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is that what a man looks
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like self-improvement is
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masturbation
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self-destruction yes self-improvement is
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masturbation despite all of the
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YouTubers telling you that
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self-improvement will save your life I'm
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sure that you consume self-improving
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content and I am also sure that you have
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a similar story as me you were a low
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point of your life you were to something
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to skinny too anxious too lonely too
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degenerate or too lazy you decided to
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look for a solution to this particular
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problem and you found mostly by chance
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about self-improvement you got too tired
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of being lazy and got hands down to
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learn absolutely everything you could
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you wanted to improve your physique your
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mental health your social skills your
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relationship and your finances all at
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once a new world where everything could
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be perfect if you did your habits enough
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times and worked your ass off it's
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accelerating right after a few months of
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meditating exercising and reading every
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book you could you gained confidence you
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were unbeatable you decided to go of
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your house to show everyone your new
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self and you see that no one noticed
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your friends are the same girls are
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ignoring you as always and you become
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frustrated because no one is seeing all
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of the knowledge you have now nobody is
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seeing how high value top 1% you became
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so you go to your house to search for
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the answers you were missing and try to
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find more knowledge more secrets more
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more and more on a desperate look to
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finally be complete but still little to
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know Improvement you're just the same
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with some knowledge that's pushing you
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to do more and learn more every single
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minute all of these fake gurus are
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insisting you on to buy their new
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program which apparently has the things
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that the one before doesn't and
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installing the belief that you'll always
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need more more knowledge more work more
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secrets and as in F Club a new piece of
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furniture there is always a new business
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model a new workout program a new book
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or a new course that you must get to
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evolve to the next level they are
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insisting you to get way more while in
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reality to actually improve you need way
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less stripe patterns I say never be
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complete I say stop being perfect I say
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let's evolve the chips fall within
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me needing way less is what Tyler deran
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called
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self-destruction when we embarked on
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this self-improvement journey we built
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our new selves at top old infected Roots
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Fight Club reveals destruction in every
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form shattering glass tearing down walls
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and confronting strangers all
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reflections of an internal struggle yet
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self-destruction isn't solely about
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physical pain it's about the mental
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Battle of shedding old skins old beliefs
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old ons the narrator is left completely
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zeroed out his apartment exploded he's
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living in a [ __ ] hole and he's getting
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beaten up a couple of times a week Tyler
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is pushing him to question every single
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belief he has did he truly need all that
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furniture what did he know about himself
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if he hadn't got into a fight what's the
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point of being a sleeve of the
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system the system has always told you
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that the answers were out there in the
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education system in jobs in courses and
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toxic self- improvers amplify this
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belief by telling you that you shouldn't
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trust your brain and should look for
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every single answer in their
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videos they're pushing you to look
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outwards and continue building over
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shitty routs so you can never
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change they told you do uncomfortable
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things like cold exposure or quitting
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sodas when in reality the true
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uncomfortable thing is to face your own
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demons and actually take action on the
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things you learn to put it in SLE words
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if you want to grow a part of you has to
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die
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of course in a metaphorical way to
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actually make progress you don't need a
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new productivity course or a new habits
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book if you have low self-esteem face
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that demon and discover why you have
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this problem what were the causes where
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do you build this belief if you're
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constantly anxious or depressed what's
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the true reason for it learning to face
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your demons and thinking your way out of
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core problems will do much more for you
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than constantly learning new superficial
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stuff and trying to know everything
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Tyler Duron loves chaos he thrives in it
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he wants it constantly he sees that what
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he needs to get to the next level is on
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the other side of the unknown as Jordan
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Peterson says there is only two real
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things what we know and what we don't
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know in every bit of chaos there is the
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possibility of order and vice versa
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Tyler was always changing evolving and
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completely detached from external things
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he understood that many things were
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meaningless that what brought true
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meaning was living an impact of course
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you shouldn't desire to live a bad food
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friend in the world that's simply insane
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notice that he doesn't consume lots of
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things trying to find ners he just goes
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with it and takes action don't get me
