Intermediate Chinese Conversation: What do the Chinese Think of Getting Old 中国人如何看待变老

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Résumé

TLDRIn this episode of Dashu Mandarin, the hosts engage in a discussion about demographics of their audience, revealing that most viewers are male and 3-5% are over the age of 55. The conversation delves into life stages, specifically old age, highlighting the importance of financial planning for retirement. The hosts emphasize saving for old age and not depending on children or the government for financial support. Philosophical views on aging are shared, referencing Confucius’ insights on the maturity stages and advocating for reducing desires to live a balanced life. Health and personal hobbies are considered crucial aspects of preparing for old age, with one host planning to write a novel as a creative pursuit. Overall, the episode conveys the wisdom of preparing for old age through self-reliance and maintaining a fulfilling life balance.

A retenir

  • 👨‍💻 Most Dashu Mandarin viewers are males aged 25-35.
  • 👴 Emphasis on financial preparation for old age.
  • 🧘‍♂️ Importance of reducing desires for a balanced life.
  • 💰 Financial independence is key for retirement.
  • 🏃‍♂️ Health and exercise are vital in aging.
  • 📚 Writing as a creative pursuit in later life.
  • ❌ Do not rely on children for financial support.
  • 🪙 Savings are crucial for securing old age.
  • 💭 Philosophical insights on aging stages.
  • 🧑‍🤝‍🧑 Enhance personal hobbies to combat loneliness.

Chronologie

  • 00:00:00 - 00:05:00

    The video introduces a conversational discussion among the hosts of Dashu Mandarin as they interact playfully, discussing their audience demographics noting more male viewers than female, and addresses the age distribution of their viewers, emphasizing a small percentage over 55 years old. The hosts also bring up Chinese proverbs related to aging and wisdom, referencing Confucius to stress the importance of understanding destiny and goals as people get older.

  • 00:05:00 - 00:10:00

    The conversation shifts to personal preparations for old age, focusing primarily on financial security. The hosts discuss the expectation of self-reliance in older age, especially with savings as a crucial factor for those who do not plan to marry or have children, given the societal and personal pressures on younger generations. They stress the necessity of having a financial plan for retirement, suggesting systems for accumulation like paying off mortgages and achieving economic freedom by age 55.

  • 00:10:00 - 00:15:00

    Exploring further into preparations for aging, the hosts underline the significance of managing desires, suggesting that a contemplative lifestyle through simple living and reducing material needs is vital. This segment discusses the philosophical and practical aspects of being vegetarian as a way to curb desires. They mention physical well-being and coherent life planning, emphasizing health and hobbies as essential instruments to a fulfilling old age.

  • 00:15:00 - 00:25:29

    The final discussion touches on the importance of having pursuits in later life, such as writing or engaging in creative arts. The conversation ties back to a work of fiction about aging, authored by one of the hosts, contemplating life's twilight years. They discuss how personal interests can combat loneliness and provide satisfaction. The video concludes with an emphasis on buying an audiobook related to this topic, inviting viewers to support and connect with the themes shared.

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Vidéo Q&R

  • What is the main demographic of Dashu Mandarin's audience?

    Most viewers are male and aged between 25-35, with only 3-5% being over 55.

  • What is discussed in this episode?

    The episode discusses life stages, views on aging, financial preparation for retirement, and maintaining health.

  • How important is financial planning for old age according to the hosts?

    It's extremely important; they emphasize the need for savings and not relying on others for financial support.

  • What philosophical views about aging are shared by the hosts?

    The hosts mention Confucius' sayings about the stages of life and emphasize the importance of knowing one's destiny and curbing desires.

  • How do the hosts suggest handling desires in life?

    They suggest reducing desires, such as by eating vegetarian, as a way to live a content and less conflicted life.

  • What are the hosts' views on societal expectations about children supporting their elders?

    The hosts believe it's unrealistic to expect children to support their parents due to societal pressures and personal responsibilities.

  • Why do the hosts emphasize self-reliance in old age?

    They stress that one should prepare individually for old age, considering aspects like financial independence and personal hobbies for fulfillment.

  • What health-related advice do the hosts provide?

    The importance of regular exercise, early planning, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle is highlighted.

  • What creative pursuit is one of the hosts planning to undertake in old age?

    One host is planning to write a novel, seeing it as a fulfilling way to utilize time and creativity in old age.

  • How do the hosts plan to combat loneliness in old age?

    By having hobbies, maintaining interests like storytelling, and focusing on personal fulfillment rather than reliance on family.

