What chapters are being covered this week?

Chapters 5 and 6 are being covered this week.

Is it necessary to submit the reflection?

It's not necessary unless you choose to write something you want to share.

How is trust described in the lecture?

Trust is considered the foundation in relationships and can be difficult to regain once lost.

What is calculus-based trust?

Calculus-based trust is based on the consistency of behavior and the fear of consequences, motivating people to keep promises.

What is identification-based trust?

Identification-based trust is based on identifying with someone through shared desires and intentions, developing a collective identity.

What types of topics can be discussed on the discussion board?

Topics can include world political scenarios, environmental issues, social rights, labor unions, and more.

What is the significance of active listening in communication?

Active listening involves not getting distracted, asking for clarifications, and understanding the speaker's perspective.

How is trust repaired according to the lecture?

Trust can be repaired with sincere apologies which include expressing regret, acknowledging responsibility, and declaring repentance.

How does power relate to conflict?

Power involves leveraging one's influence to achieve personal goals and is present in all relationships.

What are some examples of discussion board topics mentioned?

Examples include labor unions, electric vs. gas cars, migrant funding, and Reproductive Rights.

week two techlive

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZbA0D-plNbg

Summary

TLDRIn this recorded lecture, the instructor discusses course logistics, such as the non-necessity of submitting reflections unless the students wish to, and indicates that the week's focus is on chapters 5 and 6. The main themes include trust and power dynamics within relationships, with coverage on calculus-based trust (built on fear of consequences) and identification-based trust (built on shared identity). Active listening is highlighted as vital to resolving conflicts. Students are observed into using key chapter concepts deliberately in their discussions. Moreover, there are strategies for repairing trust through genuine apologies and understanding authoritarianism through psychodynamic views regarding early life experiences. The lecture encourages students to select broad topics like political issues, environmental conflicts, or social policies for their discussion boards.

Takeaways

📚 Focus on chapters 5 and 6 regarding trust and power.
🙅‍♂️ You don't need to submit reflections unless desired.
🔑 Use key chapter concepts in discussions.
💔 Trust is foundational and difficult to regain once lost.
💡 Calculus-based trust is motivated by fear of consequences.
🤝 Identification-based trust develops through shared identity.
👂 Active listening involves being fully engaged without distractions.
🛠 Repairing trust requires sincere apologies.
⚖ Power dynamics are integral in conflict resolution.
🌍 Broader topics for discussion can include world issues and policies.

Timeline

00:00:00 - 00:05:00
The speaker informs participants that they don't need to submit reflections but can share if desired. This week's focus is on chapters 5 and 6, with one exam question to be covered. Due to the holiday schedule, there's a unique break after week four, resuming for weeks five and six. The speaker emphasizes using key chapter concepts in discussion boards, encouraging intentional vocabulary use.
00:05:00 - 00:10:00
The importance of trust in relationships is highlighted. Trust is described as the glue that holds relationships together. The speaker shares personal experiences with trusting their children and the difficulty in rebuilding trust once broken. Trust is said to be earned in small amounts and lost significantly. The speaker addresses the complex definition of trust and the difficulty scholars have in defining it.
00:10:00 - 00:15:00
Calculus-based trust and its primary motivator are explained. It's described as trust based on the consistency of behavior and the fear of consequences if violated. The speaker uses an example of gangs to illustrate deterrence-based trust, noting that trust doesn't necessarily involve respect or liking someone.
00:15:00 - 00:20:00
The speaker describes calculus-based trust as slow-building and often seen in business contexts. Personal stories are shared to illustrate how calculated trust functions in real life, involving risks and measured steps. The potential consequences of broken calculus-based trust are highlighted, emphasizing the challenges in rebuilding it.
00:20:00 - 00:25:00
Comparison between calculus-based trust and identification-based trust is introduced. Identification-based trust involves recognizing and aligning with others' desires and intentions. The speaker uses examples like friendships and choir harmonization to explain how identification-based trust forms and functions in relationships.
00:25:00 - 00:30:00
The discussion moves to how trust levels are influenced by personality and previous experiences. The speaker shares their personal background, linking childhood experiences to current trust issues. This section delves into trust violations and the emotional impacts of broken trust, describing how trust, once violated, can permanently alter relationships.
00:30:00 - 00:35:00
Trust repair strategies are discussed, including the importance of sincere apologies and tangible actions. A six-step apology process is detailed for expressing regret, explaining causes, and making reparations. The speaker emphasizes the role of trust violations in conflicts and the need for calculated and identification-based trust building.
00:35:00 - 00:40:00
The chapter transitions into the intricate relationship between power and trust. Power dynamics within various settings are explored, noting their impact on trust. The speaker discusses the importance of understanding different power bases and the role of environmental, relational, and personal power in shaping social interactions and trust.
00:40:00 - 00:45:00
The concept of power in conflict is elaborated, differentiating between primary and secondary power. The primary focus is on the beliefs and ideologies that drive interactions, while secondary power is about exercising that power within social contexts. Examples include political and media influence, emphasizing how power affects reality and policy.
00:45:00 - 00:50:00
Authoritarianism and its psychodynamic roots are explored. Authoritarianism involves a need to submit to strong authority due to harsh upbringing, leading to a punitive approach to power relations. The speaker describes this dynamic through examples of workplace hierarchies and childhood experiences, explaining how early environments shape power perceptions.
00:50:00 - 00:58:48
The session concludes with a summary of key points, emphasizing participants' need to engage in discussions and reflection. Practical applications of trust and power theories are underscored, encouraging participants to utilize these concepts in their coursework. The speaker invites questions and remains available for further discussion, ensuring clarity on essay and discussion expectations.

Mind Map

Video Q&A

What chapters are being covered this week?
Chapters 5 and 6 are being covered this week.
Is it necessary to submit the reflection?
It's not necessary unless you choose to write something you want to share.
How is trust described in the lecture?
Trust is considered the foundation in relationships and can be difficult to regain once lost.
What is calculus-based trust?
Calculus-based trust is based on the consistency of behavior and the fear of consequences, motivating people to keep promises.
What is identification-based trust?
Identification-based trust is based on identifying with someone through shared desires and intentions, developing a collective identity.
What types of topics can be discussed on the discussion board?
Topics can include world political scenarios, environmental issues, social rights, labor unions, and more.
What is the significance of active listening in communication?
Active listening involves not getting distracted, asking for clarifications, and understanding the speaker's perspective.
How is trust repaired according to the lecture?
Trust can be repaired with sincere apologies which include expressing regret, acknowledging responsibility, and declaring repentance.
How does power relate to conflict?
Power involves leveraging one's influence to achieve personal goals and is present in all relationships.
What are some examples of discussion board topics mentioned?
Examples include labor unions, electric vs. gas cars, migrant funding, and Reproductive Rights.

