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so most people dream a lot of people set
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goals everyone has habits but almost no
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one has the system and it's one thing to
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set goals but it's another thing to keep
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the focus throughout the whole year so
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this is what we're going to do in this
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video we're going to start from the top
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down we're going to Chunk from your
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dream to your smart goals to the system
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the habits strung together that are
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going to get you there so grab a coffee
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get out your notebook take some notes
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because there is a lot under this flip
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chart so before we get started on
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setting the system I want to talk about
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goals now like if you're a millennial
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everybody's heard of smart goals this is
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like the common acronym everybody's
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heard about smart goals but there's a
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few issues with smart goals and I really
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love goals I'm a very goal oriented
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person but the issue with goals is that
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they're very incomplete so one thing
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that can happen a lot of times people
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will set a goal it will be all of these
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things and still they won't reach it and
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then it causes this shame and it starts
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the shame cycle one of the biggest
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issues with smart goals is this
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actionable and time time bound don't get
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tied together they're seen as two
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distinct things is this an actionable
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thing yes when do I want to get it done
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by this time and then we call that good
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but these two things need to be married
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to each other because it's not enough
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just to be time down and actionable
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separately and a lot of times this is
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going to require you to be a good judge
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of time when we set goals that are a
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year out or 5 years out we become worse
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and worse judges of time as time goes
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out and the biggest issue with smal is
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there's no system running this thing
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together which is what I want help you
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create in this video you don't rise to
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the level of your goals but you fall to
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the level of your systems is what James
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Clear says I feel that last year's
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ceiling where we topped out you know
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where we just plateaued we couldn't get
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higher than that point last year's
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ceiling is this year's floor and this
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year's Launchpad so this is going to be
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the system that we're going to rise to
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and launch forward this year so get out
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a piece of paper grab your coffee get a
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pen be expectant I'm going to make a
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system with you this year so that you
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can follow through not continue that
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shame cycle so this here this mountain
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we're going to call this the mountain of
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your goal so at the top of this mountain
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we have your smart goal that's where we
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want to be that's the outcome that we
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want to achieve but I believe that even
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above the smart goal level even above
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the top of this mountain there's
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something that's also very important
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that a lot of people don't think about
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and if you don't think about this step
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when you get to the top of that mountain
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you might not be happy or you know you
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might have that goal depression you know
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some people don't reach goals but there
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are some people that do reach a lot of
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goals and when they get there they have
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this goal depression because it wasn't
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what they wanted in the first place they
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built a system that created a result
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that they didn't want and now that
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system is going to keep running so above
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this smart goal level we have up here in
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the clouds metaphorically we have your
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dream your dream life your dream year
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your dream weeks this is Airy fairy up
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in the clouds these are the desires of
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your heart that people don't want to
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admit to themselves but these are the
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things that cause midlife crises if
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they're not done these are the things
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that you look back on your life with
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regrets because you didn't do it it's
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the lifechanging work it's the work that
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matters in your life so it's important
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not to neglect this dream when when
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we're getting to the smart goals now at
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the very bottom of this mountain
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there'll be some things stringing these
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together but at the very bottom of this
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mountain these are your habits this is
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probably you know the most boring level
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of the system you know this is the the
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SLO the step by step by step that's
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going to get you up the mountain now
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when you have a group of habits all
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shung together done repeatedly in a way
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that works for you that is your system
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which will Propel you up this mountain
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you know so it's all of these things
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taken together that matter and most
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people don't have the system you know
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you put if you have the habits and you
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feel like you're putting in the work but
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it's just not getting anywhere you have
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these goals you have these dreams but
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you don't have the system it's not going
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to string throughout the year there's
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not going to be a thread attaching the
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beginning of the year to your June your
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October to the end of the year so most
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people dream a lot of people set goals
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everyone has habits but almost no one
