please you how can I
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please you Goden retriever that was me
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hi everyone that was used to be me and
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then there's the avoidance which are
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well I so didn't get my needs meant when
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I was a child I so much didn't get that
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fulfilled that I'm just going to I've
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got my own back I got me so with
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avoidant man and many men are avoidant
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because they were taught in modern world
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that they can't rely on anyone or stiff
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up a lip or you're a boy don't cry it's
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hard to be a black cat with a man who's
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dismissive avoidant is the question
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because he is intrinsically dismissing
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you and if you are attracted to that
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behavior you're most likely anxious why
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because if a person is dismissive and
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avoidant and you're secure after dating
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them a couple of times and them not
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replying to you them dismissing you the
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word dismiss you reaching out and
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they're dismissing you're going to lose
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interest a secure person loses interest
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from a dismissive person because it's
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not interesting to you it's not you it's
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me I I I don't I'm not mad I'm just a
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little bit bored which is what I
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recommend to do if you've got a
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dismissive avoidant be bored of that
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behavior don't be triggered because they
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rely on the fact that you're going to be
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triggered by their behavior and chase
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them even more they're used to the fact
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that they got their own back they don't
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chase you so you end up chasing them to
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close the gap and they're like God
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everyone's just trying to engulf me
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everyone's just trying to eat up my time
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and space it's like a self-fulfilling
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prophecy the anxious person chases and
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everyone runs away from them so they're
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like God nobody ever wants to stay and
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everyone's running away from me whilst
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the dismissive is like oh God everyone's
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trying to trap me everyone's trying to
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engulf me cuz cuz you're not leaning
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into the relationship my friend you're
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not leaning into the relationship so of
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course going to look like everyone's
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chasing you they're actually not okay
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they're just trying to have a
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relationship with you uh I have uh how
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to deal with the dismissive avoidant if
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you s to choose to have them as your
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partner on my YouTube channel type my
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name type avoidant and you will find it
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if you want to be a black cat with a
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dismissive avoidant your only hope is to
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remain in the black cat energy a black
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cat is very very secure in the female
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sense she doesn't try and please him run
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after him anything essentially if you
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have an avoidant and you're going to be
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a black cat about it you might not
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sustain the relationship with them
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because you're going to be like I don't
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need this my black cat likes to be
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woried why do I need this avoidant who
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I'm chasing
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yuck does this actually work with Aussie
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men they're so low effort I feel like
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they wouldn't care does black cat energy
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work with Aussie men black cat energy
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works with Aussie American Australian I
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just said Australian left right and
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Center it works with men because men
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like to achieve and black cat doesn't
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mean run away it doesn't mean dismissive
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it means you do you I'm going to do me I
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know how to make myself happy I'm the
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one who's choosing you and if you don't
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impress me that I'm not impressed like
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black a energy is also not controlling
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energy and modern man would eat that up
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if you screw up is the question how do
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you own it without losing your black ha
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energy and dealing with anxiety if you
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screw up this is how a black cat would
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screw up a black cat is secure okay it
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means that you're you're really into
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your journey and what you want to do if
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you screw up be an adult about it I'm
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really sorry I was um really dismissive
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of you that time I should have listened
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to you better and I'm sorry I was late
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for that date how can I make it up to
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you and then move on don't try and
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grovel don't try and you know all these
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Maneuvers with with the feeling sorry
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for yourself and feeling sorry for him a
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black her energy if you've done
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something wrong just apologize and be an
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adult about it how about me is the
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question black cat Queen attracting a
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specific man I won't stop until it's
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him okay let me see you you do look like
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a queen okay yeah yeah yeah you are you
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are very beautiful the queendom equates
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to Beauty but if you won't stop until
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it's him you're very much in the
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masculine driving seat which is fine you
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know 10% of women are in their masculine
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you got to ask if this man is in his
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feminine and some men are the creative t
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types the kind of types that you know
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like to be pursued are you happy being
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in the driver's seat are you happy being
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the pursuer so maybe if you want to be
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the pursuer you are going to be the one
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wooing him are you happy with that is
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that what you want me I don't want that
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in my life I like to be in the feminine
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because it makes me feel quite like
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jokes aside it makes me feel quite
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secure in my life it makes me feel like
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I'm in a place I want to be in if you
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won't stop until it's him then you're
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very much in the driver's seat and
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that's okay if you're willing to chase
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him and him be the Chase and if he
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enjoys that but if not and you want to
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be in your feminine then you can only
