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this is a series about
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life about
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death about life after
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death this is Diana King she died at the
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age of 54 from
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answer okay we just check her ID
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okay her body is about to undergo an
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extraordinary process possession jewelry
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mhm
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okay 2
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three because Diana is one of 700 people
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a year who donate their bodies to
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science
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these will be used as tools for training
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anatomy and medical students and by
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surgeons practicing pioneering
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procedures in the UK television first
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with unpr precedented access to donors
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we follow the last months of their lives
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and their Journey after death
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get rid of this fer R let get rid of my
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flicky Fringe yeah that Fring I know
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I've never had a fringe well do you
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remember when it grew back curly after
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first lot of chemo well my Fringe gets
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for certain length and it goes curly now
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today is very special for 54 year-old
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nurse Diana she's having a party and
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wants to look her
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best Diana is dying what time is it
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actually s sh wordss totally informal
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yeah we what you want so if you want to
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get dressed up get dressed up if you
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don't don't yeah 5 years ago she was
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diagnosed with breast
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cancer she had chemotherapy and went
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into remission it's just like seeing
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everybody there together that sort of
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like means something and just sort of
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like people being happy so so yeah that
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should be good but a year ago the cancer
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returned and
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spread real hit depression major anger
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massive anger this wasn't going to
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happen I wasn't going to allow it to
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happen i' being cancer once I was going
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to be cancer again except this time I
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wasn't and that's where I went into
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complete denial cuz the CT scan showed
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the was extensive spread heart lungs
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sternum lymph nodes and I just thought
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you were taking no prisoners and I was
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to 6 months and my life changed
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completely the last 3 weeks it's been
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really really yeah but that's temper
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it's not it's just cuz you've been
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really really
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down it's a very fatal
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feeling I wouldn't say it's Panic it's
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like suddenly you've hit that wall and
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that's it or you can see that wall
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coming and you can't stop it that's the
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nearest I can describe it don't want it
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to be it's not going to be you can't do
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anything about
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it Diana's husband and daughter are
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making last minute party
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preparations just going to put this over
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here okay dog that's not straight
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your side needs to go down a
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bit and then should we put some balloons
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on the lights over there and on the
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other ones yes you can
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do mom was like my world when I was
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growing up she brought me up on her own
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which was hard she worked two or three
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jobs she took me to school she only just
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made end me but I never saw any of that
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you know Christmases were good birthdays
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were amazing everything was
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happy celebrating his big
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bch these don't want ring on the other
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it's the other ones I'll go and get them
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all
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right I met Diana at a pub in
