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oh look at I have this pen and then the
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moment that this external thought this
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person has more the moment that that
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thought enters my happiness is destroyed
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the reason that video games no longer
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become fun is because we get bored while
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playing them we can be very very excited
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about the future but the moment that the
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thought of climate change the thought of
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inflation the thought of a dating crisis
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enters our mind we are no longer happy
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today I want to teach you how how to be
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happy now that may sound insane because
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is happiness something that can be
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taught because normally when we think
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about happiness we think about a
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fulfilling life oh yeah the future is
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bright but there's climate change
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there's war there's inflation we think
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oh happiness is finding the person that
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you love right oh if I could just get
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this person to love me back then I would
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be happy but often times those people
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succeed in entering a relationship and
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it doesn't lead to happiness divorce
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rates are 50% people change the
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relationship turned out not to be what
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you thought it was and then we think
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about happiness's goals like I want to
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achieve all of these things and if I
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achieve all of these things then I will
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be happy but y'all know better than I do
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all kinds of crap gets in the way so how
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on Earth are we supposed to be happy in
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today's world well it's actually pretty
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simple the problem is that we have
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forgotten or lost what it means to
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actually be happy we we have lost our
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technical understanding of what
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happiness is right so if you ask someone
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oh what is Happy what is happiness to
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you first of all that's that question is
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stupid because happiness to you is
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irrelevant there is no happiness to you
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it's not like we asking the question oh
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what is sadness to you what is pain to
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you what is feeling anxious to you no
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like these are common technical
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neuroscientific definitions of the human
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state of existence and we have lost our
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understanding of first of all what the
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definition of happiness is and since we
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don't even know what it is we can't
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consistently create it but here's the
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crazy thing we actually know exactly
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what happiness is that's what I'm going
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to teach you today and once we
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understand what it is we will understand
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how to create it I know this is going to
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sound nuts but basically irrespective of
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the circumstances of your life now if
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you're listening to this the first thing
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that you're going to say is this is
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right like this is insane you
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can't just make a video about be H
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learning to be happy or how to be happy
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and then everyone becomes happy if it
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was that so simple someone would have
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done it well hear me out and let's pay
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attention and then we'll see right cuz I
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get that I get how insane it is but just
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bear with me so the first thing that we
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got to understand is that happiness does
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not come from objects right so this is
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the biggest mistake we make and it's a
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tragedy that this is true by the way so
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we go our whole lives thinking that a
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particular particular thing will make me
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happy right so oh if I have a burger
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today I will be happy if I can get this
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person to fall in love with me I will be
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happy I'm a virgin if I can get laid I
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will be happy if I get promoted if I
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make more money all of these things will
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bring me happiness now why do we believe
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this stuff because in our experience duh
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duh it's true I wanted a burger I got a
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burger and I ate it and now I'm happy Dr
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K what the hell are you talking about
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this is how it works except it doesn't
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work that way I know I know just hear me
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out cuz if the burger is where the
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happiness is every time you eat a burger
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you would be happy right and I was
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addicted to video games this is the big
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tragedy is that the the happiness is not
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in the object if it was I would I
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wouldn't be here I would be super happy
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being a degenerate gamer playing video
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games 24 hours a day seven days a week
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that's what I'd be doing all the time
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but the whole problem is that chasing
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that object doesn't consistently bring
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you happiness and you all know this
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right because you can have your favorite
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show that you want oh I really want to
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binge watch a show and then it's just
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not enjoyable you really want to play
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this video game oh Path of Exile 2 just
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came out and everyone's really excited
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you load up pathway like or you do
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finally get that person to go out with
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you on a date you do finally get laid
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and it turns out that this is not what
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you thought it was so the first thing
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that we have to understand is that if
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the happiness is in the object every
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time we engage with the object we would
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get the same level of happiness right
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like that's just how it works if the
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weight of this pen is in the pen when I
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pick up the pen I feel the weight that
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doesn't change no matter how many times
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I pick it up what my mood is what the
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weather is it doesn't matter doesn't
