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okay so I have been getting constant DMS
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about Liz can you make a video about how
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to not be lazy how can I be more
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productive blah blah blah whatever I'm
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going to make this video I'm going to
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get really fast into it because I know a
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lazy person watching this will even be
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too lazy to watch this video so let's
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get right into it let's get into the
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first point realize that nobody cares if
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you're lazy you know what lazy people
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are they're the Forgotten ones people
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that don't want to do anything with
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their lives they're they will always
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just end up on the sideline everybody
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has problems nobody cares about your
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victim mindset and about how life was
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hard for you and how unfair it is it's
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unfair to everyone okay to everyone
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you're not special and life goes on
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that's it life moves everyone is busy
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with their own lives and so you have to
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do the same thing nobody will sit and
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pity the pity you literally maybe for
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one or two seconds okay like oh that's
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sad but like come on we got to get
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moving honey I had this uh neighbor in
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the country where I grew up and where my
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family lives this woman she's literally
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like constantly complaining constantly
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drinking she's so racist she hates
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Muslims and she literally terrorized us
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for the whole time we're living there um
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and she's constantly just drinking her
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life away because you know she's sad and
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she can't accomplish anything whatever
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blah blah Meanwhile my mom she's
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literally immigrant that fled from the
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war that came bought us a house is
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taking care by her own of five children
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and just getting everything done and do
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you think she complains no she has no
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option to be lazy she has no option to
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play the victim you know when lazy goes
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out of the door when you're in survival
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mode people that need to survive have no
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option to be lazy people that are
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walking up on the stairs and they can
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barely breathe they have no option
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anymore than to lose that weight people
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that are so vulnerable and their bodies
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cannot handle of them being so
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underweight have no option but to gain
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weight people that have to go to work
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because otherwise there's no food on the
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table have no option to be lazy you guys
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that are just saying that oh I'm just
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lazy whatever you're privileged you're
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speaking from privilege if you have the
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option to be lazy you're privileged hi
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guys my name is Liz and welcome back to
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my channel in this video I will show you
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how to become productive how to overcome
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your laziness and yeah so keep watching
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another thing you need to realize is the
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halo effect the halo effect is basically
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when we see like a beautiful person we
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will think that oh they are less likely
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to do something bad because we associate
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someone beautiful with a good person you
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know it's the same way the halil effect
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also works for successful people so if
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we see a successful person we are more
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likely to think that that person is
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successful in every area of their life
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for example they have a successful
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business we will also automatically
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think they have they're successful in
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their relationships they're successful
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everywhere we literally start to admire
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people that are successful and beautiful
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because we think that they have it all
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together see you know when you cannot
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benefit from the halo effect uh when
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you're lazy okay it takes it takes
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effort to be beautiful and to maintain
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Beauty I remember there was this one uh
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supermodel she talked about this she's
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like there was this one woman that
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commented and said that uh oh why are
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you doing all this stuff to take care of
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yourself and all these things and she
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says I have no other option this is my
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career do you think she wants to
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literally like watch what she eats go to
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the gym do all these procedures to keep
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herself in shape probably not like L she
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probably not you know she just wants to
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sit at home and do nothing as well she
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has no option cuz that's her career she
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does all that stuff and takes care of
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herself she can benefit from the halo
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effect same way when somebody goes
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through like has their own business it's
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working very hard to create wealth for
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themselves or Independence or free same
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way they have to work very hard to get
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all that stuff but see what you guys see
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is only the successes and oh she looks
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good and oh he has all the money you
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guys don't see all the work that comes
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like behind it these people have no
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option to be lazy yes some people are
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born into wealth they have it very easy
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and more easy than others I know this is
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also a privilege but most people are not
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and they also create for themselves some
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people come from zero and create it for
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themselves you know it takes literally
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takes discipline it's you think these
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people want to do all that stuff no I
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know so many people business owners and
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stuff that said like I'm so frustrated I
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like but they rather have this than no
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Freedom they want the freedom so yeah
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then you have to put in the work another
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thing is focus on working on your life
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force I was watching this uh Netflix
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documentary it's on Jonah Hill
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psychiatrist uh he's his name is Phil
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studs he was basically saying that when
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you feel like you're lazy or whatever
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the only thing you need to focus on is
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your life force what is your life force
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First Things First Health and diet you
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can focus on moving your body doing some
