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we have interviewed a bunch of our
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international and local girlfriends
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currently living here in amsterdam on
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the topic on dating dutch men
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we wanted to keep in mind that this is
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about dating experiences within
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amsterdam and it's not representative
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for all of the netherlands
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yes we had so many great pieces of
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information that we had to make this
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finland i'm sophie and from gothenburg
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sweden hi my name is
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my name is barbara i am dutch so i've
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been living in the netherlands for my
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whole life which is a very long time
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very long time very long time she's been
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alive a long time yeah i'm yvette i'm
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very nervous
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and this is elisa also from the
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netherlands hi i'm katie i'm from london
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hi i'm evie and i'm from america i like
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that they're tall
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yes they're so tall and they are tall
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and long and blondes are very beautiful
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with the perfect
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very nice eyes fit beautiful hair it all
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it's always like
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looks nice like i think the dutch guys
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look really hot they're also very good
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looking
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dutch men are very blessed and they have
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beautiful
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big blue eyes and blonde hair brown hair
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or whatever but they're just gorgeous
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i think from across the world the dutch
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ones are one of the
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most handsome ones for me all dutch boys
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look quite similar
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so i really need to differentiate like
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who's good looking i can just be like
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who is actually interesting it's moving
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here it was just amazing
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who are these people where where have i
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moved to i had no idea i was coming to
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like
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men disneyland they're both averagely
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good looking
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above averagely intelligent they're not
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very passionate
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um but that can be a good thing because
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fire can bring you know conflict and it
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can bring off
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so it's nice it's like balanced waters i
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find dutch people very
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like honest and they're very like direct
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with their feelings and what they want
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dutch men are just like more open and
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more accepting
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and they don't really need to lead all
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the time
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they're a lot more femi they're
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feminists way more than men are from the
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middle east i think you know they're all
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for equality
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i think it's that's that's kind of where
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it's nice but not so nice you know
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they they say you can fix your own tire
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you can fix your own uh whatever you can
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drive yourself to the doctor you can pay
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for the first day
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going for a drink yeah exactly you
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already like spot on there they like
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casual things casual dates like let's go
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for a beer
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a drink or a walk for sure no dinner
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first date
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no dinner that's something that's like
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duchies don't do typical dutch guy would
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say
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let's grab a drink whereas um south
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africans would bring it to a vineyard
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or um like australians
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and estates go full out guys in the
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states kind of overdo it a bit on the
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first day
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and the dutch guy would like maybe have
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you pay for it as well here like it's
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very casual
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yeah they're not very creative they're
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not very like they're
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also not putting a lot of effort in it's
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pretty
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consistent it's pretty fast
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um and there were a lot of guys in my
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experience
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and there was a lot to choose from here
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i feel like it's more a dating culture
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like you really want to explore and get
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to know
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people and have keep your options open
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they plan a lot like they ask you on a
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date and it's like four weeks
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in the future and you're like i don't
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know where i'll be before i might be in
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a new relationship in four weeks
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dutch people are not the thai production
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man they're not the type that they want
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to see you every single day
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but what i've realized that sooner or
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later they kind of want to like
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become a little serious because i do
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think if they give
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like actually settle down they give it
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their all but before then they're not
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ready was it too busy drinking heineken
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i feel like they're very
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romantic especially in wintertime when
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there's an ice rink of rice museum
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i wouldn't say it's an area of strength
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for dutch men to be romantic
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depends on the person not as much as
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we'd like them to be
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i would say no they're not the kind of
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guys who go
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if i don't see you i will die
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they're more romantic than what i've
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been
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used to in finland they are a little bit
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uncomfortable with romance you know
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they're comfortable with going big
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i've got some very romantic um
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dates with a dutch man on our
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second date he rented out an entire
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restaurant but they try some of them
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really have tried with me to be fair
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like disclaimer yeah maybe they are
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romantic but not the big
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hollywood gestures maybe it's in the
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smaller thing
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i'm still waiting on the romance part
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they're not as romantic as guys in the
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states are yeah they're more practical
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they're very
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realistic yeah they're more very logical
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you know some might say cold
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but a few of them cooked for me that was
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romantic
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romance anyways kind of hard to define
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right true this was romantic because
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what's romantic to one person is not
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romantic to another person
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what i like about some dutch men is that
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they're very direct whether they like
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you
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and they're very direct they don't like
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you um or your outfit or your outfit
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or anything else you're putting on too
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much makeup i don't have fake nails or
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if you're being too loud
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they're direct yeah you know what they
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want and they will tell you
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also what they don't want not direct
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about their feelings but direct about a
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lot of other like
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yeah they are not like very charming or
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so directing like
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yeah but also it's nice when they're on
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the phone with their grandma
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after a one night stand and you're
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sitting there in the morning and then