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matter the the the the quality is
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intrinsic in the object but that's not
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how it works for happiness so how does
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it work for happiness so once again
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we're going to pay attention to our
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experiences so there's this saying that
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comparison is the thief of joy and I've
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been seeing this posted on all of the
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Instagrams comparison is the thief of
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Joy don't compare don't compare don't
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compare so we can learn a lot from this
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the problem is that comparison is not
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the only thief of Joy right so we can go
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through our lives not comparing and
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there are all kinds of other things that
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can take away our happiness and this is
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really important data because if we
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understand the mechanism of how
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comparison takes away our happiness we
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will understand what happiness truly is
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so let's say that I get a toy okay I get
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some present for Christmas and I'm
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really happy happy I'm like yeah I
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got this toy and then I I call my friend
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and my friend who you know also got
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Christmas presents like yeah I got that
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same toy and I got this other toy and
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now suddenly I was happy right I was
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really happy with the the toy and then
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this other this bit of information this
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bit tiny bit of information from my
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friend enters my brain and then suddenly
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I was so happy with this oh wow I'm so
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happy and then suddenly this happiness
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disappears like what the isn't that
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weird weird like think about that for a
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second right isn't it really strange
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that you can be perfectly happy with
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something then something happens and the
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happiness is robbed oh I got promoted
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yeah I'm making $100,000 a year oh your
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bonus was you're making 120 suddenly I'm
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unhappy so kind of weird right and now
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let's look at our other example of
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playing a video game or binge watching a
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show and not enjoying it what is it that
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makes you not enjoy binge watching a
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show why do we even long for things like
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binge watching shows playing video games
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drugs sex even sleep I work with people
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who are suicidal and they long for death
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what are they longing for with all of
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these things they are longing for a
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peace of mind right so I want to get
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lost in a show I want to be so engaged
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with the show that the rest of the world
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disappears I want to turn that that TV
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on at 6:00 and I want to watch all
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through the night fuel myself and then
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when Dawn comes I'm going to pass out
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it's going to be amazing dude I've done
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land parties guys I know we we know what
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we're talking about if you're a land
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party person you want to obliviate your
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mind you want to be lost with drugs you
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want to be completely outside of your
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own head and that brings us to another
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Point as well which is that everyone is
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doing mindfulness now but mindfulness is
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a scam that's not really what it is the
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point of mindfulness is not to fill your
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mind with things it is actually the
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exact opposite to empty your mind the
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actual practice is mindlessness right
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that's what we're trying to do we're
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trying to empty our mind and when we
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enter this empty mind State we end up
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being relatively content and happy
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people who do mindfulness meditation for
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about an 8-week period their quality of
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life increases they become objectively
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happier so how can we kind of distill
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all of these examples to understand what
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the nature of happiness is so when I'm
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enjoying oh I got a pen for Christmas
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yay I'm very happy so at this moment my
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mind is focused on this I am absorbed in
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this this is why we love drugs so if if
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people who you know are dancing while
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they're drunk or eating getting the
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munchies while they're high what is so
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fun about that it's that you are
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completely absorbed within the activity
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this is also why orgasm is so much fun
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because when you are having an orgasm
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you are not thinking about anything else
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so the nature of happiness is very
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simple the nature of Happiness is a
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one-pointedness of the mind and anytime
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we are absorbed within one activity we
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are happy the problem that we fall into
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is that we become dependent on external
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objects to create this one-pointedness
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of the mind for us since I don't know
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how to make my mind one-pointed I'm
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going to rely on a video game or drugs
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or a a TV show and we don't watch boring
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shows right we're going to r on this
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object to make our mind one-pointed the
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problem is that as we rely on this
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external object to force one-pointedness
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of the mind for us then our mind becomes
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weak we are not capable of making our
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mind one-pointed now there's a really
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really interesting term to describe a
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mind that is not one-pointed a mind that
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is fractured in a thousand directions
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and as a psychiatrist the thing that my
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patients consistently hate the most
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across every patient that I've worked
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with the thing that people dislike the
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most is something called boredom when
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people hear about our coaching program
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their first response is usually why
