Qual è stato il principale cambiamento nella comunicazione negli ultimi cent'anni?

Il principale cambiamento è avvenuto con l'arrivo di internet e dei social media, che hanno rivoluzionato la comunicazione rendendola istantanea.

Chi ha creato la prima piattaforma di social media e quale era?

Mark Zuckerberg ha creato Facebook, inizialmente per gli studenti di Harvard.

Quali sono alcuni benefici dei social media secondo la prospettiva islamica?

Permettono di promuovere l'Islam, condividere conoscenze religiose, e connettere persone da tutto il mondo.

Quali sono alcuni degli svantaggi dei social media menzionati nel discorso?

Possono causare dipendenza, disturbi del sonno, isolamento sociale, e perdere la capacità di stare da soli in maniera riflessiva.

Qual è un test che puoi fare a casa per capire se sei dipendente dai social media?

Valuta le tue interazioni con i generi, la divulgazione di peccati, la visualizzazione della felicità, il tempo trascorso, e la tua competenza sociale.

Cosa ha predetto il Profeta Muhammad riguardo i cambiamenti nella comunicazione?

Ha predetto che le persone avrebbero comunicato in modi che all'epoca sembravano impossibili, anticipando sviluppi come la tecnologia mobile.

Do I Need a Break From Social Media? | Ali Hammuda

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_T9Ee4XWiWE

Summary

TLDRIl video discute l'evoluzione della comunicazione, concentrandosi sull'impatto di internet e dei social media. Mette in evidenza come, negli ultimi cent'anni, le modalità di comunicazione siano cambiate drasticamente a livello globale, con internet e i social media che consentono comunicazioni rapide e diffuse. Il discorso esplora i benefici di queste tecnologie, come la diffusione di conoscenze islamiche e collegamenti globali, ma anche i pericoli, tra cui dipendenza, isolamento sociale e la perdita di introspezione. Viene presentato un "test casalingo" per valutare la propria dipendenza dai social media, considerando vari aspetti della vita personale e dell'interazione sociale. Infine, viene discussa l'importanza di valutare criticamente il proprio uso dei social media per equilibrare benefici e svantaggi.

Takeaways

🕌 Il discorso si svolge nel contesto di un centro islamico a Cardiff.
📜 La comunicazione è evoluta da orale a digitale.
💻 L'internet ha trasformato la comunicazione globale.
📱 I social media hanno pro e contro significativi.
📊 Viene presentato un test per identificare la dipendenza dai social media.
🔍 Il video promuove la riflessione sull'uso dei social media.
📚 Importanza della moderazione nell'uso digitale.
📴 L'oratore promuove una pausa o digitale detox dai social media.
🔗 I social media possono collegare persone globalmente.
⚖️ Bilanciare benefici e svantaggi dei social media è cruciale.

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00:00:00 - 00:05:00
Benvenuti al primo di una serie di incontri mensili dedicati a riflessioni su temi attuali nella comunità musulmana di Cardiff. Si sottolinea il ruolo centrale della moschea nella comunità e si auspicano nuovi progetti per il futuro.
00:05:00 - 00:10:00
Il relatore discute l'evoluzione della comunicazione attraverso i secoli, dall'oralità all'uso del papiro, fino all'era digitale con l'avvento di Internet e dei social media. Sottolinea come i social media abbiano rivoluzionato il modo di comunicare.
00:10:00 - 00:15:00
Viene citata una profezia del Profeta Maometto riguardo al cambiamento dei mezzi di comunicazione. Il relatore accenna al ruolo positivo dei social media nella diffusione delle informazioni islamiche, ma sottolinea anche i numerosi danni provocati.
00:15:00 - 00:20:00
Si esplorano i danni dei social media, come la dipendenza dai dispositivi, l'impatto sui ritmi del sonno e la capacità di godere della propria compagnia. Si evidenzia come i social media possano indurre isolamento e depressione.
00:20:00 - 00:25:00
Il relatore avverte che i social media possono rendere le persone socialmente incompetenti e infantili, compromettendo la loro capacità di avere interazioni umane reali e gratifiche differite, e di gestire situazioni complesse.
00:25:00 - 00:30:00
Si parla dell'importanza di valutare ogni tecnologia che cambia radicalmente la società. Viene introdotto un test personale in sette punti per verificare se si è dipendenti dai social media, iniziando dalle interazioni di genere problematica.
00:30:00 - 00:35:00
Il discorso prosegue illustrando il test di autocontrollo con altre sei domande legate all'uso dei social media: il mostrare i propri peccati, l'invidia, il controllo dello sguardo, l'incoraggiare il peccato, l'essere falsi e la gestione del tempo.
00:35:00 - 00:40:00
Particolare enfasi è posta sulla questione del tempo perso sui social media e sull'influenza dannosa che essi esercitano sulla nostra vita quotidiana, sottraendo tempo prezioso destinato alla crescita personale e spirituale.
00:40:00 - 00:45:00
Si consiglia di riflettere su come i social media influenzino la percezione di sé stessi e di considerare un uso limitato e più consapevole delle tecnologie digitali per migliorare il proprio stato spirituale e il benessere mentale.
00:45:00 - 00:50:00
Il punto di vista dell'oratore suggerisce una valutazione equilibrata tra pro e contro dei social media, incoraggiando un uso che arricchisca la vita spirituale piuttosto che distoglierci dai nostri obiettivi e valori.
00:50:00 - 00:57:22
Si conclude con un appello a limitare o eliminare l'uso dei social media se ciò risulta dannoso, invocando la necessità di proteggere la propria salute mentale e il tempo, e mantenendo la rilevanza sociale senza il peso della connessione costante.

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Frequently Asked Question

Qual è stato il principale cambiamento nella comunicazione negli ultimi cent'anni?
Il principale cambiamento è avvenuto con l'arrivo di internet e dei social media, che hanno rivoluzionato la comunicazione rendendola istantanea.
Chi ha creato la prima piattaforma di social media e quale era?
Mark Zuckerberg ha creato Facebook, inizialmente per gli studenti di Harvard.
Quali sono alcuni benefici dei social media secondo la prospettiva islamica?
Permettono di promuovere l'Islam, condividere conoscenze religiose, e connettere persone da tutto il mondo.
Quali sono alcuni degli svantaggi dei social media menzionati nel discorso?
Possono causare dipendenza, disturbi del sonno, isolamento sociale, e perdere la capacità di stare da soli in maniera riflessiva.
Qual è un test che puoi fare a casa per capire se sei dipendente dai social media?
Valuta le tue interazioni con i generi, la divulgazione di peccati, la visualizzazione della felicità, il tempo trascorso, e la tua competenza sociale.
Cosa ha predetto il Profeta Muhammad riguardo i cambiamenti nella comunicazione?
Ha predetto che le persone avrebbero comunicato in modi che all'epoca sembravano impossibili, anticipando sviluppi come la tecnologia mobile.

