3 Powerful Ways To Tell Stories Without Boring People (#AskVinh Q&A Ep. 9)

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摘要

TLDRIn this video, the speaker distinguishes between being humorous and being a stand-up comedian, emphasizing that humor involves lightness, melody, and playfulness in one's approach. When it comes to job interviews, candidates are advised to tell engaging stories rather than just using adjectives to describe themselves. For example, narrating a personal experience that aligns with the job's requirements can be much more impactful. The speaker suggests documenting personal stories to easily recall them during interviews. Additionally, nervous habits, such as scratching the neck or using filler words, should be minimized as they can distract from the message. When shortening stories, focus on the most action-packed part, the peak emotion, or where the lesson was learned to keep the audience engaged.

心得

  • 🤣 Humor involves being light-hearted and playful, not just funny.
  • 📹 Record yourself to check the humor in your speech.
  • 🔍 Interview storytelling should replace adjectives with engaging anecdotes.
  • 🎭 Nervous habits can distract the audience if they happen frequently.
  • 📝 Document stories to easily draw from personal experiences.
  • 📊 Focus storytelling on action, emotion, or lesson for impact.
  • 💡 Using stories aligned with job roles enhances interview performance.
  • 🧠 Scratching genuinely due to itch is fine; constant habits aren't.
  • ✂️ Shorten stories by focusing on peak action or emotion.
  • 🔍 Avoid visual and auditory clutter to maintain clarity.

时间轴

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    Vin dissects the concept of humor and distinguishes it from being a comedian, emphasizing that humor is more about a light-hearted mindset rather than delivering scripted jokes. By adopting a playful tone, incorporating vocal melody, and maintaining a smile, one can naturally be perceived as humorous. During interviews, instead of reciting typical descriptors, Vin suggests telling relevant stories to demonstrate traits, such as sharing a personal experience when asked about risk-taking, which makes the conversation more engaging and credible.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:11:00

    Vin illustrates how to structure stories during interviews by recounting specific personal anecdotes that highlight relevant qualities like innovation. During the pandemic, he pivoted his business swiftly to virtual modes, demonstrating adaptability and leadership. Addressing onstage habits like scratching, he advises against excessive movements that distract but assures occasional, natural gestures are acceptable. For concise storytelling, focus on moments of peak action, emotion, and where lessons were learned. Emphasizing the exploration of one’s storytelling instrument and stepping out of comfort zones rounds out the advice.

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视频问答

  • What does it mean to be humorous?

    Humor is about lightness, a non-serious attitude, and conveying melody in voice without necessarily being funny.

  • How can you tell if you are conveying humor in speech?

    By recording yourself and checking for lightness, melody, and playfulness in your voice.

  • Why do interviewers ask 'Tell me more about yourself'?

    Interviewers want to see something exciting and evidence-backed rather than just adjectives.

  • How can storytelling be used in interviews to stand out?

    Vin shares personal anecdotes that relate to job roles, illustrating traits like risk-taking and innovation.

  • Is it bad to scratch your neck or face while telling a story?

    If it's a frequent distraction, it can detract from your message. If rare and genuine, it's okay.

  • What do nervous habits like adjusting glasses do to your message?

    They can visually clutter your message, similar to filler words auditorily cluttering it.

  • How can you shorten stories effectively?

    Focus on peak action, peak emotion, or the lesson learned to maintain engagement.

