The Power Of NOT Reacting (How To Regulate Emotions) [Japanese Dub Available]

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=laQIz0hLeII

摘要

TLDRThe video discusses the power of silence and restraint, emphasizing that not reacting to provocations is a strength rather than a weakness. By mastering the art of non-reactivity, individuals exhibit strong character and avoid being swayed by external negativity. Key strategies for managing reactions include recognizing extreme emotions, employing chemical countdowns—a technique to achieve calmness by mentally counting down—and understanding the root causes of one's triggers. The importance of empathy is highlighted as it allows a person to see beyond actions, understanding others' intentions and preventing offense. There are several benefits outlined for mastering this skill: improved decision-making, as a calm mind leads to clearer choices; better relationships, as mindful communication reduces conflict; and increased focus, as ignoring unnecessary distractions keeps one on track. Letting go of pent up anger through healthy outlets is also emphasized as essential for mental and physical health. Remaining composed can prevent others from using provocation against an individual. Overall, the video suggests that mastering non-reactivity is a powerful leadership trait that contributes to a more peaceful and fulfilling life.

心得

  • 💪 Silence and restraint are strengths, not weaknesses.
  • 🧠 Mastering the art of not reacting improves decision-making.
  • 💡 Empathy helps you understand others and prevents taking offense.
  • 🔑 Controlled responses foster strong relationships.
  • 🌟 Focus on what's important, ignoring distractions.
  • 💥 Chemical countdowns can help calm emotions.
  • 💬 Mindful communication reduces conflict.
  • 🔍 Know the root causes of your triggers.
  • 🏋️ Release pent up emotions through healthy outlets.
  • 👥 Empathy helps you see others' intentions.

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    The video discusses the power in silence and restraint, highlighting these as strengths rather than weaknesses. It emphasizes the importance of mastering the skill of not reacting, which involves recognizing extreme emotions and delaying impulsive reactions. The video suggests practical tips on becoming more reserved by practicing 'chemical countdowns,' which help calm nerves, and encourages introspection to identify true triggers. Further, it addresses how holding on to anger can impact mental and physical health, advocating for the release of emotions in a healthy manner. Techniques such as empathy are recommended for mastering non-reaction, which helps see beyond others' actions and intentions.

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视频问答

  • Why is not reacting considered a strength?

    Not reacting is seen as a strength because it demonstrates self-control and prevents giving power to those trying to provoke a negative reaction.

  • What are chemical countdowns and why are they important?

    Chemical countdowns are a method where you count down from 1 to 10 or vice versa to calm your nerves and delay impulsive reactions.

  • How does empathy help in not reacting?

    Empathy allows you to see beyond others' actions, understanding their intentions and feelings, which helps you remain calm and less offended.

  • What are the benefits of mastering the art of not reacting?

    Benefits include fostering better relationships, making more thoughtful decisions, and avoiding giving power to those who try to provoke you.

  • How can letting go of pent up anger benefit you?

    Releasing pent up anger can improve both mental and physical health, preventing unexpected emotional outbursts.

  • What impact does self-control have on leadership according to studies?

    Studies suggest that self-control significantly aids in gaining and maintaining power, which is essential for effective leadership.

  • How does focusing on important things help in controlling reactions?

    By focusing on what truly matters and ignoring negativity, you maintain momentum and prevent distractions from impacting your goals.