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welcome to your brothers and sisters to
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what we hope will be the zeitgeist
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a
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monthly
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uh lecture that we do in the city of
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wales
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we're very grateful to
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the south world islamic center
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its committee its imam and all of those
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involved the volunteers barakallahu
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vikum for facilitating this giving the
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opportunity
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and this masjid is at the heart of our
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community it is central to us and who we
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are as
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cardiff muslims
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we ask allah subhanahu wa tala to allow
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the light of iman and barakat and to
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emit from this masjid
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to make this
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a beginning of many projects
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and an extension of the projects that
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this masjid already carries out
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allahumma amin
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so in the last 100 years
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so many things have
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changed
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globally
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so many things have developed
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at an exponential rate so many things
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have devolved as well
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mainly from a moral perspective
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and perhaps nothing has evolved as fast
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as the
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means of communication
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if we go through a quick breakdown of
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what communication was like since
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antiquity
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in the beginning it was largely an oral
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transmission
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people saying something
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hearing it memorizing it
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and then passing it on to others
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then this would gradually develop
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and people would start engraving things
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on stone
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tablets
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and then stone became
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bones
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bones became leather parchments that
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they would write on
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and then
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those leather parchments became scrolls
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of sophisticated paper
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and communication was growing
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and becoming more effective
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and more detailed
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and then things began to evolve yet
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further and now there was the invention
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of what they call the homing pigeons
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giving a pigeon or training birds to
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take a message and to transfer it from
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country to country
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and then human messengers would also
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take messages transferring it from
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person to person country to country
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continent to continent
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on foot or on horseback
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they would also develop the technique or
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the technology of relay stations using
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fire to communicate messages so one
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station would light up with fire which
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would ignite another station which would
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ignite another station and a message is
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communicated from country to country
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or province to province
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the biggest shift in communication
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however
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was around you can say in the early
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parts of the 1990s
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when commercial internet service
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providers emerged
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and internet had become a
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household product for everyone to use to
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communicate for the first time in human
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history
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at the speed of light
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so the post office had happened the
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newspaper had happened magazines were
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printed
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this was in europe now you have
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communication at the speed of light
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from europe to china
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within a fraction of a second
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then we fast forward to around 2004
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where you had a gentleman
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a harvard university
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student at the time
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by the name of
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mark
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zuckerberg
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who
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developed the first social media
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platform known as facebook
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and the intention of facebook was just
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to be used by other fellow students at
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his university at harvard in
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america and everyone in the university
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started using it it just exploded in
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popularity
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then
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most of the universities in boston
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started to use it
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and within just two years in
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2006 the whole globe
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was familiar
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with this product called
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facebook
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with
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hundreds of millions of subscribers
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and then since then
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you had
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the likes of linkedin and myspace and of
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course twitter and instagram
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more recently tick tock
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and soon this very lecture whoever
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watches it on the video will become
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outdated it'll be out of date it loses
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shelf life because we stop that tick
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tock there's going to be a whole range
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of other social media platforms that we
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haven't listed things are still evolving
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what is interesting their brothers and
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sisters is that i wanna be prophet
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sallallahu alaihi wasallam predicted
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that there will be towards the end of
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time
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a change in the way that people
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communicate
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he said in the hadith which ahmad
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narrates on the authority of abu sayidin
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al-qudri he said
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i swear by the one who owns my life he
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said
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the day of judgment is not going to
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happen
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until a day comes when man
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will be speaking to wild creatures
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and the day will come when man
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will speak into the tip of his whip
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and will speak to the shoelace of his
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sandal the lace of his sandal
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and his thigh
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will tell him about what his family were
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getting up to since he left them
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what does this mean is this in reference
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to mobile phone technology allah knows
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best
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the point is that he sallallahu alaihi
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wasallam prophesies that there's going
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to be what a change in
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a change in communication
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now without doubt
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and it goes without saying
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social media has brought with it so much