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Arrington we had a few drinks and uh it
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was the following Saturday that we
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started really seeing each other and uh
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we it
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off we got married on the 6th of April
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1994 so it's been 20 years
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I put a white
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one there Diana and her family didn't
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think she would see this
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day a year ago she was given six months
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to
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live we've got one more white one and
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how many blue ones have we got one more
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I think
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yeah she's beaten her
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prognosis the party is also a
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celebration of the fact that she's
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stolen a few extra months of life
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whether she was fit for it or not she
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was determined for this party to go
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ahead and she's going to be here she
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might she'll not be bopping away but
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she'll be here she'll be saying hello to
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everybody and having a
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laugh but the effort is taking its
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toll still say but went pain killers
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kicking to be
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honest and my but just doesn't appear to
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support itself
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anymore you can see the cancer in my mom
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every day it starts off with little
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things like weight loss being tired
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breathlessness but ultimately I'm
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watching her
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die Diana doesn't want death to be the
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end of her
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story she's taken the decision to donate
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her body to
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science there are 19 institutes across
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the UK that accept donated bodies for
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research and
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training Diana's body will go either to
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the University of Liverpool where she'll
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be used to teach Anatomy
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students body donation is very important
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for example in teaching we believe that
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it's essential that medical students and
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Anatomy students get the opportunity to
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dissect that's the best way that they
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can learn about the structures of the
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human body or she'll go to Newcastle
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where her body will be used to train
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surgeons without people donating their
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bodies we would have to rely on
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simulators and trainees practicing on
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live patients in the operating
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room with the bodies that have been
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donated to our unit we can allow them
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access to performing all of the minor uh
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and major procedures uh without putting
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patients lives in danger
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in this country we don't talk about
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death enough we don't consider the
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impact that's needed for not just for
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organ donation but for body donation as
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well as for research and
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teaching when I first heard about body
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donation I felt that I could be of a bit
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more use and it gave me something to
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hold on to to make sense of a death that
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I still feel is going to come too early
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when Diana announced she was donating
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her body her family reacted
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badly I got a bit upset at this and we
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had words which was wrong at the end of
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the day but I just said to I say I can't
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accept it you know because it's just
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unusual my mom first talked about body
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donation people were shocked it was a
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bit too out there the ones closest to
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her still I don't think fully have got
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the head round
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it Diana's made her decision the only
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question for her now is how to make the
