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have you ever noticed how some people
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seem to have an almost supernatural
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control over the environment around them
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without saying a word they don't shout
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they don't beg they simply withdraw and
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suddenly everything changes the energy
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shifts people start to question to chase
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after to feel now imagine if you did the
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same if you stopped reacting immediately
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to everything if you chose silence
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instead of the automatic response
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retreat instead of explosion what do you
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think would happen that's where the
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point lies when you stop being always
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available emotionally physically
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psychologically the world around you
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goes into crisis because people are used
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to controlling you through your
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reactions through your impulses through
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your predictability but the day you
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choose to withdraw the game changes and
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those who thought they knew you realize
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they know absolutely nothing about you
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carl Jung said "Everything that
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irritates us about others can lead us to
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a better understanding of ourselves."
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Now think about this when you become
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inaccessible who really gets desperate
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who gets irritated who tries to provoke
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you just to elicit some emotion back
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this reveals more about the other than
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about you and it mainly reveals how much
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you are still being manipulated without
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realizing it you keep giving yourself to
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please to maintain peace to not lose
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people who deep down were never really
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with you and with every forced yes every
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immediate response every emotional
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reaction you give away a piece of your
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energy and at the end of the day what's
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left tiredness frustration an emptiness
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you can't explain but I'll tell you why
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because you are too available for those
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who don't deserve even a minute of your
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silence this video is not about turning
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your back on the world it's about
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choosing yourself it's about learning
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what Jung called individuation the
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process of becoming whole authentic
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complete and this process begins when
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you understand that silence can be
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stronger than a thousand arguments that
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withdrawal when it comes from awareness
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and not from escape is an act of power
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so I ask you now looking into your eyes
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how long will you continue to be
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controlled by the emotions of others how
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long will you react like a puppet every
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time someone pokes your wound maybe it's
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time to cut those strings to withdraw to
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become a mystery because when you stop
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being
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available everything changes
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you have been taught to always be
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present to respond quickly to please to
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say yes even when you wanted to say no
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since childhood you have been
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conditioned to believe that your worth
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lies in how available you are to others
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but here's a truth that perhaps no one
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has told you with this
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clarity this excessive availability is
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not a virtue it is a prison and as long
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as you continue to think that you need
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to be accessible all the time
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emotionally or otherwise you will be
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manipulated drained and forgotten as
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soon as you are no longer useful do you
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know why because being always available
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makes you seem predictable and
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everything that is predictable becomes a
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tool people start to use you as an
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emotional emergency button they press it
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when they want attention relief
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validation and then put you back on the
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shelf but you don't realize this because
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you are trapped in an illusion that
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being present for everyone will make
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someone be present for you but it
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doesn't work that way carl Jung spoke
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about the persona this mask we wear to
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be accepted loved recognized and it is
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exactly this mask that keeps you overly
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available you say it's okay when you are
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suffocating you respond to messages
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immediately even when you are exhausted
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you explain yourself justify yourself
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defend yourself as if you owe something
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to the world but the truth is that the
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more you place yourself at the center of
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others stage the more you disappear from
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your own being available all the time is
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a subtle form of self-abandonment
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it is a disguised way of seeking
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approval avoiding rejection trying to
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control the image others have of you but
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this control comes at a price and the
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price is your peace it is your vital
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energy being distributed as if it were
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infinite when in fact it is limited very
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limited people who want you available
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all the time in fact do not want you
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they want what you provide validation
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company distraction emotional comfort
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but when you change when you set a
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boundary when you refuse to react those
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same people get irritated accuse you say
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you are weird it's not because you
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changed it's because you stopped being
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functional for them and here's the
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crulest point the more available you are
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the less value others give you because
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what is too abundant becomes emotional
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rag no one respects what they don't have
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to earn no one values what is always
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there so now stop and think who truly
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deserves your time who deserves your
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attention your presence your listening
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or better yet who deserves your absence
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but before answering that we need to
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understand one essential thing why do we
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react so much why do we give in so
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easily what is behind this almost
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automatic desire to respond justify and
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please the answer lies in what Carl Jung
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called psychic energy and that is what
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we will talk about in the next part
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because your energy is all you have and
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if you don't learn to protect it someone
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will use it against you if this content
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carl Jung did not see the human psyche
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as an automatic machine that reacts to
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stimuli without consequences for him our
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mind is like an energy system and every
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thought emotion and action consumes a
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part of that energy the question is are
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you choosing where your energy goes or
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are you letting the world decide for you
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every time you react impulsively you are
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wasting psychic energy when you defend
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yourself against a criticism that didn't
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even deserve attention when you respond
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to a provocation just to prove you are
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right when you engage in useless
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discussions when you try to please those
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who do not value you you are spending
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your inner strength on what does not
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nourish you and Jung was clear that