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would I work with another human being
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when I can watch YouTube videos all on
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my own working with a coach is about
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amplifying your time and effort we're
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great at wanting things and even making
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some progress but we usually struggle
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with follow through or have some kind of
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setback and that's exactly where working
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with a coach can help coaches provide
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personalized support to help you set
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appropriate goals make progress and even
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work through setbacks just let us know
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description below to see if coaching is
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right for you so what is boredom what
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happens inside you when you were bored
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your mind is all over the place you want
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to do this you want to do this you want
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to do this you feel Restless you feel
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like fidgeting right there's nothing to
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occupy the mind so when we're bored I
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don't know if this has ever happened to
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you but a couple days ago I was bored so
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I loaded up a video game I played it for
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5 minutes and I was like ah this is not
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fun for me so I closed the video game I
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started browsing Reddit for a couple of
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minutes then I closed Reddit and I was
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like this is not fun for me then I
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loaded up a second video game Star
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sector and then Path of Exile and I
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played that for 5 minutes and I was like
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H this is not doing it for me what human
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beings hate more than anything else in
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this world is boredom happiness and
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sadness are not opposites happiness and
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boredom are opposites because happiness
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is a one-pointed mind and boredom is a
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mind that's all over the place
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why is it that we watch TV when we eat
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something because when we eat something
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instead of focusing on this our mind is
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running all over the place so instead
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what we want is we want an artificial
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way to focus our mind so that we're not
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bored when we eat and now if we look at
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all of the things that destroy our
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happiness we will see that there is one
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very very very simple pattern I used to
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be one-pointed and now an external
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thought enters and shatters is why my
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one-pointedness I used to be oh look at
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I have this pen and then the moment that
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this external thought this person has
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more the moment that that thought enters
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my happiness is destroyed the reason
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that video games no longer become fun is
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because we get bored while playing them
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we can be very very excited about the
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future but the moment that the thought
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of climate change the thought of
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inflation the thought of a dating crisis
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enters our mind we are no longer happy
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happy and this is the cool thing about a
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one-pointed mind all the things that you
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think of as making you unhappy will no
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longer make you unhappy really good
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example is something called work so I've
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seen so many posts about people saying
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oh is this just life where we're working
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from 9 to5 and then we commute and then
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that's it I can't I can't do this for 30
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years right I can't slog away for 30
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years and then on the flip side we have
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this thing called The Flow State which
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is this mythical creation of this time
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when people are like they're working
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really hard being really productive and
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it feels really good like that sounds
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completely op what's the difference
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between these two states when you are
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grinding 9 to5 and you don't like your
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job what is happening in your mind are
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you absorbed with your work of course
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not your mind is wandering your work is
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boring what is boring is a many
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fluctuations of the mind all at once
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right this is the nature of suffering my
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work is so boring so then I have to
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distract myself I can tolerate work if I
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listen to an Audi book if I listen to a
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podcast why do we do that because when I
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listen to a podcast it creates
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one-pointedness of the mind and makes
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the work more tolerable but it's not the
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podcast itself it is simply the
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one-pointedness of the mind that becomes
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tolerable and this is true from a
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clinical perspective as well if we look
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at any mental illness you can whichever
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one you want we're going to go through a
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bunch of them what we we will see is
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that all of these mental illnesses share
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one thing which is many fluctuations of
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the mind when someone is depressed
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they're thinking oh life is hopeless
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there's no point no one likes me I'm
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failing I'm terrible I'm a loser so many
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thoughts when we look at something like
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a panic attack or anxiety that's even
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worse oh my God this is going to happen
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and this is going to happen and this is
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going to happen and then you engage with
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those thoughts you feed those thoughts
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and you work yourself from anxiety into
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a panic attack what is the difference
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between anxiety and panic attack the
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number of thoughts that you're having
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per second we can even look at things
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like obsessive compulsive disorder which
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is literally the de definition of
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obsessive compulsive disorder is to have
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intrusive obsessional thoughts that will
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never go away the reason that we engage
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in compulsions is to shut off our