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exercise going to the gym if that's what
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you want and the food you put in your
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body that's what you have control over
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right now make sure it's a foods that
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nourish your body make sure it's foods
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that don't spike your insulin or spike
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your glucose so if if you eat foods like
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that that are filled with carbs and
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sugar you're going to feel lazy you're
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going to like feel like you don't want
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to do anything throughout the day
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because you feel heavy so think about
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nutrition what are you putting in your
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body how are you moving your body then
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second thing on your life force is your
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relationships so what people do is when
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they get lazy or they don't feel good
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about themselves they basically isolate
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I do this I start to isolate myself
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right I don't want to be around people
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see that's a bad thing you should do
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what you actually should do is in that
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moment you should connect with people
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you should connect with your friends and
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family and talk to them about how you're
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feeling because that is much better than
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Welling in your own self-pity in your
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own like feeling bad about yourself
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trust me I because I do this all the
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time it doesn't work if you don't feel
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comfortable telling your friends family
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talk to a stranger talk to a stranger
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just tell them or tell a therapist talk
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to a therapist and tell them how you're
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feeling and and whatever you're going
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through as humans we need connection if
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we isolate ourselves we feel worse we
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are social creatures we need connection
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with people and the third thing of your
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life force is you focus focus on their
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relationship with yourself how are you
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treating yourself how are you talking to
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yourself in your head what are you even
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watching what are you watching on your
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phone constantly all day what are you
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watching what are you engaging your own
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mind in what is going on there are you
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journaling are you writing down stuff do
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you even have a relationship with
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yourself and there's also one thing yeah
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people they they tell me like oh I can't
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manifest when people cannot manifest is
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because they are not connected with
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their own energy manifesting is
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connecting with your own energy and
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working with your energy but the reason
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that this day and age people can are
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unable to do that is because we're
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constantly on our phone and we're
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constantly distracted or we constantly
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go out with people and we're never by
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ourselves or we never take the time to
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sit with ourselves to meditate to write
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things down even writing stuff down if
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you just start to write things will come
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to you because sometime God speaks to
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you your Spirit guides speak to you but
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because your mind is constantly racing
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you cannot focus on that so you cannot
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accept guidance so you feel lost and you
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feel like you're alone but you're not
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alone you're not alone you're just not
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willing to listen if you focus on these
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three things health and diet your
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relationships to people and your
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relationships to yourself then you don't
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need anything else if you just keep
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continuing focusing on this everything
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else will fall into place 100% create
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routines in your life and stick to it
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have routines we as humans we need
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routines see for me I have a a stand
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standard morning routine I have a
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standard night routine and throughout my
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week I know when I'm going to the gym I
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know when I'm doing what when I'm
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creating content I know these things I
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have routines and yes sometimes I don't
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stick to my routines but I have a base
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and I have always something to get back
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to when I go off track most of you
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people have no routines and just leave
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everything up in the air we don't work
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like that you need a structurized thing
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you know and some of you I'm going to
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call you out as well your house is dirty
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yeah you never clean your house one
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thing I cannot stand and I cannot work
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in is a dirty place I always need to
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clean and have a clean space because
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honestly a clean space is a clean mind
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if your room is a mess right now you go
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ahead you stop this video I want you to
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clean right now right now cuz that's
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huge disrespect to yourself not even
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cleaning after yourself there's a reason
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why you made this commitment and remind
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yourself of that reason if you knew
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anything about me my whole life I did
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not have social media I was not that
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teenager that was on Instagram whatever
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I never wanted it never even literally
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considered it the only time I've ever
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been on social media was to make a
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career out of it why did I want to make
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make career out of it because I wanted
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to help my mom pay her bills and help
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her with her finances and help my family
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now I'm able to do that see when I get
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demotivated and I don't want to do this
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anymore and I don't want to do social
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media anymore because to be honest to
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stand here right now and be judged by by
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millions of people of people telling me
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that I'm so dumb and what I'm saying is
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just common sense and whatever or that
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I'm ugly it's not nice okay it's really
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not nice and I don't want to be this
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center of attention but at the end of
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the day I made this commitment to my
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myself because I'm not going to let my
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family suffer I'm not going to let my
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mom suffer they have suffered enough I
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have suffered enough we deserve
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Financial Freedom and I'm going to
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create that for us and the same way
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there's a reason why you make that