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good from an islamic perspective
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the ability to advertise a talk like
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this record it publish it share it
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allowing people from the four corners of
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the globe to benefit from it
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the
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countless brothers and sisters who spend
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their evenings thinking about how to
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carefully craft that next islamic
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reminder to help people find their way
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back to their religion thousands of
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people who found their way to islam
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through social media
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quran that is recited hadith that is
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promoted misinformation that is
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corrected
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and when someone does a good because of
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something you post expect the same
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reward without any of their reward
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detracting
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it has brought with it opportunities not
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just from an islamic perspective from a
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non-muslim secular perspective a
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business perspective career perspective
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linkedin to know the other fellow
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professionals out there to know your
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tribesmen to know your family to
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communicate with people in philistine or
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in yemen or pakistan somalia it helps
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you discover who your cousins are your
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aunties are your greats are
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those who want to further their career
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climb up the ladder the corporate ladder
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it helps you do that by allah's
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permission
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so on and so forth
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that's on one side of the spectrum but
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on the other side of the spectrum it has
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also brought with it a heap
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full of harms
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on the adults and on the children as
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well social media although this is not
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the focus of this particular talk but
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what are some of these harms to list
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just a few
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a person's nightlife is quite ruined
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if you become obsessively addictive with
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social media
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you can't sleep a proper full night
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anymore
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these blue light emissions that you are
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absorbing all of the time it affects
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your sleep rhythms
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and then if you add to that that
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obsessive twitch to quickly
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uh
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uh un or remove the fly mode from your
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phone and to check your latest
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notification and then you get that next
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hit of dopamine and adrenaline and now
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you're awake and you can't sleep and it
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becomes even shorter of a night
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so you're knackered in the night you
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can't sleep and by day you're naked
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because you haven't slept and then your
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whole life becomes a misery
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that's one thing a second thing think
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about your ability to be alone with
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allah alone with yourself young boys
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young girls can't do that anymore
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because because social media has for the
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most part remove that ability from us
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because every opportunity that you're
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not speaking to someone or working or
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doing something it's an opportunity to
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put your hand in your pocket and to see
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what's going on the other side of the
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world so you have no time for yourself
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so with the passage of 5 10 15 years you
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lose the ability of finding contentment
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with just being alone
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to sit in
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a lot of us can't do that especially the
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younger generation
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because you're looking inwardly or
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you're looking outwardly all of the time
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outwardly outwardly outwardly and then
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when you're sat alone you're looking
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outwardly into what the world is doing
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you are unable to sit and to think
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inwardly for a moment about your lord
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subhanahu wa and this is an issue
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one of the greatest ways of boosting
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iman
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is learning how to sit alone without a
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phone without a friend without their
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parent for a moment in your day or night
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and for many of us we can't do that
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anymore
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because we feel that there's value in us
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that's missing so we try to find that
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value elsewhere that's number two number
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three
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there's heaps of evidence now to prove
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beyond fact that some of the loneliest
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saddest most depressed and anxious
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people on planet earth are those who use
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their phones their social media
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specifically most it's interesting you
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think that the more friends you had
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online
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the less lonely you feel that's not the
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situation that's not the science at all
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actually
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it's like the more chocolate you have in
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an aisle in the super supermarket does
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not help you curb your desire for
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chocolate any more than an aisle that
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has fewer chocolates
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lonely
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why because you are constantly comparing
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your life
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you're miserable or boring life that
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doesn't have vacations doesn't have
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business doesn't have the latest jordans
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you're comparing your life
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to the highlight reel of your neighbor
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to the highlight reel of someone in
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australia
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and they've removed all of the blemishes
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and the flows of their day so they feel
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lonely
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social media usually feel isolated they
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feel inadequate
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that's number three
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number four look at how social media has
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for many people made them completely
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socially incompetent especially maybe
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the younger generation gen z
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they can't hold
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a long and deep and meaningful
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conversation with you looking at you eye
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to eye that's gone because over the
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passage of years when you're obsessively
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using social media what happens your
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mind now is hardwired and
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short-circuited to only be able to deal
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with short comments lols thumbs up likes
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hashtag shares
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and you lose the ability to become an
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interpersonal human being
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you can't do it anymore
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so social media teaches you that if
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there's a problem in your relationships
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don't worry you can just get out of it