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    jumping into the Q&A Vin how do we
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    become more humorous when it comes to
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    humor you have to understand there is a
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    really big difference between being
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    humorous and being haha funny being a
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    stand-up comedian and I think sometimes
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    people confuse the two often they are
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    thinking how do I become a stand-up
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    comedian how should I tell jokes how do
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    I become extremely funny no no I I think
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    you've got to redefine humor and to me
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    humor is just this beautiful quality
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    that you can bring like right now I
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    believe I'm being humorous right and how
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    am I being humorous I'm being humorous
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    because there's this lightness to me
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    there's this part of me that is not too
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    serious I've got a smile on my face I'm
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    using lots of melody in my voice and and
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    all of a sudden because of that I come
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    across more
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    humorous and I think that's as simple as
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    it has to be just record a video of
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    yourself talking and just going am I am
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    I detecting lightness am I detecting
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    lots of Melody am I detecting this kind
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    of playfulness and if you if you're
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    detecting that that's humor that's all
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    that it is right if you've got that
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    smile on your face you've got lots of
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    Melody you you're you're giving good
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    levels of volume that
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    alone is humorous we don't have to over
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    complicate that VIN do you have any
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    advice on how to answer the interview
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    question Tell me more about yourself
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    with a
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    story this is a good one because I think
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    a lot of the times interviewers asking
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    this as well because they're just so
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    bored they're so bored of the answers
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    people give in interviews because people
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    always do the same thing in interviews
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    tell me a little bit about yourself V oh
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    well well well look thank you John John
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    I I I am a considerate I am very
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    thoughtful I'm trustworthy John and John
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    I'm I'm also very adventurous John I I
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    take a lot of risks and John I'm very
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    committed I'm very punctual and and then
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    again people just use all these words
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    and and interviewers I believe when they
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    ask this they're just bored you just
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    want to hear something exciting and also
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    they ask this because they want to get
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    to know you a little more too but if you
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    don't know how to story tell then even
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    when they ask for a story that's what
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    you do you just kind of give them
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    adjectives about who you are you give
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    them descriptive phrases no tell a story
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    what you can do is like if for me I've
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    got a back pocket full of stories to be
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    able to throw at any time so if one of
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    the jobs I'm applying for requires me to
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    take lots of risks and do things that
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    you know sometimes can be scary and
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    require courage then I can share a story
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    like this with John so John goes tell me
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    a little bit about yourself VIN thanks
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    John John I can tell you this about
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    about 5 years ago I told my parents that
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    I wanted to become a magician and I was
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    on the path to becom an accountant I
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    know not fulfilling the Asian prophecy
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    at this point John's probably laughing
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    and then building connection endorphins
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    dopamine all being released wonderful
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    and I said John I quit with 6 months
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    left to go on my degree and I share this
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    brief moment of my life with you because
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    I'm not afraid to take risks and I'm not
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    afraid to go against the grain because I
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    can tell you now everybody in my circle
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    at that point everybody in my extended
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    family at that point they were going
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    with the grain I'm not afraid to go the
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    opposite way when everybody is going
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    that way and John that's one of the main
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    reasons why I think I'm perfect for this
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    role I'm perfect for this role because I
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    don't follow the crowd and I know that's
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    a trait you're looking for so I didn't
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    even tell that full story I just gave a
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    little snapshot of that story because
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    again in interviews I know I want to be
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    Snappy and quick but all of a sudden now
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    instead of just saying I'm a risk taker
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    what does that even bloody mean the
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    person's probably thinking provide some
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    evidence please that's why they're
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    asking for the story is because they're
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    asking for some evidence to back it up
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    and another example I mean I I I I see
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    in the comments people really like
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    pragmatic examples so I'll give you
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    another example let's say I'm going for
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    a job where I have to be very Innovative
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    innov Innovative I have to be really
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    good at innovation see what I did there
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    just change the way you say it how would
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    I share a story for that and I'm just
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    thinking in my head if I had to be
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    really good at Innovation for a certain
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    role you see what I'm doing now is I'm
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    just thinking back in my head for
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    stories where I think
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    I okay I got one and the reason I have
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    these stories is because I document them
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    if you can't think of stories like that
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    well it's because you don't document
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    them I document my stories and I review
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    my stories so if I was talking to uh if
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    I was talking to Sarah and Sarah goes
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    you are applying for head of innovation
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    and V I'd love you to hear a story about
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    yourself and and and and an example of
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    in your life where where you you you
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    really displayed that Innovative way of
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    thinking this is what I would say
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    Sarah do you remember
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    20121 this was when everything changed
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    actually it was 2020 my apologies in
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    early 2020 Co happened and Sarah when Co
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    happened my business was purely running
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    in-person events and I I still remember
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    my agent calling me saying hey Vin your
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    entire business is now shut down the
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    government has shut down all Live Events
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    and I remember getting that call on
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    March 19th and I freaked out I freaked
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    out and I'll be quite Frank with you I
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    think the whole world was freaking out
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    but instead of freaking out for 5 years
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    and instead of freaking out for 12