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which you resist persists
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the more you react the more you bind
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yourself people who live emotionally
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drained are not weak they are
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misdirected and do you know what happens
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to someone who lives exhausted they
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become vulnerable and when you are
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vulnerable you become easy
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prey manipulative opportunistic and
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emotionally needy people can sense this
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they notice that you do not know how to
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guard your energy that you react to
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everything that you're always trying to
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solve the world and they take advantage
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of
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it jung said that a healthy psyche is
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one that knows how to keep energy within
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the system this means knowing how to say
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no without guilt knowing how to remain
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silent without feeling cowardly knowing
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how to observe before
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acting because true power is not in
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reacting it is in choosing when and how
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to act and this is only possible when
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you know yourself well enough to
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recognize your own
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impulses how many times have you lost
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sleep over an unresolved
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conversation how many times have you
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spent hours ruminating on what you
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should have said or trying to understand
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why someone treated you
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poorly this is energy being drained
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without return
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you are keeping alive ghosts that should
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have died long ago and feeding dynamics
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that only exist because you insist on
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responding psychic energy is like a
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force field when well-guarded it creates
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presence you enter a room and command
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respect without saying a word but when
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poorly managed you become invisible
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reactive fragile and the world has no
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mercy for those who give in easily
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therefore start observing your own
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triggers what makes you react
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automatically what makes you lose your
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center these are the exact points where
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your energy escapes and that is where
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you need to work not to become cold or
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indifferent but to be selective to be
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sovereign over
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yourself and here comes one of Jung's
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greatest revelations when you conserve
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your energy you break the projections
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that others place upon you and that
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bothers a lot because now we are
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entering a dark territory that of silent
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manipulation in the next part we will
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explore how opportunistic people feed
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off your energy and why your
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unavailability completely disarms these
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games get ready to look into the eyes of
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those who have always drained you
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without you realizing
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it you think you are in control you
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believe your reactions are conscious
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choices but the truth is darker most of
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your emotional responses are programmed
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and those who understand this manipulate
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you
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easily opportunistic people don't need
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to raise their voices threaten or force
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situations they just trigger the buttons
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you've left exposed and you react
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always carl Young called this projection
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the psychological mechanism through
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which people project onto others what
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they cannot see in themselves
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but there is another side to this
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phenomenon that few notice while others
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project onto you you also become the
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receptacle for these images and the more
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emotionally available you are the more
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you become a blank canvas for these
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projections you know that friend who
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only reaches out when they are in crisis
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that partner who always needs you to
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save the day that person who praises you
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but only as long as you are useful to
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them none of this is by chance they are
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not relating to you they are relating to
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the idea of you to the role you agree to
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play and why do you agree because you
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are afraid of disappointing afraid of
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not being loved afraid of being
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abandoned the most effective
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manipulation doesn't happen in shouting
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it happens in the silence of guilt when
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you feel that you owe something to the
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other when you believe you need to be
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available need to help need to
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understand even when it destroys you
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inside and here is the central point the
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manipulator doesn't need to control you
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they just need you to keep reacting the
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same way but when you stop reacting the
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game breaks when you start saying no
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responding with silence withdrawing
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instead of explaining yourself the
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projections begin to crumble the mask
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they put on you falls and this leaves
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people unsettled because they no longer
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know who you are and worse now they are
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forced to look at themselves and not
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everyone is prepared for that your
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unavailability is a threat because it
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forces others to confront their own
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emptiness the silence you offer reveals
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the internal noise they don't want to
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hear and then comes the attack the
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criticism the emotional drama not
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because you are wrong but because you
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stopped serving as a convenient mirror
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jung said "We do not become enlightened
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by imagining figures of light but by
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making the darkness conscious when you
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withdraw when you stop feeding the cycle
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the others shadow begins to emerge and
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this is unbearable for those who have
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always used you as an escape but what
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about you are you ready to deal with the
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discomfort of being misunderstood
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rejected or even attacked for protecting
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yourself are you ready to endure the
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silence that comes after the
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rupture because it is precisely in that
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silence that a new kind of power is born
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and that is what we will talk about
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now in the next part you will understand
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why silence can be the most devastating
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weapon of the human psyche and how it
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completely changes the dynamic between
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you and the
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world the modern world is noisy everyone
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wants to be heard wants to respond
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quickly wants to win pointless debates
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and prove their point even if it costs
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them their own peace but there is a
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power that few know and even fewer
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master the power of silence not the
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silence of passivity or cowardice but
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conscious strategic brutally lucid
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silence the kind of silence that is not
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absence but amplified presence kyong saw
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silence not as a void but as a fertile
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ground for inner
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transformation when you stop reacting
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you begin to observe and by observing
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you see patterns that previously went