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  • 00:00:00
    Welcome everyone to Dashu Mandarin
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    OK
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    Today we come to the unit about our life topics again
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    right Uncle Can, I observed a special phenomenon today
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    Hmm what?
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    Come and guess
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    Look, you don’t understand uncle’s Chinese?
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    Please tell me, uncle, how many male viewers are there in Chinese?
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    There are still more female viewers
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    Then you really asked the right person
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    Must be male
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    Hahaha I have seen the data in the background haha
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    It turned out to be so good
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    Hmm, then maybe everyone will be curious.
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    Do boys like to look at uncles or girls?
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    Of course it's a boy
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    Because the three of us are stinky men
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    right
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    Boys should learn the accent and pronunciation of boys
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    Yes, so there must be more male viewers.
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    Then I’ll give you another question.
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    Audiences over 55 years old
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    Approximately what percent of the total audience is it?
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    I remember over 55
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    Most of us should be around thirty years old
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    It seems
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    Most people are between 25 and 35 years old
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    Possible if you are over 55 years old
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    That 55 year old 10%
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    Is there any Why
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    Not that many
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    Ha ha ha ha
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    Elderly people usually don’t learn Chinese
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    Hahaha
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    right
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    We might go on a trip. I thought our charm was already so great, right?
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    We are suitable for all ages, right?
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    Suitable for all ages
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    There are also teenagers
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    There should be more haha
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    We also have 3% of our audience over 55 years old
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    Uh-huh, between 3-5
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    Oh, that’s a lot
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    No less, no less
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    Well I think
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    Because after all, there are not many elderly people learning languages.
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    They may choose to travel around the island
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    Not a roundabout
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    Travel around the world
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    Go travel around the world
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    Going on a trip, um, that might be possible
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    Why don’t you learn Chinese and enjoy it? Haha
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    Is there such a situation?
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    right
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    In fact, I just want to see this data in the background
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    I just want to say that this theme is good
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    Let's talk about old age
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    Okay, we don't touch on this topic very often.
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    It occurred to me that there are actually many in China
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    I also said you think of yourself
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    Hahaha I don't have it
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    It's almost time. I'm thinking of myself.
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    Hahaha
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    That's what I thought of
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    There are many proverbs in China that are related to old age.
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    Laoji Fufu
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    Aiming for a thousand miles
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    Oh right
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    And it looks like I'm senile
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    That doesn't mean
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    Hahaha
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    I am old and strong
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    Get stronger with old age
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    I also thought of this
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    Confucius said
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    Yeah, right
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    Standing at thirty
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    forty
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    No more confusion at forty
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    Not confused, fifty but
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    Know destiny
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    Know your destiny
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    Yes, yes, you must know destiny
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    Sixty and smooth ears
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    Is it right or not?
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    to seventy
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    Follow your heart's desires without exceeding the rules