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thoughts literally this is what happens
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in OCD people are like unless I flick
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the light switch up and down seven times
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I will keep having thoughts of everyone
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in my life dying in a car accident so in
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order to shut off the thoughts they
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engage in the behavior this is the
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really sad thing if we look at the world
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today we all have a very mild form of
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OCD we don't really have OCD but the
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analogy still holds because what are we
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doing I have a negative thought what do
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I do I engage in a compulsive Behavior
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to make it go away I'm bored what should
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I do play a video game makes the thought
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of boredom go away I feel terrible about
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myself what should I do watch some porn
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makes the thought of being feeling
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terrible about myself go away so if you
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want to create happiness in your life
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irrespective of your
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circumstances and I know this is what's
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really going to rub people the wrong way
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because we all think that the
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circumstances create happiness but we
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know that's not true there are plenty of
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billionaires out there who are still
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struggling to be happy and I've worked
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with homeless people who seem oddly
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content you may have met some of these
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people in your life where you're like
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how is this person so happy despite
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having so little or you may look at
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another person and say how on Earth is
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this person so unhappy when they have so
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much so sure there is a correlation
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between the amount of security you have
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the amount of money you have in your
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happiness that correlation absolutely
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exists but what we're talking about is a
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technical definition of Happiness what
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is happiness within you so now the
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question becomes how do we create it so
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the first thing that we've got to do is
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talk about meditation and I know oh
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meditation is the answer meditation is
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the answer meditation no meditation not
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the answer we're going to talk about it
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you decide whether meditation is the
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answer meditation is not going to make
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you happy okay let's understand how
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meditation can make you happy if you do
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it the right way what does meditation
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train us to do meditation trains us to
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have a one-pointed mind that's it
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observe your breath keep on observing
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your breath but I'm bored I don't give a
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keep observing your breath keep
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observing your breath but I'm bored I'm
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not doing anything there's no video
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games there's no titties it's just
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meditation I'm bored right meditator I'm
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titty I don't
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know I don't know if that's going to be
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Ed I don't know whatever okay so what's
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the purpose of meditation so if you want
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a one-pointed mind meditation is simply
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the easiest way to practice entering a
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one a one-pointed state of mind right so
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this is why meditation is also an
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evidence-based intervention for anxiety
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for depression for schizophrenia for OCD
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like cool how that works right it
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relieves all of these things because it
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it counters the basic problem with those
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which is too many thoughts thoughts all
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over the place really chaotic thoughts
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and yall know what this is like you know
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what it's like to be have thoughts full
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of your head and you don't know what to
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do and you're spiraling and all feels
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terrible it's so much suffering instead
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we want peace we want peace peace of
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mind okay so meditation is the first
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thing that will train you to do that if
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you want to do that the second thing
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that we can do and this one is going to
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be even a crappier answer than
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meditation is learn to tolerate boredom
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so this is what I would recommend for
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you all you guys if if the weather is
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decent you're not going to like get
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frostbite or anything so I I think a
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grounding practice works really well so
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go outside make sure your shoes are off
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and hopefully you can step on grass or
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dirt or something natural make sure your
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head is uncovered and your feet are
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touching the ground and spend 30 minutes
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with your eyes closed outside focusing
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on each foot and then the top of your
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head so we're going to do this rotating
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meditation I guess of focusing on one
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foot focusing on the second foot
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focusing on the top of our head so just
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rotate your awareness between these
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three things take a deep breath in and
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feel yourself just pulling in the energy
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from the ground in the sky okay the
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purpose of this is just to create the
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tolerance of boredom so the other thing
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that we can do to help us be happy is
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just to learn how to tolerate boredom so
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I think this grounding practice is
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really really good because it gives us
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something to occupy the mind but it's
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something that on purpose I'm not giving
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you something that's going to be very
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occupying right I don't want you to be
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very occupied I want you to be bored you
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can also if you're if you've got balls
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of steel or ovaries of Steel you can
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also try freeballing travel so this is
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something that's really dangerous right
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you could try going on a plane or going