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just click the blog button end of story
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does that represent reality
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reality is far more sophisticated than
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that
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far more messy far more entangled far
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more intertwined you've got to be
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intelligent you've got to be socially
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smart you got to look at people you got
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to talk with them you got to know how to
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deal with difficult circumstances show
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social media says to you that this is an
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image that you gave over you
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impress over you share you comment you
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like that's it it doesn't teach you to
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look at a woman for example as a mother
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or a
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as a neighbor
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it doesn't train you doesn't give you
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those tools
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it strips you of them
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so you're left socially incompetent
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maybe you feel that
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i have felt that and i've experienced as
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some of you have the generation or the
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era before social media and after social
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media i can tell you i'm not the same
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person
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and alhamdulillah i'm taking a break at
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this moment in time it's been about a
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year and a half i'm fasting
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trying to give myself a break
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and i have seen the effects of the detox
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i don't know how long it's going to last
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but it's been phenomenal
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so that's another thing
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the element of what
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the element of what brothers
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what were we just talking about
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how it makes people
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socially incompetent
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add to the list another point this is
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your number five and that is
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look at how
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social media with time and with
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obsession with addiction it can
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infantilize your mind
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it can make your brain like the brain of
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an infant
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a child
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what do children love the most
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flashing lights and
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buzzing sounds
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what does social media train you train
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you to love the most
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flashing lights
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buzzing sounds they just call them more
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sophisticated terms like notifications
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and then look at the tantrum that the
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child kicks up when he or she they have
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their desires not met there and then
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instant gratification why not it's now
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the child kicks up a fuss they can't
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they're not patient they're not
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resilient they're just weak staff now
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and the users of social media what have
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they become
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like a child
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living off the next dopamine hit like an
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addict
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living and waiting for the next
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notification to feel that you're
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validated by society otherwise you don't
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feel that buzz that hit
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looking for instant gratification we
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become childlike with scattered
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attention we're unable to focus you pick
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up a book you read half a page and then
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you have that you're earning to see
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what's going on on the on your socials
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but your phone hasn't even gone off it's
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a phantom notification they call it you
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feel that your phone has gone off but it
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hasn't gone off it's an imagination
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because the wired the brain has been
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rewired
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so that a human being becomes childlike
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living off instant gratification
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tantrums when you don't get the way you
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want
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distracted anxious all over the place
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and unable to carry out a meaningful
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task
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so this is putting social media in the
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balance
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therefore brothers and sisters anything
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take as a rule
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that causes so much change in society
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anything that is adopted by most of
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humanity requires attention from us
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and to minimally dedicate to it a talk
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like this or a series as we have done
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before in other massages
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so i want to share with you
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a
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a home test kit
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you're going to go home this evening
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inshaallah brothers and sisters with a
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home test kit you can take with you to
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your house
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and you have seven parts that make up
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this home test kit
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you test yourself
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if you find that you fail this criteria
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of seven points i'm going to share with
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you then realize that you're testing
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positive
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for
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social media addiction and therefore
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there is a huge reshuffling that you got
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to make in your life
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seven milestones seven litmus tests i
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want you to think about and you then
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decide whether social media is the best
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thing for you or not people will come
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with different answers at the end of
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this
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take note of it
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number one
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the element of gender interactions
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boys and girls
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talking communicating befriending one
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another on social media this is the
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first point we'd like to speak about
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can boys and friends boys and girls just
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be friends
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we have made you a fitna for one another
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allah said will you be patient
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undoubtedly
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communication did exist between the men
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and the women from the companions of the
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prophet muhammad sallallahu no one can
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challenge that they did speak but what
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type of speak what type of speech
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it was a speech that was
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uh shadowed with umbrellas of decency
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and adeb
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and mannerisms
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respect
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and take note of this one
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necessity
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that was their communication with one
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another
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adam mannerisms respect
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decency and necessity that's how they
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spoke
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and there was this famous study that
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happened at the university of wisconsin
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wisconsin ucla where they took 44
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college age students some of them were
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single others were in a relationship and
