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she's out of your league this is an idea
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that has been drilled into my head since
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I was 14 years old I accepted that lie
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blindly until I was 25 I assumed there
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was a league that all Attractive people
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belonged to and I wasn't part of it
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because I was not tall enough not
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muscular enough not rich enough not
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funny enough not successful enough not
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Alpha enough basically not good enough I
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carried that not good enough burden
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around and it made me feel insecure
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around attractive girls it pushed me to
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overcompensate trying to make up for not
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feeling good enough I'd buy girls drinks
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try to impress them confess my feelings
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all these things that didn't work and
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each time they didn't work it only
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reinforce my belief that I wasn't good
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enough have you ever experienced
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anything like that I bet you have your
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own version of this story it's a pretty
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common thing for people to go through
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but here's the good news it's not your
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fault and it's not even true I'm going
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to share with you a technique you can
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use with a woman who is very beautiful
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and I'll show you how to play with her
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mind but before that I want to talk to
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you like a brother and I want to discuss
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this issue about the phrase she's out of
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your league there is no League there's
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no such thing as good enough those are
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madeup arbitrary Concepts I know it
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might feel like they're true because
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most people seem to agree with them but
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just because the majority agrees doesn't
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make them right the majority of people
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go through life on autopilot they're not
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critically thinking about their beliefs
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like you are right now they're just
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following the crowd and if you look at
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the major areas of life happiness health
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money relationships the majority is
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often wrong about all of them most
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people complain constantly have no clear
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goals are unhealthy broke and their
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relationships are dysfunctional they're
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experts at finding things to be
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miserable about so why would you want to
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think like the majority you don't right
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you want to stay as far away from the
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majority's mindset as possible most
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people just follow the herd and that's
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fine if you're okay with getting the
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same results as them but if you want to
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live life on your own terms and do it in
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a way that makes you happy you need to
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stop doing what the majority does but
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that doesn't stop the majority from
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being loud and in your face does it this
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idea that she's out of your league gets
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reinforced everywhere on Tinder in por
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on billboards in Super Bowl ads in
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locker rooms and even in YouTube
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comments and sometimes you even
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reinforce this lie to yourself for
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example when you rank women on a scale
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from 1 to 10 you're buying into the idea
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of a league think about it what are you
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really saying when you call a woman a 10
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you're judging her solely on her
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appearance you're ignoring her
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personality deciding that you definitely
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want her before even knowing if she's a
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good person you're also saying that
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compared to other women she's better
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than they are and in a way you're
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implying that she's better than you how
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does calling a woman a affect your
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confidence does it change how you act
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around her if you talk to a woman you
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perceive as a 10 are you really
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connecting with her as a person or does
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it feel like she's somehow above you
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here's something I wish someone had told
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me years ago if you put a girl on a
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pedestal you'll always see yourself as
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beneath her and she'll have no choice
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but to look down on you make sense I'm
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not saying a woman's looks don't matter
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yes some women are more physically
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beautiful than others that's obvious
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you're never going to see a stunningly
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attractive woman and not feel something
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that's natural that's just being a man
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my point is this appreciate a beautiful
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woman but don't bow down to her don't
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lower yourself beneath her look her in
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the eyes and meet her energy don't put
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her or anyone else above yourself
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whatever you believe about yourself will
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eventually come true if you see yourself
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as beneath the women you're attracted to
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then that's where you'll stay but you
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could choose to look at yourself in a
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different way right have you ever
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realized that you have the power to
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choose how you see yourself you don't
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have to stick to your default settings
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you're in control here and if you knew
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there were other ways to look at
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yourself and at women why would you
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choose the way that makes you feel bad
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wouldn't you rather choose the
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perspective that makes you feel
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confident excited and open to new
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possibilities of course you would and
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now I will share with you a technique
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that will not only help you take control
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of the mind of the girl you're talking
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to but it will also help you get rid of
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the idea that she's out of your league
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let's say you've just met a girl and
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after talking for about 3 minutes things
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are going pretty well she's smiling
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being friendly asking questions and
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generally enjoying your company at this
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point most guys think okay this is going
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well I should keep doing exactly what
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I'm doing then a few minutes later she
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gets bored and leaves or she gives you
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her number but never replies when you
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text her sometimes she might talk to you