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commitment to yourself remind yourself
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why did I even start why did I even want
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this goal and you know somewhere down
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the line maybe you didn't even want this
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goal anymore and you think to yourself I
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don't want this okay fine then don't do
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it do something else I don't care but
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remind yourself if you still want it why
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do you want it why did you even start
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think about what story are you telling
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yourself if you're telling yourself
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story oh I can't do this because I'm
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just a lazy person yeah that's then how
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you will act like a lazy person stop
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saying that stop saying that what does
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that even mean I'm just a lazy person
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what does that mean you think you think
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you can use that as an excuse for the
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rest of your life okay then go to the
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sideline yeah and let people like us
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walk through because we don't need you
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on our way okay because we're trying to
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do stuff you could have been anything
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you wanted in your life literally your
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mom she carried you 9 months in her
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stomach for you to come out and say oh
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I'm just lazy some people watching this
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are children of immigrants your your
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parents have literally rescued your
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whole life literally tried to give you
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the best life possible for you to sit
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here now and be like Oh I'm just too
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lazy to do this are you not embarrassed
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get a hold of yourself literally you
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guys are lazy but then you guys complain
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that you don't have the life that you
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want don't complain then don't complain
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you can literally change your reality at
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any second you know any second like
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right now if I want to be overlooked and
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nobody cares about me give me one month
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one month I'm going to eat whatever I
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want I'm not going to take care of
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myself anymore 100% I'll be overlooked
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100% when I walk down the street people
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will not look at me the same way 100% I
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can then I'm changing my reality I went
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from being this person to that other
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person you can change your your your
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reality is really fast when you start
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acting like the person you want to
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become but no Liz it's uncomfortable
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because then I have to let go of my
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toxic boyfriend and this and that but
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I'm still going to cry about the fact
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that I don't have what I
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want another thing you should do is heal
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the past and move on listen there's a
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lot of people that have experienced so
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much trauma and then now they sit and
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they're like oh I can't accomplish
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anything because I've been through this
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I've been through that this and that
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okay I've been through a lot as well I
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I've literally came two times a person
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tried to un alive me was very
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traumatizing for me you know what I did
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instead of complaining I went to a
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therapist I even did hypnotherapist I
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went to two years of intensive therapy
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and I healed myself from those things
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yeah because I don't want to continue my
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life be the victim of a trauma I'm not a
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victim I don't even want to associate
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with it okay I don't want it to be my
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story I can change my story around and
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honestly ly I'm telling you once again
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if you did not hear this in my other
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videos if you're a victim of trauma or
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abuse or whatever don't just go around
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and tell people because they lose
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respect for you they lose respect for
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you 100% I would have never ever in my
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life disclosed this to the internet or
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people if if I was not trying to help
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people because this is really something
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that people lose respect for when you
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tell them don't think that they feel
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pity for you no they see you as someone
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weaker someone that went through
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something it's really that but I'm
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telling you this is the truth This Is
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How They See so for yourself go ahead
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heal that heal it takes years yes it
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takes years okay sometimes it it goes
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fast sometimes it's it's not fast you
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can't control that but at least work
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towards healing yourself well if you're
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constantly living in the past and
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reliving it your body literally will
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make you physically ill because your
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body thinks that you're because you're
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feeling those emotions still your body
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thinks that you're still in that same
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situation your body doesn't know
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anything different it only knows what
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you're feeling and what you're telling
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your body so what you're repeating in
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your head what you're feeling inside of
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yourself is what your body will create
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for you you want a different outcome and
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a different future you have to do things
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differently not people around you should
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change not people around you should
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change their behavior you you have the
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power to control that you have the power
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to control how you react you have the
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power to control how you feel stop
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blaming other people it's not their
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fault yes maybe somebody did something
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to you they traumatized you that's on
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them okay they will receive their karma
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if not in this lifetime in another God
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will punish them whatever okay you have
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now the responsibility to heal yourself
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you do and you take that responsibility
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and go to your own Next Level because
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when you're stuck in the past and being
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ter terrorized by the thoughts of the
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past you cannot go forward you cannot
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move on another thing is are you lazy or
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did you stop progressing like I said in
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the other video only reason that people
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become happy is because they constantly
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progress when people stop progressing
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that's when unhappiness becomes like