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most of the time she has left
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thank you so much for coming yeah that's
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lovely got the flat shoes on I know how
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boring am I I know I can't get the heels
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on tonight's party isn't just a birthday
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party thank you so much happy birthday
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thank you you look well it's Diana's
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last chance to say goodbye to some of
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the most important people in her
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life a lot of special people are
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here Holly hly W done you you look
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fantastic his concert L I'm Mory you
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look lovely you look amazing oh I wish I
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felt it I must admit I'm so tired yeah
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but I'm here and that's the most
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important
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thing she's touched a lot of people's
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lives and she's inspired a lot of people
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but it's a double-edged
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SW it's still there and you still
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physically can see
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it I love you
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too every day we pretend it's not
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happening for our own sanity and for
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mom's sake none of us cope we all have
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private moments and we all
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struggle yeah
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right just like say to everybody thank
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you very much for making the effort to
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come here um it means a lot to me I'm
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not going to get sentimental but this is
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a birthday that I didn't expect to see
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but it's absolutely fantastic to see you
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all here friends and neighbors and
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family and you're all extremely special
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to me you have a big place in my heart
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you're all very very special thank
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you thank you
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Diana and Wayne share the Last
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Dance it's brought us together at first
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no disrespect Wayne I thought he's not
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going to go with us he's coming to terms
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with it now I
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think she's a
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fighter but the will come aack
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when chicken fights as much she wants it
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won't make any difference and I just
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feel at the moment time in limbo I'm
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just waiting for it to happen and I
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don't want it to happen
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some body donors have less time to come
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to terms with
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death every year hundreds of people sign
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up to Beque their
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bodies but not all have the chance to
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discuss their decision or put their
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lives in
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order 77-year-old Mike lives alone
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he has terminal
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cancer have I had a fulfilling life I've
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been very selfish in the fact that I've
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led the life that I wanted to
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lead I was diving for 50 years and I
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enjoyed every minute of exploring the
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seabed where man may have not gone
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before his daughter an lives in
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Chicago he I think came to a point where
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he realized he'd missed out on a lot of
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Our
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Lives I knew he loved us he just um came
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from that generation where parents when
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they divorced
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often you know uh there were absentee
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parents just under 6 months ago Mike was
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diagnosed with acute myoid leukemia a
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blood
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cancer I was told I had got about 12
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weeks to live
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and it really did surprise me the fact
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that uh the impacted had on me
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um I didn't think I would be as moved as
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much as I
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was Mike's outlived his prognosis but
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knows that time is very
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short I'm not having any more treatment
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other than the few tablets I'm now
