OSHO: The Greatest Courage Is Being Capable of Change

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HY9aw5cQRDQ

Resumen

TLDRIn this reflection, the speaker explores how closeness in relationships often results in fixed ideas about individuals, leading to disconnection and conflict. They argue that people tend to forget the dynamic nature of others, clinging instead to outdated perceptions. The speaker emphasizes the inevitability of change in every individual, referencing the philosophical idea that one cannot meet the same person twice. Through personal anecdotes and a story about Mullah Nasruddin, the speaker illustrates that rigid thinking can lead to an inability to appreciate the true essence of another person. Ultimately, genuine relationships require openness to change and the courage to update one’s understanding of others.

Para llevar

  • 🌊 Change is constant, and so is growth.
  • 🧠 Beware of fixed ideas about others.
  • ❤️ True connection requires courage and flexibility.
  • 📸 Photographs are of the past, not the present.
  • 🤔 Consistency can lead to misunderstandings.
  • 📖 Mullah Nasruddin illustrates the absurdity of rigidity.
  • 💔 Clinging to old perceptions causes conflict.
  • ✨ Embrace the evolving nature of relationships.
  • 💪 Living dynamically enriches life experiences.
  • 🔄 You cannot step into the same river twice.

Cronología

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    The speaker reflects on the tendency of people to develop fixed ideas about those they are close to, stating that this fixation can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. They emphasize that change is a natural part of being and that clinging to outdated perceptions can prevent one from experiencing the present reality of a person.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    As individuals become enamored with their perceptions, they may elevate their fixed ideas about the speaker above the speaker's actual self, causing them to misinterpret changes. This disconnection often leads to resentment or disillusionment, resulting in conflicts when their view of the speaker diverges from reality.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:15:00

    The speaker illustrates their point by describing a friend's collection of photographs which represent a static image, saying that photographs symbolize the past and do not convey the essence of a living person. This highlights the broader theme of how memories and fixed ideas can inhibit genuine connection and understanding.

  • 00:15:00 - 00:21:34

    In a humorous anecdote, the speaker recounts the story of a wise man, Mullah Nasruddin, who praises a vegetable excessively, leading to the king's annoyance. This serves to illustrate how people often remain consistent in their viewpoints, regardless of change. Engaging with someone who embodies change, like the speaker, requires courage, as consistency can be comfortable but stifling.

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  • What does the speaker mean by 'fixed ideas'?

    Fixed ideas refer to rigid and outdated perceptions that people form about others once they become close.

  • How does change affect relationships, according to the speaker?

    Change leads to conflict if one partner clings to an outdated idea of the other instead of acknowledging growth.

  • What philosophical viewpoint does the speaker relate to?

    The speaker references Heraclitus, stating you cannot step into the same river twice, highlighting the ever-changing nature of reality.

  • Why does the speaker not value photographs of themselves?

    Photographs represent a static image of a past self, which the speaker believes does not capture their current, evolving identity.

  • What does it mean to live consistently, according to the speaker?

    Living consistently means adhering to fixed beliefs and behaviors, which the speaker believes limits personal growth and evolution.

  • What is the story about Mullah Nasruddin intended to illustrate?

    It illustrates the absurdity of sticking to fixed ideas and the importance of recognizing change, as even something once praised can become tiresome.

  • How should one approach relationships with dynamic individuals?

    One should embrace change and be open to evolving rather than clinging to outdated perceptions.

  • What happens when someone tries to hold onto a fixed idea of a person?

    They risk creating conflict and distancing themselves from the reality of that person's ongoing development.

  • Why does the speaker consider consistency to be a flaw in close relationships?

    Because it limits the acceptance of change in oneself and in others, leading to misunderstandings.

  • What does true connection require, according to the speaker?

    True connection requires the courage to acknowledge and adapt to change within oneself and one’s relationships.