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literally you can be a millionaire
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having everything but because they they
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don't have anything anymore that excites
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them they become depressed as well it
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doesn't matter how much money you have
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it doesn't matter how much you've
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accomplished we constantly need that
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drive or something to strive for so ask
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yourself am I lazy or do I just not find
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excitement in things anymore learn a new
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skill then find a new hobby create a new
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project do something else that you
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haven't tried before or do something
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that you used to love pick it up again
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you know but don't allow yourself to
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stop progressing because when you stop
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progressing that's when you stop living
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don't allow yourself to be like that too
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much information makes us lazy see
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because we're constantly scrolling on
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every app whatever we're scrolling on
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social media we hear this diet is
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perfect we hear this is the best shampoo
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now this is the best way to do skin care
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so we go literally insane because
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there's so much information and we don't
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want to do anything anymore because we
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don't even know what to do there's so
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much
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information but because we're so
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consumed in that we start to literally
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become consumed in other people's
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opinions in other people's lives and we
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start filling their lives with our
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energy that's it and then you wonder to
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yourself like huh why do I I not have
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any energy for myself left because
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you're too consumed in other people's
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lives so you're not living your own you
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know when I spend the day scrolling on
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Tik Tok I don't want to do anything I
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don't want to do anything literally I
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just literally my brain is fried
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completely and I don't I just want to
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lay down and do nothing if I decide to
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have a lazy day and I call them lazy
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days I'll watch Netflix shows I binge
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watch them I don't want to do anything
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else literally my mind is shut off then
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you know if if you are also a person
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that constantly goes out and parties
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that's it energy drained my love
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constantly drained but recently um my
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friend she took me out because it was
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her birthday so then I thought okay let
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me go out I went out with her the whole
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night I did not have one thought in my
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head and I have a mind that's racing I'm
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very very creative I constantly have
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ideas in my head and I constantly also
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get messages in my head that whole night
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I had no idea nothing nothing my mind
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was blank it was almost like I was like
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brain that or something I was just
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standing there like you know what
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happens too many energies around you too
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many energies and you're they're
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completely draining it so that's why
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sometimes in order for you to create or
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or in order for you to be productive you
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need to be in solitude you need to be
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alone you need to realize that feelings
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are not always right okay feelings are
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just feeling you see if we all just
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react out of emotions I think everyone
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would just un alive each other oh you
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made me angry I'm so angry let me get
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something and just un alive you you
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might feel like right now oh my heart is
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broken I will never find something like
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that again no you will okay you will you
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just feel right now really bad so what
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do you do you feel the feelings you let
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them Purge yeah feelings Purge by you
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feeling them if you're going to repress
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what you feel and you feel like oh I
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shouldn't be crying about this I should
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be tough nope you're going to store
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those feelings inside of your body and
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they're going to come up later as
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physical illness you cannot do that to
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yourself if you feel bad right now and
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you feel like you want to cry or you
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want to scream you do that because that
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is releasing your emotions if you feel
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like you need to sleep a lot right now
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sleeping is also healing there is a
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reason why your body needs sleep because
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it's trying to heal the feelings Purge
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let your body heal but once that's done
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also get up and do something okay don't
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stay there and dwell there for too long
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and it's also like oh I feel like I
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don't want to do this but what like what
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do you feel and what do you want okay
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cuz if you feel like like oh I want to
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eat that uh whatever I want to eat
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unhealthy this and that but then you
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want that dream body of yours it doesn't
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correlate you need to have discipline my
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love like you know you can't just
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consume into what you're feeling and
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then expect what you want to happen to
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happen it doesn't work like that another
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thing is courage is being vulnerable
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courage is going out and meeting meeting
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new people and putting yourself out
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there and being vulnerable
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it might not feel good to you because
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honestly this I'm just speaking for
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myself right now I isolate myself I
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constantly isolate myself anyone that
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lives like where I live will tell you I
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don't come out any of my friends will
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tell you I I do not leave my place you
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know do you think that's courageous of
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Me no I'm trying to protect myself but
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because I'm trying to protect myself and
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I'm scared of being vulnerable I don't
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live any experiences and life is just
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going by like this I'm young I'm
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supposed to be living my life I'm
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supposed to be meeting people getting my
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heartbroken I'm supposed to have
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experience I don't have any of these
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because I'm so afraid of getting hurt or
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betrayed by friends you think that that
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that's happiness no you're not living