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they and they paired them together
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and they studied them over a period of
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about a year
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and these people were friends before
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up to two years to 11 years of a
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friendship boys and girls they put them
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together and then they assessed they
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gave them an interview afterwards and
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they found
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that
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men almost always had an attraction
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towards the girl but the girl didn't
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always have an attraction towards the
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boy
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they found when they were interviewing
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them that the men
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consistently overestimated the
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relationship thinking that something was
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going on there's interest
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and the women consistently
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underestimated their relationship saying
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there was nothing going on we're just
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friends
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and now subhanallah with the whole metoo
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movement it it's showing islam as being
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morally superior yet again it was so
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wise when it said to you be careful be
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careful how you speak to the opposite
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gender and how you interact and with
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social media this opportunity has just
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mushroomed it's just exploded
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back in the days you wanted to talk with
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the girl you liked
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it was just i guess a piece of paper you
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write a message in it you make it into a
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paper airplane and you launch it and you
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hope you'll get into the window for her
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room not into the lap of her father that
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is and some of the stories that our
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elders shared with us prior to them
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practicing are hilarious
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now you don't need no paper aeroplane
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you don't need a ladder to climb into
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someone's room you just need an 11 digit
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number
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right or you need the social media
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profile name you're into the bedroom of
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that person
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you're telling me that's not a test
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it's a serious problem brothers and
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sisters
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so this is the first one i want you to
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think about and put yourself under the
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litmus test if you're failing this one
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maybe you need to walk away
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and look subhan allah
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what we did now is prove
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look at the arrangement of salah
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look at the formation of salah
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how was salah at the time of the prophet
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muhammed where women and men they prayed
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in the same room but how
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well look salah the purest of all
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actions
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carried out by the companions the purest
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of all people in masjidu never we one of
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the purest of all places on earth but
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look at the separation because islam is
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realistic it's pragmatic it don't throw
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you under the bus like that
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imam is a man never a woman
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there's bowing there's prostration
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there's compromising positions there's
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also an element of leadership
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there is an imam
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and then you have men who pray at the
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front where do women pray
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women they pray at the back
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what are the greatest roles for men in
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terms of reward
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the
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the front rows what are the most
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rewarding roles for our sisters
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the rosa are furthest away from the men
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the back rows
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then the prophet sallallahu alaihi
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wasallam would say to the companions
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when they finish their salah you don't
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turn around
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till your sisters they get up and leave
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first
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and there was a door for them called
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babu nisa the door of the women and they
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would leave by themselves uninterrupted
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in a dignified manner not having to push
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and shove with men
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he would say you stay there don't turn
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around
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until they leave
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this is in salah full hijab
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face faces covered
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and then the men would get up and they
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would leave so you're telling me that
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this is the arrangement in salah but all
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of a sudden on social media what's going
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on says dm me
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and that's not going to affect you this
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is okay
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this is a if that was the case our
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religion would be bipolar it'd be
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schizophrenic
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that it tells you that you do your salah
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like this but then outside of salah when
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there's no holiness involved everything
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is a free for all this is number one
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what was number one yeah
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gender interactions test yourself on
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that be honest number two
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allah does that mean
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see
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every one of us has a
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demon in his closet
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every one of us let's be honest has a
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sin that he or she is battling
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a a very difficult battle against
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whether it's pertaining to dress or
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music or women or men or whatever it may
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be we all have that individual battle
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every one of us
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one thing is committing the sin
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and then weeping about it and seeing
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astagfirullah and then doing it again
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because you're human
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but you say for allah and you don't
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forget you don't for you don't give up
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this person is near the mercy of allah
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that's one thing another thing however
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is doing the sin and then showing the
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world this is my sin this is what i'm
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getting up to
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as if to say
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not only am i committing the sin yeah
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allah i don't even care
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that then transforms the sin and
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hyperbolizes it it and it aggrandizes it
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it causes it to grow
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to a new level of severity and crime in
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the eyes of allah
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not because of the sin necessarily but
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because of the the mentality the
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approach the carelessness involved
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this is my sin and so what and let me
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show the world what i'm doing too this
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is called an arabic word
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what is the word for it
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exactly
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there is a hadith
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uh which bukhari and muslim narrate on