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all right now I'm officially
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recording I have four people down I have
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your names which means um you do not
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need to submit the reflection unless you
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choose to write something that you want
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to share but um you don't need to okay
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so if you have any questions just
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interrupt me I don't consider that rude
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or put a message in the um
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public chat there and I'll answer the
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questions as we go this week we're
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covering chapters uh five and six there
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are three questions which would be part
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of your exam one we will have covered by
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the end of this evening because there
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are eight essay questions for exam um
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one now remember this is weird because
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of
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Christmas um we only have next week and
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then I believe we we have a couple weeks
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off if I have the schedule
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right uh next week ends on December
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15 nope I am wrong we have week four and
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then we take a break for two weeks and
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come back for weeks five and six so this
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is an unusual time um where it's kind of
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divided they've never done that for the
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last couple years they have so moving
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right along uh discussion board this
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week is your first one a couple people
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have done the discussion board they um
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have great
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articles I I want to emphasize to
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everyone to to please
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intentionally um use key chapter
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Concepts and by that I mean um hi
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Jessica write your name down uh if
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you're doing
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uh what you think is enough it's
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probably you need to add a little bit
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more and by intentional look under the
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announcements that was an example of one
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they could have used more but but they
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um underlined and highlighted some of
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the concepts I've given examples on
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feedback of anybody who has already
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submitted theirs on how to do
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that use the vocabulary terms and I know
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that many people are thinking well duh
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people should know
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that you need to say you know in the
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chapter why didn't they use the
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perspective taking Paradigm I think this
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could help you can see that there's a
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lack of of trust here because of such
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and such and such um uh there were power
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plays and we'll get into some of those
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in the next chapter where you can use
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specific words or
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terms does that make
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sense if not let me know I'll be glad to
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go over with you or put something in the
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public chat be intentional of the use of
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the concepts from the
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chapter now someone else said you know I
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don't know too much about what's going
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on in the world politically um as far as
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Wars and history and that's okay um I
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have a couple um discussion topics that
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people have used that have nothing to do
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with fighting and Wars it could be um
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and there is a lot with fighting in Wars
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I mean you could write the entire six
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weeks on those there's Wars all over the
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place um you could do stuff on the
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border wall you could do
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um stuff on labor unions you could do
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stuff on gas cars versus electric
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cars you could do haa a Haitian uh gangs
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that are over trying to overthrow their
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government
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um you could
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do um environmental uh pipeline
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issues you could do lumbering issues you
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could do
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um migrant funding in Chicago New York
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there's a lot of news on that um
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Reproductive Rights Flint Michigan in
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the water you could do the lack of help
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to people in North Carolina through FEMA
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and why they are not getting the support
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from the federal government
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[Music]
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um December you could do it with the um
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chemical Hazard uh due to the train in
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Ohio that
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um train wrecked
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and it was a catastrophe they actually
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blew up one one uh train car trying to
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dissipate the chemicals which made it
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worse saturated
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the soil the land the water everything
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is useless people are getting sick it's
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going to be a long term and they want to
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give everybody a thousand bucks yeah I'm
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going to cut it they can't sell their
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land their property nothing um that is
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an issue going
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on oh those are just a few things that
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that I've come up with oh someone did
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something on the little Roundup in 1863
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and Gettysburg it it it wasn't current
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but you know they did it gun control all
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right those are just some topics that
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might