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taking and the blood
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transfusions um which I are every two
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weeks and I suppose that's keeping me
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going he's had to make some quick and
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difficult
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decisions but one of them was
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easy it's not that I can fight off death
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but I knew I had to plan for one day
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that it would happen and um uh I thought
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the best way of handling it easily and
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simply um where I I hope that I can be
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of more use is if I donate it to science
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I just rang up Liverpool and they put me
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through it was as simple as
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that sometimes donors will ring up
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exactly knowing what they want to do
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they've been talking to a friend or a
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neighbor that's done it sometimes
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they'll do it because they don't want to
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fuss um they don't want their family to
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have any um worry at the time of their
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death so it'll all be sorted by the
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university as a bit of a fractured
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family I think it was part of Michael's
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thinking that it would be easier for us
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if he made this plan and uh you know
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once he'd set on this plan that's what
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he wanted so I think there was some
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element of him considering Us in that
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too I have no future but maybe 10 20 30
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years years down the line you know with
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the research that's going on and
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providing they have the um remains to
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work on um and the enough bodies are
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donated you know something just might
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happen just a few days after this
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interview Mike's condition began to
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deteriorate he was admitted to Banger
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Hospital
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it's been N9 days since Diana's
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party Diana and Wayne are in Scotland
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for a special
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occasion we got married on the 6th of
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April
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1994 we've been up to gret and green
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every year except for two
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we renewed vows 10 years ago and now
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this one 20
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years hello
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H yes
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please since the party Diana's been
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feeling much
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better okay so you're in Adam and Eve
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and I'll just take you up and show you
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to your room thank you very much lovely
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thank
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you it's been not the easiest to
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marriage we lots of ups and downs but we
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have survived and we have come through
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together Wayne's been very very
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supportive over the last year which has
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been a little bit difficult to say the
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least and he has come through and that's
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sort of like made me quite happy
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really there's always at the back of
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your mind that this is possibly the last
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time that I will be here I can't pretend
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it's not there I've learned to live with
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it a little bit now and I are the
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give into it and don't do anything or I
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am trying now to do all the things in my
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life that I've wanted to
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do only thing that they haven't got
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unless it's in the spon is
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miso ah
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yes it's not a real one I think the
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first time we got when we first got
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married it was a real one
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you don't you don't trust his re knives
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anymore
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thankfully today is a celebration of
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their marriage but it's also a
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realization of how Wayne's life will
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change you know when she's gone she's
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gone and I'll miss