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the authority of
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the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam
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said
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um
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every member of my nation will have
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safety on the day of judgment except the
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people of mujahara those who publicly
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disclose their sins and then he explains
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foreign
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every member of my nation will have
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safety on the day of judgment except the
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people who show off their sins
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and then he said what this means is the
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following a man who commits a sin at
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night and allah covers him allah does
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not expose him
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and then he gets up the next day he says
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to the world i committed last night this
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and this this that and the other this is
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what i got up to last night
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the prophet alaihi wasallam said that
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night allah had covered him but he then
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tears apart the veil of allah
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so now with the advent of social media
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it's easier than ever before to show the
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world your mistakes
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your yearnings your
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your your your sins
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now keep that between you and allah that
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sin is not to be celebrated
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that sin is to be wept about when you
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think about it you cry
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your heart breaks why am i like this i
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shouldn't be this person when allah is
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my lord and he's lent me my limbs it's
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all unknown i'm going to have to return
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it i'm going to be six feet under i have
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a resurrection ahead of me my life is
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getting shorter i see gray hair why am i
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still committed that's the type of talk
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that's the type of discourse that should
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be when a person commits a sin let alone
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showing it to the world
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ya rasulullah
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a man said a messenger of allah
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tell me about safety how do we reach
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safety
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he said to him
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control what you say
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number two
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you took and your home should be enough
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for you not in and out in and out like
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your home is some sort of bed and
00:26:06
breakfast never to be seen no your home
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should be sufficient for you unless you
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need to go out number three and cry
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cry when you commit a sin
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cry over your sins not show the world
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your sins
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and who knows who knows
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who is will be encouraged to do what
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when they see your post on your share or
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your hashtag or the image that you
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posted or your status or where you were
00:26:30
last in the where you were where you
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were at in the last 24 hours who knows
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who will be encouraged to do what one
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can't bear to think about the prospects
00:26:38
of meeting allah with his own sins let
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alone carrying the sins of others
00:26:43
because of your encouragement because of
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your opposed this is mujahra this is
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showing allah i don't care it's a new
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level of criminality akhil kareem
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i speak for myself and i tell you this i
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have my own addictions
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i have my own problems i have my own
00:26:58
demons and the skeletons are closeted
00:27:00
i'm trying to overcome so please the
00:27:02
same way it would be unfair for me to
00:27:04
draw you into my world it would be
00:27:06
unfair for you to draw me into your
00:27:08
world
00:27:10
why share with each other our mistakes
00:27:12
and our vulnerabilities why help each
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other grow towards allah subhanahu wa
00:27:17
does it make you happy with your brother
00:27:18
that your carefully curated photo was
00:27:21
then used by a sister or seen by a
00:27:22
sister and now her heart breaks because
00:27:24
she can't have you and she's thinking
00:27:26
about you and salla does that make you
00:27:27
happy that you managed to pull someone
00:27:29
away from allah
00:27:30
does it
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please you dear sister to do the same
00:27:34
whether it's your profile picture or
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your social media app image whatever it
00:27:37
may be and now this person institute
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instead of thinking about his lord he's
00:27:41
prostrating and thinking about you how
00:27:43
is that success
00:27:45
or is that not a sign of worthlessness
00:27:47
of a person in the eyes of allah that
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he's used him for this type of behavior
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so this is what number one
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number two
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veil yourself dear brothers and sisters
00:27:58
in islam
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said
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he said
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stay away from these impure sins that
00:28:22
allah has forbidden
00:28:25
however he said anybody who commits one
00:28:27
of them
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let him repent to allah subhanahu wa
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ta'ala let him veil himself with the
00:28:32
veil of allah let him do what
00:28:35
veil himself don't tell the shaykh don't
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tell the imam don't tell the peers don't
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tell any one of them tell allah say i am
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sorry
00:28:43
and most importantly don't tell the
00:28:45
people through a post that you share
00:28:50
this is number two
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number three
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the third part of your home test kit
00:28:55
before you decide whether social media
00:28:57
is for you or not
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the element of
00:29:00
displaying your happiness to people your
00:29:03
joys the things that you got up to
00:29:06
hold on a minute
00:29:08
the next time you're out with your
00:29:09
friends at stakeout or whatever it may
00:29:12
be
00:29:13
you're enjoying yourself with your
00:29:14
brother your sister your spouse
00:29:16
and then you feel that impulse to put
00:29:19
your hand in your pocket and to snap
00:29:21
what you're doing hold on a minute just
00:29:22
pause for a minute say to yourself why
00:29:24
am i feeling that
00:29:27
why am i feeling the need to show people
00:29:30
what i'm doing why am i feeling that
00:29:32
what made me feel there
00:29:34
why is it that i
00:29:36
need people to validate my happiness
00:29:40
why do i need people to reassure me
00:29:42
that i'm having a good time
00:29:44
it's as if i can't have fun unless
00:29:46
people tell me that you're having fun
00:29:50
now keep the phone there in your pocket
00:29:52
and realize that when you are constantly
00:29:55
showing the world your joys your
00:29:57
successes the barbecues the vacations
00:30:00
the barbados
00:30:02
what are you doing you're bringing the
00:30:03
eyes of people upon yourself
00:30:05
you are bringing their eyes upon you and
00:30:07
your family and your money your health
00:30:10
and then you wonder
00:30:12
why you have anxieties
00:30:14
why you're depressed why you're why your
00:30:17
your life is melting away before your
00:30:19
life before your very eyes you brought
00:30:21
this upon yourself we did
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and that is why the nabi sallallahu
00:30:25
alaihi wasallam he said
00:30:27
the hadith
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on the authority of
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he said
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is
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he said
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make sure that you hold on to privacy
00:30:44
when you're fulfilling your endeavors
00:30:47
because everybody who has a blessing is
00:30:49
envied
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did you get the hadith phenomenal words
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hold on to privacy secrecy when you're
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fulfilling and endeavor don't go telling
00:30:58
everyone about it why because every
00:31:01
blessed man has an envy
00:31:06
so keep people away from you keep the
00:31:08
eyes of people away from your family
00:31:09
away from your property away from your
00:31:10
life
00:31:12
and if you need to share something only
00:31:14
share it with the people you love
00:31:16
mom dad siblings you know they only want
00:31:18
the best for you
00:31:22
by the way there's another element here
00:31:24
of showing the world what you go up to
00:31:26
what you got up to and the food and the
00:31:28
latest steak that you just had hold on a
00:31:30
minute does everyone have the
00:31:31
opportunity to eat me twice three times
00:31:33
four times a week
00:31:35
does everyone have the opportunity to
00:31:36
spend 30 quid on a steak
00:31:40
you just got married and you're showing
00:31:41
everyone your beautiful spouse okay fair
00:31:44
play too you've blurred out her face
00:31:45
jazakallah
00:31:48
what about your brother next door who
00:31:49
can't get married
00:31:50
what about the fella next door who
00:31:52
wanted to marry the girl that you're
00:31:53
married to
00:31:55
you graduated mashallah your dad got you
00:31:57
a bm
00:31:59
does everyone need to see that
00:32:01
maybe my car is a banger i'm struggling
00:32:03
with a basic skoda
00:32:05
is everyone a well-wisher for you and
00:32:06
then you wonder why am i feeling so
00:32:08