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    Ah, I like this sentence the most
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    Follow your heart's desires without exceeding the rules
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    so comfortable
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    I think I think this Confucius’ sentence
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    Give me great inspiration
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    Well really
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    Confucius was a wise man
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    Really a wise man
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    Say fifty to him and you will know your destiny
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    I'm 50 now
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    Well, I think knowing destiny is very important
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    The so-called knowing destiny is to follow the way of heaven
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    right
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    Why don't you do something against the will of heaven just for eh?
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    Don't do anything that is harmful to nature
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    I think I'm of a certain age for that.
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    This one is about 50 years old
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    You will have a big difference and change in your outlook on life
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    Well, I think for me
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    I'm not old yet
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    But let me think about it
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    Maybe in ten years I will be old too
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    Yeah, right
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    I am now preparing for my old age
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    Wait a minute, I'll ask Uncle Can.
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    You, you feel old and old. When you are old,
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    What might you need to prepare?
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    But I'm ready to grow old, right?
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    Ready for crutches
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    I think for me
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    When you get old, you are the first to get old.
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    Like me at this stage
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    The first one I should prepare for in these ten years
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    It’s a very real issue, money.
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    Right
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    Have savings. You should have savings.
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    It is important to have savings
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    Because I am single-minded
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    I don't plan to get married
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    My brother too
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    So I often talk about this topic with my brother
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    It's when we get older
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    we have no children
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    We Chinese like to say that raising children will protect us from old age.
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    Right, right, after you raise a child
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    Hope
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    Wait until you get old
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    The children will take care of you
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    Then provide you with some pocket money for the elderly
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    Pocket money, right?
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    But in this era
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    Don't think about this matter
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    Because young people have too much time to take care of themselves
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    I really don’t have time to tell the truth
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    Then he has his own life
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    In addition, there is great competition and pressure in society
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    Involution, so he may not be able to protect himself.
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    So I think modern old people
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    It's best to think about yourself
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    prepare yourself
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    The first one is old
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    Is there enough money to spend in old age?
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    So I often discuss this topic with my brother
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    So we often talk about it
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    Calculated in Taiwan dollars
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    We're about 65 years old
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    Maybe we have to save up to 5 million
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    Well, that might be 1 million yuan
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    Well, then how to achieve this goal?
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    And then we might have a few more years
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    What should we do if we may not be able to make money after the age of 55?
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    We often think about these questions
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    Yeah, right
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    So my brother and I
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    Basically, money is the first consideration
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    After getting older
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    If you don't rely on your children
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    Under the situation of not borrowing money
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    can you live that
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    So I think for me
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    My goal
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    Probably I hope that when I am 55 years old
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    achieve a state of economic freedom
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    That's right, you don't need to worry about money