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  • 00:00:14
    oh show since being with you i have noticed that  when a person becomes closely related to you
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    they sometimes get a fixed idea about who you are
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    it seems like they forget who you really  are and even why they have come to you
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    this situation puzzles me even scares  me a little would you please comment
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    the mind has
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    a natural tendency
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    to get
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    quickly
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    fixed ideas it is very much afraid of change
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    because change means rearrangement
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    each time you change something you have  to rearrange your whole inner being
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    mind wants to live with fixed ideas
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    when a person comes to me  and it has been happening for
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    35 years continuously
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    he starts loving me he
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    comes closer becomes intimate and then gets  a fixed idea and that's where he misses me
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    because now his fixed idea is going to create  trouble i am not an idea and i am not fixed
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    i am changing
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    i am in absolute agreement with heraclitus  that you cannot step twice in the same river
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    translated it means you cannot  meet the same person again
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    i not only agree with him i go a little further  i say you cannot step in the same river even once
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    again translated
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    to the human world it means you  cannot meet the same person even once
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    because even while you are meeting him
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    he is changing you are changing  the whole world is changing
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    but once you get a fixed idea you cling to it
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    and i'm constantly going to change tomorrow  you will find yourself in a conflict
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    so many have come so many have gone
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    and this has been one of the basic reason
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    they became too much
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    fascinated with their own idea of me
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    that i became secondary their idea of  me became primary that too old dated
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    fresh and young i am with them
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    i became secondary and if there was any  conflict between their idea and my reality
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    they went with their idea
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    even to the point to become enemies of me
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    telling to people that i am no more the same
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    i am no more the person i used to be
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    they have worshipped
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    a great saint
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    but i am no more the same person
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    they will keep my memory
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    of the past
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    deep in their heart
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    but it is simply a photograph
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    photographs don't change
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    once it happened one of my friends was  collecting my photographs from my very childhood
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    from wherever he could get  and he had made a big album
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    and he was showing me
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    he has done a great work
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    he had gone to many places to many people  wherever he heard somebody has a picture of me
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    he went there either to get  the original or a copy of it
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    but while he was saying them to  me he felt i am not interested
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    he stopped and said to me you don't seem to be  interested i said i don't seem to be interested
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    because none of these photographs represent  me they only represent that which is dead
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    and the photograph can only  represent that which is dead
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    a photograph is always of the dead
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    you cannot find the photograph  which is of the living
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    in picasso's home there used to be  a ported self-portrait of picasso
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    he never sold it at no price
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    that was the only picture he insisted not to sell
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    and the more he insisted not to sell  more and more people were coming
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    with bigger and bigger offers for the pictures
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    it became a challenge for art collectors
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    one beautiful woman
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    had come
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    with the same idea
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    to purchase the picture whatever the price  he was ready to pay she was rich enough
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    she said to picasso that i am willing  to pay you as much as you want
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    for your portrait
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    picasso said
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    people are mad
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    for a dead thing
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    they go on harassing me
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    you can have it without any price
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    but remember it is not me
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    the woman looked puzzled she said it is not
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    you what do you mean he said if it was  me i would have kissed you up to now
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    it does not speak
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    it does not love it does not  sing it doesn't dance even
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    such a beautiful woman is standing before it
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    and the idiot is not even kissing  you just can't take it it is dead
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    remove it from here it is not me
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    people get fixed ideas
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    and very soon
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    and ordinarily it goes perfectly well
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    because you meet only dead  people who are not changing
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    who go on saying the same thing their whole life
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    just like a parrot
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    they are consistent people
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    they have all your respects
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    i seem to you self-contradictory
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    inconsistent for the simple reason because  i have decided not to die before i die
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    i am going to live to the very last breath
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    so you cannot be certain about  me till my last breath after that
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    you can make any image of me and be satisfied  with it but remember it will not be me
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    to be with me needs courage
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    and the greatest courage is to  be capable to see the change
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    and to move with it
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    it may be difficult
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    it is easy to have one idea  once and then be finished
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    a sufi story
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    is appointed
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    as the prime minister
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    a faking
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    because he was known to be very wise
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    somewhat weird was his wisdom but
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    still wisdom is wisdom
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    and first they when they went
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    to have their dinner together
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    a certain vegetable called binding
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    was made by the cook
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    stuffed with eastern spices
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    it is a delicacy
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    and the king appreciated the cook
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    and after that mullah said in appreciation  of the windy that this is the most
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    precious vegetable in the world
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    it gives you long life
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    it keeps you healthy it gives you resistance  against diseases and so on and so forth
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    the king said i never knew that  you know so much about vegetables
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    and the cook heard about it so he thought
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    that if hindi is such a thing that our  king can live long and healthy and young
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    next day again bhindi was made  and against mullah praised it
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    even going higher than the first day third day the  bhindi was made and mullah went even still higher
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    fourth day and the windy was made and  mullah was going higher and higher
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    fifth day mullah even said that bindi  is a divine food god eats only bhindi
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    but the king was bored
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    he threw the plate of the windy
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    told mulla nasruddin that you are an idiot
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    binti and god eats bhindi  every day you will drive me mad
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    mullah said lord you are getting unnecessarily
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    hot i am your servant
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    you said bhindi is good
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    i simply followed you
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    and when i do something i do it perfectly
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    and i am not a servant to bindi i am your servant
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    the truth is the windy is  the worst thing in the world
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    even devils don't eat it
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    you did well that you threw it he threw  his plate farther away than the king
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    he said you always should  remember that i am your servant
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    and you are always
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    right and i am a consistent man
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    i will remain consistently  your servant whatever happens
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    there are
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    people almost the whole world
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    who live in a certain consistency it is easier
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    but when you come closer to a man like  me you are going to be in difficulty
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    either you will have to drop your idea of  consistency or you will have to drop me
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    and people are so infatuated with their own ideas
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    that they can drop me but  they cannot drop their ideas
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    you
Etiquetas
  • change
  • relationships
  • fixed ideas
  • Heraclitus
  • self-perception
  • philosophy
  • Mullah Nasruddin
  • growth
  • consistency
  • communication