How To Tell If an INTJ Likes You

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Summary

TLDRThe video provides insights into recognizing signals when an INTJ personality type is interested in you. It humorously guides viewers through understanding the INTJ behavior by discussing their cognitive functions and the challenges they face in social interactions. The speaker outlines three main phases of interest: proximity, consistency, and vulnerability. Proximity focuses on how INTJs find reasons to be around the person they like, often through perceived coincidences. Consistency refers to their efforts in helping or complimenting the person frequently. Vulnerability is the peak of their interest, shown through emotional openness and a playful demeanor. The speaker emphasizes that INTJs usually do not make the first move in romantic contexts and are initially very analytical of their potential partners.

Takeaways

  • 👀 INTJs subtly show interest through proximity by finding reasons to be near you.
  • 🔄 Consistency in actions, like regular compliments, suggests deeper interest.
  • 💬 Personal questions out of context indicate you are on their mind.
  • 🤝 INTJs show care by making your life easier with tangible actions.
  • 💡 Vulnerability with shared personal stories reveals a special bond.
  • 😳 INTJs can be shy and avoid direct attention in social settings.
  • 🎭 They may ignore their crush at gatherings while behaving differently.
  • 😺 Like cats, INTJs allow physical closeness only when comfortable.
  • 🕵️‍♀️ They analyze and learn about you subtly, often without showing it.
  • 💌 A direct confession of interest or increased frequency of invites indicates significant interest.

Timeline

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    The video begins with the speaker humorously addressing inquiries about how to tell if an INTJ is interested in someone. They humorously disclaim being a love guru, comparing themselves to the matchmaking lady from Mulan. The speaker then explains that they are making this video not for the person interested in an INTJ but for the INTJs themselves, as many of them might excel in relationships but hesitate to make the first move. They touch upon the importance of understanding cognitive functions for Myers-Briggs personalities and caution that INTJs analyze others intensely without showing their methods. The video will discuss how INTJs demonstrate interest through proximity, consistency, and vulnerability.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    In the second section, the speaker explains that when an INTJ is interested, they seek proximity by finding ways to be around the person they like. They highlight that INTJs might seem out of character while trying to set up such encounters and may do so in cleverly masked ways, like offering an extra ticket to an event or suggesting a spontaneous hangout. At social gatherings, an INTJ may show up just because the person they are interested in is attending, despite preferring solitude. However, the INTJ will likely remain distant at first to avoid being obvious. Instead, they subtly increase their presence, perhaps being louder or more engaging from a distance. Consistency is emphasized as a distinguishing factor between platonic and romantic interest.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:15:41

    The final section delves into vulnerability, marking the clearest sign an INTJ is interested. Once someone passes the proximity and consistency stages, the INTJ may express their interest directly. Being vulnerable could include sharing personal stories, engaging playfully, or even becoming more physically affectionate, akin to a cat's selective comfort with touch. They might flirt in a subtle, challenging manner and start integrating the person into personal plans, revealing hidden aspects of their life and preferences. This stage confirms that the INTJ trusts and wants to be closer to the individual, fully opening up their world to them. The speaker wraps up by appreciating the audience and noting their endeavors in refining the video's content.

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Video Q&A

  • How does the speaker use humor in the video?

    The speaker uses humor by presenting the information in a playful and exaggerated manner, comparing themselves to the matchmaking lady from Mulan and using several humorous scenarios.

  • What are the main sections covered in the video?

    The three main sections are proximity, consistency, and vulnerability.

  • How might an INTJ demonstrate interest in someone according to the video?

    INTJs may show interest by consistently making efforts to be near the person they like, engaging in small talks, and asking personal questions.

  • What role does vulnerability play in identifying an INTJ's interest?

    Vulnerability is when an INTJ opens up emotionally and becomes playful, which is a significant indicator of their interest.

  • How does the video describe an INTJ's personality?

    INTJs are described as shy, analytical, and often appearing distant unless they're around someone they're interested in.

  • Do INTJs typically make the first move in relationships?

    INTJs often do not make the first move in romantic situations.

  • What does proximity imply in the context of the video?

    Proximity relates to how INTJs find reasons to be near someone they like, often under the guise of coincidences.

