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I think that the main thing that stops
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us from sort of building an identity
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that we actually resonate with is how
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much we get attached and stuck on our
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unchanging self and what I mean by that
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is not you know just
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like not liking yourself when you're
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changing or not liking what you Chang
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into or not liking yourself at the
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moment but not being able to let
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yourself
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go let yourself change you know embrace
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ing your own change and I've been
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wanting to make a video on this for a
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minute because I feel like it's
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something that's super pre prevalent
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especially in this current
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generation not being able to allow
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yourself to change and I feel like I was
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like this for so long I've been like
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this I feel like like up until recently
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which I hate to say cuz I like to think
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that I've been pretty self-conscious of
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myself for a while but up until recently
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I didn't really allow myself at least in
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mind to change and I didn't understand
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why and it's a lot of mental
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conditioning I was reading a book called
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becoming Supernatural it kind of
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highlights a lot of the the points of
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that it's
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essentially um saying that we kind of
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get addicted to who we are we get
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addicted to the chemicals of our
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experiences of the past we get addicted
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to who we were um and we just Loop those
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over and over again and I don't know if
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many of you believe in like
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manifestation or anything like that but
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even on a fundamental level you know if
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you're constantly playing the same
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thoughts and same actions and reliving
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those experiences your body is going to
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keep thinking you're going through
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that it's it's almost inescapable and
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it's almost like you know how can you
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change when you know the situations
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occurring at the moment how can you
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change when you're reliving the exact
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experience that got you to the point
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you're in right
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now and I'm not saying just forget you
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know that's hard to forget even in my
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experience
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like there's still stuff that I hold on
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to that I'm constantly trying to work
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on things in the past that I didn't
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necessarily like how it went or feel
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like I could have handled better or feel
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like I just needed a little more Insider
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maturity to get
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through but in saying that I realized
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that you know no change is going to
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occur unless I let myself go unless we
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let ourselves develop unless we make a
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change and I'm not saying like
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intentionally change yourself I'm not
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saying forget who you are and and not
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neglect not or neglect who you
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were because I feel like once we do that
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I feel like you know on a fundamental
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level it might be easy
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to forget yourself or to act different I
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can go out and act like a completely
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different person but I feel like it's
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those those Cycles I think my another
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YouTuber named Ryan he he talks about
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Cycles all the time it's like the ups
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and downs but
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once we start feeling some way once we
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start vibing a certain way we start
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looping those same thoughts over and
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over again and then getting stuck in
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those same thoughts we relive those same
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experiences and we fail to grow as
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people I think the first step in letting
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yourself go the first thing that I did
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was stop being ashamed of my own change
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and wanting to get better you know
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stopped being ashamed of uh trying new
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things for
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myself like I I've talked about it in
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video like how I do affirm at first I
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was like why would I do that like why
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would I talk to myself why would I say
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anything to myself like that I feel like
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that's kind of
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desperate but like one thing I realized
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like you can't be ashamed of loving
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yourself that's one thing you can't be
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ashamed of yourself you know like you
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can be ashamed of your actions this is
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that and the
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other but your betterment I feel like
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that's something you have to sort of
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hold on to and appreciate
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regardless
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and that's I think that's how I got to
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the point I'm at right now I feel
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greater than I ever did I read out my
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list of affirmations I say stuff every
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morning every night I used to do three
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times a day but you know time just not
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really on my side I get I leave the
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house my dorm at like 8:00 a.m. and I
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come back at like 10: so it gets kind of
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hard some days but on those days where I
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can you know it's important to reinforce
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those things in your head cuz as I said
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before like those negative Loops those
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negative cycles of thought you know
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you're constantly thinking these
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negative things over and over again um
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they have to be combed by something or
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replaced by
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something you know you can't replace a
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bad habit with
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absence you have to fill it in with
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something good I feel like like you're
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not going to stop you know smoking or
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something and just instead just sit
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still you know you're going to find
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something else to to fill that vacancy
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and I feel like a lot of people we have