anxious so sad
00:32:10
it must be it must be black magic
00:32:13
let just go to your feed you'll mostly
00:32:15
you will find the answer there without
00:32:17
becoming obsessed with the idea of ain't
00:32:19
magic and the rest of it
00:32:22
so this is number one number three
00:32:24
the element of displaying your joys are
00:32:25
you a culprit to that are you a victim
00:32:27
of that you just can't help showing the
00:32:28
world everything you're doing
00:32:31
and what is interesting is that
00:32:33
the unhappiest people science says the
00:32:36
unhappiest of all people are those who
00:32:38
portray themselves to be the happiest of
00:32:40
people and if it was just about you
00:32:43
being happy maybe we can achieve that no
00:32:46
we want to be happier
00:32:48
than other people
00:32:51
and social media
00:32:53
is designed
00:32:54
to show you that people people are
00:32:56
happier than they actually are so how
00:32:58
can you ever win
00:33:00
as they say that jealousy
00:33:03
is about all the fun you thought they
00:33:04
have
00:33:05
jealousy is about the all the fun that
00:33:08
you thought they had
00:33:10
so cover your affairs brothers and
00:33:12
sisters
00:33:15
the fourth point is the element of the
00:33:17
gaze this is number one number four the
00:33:20
gaze
00:33:22
the eyes
00:33:24
do we need to elaborate
00:33:26
what has happened because of this since
00:33:28
the introduction of social media and the
00:33:29
unfettered access to the opposite gender
00:33:31
come on kareem 95 million photos and
00:33:34
videos uploaded on
00:33:36
instagram on a daily basis
00:33:40
and
00:33:40
350 million photos on facebook uploaded
00:33:43
on a daily basis that's a lot of content
00:33:46
you know the average 13 year old today
00:33:49
sees more content in one day than maybe
00:33:52
my granddad has seen in his whole life
00:33:56
because of the feed
00:33:59
right
00:34:00
so if you're unable to restrain the gays
00:34:03
we know who we are
00:34:05
then think whether social media is the
00:34:07
best thing for you
00:34:10
and that is why bukhari and muslim
00:34:12
narrate on the authority of abu sayyaf
00:34:14
that the messenger sallallahu alaihi
00:34:15
wasallam said
00:34:18
julius beware of sitting in public roads
00:34:24
you know public roads you know your sea
00:34:25
roads you know your edge will roads
00:34:27
where people just sat there with their
00:34:29
pipes or whatever they may be doing just
00:34:30
staring at people walking
00:34:33
he said don't sit in public pathways
00:34:36
don't do it
00:34:38
they said the companions
00:34:43
we've got nowhere else to sit
00:34:45
this is where we talk
00:34:47
in other words
00:34:49
their houses were not like our houses
00:34:50
with a kitchen a kitchen and a bedroom
00:34:52
dining room and tea room and
00:34:55
it was just a small space
00:34:58
so they were genuine they said where
00:34:59
else are we gonna sit and talk and get
00:35:00
to he said to them look for in
00:35:05
if you insist on seeing in the public
00:35:06
roads public spaces
00:35:10
your costas your lounges
00:35:14
make sure you give the road it's right
00:35:16
they said what is the right of the road
00:35:17
he said five things
00:35:20
are lowering the gaze
00:35:22
that came number one number one lowering
00:35:25
the case
00:35:26
if you're going to sit there you've got
00:35:28
to carry out the conditions
00:35:29
number one lowering the gains
00:35:32
number two kaful ada to not harm anyone
00:35:36
number three radu salaam to return the
00:35:38
greeting of salaam was
00:35:41
number four al-anm
00:35:51
it's quite expensive it's quite a task
00:35:54
it's quite a responsibility you want to
00:35:55
sit in a place like that fine by all
00:35:57
means these are the five conditions
00:36:00
and it begins with the lowering of the
00:36:02
gaze
00:36:03
why do i quote this hadith because this
00:36:05
is not just about
00:36:07
the physical highways the physical roads
00:36:09
that's also the roads of information
00:36:14
the highway information roads social
00:36:16
media they are roads
00:36:18
each app is made up of roads your feed
00:36:21
is a road that requires you to lower
00:36:24
your gaze and to not harm and to give
00:36:26
salaam and to enjoy good and forbid evil
00:36:28
it begins with the lowering of the gaze
00:36:31
it's a huge responsibility this
00:36:34
device here this miraculous organ
00:36:38
has blessed you and i with
00:36:40
one of the greatest pathways to your
00:36:42
heart
00:36:43
it is like a gutter
00:36:45
that is pouring into your heart all what
00:36:47
you feel inside of that gutter and this
00:36:49
is the pathway here as the poet he said
00:36:59
he said all calamities they began with
00:37:02
the glance
00:37:04
and all fires they begin with a spark
00:37:19
and your heart
00:37:20
there is going to be a question about
00:37:23
all of them on the day of judgment allah
00:37:25
said
00:37:27
so there's no point somebody posting a
00:37:29
picture of himself herself and then they
00:37:30
go no pervs please
00:37:33
or
00:37:34
you shouldn't be looking who told you to
00:37:36
look
00:37:38
the one who told you to lower the gaze
00:37:40
is the same one who told you to dress up
00:37:43
appropriately and careful how you
00:37:44
present yourself it came from the same
00:37:46
source don't cut and paste
00:37:55
and to protect their private parts that
00:37:57
will be purer for them allah he knows
00:37:59
what you are doing
00:38:01
and then he
00:38:02
says and tell the believing women to
00:38:05
lower their gains and to protect their
00:38:07
hearts and to not show their adornments
00:38:09
except what is apparent from it and then
00:38:11
the ayah gives a description of the
00:38:12
hijab so the same ayah that tells men to
00:38:15
lower their gaze and fear allah is the
00:38:17
same set of verses that tell our
00:38:19
counterparts to fear allah with respect
00:38:21
to dress presentation
00:38:23
that's balance
00:38:25
that's justice
00:38:27
the lowering of the gaze most of it is
00:38:29
not real brothers
00:38:31
dear sisters you are aware of that it's
00:38:33
the whole fake it till you make it
00:38:34
approach
00:38:36
you know that
00:38:38
and that's why ibn mufli when he was
00:38:40
giving us advice about how to help us
00:38:41
lower the gaze he says beautiful words
00:38:43
he said
00:39:02
he says because you will see something
00:39:06
that you cannot attain in a way that
00:39:08
does not represent its reality
00:39:10
did you get this
00:39:12
think about it it will help you and i to
00:39:14
lower the gaze
00:39:15
it's a beautiful statement
00:39:17
fear allah when it comes to the lowering
00:39:19
of the gays why because you will see
00:39:22
something
00:39:23
a that you can't attain most of it is
00:39:26
outreach
00:39:28
and the second problem
00:39:29
it does not represent its reality
00:39:33
it's not real
00:39:35
and that's why most things that you look
00:39:37
at and you think whoa
00:39:39
should you get a little bit closer you
00:39:40
say uh
00:39:42
is that not the case that's most things
00:39:44
alive
00:39:46
it's an illusion the whole dunya is
00:39:49
the enjoyment of illusion
00:39:52
no those cheekbones are not that high
00:39:55
and that face is not that slim nor is
00:39:56
the nose and the contouring is all fake
00:39:59
it's just a filter
00:40:00
right and there's no dou eyes involved
00:40:02
either
00:40:03
right because you got to be careful
00:40:04
nowadays
00:40:06
yeah brothers and sisters let's be
00:40:07
honest here i mean just one instagram
00:40:10
filter now can it's it's just it's just
00:40:12
better than a whole facial coverage of
00:40:14
foundation and setting powder and a
00:40:16
bronzer and contouring and and all of
00:40:19
that just one filter is all what you
00:40:20
need
00:40:23
so the gains
00:40:24
how are the gains
00:40:28
we ask allah to help us with this one
00:40:31
so test yourself against that and be
00:40:32
honest
00:40:36
so this is number one
00:40:38
number four
00:40:40
the fifth one brothers and sisters is
00:40:42
this
00:40:44
beware of encouraging sin
00:40:46
and that can happen so
00:40:50
subtly when using social media beware of
00:40:52
encouraging sin
00:40:54
what is the obligation by the way we all
00:40:56
know the answer when you see a sin in
00:40:58
front of you what are the obligations to
00:41:00
change it with your
00:41:02
with your hand if you are an authority
00:41:04
if you can't change it with your hand
00:41:05
what do we do we change it with our
00:41:07
with our speech if you can't change it
00:41:08
with your speech what do you change it
00:41:10
with
00:41:11
your heart and that is the
00:41:13
the weakest of iman
00:41:15
these are the options
00:41:18
this is the order of obligation
00:41:20
interestingly
00:41:21
interestingly that there are some people
00:41:23
who disregard this completely and they
00:41:25
go for a fourth option
00:41:27
instead of changing it with their hands
00:41:29
or with their mouths or just staying
00:41:30
quiet about it but feeling pain
00:41:32
they encourage the sin
00:41:35
they promote the behavior
00:41:37
and that's exactly what you have done
00:41:40
what i have done when we see that image
00:41:42
and we click like
00:41:45
what are you doing
00:41:46
that sin by association
00:41:50
or when you share
00:41:52
or when you drop a comment
00:41:54
that does not help that brother that
00:41:56
sister come out of their
00:41:58
darkness their sin
00:42:00
that sin by association and that is why
00:42:06
he
00:42:07
once or his
00:42:08
people
00:42:10
arrested a group that were caught
00:42:11
drinking alcohol in the city
00:42:14
this is haram in islam and the
00:42:15
punishment
00:42:16
the capital punishment or was about to
00:42:18
carry out upon them
00:42:20
which is lashing
00:42:22
so there was one man who who said i
00:42:24
wasn't drinking alcohol with him i was
00:42:26
fasting
00:42:28
he said okay inshaallah we'll begin with
00:42:29
you
00:42:31
the punishment will begin what are you
00:42:32
doing sat with them
00:42:34
you're fasting why didn't you advise
00:42:36
them why didn't you move away that is
00:42:37
what we call sin by association
00:42:40
so just him being there without saying
00:42:43
anything um
00:42:46
that he is to deserve the same
00:42:48
punishment for not speaking out against
00:42:50
it and then he quoted the ayah from
00:42:53
surah nisa
00:42:55
where allah
00:43:06
that allah has already revealed to you
00:43:08
in the book that if you hear people
00:43:10
mocking the signs of allah or
00:43:12
disbelieving in allah
00:43:14
then don't sit with them until they talk
00:43:16
about something else
00:43:20
otherwise you will be just like them
00:43:24
the same sin
00:43:25
if you're in that gathering you don't
00:43:26
move what then of somebody who
00:43:28
encourages through a like or a share or
00:43:30
an encouragement
00:43:31
so you see a brother who posts an image
00:43:33
or he posts let's say a status
00:43:36
and there is clear backstabbing here
00:43:39
he's venting his frustration of another
00:43:41
shaykh
00:43:42
of knowledge it's clear backstabbing you
00:43:44
drop a comment you're like you show him
00:43:45
who's boss bro
00:43:47
can you go for it show what you're made
00:43:49
out of you're right i'm with you on that
00:43:51
expect the same sin from allah if he is
00:43:53
sinful
00:43:55
or a sister of ours who posts an image
00:43:58
of herself that really compromises her
00:44:00
religion
00:44:01
and then a sister instead of saying to
00:44:03
her say your sister may allah bless you
00:44:06
may allah strengthen you keep this for
00:44:07
your husband keep this for your muharram
00:44:08
remember what you will look like when
00:44:10
the when the maggots start eating into
00:44:12
your eyes and eating in your intestines
00:44:13
a week after your death when your body
00:44:15
swells up and remember remember you give
00:44:17
her these hot softeners her sister
00:44:18
advises her no you click the like button
00:44:21
you just encourage her to continue if
00:44:23
this person is sinful expect the same
00:44:25
share for yourself
00:44:28
yes so beware of encouraging the sin
00:44:31
dear brothers and sisters
00:44:36
so i want to mention a sixth one
00:44:40
and that is the element of being
00:44:41
two-faced
00:44:43
two-faced measure yourself against that
00:44:45
some people
00:44:46
they have a particular demeanor a
00:44:48
persona in public
00:44:52
you know everything is going well
00:44:55
but then you look on the social media
00:44:56
you think whoa okay is this person
00:44:57
schizophrenic does he have a split
00:44:59
personality is there a bipolar disorder
00:45:01
some sort it's a completely different
00:45:03
person it's an all-out pimp
00:45:06
how can it be it's the same brother in
00:45:08
the masjid but look how he's presenting
00:45:10
himself on social media
00:45:12
this is what i listen to this is the
00:45:13
people i mix with here's images of me
00:45:15
what i was doing last weekend this is my
00:45:17
business it's all haram
00:45:19