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    so not only did you want to know how to
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    attract an intj now you're telling me
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    that you want to know how to tell if an
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    intj is interested in you or not did I
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    get that right who do I look like that
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    matchmaking lady from Mulan well
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    obviously I can't be the matchmaking
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    lady because that's my Auntie I'll tell
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    you what you want to hear how to tell if
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    an intj is interested but I'm not doing
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    it for you with the potential iotj
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    Suitor no no no no no no no no I'm doing
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    this for the intj because there's a lot
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    of intjs out there that I know would be
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    great in relationships and the next
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    thing I'm going to say is very true to
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    most intjs out there we're not going to
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    make the first move so all you intjs out
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    there I'm doing this for you before I
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    begin this video there are a few things
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    that we need to align on so that this
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    entire video makes sense the first thing
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    is that cognitive functions will be
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    brought up in this video and if you're
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    into Mars Briggs you have to understand
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    cognitive functions because the first
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    four letters that anyone is introduced
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    to is how you spot a type in the wild
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    however cognitive functions is going to
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    tell you why a person does the thing
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    that they do it essentially tells you
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    how we operate and if you're not aware
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    of intj cognitive functions I made a
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    short video explaining all the cognitive
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    functions on how the they engage with
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    each other I'll link that in the
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    description below the second thing that
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    I want to address is that the intj is
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    going to analyze you we're going to
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    analyze you like a hawk the intj is
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    going to be the world's greatest
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    detective we're going to figure out
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    everything about you and most of the
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    time you're not even going to be aware
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    that we're doing it I'm not going to go
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    into details as to how and when we
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    collect our information because first it
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    sounds stalkerish it sounds like we're
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    the main character from the Netflix
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    series you and secondly I feel like I
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    can speak for most intjs is that we
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    don't want you guys to know this so I'm
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    not going to go over that you can ask
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    politely in the comments and maybe a
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    while that intj will explain lastly this
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    video is going to be broken down to
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    three different sections these three
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    sections are how I believe to be the
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    best way to categorize how an intj acts
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    whenever they're interested in someone
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    the sections in order is going to be
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    proximity consistency and vulnerability
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    I'll explain more about each section
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    later on this video so let's begin
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    section one proximity proximity in this
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    context is an intj finding a reason to
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    be around you and I personally believe
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    that proximity is the fun part for an
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    intj because this is when we become a
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    little out of character this is the part
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    where we become a little bit more
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    devious and outside of the authenticity
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    that we hope to achieve at most points
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    of our lives and after writing this
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    video intjs are that nerdy teenagers in
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    that teen drama who doesn't really
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    understand how to engage with Society
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    but just somehow gets in a relationship
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    just keep watching because you're going
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    to see it too intjs will make
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    encountering each other or bringing
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    around each other seem as if it's
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    completely random as if by God faith or
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    whatever we just happen to be in the
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    same area where we're going to engage
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    with each other so most of the time it's
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    not a meat cute it's been planned for
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    example oh you like seeing live
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    performances well I happen to have an
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    extra ticket because my buddy backed out
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    last minute do you want to go now I have
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    to go buy tickets I hope they're not
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    expensive oh you like Korean barbecue
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    I'm actually going to this Korean
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    barbecue place this weekend maybe you