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live your life putting your best foot
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forward and living your life as your
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best self and if you are his dream goal
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he will chase you and if you're not his
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dream girl then it's going to be a very
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hard
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cell how to change being a black cat if
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I've been the golden retriever so far in
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my relationship help let me see your
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face you are stunning black cat
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honey you need to sit down with yourself
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you need to look at my content like
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Rebrand yourself you need to pick a day
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and I love to do this kind of thing like
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new year or your birthday my birthday is
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coming up in September for example
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nobody asked me okay thanks Margarita
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for that information something that is
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going to pivotally change you I find
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anchors are really useful like dates or
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ideas or numbers whatever is going to
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Mark the change for you some people
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really do well with as of tomorrow and
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that's it no ifs ands or butts but you
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need to Rebrand yourself last week's
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podcast or YouTube video depends where
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you consume the content was about
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rebranding you need to actively decide
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to Rebrand yourself and not identify
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with your past self not by no means do
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you come up to the man that you want to
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be your golden retriever and say I've
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decided to change I'm now black cat
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you're going to Chas me that's something
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a golden retriever would say it's an
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internal process you're going to do it
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yourself for yourself and it's an
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internal thing that you need to emulate
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and do you need to pick a date to start
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it from you need to Rebrand yourself you
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need to write it in your diary and you
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need to act like the new you you need to
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have an avatar of the new you that you
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are acting like the old you is gone and
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now this is the new there's no apologies
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there's no announcements never complain
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never explain please as I said I need to
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reiterate it twice because I don't think
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you understood you in the back I don't
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think you heard me do not announce it to
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people I'm now different
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please it's
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ridiculous next question how do you
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embody being chased rather than being
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the Chaser every element in your being
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when it's to do with someone else needs
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to be with do I like them enough not do
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they like me that is it that is the
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quintessential difference of being
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chased versus being the Chaser how do I
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do I like them how much do I like them
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what do they represent to me as opposed
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to do they like me they like me enough
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are they really really into me it
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shouldn't be about them it should be
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about you next question how do you not
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get bothered by other women you know
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he's talking to and
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liking I think um naturally I'm not
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going to lie you will get bothered
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inside your soul in the solar plexus you
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know like in your innards you'll get
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bothered but I want to implore this
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thing to you black cats they plan they
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think they're smart you know a cat is
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smart a golden retriever just says what
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they think a cat is smart yeah so if you
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were one to embody that energy of being
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chased and of that smart person you need
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to understand that if there are other
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women in his life you're just in the
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dating stages I assume this is what the
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question is yeah you're in the dating
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stages so this isn't like your husband
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liking other women in which case is
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ridiculous but you're just in the dating
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stages you're not official with him he
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is talking to other women maybe he's not
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the more attention you give those other
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women the more you're denoting to him
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that those women are important I have
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seen the most mediocre women not give
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attention to other women that the by
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mediocre don't even mean this in a
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condescending way I mean if you looked
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at them you wouldn't be that kind of
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girl you're like oh my God I want to be
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her she's just a normal girl she's you
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or me yeah she's normal men worship the
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ground that they walk on because they
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have a confidence of knowing that there
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is no one like them so much so that you
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start to believe it you're looking at
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this girl and you're like oh my God
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she's literally everything you don't
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know why when you first saw her you
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didn't think so we as human beings are
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really attracted to self assuredness and
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lack of questioning and instability
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because everybody in their call wants
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that we want to be closer to someone who
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embodies that we want to lean into them
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we want to drink up that energy so if
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you can sell that even if you're not the
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prettiest dime in the coin drawer I
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don't know even if you're not the ripest
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Cherry there is going people will lap it
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up if you can sell that energy so if you
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go oh you're talking to other girls are
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you or what are they like I don't care
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yeah I don't care yeah straight away
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you're letting him know that they are a
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competition to you he might even test
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you he might be like oh yeah I was
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talking to Rebecca and if you're like oh
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my God I love you know what I love I
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love forest green I was looking at
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Forest Green pain and I really prefer or
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like mint like what do you think which
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one's better for my office he'd be like
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what did what just happened I just told
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her about Rebecca and she didn't even
