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people wonder sometimes what is the
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point of therapy is it just talking and
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somebody else listening who's not even
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part of your family or related to you
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what good or use is that no one path
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Network sat down with one of the world's
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leading Muslim Professionals in the
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field of psychology her name is Dr Rania
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Awad she's a clinical associate
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professor of Psychiatry at Stanford
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University and he's also the director of
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Stanford's new Muslim mental health and
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Islamic psychology lab she has also
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studied Islamic Studies in Damascus
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Syria and is certified to teach Quran
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Islamic law and other branches of
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Islamic Sciences may Allah protect her
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and yes she is perhaps the best person
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to ask difficult questions about Muslim
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mental health and we had a lot to cover
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mental health is seen as a very modern
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field to your knowledge that the prophet
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Muhammad
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ever touch on Mental Health the prophet
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sallallahu alaihi wasallam taught us
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quite a bit about mental health first
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and foremost from his own example so as
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Muslims we look at the example of the
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prophet sallallahu and to follow in his
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footsteps and one of the main things
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that we learned about the prophet
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sallallahu alaihi wasallam is that he
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was very in tune with emotions including
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his very own and we look at the
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prophet's life
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you see that he had a difficult period
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in his life that the historians call
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amenhosen or the year of sorrow or
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sadness and in that year many things
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happened he lost his very close
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companion his wife
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his protector his uncle as well and in
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that year there was also an economic
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boycott against the early Muslims and
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they were heavily persecuted and so many
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more things happened within that year
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that was very very difficult for the
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prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam and
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as you look at that timing in history
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you find that while he was sorrowful and
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while he had experienced grief there was
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always a deep dependence on Allah to see
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him through and through that example we
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learn what happens when we go through
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turbulations difficulties when we're
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Afflicted with grief and sorrow
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ourselves and we follow in his example
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because that is what Allah sent us he
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sent us a person who is able to in the
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most perfect example of how it is that
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you heal we see it through the prophet
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salallahu he experienced grief just as
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we experience it and sorrow just as we
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experience it there's a beautiful
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narration in which we learn from the
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prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam in
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which he says
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good for he actually sends him
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difficulties or tribulation and that
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might seem counterintuitive it may seem
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something like why would that be the
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case but actually what we learn is we
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have to reframe the way we think about
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it if Allah sent us something that's
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very difficult he's also taken an oath
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upon himself
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that he will not burden us more than we
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can bear and so if he sent something to
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you that's very difficult he's going to
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see you through it just like you wake
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woke up this morning and you took your
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first breath of the day you may not have
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even thought about how Allah gave you
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that breath to be awake today and that
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when we go to sleep at night there's no
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guarantee that we get up the next
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morning and this is why part of the of
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God that we give that we say the morning
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of God is
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one of the very first things that we say
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in remembrance of Allah is to thank him
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and to say
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alhamdulillah right we thank Allah we
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give praise and glory to him
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alhamdulillah
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praise to Allah the one who gave us life
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after he gave us death and what we mean
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by that is sleep is like a small death
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and when we wake up in the morning and
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take that first breath that's something
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Allah gives us yet sometimes we're not
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fully connected and yet when you connect
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to the greatness of Allah when you
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become more God conscious you then
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understand that earlier Hadith we quoted
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about the prophet sallallahu alaihi
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wasallam that when Allah is in control
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when you know that's the case and you
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know that Every Breath You Take Allah
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gave it to you that also means every
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tribulation and difficulty that you face
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Allah also gave that to you too and when
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he's given that to you he's also
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promised he won't burden you with more
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than you can bear so he'll also give you
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the ease and ability to get through it
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and that's the beautiful thing about the
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believer we cognitively reframe and
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shift the way we're thinking so when
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difficulties come our way we don't call
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them difficulties we actually see them
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with a silver lining of blessing that
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comes with them too this is the way of
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our Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
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this is how he got through Ahmed hose in
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the year of sadness and how we should
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get through our difficulties and
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tribulations as well
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is it true that mental health issues can
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arise from a lack of faith and
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spirituality mental health issues are
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multifactorial they can come from any
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One Direction it's important to
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understand that sometimes mental
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illnesses are biologically driven
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meaning that they are something
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potentially hormonally or there may be a
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neurotransmitter deficiency that is
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actually affecting the reasons why you
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have a mental illness it could be also
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genetic that you have a long family
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history of people in the family that say
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have anxiety
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or depression or it could also be
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Environmental something that's happening