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they invite you
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while on the phone with their grandma to
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dinner with their grandparents and
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ask you can i call you my girlfriend
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okay great
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can my girlfriend come for dinner please
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grandma
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you know they're direct and we like we
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like the directions
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me and my boyfriend we've never talked
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about ex no
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and it's been one and a half years
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definitely you never talk about it on
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the first date
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we were just talking about sex on the
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first date
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a lot of guys i feel like they're
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expecting sex on the first date
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and then you have to tell them no and
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then they be like offended because they
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expect
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it from you i mean i wouldn't have sex
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on the first date
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with the dutch guy unless i really
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really liked him
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but no in the states like i would never
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like we wouldn't hook up on the first
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date like that's not a thing you'd be
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looked back but also like here
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i just they view sex differently if
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there's sexual chemistry if the night is
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hot like
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why turn it down baby it's amsterdam
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yeah i think so yeah i have no
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complaints
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i think they're fantastic in bed i have
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nothing to complain about it's not my
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favorite
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nation and compared to americans they
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are rocking the boat
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maybe they're more reserved
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i think i've heard however they don't
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like uh
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oral sex isn't really a thing i've
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noticed yeah i kind of i might miss that
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a bit i'm just gonna say no comment
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depends but the guys who most offered to
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pay are kind of like
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lifting themselves a bit yeah i've never
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been on a date first date where they are
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like
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you need to split the bill at least for
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like first dates
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they're more inclined to maybe pay for
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your drink
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i think older dutch men are a bit more
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for the lack of better term traditional
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uh younger yeah definitely going dutch
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it's definitely a thing
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but in theory like after
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more than the first day it was supposed
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to be like okay i'll do this and then
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and like more equal which isn't a bad
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thing let's say you're on the fifth date
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they might ask you like hey let's split
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the bill sometimes maybe i yeah i will
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pay one date
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and then yeah you'll pay the next date i
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even heard that it's like considered a
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little bit of an insult
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not going dutch because it's like why
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can i can i afford
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this but you can't you should be getting
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paid equally yes and maybe it's also
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more
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my way of like i also want to like
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put my contribution to pay like i really
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hate it when a guy is like
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actually like taking care of me in that
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way i had a nice dutch boy come to my
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house the other day
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who said i've bought you a bottle of
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wine and i said oh thank you that's very
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kind he said it was 15 euros
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not me because what i was saying this
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was before ticky
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told you she was old no i would think
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it's a joke
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did this actually happen i've had guys
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be like he said okay if i send you a
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tiki after this
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i think i've been taken for dinner but
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i've always been taking for drinks and
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then when you get home
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and you get a little notification that
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you've been ticking for half of your
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dinner
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that's a ruins the romance for me
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they're cheap
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i'm gonna go yeah they're very very
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cheap frugal maybe is a better word i'm
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more
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polite but i just think they're cheap
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i've never been ticking though for a
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date i have to say
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it's never happened you tell me from
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what i've heard and also like
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the friends of my boyfriend they're i
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think they're all single
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and i always know that they're like
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talking to someone but they always keep
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it to like one girl
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oh i think there is a bit of both i've
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seen it both ways
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i think there's guys who really go for
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for one girl or maybe if they just
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happen to find someone they really like
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they will go for it but as long as they
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don't they might
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i mean sing with girls you know i think
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they tell you because they are very
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direct
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i think a lot of the guys that i've been
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like casually dating or seeing they have
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a roster of like five girls there are
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also a lot of
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super attractive men and women here
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there are so many options when they're a
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little bit older
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um then they're more keen to like date
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one person
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um and it doesn't have to be date one
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person for like a long time but they
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kind of like serial dating when they're
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a bit older but i think it's also
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really like the rules or expectations
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are really straightforward like as long
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as you're not exclusive
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it's super fine to like date around and
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there are very alternative types of
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dating and relationships in amsterdam
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so the squirrel is i think i'm saying
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that right
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hook up but if you if you have a
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struggle or you're a
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scholar then you're you're having casual
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sex basically
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so is when it's like totally superficial
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uh the quahog
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quarrel is quality hookups
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um quarrel is when you're like oh this
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is a
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potential so that's the shuttle you like
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a lot probably yeah
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it's not
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that's the next step but that's like a
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an early relationship it's actually ever
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you already do everything on the
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relationship dance and then alaska it's
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like
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boyfriend girlfriends and we really love
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each other
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so many steps no but you don't always go
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through all the steps right you can skip
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a few you can do whatever but it's kind
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of
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the definitions of of i mean i guess a
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brela goes usually
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but doesn't have to go anywhere else
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this was everything for this round stay
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tuned because
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dutchman
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