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    there is a power in your silence and
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    restraint this is not a weakness it is
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    an unquantifiable expression of strength
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    one powerful show of character and
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    strength is not giving into every word
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    or action thrown your way to be a person
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    of this nature you must Master the skill
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    of not reacting why is this important
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    why must it be mastered continue
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    watching this video to find out to
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    harness this power of not reacting you
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    first have to recognize extreme emotions
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    and delay impulsive reactions when they
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    come to the surface here are some tips
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    to help you become more reserved
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    chemical countdowns the first step to be
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    more reserved is just being at the
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    moment by taking slow breaths there is a
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    tendency to go with a rush of the
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    emotions that flood our minds upon
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    hearing certain words or receiving
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    certain actions but taking a second to
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    have a countdown in our minds goes a
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    long way psychologists refer to this as
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    a chemical countdown from 1 to 10 from
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    10 to 1 again as based as it sounds
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    practicing chemical countdowns helps you
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    calm your nerves and remain in control
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    of your
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    impulses find your roots ask yourself
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    the right questions identify what is
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    really triggering you sometimes when
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    someone does or says something to
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    provoke a reaction out of you most times
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    it's not what they said or did sometimes
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    it's not even the how or why but rather
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    something else entirely that has to do
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    more within us than them when next
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    you're offended ask yourself is this
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    really a valid reason to cause me to act
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    out of character or am I just looking
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    for an excuse to vent inner
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    resentment if you're finding this video
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    helpful please give it a like and a
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    thumbs up let go of reserved anger or
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    stress according to Sarah Lindberg for
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    Healthline pent up anger or anger that's
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    been withheld and not expressed can
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    affect your mental and physical health
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    that's why it's important to identify
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    address validate and move past these
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    feelings the longer we bottle up stress
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    anger or resentment the more chances it
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    emerges in moments we don't expect I
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    know you're hurt it's okay to be tired
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    but it serves you more to release your
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    emotions in a fruitful and productive
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    manner this can be letting it out
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    through working out running or having a
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    conversation with whoever caused you
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    hurt if it's safe for you if not
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    distance yourself but talk to a third
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    party you both respect the goal is to be
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    in control of the negative emotions and
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    not allow them to grow within you to the
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    extent they control you know the
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    consequences the huge reason many don't
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    know the power of reservation is that
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    they can't see nor understand the
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    consequences of uncalculated reactions
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    when you take a moment to discern the
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    results of a sudden reaction you might
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    just prefer to stay calm and rise above
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    the situation for example if reacting
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    would only make matters worse or drag
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    you into a messy situation perhaps that
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    was the intention to bring you down you
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    wouldn't want to give someone or
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    something beneath you more power would
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    you have empathy an ultimate technique
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    to help you master the art of not
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    reacting is to be full of love and
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    empathy when your heart is abundant with
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    love and empathy it will be difficult to
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    take offense because you see beyond
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    their actions and see the hearts
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    intentions behind them when you see
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    their heart instead of being hurt by
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    their actions you see things from their
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    point of view you see their pain and not
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    get cut up in your
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    feelings benefits of not reacting why
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    should you master the art of not
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    reacting
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    being Invincible if someone is
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    deliberately provoking you to elicit a
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    reaction for their own benefit mastering
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    the art of not reacting becomes even
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    more crucial the more composed and
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    unbothered you remain the less likely
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    they are to continue using that tactic
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    against you better decisions imagine how
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    much more peaceful and fulfilling your
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    life could be with clearer more
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    thoughtful choices when you're calm you
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    can make better decisions these
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    decisions result in a better quality of
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    life a St stud by the University of
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    California San Diego found that
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    self-control significantly contributes
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    to gaining and maintaining power which
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    is vital for effective leadership your
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    ability to manage impulses and stay
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    focused on long-term goals makes you the
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    leader you are deep within strong
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    relationships John gotman an expert in
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    couple therapy highlights the negative
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    communication patterns during conflicts
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    can deeply hurt relationships if not
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    addressed harsh words and criticism can
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    ES escalate conflicts fostering
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    resentment and defensiveness by being
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    Mindful and compassionate in our
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    communication you can nurture stronger
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    more resilient relationships if your
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    important relationships must last as
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    much as there has to be transparency
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    there has to be gentless during heated
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    conversations more Focus taking your
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    attention from a necessary thing shifts
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    your side to the things that truly
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    matter for example let's say someone
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    runs into you without apologizing
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    or someone's trolling your content in
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    the comment section you can react in
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    attack or defense better still you can
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    just resume your journey and not let
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    people's negativity distract you from
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    your momentum you're not a robot you're
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    human with feelings and impulses it is
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    okay to feel but you don't always have
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    to give power to those feelings because
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    in the end feelings may fade but the
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    words or actions that spur us on
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    impulsively will stick with us by
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    utilizing these tips you will Master a
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    super trait that makes you a leader in a
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    situation want to learn more about
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    habits that build confidence and
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    self-esteem watch this video and as
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    always thank you for watching
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  • silence
  • restraint
  • non-reactivity
  • self-control
  • empathy
  • decision-making
  • relationships
  • focus
  • anger management
  • leadership