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from the environment around you let's
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say for example you've lived your entire
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life without any mental health problems
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but then just about Allah you've
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experienced the trauma it could be a
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personal trauma it could be that you
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live in a country in which a war
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happened you saw some very difficult
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things to experience and so it's not
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biological or genetic but it's something
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that happened to you environmentally
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socially or it could be religious or
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spiritual faith-based you have a crisis
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of Faith or a potentially a weakening of
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Faith any one of these aspects could
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happen and any of the any overlap can
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also take place
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when people say
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you're depressed because you have a
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weakness of Faith this is inaccurate I
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personally have known many people of
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strong faith some of whom have been my
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own teachers in the Islamic Sciences who
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have an incredible amount of religious
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knowledge and incredible aibada or
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worship schedule an incredible amount of
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faith yet subhanallah their tribulation
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in life is in their genetic history is
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that they have experienced a biological
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depression the inability to get up and
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function every day out of bed to get up
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and to go about your daily work isn't
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because of laziness or a lack of faith
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in their case it is something
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biologically hormonally that they are
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dealing with and it has actual
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treatments so to judge them and to say
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if you were to pray more you would not
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have this depression is inaccurate there
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are some of the people that have
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probably pray the most in my life that I
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have met or if you have more faith or
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Iman this wouldn't come to you this too
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is inaccurate could spirituality your
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religion be part of the story absolutely
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is it the only explanation absolutely
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not and I think it's really important
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that we do not judge each other and have
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such amount of Shame and guilt that we
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pile on when people deal with mental
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health conditions know that it's
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multifactorial and know that to get to
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the bottom of it does require assessment
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to figure out why this is happening to
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you or your loved one Stress and Anxiety
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increasing how can Faith play a role in
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helping people that are suffering from
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it here it's very important to think
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back to what is the purpose of Stress
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and Anxiety if Allah created all
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emotions he created emotions and didn't
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label them the way we humans do
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sometimes we label emotions as good and
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bad we say things like Stress and
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Anxiety or depression these are bad and
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we'll say things like happiness and joy
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these are good and will actually put a
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lot of guilt we'll feel lots of guilt
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and even shame related to certain
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emotions versus others what's important
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to remember is that Allah created all
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emotions so if you look at the verses in
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the Quran Allah specifically reminds us
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and he says
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that he reminds us that we as humans
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will surely be tested
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with something of fear and loss of
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wealth and lives and crops this is very
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important because it's part and parcel
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of the world in which we live this Dunya
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this Abode of tribulation
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which is very different than the Jannah
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in which we will not have any
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tribulations and when we think about how
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Allah said that these difficulties are
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meant to come our way at some point in
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our life we will face some amount of
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difficulty and everyone is different
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some people will have their tests and
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trials will come in loss of wealth
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others it'll be loss of health and for
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others it might be loss of loved ones in
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their lives and for some It's a
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combination of all or different ones
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that are tribulations to them it's not
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so much about which tribulation comes
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our way because the like the Ayah says
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they're meant to come it's about what we
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do with this difficulty what do we do
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with the stress what do we do with these
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anxieties well here is where the Hadith
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of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
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wasallam where he reminds us
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seek out treatments o Servants of Allah
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and that means that there are in fact
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treatments that help for the kind of
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difficulties we see we face so when
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someone has stress there are ways to
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modulate that stress entire Sciences
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related around this and some of these
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techniques or tips are learned in
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therapy people wonder sometimes what is
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the point of therapy is it just talking
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and somebody else listening who's not
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even part of your family or related to
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you what good or use is that no when you
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go to therapy these are people who are
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trained as professionals and have
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learned the techniques to help you with
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certain difficulties you're facing such
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as stress or anxiety and it means that
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you're going to a person of knowledge
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here too we look to the Quran Allah says
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and reminds us that when we do not know
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we must ask the people of knowledge who
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do know
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so ask the people of knowledge if you do
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not know so if you're sitting here
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thinking I have a lot of stress or I
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have a lot of anxieties and I don't know
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what to do about them what does your
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religion say to you it says seek out the
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people of knowledge who do know and have
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learned the techniques to help you along
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that is part and parcel of what therapy
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is all about maybe you might have a
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condition that's actually biologically
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driven or has a genetic loading to it
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and it may mean that it's more than just
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therapy that's going to be needed maybe
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you might need medications here too but
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we won't know when you won't know unless
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you consult with the people of knowledge
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who have been trained and they're able