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    Maybe this method requires investment?
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    Then the interest from the investment can help you
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    More pocket money or something like that?
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    So this part
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    I think it was my first consideration before getting old.
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    Uncle Cha, how old are you this year?
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    I am 50 this year 50
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    When I was talking to my brother
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    In fact, we were preparing ten years ago
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    Already started preparing for
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    We just took out this mortgage ten years ago
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    I paid off the mortgage with my brother.
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    oh
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    So when I turned 40, the mortgage was paid off.
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    We are considering this issue
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    Uh-huh
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    We have solved the next task of mortgage loan
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    Our next job is what to do
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    After 65 years old
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    Because the system in Taiwan is
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    After the age of 65, you can receive the elderly pension
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    Uh-huh
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    So what are we going to do before that?
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    That's why when we are 40 years old
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    Just discussing this issue
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    So now we have spent ten years saving
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    Accumulation but little success
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    that is
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    Then
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    Over time and over time
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    Accumulate over time
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    And now we have a small amount of money
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    um so i
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    I feel like I'm not so worried now
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    So actually
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    Think about the future first
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    We say this is a precaution for the future.
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    There are still people who have no foresight
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    There must be immediate worries
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    There must be immediate worries
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    So this is the wisdom of our Chinese famous sayings
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    It really applies to life
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    so i think
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    I am following my brother now
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    I already have some savings for my old age.
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    I don’t think I have much fear about the future.
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    Then I can face everything in the future calmly
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    and then even
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    Now I have made some achievements in self-media
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    Well, the self-media gave me some help again
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    financial help
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    So I think my worries in this regard are not big.
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    To be honest, my brother and I
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    Now we are reaching the time when we were 40 years old
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    The standards set
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    There are too many things after that.
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    We can do as many as we want
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    For example, make life more comfortable
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    Buy some electrical appliances
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    Buy some nutritional supplements
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    Let yourself compare
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    It's more comfortable
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    So I think the first plan for old age is
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    for money
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    You must think about whether it is enough
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    Don't think about relying on others
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    That's right, don't even think about relying on the government to help you.
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    government is unreliable
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    to the government
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    to unreliable
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    Be the most reliable
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    Yeah, right
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    then you are ready
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    You won't be so worried about the future
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    then the second
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    I think it's for my own heart
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    Yeah, right
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    So I think uh
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    After 45 years old
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    I give myself some mottos
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    Let yourself slowly follow this goal
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    I think the biggest enemy in life is desire
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    Because desire is a bottomless pit
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    Many things have an end
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    Only desire has no end
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    so i i i
