their win is NOT your loss

00:04:34
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDZdG1kxdU8

概要

TLDRThe speaker discusses the common feelings of jealousy and comparison that arise when witnessing others' successes. They emphasize the importance of genuinely congratulating and celebrating others, as it fosters positive energy and deeper relationships. The talk encourages listeners to shift their mindset from competition to inspiration, reminding them that someone else's success does not diminish their own worth. By celebrating others, individuals can create a supportive environment that benefits everyone, including themselves.

収穫

  • 🎉 Celebrate others' successes genuinely.
  • 💔 Jealousy can hinder personal growth.
  • 🌟 Your worth isn't diminished by others' achievements.
  • 🤝 Build deeper relationships through support.
  • 💪 Use others' success as motivation.
  • 🕊️ Let go of bitterness to attract blessings.
  • 🌈 Life is not a competition; everyone has their own path.
  • 👏 Congratulate others to create a positive environment.
  • 💖 Remember the importance of kindness and support.
  • 🌍 There's enough space for everyone to shine.

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    The speaker reflects on the feelings of jealousy and comparison that arise when others achieve success, such as landing a dream job or gaining social media fame. They emphasize the importance of genuinely congratulating others and celebrating their wins, rather than harboring bitterness or resentment. The speaker shares personal experiences of struggling to feel happy for friends' successes and acknowledges that these feelings stem from their own insecurities and unmet goals. They encourage viewers to recognize that not congratulating others does not hinder their success but only fosters negativity within oneself. By celebrating others, one can open their heart, attract positive energy, and build deeper relationships. The speaker highlights the significance of support and kindness, reminding us that life is not a competition and that everyone has their own path. They urge listeners to be inspired by others' achievements and to maintain a positive mindset, as one's own success will come in due time. Ultimately, the message is to celebrate others' victories, as it contributes to a supportive and uplifting community.

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ビデオQ&A

  • Why is it hard to celebrate others' successes?

    It can be difficult due to feelings of jealousy and comparison, making us question our own achievements.

  • What should I do when I feel jealous of someone else's success?

    Try to focus on being happy for them and recognize that their success does not diminish your worth.

  • How can celebrating others benefit me?

    Celebrating others can open your heart, attract positive energy, and strengthen relationships.

  • What if I don't feel genuine happiness for someone else's success?

    Acknowledge your feelings, but strive to shift your mindset towards inspiration and motivation.

  • Is it okay to feel bitter about others' achievements?

    It's natural to feel that way sometimes, but it's important to work through those feelings and celebrate others instead.

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    you know that moment when someone that
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    you know finally makes it they land a
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    dream job They post a graduation picture
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    They hit a million views on Tik Tok or
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    Instagram and everyone kind of floods in
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    with a congrats you deserve it I'm so
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    happy for you I'm proud of you But
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    sometimes you kind of sit there with
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    your phone in your hand staring at the
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    post kind of wondering why you don't
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    feel happy for them And sometimes you go
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    "That should have been me." It's the
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    comparison It's the jealousy And it's
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    the quiet voice in your head just kind
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    of going "You could have done that And
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    I've been there And if I'm being honest
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    there were times where I didn't really
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    feel proud of other people the way I
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    should have Congratulate people when
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    they win Truly genuinely with all your
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    heart I know it's not an easy thing to
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    do because sometimes when you see
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    someone succeed you kind of compare
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    yourself You're like what am I doing
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    what am I doing with my life compared to
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    them but be happy for people who succeed
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    as you would be for yourself Not just
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    leaving the congrats bro comment while
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    secretly hating on it There was a time I
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    couldn't do that When friends around me
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    got amazing opportunities jobs
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    internships they would get a lot of
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    scholarships or be in a relationship And
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    sometimes I'd kind of act like I'm happy
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    on the outside but I was really bitter
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    on the inside because I was jealous I
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    couldn't celebrate their wins I didn't
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    want to I didn't want to acknowledge the
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    fact that they did better than I did
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    They were in a much better place than I
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    was And I couldn't really accept it The
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    truth is I was just hurting not because
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    they won but because I wasn't where I
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    wanted to be And every win they got
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    reminded me of how far behind I felt you
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    know But the right thing to do when you
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    see people win is congratulate them
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    Sometimes you got to realize that not
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    congratulating them doesn't stop them
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    from winning It just makes you more
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    bitter And that bitterness I truly
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    believe that it blocks blessings every
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    time But when you truly learn how to
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    celebrate other success your heart opens
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    up You become lighter You attract better
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    energy You create deeper friendships and
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    relationships Because when you think
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    about it wouldn't it feel good when you
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    succeed and there are all these people
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    around you celebrating your success
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    telling you that you deserve it that you
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    worked really hard for it that they're
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    really proud of you you know just giving
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    you all those blessings Wouldn't you
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    want that to be how it is when you make
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    it and you remember those people because
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    it means so much for me personally I
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    remember the people who wish me happy
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    birthday It's kind of cheesy but wishing
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    someone happy birthday is not really a
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    big thing to do right after all it kind
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    of seems like it's just one simple
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    sentence But when you think about it
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    when someone wishes you happy birthday
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    don't you remember who those people are
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    the people who remembered your birthdays
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    and they wished you even if they didn't
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    do anything about it even if they didn't
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    give you presents you know fancy gifts
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    they just kind of wished you happy
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    birthday wished you had a great day you
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    know and that itself means everything It
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    means so much So congratulate people
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    celebrate their success don't be bitter
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    about it stop comparing yourself to them
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    because you're not on the same path You
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    have your own lane It's not your time
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    yet Maybe it's coming Life's not always
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    a competition It's not a race Their win
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    isn't your loss And you never know what
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    kind of battles they fought to get there
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    The achievement that you see on
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    Instagram or LinkedIn or any other
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    social media that they post that they're
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    proud of it might be the result of years
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    of silent failures late nights and tears
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    they didn't post So when someone wins
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    clap for them Comment "I'm so proud of
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    you and really mean it." Or call them up
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    personally You don't lose anything by
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    being kind And I really think the
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    mindset that's really important is that
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    when someone wins you should be inspired
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    by it You should be motivated The kind
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    of success that they have you know the
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    waves that they're making the influence
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    that they have on other people you
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    should be motivated by that Just believe
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    that your time is coming too Until then
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    show up for other people Be the person
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    who doesn't flinch at other people's
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    light because your light is coming too
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    And when it does you'll want the kind of
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    people around you who can celebrate just
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    as loudly And that kind of energy starts
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    with you So celebrate others when they
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    win even when it's hard Congratulate
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    people even when you're still waiting
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    and just learn to be happy for others
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    without shrinking your own worth You
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    need to remember that someone else's win
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    doesn't dim your light You're not
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    suddenly a failure just because they
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    succeeded It happens and that's
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    something admirable You shouldn't take
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    that moment away from them Let them
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    celebrate Be happy for them I just want
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    you to know that this world is so big
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    It's big enough for all of us to shine
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    And when it's your turn because it will
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    be you'll know what it feels like to be
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    clapped for loved or supported So be
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    that friend be that supporter be that
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    light Even if you're not really close to
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    them you don't have to comment anything
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    You can even look at it and be like
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    "Fair play and move on." It just takes a
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    lot of energy and effort for you to just
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    have that hate You know what I mean have
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    that confidence to just clap for them
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    and be motivated be inspired It's not a
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    difficult thing to do But yeah that's
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    pretty much it I hope you guys are doing
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    well wherever you are and I'll see you
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    guys next time Peace
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  • success
  • celebration
  • jealousy
  • motivation
  • support
  • friendship
  • mindset
  • positivity
  • comparison
  • personal growth