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to do an assessment and figure out for
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you is therapy sufficient is medications
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needed perhaps both or could the roots
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and the origins of the stress be
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something different maybe it's
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environmental social something
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difficulty is happening in your life
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maybe you've experienced the trauma and
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need to process that or maybe it's
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something spiritual and it could be a
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combination of all of these things
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because mental illnesses are in fact
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multi-factorial they come from different
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perspectives and depending on that comes
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your treatment to which your Dean also
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tells you to seek out treatments and
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help so knowing the background
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understanding why these emotions come to
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us in the first place and then having
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our religion tell us to seek out the
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help needed and to seek out the people
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of knowledge who have this information
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is part and parcel of how you heal and
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how you get better inshallah many people
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often feel reluctant to reach out for
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help especially if they are deeply
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religious how can people overcome this
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one of the reasons people sometimes have
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a difficulty in reaching out for mental
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health help especially if they're a
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person of faith is that they don't find
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that there's this connection to their
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faith or how to actually use their faith
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to help themselves get better and so as
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we said before it's important to get the
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help needed in order to get better in
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terms of mental health but it's also
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important to know that your spiritual
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being is part and parcel of the story
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and in order to heal
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especially if you're a person of Faith
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your spirituality your Deen is part of
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the healing process
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and so to bring that into the discussion
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with your care provider is very
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important to be able to lean on the
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verses of the Quran and the Hadith that
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specifically talk about and remind you
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that you're not going through this alone
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that Allah is now going to burden you
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more than you can bear and that that
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reminds you that other or fate that
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Allah has written these very things but
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is also there on your side to bring you
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through it that if he's brought you to
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this difficulty he will bring you
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through it insha Allah experiencing the
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loss of a loved one can be extremely
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traumatic how can Islam help people
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through these situations
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the great deal of loss and hardship in
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his life and because he's our Exemplar
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and who we look to whenever we are
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dealing with anything difficult in our
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life it's really important to understand
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and see where it would happen in his own
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life related to hardship and loss one of
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the beautiful narrations
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and also very heartbreaking and
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difficult is the time in which the
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prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam lost
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his own child his son Ibrahim was in his
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lap as he was taking his final breaths
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and the prophet sallallahu alaihi
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wasallam showed us how it is to be the
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most perfect of all humans but to be
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human nevertheless he was tearing and
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tears were coming down his cheeks and
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the sahaba who were standing around him
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saw this as companions and they asked
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him about this because they too wanted
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to understand how do you deal with loss
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and hardship the prophet sallallahu
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alaihi wasallam said
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foreign
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but we do not say that except which
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pleases our Lord in this narration you
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see something very important happening
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the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
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is acknowledging
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human emotion it is only natural and
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normal at a time of loss
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to cry to shed tears to feel sorrow like
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he says in the heart to feel sorrow but
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even in that there is a balance in not
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saying that except which pleases Allah
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and what he means by that is we don't
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reject the khadar or faith that Allah
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has given us we understand that this is
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a tribulation because Allah has said he
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will give us tribulation loss and
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difficulty so we don't say why me how
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come rather we accept the father or the
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Fate Allah has given us and we work with
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it in order to figure out how to heal
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and get better and so when you see the
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story of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
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wasallam many stories of loss in his own
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lifetime to remember that he lost all of
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his children except for one in his
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lifetime that is very hard for a parent
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to bury their own children one after
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another this Exemplar of the Prophet
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salallahu alaihi wasallam teaches us and
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helps us frame our own losses and our
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own difficulties it also reminds us that
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we have a right
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upon ourselves our own bodies and
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ourselves to be able to take care of
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ourselves during times of hardship and
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loss there is another narration that's
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very beautiful in which two companions
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of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
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wasallam
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was very excitable
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and he said I'm going to pray and not
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sleep and I'm going to fast and not
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break my fast he wanted to just worship
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Allah and His companion friend synonym
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said to him and reminded him
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some beautiful words of wisdom that when
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later the prophet salallahu alaihi
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wasallam heard these he said man has
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spoken the truth and what were these
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words we know them because of the Hadith
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narration that collects them and it says
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I said manifest he said
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that you have a right that your lord has
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a right upon you
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your body or yourself has a right upon
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you
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and your family has a right upon you too
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and so when you put this in together you
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see the Islamic understanding of taking