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    Tell yourself then
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    To be honest, I really like this quote
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    I regard it as a model
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    It means being strong without desire
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    Ah yes
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    This is the principle I adhere to
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    People without desires are the strongest people
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    I think this is what I said, right?
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    a bit like
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    It should be more of a Taoist thought
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    It's Taoism
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    I think I think we also often say that we are pure in heart and have few desires.
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    Right, so
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    Well
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    This is also the reason why I am a vegetarian
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    Not talking about me
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    I don't like taking lives or anything like that
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    Very noble ideal
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    Not really
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    But I think being vegetarian can control the desire to eat
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    Because the desire to eat is life, the feeling of self-restraint
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    Yes, after I became a vegetarian
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    Maybe I won’t miss meat so much
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    I will restrain my desire to eat
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    And then because of this
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    Being vegetarian will slowly reduce your desires in more aspects
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    Well, maybe I'm not that particular about clothes.
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    I don’t need to buy new clothes and shoes every time
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    Well, there wouldn’t be such desire
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    So I think uh
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    vegetarian
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    Well, you don’t have to be vegetarian
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    But you can eat more vegetables
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    Or you can consider just eating meat three days a week.
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    reduce that desire
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    I think the most important thing is not to have lofty ideals
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    Not preaching
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    But I think
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    Being vegetarian is the best way to control cravings
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    Because the desire for food and drink is the most difficult desire to overcome in life
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    yes
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    Then I want to say
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    The food actually just tastes after passing through here.
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    After this, there is no smell anymore and everything is the same.
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    So I think for me, food is more
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    In fact, I think it is a visual temptation
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    Why do many people like to watch mukbang and so on?
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    It feels like I ate it
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    Yes, it’s just the color, fragrance, and I’m attracted to those things.
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    um so uh
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    In the end, just eat healthy things.
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    Yes, so I think it may be desire
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    I think I am better at pursuing a pure heart and few desires.
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    Don't think too much
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    Well, then uh, if you don’t have desires, you will be strong.
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    I I'm really convinced that's a great quote.
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    It means being strong without desire
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    Then I feel that being a vegetarian also cultivates compassion.
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    Um
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    It's just that you will become softer as you slowly understand.
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    Not that conflicting
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    You won’t get angry if others say a few words.
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    You will become cooler and calmer
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    Then I prefer to be with myself
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    I don’t particularly like to conflict with others.
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    Or someone else said one or two words that made you unhappy
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    You just want to have a conflict with the other party
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    This desire gradually became less and less
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    Because you slowly get to know yourself better
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    Then I eliminated some unnecessary desires
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    I think slowly
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    The old man emphasizes a calm mind.
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    so i think
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    Uh I think
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    I really need to start preparing for old age now
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    That's it
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    It’s about desire and money.
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    Be sure to do some advance planning first
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    What do you think of Uncle Can?
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    Uncle Can is still very young haha
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    Right
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    Actually it's not true