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has the system and it's one thing to set
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goals but it's another thing to keep the
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focus throughout the whole year so this
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is what we're going to do in this video
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we're going to start the top down we're
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going to Chunk from your dream to your
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smart goals to the system the habits
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strung together that are going to get
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you there so if you haven't already take
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out a piece of paper we're going to get
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to work
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now so a lot of people when they set
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goals they think of the outcome that
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they want and they don't chunk backwards
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to get it it's very important you don't
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chunk forwards you have to chunk
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backwards to figure out where do you
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want to be and slowly chunk backwards to
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get there so we're going to start up
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with the life dream level right now so
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this is the part where you connect with
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the desires of your heart you dream big
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you don't anything you don't edit
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anything out if you if there's a desire
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of your heart your gut brings it up your
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emotions bring it up there's a nudge
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there's a whisper something you've been
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trying to kind of push away for a while
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dump it on there so I have this I talked
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about this in my last set systems not
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goals video but this is the start today
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Journal that I don't believe they have
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in stock anymore but there's a really
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great exercise at the very beginning
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that I want to read to you so you can
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put on some nice music put on a candle
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visualize yourself 10 years from now
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imagine that a decade of time has gone
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by and you are living your best possible
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ideal for yourself and your life dream
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big don't put any restriction on it
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don't overthink it just allow yourself
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to Envision the most magnificent
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possible future version of yourself a
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decade in the future what is the very
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best version of yourself doing what do
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you look like how do you go about your
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day how do you speak to the people you
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love how are you loved in return what
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kind of clothes do you wear what kind of
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car do you drive are you a great cook do
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you love to read do you love to run get
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as specific as you possibly can where
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you go on vacation what's your favorite
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restaurant to eat at now that your life
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is different what kind of food do you
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consume what does it feel like to go
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throughout your day are you optimistic
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are you encouraging to others after a
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decade of working on yourself and
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growing as a person how much joy is
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there in your life who's in your life
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what's your weak like how do you treat
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people how do they treat you let your
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dreams run absolutely wild are you happy
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are you energetic are you driven do you
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feel ambitious what's your relationship
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like with your family members do you own
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a home what does it look like do you
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have kids do you have a family are you
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married what's the best of the best now
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go even bigger what's a bigger version
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of the best version of you living every
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day in the best state that you know how
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to be what do you do for work what is
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the highest value that your future self
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holds is it family is it loyalty is it
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growth be as specific as you can see it
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like a movie in your mind without a
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second of judgment or overthinking it I
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want you to write down everything that
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you just thought of as fast as you can I
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don't want you to forget any of it I
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want the future version of yourself to
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be seared into your brain so I also have
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this emotions list that I will link in
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the description box all these desired
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feelings list and I chose the specific
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list because it has very interesting
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feelings like there are you know the
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typical feelings like I want to feel
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joyful or expansive or alive but then
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there's also you know things that aren't
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typically considered feeling words like
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I would have like a mermaid like life or
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a lionist life or a hot life you know
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it's all these different kind of unique
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words so click on that and figure out
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what feelings do I want what things
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would be true and write those things
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down so when you look at that dream life
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and everything that's happened I want
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you to write down the top 10 most
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important that you want to have happen
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in the next decade and I've heard the
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quote that we overestimate what we can
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do in a year but we underestimate what
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we can do in 10 and so I want you to
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dream big what things would be true
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about your life what are the top 10
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biggest priorities that you have so you
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know maybe you're thinking if that were
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be true maybe I would be a bestselling
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author so I want you to list the top 10
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most important to you not what you feel
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like should be on the list because it's
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very important to personalize it and
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when you write it I want you to write it
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in the past tense I am a bestselling
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author if you write like I will be a
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bestselling author your brain sees it as
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a to-do item and then it feels kind of