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care of ourselves not going to any one
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extreme or the other not denying our
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emotions you see the tears of the
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prophet and not also denying our ability
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to get that help or blaming everything
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on our mental illness or difficulties
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but rather to say here is here is our
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fate and loss and tribulation is part of
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the story but so is healing and getting
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better could you give us three tips from
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our religion to protect our Mental
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Health
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when we look at faith-based ways to be
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able to heal and to really have better
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mental health going forward let's think
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about three specific steps the first
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let's think about the importance of
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understanding Allah
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and where who we are in relation to him
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one of the beautiful narrations
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is knowing who Allah is through his many
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different attributes and names
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any of these names that you hold on to
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are going to be very important for you
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the 99 or no more names of attributes of
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Allah find the ones that speak to you
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there's an important narration that says
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I am as my servant thinks I am so find
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the attributes of Allah that speak to
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you when people think about Allah if
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they only think about
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Hellfire or Vengeance they are losing
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sight of the very important aspects of
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Allah the names that he calls himself
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the most merciful the most compassionate
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when you think about names of Allah that
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remind you of how it is that you're able
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to get through any of the difficulties
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hold on to those because that is going
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to really help you through your
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struggles number two
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robot having acceptance of the decree of
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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala here too we
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find important narrations where the
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Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam is
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teaching us that Allah has already
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predetermined for us our life yet we
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have to we don't know what that is and
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so we strive and struggle to be able to
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do our very best and it's very important
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this narration where the Prophet teaches
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us
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that of all the people of the world were
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together to harm us they cannot except
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by the will of Allah and if all the
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people of the world were together to
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hurt to help us they also cannot accept
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by the will of Allah the Pens have been
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lifted and the ink has dried when you
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think about it from that perspective it
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doesn't matter if that person in your
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life or that boss or that neighbor or
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whoever it may be that's giving you a
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hard time it does not matter who they
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are exactly because ultimately Allah is
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greater than them and every person who
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is has a around a person like a pharaoh
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like who's so difficult there is Allah
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above them and so when you put things
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into perspective it shrinks down our
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anxieties and troubles back to real size
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and that is really important because you
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realize that no one can harm you except
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by Allah's decree and if it happens it
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was written and if he brought you
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through the struggle he'll bring you
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through it as well and if good is coming
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to you it's also coming to you from
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Allah in addition to your own good works
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as well
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nothing will befall us except that which
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Allah has decreed that having that that
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contentment that knowledge is going to
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help you through and thirdly
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Helm or forbearance this ability to know
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that all of the difficulties that have
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come your way not only were decreed and
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you have the acceptance of that not only
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were they ones that are part of your
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journey and struggle but having the
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forbearance to to deal with that and to
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go through life knowing that you're not
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alone to remind yourself
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that Allah will never give you more than
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you can bear he will never test you more
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than you can bear or burden you more
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than you can bear and so with that
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you're able to say if Allah brought this
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to me he's going to bring me through it
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on the other end and having the
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forbearance to be able to push through
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becomes part and parcel of your healing
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Journey insha Allah what should a person
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do if they have friends or family that
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are struggling with mental health issues
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being a friend or family member to a
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loved one who is struggling with mental
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health conditions is very difficult
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oftentimes there is a certain level of
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Taxation on wanting that loved one to
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get better and seeing them go through
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difficulties sometimes it's even more
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difficult because our loved one is not
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willing to get the help they need and
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we're seeing them struggle how do we
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help them this is such an important
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question because part of the story as a
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Believer as a movement as a Muslim is
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actually that push to get help whether
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it be physical or mental health
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conditions we always are told to be able
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to get help for ourselves and our loved
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ones I remind us of the Hadith of the
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prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam in
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which he reminds us and says
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seek out treatments o Servants of Allah
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because Allah has not sent down an
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illness except that he also sent a
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treatment or cure and in that case we
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are told we must be able to get that
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help we need
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but how do you do so if your loved one
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isn't willing I remind us that one of
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the very first rules
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in therapy is that you cannot help
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someone who doesn't want to be helped
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and I know friends and family members
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are listening to this thinking how what
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a terrible thing to know that you can't
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actually push someone to get that help
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true you can't because they themselves
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have to want that help for themselves
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and you will burn out trying to push
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them in that direction and they're not