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    want to join I could pick you up am I
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    trying too hard should I invite other
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    people oh you have an hour to kill
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    before the next class I actually forgot
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    the book that I need to study from at
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    home so I have free time you want to
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    hang out I hope he doesn't look in my
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    bag because the book's right there those
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    are easy examples of proximity when it
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    comes down to a small setting or a
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    one-on-one setting now let's look at it
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    from a perspective of having more people
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    around being at an event or at a social
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    Gathering when it comes down to go to an
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    event or social Gathering it's not
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    uncommon for an intj not to go we have
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    baby extrovert sensing as our fourth
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    cognitive function slot so when it comes
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    down to engaging with other people or
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    engaging with reality it's not a
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    priority to us but when the intj finds
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    out that you're going to be at a party
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    that we're also invited to will
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    reluctantly get off our chair put on
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    some pants maybe shower make ourselves
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    look a little presentable and pep talk
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    Papa introverted intuition and Mama
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    extroverted thinking into believing that
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    going to the party is exactly what we
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    want to do come on John she'll be at the
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    party too one day she might be your wife
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    and if she's your wife you'll never have
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    to do this again just one night for the
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    rest of your life John one night for the
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    rest of your life one of the things that
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    I find personally funny when it comes
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    down to an intj being at a social
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    gathering with one of the crush is that
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    90 of the time we're just gonna ignore
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    you there's no way in hell that an intj
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    is openly going to talk to you if
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    there's other people around that might
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    potentially see that where are
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    interested in you intjs already don't
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    like attention we especially don't like
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    attention when it comes down to our
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    feelings or anything that has to do with
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    introverted feeling so when an intj gets
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    there we'll make a round and talk to the
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    people that we need to talk to and then
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    once the party quiets down a little and
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    everyone's in their own little group and
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    then we believe that there's not going
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    to be people that focuses on our
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    conversation and yeah we'll have that
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    conversation we're not ignoring you
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    because we don't want to talk to you
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    it's because intjs are shy and yes intjs
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    do get shy when it comes down to
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    introverted feeling and
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    extrovertisements and I'm aware that
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    most people whenever they're around
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    their Crush they enjoy the butterfly
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    feeling because it makes them feel happy
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    it makes them feel whatever feeling that
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    they want but for an intj or for myself
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    personally I want that feeling to stop
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    it makes me cringe knowing that I could
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    feel that way or knowing that someone
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    else can make me feel that way can we
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    just be in a relationship already so I
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    don't have to feel this emotion it feels
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    weird so an intj won't talk to our Crush
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    immediately when we arrive to a party
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    but we're going to talk a little bit
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    louder when you're hearing distance
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    we'll be funnier than usual when you're
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    hearing distance we're going to come up
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    with a reason for you to stop your
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    conversation and stare at us even though
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    we're not having the same discussion
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    when you're hearing distance and being
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    as shy as we are we're gonna avoid eye
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    contact with you even though we like it
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    and if you're in a situation where you
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    and I ain't teaching by eye contact and
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    it's a long deep eye contact where you
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    guys are like oh hey this is longer than
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    usual you're already in baby it's time
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    for you to make your move stop this
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    video right now and go text our
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    talk.intj go
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    shoe the key point of this section is
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    that the intj wants to play it cool and
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    not make a steam as if we want to hang