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her even though we argue and fight
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sometimes I'll miss her cuz I've been
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with for 20 odd years 20 22
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years and it's
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hard should
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[Music]
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ever this time last year admit we didn't
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know whether she'd be here or not but
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she is and that's the main thing that
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counts Wayne will you continue to love
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confid and honor di to be her companion
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through all the joys and sorrows and
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pains of life and be faithful to her so
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long as you both shall live I will Di
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will you continue to love confident
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honor Wayne be His companion through all
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the joys and pains of life and be
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faithful to him so long as you both
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shall live oh well can you take Diana's
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right hand in your right hand Diana
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Diana on the day of our marriage on the
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day of our marriage I took you to be my
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wedded wife I took you to be my wedded
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wife for better for worse for better for
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worse for richer for poorer for Rich for
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poorer in sickness and in health sick
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to love and to cherish to love and to
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cherish from that day forward that day
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forward until we are parted by death
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until we are parted by death and this I
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affirm that solemn vow this iirm that
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solemn
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vow you D and now take Wayne's right
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hand
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Wayne on the day of our marriage the day
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of our marriage I took you to be my
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worded husband to you to be my for
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richer for poorer for Rich for poorer in
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sickness and in health sickness and in
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health to love the
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cherish CH from that day forward from
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that day forward until parted by death
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until we parted by death and today I
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reaffirm that solemn vow today I
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reaffirm that solemn
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vow in the name of the father and of the
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Son and the Holy Spirit amen
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the renewal of wedding bows has been a
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turning point for Diana it's refocused
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her on living rather than
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dying gradually the anger went away and
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I started to come to terms with things
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and I needed to look forward to the
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future that fascina looks fabulous don't
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it I thought right I take a grip of this
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now now and I start looking at what I
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want to do with the last months of my
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life and I start to take those choices
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[Music]
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bik 3 weeks ago Diana renewed her
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wedding
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vows that and an improvement in her
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health has given her a new
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Drive the trip to the zoo with her
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daughter wouldn't have been possible
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just a few weeks ago so how are you
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feeling today Mom okay quite good um
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pain levels of last two or 3 days have
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really improved um really quite strange
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they've changed from that thoracic area
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and although it's coming round and
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banding and going up to my shoulder it's
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meant that I can walk a lot better which
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is good that's what you want well most
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of really you know I want to try and be
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me for as long as possible
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really you're
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beautiful you there you go oh wow thank
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you we've both kind of been brought up
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with animals and this mutual love of
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them and Mom's obviously been on Safari
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so this is like the closest that we can
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kind of get and do it together and it's