that's being two-faced
00:45:23
and the messenger sallallahu alaihi
00:45:24
wasallam said about the people who are
00:45:26
two-faced and by the way the same
00:45:27
applies to our counterparts our sisters
00:45:29
our mothers our
00:45:30
daughters who in in public she may be
00:45:33
wearing the finest hijab may allah
00:45:35
strengthen them it is a test the hijab
00:45:37
especially today but on social media the
00:45:39
presentation as if
00:45:41
everyone's a mahram
00:45:43
everyone is maharam
00:45:44
nothing
00:45:45
how come
00:45:47
is this not a form of being two-faced
00:45:50
and the messenger
00:45:52
said
00:45:54
he said that the messenger salallahu
00:46:11
he said you will find that the worst of
00:46:14
all people on the day of judgement
00:46:17
with allah will be those who had two
00:46:19
faces
00:46:21
they would give a face to these people
00:46:22
and they would give a different face to
00:46:24
these people and he said in the hadith
00:46:26
of abu dhabu
00:46:33
whoever has two faces in the life of
00:46:35
this world
00:46:36
will have two tongues of fire in his
00:46:38
mouth on the day of judgment
00:46:40
because you spoke to these people with
00:46:42
this type of tongue and you spoke to
00:46:44
these people different type of tongue
00:46:45
that would be exposed on the day of
00:46:47
judgment so measure yourself against
00:46:49
that one as well they're brothers and
00:46:50
sisters that's number six and i conclude
00:46:52
with the seventh
00:46:53
which is
00:46:54
time time
00:46:59
what's time saying in your life now that
00:47:02
you are a social media user how much of
00:47:04
your day in your evening is it taking
00:47:05
from you
00:47:08
and i want you to realize that some of
00:47:09
us when we have something nicked from
00:47:10
our lives we hop onto social media guys
00:47:13
have you seen my phone someone's think
00:47:14
my phone it's a nokia it's a samsung
00:47:16
well nokia's old it's an apple or you
00:47:19
say my car's been nicked it's a bmw
00:47:22
there's a registration number plate it's
00:47:23
a black bmw
00:47:24
but now it's gone
00:47:27
so you go to social media to complain of
00:47:29
thieves not realizing that social media
00:47:31
has been thieving from you for the last
00:47:33
10 years of the life stealing the most
00:47:35
precious thing that you have and the
00:47:37
irreplaceable one that's called time
00:47:41
we have been the subject of daylight
00:47:43
robbery
00:47:44
think about it that's most of us i say
00:47:48
that's why
00:47:49
a man like dr calvin newport who was an
00:47:51
associate professor at georgetown
00:47:52
university he said that
00:47:56
social
00:47:57
media platforms have hired
00:48:00
entertainment engineers who borrow their
00:48:03
entertainment techniques from the la
00:48:05
casino gambling houses to make social
00:48:08
media as addictive as possible there's a
00:48:11
whole psychotherapy there's a whole
00:48:13
psychology behind the design of social
00:48:15
media that notification that sound the
00:48:17
color contrast that red number that
00:48:19
appears over that blue icon makes you
00:48:21
feel that you want to check it
00:48:23
in fact if i showed you my phone now and
00:48:25
you saw a notification on my socials you
00:48:28
would want to check it for me
00:48:30
it's like you wanna
00:48:32
sorry what
00:48:33
you want to check your notifications if
00:48:35
it's mine it's not yours
00:48:37
that's what happens because it's highly
00:48:39
addictive it's highly entertaining it's
00:48:41
a slot machine that's been put onto your
00:48:43
phone and you've installed onto your
00:48:44
heart
00:48:46
right so time what does that do to time
00:48:48
it usurps you it saps you of your time
00:48:52
if we are not careful that
00:49:00
he said oh son is adam you are made up
00:49:04
of days skin bone nerves no he said
00:49:06
you're made up of days so when a day
00:49:09
from your life passes by part of you has
00:49:11
disappeared
00:49:13
part of you has disappeared
00:49:17
and even
00:49:20
who has authored the biggest book
00:49:23
in history
00:49:24
in terms of volume numbers called
00:49:26
kitabul funon he said in
00:49:31
i have made it haram for me to waste a
00:49:34
single moment from my life
00:49:37
time dear brothers and sisters what are
00:49:39
you spending your time with please
00:49:41
see a concluding message before we wrap
00:49:44
up this message in this lecture and that
00:49:45
is
00:49:49
it's about how you see yourself
00:49:53
what light do you see yourself in yani
00:49:56
when you look into the mirror what
00:49:58
person do you see
00:50:01
do you see a helpless person mosquito
00:50:03
with no ambitions no vision no future
00:50:06
so khalas you've got to occupy yourself
00:50:08
with going through endless scrolls and
00:50:10
endless feeds and seeing the latest
00:50:12
tick-tock dance and trying to copy it
00:50:14
how do you see yourself it's about how
00:50:15
you see yourself or do you look into the
00:50:17
mirror and you say dignified muslim
00:50:20
dignified muslim i have a project ahead
00:50:22
of me
00:50:23
i have a paradise i have to justify my
00:50:26
tears for i have a short life ahead of
00:50:29
me i have a lord i need to honor him
00:50:31
please
00:50:32
i have a community i need to build i
00:50:34
have a religion i have to glorify i have
00:50:36
a message i have to convey i have a body
00:50:38
i want to keep healthy i have my dad i
00:50:40
want to honor
00:50:41
if you see that person then you wouldn't
00:50:44
allow yourself to spend hours of your
00:50:46
day endlessly scrolling because you know
00:50:48
your time is gold and you know your
00:50:50
worth is more than that
00:50:54
want to know your worth
00:50:56
look at where allah has stationed you
00:50:57
what are you doing
00:51:04
whoever wants to know of his station
00:51:06
with allah
00:51:08
just look at where allah has stationed
00:51:10
you
00:51:12
what defines your day
00:51:14
like how do you know if an employee has
00:51:17
a particular status at work you look at
00:51:19
where his employer has stationed him if
00:51:21
he stationed him with the trash you know
00:51:23
that this is his position if he
00:51:25
stationed him as a treasurer you know
00:51:26
his this is his position so where has
00:51:28
allah stationed you
00:51:30
if you're spending your days just going
00:51:32
through other people's waste and sewage
00:51:36
could it be a sign of your station in
00:51:38
the eyes of allah is not that high
00:51:40
so he's kept you busy with these petty
00:51:42
stuff
00:51:44
or is it that you say no it's time to
00:51:46
give it a break
00:51:47
it's time to think big now to plan
00:51:49
visionary style this is a sign of where
00:51:51
your station is in the eyes of allah
00:51:53
brothers and sisters
00:51:55
i personally believe it's no longer
00:51:57
sufficient
00:51:58
to say
00:52:00
i'm going to have social media because
00:52:01
it's harmless
00:52:03
so i'll have social media because it's
00:52:05
not affecting me i think that
00:52:07
argument is out of date
00:52:10
today with what we know and the effects
00:52:13
we are seeing on us and our children
00:52:16
the only opportunity the only choice we
00:52:19
have is to sit down with ourselves to
00:52:21
check in
00:52:22
and to look at the positives that you
00:52:24
are gaining from your social media and
00:52:26
then you weigh it up against the heaps
00:52:28
of evidence that are speaking today
00:52:31
against or about the harmful effects of
00:52:33
social media then you make the decision
00:52:36
and you will find if you are honest with
00:52:39
yourself dear brother dear sister that
00:52:40
for the overwhelming majority of us
00:52:43
social media is purely and only and
00:52:46
solely and exclusively a source of
00:52:48
entertainment nothing more nothing else
00:52:50
and a form of escapism to run away from
00:52:53
the challenges and the struggles of real
00:52:54
life work and real life grind
00:52:59
so you want to know if social media is
00:53:01
halal or
00:53:02
no one's going to give you a ruling like
00:53:03
that
00:53:06
but you can give yourself a ruling on an
00:53:08
individual level
00:53:10
because why is alcohol in gambling haram
00:53:22
say to people there is good in gambling
00:53:24
or say to people there is great sin in
00:53:27
gambling and alcohol and benefit for
00:53:30
people
00:53:31
so allah is saying look at how balanced
00:53:33
the religion is
00:53:34
there is some good in alcohol
00:53:37
it can give you perhaps
00:53:38
temporary stress-free life temporary
00:53:42
moments
00:53:44
there's some benefit in it people make
00:53:45
money out of it for example haram money
00:53:47
but it's money
00:53:49
gambling again people also make some
00:53:51
money out of it
00:53:52
there are some benefits for people in it
00:53:54
but there are great sins and allah says
00:54:00
but the sins involved in them both
00:54:02
outweigh their good thus they are
00:54:06
so you look at your social media in the
00:54:07
same light
00:54:10
is the evil outweighing the good i've
00:54:12
given you six or seven elements to think
00:54:15
about
00:54:16
is the sin outweighing the good
00:54:19
at the end of the evening do you feel
00:54:20
empowered enriched do you feel
00:54:21
spiritually refined because of social
00:54:23
media i say to you good for you bro more
00:54:25
power to you
00:54:27
if you feel that no you feel you feel
00:54:29
that inner sense of rot man
00:54:32
lost
00:54:33
dark you're not the feeling
00:54:36
you just wasted an hour on nothing
00:54:38
let alone sin
00:54:40
then careful it could be haram for you
00:54:42
as an individual
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you give the ruling based upon how you
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feel at the end of the day when you use
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it end of the year
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so brothers and sisters please this is
00:54:52
an appeal appeal even if you've decided
00:54:55
to stay on socials for one reason or
00:54:57
another i say to you
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remove those electronic hallucinations
00:55:02
from your life
00:55:05
check in with your lord
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and remove the applications that you
00:55:09
don't use uninstall as many of them as
00:55:11
you can
00:55:12
keep the bare minimum if you have to
00:55:14
stay
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and then the notifications disable them
00:55:20
disable them move the application to a
00:55:22
page that's not on your homepage so that
00:55:24
it's not always telling you you've got a
00:55:25
new message and then disable the app the
00:55:27
notification so that you can't hear it
00:55:31
and then you assess yourself whether you
00:55:32
have an addiction or not if you get
00:55:34
nervous when your phone is out of sight
00:55:36
you're an addict
00:55:38
if the very first thing you feel to do
00:55:40
when you wake up in the morning and you
00:55:42
still got one eye closed and you're
00:55:43
tapping around trying to find your phone
00:55:45
before you say asmulkul
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if it's the last thing you look at
00:55:53
before going to sleep
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you're an addict
00:55:58
if you panic when you feel a buzz in
00:56:00
your pocket and
00:56:02
you really want to interrupt the
00:56:03
conversation you don't seem rude you
00:56:04
want to see who messaged you you're an
00:56:07
addict
00:56:08
when you realize this
00:56:11
so brothers and sisters life is short
00:56:13
your life is precious
00:56:15
and only put your time and effort in
00:56:18
that which will give you the greatest
00:56:19
returns in the hereafter and about the
00:56:21
fomo the fear of missing out don't worry
00:56:23
you're not going to miss out
00:56:25
you can walk away from social media if
00:56:27
that's what you decided to do and you've
00:56:28
concluded that it's harming you you can
00:56:30
walk away and guess what you live a
00:56:32
little bit happier too
00:56:34
and you'll still be relevant
00:56:36
and you still know what you know what's
00:56:38
going on in the news
00:56:39
and you still be relevant in the economy
00:56:41
and people still want to hire you as a
00:56:42
professional you're not gonna miss out
00:56:44
you just might
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be a little bit happier and a little bit
00:56:48
closer to the pleasure of allah
00:56:53
these are
00:56:55
some bits of reflection i wanted to
00:56:56
share with you about social media
00:56:59
maybe i've come across as a little bit
00:57:00
biased
00:57:01
it wasn't the intention the intention is
00:57:03
simply to share with you
00:57:05
seven
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uh components that you can measure
00:57:08
yourself against and then you decide
00:57:10
honestly what your future is with these
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platforms