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help moving on to the essay this week
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There's an announcement it shows um how
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to set up your essay that may not be the
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only way but to me it was a pretty cut
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and dried way to do it uh read over that
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and see see what you think okay if you
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have questions let me know it is a APA
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but only for the title
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page look under student resources it'll
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give you additional resources to look up
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how to do it or you can Google it and
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they'll show you how to do it not a
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problem okay questions so
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far right before class started I went
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ahead and released essay two which is
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due week three that would be next week
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because some of you have other
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obligations and are working ahead it's
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over chapter 34 it's pretty uh specific
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you can read and then get back with me
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with whatever questions you have all
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right so we did chapter seven last week
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communication and the takeaways are
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conflict isn't of inevitable the human
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race has disagreements you have
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disagreements with your spouses with
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your children with your significant
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others with your co-workers um it it's a
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way of life all right it has to do with
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different values different motivations
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perceptions desires ideas that you have
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early intervention helps the sooner you
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can get in to deal with it the sooner
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that you can agree to disagree the
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sooner that you can resolve it the
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problem is when you're emotionally
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attached or upset or angry or frustrated
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rated or spiteful revengeful whatever it
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is you don't want to resolve it and
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that's the issue the emotional thing so
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if you can set the emotions aside and
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work on the betterment of what needs to
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be done doesn't mean you're ever going
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to be friends doesn't mean you're ever
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going to like each other but you can
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resolve the
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issue just just putting that out there
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the key is active listening and someone
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says well what is active listening it
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means I'm not looking on my phone it
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means that I'm looking over the shoulder
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it doesn't it means that um I'm not
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looking at my
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watch um it means I'm asking questions
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for
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clarification I'm saying okay so you're
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saying
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paraphrasing um it's it's concentrating
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its understanding with a an open heart
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does not mean that you're going to
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agree it just means that you are
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listening perspective taking um Paradigm
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that we studied last
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week some of you may or may not have a
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high emotional intelligence IQ would be
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intellectual intelligence very skilled
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at something but not very skilled with
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relationships and emotional intelligence
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understanding when people are angry
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frustrated sad um and then controlling
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emotions and imag um
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uh managing your emotions and emotions
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is another name for
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feelings humans all have
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them sometimes based on your personality
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it's a lot easier to manage and control
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emotions but um some people are very
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emotional and those that are very
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emotional need to be less emotional
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during
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conflict um stuff it put it aside and
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those that are too intellectual need to
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probably be more emotional
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moderation those are all easy to say but
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it's hard to do when you're hardwired
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kind of a certain way but it is possible
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to learn strategies and
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skill all right and trying to find
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win-win not one upmanship not I'm better
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than you type of situations if you can
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those are um not always easy to do but
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but there is some
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possibilities um that we'll talk about
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strategies that can help questions
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all right let's go on to page
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104 and some of you learn best by just
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listening others are kind of doodling on
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your paper and others might have the
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book and taking notes whatever works for
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you so we're on chapter five it's called
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trust trust development and Trust
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repair all right most
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relationships um in the book says that
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um in Conflict trust is in the m is in
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the middle it is like the
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foundation and um most people I think
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that trust is the book says this glue
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that holds a relationship together
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without
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trust it's very difficult to move
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on um I'm sure you've been or heard of
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situations where either bosses are not
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trustworthy for whatever reason or in
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relationships uh when people are