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more things to look back and share you
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know and like I've never met a pelican
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before and the fact that they go ha ha
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when the bean fed is fantastic it's
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something different that you're not
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going to get to do every day you know
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that you can just you can cherish and go
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this is
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great
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yeah I think it's good to have that kind
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of
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fear my mom is a very Pro person and she
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won't let the world see what's going on
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inside
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and it is like a cup of warm milk that's
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got a film on top of it and once you
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poke your finger through that film
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that'ss your emotions underneath and you
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films what the rest of the world sees
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that everything's
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fine been told to cry told it to release
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but feels like you're giving into it a
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little bit I do cry I cry in shower yeah
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nobody can see
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that I'm not that strong yeah
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too much you want to come up with me
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yeah so even on a day like today you
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know it's happy and it's good but I'm
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not to natur should go home and cry cuz
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it's one last thing that we've done
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together and it's one more special
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memory that is going to be the final
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thing they will just like if you just
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pick it up and then feed it over your
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shoulder or they'll take it ow ow ow
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ow you like shoes got your
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ha oh you're
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amazing hi oh kiss Thank
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[Music]
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[Applause]
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you things are a bit different now
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aren't they and things mean a bit more
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you do but in a nice way yeah
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yeah yeah I will sleep tonight I am
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tired so
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it's just two weeks since the trip to
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the zoo that it seems a world
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away Diana's pain has
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returned she's sing her
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oncologist hello Diana prob be getting
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on my back um that noing pain has been
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getting worse so I've been needing to
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take more AR more through that it feels
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like I've either been scolded or a
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nettle and it's just on the right side
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the other side as well no touch is
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really really
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sensitive when the cancer came back she
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was prescribed the drug to
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moxen yeah and you're coping with the
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the treating of the I've not gone back
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on it right I'll be honest about that
00:26:57
it's don't get me right I'm feel well
00:27:01
enough now to go back on it so I will go
00:27:04
back on it because it you know it does
00:27:06
look like it shrunk things down doesn't
00:27:08
it it has hold of things so what are you
00:27:11
on for the pain at the moment at the
00:27:13
moment um 20 mgram of morphine twice a
00:27:17
day 150 pregabalin
00:27:21
paracetamol um through the day I'm s
00:27:23
like going every 6 hours with that my
00:27:26
hospice nurse phoned up and I felt a bit
00:27:28
rubbish so I told her about the pain
00:27:31
this morning um she's brought up one at
00:27:34
doctors from hospice he's he's told me
00:27:37
different ways that they can go with
00:27:39
pain relief so he asked me originally to
00:27:42
come in for a couple of days into
00:27:44
hospice but I don't want to no I really
00:27:48
don't want
00:27:50
to a year ago Diana was admitted to a
00:27:53
hospice for specialist pain
00:27:56
management but found it t
00:27:59
off they tried to get me involved in the
00:28:02
groups and the activities that they
00:28:04
provide which are good but the first
00:28:06
group that I went to I came across a
00:28:09
patient that less than six month ago
00:28:11
I've been looking after on my w and I
00:28:14
found that really difficult to
00:28:18
take I think it's the more the
00:28:21
realization that you are ill and you're
00:28:24
now terminally ill isn't something that
00:28:27
I'm particularly what to think
00:28:30
[Music]
00:28:32
about the other odd thing that's
00:28:35
happened I've lost sensation in the
00:28:38
bottom part of my jaw just like when you
00:28:41
go to dentist and you're injected yeah
00:28:45
it's from there just up to my mouth is
00:28:48
completely normal the hospice doctor
00:28:52
said he felt that it possibly needed
00:28:54
further
00:28:56
investigation in your case it's always
00:28:58
better to get a scan and Rule things out
00:29:01
yeah we should do another scan of your
00:29:04
brain and I think will concentrate on
00:29:07