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    But you are almost 40 too
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    I’m almost 40 too
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    Really, my wife and I went to the hospital for a physical examination yesterday.
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    Ah, yes, yes
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    It's because I have had gallstones before.
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    Gallstones were not very small before
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    It’s a little bigger this year
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    But do I need to remove it?
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    Or did I ask the doctor yesterday?
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    Because of what I said before
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    I asked a better doctor online
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    For online consultation, I would have asked him last year.
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    This year I will come out with this result and continue to ask him.
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    He said that in fact, if you have no symptoms,
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    this size
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    Sometimes it’s because of this measurement method
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    The method will be different when we do the B-ultrasound.
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    The location may be different
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    There are some things that you don’t need to pay too much attention to.
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    The most important thing is to look at your own symptoms.
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    For example, does it hurt?
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    In other words, it depends on whether this or this of yours has shrunk, etc.
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    These are the signs to pay attention to
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    Not yet
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    Don't pay too much attention
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    In fact, overall
  • 00:12:00
    Let me and I also found
  • 00:12:02
    I just checked it out
  • 00:12:04
    I may have some small stones in my kidneys
  • 00:12:06
    ah
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    Why do you have so many stones?
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    I don't know either
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    Drinking too little water may be
  • 00:12:12
    It's possible, it's possible, it's possible
  • 00:12:14
    But this did give me an idea
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    It’s just that when I was young, I really didn’t care about my body.
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    At this time, I suddenly discovered
  • 00:12:19
    It does seem like your body function
  • 00:12:21
    It has gradually become impossible to be the same as when I was young.
  • 00:12:24
    And this situation will only get worse.
  • 00:12:28
    This is an inevitable
  • 00:12:29
    Such a process of birth, old age, illness and death
  • 00:12:32
    So I have to feel
  • 00:12:33
    Already starting to pay attention to it
  • 00:12:35
    And this year I really made a deliberate decision
  • 00:12:38
    Do you think my face is still a little thinner?
  • 00:12:39
    I think I am still losing weight this year
  • 00:12:43
    Then I am exercising
  • 00:12:45
    And I pay more attention to eating, etc.
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    Actually, I don’t have a particularly strong desire for food.
  • 00:12:50
    I've been fine with food since I was a kid.
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    Because there's a lot of stuff in my mouth
  • 00:12:54
    They taste almost the same
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    It’s just that I don’t have anything delicious.
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    Well
  • 00:12:59
    Some people he will be very careful about
  • 00:13:01
    For example, the same ingredient
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    The approach is different
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    It feels different when you eat it
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    My wife likes to eat very much
  • 00:13:08
    She is also very particular about eating
  • 00:13:09
    My son is also a very talkative person.
  • 00:13:11
    Like me, I am a very thick person
  • 00:13:14
    I think beef is beef
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    Pork is pork
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    Cabbage is cabbage
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    no difference
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    No matter how it does it
  • 00:13:20
    After making the flower, it will still look like this
  • 00:13:22
    So in terms of appetite
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    I don’t have a particularly strong appetite
  • 00:13:26
    I think this is okay
  • 00:13:28
    So you ask me to eat less
  • 00:13:29
    let me lose weight
  • 00:13:30
    I think it won't be particularly difficult for me.
  • 00:13:33
    What I need now is to overcome my laziness
  • 00:13:35
    Just move around every day
  • 00:13:37
    Definitely have to move
  • 00:13:38
    Do it with or without oxygen
  • 00:13:40
    I think we should develop good living habits
  • 00:13:43
    And now I feel like my routine
  • 00:13:46
    It has become the routine of the elderly
  • 00:13:47
    Go to bed early, go to bed early, get up early
  • 00:13:49
    get up very early
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    I go to bed from 10:30 to 11:00
  • 00:13:52
    Get up at 5 o'clock
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    It’s already become a habit.
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    I think this is
  • 00:13:57
    It should be better for the body
  • 00:13:59
    And I also have high blood pressure
  • 00:14:01
    hereditary hypertension
  • 00:14:03
    So I really found that good health is
  • 00:14:05
    health is important
  • 00:14:06
    health is important
  • 00:14:07
    Health is really important
  • 00:14:08
    And you definitely have to consider money as well.
  • 00:14:11
    What will you do when you get old?
  • 00:14:13
    You can't count on children
  • 00:14:14
    Children also have a lot of pressure of their own, right?
  • 00:14:16
    Well, so it must be
  • 00:14:18
    Now I hope to work hard through this stage
  • 00:14:21
    Make your income richer and diversified
  • 00:14:24
    Some are just this, accumulate a little more
  • 00:14:26
    Don’t be afraid when you get old
  • 00:14:28
    This is actually something I think is very important.
  • 00:14:31
    So sometimes I feel like I’m quite curly.
  • 00:14:34
    I will work hard to do these things
  • 00:14:35
    Maybe I was lazy in the past
  • 00:14:37
    Now I can actually feel it
