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having somebody else obsessed with you
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and having the power to make someone not
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just like infatuation right not just
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lust I'm talking about true obsession
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with who you really are that's
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witchcraft okay that is like a spell you
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are placing someone under and it's all
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about seduction now you may or may not
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agree with the tips I'm about to share
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with you in today's podcast episode but
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honestly it doesn't matter because they
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work if you're new here hello my name is
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guys I stopped them in the summer
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lighting is on my face I decided to take
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advantage of the sun going down right
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subscribe button but I honestly don't
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want to ramble I want to talk about my
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first point which is the Marilyn Monroe
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effect this is also the ultra ego effect
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or whatever you want to call it a lot of
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people have been talking about it
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recently but it is something that has
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literally changed my entire life back in
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the day Marilyn Monroe would walk on the
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street and nobody would notice her but
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she would have this thing where she'd
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turn on her Marilyn Monroe there are so
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many testimonies of people who've been
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around Marilyn and she said I'm going to
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turn on my Marilyn Monroe and people
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would immediately notice her as soon as
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she kind of flip this switch within her
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when you're trying to seduce someone or
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make someone obsessed with you you need
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to access your own Alter Ego before we
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even start I need you to write a list of
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exactly who you want to be down to your
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morning routine down to the things you
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eat every day down to who you want to be
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perceived as make this list so detailed
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and make it from the perspective of the
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person you want to be obsessed with you
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how do your eyes glisten how do they see
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you what do they feel when they look at
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you and I know it sounds really silly
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but I think this is the most powerful
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thing when going into seduction or any
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type of love spell because you cannot
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regard yourself as just normal you right
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you need to regard yourself as the you
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you want them to be obsessed with how
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others perceive you is not something
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that you can control you can only
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control how you react to yourself and
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the type of person you want to become
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how confident are you in order to seduce
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someone and make someone obsessed with
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you are you obsessed with yourself are
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you doing everything need to do to even
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sustain if you attracted this person
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into your life because when people talk
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about like Law of Attraction and all of
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that like when you're trying to manifest
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a specific person you literally have to
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be a vibrational match to what you're
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experiencing you cannot be living in
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your current reality and jump into this
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new one where this person is obsessed
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with you you have to create a completely
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different version of yourself because
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who you are now you're not even obsessed
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with you don't even believe that someone
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could be obsessed with you why would
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someone be obsessed with you you're
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giving them no reason to if you are a
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woman watching this video you need to
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understand the psychology that goes
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behind a man who is falling in love
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there are different chemicals released
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in a man's brain when he falls in love
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versus a woman's brain women fall in
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love with dopamine and oxytocin simply
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making us happy will make us fall in
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love with you over time there's a lot
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more that goes into it but if you are
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obsessing over someone it's because they
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are fulfilling a certain fantasy that
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you want to see in your life
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simultaneously men have that same
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fantasy right but they fall in love with
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testosterone and vasopressin vasopressin
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is a chemical that is released in a
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man's brain when he overcomes a
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stressful situation essentially he needs
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to see you as a little bit of a
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challenge right if you're a woman
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watching this video this is extremely
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important but this can also be applied
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to men who are trying to get someone
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else obsess with them too it honestly is
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universal do not be afraid to walk away
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this is my number one piece of advice
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for any type of dating situation you
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cannot settle and convince yourself that
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something is okay when it's not
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especially in the beginning stages
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because when you first meet someone
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you're not actually meeting them you're
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meeting their representative you're
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meeting who they want you to see right
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you're not meeting their insecurities
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you're not meeting their fears you're
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not meeting the side of them that
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they're hiding from you and it's
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likewise for you too if you want to
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seduce someone they're falling in love
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with the idea of you before they fall in
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love with who you actually are I also
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want to add this podcast isn't to tell
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you to change yourself in order to
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seduce someone and blah blah blah the
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power of Seduction is used in so many
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different things it's used in sales in
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marketing on your Tik Tok feed or
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Instagram feed like you are seduced
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without even knowing you're seduced