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you know and it makes you lazy as well
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cuz you're like okay I'm just not going
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to do anything I'm not going to surround
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myself with people I'm not going to try
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to do anything that's not courageous
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that's
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weak courage is being vulnerable go out
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there meet new people people I'm not
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saying do something risky and then put
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yourself in danger but do something that
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normally you would feel uncomfortable
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doing or you rather prefer not doing it
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another thing is learn to ask for help
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or learn to accept help see most of you
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guys' issues is the fact that you don't
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accept help oh my God like I have so
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many people around me that are like no I
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don't want help I don't want help and
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then they struggle so much to accomplish
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this thing meanwhile I could have fixed
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it for them in one second you need to
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start accepting help from people
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sometimes God sends these people to help
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you okay that's how you have to see it
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and you have to receive and then you
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like if you don't you get angry you're
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like God you never helped me like why
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don't you help me then God says like I
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send this person to help you and you
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refuse them how do you want God to help
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you also ask help from God ask help ask
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help you will receive help in very
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miraculous ways I've done it myself I
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always do it another thing is be
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productive on your own terms think about
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what does productivity look like for me
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if I say for example go to the gym do
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this do that but you think like but
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that's not what I want to do like I
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don't want to go to the gym I don't want
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to do these things okay fine that's not
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for you that's not how you are
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productive you have a different sense of
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productivity so think to yourself what
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is productive for me what do I think
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would be like oh okay I'm a productive
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person if I do these things what are
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your goals create that productivity
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mindset for yourself and create a vision
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of what that looks like for you don't
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listen to these other people because
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what works for them might not work for
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you because that's not what you want
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other thing is are the people around you
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draining your energy if you have toxic
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friends if you have toxic family members
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and you're constantly just engaging with
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them you're constantly just around them
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you're going to feel bad look at the
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people look when you feel bad what
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people are around you when you feel your
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worst and sometimes even you start to
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hate yourself around certain types of
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people there is certain types of friends
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that bring out a side in you that you
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don't like about yourself watch out for
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these kinds of people because you might
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feel like when I'm around them why do I
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behave like this you know you're getting
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influenced by them so it's better to
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distance your yourself and when you are
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more stable in who you are and and you
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don't get influenced by others easily
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then if you want you can be like friends
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and stuff because they cannot do
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anything you know it doesn't affect you
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but when you are easily influence
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distance yourself from these kind of
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people if you have toxic family members
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distance yourself make sure you can stay
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away as much as possible and focus on
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the things that you can focus on right
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now nobody can make you feel anything
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nobody can make you feel sad bad upset
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whatever you can only do that to
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yourself you have control over how you
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feel if for example one person when I
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used to be younger and I didn't know
00:24:09
this knowledge when somebody made me
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angry I would think like oh they're so
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bad like I hate them whatever they did
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this with ill intent yeah and I would
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get angry now when somebody does
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something to me I think to myself well
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then there must be something that
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they're judging in me because they're
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judging it in their themselves they're
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projecting there's something wrong maybe
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something I I have a different kind of
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understanding and I have compassion for
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this person I I feel sad for them it's a
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different energy and it's a different
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feeling and why can I control that
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because I control how I feel I can feel
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sad for them if I want you know I can
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also feel happy that they show their
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true colors to me so change your
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perspective on things how do you how do
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you view this person how do you view
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this situation same way if you're going
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through a breakup you can see it as like
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oh my God it was the last man on earth I
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cannot live without him blah blah blah
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or you can see it as like oh okay our
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souls Were Meant to cross because we
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were meant to teach each other something
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in this lifetime and then we meant were
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meant to separate because it was not
00:25:13
meant to be forever in this
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lifetime that's it he learned his lesson
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I learn I learned my lesson and now we
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can go our separate ways and go to the
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level that we were both meant to be at
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and last but not least Focus focus on
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the things that you can do I always hear
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people oh I can't do this oh my God I
00:25:34
can't I what can you do what can you do
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what are you good at huh tell me three
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things right now what can you do think
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about these things what can I do what am
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I good at what am I passionate about
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what makes me happy who makes me happy
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you know be be grateful for these things
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realize you can do a lot and remind
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yourself of what you actually can do
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anyways guys thank you so much for
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watching I hope you guys enjoyed this
00:26:04
video and yeah I see you in the next
00:26:06
video bye-bye