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like I got this to-do item thing I got
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to do but when you write it in the past
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tense like I am a best-selling author
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that feels a little lighter that's like
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wow I'm a bestselling author it creates
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expectancy and like I said so much of
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goal setting is related to the emotions
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you don't want to leave emotions behind
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you want to bring them into the goal
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setting process so after you've written
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these things like in the past tense
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present tense I am a bestselling author
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you're going to go ahead and circle
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which is the one that you want to focus
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on this year which one do you want to go
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after first you don't want to scatter
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you know your efforts in many different
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directions you want to this is a
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prioritization exercise and figuring out
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what do I really want to do and it takes
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all the stress out of all those other
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things but use hone in what is the one
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thing that I want to make happen so
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we're going to look at that one goal
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that you want to pursue that one dream
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that big dream that's so important in
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your life and we're only going to look a
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quarter out you know you can generally
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think about okay so where do I want to
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be at the end of this year okay so think
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about where do you want to be at the end
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of this year here and we're not going to
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make super specifics for quarter 3
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quarter 2 but for quarter 1 where do you
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want to be realistically like if you
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want to have a book written by the end
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of this year maybe by the end of quarter
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1 you want to have a rough draft done so
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I used to use Rachel holl to start today
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planners but they're out of stock so I
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made my own actually so this is what I
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use so this is all the whole purpose of
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this entire book is to chunk backwards
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set these quarterly goals these
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quarterly Sprints you know monthly
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projects things like that so what we're
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going to do is we're going to chunk
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backwards so if at the end of quarter 1
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you want to have a rough draft done
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we're going to chunk backwards to where
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do you want to be at the end of month
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one where do you want to be at the end
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of month two and where do you want to be
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at the end of month three which is the
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end of quarter 1 so if you want to have
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let's say the rough draft done by the
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end of quarter 1 maybe at the end of
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month two you want to have half the
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rough draft done so these are the
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outcomes that you want to see so maybe
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by the end of month one you say I want
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to have three chapters written maybe if
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you keep chunking back maybe you want
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the book to be 12 chapters total so six
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would be half three would be a quarter
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of that now these are the benchmarks
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that you want to hit and these are
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called outcome goals these are the
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outcomes you want to see these are not
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verbs these are like nouns of things
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that you want to have sometimes these
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things be a little bit beyond your
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control like if you want to weigh a
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certain amount or if you want to have a
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certain amount of subscribers you can
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certainly put in actions and do verbs to
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do that thing but there's not a one to
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one I do this therefore this so there is
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you have some control over it but not as
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much control over it so as we're still
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at this level you have less control over
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things but we're going to continue
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chunking the system we're not to the
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system yet just so you know we're still
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on goal level but once we get to the
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system it's going to get more and more
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verb and action oriented so you say at
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the end of month one January at the end
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of January I want to have three chapters
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written now we're going to chunk that
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backwards even further a little lower to
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the weekly level so by the end of week
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four it's the end of the month I want to
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have three chapters written by the end
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of week three by the end of week two by
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the end of week one maybe at the end of
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week three you want to have two chapters
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written maybe by the end of week two you
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want to have one chapter written and
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maybe by the end of week one you want to
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just have an outline done so all sudden
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it gets smaller and smaller and you can
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see okay this is getting smaller you
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know it's getting a little bit more
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actionable about the things we're going
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to do with the weekly level but once we
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get down to the Daily level I'm telling
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you it's going to clear this up so well
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okay so now we're getting into the daily
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habit this is finally where we're
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getting into the system I call this the
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dream management system everybody needs
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a dream management system and it's these
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string of habits strung together that
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will get you throughout the entire year
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you have to attach things to time time
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is what reality is we live in reality so
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if we just say I want to weigh this much
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by the end of the year but you don't
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ever attach it to on Monday I'm going to
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do this on Tuesday I'll do this on
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Wednesday I'll do this you know it just
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stays detached from time and therefore