  • 00:14:39
    Because as the children grow up
  • 00:14:41
    The household expenses are increasing and so on.
  • 00:14:43
    Yes, so in fact, the two couples can earn it.
  • 00:14:46
    In fact, it also takes a lot of effort.
  • 00:14:48
    Impossible because especially after having children
  • 00:14:50
    Your expense
  • 00:14:51
    It really feels like a bottomless pit sometimes
  • 00:14:53
    It's terrible. There's nothing I can do about it.
  • 00:14:55
    you can't
  • 00:14:56
    Because the whole society is like this
  • 00:14:58
    You can't possibly say it's harder to have children, right?
  • 00:15:00
    Impossible
  • 00:15:01
    You can't do that in your own mind, right?
  • 00:15:03
    So I always want to give him better things
  • 00:15:06
    offer him
  • 00:15:07
    For example, what are his hobbies and interests?
  • 00:15:09
    Some have development opportunities, etc.
  • 00:15:11
    You also want to do your best to support him
  • 00:15:13
    So maybe when the money gets old,
  • 00:15:15
    Not just personal needs
  • 00:15:18
    Maybe your child needs your help too
  • 00:15:20
    All are needs
  • 00:15:21
    So I think at this stage
  • 00:15:23
    Only 38 years old now
  • 00:15:25
    Maybe before age 50
  • 00:15:26
    I think just work hard
  • 00:15:28
    Diversify your income more
  • 00:15:31
    accumulate more
  • 00:15:32
    Don't worry about that
  • 00:15:33
    Don't worry so much
  • 00:15:34
    I think it’s really when I get older
  • 00:15:36
    Days with little money
  • 00:15:37
    Actually, I think it’s scary just thinking about it.
  • 00:15:39
    Did you really have any ability at that time?
  • 00:15:42
    It might be too scary for you to think about
  • 00:15:44
    Don't want this
  • 00:15:45
    Then I think there is another point
  • 00:15:48
    It's just that I suddenly had an idea yesterday
  • 00:15:52
    That is, if I get sick, my health will be really bad.
  • 00:15:56
    It really happened suddenly one day.
  • 00:15:58
    People in mainland China say that you will die if you die.
  • 00:16:00
    Lost it
  • 00:16:00
    If it falls, nothing will happen
  • 00:16:03
    This is what I want to do most
  • 00:16:05
    This is what I want to do so much
  • 00:16:08
    Have you been pushing it back?
  • 00:16:10
    Pushing it back
  • 00:16:11
    In fact, I have always wanted to write a story
  • 00:16:14
    I think I'm pretty talented
  • 00:16:16
    I've already started writing it before
  • 00:16:18
    But forced
  • 00:16:19
    It feels like I have a lot of work to do.
  • 00:16:21
    Many things about family
  • 00:16:22
    I kept pushing it back again
  • 00:16:24
    I've always thought I could write it
  • 00:16:25
    And I write stories through this uncle’s shop, etc.
  • 00:16:28
    I discovered that I was capable of writing stories
  • 00:16:30
    Are you saying that you want to write a larger work?
  • 00:16:32
    write a long thing
  • 00:16:34
    long
  • 00:16:34
    long stuff
  • 00:16:35
    In fact, it is different from writing short stories.
  • 00:16:37
    Short stories are good as soon as you sit down and write them.
  • 00:16:40
    You can probably write for an hour or two just by sitting down.
  • 00:16:41
    The story comes out
  • 00:16:42
    Long story requires a long process
  • 00:16:45
    It's actually more like work
  • 00:16:46
    do you know
  • 00:16:47
    Just sit here and write as much as you can every day
  • 00:16:48
    it requires a long-term persistence
  • 00:16:50
    It must be integrated into your daily life
  • 00:16:52
    For example, wake up in the morning and write for an hour and a half.
  • 00:16:54
    Then write something every day
  • 00:16:56
    write some write some
  • 00:16:57
    and then enter the story by
  • 00:16:58
    Write it out slowly like this
  • 00:16:59
    Moreover, the novel also has the coherence of characters and plot.
  • 00:17:02
    Right
  • 00:17:02
    it needs it needs a more global thinking
  • 00:17:06
    Very careful thinking
  • 00:17:08
    And I think
  • 00:17:08
    Actually, I think I can do this.
  • 00:17:11
    I don't want to put it off any longer
  • 00:17:14
    so i think
  • 00:17:15
    Just face the situation of old age
  • 00:17:18
    I just don’t want to regret it
  • 00:17:19
    That is, no matter where your ability lies,
  • 00:17:22
    Then you should at least give it a try, right?
  • 00:17:24
    You haven't even tried it
  • 00:17:25
    How do you know if you are really good or not?
  • 00:17:27
    Yes, so don’t regret it
  • 00:17:29
    That’s why I decided to start telling this story now
  • 00:17:32
    In fact, it has become a habit
  • 00:17:33
    It's a beginning and I want to write it down
  • 00:17:35
    At least write it out first
  • 00:17:37
    It is said that it is
  • 00:17:37
    It's also my other path
  • 00:17:39
    I can't say it's just after I fulfilled my long-cherished wish
  • 00:17:41
    I think
  • 00:17:41
    You can let it go
  • 00:17:42
    All are possible
  • 00:17:44
    can be put down
  • 00:17:45
    To this Amitabha
  • 00:17:46
    Yes, it's possible
  • 00:17:47
    Then I won’t have this obsession anymore
  • 00:17:49
    That’s why I must write a story
  • 00:17:50
    But I never started writing
  • 00:17:52
    In this case
  • 00:17:52
    In fact, I discovered it when I got older.
  • 00:17:53
    when i was young
  • 00:17:55
    I once wanted to write a story
  • 00:17:56
    I never wrote
  • 00:17:57
    I can't write it down now
  • 00:17:58
    Wait until you feel this way
  • 00:18:00
    Actually, I have never been particularly scared.
  • 00:18:01
    This feeling of being alone when you are old
  • 00:18:03
    Because first of all, I have this spouse
  • 00:18:06
    Right, right
  • 00:18:06
    In fact, I don’t think this is the most important point.
  • 00:18:10
    Because many people also have spouses at home
  • 00:18:12
    Or have a husband and wife
  • 00:18:13
    Yes, I’m actually very lonely
  • 00:18:15
    Having children is also lonely
  • 00:18:16
    Right, right, same
  • 00:18:18
    Loneliness is the feeling of being alone
  • 00:18:19
    actually i am
  • 00:18:20
    And I feel that old people cannot expect
  • 00:18:23
    Elderly people rely heavily on their spouses
  • 00:18:25
    right There is a good chance that your first spouse may die before you do
  • 00:18:28
    possible vs. possible
  • 00:18:29
    There are many situations where you might get sick or something.
  • 00:18:32
    So returning to yourself is the most reliable
  • 00:18:34
    You are the most reliable
  • 00:18:35
    In fact, the most reliable
  • 00:18:36
    I found that
  • 00:18:37
    My dad started planning these things very early on
  • 00:18:40
    He started very early
  • 00:18:41
    Exercise first
  • 00:18:43
    He goes out for a walk every day without hesitation
  • 00:18:45
    It takes an hour and a half to walk back.
  • 00:18:47
    I used to go for winter swimming and whatnot?
  • 00:18:49
    He participates in all these things
  • 00:18:51
    Now I go hiking and so on.
  • 00:18:52
    He pays special attention to his body
  • 00:18:54
    And go for physical examination every year
  • 00:18:56
    He would start planning this kind of thing very early
  • 00:18:58
    I just know what will happen to me in the future
  • 00:19:00
    And he is also afraid that when he gets old
  • 00:19:02
