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wear what you're going to use at the
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interview in advance and be comfortable
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make sure that your handshake is proper
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sat uppr good posture eye contact but
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you are not staring them
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down the human body is always
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transmitting the question is who is
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receiving that
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information the interview really starts
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before the interview outside the door
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already when someone hands in a CV or
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their social media when you're parking
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your car are you taking a space that is
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not allowed are you greeting the
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security person that is standing there I
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remember going to an interview once and
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the person that was going to interview
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me was in the elevator with me sometimes
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I give uh CEOs the advice sit down on
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that reception stool and observe the
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person who's coming in because then you
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can also already see how they're
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treating reception staff we assess each
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other in milliseconds not even seconds
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it's not just your body language or
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facial expressions it's everything that
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communicates some people are making
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already judgments you have to make a
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good impression first by understanding
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that you have to make a good impression
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selling yourself you're promoting
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yourself so that's why you need to be
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confident and be perceived as
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trustworthy as well as competent know
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what you're going to say what they're
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going to ask you prepare prepare prepare
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you don't have a copy of your CV and
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they refer to it you now look less
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prepared and if you hand it to somebody
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hand it with value if you do it like
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this you know bit of the turtleneck like
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that completely different than this is
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who I am and this is what I've done in
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life as I walk into the room I have to
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remember that I have to be respectful of
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that room always make yourself known so
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you walk up to them you shake hands can
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can I sit here yes you can sit here I
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have to make eye contact with everybody
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in that room and that I have to treat
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everybody equally and not focus on the
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chair that you want to sit in but focus
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on the people that are present in that
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room as you make your introduction I
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want to hear a strong voice I want to
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see an upright posture I want to see the
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chin up confidence No Hands In Pockets I
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want to see your hands I want to see you
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ready to engage in an interaction I will
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shake everybody's hands equally I'm not
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just going to focus on the highest
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status person or or the
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leader if you ask most people have you
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ever had a bad handshake they yeah we
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all have had those awful handshakes yeah
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it was wet week this that whatever if we
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are meeting up for the first time we
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align ourselves and that we have a short
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handshake usually it's like this if
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you're giving me a very light handshake
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I don't want to be grabbing at the
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knuckles if you're giving me a really
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strong handshake I I don't want to give
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you a loose handshake back I'm going to
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try and match your level of grip
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especially when you're a woman I've had
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so many bad handshakes because of the
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strength that men probably want to
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portray I still don't understand people
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try and dominate a handshake never try
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and dominate a handshake but what we do
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see a lot too long and they keep shaking
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like this all the time or they hold the
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hand which makes it very uncomfortable
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or they probe the hand which is the like
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the finger like that keep all of my
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fingers is below your wrist so up to the
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point where they touch you here or here
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or even here and that we would not
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advise unless I know you very well it's
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like hey how are you you know then it's
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like oh so good to see you great humans
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impress first visually then vocally tone
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of voice then verbally and the last is
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haptics through touch the brain
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cataloges all this negative
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stuff you have to let them set the stage
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and the rules don't talk over them turn
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yielding does this person ever shut up
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some people start talking immediately hi
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I'm here for the job and they start
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selling themselves take a breath you
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know what you're doing and speak
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comfortably depending on how many people
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you're talking to I would always wait
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just to let them take up the moment of
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interaction and to tell them what they
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want from you show you are engaged you
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are actively listening and you are in
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the interaction present use your hands
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and use your face to emphasize as
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they're talking I want you to be nodding
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along with what they're saying not too
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much that you look like a Bubblehead you
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want to have a slight head tilt when
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you're talking to them especially when
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you're trying to show empathy when
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people ask a question make sure you
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answer it don't be so busy talking that
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you are not aware that you've been asked
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a question I want to see you orientated
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towards them because orientation
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Behavior shows interest don't pick at
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your clothing don't pick out lint and so
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forth don't pring yourself even because
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they are uncomfortable you might see a
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self hug you know those kind of things
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and we so do not advise that the best
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conversations take place with comfort
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for both parties I'm overly sat with my
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shoulders back and my chest out trying
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to be really really upright I look like
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a robot if you are very comfortable like
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that that is not that's not a good
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portraying you will feel in your body
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when it feels unnatural listen to
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yourself feel comfortable and it should
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feel natural everybody knows this but a
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lot of people don't do it don't be
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caught off guard with any question have
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a trial interview have somebody just ask
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you a few questions and see how you come
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across and if you're clearing your
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throat and you have to hesitate for too
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long people don't like that hesitation
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is a
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killer always say thank you show them
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respect expect by showing them you are
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grateful for their time expect to you
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know say goodbye and Shake Hands maybe
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hand out a card if not you can just nod
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validate everybody that you had the
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opportunity this is the last time you
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have a chance to influence remember the
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interview is only over when you are
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completely out of sight you leave the
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room with proactiveness and a posture
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that shows you're active or that you are
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energetic to go for what you want to go
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often if you feel that it went really
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well people can completely relax and
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they don't walk out the room with as
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much confidence or as much Poise as they
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came in the room you're only done after
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you're back in your car home so maintain
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that confidence level maintain that
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posture maintain that Poise into are
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fully out of the
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room when it comes to Virtual
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interaction you actually at an advantage
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there's actually a lot more control is
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the lighting good is the sound okay many
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people have learned the hard way not to
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use the camera that came with her
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computer go out and buy that or borrow a
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decent 4k camera you are in complete
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control of your virtual space so you can
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make sure that it's tidy that you don't
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have things that are drawing attention
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away there was somebody applying for a
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high-end job and in the background there
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was only liquor it might be in his
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kitchen so you can say oh yeah well he's
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got liquor in his kitchen but we pick up
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on the liquor first and in our brain we
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make an association eye contact is
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really important virtually you just have
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to remember that everything is now
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exaggerated your gestures are now
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reduced to 27 in that's what most
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cameras capture they can't look at the
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rest of your body so there's going to be
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more emphasis on the face the other
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difficult thing with zoom is the
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technique so we have sometimes a delay
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of a question and that feels awkward
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sometimes like can I talk already or not
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and you see the hesitation the turn
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yielding is a bit delayed that can can
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throw the interview interviewee or the
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interviewer off so I have to be extra
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alert on that when they are talking look
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at the screen and when you are talking
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look at the camera what people often do
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is they look atsel when we are
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constantly assessing our own nonverbals
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it's really tiring and it's really
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cognitively demanding and draining so it
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creates what's called Zoom fatigue and
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that will affect our nonverbals because
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we're going to show fatigue we're going
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to show disinterest in essence the rules
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are the same the important thing is that
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you understand that you have to be extra
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alert of your body language because
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there's no room for
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interpretations the goal of any
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interview as the interviewer is
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information elicitation as the
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interviewee is to show confidence
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competence and Trust you're going to
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create a conversation with that person
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or you're going to ask questions as well
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or you will have examples that really
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apply to it you want to make the other
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person feel comfortable you want to make
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them feel that you are someone to be
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trusted how did this person dress up are
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your clothes clean or do you have food
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on your clothes I mean I'm I'm relaying
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here what I've heard from HR they're
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assessing you because you're going to be
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representing me we may have a great
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brand name but it's your face your
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present that's going to make that
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difference there might be a hundred
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people applying for that job if you come
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prepared and you have a genuine
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interaction with showing that you really
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want it there's so much more chance in
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that setting than oh I'm just here this
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is my resume yeah please hire
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me