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vacancies inside
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ourself and we like to fill it up with
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our previous experiences and uh our own
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inaction I think people get stuck and
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stagnant and I always use the quote like
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he who thinks the journey is over is
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true the L and that's what I mean you're
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not we're not letting ourselves continue
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our
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journey we accept the connotation we get
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comfortable with a
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connotation and it's not really Comfort
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within Who We Are comfort with an idea
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comfort with a a
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definition like I I used to think myself
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that it was more comfortable to have
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definition to have that not to say that
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I don't have a definition for myself at
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all but but to say
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that being comfortable with myself while
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I'm changing and I think see a couple
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people like that that little um that bit
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in my last video where I talked about
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how you have to be comfortable with
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yourself yourself while you're changing
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not just at the beginning or end you
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can't be too comfortable at those sides
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either and when I say Comfort I don't
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mean
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like don't be comfortable in a sense
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like don't be
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happy I mean don't be comfortable in a
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sense that you think that's the
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end you know don't be
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stagnant I think there's so much more to
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life and so much more that we can
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experience as people that we fa to truly
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appreciate just out of you know our
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inability to realize our own change and
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realize our own potential to
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change I think that a lot of people can
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do a lot of great things I see great
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things all the time
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and you know I'm s I'm starting to think
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I was right about that a little bit not
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necessarily because of my own growth
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mind y'all I thank y'all so much I
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couldn't Express in words how how
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grateful I am to have y AB board and or
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with me like I don't really know it's
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crazy experience but like I've been
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telling my friends who are kind of
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creative or do anything like just put
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your stuff out
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there just do it I've been putting stuff
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out for two
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years and like it's been great every
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every second I just love doing it but
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it's about putting yourself out there
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and allowing you know yourself to change
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with it yourself to change with the
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circumstance
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I feel like it's too easy to not do
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anything too easy to run go through your
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life
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and you know realize that you could have
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done something else or that maybe your
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passion was
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attainable it's about letting yourself
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go to explore but also being conscious
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and mindful of the implications of your
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actions you know is it's real easy for
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me to say you know let go acting like
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people don't have you know their
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day-to-day stuff I have my day-to-day
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stuff I can't you can't let go of your
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full identity what I mean is let go of
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the parts of yourself that seek out
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change you know you can't run from it I
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think a lot of times we run from our
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problems without realizing that we're
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running from ourselves you know like
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we're running from the parts of
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ourselves that need to heal from certain
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things like I myself I don't want to get
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into too much detail I feel like I'm
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already pretty vulnerable but you know
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there's there's things in my life that I
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think I have yet to overcome that I
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still need
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to and I'm not really ashamed of it you
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know like I'm still working towards it
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and I'm finding new ways to work towards
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it you know it's about confronting your
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problems in a way that makes you feel
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comfortable but also like create enough
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change cuz it's one thing to just
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acknowledge the issue like acknowledging
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an issue in mind knowing that
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something's wrong is the first step it's
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a beautiful step I think that a lot of
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people don't even get to that step so if
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you get like if you get there you're
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halfway to the battle
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man
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but you know that other half that
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figuring out the application and
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figuring out yourself enough to change
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and grow from it is entirely different
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which is why I stress the importance of
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sort of knowing yourself and being
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present enough with yourself to know how
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you feel about certain things I think a
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lot of our traumas and stresses can be
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mitigated with how we feel about them
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how we feel about how we connotate it in
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our
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minds like I used to have a big fear of
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public speaking I used to have a big
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fear not necessarily a fear of just
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expressing myself in public the way I
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am and I think a lot of my friends and a
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lot of people I see on a daily basis can
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attest that you know as the years have
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progressed as I've been developing like
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my personality I feel like shines
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through regardless of the situation of
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course I'm mindful but you know like and
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not being ashamed of being yourself like
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a lot of the stress of like social
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interaction kind of falls out the window
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not saying that I'm not mindful of like
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who I'm talking to how I'm talking to
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them