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willing but you know what you can do a
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couple of things one you can Inspire
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them to get help how do you do that
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sometimes you need some extra help in
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doing so maybe there's someone who's
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willing that they're willing to listen
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to I think of some of the Elders of our
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community when a younger person is
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speaking to them maybe it's their child
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or someone younger they're not really
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willing to listen but maybe when you
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find someone who's of their same age
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background that they will listen to that
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they honor and respect their opinion
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you're able to get some leverage so
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leverage the older person who is able to
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talk to your older family member for
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example sometimes it's very helpful to
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talk about Islam maybe they're
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islamically inclined and so you bring
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out the religious conversations related
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to our history and our tradition of how
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advanced we were in the understanding of
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mental health and sex ecology and at the
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Forefront
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maybe they are somebody who actually
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needs extra help because they're feeling
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so down and depressed and unable to
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actually take the next steps so you
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could help in making the simple phone
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calls over to the doctor's offices with
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their permission to be able to get to
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that next step and maybe you're able to
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bridge that Gap
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sometimes it's none of the above and
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rather it's that they're not willing to
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do any of these things despite your best
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efforts so what do you do
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what you do is you get help for yourself
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at the end of the day you're willing and
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wanting to get that person help so you
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should be willing to want to get help
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for yourself why do we say this because
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a loved one and a family member goes
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through a lot in carrying the illness or
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difficulty of their loved one so get
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help for yourself learn the techniques
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to be able to heal and cope with the
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difficulty that's happening in your
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household and by doing so you very well
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may Inspire that person to break the ice
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and get the help that they need to
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inshallah how can parents develop good
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mental health practices for their young
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children when we think about how
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children are dealing with mental health
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struggles it is true in fact the
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statistics show that children and young
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adults are actually having a more
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difficult time with mental health
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especially in this era that we're in now
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we are still not fully emerged from a
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global pandemic and when we think about
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what that has meant in terms of mental
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health for all people of all ages of all
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backgrounds it's definitely been much
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more than it ever has been before in
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fact now we see this that's showing that
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young adults and children are
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experiencing mental health conditions
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six times more than previous
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also we're finding that if you compare
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from 2019 right before the pandemic till
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today that the rates of depression and
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anxiety have nearly doubled from
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pre-pandemic times till today so the
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question definitely must be asked what
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do we do to help the mental health of
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our children the answer to that actually
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lies in what do we do for the mental
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health of ourselves
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it's very important to know that
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children model
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exactly what we teach them
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and so when we ourselves are not taking
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care of our own selves as adults how can
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they take care of their own mental
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health if we're not doing that same for
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ourselves this is very important point
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because in order to make sure that we
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are healthy one of the prerequisites of
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Islam one of our mahasid as Sharia one
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of the actual foundational principles is
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the preservation of our intellect the
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preserving of our intellect and making
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sure that we optimize it the
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preservation of our body and making sure
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that we take care of it the preservation
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of ourselves and one of these these
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being the foundations of Islamic
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understandings means that it becomes an
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obligation to do so and anything that is
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also a prerequisite to that in and of
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itself becomes a thought this is also
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one of the rules in our Islamic
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understanding so back to children and
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how we take care of them we take care of
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their mental health by taking care of
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our own as well one of the Islamic
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understandings is that you can't give
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what you don't have
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the person who does not have something
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cannot give it so if you are not healthy
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and well how do we expect those who are
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in our care
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to be healthy and well today I find that
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many young people are actually
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interested in getting mental health help
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and care they actually are interested in
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seeking out therapy they know that
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something is not quite right and now the
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discussion on Mental Health nationally
00:26:24
globally is really increased quite a bit
00:26:27
it's becoming less stigmatized yet when
00:26:30
they go to their families or go to their
00:26:32
parents oftentimes that becomes the big
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barrier the family says no no no what is
00:26:37
this therapy that you are talking about
00:26:38
what is this need for mental health and
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so not only is that adult in that
00:26:43
child's life or that young adult's life
00:26:45
taking care of themselves they're also
00:26:46
becoming a barrier for the younger
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person to get that help and so I go back
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to the point I made earlier in order to
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take care of our health children's
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mental well-being we need to take care
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of our own mental well-being and to make
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sure that we're not standing in the way
00:27:00
of their ability to heal nor are we
00:27:03
standing in our the path of our own self
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in healing and to know that this journey
00:27:07
of healing is actually one that is
00:27:09
absolutely Islamic in its Origins
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because of the foundational Islamic
00:27:13
principles on preserving the mental
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intellect and preserving our bodies and
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our health
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if you look at it from the core Islamic
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value realize that this is part and
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parcel of our tradition
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