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    out with you or for other people to
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    notice that we want to hang out with you
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    to summarize proximity in a single
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    sentence the intj will find a reason to
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    hang out but even after I went over
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    proximity it's not very clear is it you
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    might be asking yourself but John isn't
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    that what no more friends do and that's
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    an excellent question I'm glad you asked
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    what makes us different from a platonic
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    relationship is the combination of
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    proximity and our next section
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    consistency section two consistency
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    consistency in this video is the same
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    dictionary definition as the worst
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    consistent it's easier to notice
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    interest in this section than the
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    previous section of proximity but the
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    next section vulnerability will be the
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    easiest out of all three intj has Mama
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    extroverted thinking in her second slot
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    which means that we will show that we
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    care about someone by making their life
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    as easy as possible or taking care of
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    them so it's not uncommon for an intj to
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    go out of our way when we deal with
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    people that we care about it could be
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    something as simple as giving someone a
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    compliment or helping someone fix their
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    flat tire the biggest difference when it
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    comes down to a platonic relationship
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    and a romantic relationship is
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    consistency here are a few examples
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    example one let's talk about compliments
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    intjs don't provide compliments unless
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    we mean it because it goes against our
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    core value of being authentic and it
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    complements that intjs typically provide
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    are very specific to that person that we
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    notice that we don't see in most other
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    people so if there's a quality of
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    someone that stands out mom extrovert
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    thinking would want that person to know
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    and when it comes down to intj
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    complements they're provided once in a
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    blue moon it's not because people are
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    limited to only one trait that stands
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    out it's because the intj isn't focusing
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    on that person to notice all the other
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    attributes that the person has to make
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    them stand out so if you're the person
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    that has our affection you're the person
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    that has their attention and you're the
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    person that we're gonna notice a lot
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    about and compliments for an intj can
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    range from our Adoration of you engaging
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    with people in public settings all the
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    way to how much we enjoy seeing your
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    dimples show up whenever you laugh so if
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    you're a person that consistently
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    receives compliments from intj within a
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    certain time span that means you have
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    our attention and that's something that
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    most people would never get the second
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    example is that we ask you questions out
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    of context I feel like everyone that
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    watches my video already knows that intj
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    asks lots of questions and we asked lots
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    of questions because we need Clarity and
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    a difference between the way we ask
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    questions with someone as platonic as
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    opposed to someone that's romantic is
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    the type of questions that we ask when
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    we ask it and how we ask those questions
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    intjs are naturally Socratic we're going
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    to ask questions to get to the root but
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    when it comes down to questions we
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    typically only ask them whenever it
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    pertains to the topic that we're
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    discussing and if we think of another
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    question later we'll just text that
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    person but that question would still
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    have to do with that topic that we were
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    discussing but if an intj asks you a
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    question that seems to be out of the
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    blue it has nothing to do with the topic
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    that you're discussing and seems a
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    little bit specific to yourself only it
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    still technically means that we need
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    Clarity but Clarity on what you might be
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    asking and that's another great question
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    good job what reason would an intj have
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    to ask you about your favorite color
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    when none of your discussions previously
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    had anything to do with colors what