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hear me properly and she's talking about
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what color to paint her office like
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something so benign and then you be like
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did you hear me I was saying I was like
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talking to Rebecca you know like a
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mutual friend and you be like oh yeah
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yeah yeah oh cool yeah that's nice yeah
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yeah is she is she right so don't ignore
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it too much but don't acknowledge it too
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much they're not a competition to you
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they're nothing to you how you position
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yourself imagine this do you think do
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you think the queen cares about the
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shenanigans going on around her she
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doesn't care because she knows what
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she's got she knows her Worth to to the
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end
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degree if you go around asking what he
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thinks about them if they're prettier
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than you if their hair is fluffier than
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yours or straighter than yours you've
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lost because you said I care about them
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they're a competition to me next when
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does leaving space turn into silent
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treatment over
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text leaving space is when you can
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energetically in a good way leave space
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as in he's not really asked anything
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he's not really contributed in any kind
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of strong way to the conversation and
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you're with your friends or you're
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shopping and you're carrying bags and
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right now is just not the best time to
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text him but it's all good and you're in
00:17:00
good energy that is leaving space silent
00:17:03
treatment is he didn't contact me and
00:17:05
now I'm not going to contact him if you
00:17:08
feel that way then you're doing the
00:17:09
silent treatment if you're in a feeling
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of just like giving it space because you
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can't be rushing to reply to everyone
00:17:16
all the time the black cat is busy then
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that is a good thing however he if he's
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hurt your feelings the black cat also
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understands she's not at the beck and
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call of people who've hurt her feelings
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so if he's not replyed to you for 5 days
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and now he's expecting a
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reply you're not replying to him because
00:17:32
you're now not in the mood a black cat
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is very much I feel I do I don't feel
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like texting you I don't feel like
00:17:37
texting people who don't text me go away
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how to know when to implement gentleness
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compassion and bitchiness gentleness
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compassion and bitchiness is going to
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definitely be the next title of my book
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gentleness compassion and bitchiness I
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love that that is all very black cat
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energy gentleness because you're gentle
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on yourself you're gentle on others
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people make mistakes you're fine with
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that you make mistakes you're
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compassionate you understand people like
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I love that about you love that love
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this and you're a little bit of a
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I don't want to see you now because
00:18:07
you've hurt me okay cool implement it
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all the time how to be your feminine
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when you're super independent and live
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alone man I really delve into this in my
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course become her if you're on it hi if
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you're not on it maybe I'll run it again
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I don't know but sign up on my website
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to for the weight list cuz I only run it
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maybe once a year or twice it's when you
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have to look after yourself you have to
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split yourself into two identities the
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masculine the driving looking after and
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The Feminine and you have to really feed
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the feminine it's like the Wolves you
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feed the two wolves you feed are the
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ones that are going to grow you have to
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feed your feminine in different ways um
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by cultivating uh things you love to do
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by cultivating your desires by
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cultivating your likes by cultivating
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your sensuality all in the course and in
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my book and feminine energy principles
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all on the website go delve into it it's
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really really interesting oh and I have
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a substack all this stuff that you could
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delve into if you care enough to do so
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and get on this journey of feminine
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energy but essentially as a man you only
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need one briefcase of tools the
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masculine to thrive in life because why
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the masculine tools of success
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Independence Drive achievement is going
00:19:12
to both win you a career and it's going
00:19:16
to both win you a woman because women
00:19:18
lap that up as a woman we need two
00:19:21
briefcases in the modern world the
00:19:23
masculine that ises look after myself
00:19:25
I'm independent if I need to be I've got
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my back I've got my job I've got my
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money sorted and briefcase number two
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feminine flow wisdom black cat meow that
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one is going to win you the
00:19:38
relationships and The Feminine energy
00:19:40
success in life you can't have one or
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the other because it won't work we have
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to have more Tools in life than men do
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how do apply black cat energy on social
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media and they follow us black cat
00:19:51
energy on social media means you're not
00:19:53
posting energetically anything to try
00:19:54
and attract his attention that is
00:19:56
basically what I'm going to say you're
00:19:58
using how you like you're doing what you
00:20:00
want you don't give a flying fluff about
00:20:02
what he wants a tiny rat's ass about
00:20:05
what he wants and you just doing what
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you want because you're a black cat I
00:20:09
have a crush who doesn't like me but
00:20:10
whenever he wants to have sex I can't
00:20:12
avoid it what should I do what do you
00:20:14
mean you can't avoid it do we need to
00:20:16
call the police what do you mean you
00:20:17
can't avoid it whenever he wants to
00:20:20
whenever he wants to he doesn't like you
00:20:22
whenever he wants to you kind avoid it
00:20:25
not you can't avoid it is you haven't
00:20:28
haven't got value I'm sorry to say baby
00:20:30
but you don't have self value if you
00:20:32
can't avoid it what does he come to your
00:20:34
house stand at your door and demand it
00:20:36
and I don't understand so a man doesn't
00:20:38
want you and you know it yet you're
00:20:40
willing to do that because you know one
00:20:41
day a man's going to come along who does
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value you but you're going to be tied up
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in this situation doing these things for
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a man who doesn't value you it's a
00:20:52
self-worth question not an avoidant of
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him question what do I do if two guys
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are talking to me and putting in effort
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at the same time you get a book you
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like and the first one that asks you to
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their partner they're just dating you
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they're wooing you you hopefully aren't
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sleeping with them so you don't owe them
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you want to
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