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persuasion might be a little bit of a
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better word but the Art of Seduction can
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be used in so many different
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circumstances so the main thing to
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remember is to be yourself and be
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authentic always because when someone
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falls in love with the idea of you the
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mask is going to slip at some point you
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can't be inauthentic to who you are and
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try to win someone over because that
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means you're not secure with yourself so
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it would never work when I say create an
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alter ego I don't mean create a fake
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self create a heightened version of the
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person that you want to become because
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right now you're tolerating certain
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insecurities you have that aren't really
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necessary and you don't need anymore
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there are parts of you that you are
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aware of that you're holding back
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address those traits you're holding back
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there is no way you can make someone
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obsessed with you if you don't become
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obsessed with becoming the best version
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of yourself that's it and I feel like so
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many times people will mistake the power
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dynamics of it all it's like you like
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the idea of someone being obsessed with
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you because you lack that Obsession for
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yourself when if you had more confidence
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and I mean this goes for both genders if
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you had more confidence you would feel a
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lot more secure in having someone not
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like you because that's okay I don't
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even know you and to be honest I
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wouldn't even want to date you either
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you don't even like me why would you
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want to date someone that doesn't even
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like you why would you want to be in a
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constant Battle of convincing someone to
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love you do you love
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yourself really like do you love
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yourself if you're watching this video
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in order to make someone who has made it
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clear to you that they are not
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interested obsessed you are living in a
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delusion now that doesn't mean it can't
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come true but you also need to come to
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terms with yourself first and foremost
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there is no way of getting out of this
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insecurity that is within you nobody who
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comes into your life and loves you will
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get rid of those things that you've been
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avoiding within yourself and I have
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totally been there I am not saying this
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out of a place of judgment I'm saying
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this out of a place of love because I've
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sacrificed myself for love and I've
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gotten myself in hurtful positions doing
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so much for someone who just wouldn't do
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the same for me and I don't want to see
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you in a situ situation like that now
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that we got that out of the way find out
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your Art of Seduction archetype now a
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lot of people talk about The Art of
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Seduction book I've only listened to the
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audio book I'm not too much of a sit
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down and read type of person because I
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got ADHD but one thing I realized is
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that a lot of people will say oh this is
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how you become a siren this is how you
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become more CET or whatever the case is
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there's so many different archetypes
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other than the siren or the coet or
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whatever other people are saying that
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you should be you might not fit into
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that box if you try to use siren
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techniques and you are not a siren it
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might not work as well for you and
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that's just facts like to be a siren you
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have to be so nonchalant and I don't
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know about y'all but i' be
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chanting i' be shalan thing because like
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I'm just a very very extroverted person
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I love to laugh I love to be who I am
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and trying to water down who you are in
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order to get someone obsessed with you
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again isn't going to work and I'll link
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down in the description a free quiz that
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you guys can go take to figure out what
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archetype you are but this will just
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help you know what characteristics are
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your strong suits let's just talk about
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how to seduce as a siren in this video
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If you guys like a full video of all the
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archetypes let me know I just don't want
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this video to be too long first thing
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you need to do if you want to seduce
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someone as a siren is know that you are
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worthy of receiving do not be in your
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proving energy a lot of women when they
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get into situations with men decide to
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try to prove themselves
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before they really realize that man
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hasn't even proved himself to you you
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just saw him and thought he was handsome
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and thought he had money and saw that
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other girls were looking his way so all
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of a sudden when he gives you attention
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you're Star Struck no babe like he
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hasn't proven himself to you what does
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he do for work what are his Hobbies how
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are his friends like has he done
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anything to try to impress you it is so
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important to realize when you go into
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dating someone that it's so much more
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than looks how do they make you feel
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what are the little things right number
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two I want you to start using eye
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contact these are small techniques to
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really lure someone in be very very
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attentive when you talk to them right
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not too attentive where you're staring
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at them like this but like use your eye
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contact and maybe glance off for a
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second and then when they saying
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something really important or saying