the base of the skull if there is
00:29:10
anything that's where I would expect the
00:29:13
legion to be okay and I think we'll just
00:29:15
do an a mask on of your spine throwing
00:29:17
that in just to make sure that
00:29:19
everything is still okay mhm I'll get
00:29:22
the scans in the
00:29:24
pipeline they should be done in the next
00:29:27
month and we'll discuss the
00:29:29
[Music]
00:29:37
results while Diana waits for the scan
00:29:40
there's something important she's
00:29:42
determined to sort
00:29:45
out well today I'm meeting Andrew
00:29:48
horsefall who's the hospital chaplain
00:29:51
and um basically it's to discuss final
00:29:56
arrangements for memorial service is in
00:29:59
view of the body donation my family
00:30:02
won't get my body back for a
00:30:04
considerable length of time after my
00:30:06
death I feel if I have a memorial
00:30:10
service which I want to be a happy one a
00:30:14
celebration of my life rather than a a
00:30:16
funeral as such then this will hopefully
00:30:21
give them
00:30:23
closure everything to do with this
00:30:26
memorial service there's got to be some
00:30:28
sort of a connection I've worked here
00:30:31
for over 10 years and the chapel is a
00:30:34
place that I feel is very very peaceful
00:30:38
and it fits me so that's the reason why
00:30:42
I want it
00:30:50
here I've written everything down yeah
00:30:54
um certain things I need to ask you
00:30:58
whether it's appropriate whether it's
00:31:00
too long Yeah couple of things can they
00:31:03
be done can they not be done right of
00:31:05
course of thing yeah yeah that's fine
00:31:09
just share the ideas that you've got and
00:31:10
then we'll uh I will do you can take it
00:31:12
from there really right okay basically
00:31:16
um what's going to happen obviously
00:31:18
there'll be nobody and there going to be
00:31:21
um sort of big big spray of red roses
00:31:24
that sort of like represents me um red R
00:31:28
is why it's a symbol of love and
00:31:32
basically this service is me about me
00:31:36
wanting to say to the people that here
00:31:37
that I love you I don't want to be
00:31:39
saying goodbye to him as such
00:31:43
yeah I move on to my family next this
00:31:46
bit is hard okay um but I especially
00:31:49
want to say to my family that hope
00:31:51
always to be with
00:31:53
you and these words hard to right
00:31:57
[Music]
00:31:59
yeah and no matter what I'll always be
00:32:03
there and I feel this Str
00:32:06
strongly and I can't and I won't say
00:32:10
goodbye yeah
00:32:15
[Music]
00:32:18
[Applause]
00:32:25
[Music]
00:32:35
there you go
00:32:42
okay where did it go today then um okay
00:32:47
um slightly emotional in bits I mean
00:32:51
everybody's been put in a situation that
00:32:53
nobody wants to be put into it's a
00:32:55
terminal diagnosis yeah
00:32:58
it's a reality that Wayne also has to
00:33:01
face not s to thing you want
00:33:06
to I think about this yet it needs doing
00:33:10
now though doesn't it and you can't this
00:33:12
is something that can't be left till
00:33:14
last minute no it can't no it was hired
00:33:17
initially from my husband Wayne when I
00:33:20
started making inquiries because it
00:33:22
confronts them that this was
00:33:24
happening Diana's visit to the chapain
00:33:27
has forced them to have a Frank
00:33:30
conversation about her death I mean you
00:33:33
to di normally B something like that
00:33:36
with it well I will die
00:33:38
[Music]
00:33:40
normally or anything like that you were
00:33:42
just to die normal death or something
00:33:45
like that then you would have organized
00:33:47
your your
00:33:50
funeral I no do what if they didn't know
00:33:52
they were going to die you know I didn't
00:33:54
want to face S I didn't want to go down
00:33:57
and
00:33:58
and do all of that it's not easy because
00:34:00
it makes it real to me yeah and I'm
00:34:03
saying goodbye to everybody I know you
00:34:07
yeah so and everybody's saying goodbye
00:34:10
to
00:34:11
you
00:34:14
yeah I hope to God that when things do
00:34:19
finally happen that I I can handle it I
00:34:24
know I'll be in tears
00:34:28
[Music]
00:34:31
I
00:34:32
know that what she's doing is a good
00:34:36
thing I think to myself will I
00:34:40
manage I should do I've got lot of
00:34:43
friends and family that's there to back
00:34:46
me
00:34:47
up but I'm dreading that time
00:34:53
[Music]
00:35:14
good morning be office D
00:35:18
[Music]
00:35:20
speaking oh I'm really really sorry and
00:35:23
when was
00:35:24
that God I am sorry so do you know when
00:35:28
the death certificate will be signed
00:35:30
will it be sometime this
00:35:31
[Music]
00:35:36
morning I had this text from the heart
00:35:39
nurse who said you need to call me
00:35:42
now she told me that he'd passed away
00:35:46
about half an hour before so was but it
00:35:49
was still a shock even knowing how sick
00:35:51
he was and knowing that he was very
00:35:55
frail just I VI the
00:35:59
so this is Mr
00:36:02
Michael yep it's
00:36:04
fine as Mike's life ends his body is
00:36:08
beginning a new adventure we've just
00:36:11
received the donor so we're just
00:36:12
checking the paperwork to check the
00:36:15
identification uh and we're going to um
00:36:17
take the body up to the
00:36:21
m they thought he'd had an internal
00:36:23
bleed which is what the consultant
00:36:26
warned me would be the outcome for
00:36:28
somebody with this illness if there
00:36:30
wasn't a big episode like a heart attack
00:36:33
that it would be a a hemorrhage of some
00:36:39
sort Mike has been accepted as a body
00:36:42
donor at the University of
00:36:45
Liverpool his body will be used to teach
00:36:48
Anatomy
00:36:50
students but first he needs to be
00:36:53
prepared for class
00:37:00
[Music]
00:37:11
[Music]
00:37:17
makes chase the Department's really
00:37:19
quiet it's normally really busy isn't it
00:37:22
Saturday it's weekend I
00:37:24
know I'm here at the hospital today for
00:37:27
an hour M I scan uh when I was on a
00:37:30
holiday I've lost feeling in the lower
00:37:33
part of my face which may be something
00:37:35
nothing or maybe something
00:37:38
serious
00:37:41
here this mix feelings too size of the
00:37:44
kind a little bit trepidation in case
00:37:46
there has been some progression you just
00:37:49
close your eyes now but also I'm going
00:37:51
to know exactly what's going on and then
00:37:54
I can know what to expect doing a really
00:37:56
good job there
00:37:58
very
00:38:04
good is everything okay there Mrs King
00:38:07
yeah thanks it's fine so we're just
00:38:09
going to do the um the first scans if
00:38:11
you try not to swallow or take any big
00:38:13
size for these ones okay nice and
00:38:19
still the doctor says that she has some
00:38:22
metastasis in her spine so we're just
00:38:24
making sure that that's not compressing
00:38:26
the the spinal cord and might lead to
00:38:28
pain in her
00:38:30
[Music]
00:38:32
back Diana's had a good couple of months
00:38:36
but the scan will reveal what the future
00:38:39
holds there's some changes in there so
00:38:42
we just want to make sure that it's not
00:38:44
um sort of compressing the spine at all
00:38:46
so I'm just planning some extra pictures