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it stays detached from reality and
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that's what causes the dreams to not
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become reality that's what causes these
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dreams to die so once you get down to
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the weekly level you know maybe by the
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end of week one we said we wanted to
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write an outline May maybe I'll maybe
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I'll adjust that just for the sake of
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this example let's say by the end of
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week one you wanted to write one chapter
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let's say so Rachel Hollis calls this
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the five to strive and so it comes from
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kind of like the 2080 principle that 20%
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of your time gives 80% of the results so
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you don't need to spend all of your time
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on this goal you don't need to like
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completely you know derail your life for
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this thing just 1 hour a day 5 hours a
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week 5 hours a week to strive up that
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mountain to go up that mountain where
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can you find 5 hours you know when I was
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still a teacher I would wake up at 5: I
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would go to a coffee shop shop at 6:00
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in the morning from 6:00 to 7:00 I'd be
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at the coffee shop then I would go teach
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and when I got off work from teaching
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then my day was just done and I could
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relax now you don't have to do something
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like that but that's something that was
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really helpful for me the first time I
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did this video I made this flip chart at
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the coffee shop the first time I did the
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first iteration of this video so when
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you chunk back now we have the daily
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outcomes Monday Tuesday Wednesday
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Thursday Friday so if I want to have one
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chapter written by the end of the week
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you know maybe on Monday I outline that
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one chapter maybe on Tuesday I draft
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half maybe on Wednesday I draft another
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half maybe Thursday I edit and Friday I
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edit and in this planner you show up to
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weekly planning it has a weekly planning
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ritual for chunking these things out and
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so it makes it so easy to be intentional
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when all you have to do is find the one
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habit that will get this thing done so
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every morning the one habit that I'm
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implementing is I'm showing up to the
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planner it has me pick you know for the
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we for the weekly planning has you pick
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what three things would make this week
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intentional it has this chunking process
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where on the weekly spread we already
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figured out what are our outcomes for
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the end of each week and kind of listing
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those action steps in the brain dump
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Bubbles and then when you get to the
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weekly spread there's just check boxes
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you know add these things to the
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calendar in addition to that on the
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daily level I love Rachel hollis's start
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today Journal it has you list in the
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morning five things you're grateful for
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these 10 dreams that we outlined in the
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past tense it says in the past tense 10
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dreams I made happen and then the one
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goal I'm going to focus on first so it's
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the con connection point you know at the
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bottom of the mountain those habits and
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the dream life at the top and every day
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you're focusing on that goal you know
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it's easy once you get to June to start
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you forgetting what am I doing this for
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but the system of having these two
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things really just focuses me and this
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system every time I do it I get results
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every time I Stray away from it I lack
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results and so I'm just committing to
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this one habit I don't have to over
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complicate I just commit to this one
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Habit to showing up to the dream
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management system all these habits
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strung together and you have these
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outcomes and you attach them to time
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that's when your goals become reality
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time is reality so when you chunk them
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down to verbs and actions you're going
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to do attached to time on the calendar
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you commit to showing up to the calendar
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then everything just falls into place
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you do the initial yearly dreaming work
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the planner does the rest all you do is
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show up so I think it's so powerful I
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think this is some of the most
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meaningful work that we can do some of
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the most important work that we can do
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um I love the quote from beray Brown
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find what lights you up and do more of
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that thing because the world needs more
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people who are lit up so it's not
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selfish work that you're doing to have a
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life that you love and do what you love
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this is lifechanging work and I don't
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say that lightly I don't say to just
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like fluff people up but I really think
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that when you do what lights you up it
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really creates positive change to the
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world so doing the work showing up to
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doing the work is so important I'm I'm
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so excited about this intentional
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planner if you want to buy this
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intentional planner I will have the link
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in the description I think that this is
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no longer in stock but you can just do
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this in a journal these questions every
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day if that's something that you want to
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implement in your morning routine but
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yeah thank you so much for watching guys
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I appreciate all the support you showed
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on the last one I'll see you guys in the
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next one bye
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