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Unfaithful um either physically or
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emotionally just not there it's hard to
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regain those trust
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back um I love my kids but as teenagers
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and and middle schoolers I loved them
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but I did not trust them all right when
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I followed through whether they knew it
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or not were they supposed were they at
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where they were supposed to be because I
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know it was a big wild world out there
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and they were experimenting and um you
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know kids don't know always think and
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they do stupid stuff so um the trust
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wasn't there loved them didn't always
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trust them and then once they broke my
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trust it was really difficult to get
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that trust back um there's a
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saying that uh trust is built in
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ounces and
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um once that's gone uh it takes away
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pounds I'm sure I misquote it says trust
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is earned in ounces in lost in pounds if
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you think about trust that way so the
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book says well what is trust how do you
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define trust what what is the term well
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the problem is it's um nebulous it's a a
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floating definition uh Scholars who have
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studied this can't really come up with a
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tried and true definition of trust and
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um it's just critical in the social
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process and we've had personality
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therapy they talk about in 105 they've
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had
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sociologists um economists talk about
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trust so what is trust well if you go to
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page 106 it'll give you the definition
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of this book's definition of trust which
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may or may not you know be there see
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what you think at the very top of 106
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it's a an individual's belief our belief
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to believe in and willing to act on the
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basis of the words the actions and the
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decisions of
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others and some of you because of past
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experiences
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um Can can pick up lies or deception
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better than others that are that are um
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maybe more naive or or don't have um
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different experiences so uh do the words
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and the actions match you know I know
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know a lot of people that talk talk the
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talk they're great talkers all right
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they're smooth con
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manipulators their actions don't match
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their
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words that's kind of how I simplify it
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you might have another way so if you go
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down um to 106 this is an essay question
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that's going to be on on the
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exam the question is what is calcul
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based
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trust and what is its primary
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motivator it's a two-part question and
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I'll tell you every time I've taught
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this class there's at least a couple
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that don't tell me what the primary
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mootor motivator is and it's because I
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know they didn't take time to read the
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chapter
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and um you know that you get like I
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think it's uh 200 Point quiz 25 points
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each that's a big deal when you don't
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answer half of it so if you go down make
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sure you do that Define it give it
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example and tell me what the motivator
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is so if you go down to the bottom of
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106 that first
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sentence
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calculated think of calculus in school
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or maybe you don't want to uh um how do
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you calculate uh to think to rationale
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to to decide
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um for or against something what are the
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wrists and vows what are the pros what
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are the cons how you calculate what
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you're going to do you have 20 bucks how
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you going to calculate how you're going
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to spend it okay so it's called a
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deterence based trust deterence um
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means
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uh
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uh like of a detour something against
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going away what why do you go this way
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it's um it's a form of trust that's in
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based on the
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consistency of behavior individuals do
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what they promise because they fear top
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of 107 the consequences for not doing
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something trust is sustained to the
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degree that the deterrent which they say
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is the punishment
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um clear possible and likely to occur if
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trust is vo a violated so it says the
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threat of punishment or the fear of
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punishment is the
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motivator
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example this is
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probably one example is um people join
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um gangs all right um one maybe they
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want a family two they want the
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protection three they don't have um
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other resources to get ahead financially
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quickly it's very
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dangerous um if you don't follow through
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and do what you're supposed to starting
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at the bottom and going up uh moving up
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the line uh you are killed you are