    There will be nothing to do
  • 00:19:04
    He started writing calligraphy very early
  • 00:19:06
    Have I shown you this couplet?
  • 00:19:08
    Right, right?
  • 00:19:09
    This is what he might have been 10 years ago
  • 00:19:13
    He decided that he might want to do whatever he wanted to do when he got old.
  • 00:19:16
    He had learned a little bit of calligraphy when he was young.
  • 00:19:19
    Then there was no time
  • 00:19:20
    Because there is no time for family and so on
  • 00:19:22
    He thinks he can pick it up at this time
  • 00:19:24
    Maybe it feels like I want to write
  • 00:19:25
    That's right
  • 00:19:26
    I want to pick it up
  • 00:19:28
    Then as a support for an old person
  • 00:19:31
    If this thing becomes a habit of mine
  • 00:19:33
    Just sit down and I will have time.
  • 00:19:36
    Want to write something
  • 00:19:37
    Or when I'm lonely
  • 00:19:38
    Or when you are in a bad mood or when you are in a bad mood
  • 00:19:40
    I can use my pen
  • 00:19:42
    through stories
  • 00:19:43
    Show all my thoughts
  • 00:19:46
    I feel like I won’t be lonely anymore, I won’t be lonely anymore
  • 00:19:49
    Even when I grow old, I have words to accompany me
  • 00:19:52
    I have many stories to accompany me
  • 00:19:54
    And maybe we can find it in this world
  • 00:19:56
    The people who love you writing these stories
  • 00:19:58
    People who can really live and write until they are old
  • 00:20:01
    Until I write it
  • 00:20:02
    Haha, actually it’s okay
  • 00:20:05
    In fact, we also talked about it that day
  • 00:20:07
    Chollima and Bole
  • 00:20:08
    Right
  • 00:20:09
    Older people need to be appreciated by others more
  • 00:20:11
    Yes yes oh
  • 00:20:13
    will be very happy
  • 00:20:14
    So maybe we are all horses with a thousand li horse.
  • 00:20:15
    But what we will write when the time comes
  • 00:20:17
    Bole will appreciate it
  • 00:20:19
    It’s the audience, the audience
  • 00:20:20
    right
  • 00:20:21
    Hahaha yes
  • 00:20:21
    So Uncle Can just mentioned two points that I think are very important.
  • 00:20:24
    One is health
  • 00:20:25
    Be sure to pay careful attention
  • 00:20:26
    yes yes
  • 00:20:27
    The second is that I am older
  • 00:20:29
    You must have your own hobbies
  • 00:20:31
    So none of our three uncles know how to do this.
  • 00:20:34
    Don't worry
  • 00:20:35
    Because we have Uncle Chinese. Uncle Chinese is getting old.
  • 00:20:38
    When I get old, I will record it as Grandpa Chinese
  • 00:20:40
    that is
  • 00:20:42
    So everyone uh
  • 00:20:43
    Don't worry
  • 00:20:44
    We three uncles don’t have to worry.
  • 00:20:45
    Because uncle Chinese is our hobby
  • 00:20:47
    right And we are willing to do things that interest us
  • 00:20:50
    Ah good
  • 00:20:51
    So let’s talk about old age today?
  • 00:20:53
    There is a purpose
  • 00:20:55
    Recently
  • 00:20:56
    Hahaha lately
  • 00:20:58
    Uncle Cha has published a book
  • 00:21:01
    There's an audio book out
  • 00:21:02
    It's called Twilight, right?
  • 00:21:04
    Then you may not know what twilight is
  • 00:21:07
    Well, Uncle Can, can you explain it?
  • 00:21:08
    Why is this book called Twilight?
  • 00:21:11
    Twilight is actually about this evening
  • 00:21:13
    That state at that time
  • 00:21:15
    Yes, but think about it again
  • 00:21:17
    What time is this evening in life?
  • 00:21:19
    It's when I'm old
  • 00:21:20
    In fact, you haven’t entered the night yet
  • 00:21:22
    But in fact, the sun is slowly going down.
  • 00:21:25
    Your life is coming to an end soon
  • 00:21:27
    This is twilight
  • 00:21:28
    Feeling a little sad
  • 00:21:30
    But actually the sunset is infinitely better
  • 00:21:32
    It's just near dusk, right?
  • 00:21:33
    Yeah
  • 00:21:34
    So the sun slowly sets
  • 00:21:37
    It symbolizes that people's lives are slowly coming to an end.
  • 00:21:40
    Well, this novel is about an old man.
  • 00:21:44
    A night in the hospital bed
  • 00:21:46
    I think when I wrote this novel
  • 00:21:48
    find it interesting
  • 00:21:49
    I mean um
  • 00:21:49
    I only use a few thousand words to describe the plot of one night.
  • 00:21:53
    So don’t think
  • 00:21:55
    This novel may cover several years of events
  • 00:21:57
    No, just all the words
  • 00:21:59
    They are all describing what happened one night
  • 00:22:02
    It's an old man's last night
  • 00:22:06
    the last night of life
  • 00:22:08
    Well, then his son comes to visit him
  • 00:22:10
    Then I finished reading it and said
  • 00:22:11
    It should be that he left in the end
  • 00:22:13
    Really gone
  • 00:22:14
    Did you leave so obscurely?
  • 00:22:16
    Ah, what I wrote at the end is very obscure.
  • 00:22:18
    Yes he's gone
  • 00:22:19
    Yes, very obscure
  • 00:22:20
    He was taken away by his wife
  • 00:22:22
    Right, right, right
  • 00:22:23
    Very cryptic way of writing
  • 00:22:24
    But actually I have thousands of words
  • 00:22:27
    They all describe the journey of one night, yes.
  • 00:22:30
    There are also old people recalling their past feelings.
  • 00:22:32
    Well, I feel like life
  • 00:22:34
    Maybe on our last night in the future yeah
  • 00:22:38
    we all think
  • 00:22:40
    Recall what you have done in your life
  • 00:22:42
    Um so I think uh this novel
  • 00:22:45
    I hope everyone will read it
  • 00:22:48
    Also think about what it will be like when you are old
  • 00:22:51
    Of course, it may be too early for many students.
  • 00:22:54
    But I think
  • 00:22:55
    Uh this
  • 00:22:56
    I think
  • 00:22:56
    Novels sometimes give you many different characters
  • 00:23:00
    You might want to think about it
  • 00:23:01
    If this character were you now
  • 00:23:03
    What decision will you make
  • 00:23:05
    What kind of reactions and thoughts will you have?
  • 00:23:07
    So I think this is a very special theme
  • 00:23:09
    It’s about the mentality of the elderly
  • 00:23:12
    How did he experience that night?
  • 00:23:15
    Okay so this
  • 00:23:16
    I have actually completed this work for a long time
  • 00:23:18
    I just haven't had time to polish it yet.
  • 00:23:21
    But it's finally done
  • 00:23:23
    Then it’s also Uncle Can
  • 00:23:25
    It was read in a very emotional voice.
  • 00:23:27
    So if you are interested, you can buy it
  • 00:23:29
    Especially if you are an older student
  • 00:23:32
    you can buy one
  • 00:23:33
    See if it matches your mood.
  • 00:23:36
    OK
  • 00:23:37
    Will there be a short section then?
  • 00:23:39
    right
  • 00:23:39
    I will play a clip for you to listen to at the end.
  • 00:23:42
    right Then if you like it, remember to support Uncle’s Shop.
  • 00:23:46
    The uncle's shop has many, many other products
  • 00:23:49
    You can also go and have a look
  • 00:23:50
    If you are interested, you can buy it.
  • 00:23:51
    Okay, then I hope everyone supports it
  • 00:23:54
    See you next time
  • 00:23:56
    Goodbye everyone
  • 00:23:58
    So embarrassing and sudden
  • 00:23:59
    Goodbye pair
Tags
  • Dashu Mandarin
  • old age
  • retirement planning
  • financial independence
  • life stages
  • health
  • self-reliance
  • philosophy
  • hobbies
  • personal growth