What to do when someone makes you feel insecure

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Summary

TLDREn este video, L aborda cómo lidiar con situaciones donde otras personas intentan hacerte sentir inseguro, ya sea en relaciones familiares, amistades o románticas. Ofrece consejos efectivos sobre cómo identificar y manejar críticas que son en realidad proyecciones de las inseguridades de otros. Resalta la importancia de conocerse a uno mismo, mantener una autoestima fuerte y alejarse de situaciones tóxicas. L incita a sus seguidores a reconocer su propio valor, a no aceptar comportamientos irrespetuosos y a tener un plan para alejarse de relaciones perjudiciales. Además, subraya que debemos rodearnos de personas que nos hagan sentir valorados y que las personas negativas no merecen nuestro tiempo ni energía.

Takeaways

  • 🔍 Los insultos sin motivo suelen ser proyecciones de inseguridad propia.
  • 💪 Conoce quién eres para que nada te desestabilice.
  • 👐 No permitas insultos desde el inicio; establece límites claros.
  • 🚪 Ten un plan de salida para liberarte de relaciones tóxicas.
  • 💬 Responde a los insultos con comentarios pasivo-agresivos.
  • 👑 Eres un rey/reina; mereces respirar el mismo aire que los mejores.
  • 🕵️‍♂️ Evalúa las personas con las que te rodeas y su impacto en tu vida.
  • 🔄 Cada relación es una lección; aprende y sigue adelante.
  • 🔓 Cierra la puerta a personas que no te valoran.
  • ❤️ Rodéate de gente con buenas intenciones y corazón puro.

Timeline

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    El presentador relata un mensaje que recibió de una joven que se siente insegura debido a las palabras y acciones de su novio y sus padres. A continuación, el presentador comparte un enfoque sobre cómo manejar situaciones en las que alguien intenta hacerte sentir inseguro. Explica que las críticas a menudo reflejan inseguridades propias de quien las emite. Además, destaca la importancia de conocerse a uno mismo para ser resistente a las críticas externas y aconseja no permitir que nadie te menosprecie, ya que eso solo empeorará la situación con el tiempo.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:08

    El presentador anima a las personas a reevaluar sus relaciones y a cortar lazos con aquellos que no las hacen sentir bien. Recalca que cada individuo merece lo mejor y no debe conformarse con menos debido a la baja autoestima. Aconseja tener un plan de salida y enfatiza que perder a ciertas personas no es una pérdida, sino una ganancia al liberarse de relaciones tóxicas. Concluye instando a los oyentes a valorar y protegerse a sí mismos, rodeándose de personas con intenciones puras y corazones bondadosos.

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Frequently Asked Question

  • ¿Cómo reconocer si alguien está proyectando sus inseguridades en ti?

    Cuando alguien te insulta sin razón, generalmente está proyectando sus propias inseguridades.

  • ¿Qué hacer cuando alguien insulta tu apariencia o carácter sin motivo?

    Reconocer que refleja sus inseguridades y reforzar tu propia autoconfianza.

  • ¿Cómo puede uno evitar que los comentarios negativos le afecten?

    Conociéndote bien a ti mismo y siendo estable en tu propia autoestima.

  • ¿Qué importancia tiene no permitir insultos desde el principio de una relación?

    Es crucial ya que establecer límites claros puede evitar que la relación se vuelva más tóxica con el tiempo.

  • ¿Cómo manejar los comentarios negativos de familiares o parejas?

    Responde con comentarios pasivo-agresivos para dejar en claro que no te afectaron.

  • ¿Por qué es importante tener un plan de salida de relaciones tóxicas?

    Porque te ayuda a encontrar un camino hacia la independencia y mantener tu bienestar emocional.

  • ¿Qué significa aceptar el amor que crees merecer?

    Implica conformarse con menos de lo que vales debido a la baja autoestima.

  • ¿Por qué es perjudicial seguir en una relación que no te hace feliz?

    Porque te impide crecer y encontrar relaciones más saludables.