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tortured you are punished your family
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members are
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punished that's a deteriorate um based
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trust it's it's not really based on
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respect it's based on are you going to
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do what you say you're going to do as
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the person running the show and are you
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willing to go along and do what's
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needed but you don't it doesn't mean you
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have to respect them it doesn't even
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mean you have to like them in jobs you
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might have a boss
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uh let's see calculated based trust uh
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my daughter uh took a job a couple years
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ago um she's been in the workforce for
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16 years and um she said she called and
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she she doesn't really talk too much
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about work too much and she said my boss
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he's terrible and she says I have in 16
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years and she makes six figure job she
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does a good job she likes what she's
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doing she's smart but she says in 16
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years I've never had a boss where I
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can't work with through or around
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this guy is very smart but he is not a
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good leader of people okay so this
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started and then recently some stuff
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came up where she she has never in 16
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years gone to HR because you know once
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you go to HR Human Resources chances are
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they're going to look to fire you or
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you're on the Revenge naughty list for
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the boss well three weeks each week he
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did something very spiteful and
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revengeful um this would be the threat
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of punishment and she decided that she
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understood the risk she was taking when
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he put her in the middle between other
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people and told her to document stuff so
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they could use it negatively against
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somebody else's um evaluation and and
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she said no I'm not I won't do that this
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has got to be an HR thing that is I'm
00:18:50
not going to do it um that is not my
00:18:52
rule I don't that that's not my
00:18:55
assignment I'm not going to do it or he'
00:18:58
asked her to fudge some figures on
00:19:00
something she said no I won to it I
00:19:02
wasn't here then they don't represent me
00:19:05
I'm not going to do that um so anyway
00:19:07
since she's gone to HR each week he's
00:19:10
done something very um
00:19:14
spiteful
00:19:16
intimidating and you know she say she
00:19:18
gets fired she gets fired obviously
00:19:19
she's actively looking for a job within
00:19:21
the company or with out but um this
00:19:25
would be um the threat and theyed use
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the example in the book of the
00:19:31
children's game Shoots and
00:19:33
Ladders so yeah yeah um I think you roll
00:19:37
the dice and you go up this ladder and
00:19:39
if you land on a certain spot you can
00:19:41
even go up three or four steps higher
00:19:44
but then if you um fall on a chute it's
00:19:47
like a slide you go back to the
00:19:49
beginning or you lose several spots so
00:19:52
with this type of
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trust um
00:19:59
in little baby steps but once it's
00:20:02
broken you start all over again and
00:20:06
sometimes you never even get it back
00:20:08
okay a couple examples I share those
00:20:10
examples to to give an example of what
00:20:13
that might look like in real life it's
00:20:15
step by step slowly
00:20:18
building um that's called calculus-based
00:20:21
trust some people jump into it because
00:20:24
the rewards that they get might be worth
00:20:27
the fear of what
00:20:29
punishment and if punishment were only
00:20:31
being fired that would be fine but um
00:20:35
sometimes you get so deep into stuff it
00:20:39
um terrible it's a lot worse I mean
00:20:42
we're talking bodily harm physical harm
00:20:45
you know shame uh public ridicule
00:20:49
everything in your whole life n of us
00:20:52
are perfect and we've all made mistakes
00:20:54
that we don't care to have splashed over
00:20:56
the news um that shouldn't Define one
00:21:00
incident um or even a couple defined you
00:21:03
as a human because I think we kind of
00:21:06
grow hopefully and become wiser and
00:21:08
Discerning through our experiences in
00:21:10
some Rel um some people don't most I
00:21:13
would say do at least I like to think
00:21:16
that okay
00:21:18
so this trust um is very
00:21:22
calculated step by step and um you see
00:21:27
this mostly in businesses you might work
00:21:30
with somebody that's a boss and you
00:21:31
might like them you might respect them
00:21:34
um um or her whomever and uh it's not
00:21:38
like you're ever going to be best
00:21:40
friends with them all right even if you
00:21:41
could be you wouldn't be all right that
00:21:44
type of thing you can work with them
00:21:46
you're not taking home with them
00:21:49
questions on that so the the essay
00:21:52
question is explain it and tell me what
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the primary motive motivator is and then
00:21:59
the rest of the chapter will compare
00:22:01
calculated based trust with the next
00:22:04
trust and there's no question on this
00:22:07
but um feel free to say it is not like
00:22:10
identification based Trust on
00:22:12
108 um this is uh a second type of trust
00:22:16
it talks about it's based on others
00:22:20
desires and intentions you can
00:22:23
identify um with somebody
00:22:26
um through a Association a good friend
00:22:30
of yours might uh support you when
00:22:34
somebody's putting you down and you're
00:22:36
not even there all right uh there might
00:22:39
be a little truth to what the other
00:22:40
person's saying but they're going to go
00:22:42
to bat for you and say hey that's not
00:22:44
you know that's not appropriate to talk
00:22:46
this way you don't talk this way here
00:22:48
whatever so identification based trust
00:22:51
and
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um it's it's a bit different um
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it's developing a collective
00:23:03
identity
00:23:05
uh uses uh the metaphor of of uh Harmony
00:23:11
and music if you take a barber shop um
00:23:16
uh group and they all sing in harmony
00:23:20
the quartet they they by themselves
00:23:23
they're different but together they kind
00:23:25
of harmonize and and get along friends
00:23:28
could be this way I've got some friends
00:23:31
that I've had friends for 30 40 years
00:23:34
okay and we're good friends we know our
00:23:35
strengths we know our weaknesses you
00:23:37
know we we care for each other love each
00:23:39
other and then I've got some new friends
00:23:42
I've
00:23:43
met acquaintances but um I'm not sure if
00:23:48
they're they're real friends yet does
00:23:51
that make sense you can know people
00:23:53
superficially but but you might not know
00:23:57
them deeply
00:23:59
and so this is what identification based
00:24:03
trust is about maybe we're in the same
00:24:06
group uh same church example uh husband
00:24:10
and I um go to a church okay and we met
00:24:13
a couple there a couple years ago that's
00:24:15
fine we've done a couple things with
00:24:17
them fine um husband went to help some
00:24:20
help one of them
00:24:23
uh called and said Can can we use your
00:24:25
truck or can you use your truck to help
00:24:27
somebody move uh they need to be moved
00:24:30
and they moved up the moving time three
00:24:32
hours okay fine so I said I
00:24:40
couldn't that into
00:24:44
the parking lot which is like 3 or 4
00:24:47
inches up above you'll get what I'm
00:24:49
telling you that the minute and um
00:24:52
parked his car turned it off so the lady
00:24:55
that he was supposed to meet that was on
00:24:58
beginning new friends so to speak
00:25:02
um sitting in the car well she had
00:25:05
pulled up right to the stop sign which
00:25:07
is right where he was at but he was in
00:25:09
the parking lot and um it was just one
00:25:11
row right off the side of the road and
00:25:14