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something that you're really interested
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in really look at them and just be
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interested just like you know do very
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very gentle movements don't do too much
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I think that's what sabotages a lot of
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women is they don't allow someone to
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show them who they are before just
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jumping into things they'll say one
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thing that you like and all of a sudden
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you're all over them they haven't shown
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you anything number three is to be
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playful okay laugh have a good time
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really try to accentuate the positive
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when you're around them if you are in
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the dating scene and you're starting to
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see something someone whatever positive
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thing they do for you give them a lot of
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praise for it especially if you present
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a problem and they solve it which is
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number four make small problems that
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they need to solve and I'm not saying
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lie or be deceitful I'm just saying for
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example oh I really need some medicine
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my stomach hurts I can go to the store
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for you if they don't do that it's
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probably unlikely that they're the type
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of man that you want in your life a man
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who is interested in you wants to help
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you they will show show you that they're
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obsessed with you through their actions
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there is no Journal prompt you can do to
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like make someone fall madly in love
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with you who's just not on that type of
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level and if you're feeling that way
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really ask yourself why do I want to
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convince someone who doesn't like me to
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like me what am I resisting within
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myself that I need to love because
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that's a part of you that you are
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resisting right like you are attached to
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an idea of someone rather than the
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reality that they're showing you so
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knowing that you already have the energy
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within you and if they're trying to
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impress you you need to acknowledge that
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if you're interested in them and accept
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their help you don't need to do too much
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as a woman to get attention from Men We
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just naturally attract attention from
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men beauty is so extremely valuable and
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something I've noticed within my own
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life is the more you work on the inner
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beauty that's within yourself the more
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it shines within your outer beauty too
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and you'll just have this aura about you
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the people who are attracted or obsessed
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with you will just notice that about you
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and just be drawn to you you're like a
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magnet which brings me into number five
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take space you cannot be so willing to
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just give people your energy they have
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to have time to miss you because if
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you're not missed if they don't really
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think about you when you're away that is
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a bad sign that's a sign saying oh I
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don't really care about that girl but
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she's around girl he's not into you and
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I hate that that's the truth but I think
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sometimes we over complicate things as
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women like we'll think oh like he's just
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kind of
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shy okay if he's shy
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girl if he's shy in that way Clos mouths
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don't get fed right and there's a
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difference yes sometimes you do have to
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reach out and see what's going on but
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don't overextend your energy when
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there's no reciprocation be busy even if
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you have to make it up that you're busy
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like who cares if you're actually busy
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like I know a lot of people were saying
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online and arguing like oh my God that's
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kind of pathetic if you have to make
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yourself busy don't lie sometimes you
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need to distract yourself from things
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like whatever you can do to distract
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yourself from this person or this
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situation I think that's healthy you
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know go do something rather than just
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sitting around and waiting for a text
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and being pathetic go use this energy
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for the better go use this energy to
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better yourself do something that makes
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you genuinely happy because if you don't
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necessarily have hobbies or things that
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you're doing outside of this connection
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it can just be a huge red flag number
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seven don't be afraid to compliment
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someone when you think about men most
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men don't receive compliments so if you
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just give a man a compliment about
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something that's very very Niche whether
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it's like you know his shirt or the way
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he does his hair Don't Force It
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obviously but if you see something you
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like compliment them what's going on
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besties so my microphone cut out in the
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last part of the video so I'm just going
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to finish off with saying this if you
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want someone to be obsessed with you you
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need to be obsessed with yourself s
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first and foremost and you need to push
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yourself outside your comfort zone to
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what you normally do and remember don't
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try to be something you're not I didn't
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want to make this video to tell you that
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you have to be a certain way or you have
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to change yourself in order to get
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people to like you because that's just
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not my vibe you guys know me but it's
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completely normal to want people to like
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you to want that type of attention
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especially in a romantic sense but with
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that being said you guys thank you guys
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so much for tuning in I'll see you guys
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next week bye y'all