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but in finding yourself and which I
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don't think I've done you know I think
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it's it's a continuous thing
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but in finding out the pieces and parts
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of yourself
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self I think it opens doors to more
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pieces and parts just like how gratitude
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breeds more
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gratitude you know finding stuff to be
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grateful for finding things to
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appreciate it puts you on that that sort
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of vibration of gratefulness and
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gratitude and
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love and if you express that to yourself
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that's literally all you can
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exude I think I said a quote in the
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another video like loving yourself so
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much everything you see everything you
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interact with is an Exemplar of that
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love
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you got to put yourself out there for
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yourself you have to put yourself out
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there to
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yourself show yourself what you're
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capable of in a way and show
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yourself that you know is is maybe it's
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not maybe let me prove myself wrong at
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this point like a couple of days ago I'm
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constantly doing stuff I've been trying
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to do stuff just to get myself in my
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comfort zone and express myself in ways
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that I'm I'm probably haven't done
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before like I went to a uh poetry
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Workshop where initially I was just like
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I just like poetry I'm going to go and
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um just sit in listen to other people
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say but once I got there I just started
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writing or wrote something and you know
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I performed it I was nervous the whole
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time but I did it like I was happy that
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I did it at the end of the day even if I
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stuttered once stuttered twice you know
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I got my message out there I got what I
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wanted to get out of it and I showed
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myself you know regardless of my anxiety
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and how I feel about the situation I can
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still move
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forward it's not about how you feel it's
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about how you react to your
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feelings how react you react to the
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parts of yourself that are kind of
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scared of the
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situation and I say all this in
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moderation you know I'm not saying go
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into some super scary situation and just
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be a a real tough guy oh my God you can
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do
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anything of course be mindful be smart
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but also be courageous you know know
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what serves you and know what doesn't
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but also know what has potential to
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serve
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you I mean I feel like the biggest thing
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we can do is serve
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ourselves and all starts with uh letting
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yourself
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go being there for yourself treating
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yourself like a
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friend enough to the point where you
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know you allow the parts of yourself to
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change you know it's okay to grow it's
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okay to not have
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definition and I
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think once I kind of got to that
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point in my own development that I was
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like okay with seeing parts of myself
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change cuz even now I still hold on to
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stuff you know what I'm saying this
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stuff but like you know truth be told of
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course I'm still working on it that's
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kind of how I'm able to articulate it to
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the to an
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extent it's kind of my way of piecing it
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together
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you know of course there's still parts
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of myself that I hold on to that that
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seek out
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change but I'm becoming more conscious
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of it I'm becoming more present with how
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I
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feel because even if it's a part of
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myself that I know seeks out
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change you know I still love it enough
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to let it
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go I still appreciate what it does for
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me I appreciate you know feelings happy
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and sad life's only a reference to
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light is only in reference to dark you
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know you have to be mindful of how you
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are conting certain things in your head
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you know things are bad you know some
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things are bad some things are good but
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if it's constantly looping in your head
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I feel like sometimes you have to use
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Pascal's game you know sometimes you
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have to be a little delusional I don't
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know if this is 100% great advice you
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know
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but you have to let yourself
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flourish
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let yourself develop you know I'm not
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saying cut everybody off and start a
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whole new life I'm
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saying you know cut your old version of
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yourself off to the point where there's
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new life inside of
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you and if uh if you made it this far in
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the video I know
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how thank you so much honestly um
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um and just the way my channel has grown
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in the past couple of days is kind of
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crazy to me
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still um but I'm going continue just
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putting out the same same kind of stuff
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uh but thank you like I'm so grateful
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for all
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y'all you know much more than
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appreciative of all the comments y'all
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leave I read like every single one I
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literally try not to let a comment go
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and turn but you know if I miss one I'm
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sorry just thanks again uh I hope you
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all are doing great just make sure y'all
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are letting yourself develop letting
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yourself go letting yourselves Flores
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letting yourselves be
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you
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