she got like 12 Ines from his car so
00:25:17
nobody would hit her when it came to the
00:25:18
stops sign night well he started up a
00:25:22
car and moved back and hit her and he
00:25:24
said fine I'll pay for it you know he
00:25:27
hit the side of the car well I think if
00:25:29
a cops have been called they would have
00:25:30
said
00:25:31
no no um no fault either way you're both
00:25:35
at fault she shouldn't have been 12 Ines
00:25:37
the sensors of the car didn't go out he
00:25:39
couldn't even see her in either of his
00:25:40
mirrors and um so anyway we ended up
00:25:43
paying $5,000 the insurance did and um
00:25:47
which is fine nobody was hurt that's the
00:25:50
most important thing but it was the
00:25:52
attitude of well just turn it into your
00:25:54
insurance it's no big deal that's what
00:25:55
you have insurance for insurance went up
00:25:57
$700 we lost safe driving we did for
00:26:00
three years and there was no
00:26:02
accountability on her part saying you
00:26:04
know I par too close that was crazy I
00:26:07
shouldn't have done that and I I
00:26:09
apologize for that and I thank you for
00:26:10
turning it in that's all I wanted I
00:26:13
wasn't even in the car so needless to
00:26:16
say I don't want to hang out with her
00:26:18
okay it's
00:26:19
just um I don't hate her I'm not angry
00:26:25
but um I guess the the arrog
00:26:28
of not being accountable or responsible
00:26:31
is not somebody want to hang out with I
00:26:33
got other other things to do with my
00:26:36
time and people so um maybe you think
00:26:39
that's pett of me I don't know but um
00:26:42
this would be an identification trust
00:26:44
because we belong to the
00:26:46
same general group and we're trying to
00:26:50
develop friends in this group which is
00:26:52
hard to do especially when you get older
00:26:56
um it it it's done I'm done don't I
00:26:59
don't dislike the person I just don't
00:27:01
want to hang with him anymore that would
00:27:03
be identification thrust we had things
00:27:05
in common and uh this thing just put me
00:27:09
back and it's like gosh I don't want
00:27:12
that TR in relationships is pretty
00:27:16
big questions on that
00:27:20
questions all right the rest of the
00:27:23
chapter talks about um
00:27:28
to which you trust
00:27:31
somebody it they they've come up with
00:27:34
your
00:27:35
personality your uh psychological
00:27:39
orientation how you grew up your
00:27:43
experiences
00:27:44
[Music]
00:27:46
um on on how easily you trust or
00:27:50
distrust I already shared I grew up in a
00:27:52
call like Dysfunctional Family Trust is
00:27:54
hard for me I get it I understand that
00:27:57
especially with authority figures didn't
00:27:59
they have good experiences didn't have a
00:28:01
lot of respect so um it takes a while
00:28:04
for me to um not not that
00:28:12
I'm figures I don't care if you're an
00:28:15
authority give me the facts give me the
00:28:18
details I'll make my own
00:28:20
decision um went
00:28:22
to and uh terrible allergies and the
00:28:27
doctor said um
00:28:28
what you know I don't need to see
00:28:30
anymore ENT you haven't had to have
00:28:32
tubes in your ears for a couple years
00:28:34
blah blah blah it says you're on
00:28:36
singular anybody in there on singular or
00:28:39
monol Lucas is the generic name they're
00:28:41
blackboxing it I didn't know they did
00:28:43
this to Medicine blackbox means they the
00:28:46
medicine um is causing significant
00:28:48
issues Mir the drug company um has
00:28:52
already gotten all their money from the
00:28:53
patent of it and the patent is off so
00:28:55
now people can copy it so
00:28:58
um they don't care they can take it off
00:29:00
the market and he said that's usually a
00:29:02
step that they're going to take it off
00:29:03
the market because it creates depression
00:29:05
suicidal thoughts and some other
00:29:08
physical illnesses through use that are
00:29:11
just coming out now I said God I've been
00:29:14
on it for youth he said well try do what
00:29:16
you want but most people are saying you
00:29:18
you can find something else out there
00:29:19
and he gave me some names of other stuff
00:29:22
so I said well I I trust you and Trust
00:29:25
does not come easy for me he said you
00:29:27
can read up on it okay I said okay but I
00:29:29
but I trust you saying that
00:29:31
because you know I trust your medical
00:29:34
opinion so anyway I did research it and
00:29:36
he's absolutely right but
00:29:39
um just because somebody has a
00:29:42
reputation or somebody has a job that
00:29:44
makes money or has an authority figure
00:29:47
over doesn't mean that they're right
00:29:48
doesn't mean that they're good doesn't
00:29:50
mean that they're kind doesn't mean
00:29:51
anything then they've got a job over you
00:29:55
okay um
00:29:58
didn't work hard for it that's not what
00:30:00
I'm saying it's just depending on the
00:30:02
sit where does trust and distrust come
00:30:05
in where is it money oriented greed
00:30:10
oriented pushing a certain thing and
00:30:12
where is it what's best for the person
00:30:14
and only you can decide that
00:30:18
so different personalities um are more
00:30:21
trusting and your experiences that's all
00:30:24
I'm going to say that pretty much goes
00:30:26
there now if you go to page 114 it
00:30:30
actually takes identification thrust and
00:30:32
calculus space trust and it shows you
00:30:35
the different situations in trust versus
00:30:39
distrust and so when they have the D
00:30:41
it's distrust on this um table 5.1
00:30:45
that's kind of interesting to look at
00:30:50
okay and the breast of B gives
00:30:52
strategies on how to do this and and
00:30:55
what can happen What happens when TR is
00:30:58
violated we've all had trust violated
00:31:01
you don't trust them might not even
00:31:03
respect them um it occurs and uh you're
00:31:08
sad you're disappointed you're angry
00:31:10
you're upset depending on the offense
00:31:12
all
00:31:13
right uh violations mean you're not
00:31:18
going to be cooperating with them you're
00:31:20
not going to hang out with them um you
00:31:22
that means that something has been
00:31:24
severed something has been damaged you
00:31:26
tear a hole in your shirt and you sew it
00:31:28
up okay you might put it back together
00:31:30
but you can still see the line so you're
00:31:32
can still have a scar of scab with the
00:31:35
distrust all right and I know couples
00:31:39
who have successfully gotten back
00:31:41
together after um something um pretty
00:31:44
traumatic is in their relationship but
00:31:47
it takes a lot of hard work and a lot of
00:31:50
I don't I'd say praying personally but a
00:31:53
lot of hard work and understanding and
00:31:55
honesty to get it back and it is
00:31:58
possible sometimes not so much to repair
00:32:01
trust it goes on to talk about trust
00:32:04
repair and talk as cheap people can talk
00:32:07
but if they can't put the talk with the
00:32:09
actions then are they really
00:32:13
um willing to to overcome this and what
00:32:19
is an apology or sincere apologies this
00:32:22
is one thing I really loved about this
00:32:24
chapter on page 122 at the bottom no
00:32:27
there's no question but all of us in our
00:32:30
lives have or will have to apologize at
00:32:34
some point in our in our lives in order
00:32:36
to move on all right and apology is very
00:32:39
difficult for people when I um first
00:32:42
retired I was kind of bored and like you
00:32:45
know
00:32:46
working working you know 40 60 hours a
00:32:49
week and then just like oh my gosh okay
00:32:51
I had some Hobbies but not enough to
00:32:53
keep me busy so anyway I got a part-time
00:32:54
job at a foil shop loved it and and it
00:32:58
was within a a um grocery store and so
00:33:03
this young guy came
00:33:06
in I don't know he said and he just
00:33:09
grabbed three Bunches of flowers they
00:33:11
didn't even really go together but he
00:33:13
grabbed them okay he said can you bre
00:33:15
these look nice for me I got to give
00:33:17
these to my wife I said okay you're
00:33:19
pretty hairy he goes yes I totally
00:33:21
screwed up and I said oh and he said I
00:33:25
was at a party and uh my mom was there
00:33:29
and everybody was drinking it with her
00:33:30
family and she had her boyfriend there
00:33:32
and I made a comment uh about her
00:33:36
boyfriend or something and she turned
00:33:38
around and said with my wife there well
00:33:40
at least um I didn't marry my second pck
00:33:44
holy cow I said oh my goodness your poor
00:33:48
wife how upsetting he goes yes he goes
00:33:52
you know I better get a chocolate in a
00:33:53
card too and I said okay so I I arranged
00:33:56
it came back blah blah and I saidou know
00:33:59
there are six steps to a real apology
00:34:02
you know Cha's nice cards nice flowers
00:34:05
are nice but she really needs to hear
00:34:07
from you goes oh I said here are the six
00:34:10
steps so these are great steps that I
00:34:13
remember in any situation to help and if
00:34:17
you look at the bottom paragraph on 122
00:34:20
they're awesome to use six potential
00:34:23
components to a fully effective apology
00:34:29
one Express
00:34:31
regret I am so
00:34:35
sorry for what happened at the party and
00:34:39
what my mom
00:34:41
said and then two why it occurred you
00:34:46
know it was my big mouth making a
00:34:48
comment putting down her boyfriend that
00:34:50
she came back and said that uh which is
00:34:54
not
00:34:55
true acknowledgement of the respon it's
00:34:58
my fault it's it I started it and I
00:35:02
should have kept my mouth shut but we're
00:35:04
rude and crude and I just got to learn
00:35:06
to be better I never meant to cause you
00:35:09
pain Declaration of repentance okay
00:35:13
um in the
00:35:16
future I will you know stand up for you
00:35:22
deny what she said it I should have and
00:35:25
I didn't it's not true
00:35:28
and um then it says
00:35:32