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    value does it provide to intj if we ask
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    about your favorite musician when the
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    conversation about music ended like two
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    or three days ago if you already
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    answered the question in the original
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    text of the eye into Jason why would
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    they continue the conversation by asking
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    you more questions the answer is simple
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    we're thinking about you but I do want
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    to make it clear that asking random
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    questions is something think that's
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    normal for an intj to do with people
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    that we care about because there might
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    be a reason for it that the intj won't
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    tell you about what should stick out to
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    you personally is how often we do it
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    specifically to you intjs we're
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    typically out in la la land we don't
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    have time to think about anyone else but
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    for some odd reason within a certain
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    time span the intj is asking you a lot
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    of questions that seemed a little bit
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    personal it's a little odd isn't it the
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    last thing that I want to add to this
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    section is the consistency at which we
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    respond to your messages so if intj
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    respond at a certain Cadence that either
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    means the intj has no plans that they're
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    working on at this point or the intjs
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    into you Cadence is one of those
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    interesting things too because it
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    differs from intj to intj so you
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    personally have to figure out what is a
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    normal Cadence for the person you're
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    talking to and what's out of the norm
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    the final example that I want to provide
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    in this section is after you and the
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    intj have hung out a few times and have
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    built a certain level of comfort example
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    number three is when the intj openly
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    takes care of you again mom extrovert
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    thinking shows that we care by making
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    your life as comfortable as possible if
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    you're at an event and there's not
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    enough chairs you're either going to
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    take the intj's chair or the ncu will
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    search for a chair for you to sit on at
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    the end of the day you're going to be
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    the one sitting on the more comfortable
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    chair if you're out eating with an intj
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    we're going to make sure you have the
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    last bite and we're gonna sell it by
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    saying oh we're already full we can't
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    take another bite which is a lie we just
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    want to make sure that you have the best
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    and last bite when you're in a group
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    setting and there's something that you
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    want to say but people be talking over
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    you the itj will make sure that you get
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    your opportunity to say what's on your
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    mind those are small gestures that most
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    people don't notice now let's look at
  • 00:09:47
    the more outwardly tangible gestures if
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    you mentioned the intj that you want to
  • 00:09:50
    read more books this year the intj will
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    compile a list for you from the best
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    sellers and all the books that we
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    believe that you might enjoy reading
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    because we want you to achieve your goal
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    if you mentioned that your windshield
  • 00:10:00
    wipers aren't working when it rains the
  • 00:10:02
    intj will buy windshield wipers and
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    replace it for you if not that they'll
  • 00:10:06
    make sure that your car goes in the shop
  • 00:10:07
    and that the problem is fixed if you're
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    at a rave or a concert together and
  • 00:10:10
    you're tired the intj will make sure
  • 00:10:11
    that you get to a place where you guys
  • 00:10:13
    are both comfortable so that you can
  • 00:10:14
    relax the whole point of this section is
  • 00:10:15
    that the intj will do whatever it takes
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    within our power to make sure you feel
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    comfortable don't forget that it has to
  • 00:10:20
    be consistent because the intj would do
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    this for the people that we we care
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    about as well but after a certain amount
  • 00:10:24
    of time we're going to tell them to have
  • 00:10:25
    to figure that out themselves at
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    this point of the video you might be
  • 00:10:28
    thinking to yourself hmm I don't think
  • 00:10:29
    there's any indication that can be more
  • 00:10:31
    clear than that another great
  • 00:10:32
    observation man you're on a roll today
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    and this is your lucky day because the
  • 00:10:35
    next section is going to go over
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    vulnerability and it's gonna be way more
  • 00:10:38
    clear when it comes down to intj and
  • 00:10:40
    interest it's like noticing sunshine on
  • 00:10:42
    a cloudless day let's get into it the
  • 00:10:43
    last section of this video is called
  • 00:10:45
    vulnerability because you have to be
  • 00:10:46
    very special to see the side of an intj
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    don't forget that order operation
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    matters you have to pass proximity and
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    consistency in order for you to get to
  • 00:10:54
    this level so if you haven't noticed
  • 00:10:55
    your intj doing this they're either not