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for hours making you think she's really
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interested only to tell you later let's
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just be friends the takeaway is the
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solution to all of that it's a simple
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concept you give her your approval then
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take it away at Key moments this is most
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effective in the early stages of
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conversation right after you meet her
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and are getting to know her but before
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you've really connected or gotten
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comfortable this is the initial
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attraction phase and many guys mess it
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up by being too too nice too agreeable
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and ultimately too boring if you have
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watched the entire how to attract women
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series you will already know that women
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seek the attention and approval of a man
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they perceive as valuable but here's the
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catch if you give your attention and
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approval too easily she won't value it
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especially if she's very attractive as
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she's used to getting attention from men
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all the time when she gets something for
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free constantly it becomes easy for her
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to take it for granted on the flip side
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if you make her work for your attention
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and approval she'll value it and she'll
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value you in conversation you can do
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this by selectively giving and
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withdrawing your attention and approval
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when you pull away at the right moments
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she'll start chasing after you the more
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she chases you the more you tap into the
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law of effort justification this law
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states that the more effort we invest in
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something the more we want it make sense
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when you take away something she wants
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she'll chase after it and by chasing
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she'll want it even more guys who don't
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have a lot of options tend to be too
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timid to try this they stick to being
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nice and accommodating afraid to pull
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away because they don't want to ruin the
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moment or lose her attention if they do
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attempt the takeway they often don't
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fully commit so the girl doesn't take it
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seriously this hesitation comes from
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thoughts like what if I make her mad
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what if I pull away and lose her
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attention it's important to understand
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that these thoughts are rooted in
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scarcity the fear of losing the one girl
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whose attention you have because you
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don't believe you can get another but
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scarcity is an illusion in reality
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there's no shortage of women to spend
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your time with there's an abundance out
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there far more than you could ever have
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time for so fearing the loss of one girl
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is as irrational as a millionaire being
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worried about losing a single dollar
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guys with plenty of options don't stress
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about losing one girl they don't take it
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personally they also understand that
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women enjoy being teased and love
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chasing after a guy who pulls away from
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time to time it's the act of chasing
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that turns her on and makes her want you
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more so that's the idea you pull away
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and she chases after you this is a
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simple playful approach here are some
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examples if she says something you
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disagree with uh-oh you're losing me
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when she tells you her age you're way
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too young old for me if she flirts with
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you oh you don't want to flirt with me
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I'd be so bad for you if she calls you a
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jerk you know there are some really nice
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guys over there why don't you go talk to
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them if she acts bratty that's it I'm
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breaking up with you by the way if
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you're still watching and you haven't
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like the video yet come on bro you're
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sending me some mixed messages about our
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relationship here and here are some more
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playful lines you're trouble aren't you
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get out of here trouble I can't be seen
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talking to you that's it I'm divorcing
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you you can keep the beach house but I'm
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taking the dog I think I'm too high
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maintenance for you I said I wouldn't
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date bad girls anymore get out of here
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I'm going to have to ask you to leave
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don't say anything you're cute you'll
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mess it all up you must have driven your
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parents crazy isn't it a school night do
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your parents know where you are your
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parents would never approve of this
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you're taking this way too seriously
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you're messing it all up you're back to
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square one with me Missy that's it you
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lost me I'm not talking to you for 2
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minutes let's play a game let's see how
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long you can hold your breath where's
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your off button you're dead to me I'm
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high maintenance you need to whine and
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dine me I'm emotionally unavailable I
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can already tell we'd never get along I
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can't talk to you we're just going to
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fight all the time and I'll win the key
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is to be playful and introduce the
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takeaway early in the conversation when
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things are going well you'll come across
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as a lovable Rogue and it will change
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the whole dynamic but before we finish
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the video I want to let you know that
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I've created an online course that
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contains a step-by-step formula that
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will make women attracted to you
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regardless of what you think you're
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lacking in it you'll find exactly what
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women are attracted to in a man on a
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deep psychological level Beyond
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superficial things like height looks or
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money you will find a link in the video
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description anyway if you have any
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problems let me know in the comments
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this was the dark needle and take care
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of
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[Music]
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yourself but he's not coming back again
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so he's gone then you won't see him
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again it was
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convenient but you won't be staying
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friends and you know that