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  • 00:00:00
    guys so recently I was going through my
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    DMs on Instagram and I received a DM
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    from a girl that said to me hiis my
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    boyfriend and his parents are making me
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    feel very insecure about myself she said
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    this is the lowest my self-confidence
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    has ever been and the reason why she
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    can't leave him is because her family
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    lives very far away so she doesn't know
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    what to do and she's very lonely and
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    attached to this man this video I will
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    tell you what you can do when someone is
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    trying to make you feel insecure about
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    yourself this can be your parents
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    friends relationship it does not matter
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    hi guys my name is l and welcome back to
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    my channel okay let's get into it first
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    things first always look at what kind of
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    insults is someone giving you this is
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    such a fascinating subject to me because
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    recently I actually got a lot of clarity
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    on this because I was talking to my high
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    school friend and my high school friend
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    she used to be very very insecure
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    especially about her appearance and she
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    said you know when I was very insecure
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    and I was kind of toxic in my own ways
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    what I would do to make me feel better
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    about myself is I would go to Instagram
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    models or beautiful women and I would
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    comment underneath their pictures like
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    very nasty things about their appearance
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    because she said it would make me feel
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    better that they would go to bed that
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    night seeing my comment and also feeling
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    bad about themselves because obviously
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    misery loves company and then she said
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    to me that's why now I know because she
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    she obviously she healed from this and
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    she stopped doing this but she said now
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    I know when someone comments something
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    that is their own projection so when you
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    just look at okay what are they actually
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    saying to me are they insulting your
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    intelligence are they insulting your
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    looks are they insulting let's say your
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    weight um your character whatever
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    everything someone is insulting you
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    about with no
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    reason that is something that they're
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    insecure about themselves when I was
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    deep into my Ed and my eating disorder
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    in my head I used to judge people that
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    were overweight because I was struggling
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    with my own weight when I got out of my
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    eating disorder I stopped doing that
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    understand when someone says something
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    to you they're just revealing how they
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    feel about themselves another thing you
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    should do is you should find yourself
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    again know who you are honey listen when
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    you know who you are when you know who
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    you are without this person no one can
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    shake or rock your boat your boat has to
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    be stable first okay what his parents
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    are saying what he's saying are all
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    projections onto you but you have to be
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    so stable that whatever comes whatever
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    water comes in it cannot shake you
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    someone cannot tell you hey you're
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    purple when you know you're not purple
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    okay so those insults will go one ear in
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    other ear out when you know who you are
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    what do you like what do you love about
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    yourself how do you treat yourself on a
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    DayDay basis uh what are your hobby
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    never allow anyone to talk down on you
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    see the thing is when you from the first
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    time allow someone to do that it will
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    only get worse and worse down the line
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    toxic people don't get nicer down the
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    line they just see how far they can go
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    the first time you show them okay I
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    forgave you after you did this to me
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    that's an in for them to get worse and
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    worse so either you cut it from there
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    and you're like okay get out get out
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    enough like no there was no need to
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    disrespect me was good to you or you
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    make them suffer and you make them learn
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    their lesson so they never repeat it
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    again when someone insults you give them
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    a passive aggressive comment back if
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    let's say his mother tells you oh you
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    don't look good today or you're ugly
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    whatever you should tell her uh thank
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    you but you know I love to look at you
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    and every day you just give me
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    inspiration to feel confident because if
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    you look like that and you can be
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    confident then I can too ban makes you
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    feel ugly and he says something you
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    should say that oh my god really you
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    know what's so conf confusing to me
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    though every time I send a picture of
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    you to the group chat of my friends they
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    just laugh at me and I don't understand
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    what would they mean by that can can you
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    explain to me why they laugh at your
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    picture like they literally tell me
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    always that you're so ugly but I I don't
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    get it why do you think they say that
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    either you're going to do that your
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    whole life be passive G and act like a
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    bimbo that you don't understand anything
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    and just insult these people back or you
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    start thinking like you know what these
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    people are not worth my energy you
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    should be lucky to breede the same air
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    as me honestly you guys are beneath me
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    walk away honey walk away you will find
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    much better than him okay he is the bare
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    minimum he's under the bare minimum he's
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    the he's in hell this guy's in Hell okay
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    you can create heaven for yourself why
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    are you in hell with him you don't
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    belong there baby you're too good if
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    someone has to insult you to bring you
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    down you're already above them you're
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    already above them why are they trying
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    to bring you down look at the people you
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    guys are surrounding yourself with look
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    at the people you guys are constantly
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    spending your time with if these people
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    don't grow you if these people are not