  • 00:10:57
    interested in you or you haven't passed
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    the first two sections yet and that's
  • 00:11:00
    your job to figure out where you are in
  • 00:11:02
    your relationship with the intj also
  • 00:11:04
    make sure you don't rush ihj to get to
  • 00:11:06
    this section because the more pressure
  • 00:11:07
    you put on this the less we're going to
  • 00:11:09
    engage with you don't lose the intj for
  • 00:11:11
    not having patience vulnerability is
  • 00:11:13
    when an intj introduces you to Auntie
  • 00:11:15
    introverted feeling and baby extroverted
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    sensing in a nutshell this is when the
  • 00:11:19
    intj becomes playful this is the reason
  • 00:11:21
    why there's inconsistency sees in forms
  • 00:11:23
    when it comes down to intjs and
  • 00:11:24
    relationships people that dated intjs
  • 00:11:26
    talk about how aloof and playful we
  • 00:11:28
    actually are when we're in relationships
  • 00:11:30
    and this is completely different from
  • 00:11:31
    The Stereotype that you read about that
  • 00:11:33
    we always have a professional demeanor
  • 00:11:34
    this is the easiest way to tell if
  • 00:11:35
    someone actually dated an intj because
  • 00:11:37
    we are weird but fun as and
  • 00:11:40
    personally I think I'm hella fun today I
  • 00:11:41
    take people on all these adventures and
  • 00:11:43
    I dance with them whenever we're at a
  • 00:11:44
    concert whenever I'm comfortable around
  • 00:11:46
    someone no one else or nothing else
  • 00:11:48
    exists it's me and them let's start off
  • 00:11:50
    with easy examples when it comes down to
  • 00:11:51
    vulnerability example number one is when
  • 00:11:54
    the intj specifically tells you that
  • 00:11:55
    we're interested and this could be
  • 00:11:57
    either vocally or through text and since
  • 00:11:58
    it takes a while for an intj to fully
  • 00:12:00
    understand how we feel about a person
  • 00:12:01
    you're usually the person that tells us
  • 00:12:03
    first how you feel but we will never say
  • 00:12:05
    back until we actually truly mean it and
  • 00:12:07
    when intj say we're interested in you
  • 00:12:08
    that's essentially us giving you the
  • 00:12:10
    green light let's start being romantic
  • 00:12:12
    let's start doing romantic things and
  • 00:12:14
    it's really odd being in intj because we
  • 00:12:15
    have anti-introverted feeling which
  • 00:12:17
    means that we actually think about
  • 00:12:18
    romance but for some reason it also
  • 00:12:21
    makes us want to get bag at the exact
  • 00:12:23
    same time example number two the intj
  • 00:12:25
    becomes more physical around you intas
  • 00:12:27
    can be easily over stimulated by the
  • 00:12:29
    external World especially when it comes
  • 00:12:30
    down to physical touch intjs tend to be
  • 00:12:32
    those people where you notice they have
  • 00:12:33
    a bubble around themselves and when
  • 00:12:35
    someone passes the bubble we look
  • 00:12:36
    uncomfortable as hell we're not the type
  • 00:12:38
    of friends that give you big and long
  • 00:12:39
    hugs we're also not the type of friends
  • 00:12:41
    that put our arms around you whenever we
  • 00:12:42
    have something we want to tell you in
  • 00:12:44
    secret we may do those things but it's
  • 00:12:46
    more rare than it is normal and all that
  • 00:12:48
    changes when we're romantically invested
  • 00:12:50
    in you and the easiest analogy that I
  • 00:12:52
    can provide without going into much
  • 00:12:53
    detail is that the intj is a cat there's
  • 00:12:56
    no way in hell we're going to allow you
  • 00:12:57
    to pet us if we're not comfortable
  • 00:12:58
    around you and even if we're comfortable
  • 00:12:59
    around you you can only pet us until we
  • 00:13:01
    tell you to stop at that point don't
  • 00:13:03
    touch us anymore example number three
  • 00:13:05
    when it comes down to vulnerability is
  • 00:13:06
    that the itj starts flirting with you
  • 00:13:08
    since intjs are oblivious to social cues
  • 00:13:10
    we don't want to give the impression
  • 00:13:12
    that we're interested in someone when
  • 00:13:13
    we're really not also there are intjs
  • 00:13:15
    out there that never learn how to flirt
  • 00:13:16
    so it comes off creepy so when intj is
  • 00:13:19
    interested in you we're going to
  • 00:13:20
    reciprocate your advances but in a very
  • 00:13:22
    TJ way and the funny thing is I can't
  • 00:13:23
    really pinpoint exactly what that means
  • 00:13:25
    I know what it is I just can't really
  • 00:13:28
    put it in words so the way that I am
  • 00:13:30
    going to describe it in context this
  • 00:13:32
    video is that when an intj flirts with
  • 00:13:34
    you you could tell because of tension
  • 00:13:35
    and power dynamics is going to be very
  • 00:13:37
    subtle and it sounds like we're
  • 00:13:38
    challenging you but not in a
  • 00:13:40
    argumentative type of way it's more
  • 00:13:42
    along the lines of oh yeah you really
  • 00:13:44
    think you can make me do that it's going
  • 00:13:45
    to be very obvious and you'll notice it
  • 00:13:46
    when it happens because it's going to be
  • 00:13:48
    fun the final example that I have for
  • 00:13:49
    this video is that the intj will start
  • 00:13:51
    including you and our plans because
  • 00:13:53
    nothing is simple for an intj when we
  • 00:13:55
    start inviting you to our plans that
  • 00:13:57
    means we're showing you who we really
  • 00:13:58
    are our integers have lots of plans and
  • 00:14:00
    interests that we don't like to discuss
  • 00:14:01
    so when an intj consistently invites you
  • 00:14:03
    to do different things instead of every
  • 00:14:05
    Friday night going to board game night
  • 00:14:07
    that means we're into you not only is
  • 00:14:08
    the intj enjoying your company and
  • 00:14:10
    wanting to show who we really are we
  • 00:14:12
    need Clarity to see whether you can
  • 00:14:13
    perform in certain situations that
  • 00:14:15
    you're not comfortable with whether it's
  • 00:14:16
    engaging with people you're not aware of
  • 00:14:18
    engaging in different social activities
  • 00:14:20
    or just being in an area that you
  • 00:14:22
    normally don't do such as hiking
  • 00:14:24
    swimming whatever because all those
  • 00:14:25
    examples tied into one thing can the
  • 00:14:27
    intj comfortably be ourselves around you
  • 00:14:29
    and in this example I'm also going to
  • 00:14:31
    group in that the itj is going to start
  • 00:14:34
    showing ourselves to you it could be
  • 00:14:36
    something as simple as telling you a
  • 00:14:37
    childhood story that affected our lives
  • 00:14:39
    or something less obvious such as intj
  • 00:14:41
    listening to music around you that we
  • 00:14:43
    love that there's no way in hell we will
  • 00:14:45
    listen around other people lastly I feel
  • 00:14:47
    like you should already know where you
  • 00:14:48
    stand with the intj once you get to this
  • 00:14:50
    point you two will probably hang out
  • 00:14:51
    pretty frequently at this point and
  • 00:14:52
    develop a level of comfort that the intj
  • 00:14:54
    doesn't have with anyone else but if
  • 00:14:56
    you're not aware yet this is me telling
  • 00:14:58
    you yes the intj is interested in you
  • 00:15:01
    and that ladies and gentlemen is the end
  • 00:15:02
    of this video and as always don't forget
  • 00:15:04
    to like the video and subscribe to this
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    channel for more content I actually had
  • 00:15:07
    to write the script three different
  • 00:15:07
    times because I either felt as if I
  • 00:15:09
    wasn't descriptive enough or it didn't
  • 00:15:11
    do the topic Justice and having Auntie
  • 00:15:13
    introverted feeling I won't allow myself
  • 00:15:15
    to put out a video that I'm not proud of
  • 00:15:17
    even if it still achieves the same
  • 00:15:19
    outcome I feel like I'm doing an intj
  • 00:15:21
    dating series at this point the previous
  • 00:15:23
    videos were about intjs being single now
  • 00:15:25
    I'm going to who the integers are gonna
  • 00:15:27
    like so stay tuned because your type
  • 00:15:30
    might be coming up next thanks again for
  • 00:15:31
    watching my video
  • 00:15:33
    bye
Tags
  • INTJ
  • interest
  • relationships
  • proximity
  • consistency
  • vulnerability
  • cognitive functions
  • humor
  • personality analysis