uh I am sorry for the hurt that's caused
00:35:35
you I love you I respect you and um um I
00:35:41
know what I'm giving you doesn't make up
00:35:43
for the hurt but I'm asking to forgive
00:35:45
me I said you need to use all those
00:35:48
steps in the apology because it means
00:35:51
nothing so what you bought her some
00:35:53
flowers what are you going to do to
00:35:54
prevent it in the future why did it
00:35:57
happen to begin with and don't make the
00:36:00
excuse cuz our familyes like that it's
00:36:03
wrong said oh okay I said well come back
00:36:06
and tell me how it worked well he never
00:36:07
came back but I just wondered how it
00:36:08
worked six steps to an apology if you
00:36:11
mean it to help repair
00:36:15
trust
00:36:19
questions now some people then in like
00:36:22
in business reparations you know will
00:36:25
will'll give you three months free of
00:36:26
such and such because we screwed up you
00:36:29
know doing this or doing that that type
00:36:31
of things um violations can be
00:36:36
repaired when the
00:36:39
offender gives us sincere timely
00:36:44
apologies so 122 all right that pretty
00:36:48
much takes us to uh this
00:36:53
chapter and if you go to page 126
00:36:56
towards the very end it says managing
00:36:59
conflict well a lot of times conflict um
00:37:03
you know has trust
00:37:05
violations and trust is often the first
00:37:08
casualty in a conflict whenever there's
00:37:10
something going on there's a breach of
00:37:12
trust and then you have distrust and
00:37:15
sometimes it can be big big things or
00:37:17
little little things and it says
00:37:20
creating trust in a relationship is
00:37:23
initially a matter of building calculus
00:37:26
based Trust
00:37:28
building it and then it turns into
00:37:31
identification based trust because you
00:37:33
have a bonding a cement a beginning of
00:37:35
about relationship but they can all be
00:37:38
destroyed through
00:37:42
um
00:37:43
right it talks about um in a job you
00:37:48
know if people are constantly late or
00:37:50
you know or are they on time can you
00:37:52
give them something to do if you're in
00:37:54
charge of some people and you know it
00:37:56
will be done it
00:37:58
be done in a timely manner it'll be done
00:38:00
you know efficiently and then there are
00:38:04
some people that you trust more than
00:38:06
others you might trust some people to
00:38:09
let your dog out when you're gone for a
00:38:11
couple days but you're not going to
00:38:12
trust them to repay a thousand bucks you
00:38:14
m them
00:38:17
okay so there's different variances of
00:38:20
of trust and what it is questions
00:38:24
questions that's that chapter so I'm
00:38:27
moving right along to power and conflict
00:38:30
so in your discussion board you can say
00:38:32
there's a u most of you were well not
00:38:35
most of you all of you are sharing a
00:38:36
conflict there's been trust that has
00:38:38
been broken and you could say the trust
00:38:41
has been broken
00:38:43
because du all right um or whatever but
00:38:48
but that's how you would embed that
00:38:51
concept so let's go to Power and
00:38:54
conflict when you think of power what do
00:38:57
you think of on page
00:39:00
137 power is commonly used in Conflict
00:39:03
as a leverage for achieving your own
00:39:07
personal goals power all relationships
00:39:11
have a power element you have children
00:39:13
you've got the
00:39:15
power right you might be reasonable
00:39:19
parent you might be a strict parent but
00:39:22
a fair parent but you're willing to
00:39:25
compromise but you have the power the
00:39:29
power of the money the power of taking
00:39:30
away the phone the power of taking away
00:39:32
the video games in your um place of
00:39:36
employment the power would be the boss
00:39:41
evaluation pay
00:39:43
increases job
00:39:45
responsibilities those all would be
00:39:49
examples of power now not all power is
00:39:51
misused all right that's not what I'm
00:39:53
saying but the boss wants you know to
00:39:55
meet their goals in order to meet their
00:39:57
goals the people that are working for
00:39:59
them have to do whatever they're
00:40:01
supposed to do so everything in the
00:40:04
business runs
00:40:08
um and they make a profit typically you
00:40:11
know that's what you what so
00:40:15
um there's different types of power
00:40:18
conflicts okay we're going to talk about
00:40:20
that so we go to 138 discussion of
00:40:24
power okay when you think of power
00:40:28
think of what comes to your mind as far
00:40:30
as a definition it's very elusive it's
00:40:33
kind of like a Mercury of an old
00:40:36
thermometer if you ever broke one you
00:40:38
got this old ball that's silver and you
00:40:40
touch it I know you're not supposed to
00:40:42
but when you touch it they don't make
00:40:43
them M anymore and it goes into a little
00:40:46
balls and sometime they come together
00:40:48
and they just kind of move all the time
00:40:49
it's kind of fun to watch them that's
00:40:51
kind of what power is what is power are
00:40:54
we talking physical power great muscles
00:40:57
we talking intellectual power uh
00:41:00
entrepreneurship creative ideas we
00:41:03
talking emotional power good working
00:41:05
with people has that aura that
00:41:08
personality are we talking power because
00:41:10
you have a great physical skill a great
00:41:12
football player basketball player
00:41:14
volleyball player are we're talking
00:41:17
power because of the name brand you were
00:41:20
um born into a family that
00:41:23
um lots of money and so you you
00:41:28
have this sense of entitlement or this
00:41:32
um you didn't have to worry about the
00:41:34
price of eggs or bread okay um that's
00:41:37
power all right so it depends on how
00:41:41
power is used it can be used effectively
00:41:45
or
00:41:46
ineffectively regardless of what you
00:41:48
think of Donald
00:41:49
Trump
00:41:51
since it came out that he will be
00:41:54
president look at the people around the
00:41:56
world whether you like him or not who
00:41:59
are making steps to reach out to him
00:42:02
from uh the president um of Mexico to uh
00:42:07
Trudeau and Canada to people in other um
00:42:19
countries how does he get that how do
00:42:22
you know he has it um or doesn't have it
00:42:26
so
00:42:28
the personality if you go to page 139 it
00:42:33
talks about three types of power and
00:42:35
these are terms that you can use in your
00:42:37
discussion board at the bottom of the
00:42:39
page it says power is dynamic at a um a
00:42:44
stable characteristic
00:42:46
of
00:42:48
it it's just really hard to pinpoint
00:42:51
what what the power dynamics
00:42:53
are um Environmental
00:42:57
power relational power and personal
00:43:01
power you could use these as vocabulary
00:43:04
terms when you're describing your art
00:43:07
articles so environmental power um how
00:43:12
can they influence their environment
00:43:14
well if you own the company it's pretty
00:43:15
easy to do it if you're the boss of two
00:43:18
or 300 people and you're the general
00:43:21
manager then you have a lot of
00:43:24
environmental power I'm not talking
00:43:26
about clean your environment that's not
00:43:28
what I'm talking about the area that you
00:43:30
control all right
00:43:33
um each of you probably has quite a bit
00:43:37
of power in your your
00:43:40
home of who lives there all right you
00:43:44
have some control some of you have a lot
00:43:47
of control it it just difference now
00:43:50
relationship power is um the
00:43:54
influence that you have over another
00:43:56
person or people relational now remember
00:43:59
the only person in the world that you
00:44:01
can
00:44:02
control would be
00:44:05
yourself control other people yeah if
00:44:07
you have a weapon knife gun sure you can
00:44:10
control people that's coercive power
00:44:12
that's not what I'm talking about I'm
00:44:13
talking about the only Power you have to
00:44:16
control is
00:44:18
yourself um you can influence others but
00:44:22
I'm talking in general not atypical
00:44:25
situations so in person power would be
00:44:30
um
00:44:33
oh what assets do you have or do you
00:44:35
bring to the
00:44:37
table all right so go to page 140 and
00:44:41
141 that's where we're at Now talks
00:44:44
about the different types of power it
00:44:46
talks about power bases influence
00:44:50
strategies um it can be well Social
00:44:54
Capital physical strength weapons in
00:44:57
intelligence knowledge legitimacy
00:44:59
respect affection organizational skills
00:45:02
and on and on and on those are types of
00:45:06
powers that can influence other people
00:45:10
now it talks about primary and secondary
00:45:12
power what does that mean you could use
00:45:15
these Concepts in um your discussion
00:45:18
board power has two distinct levels it
00:45:22
has and it talks and I'm doing um page
00:45:25
140 if you look at that right there here
00:45:28
it talks about
00:45:31
um one determines the nature of the
00:45:33
interactions among the players of the
00:45:36
field one determining the nature of the
00:45:38
field itself secondary power refers to
00:45:42
the exercise of power primary power
00:45:44
refers to the ability to shape the
00:45:49
normative domain wherever you're at and
00:45:52
affect the um social historical process
00:45:56
of reality construction so the primary
00:45:58
is what is the reality what are the
00:46:01
power bases um what is a sense of
00:46:05
fairness of truth of Justice how is that
00:46:10
constructed your
00:46:12
ideologies that's the primary power base
00:46:16
us our sense of
00:46:18
truth I would
00:46:20
think I've done this before with another
00:46:23
class where they had to write down um
00:46:27
a list of
00:46:30
uh oh their own moral code what is their
00:46:34
moral code and they were from all
00:46:37
different um areas some national
00:46:40
students some International students and
00:46:43