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    months I freaked out for a total of
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    about a week and I gave myself
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    permission to just express myself and
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    and and and just go little bit crazy but
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    then after about a week I I remember
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    thinking all right then what can you
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    control and what can't you control let's
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    just focus on the things you can control
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    and so I went out to a video store and I
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    bought $50,000 worth of video a gear
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    because I knew they had a refund policy
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    of 30 days so I knew that whatever I
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    don't use I can return it in 30 days but
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    I for 30 days basically became Iron Man
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    inside my garage and that's when I was
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    building my virtual Studio sah I built
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    my virtual studio so that I could teach
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    people remotely and I did this in the
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    second week of Co and Sarah I remember I
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    I I got a message from the CEO of one of
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    the world's largest speaking bureaus and
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    he said something to me and I felt so
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    proud of this and I hope you don't mind
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    me sharing where he said
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    Vin you have become a leader in this
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    speaking space you are doing all the
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    hard work and you're sharing all of
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    these Innovations with the rest of the
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    industry I'm so proud of you
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    and and that moment Sarah I I I couldn't
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    believe it but I I was the person
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    leading the charge in the speaking and
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    training
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    space I was innovating a space that has
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    not been innovated for over a 100 years
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    and and Sarah now I teach people from
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    all over the world
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    online still from my
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    garage you know so I I share this this
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    story with you simply because that's why
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    I believe I am the perfect fit for this
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    head of innovation role I will be able
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    to Iron
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    Man out of Iron Man things out of the
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    simplest tools and I'll be able to find
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    a way out that no one's seen before okay
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    there you go we can polish it we can
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    make it better but that gives you a
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    sense of how I would use that story
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    right and I only have these stories
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    again because I've documented them and
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    if you document them you'll have them
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    too and that makes for a far more
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    interesting interview
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    than if you just recited descriptive
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    phrases hey Vin I notice I keep
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    scratching the back of my neck and I
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    keep scratching my face when I'm telling
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    a story is this a bad habit first part
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    of your question if you keep doing it
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    right if you keep doing it like if I
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    kept doing this you know if I just kept
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    doing this every single say 20 seconds
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    and you know if I if I just kind of kept
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    doing you know things like this then the
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    Golden Rule would that distract people
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    from the message yes it would so then
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    you have to recalibrate and go okay all
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    right I need to reduce this if you do
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    this once every 30 minutes because your
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    face is actually itchy and your neck is
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    itchy scratch your face scratch your
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    neck it's all good it's totally fine
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    right otherwise You' look even more
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    weird you know when you get an itch and
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    then you don't scratch it and you're
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    kind of
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    like then always seem like you've got a
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    weird twitch so just scratch it it's
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    totally fine but if you're always doing
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    it then it's just like non-words and
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    filler words nonwords and filler words
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    um and so like do you know what I mean
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    those things they are
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    auditory they're auditory
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    clutter it's auditory clutter that
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    distracts people from the message and
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    decreases your Clarity when you scratch
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    your neck and you do all of these
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    different things for me it's the classic
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    adjusting of the glasses all of these
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    things are visual clutter visual clutter
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    that decreases your credibility that
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    decreases Clarity same thing so there is
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    such thing as visual clutter as well
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    well done on paying attention to that
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    apply the Golden Rule I want to
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    understand how to curate short stories
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    in order to shorten stories if you feel
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    your stories are too long here are three
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    ways to help you shorten your story
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    number one focus on telling the part of
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    the story where the most amount of
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    action was occurring like the story of
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    how I met my my wife earlier that day
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    before I met my wife right I went to the
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    shuton Fest which is a German festival
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    in South Australia and I I for the first
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    time had a German sausage and it was
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    Bloody delicious it was filled with
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    cheese and it was so young I didn't talk
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    about any of that I didn't talk about
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    any of that because to me where the
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    majority of the action occurred for the
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    story was when I saw my my my wife at
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    the bar so by focusing on the action
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    part he allows you to shorten the story
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    second tip for shortening stories is
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    focus on the peak emotion where in the
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    story was the emotion heightened where
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    was the most of amount of emotion
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    present where was that and wherever that
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    was Focus just on that bit and again it
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    helps you tighten that up again and then
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    the third way to shorten stories is
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    focus on which part of the story where
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    was The Lesson Learned was there a piece
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    of wisdom in the story and wherever that
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    piece of wisdom was in the story only
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    Tell the part of the story around where
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    you realize the lesson and again I can
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    do this cool sound effect it allows you
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    to pull that story nice and tight again
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    so Peak action Peak emotion and where
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    was the main lesson Lear learned those
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    are three ways to about a shorten the
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    story you told the story only around
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    those three Arenas my God I'm good at
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    that sound
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    effect this instrument is capable of so
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    many incredible things start to explore
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    it more and don't be afraid to do things
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    you're not familiar with there's a
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    future version of
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    you that will only exist if the present
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    version of you is willing to venture out
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    of its company Z
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