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    making you feel happy or good about
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    yourself why are you there why is your
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    confidence so low that you accept shitty
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    behavior from people that in one second
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    will leave your life if you just close
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    the door you can say hey you know what
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    get the out of here bye bye and
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    close the door and never open it again
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    I'm so tired of us wasting our time
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    because I'm honestly doing the same
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    thing I honestly was in a same boat as
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    you constantly forgiving forgiving
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    because I'm thinking oh I'm lonely I
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    don't have anyone I also don't live with
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    my family so I only have this person but
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    I'm not happy with this person but then
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    I feel bad for them so I'm continuing a
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    cycle that I don't like and I will end
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    up in a cycle that I don't like because
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    when will Liz's life change when Liz
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    changes and nothing else and the same
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    with you your life will not change honey
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    nothing will happen I saw this quote
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    that said we accept the love that we
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    think we deserve and it's again the same
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    thing why do you think this is the best
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    you can do why do you think that a
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    person that disrespects you is the best
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    you can
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    do do you really think that low of
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    yourself I'm telling you there's people
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    that just believe they deserve the best
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    and they get
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    that but you are doubting yourself
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    you're thinking I'm not good enough and
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    that's why you are left with crumbs of a
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    person that's why I'm also saying it
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    shouldn't be about him it should be
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    about you what do you want is this what
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    you want for yourself is this where your
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    precious energy is going cuz honey right
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    now it's all fun and games you're young
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    you're in your 20s funny but down the
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    line you'll be 60 stuck with this person
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    if you don't leave now and time goes
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    very fast people have spent years years
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    thinking a I will be done one day and
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    they won't and some people don't make it
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    out alive it's all like oh until that do
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    is a part and then you don't come out of
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    it alive they should be blessed to sit
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    in the same room as you they should feel
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    blessed to breathe the same air as you
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    and you're letting people sit there and
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    talk down on you hello hello value
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    yourself protect yourself no one is
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    going to do that for you when you have a
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    partner when you have a friend when even
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    your parents they should make you feel
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    like you're the king and queen on Earth
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    they should like hype you up they should
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    be like you're amazing you're
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    beautiful like that's how people should
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    talk to each other if they don't there's
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    no benefit honey you will always keep
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    either in the same position or he will
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    drag you down sometimes you have to look
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    at some people and you have to be like
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    you know what I'm too pretty to accept
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    your behavior I'm too pretty for this
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    you have to stop telling people oh I
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    will leave I will do this I that no just
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    leave shut up create your exit plan and
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    leave okay don't tell anything because
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    these people they don't believe you
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    first of all they'll never take you
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    serious because you have always always
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    threatened that before and you never do
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    it so this time just keep your mouth
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    shut okay and start creating an exit
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    plan think okay how can I make money how
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    can I save up money to live on my own
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    how can I make friends so I feel less
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    lonely so I have at least a community
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    around me can I find other room that
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    also have been in an abusive
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    relationship uh then I can find a
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    community in that St start thinking
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    these things and slowly slowly you're
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    just moving out and then one day he
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    comes home and all of your stuff is gone
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    me a toxic person will not miss you they
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    will just find another victim that's it
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    because that's who you are to them a
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    victim honey you have to understand not
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    everyone you lose is a loss A lot of
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    times it's a gain if I look at the
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    people that I had in my life I'm very
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    happy that all of them are gone because
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    that's was that was not meant for me
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    anymore and at that time it was it was
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    what I needed it was what I needed to
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    grow and I needed to learn but right now
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    I'm in a state where I just grown so
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    much I don't resonate with those people
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    anymore and that's okay it wasn't a loss
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    it was a lesson and I'm grateful for
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    those lessons and I'm grateful for the
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    time that I had with them even if it was
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    bad it I T I learned something and I
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    moved on with my life and you should do
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    the same thing don't look at it as how
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    could I have stayed I feel so dumb blah
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    blah no honey there was a lesson there
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    we learned through relationships we
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    learned through these things and when
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    when you've learned your lesson you're
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    also supposed to move on you shouldn't
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    linger there you shouldn't linger where
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    there's no respect just know that you're
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    the queen on Earth and you can get
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    anything you want if you set your mind
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    to it and you know this you literally
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    know this okay don't waste your time on
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    people that are not worth to be around
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    you they're not worthy of you okay if
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    you have pure intentions and if you have
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    a good heart you deserve people with the
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    same intentions and with the same heart
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    anyways I love you guys so much and yeah
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    I hope you guys learned something I hope
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    this helped and yeah I love you guys so
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    much and I see you next video bye-bye
Tags
  • inseguridad
  • autoconfianza
  • relaciones tóxicas
  • proyección
  • autoestima
  • salir de relaciones tóxicas
  • valor personal
  • superación personal