they pretty much had pretty similar code
00:46:46
of honor um which was really interesting
00:46:50
now how that manifested itself may not
00:46:53
be but a sense of fairness a a sense of
00:46:56
justice
00:46:58
um are what they
00:47:00
valued now it's very difficult to change
00:47:03
a person's I
00:47:05
ideology all right
00:47:08
um it's really hard to have a debate or
00:47:12
an
00:47:13
argument uh in which the belief systems
00:47:17
are totally totally
00:47:19
different which again results in many of
00:47:22
the wars that we see based on um
00:47:27
political ideologies or spiritual
00:47:30
ideologies it's very difficult to come
00:47:34
together and they might never come
00:47:37
together but if they can come together
00:47:38
in the sense of what is truth or basic
00:47:41
human rights maybe we would get further
00:47:45
okay and then primary power refers to
00:47:48
the ability to
00:47:50
affect the media think about it the
00:47:53
media the law and the policy
00:48:02
us isn't perfect but but uh we've got
00:48:05
tons of problems and and we've made
00:48:07
mistakes
00:48:09
but when I see what's going on in other
00:48:12
parts of the world and countries I don't
00:48:14
think there's another country I'd want
00:48:15
to live in I know there's not there
00:48:17
isn't um but that doesn't mean that we
00:48:20
don't stop trying to to be um
00:48:32
anything in the media left or right I
00:48:34
don't even know if there's anything that
00:48:36
any media alert that just gives the
00:48:39
without
00:48:40
slanting um and
00:48:42
policies all right um so that's kind of
00:48:46
what that what that's talking about
00:48:48
secondary power it talks about to how do
00:48:51
you transform how do you change how do
00:48:54
you make permanent changes in things um
00:48:56
um to the primary
00:49:00
power there have been a lot of hostile
00:49:03
takeovers of countries and coops and as
00:49:05
uh South Korea just had an uprising
00:49:07
where they did um I just read it today
00:49:10
they had 12 hours of Martial law they
00:49:13
don't like the guys in power currently
00:49:16
and um martial law and people were
00:49:19
protesting and um often people protest
00:49:23
for Noble causes but they they end up
00:49:26
getting all screwed up and it becomes
00:49:28
kind of what they were trying to get
00:49:29
away
00:49:31
from right it talks about topown middle
00:49:35
out or bottom up power you can read
00:49:37
about that on your
00:49:39
own
00:49:41
questions so
00:49:44
far so it talks about it keeps going and
00:49:48
if you will go
00:49:50
to um components of what power is it
00:49:53
breaks it down on page 142 143 uh Power
00:49:58
orientations um how do you support
00:50:00
others how do you let people be
00:50:03
independent but yet still get their work
00:50:05
done you can read that togetherness how
00:50:08
do you get
00:50:09
organizations um to work together for a
00:50:12
common goal team building is pretty big
00:50:15
um do you give team a uh rewards do you
00:50:17
give individual Awards how do you get
00:50:19
people to um in leadership roles to be
00:50:24
gently assertive everybody can be pain
00:50:27
in the butt to be assertive that's
00:50:28
really easy to do but how are you gently
00:50:31
which being gentle is a huge uh sign of
00:50:35
strength but yet be assertive in in what
00:50:39
needs to be done in holding people
00:50:41
accountable how do you do that in a in a
00:50:44
gracious way but yet still be firm about
00:50:48
it um
00:50:50
so it it goes on it talks about that and
00:50:53
if you go to page 145 this is is another
00:50:57
essay question on on the um
00:51:01
test um explain and defined in your own
00:51:06
words yes you can use a few words from
00:51:08
the book but all of the questions on the
00:51:11
essay or the exams will say this is the
00:51:14
concept explain it to me use your own
00:51:17
words yes you can use some of the words
00:51:19
but it can't be copied you know exactly
00:51:22
from the textbook but um explain what
00:51:25
authoritarian ism is from the textbook
00:51:31
and honestly I don't make these
00:51:33
questions up it's a very short paragraph
00:51:36
okay but
00:51:37
authoritarianism explain what it is in
00:51:40
the classic sense but then also give the
00:51:44
perspective and this is a question also
00:51:47
from the psycho dnamic view
00:51:50
psychodynamic view is a fancy way of
00:51:52
saying uh if you remember Psychology 101
00:51:56
Freud was a um psychoanalytic and he
00:51:59
believed
00:52:00
that tile affected how they dealt with
00:52:04
um issues in the future unless they've
00:52:08
dealt with
00:52:10
them things that have happened to a kid
00:52:12
influence their behavior as an adult
00:52:15
unless they've work really hard to
00:52:16
overcome them okay so how is that
00:52:19
related to authoritarianism so the
00:52:22
classic approach is to influence
00:52:25
people's orientations to power is
00:52:30
authoritarianism
00:52:32
authoritarianism okay it involves this
00:52:35
is the definition an
00:52:39
exaggerated overblown need to submit to
00:52:44
or to identify with strong
00:52:48
Authority if you grow up in a very
00:52:52
rigid um a verying
00:52:56
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00:52:57
dominant um
00:53:05
Family hurt or beat or punished unfairly
00:53:09
and you didn't have an opinion you
00:53:11
didn't there was no room for compromise
00:53:14
all right so it's an exaggerated need to
00:53:18
do this um some countries are oriented
00:53:23
this way just because of fear of death
00:53:27
or punishment of some sort um it
00:53:30
originates now this is the second part
00:53:32
of the question from the psycho dnamic
00:53:35
Theory it's a syndrome that is thought
00:53:37
to stem from early rearing by parents
00:53:41
who use
00:53:43
harsh rigid forms of
00:53:46
discipline harsh and rigid demand
00:53:50
unquestioning
00:53:52
obedience and are um overly conscious of
00:53:57
distinctions and status I'm the adult
00:54:00
you're the kid shut up do what I say
00:54:02
don't question I don't have to give you
00:54:03
a reason why just do it all right and
00:54:06
are contemptuous or exploiting um um
00:54:12
exploitative to those of a lower status
00:54:15
it's almost like a sense of entitlement
00:54:18
because I'm older I'm stronger I can uh
00:54:21
you know outdo you you're nothing but a
00:54:23
lowly kid uh type of a feeling and then
00:54:27
you actually um live that out and maybe
00:54:31
even hook up with people who are um very
00:54:34
ative over
00:54:36
you male or
00:54:39
female but it's because that's what you
00:54:41
expected that's what you grew up with a
00:54:43
lack of confidence self-esteem a feeling
00:54:47
that that um this need to submit for
00:54:50
whatever reason self analyze and
00:54:53
self-reflect that um type of thing
00:54:57
the
00:54:58
child internalizes the values of the
00:55:01
parents or whomever raised you therefore
00:55:05
inclined to be toward a dominant
00:55:09
punitive approach to power relations so
00:55:14
um it's all about
00:55:18
punishment um and and you can even car
00:55:20
this over there are bosses who are like
00:55:23
that punitive uh my uh daughter uh boss
00:55:28
you know is trying to be very punitive
00:55:30
she's a very strong lady so um her
00:55:33
husband said you know we can make it a
00:55:35
my C till you find something if you ever
00:55:37
just want to walk out well she's got too
00:55:40
much gumption I think to do that right
00:55:42
now but um um it's it's
00:55:49
getting but I am I can't run little men
00:55:52
for other people and that's kind of a
00:55:54
position that he put me in and then they
00:55:56
kind of put me in so um it's very
00:55:59
stressful and trying to get your job
00:56:01
done so um individuals high in
00:56:08
authoritarianism tend to favor absolute
00:56:12
obedience to
00:56:14
Authority and resist personal
00:56:18
freedom all your rights to somebody else
00:56:23
well um I would
00:56:34
so I don't know you can be a boss but
00:56:36
you better be fair you better be good or
00:56:39
I just won't be there
00:56:42
and even if it's to a detriment to
00:56:44
myself uh as far as leaving when you
00:56:47
know you shouldn't quit until you have
00:56:48
another job type thing all right so
00:56:51
that's what that is this the these
00:56:53
Tendencies would be more likely to
00:56:55
orient toward either
00:56:57
authoritarianism or sometimes you go way
00:57:00
far the other way and become very
00:57:03
submissive and let people have power
00:57:06
over you if that makes
00:57:10
sending on you status of the other party
00:57:14
so that's the question give tell me what
00:57:17
authoritarianism is tuck a power and
00:57:22
tell
00:57:22
me from a psycho analytic viewpoint why
00:57:27
people might
00:57:30
um either follow somebody who is very
00:57:33
authoritative or become very
00:57:36
authoritative based on Early Childhood
00:57:38
practices questions on
00:57:44
that that is about the
00:57:47
only um places that you're going to find
00:57:51
it in the book there really isn't um
00:57:54
anything else there right let me see if
00:57:58
I've covered this and see y
00:58:03
yep what is
00:58:05
it authoritarianism and based on the
00:58:08
cycle an so we are over and I will stick
00:58:12
around I hope this was helpful for you
00:58:15
and um take care let me know what
00:58:18
questions you have and I will make
00:58:20
comments under all your discussion
00:58:22
boards I won't fully grade it till you
00:58:24
have a chance to respond to two two
00:58:26
peers remember at least a hundred words
00:58:29
to each of the peers um it can be as
00:58:31
long as you want but it has to be
00:58:33
substantial anything less than a 100 um
00:58:37
it's just too General so anyway you have
00:58:40
essay one this week look at the
00:58:42
announcements I'll stick around you all
00:58:44
have a good evening I will turn off the
00:58:47
recording