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on a bus or going on a car and like not
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doing anything like don't take anything
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to do and just free ball it just like go
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for it like raw dog that stuff you know
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like it's not just give it a shot you're
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like oh my God Dr K that sounds terrible
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but well think about it like what are
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you really losing I mean you have
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thousands and thousands and thousands
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and hours of playing video games and
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watching shows and stuff like that what
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like four hours of not watching
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something is going to kill you yeah Dr
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Gate's going to kill me oh my God so
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learn to tolerate boredom the better you
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are at tolerating boredom sitting with
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boredom letting those thoughts arise and
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letting them pass the more happy you
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will become and now we get to the third
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and arguably the hardest thing and the
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that will actually make everything else
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that I said completely false okay so now
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I'm going to torpedo my whole argument
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so if you really want to be happy if we
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look at ourselves when we are in a
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moment of Happiness the cause of
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disruption is something called a
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lingering thought so you're sitting
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there maybe you're at Thanksgiving or
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Christmas or whatever and you're having
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a good meal and then a thought Creeps in
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right so we already said that
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one-pointedness of the mind is what
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creates happiness fair enough but if we
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look at when we try to be happy we have
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these persistent lingering thoughts that
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will enter our mind they come from
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somewhere and these lingering thoughts
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are really really dangerous because
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there are all kinds of desires that we
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have that are unfulfilled there are all
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kinds of goals that we set for ourselves
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there are all kinds of worries that we
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have about the future so the last thing
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to really consider is that you cannot be
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happy it's going to be very hard to be
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happy as long as those lingering
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thoughts are there now I'm not talking
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about depression I'm not talking about
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comparison I know it's kind of weird
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because like it's hard for me to Define
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this but hopefully you know what I'm
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talking about there are some thoughts in
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your life that keep coming up about
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things that you should do that's what a
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lingering thought is it's persistent
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it's not a random fluctuation it is a
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persistent fluctuation and it's not
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something that is necessarily like
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depressive right it's not a thought that
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makes you feel really really terrible or
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really really anxious there are thoughts
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that connect and come from your heart
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and things that you know you should do
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things that make you feel sad and
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disappointed more disappointed with
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yourself than sad right it's like I
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should really do this thing and the last
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thing that I'll tell y'all is that in
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order to make these lingering thoughts
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go away you've got two options you can
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either become a level 100 Yogi or you
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can do the thing and what I want
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yall to understand is When we struggle
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with these thoughts these lingering
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thoughts we struggle with
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procrastination I should do this oh like
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oh it's so hard that's not what I'm
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talking about should shouldn't enter the
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equation there's a different way to look
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at this which is do you want to have a
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peaceful mind if the answer is yes you
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will never have it as long as that karma
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is incomplete as long as that thought is
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lingering it is incomplete you will
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never be happy you can level up to 100
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level Yogi and then gain complete
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Detachment and be perfectly happy you
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can do that way that's way harder what's
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way easier is actually doing the
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thing so when you're quiet when you're
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got got some moment of Happ when you're
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one-pointed and that thought pops up the
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way that you need to approach that task
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is do I want peace of mind I know this
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is going to sound insane for the rest of
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my life if I want peace of mind for the
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rest of my life it has to start with
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this lingering thought because if you
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always wanted to be a painter and you've
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wanted this for 15 years and it keeps
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coming up keeps coming up this will
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haunt you it has haunted you for your
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entire life so so then you must do the
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thing if you want a mind at peace now
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you may say but Dr K does this mean I
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should just do whatever you know like
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should I just work really hard and
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fulfill all my goals no I want y'all to
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understand very clearly what I'm saying
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what I'm talking about is the state of
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happiness and what shatters the state of
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Happiness I'm not telling you to fulfill
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your goals so that you have a happy life
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I've worked with billionaires who have
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tried that doesn't work the Fulfillment
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of the goal is not what brings you
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happiness the Fulfillment of the goal
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makes the lingering thought go away and
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allows you to be one-pointed for a
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moment in
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time Focus Dr K focus focus your mind
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the one exception could be the insertion
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of certain body Images could bring us
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happiness I don't know anyway
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