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wrong I love books videos and courses
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but there's a certain point where you
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should consume way less of content and
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experience life one of the teachings
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that people post online will only change
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your life if you actually apply them and
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become super intentional with what you
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consume next the narrator created this
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Alter Ego so that he didn't have to
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directly face chaos and do the changes
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he needed by himself he created this
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imaginary character who pushed him to
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every limit he could but still the
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narrator continues to question the acts
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of Tyler and frequently opposing him
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that's why you see a little to no growth
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from the narrator until the end of the
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movie what he realizes that he's
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absolutely insane and that this whole
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whole time it was himself so what's the
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solution how can we avoid constantly
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masturbating ourselves with new
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information the answer is not as simple
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as stop consuming content and take
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action it's a little bit more deep after
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you consumed a lot of content you
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probably feel productive but confused so
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many points of view about how to solve
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the same problem will drive you crazy
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the first thing to unlock a true growth
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in your life is to analyze it and see
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what the hell is wrong then the razor
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couldn't sleep because he didn't know
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why he found out that by letting his
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emotions out he could finally sleep
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that's kind of a more superficial
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conclusion if you find the roots of your
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problems and try to analyze them
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objectively by the way you need a lot of
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meditation for this sooner or later
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you'll find the solution the catch is
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this will take time they tell you change
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your life in 2 weeks they promise it
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will be easy and fun parts of the
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journey may be but other will be arous
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confronting your demons isn't Pleasant
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nor is a process of pondering attempting
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Solutions failing rising and trying
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again but it is worth every [ __ ]
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moment you'll craft a life on your own
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terms it may not be perfect but it's
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yours and it grants Freedom there will
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be days of uncertainty questioning your
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path but remember [ __ ] always gets
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harder before you level up Tyler endured
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trials but he merged a refined version
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of himself or at least a more aligned
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version with his goals uncomfortableness
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isn't solely a cold shower at 5:00 a.m.
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it's about confronting your insecurities
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fears and problem it's having those
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tough conversations and making those
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hard
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decisions once you get all of this
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cleared up self-improvement becomes much
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easier once you destroy your previous
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identity the identity of a loser of a
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low self-esteemed person you're more
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aware of your strength and weaknesses
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you start to build your character in the
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way you want and live life on your own
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terms all of the self-improvement habits
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will have greater return of investment
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if you combine them with that true
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internal work of diving into the unnown
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and coming out stronger and all of the
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selfimprovement will make much more
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sense when you're out there living
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self-improvement is not the goal itself
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it is the means to a bigger more
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meaningful goal life is not about
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knowing all the answers it is not about
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waiting to get everything in place to
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start that new project or taking that
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risk one of the most beautiful things in
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life is not knowing what's going to
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happen next but knowing that you'll be
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ready for any kind of situation you're
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continuously building your body your
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mind and your knowledge to use it to
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[ __ ] live man to live new experiences
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to try new things to fall in love to get
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you heartbroken to build Min friendships
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to try something new and fail horribly
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but getting the lessons and moving on
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life is meant to do something about it
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staying in your house and your infinite
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dopamine detox it is just your comfort
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zone chasing your dreams should be a
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no-brainer knowledge will be useful once
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you find some bumps in the road and need
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new answers but having all of the
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answers before starting it's mad stupid
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the key to balance consumption and
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action is being super intentional with
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what you are consuming check the people
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you follow the people you admire the
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authors you read and the YouTubers you
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watch are they teaching you something
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that you could apply right now into your
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life or do you want to level up in
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another area analyze your life see what
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needs Improvement and focus on that it's
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stupid to try and become the best in
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every single area of your life at the
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same time it's better to solve one
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problem at a time you want to have a
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better dating life focus on that a
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better physique focus on that or making
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money focus on that on one thing cuz it
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will be easier to sustain the progress
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long term self-improvement is about that
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internal work even though in Fight Club
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this self-improvement is represented by
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the narrator's alter ego it's a lesson
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that self-improvement is nothing without
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self-destruction letting go of the [ __ ]
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to make some space for you the new stuff
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try this philosophy and we'll talk later