00:38:48
through
00:38:50
there and just very still for the next 4
00:38:53
minutes you're doing really well
00:38:59
I don't know what I'm going to be facing
00:39:01
if it does progress it could be quite
00:39:07
nasty I'm not a brave person yeah I'm
00:39:11
[Music]
00:39:20
[Music]
00:39:22
scared Diana's pain is getting worse
00:39:28
I'm not quite as positive as what I'd
00:39:31
like to be for the last two weeks the
00:39:35
pains increased and that's meant doing
00:39:40
very little so I'm hoping today that Dr
00:39:45
Appel may be able to help a little
00:39:49
bit best friend cath is taking Diana to
00:39:53
the oncologist as Wayne has to work he's
00:39:57
hoping to join them later I've got a few
00:40:00
issues with pain where is the pain it's
00:40:04
here yeah
00:40:05
yeah my back it's agrava with movements
00:40:10
I think the reason why your pain is
00:40:13
getting worse is that your scan has got
00:40:16
worse
00:40:18
okay the scan on the brain was
00:40:20
absolutely fine but the scan on the back
00:40:23
the Bones have become a bit more
00:40:26
involved with with the cancerous
00:40:30
cells it's SP to other virt so I think
00:40:33
whatever we've been doing in terms of
00:40:36
trying to hold the
00:40:37
CER isn't
00:40:39
[Music]
00:40:43
working we we've really only tried one
00:40:47
thing haven't we that's toxen so we need
00:40:50
to think of of something that you can
00:40:55
tolerate and that will regain control of
00:40:58
the cancer
00:40:59
again um we into moan I didn't take it
00:41:04
probably for a period of about 6 weeks
00:41:08
would that have made any difference no
00:41:11
no not in the great scheme of things
00:41:13
right okay no don't worry about that
00:41:18
okay okay we can try a different hormone
00:41:22
[Music]
00:41:23
treatment or to try some form of
00:41:27
chemotherapy
00:41:31
treatment would I lose my hair
00:41:34
again no we can use a chemotherapy drug
00:41:37
that doesn't make you lose your hair
00:41:38
right
00:41:40
okay I think number one priority is to
00:41:43
get your pain controlled MH well
00:41:46
probably be best to get that done in the
00:41:49
hospice setting I don't know it's just
00:41:51
been away from family life I know but if
00:41:54
you think in the longer term having a
00:41:57
week in the hospice now you might then
00:42:00
be functioning much better for your
00:42:01
family M cuz your pain is controlled I
00:42:04
know I've got to get my hi around this
00:42:07
and I'm not going through a go phrase at
00:42:08
the moment cuz I'm feeling that no I
00:42:11
don't want this cancer I'm not going to
00:42:13
have this cancer once it's go away and
00:42:15
everything be all right and I can't do
00:42:18
that the hospice does remind me of the
00:42:22
fact that yeah you have cancer yeah if I
00:42:26
cont acted the hospice would you be okay
00:42:30
yeah I would much rather be at home
00:42:33
but if it can get things sorted out
00:42:36
quicker then it would certainly be much
00:42:39
quicker I think you are struggling I can
00:42:42
see
00:42:43
that come
00:42:44
[Music]
00:42:51
on she this still there it C still years
00:42:59
[Music]
00:43:15
so Mike died 4 days
00:43:18
ago in just a week's time he'll be used
00:43:21
in the anatomy students dissection class
00:43:36
we don't tend to concentrate on the
00:43:39
donut as a a person that has lived in
00:43:41
the past because we we would find that
00:43:44
upsetting as
00:43:46
staff to prepare him for dissection Mike
00:43:50
must first be washed and embed
00:43:53
[Music]
00:44:00
I will remember Michael actually as my
00:44:04
[Music]
00:44:09
friend there's always things that you
00:44:12
should have said or didn't say or or
00:44:14
maybe it didn't say enough but I don't
00:44:17
think that I have any unfinished
00:44:21
business with Michael I think that that
00:44:23
was the good thing about our
00:44:25
relationship was that we were pretty are
00:44:27
honest with each
00:44:28
[Music]
00:44:30
other the more you talk to people about
00:44:32
body donation the more you understand
00:44:35
that it is a really great gesture I'm
00:44:38
certainly very proud of his gesture I
00:44:40
think it's an example to us as a family
00:44:42
it's certainly example to
00:44:47
me what we do here is we preserve the
00:44:50
body for uh possibly for use for up to 3
00:44:54
years before that 3 years they were then
00:44:57
uh go for cremation or burial um so we
00:44:59
actually need them to to last with us
00:45:01
that long so our environing process will
00:45:05
allow us to to keep them for that
00:45:10
long the actual makeup of the
00:45:12
environment fluid um is a small amount
00:45:14
of form alahh uh we also use methanol uh
00:45:18
fenol and then diluted right down with
00:45:25
water so we just make a small incision
00:45:31
there the process that we use here is
00:45:33
that we insert a canula and we introduce
00:45:36
the embar fluid and that mixes with the
00:45:39
blood and
00:45:43
fixes it's lot like a blood transfusion
00:45:46
really where the fluid will enter into
00:45:49
the femal artery but as the femal vein
00:45:51
is open we'll allow the blood to come
00:45:55
out as the fluid is being pass through
00:45:58
and then using the string on the other
00:45:59
side make a small
00:46:05
[Music]
00:46:10
incision then tie that off just with a
00:46:12
single knot we'll use some clamps just
00:46:15
as a string probably isn't quite strong
00:46:17
enough just to hold them in there
00:46:30
[Music]
00:46:33
what we want to do is to preserve
00:46:34
everything that that's inside the body
00:46:36
so that when we do come to use our donor
00:46:39
the heart the lungs uh the liver are all
00:46:43
preserved as they
00:46:45
[Music]
00:46:46
were after all the blood then comes out
00:46:49
some of the fluid will then released but
00:46:51
we still keep pumping that fluid through
00:46:53
to make sure that all the cells
00:46:55
throughout the whole body are fixed
00:47:04
process now is going really really
00:47:06
smoothly we're just going to stay around
00:47:07
for another few hours just to make sure
00:47:09
the fluid is going in perfectly and then
00:47:11
we'll carry on the process tomorrow by
00:47:14
the end of tomorrow I think he'll be
00:47:15
perfectly
00:47:18
ounded I think it's just hard to imagine
00:47:21
that he's not really in Banger in his
00:47:23
house in his chair looking out over the
00:47:26
harbor there
00:47:30
I don't think I've yet got to that point
00:47:32
where I really believe he's not there
00:47:34
[Music]
00:47:50
anymore I do feel that I've took one
00:47:52
step nearer to death and the best way I
00:47:55
can describe it is is that I am now on a
00:47:58
different road to everybody else around
00:48:01
me I'm not going to be able to feel her
00:48:05
I'm never ever going to get a hug and
00:48:07
that's that's
00:48:09
horrible so as this is your first life
00:48:11
section anybody is feeling ill during
00:48:15
this please let us know it's actually
00:48:17
quite common that people will
00:48:20
[Music]
00:48:24
faint and that's next to at 9 here on
00:48:27
Channel 5 next tonight CSI the last ever
00:48:32
episode
00:48:33
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