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unnoticed emotional repetitions
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manipulation games cycles of
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self-sabotage silence allows for
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lucidity and lucidity is dangerous for
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those who live to control
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you have you noticed how some people
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panic when you don't respond when you
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don't explain yourself when you simply
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disappear it's not because they miss you
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it's because your silence takes away
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their narrative
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control while you speak you are still in
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the game but when you are silent you
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change the rules and that unbalances
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anyone who thrives on your reaction true
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silence is not the absence of voice it
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is mastery over one's own energy it is
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the refusal to be dragged down by
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someone else's emotions it is the
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conscious choice not to engage in
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battles that are not worth your wear
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jung said that individuation the process
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of becoming who you truly are requires
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this distancing because only in silence
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can you listen to yourself without the
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world's
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interference but don't be fooled silence
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has a price it will distance you from
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people who only valued you for the role
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you played it will make you
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incomprehensible to those who only saw
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you through their own projections it
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will make you seem cold distant
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arrogant but all of this is a reaction
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from those who never wanted to deal with
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your depth only with your utility and
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here is the hard truth the more you
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mature the more selective you become
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with your words because you understand
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that each sentence is an energetic
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investment and not everyone deserves
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access to your truth sometimes silence
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is not retreat it is sovereignty it is
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the language of those who no longer need
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to prove anything to anyone silence is
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uncomfortable because it forces the
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other to deal with their own thoughts
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with their own internal noise and this
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discomfort reveals more about them than
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any argument of yours could reveal you
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don't need to explain your absence it
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explains itself and those who feel
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threatened by it reveal how much they
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depended on your imbalance to maintain
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their own control but the most powerful
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silence is not the one that disturbs the
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other it is the silence that
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reconstructs you from within the silence
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that connects you to something beyond
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external approval it is in this internal
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space free from others demands that you
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begin to recover your vital energy to
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reconnect with your
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essence and this is precisely what we
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will talk about in the next part because
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it's not enough to just cut out external
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noise you need to relearn how to use
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your energy
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consciously to choose where it goes
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where it stays and most importantly
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where it should never be wasted it's
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time to learn to be selective with your
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own soul if you're in the process of
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reclaiming your energy and setting
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boundaries you'll find real value in my
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book Beyond the Shadow it breaks down
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Yung's most important ideas and gives
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you tools to protect your energy set
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boundaries and reconnect with your true
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self link is in the pinned comment
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it's no use understanding all of this
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intellectually if in practice you
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continue saying yes when you mean no
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responding to messages that bother you
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participating in empty conversations and
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maintaining relationships that only
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exist out of
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inertia awareness without action is just
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another form of
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selfdeception true transformation begins
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when you firmly decide to become
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selective
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and this requires emotional
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discipline conscious unavailability is
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not about being cold arrogant or
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indifferent it's about no longer being
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accessible to anyone at any time for any
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reason it's about taking control of your
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own energy your own time your own peace
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and this starts with small actions not
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responding immediately breathing before
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reacting leaving a discussion before
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being dragged into chaos turning off
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your phone without guilt saying not
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today saying I'm not interested saying I
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won't get involved but here's the most
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important part you don't need to justify
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your absence you don't need to explain
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your silence you owe nothing to anyone
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but yourself and this for many people is
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unforgivable because when you refuse to
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explain yourself you take away the other
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person's power to keep you within an
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emotional narrative where you are always
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the helpful understanding accessible one
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carl Jung understood that every process
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of individuation goes through
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isolation but not a depressive
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isolation a sacred isolation a time of
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inner retreat where you relearn to
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listen to your own voice without the
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world's
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interference where you rebuild your
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identity not based on the gaze of others
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but from your own center want to know a
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good thermometer for your evolution
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observe who starts to distance
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themselves from you when you become more
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reserved observe who tries to provoke
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you when you stop reacting observe who
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accuses you of having changed when you
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finally start to protect yourself these
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are not signs that you are wrong they
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are proof that you have begun to free
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yourself being unavailable is
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uncomfortable at first you will feel
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guilty you will think you are being
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selfish you will hear that you are being
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too harsh but this is part of the
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deconstruction process you have spent
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your life being conditioned to put
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yourself second it's natural that change
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causes discomfort not only in you but in
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everyone who benefited from your old
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version conscious unavailability is the
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foundation of
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self-determination when you say no to
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the world you are saying yes to yourself
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when you withdraw from a toxic
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environment you are reaffirming that
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your peace is worth more than any false
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connection and when you stop explaining
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yourself you begin to be respected even
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if it's by few but not everyone is ready
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for this type of presence because your
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emotional absence will expose wounds
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they do not want to face it will reveal
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how much they depended on your emotional
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chaos to feel in control and it is at
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this moment that the rupture comes and
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with the rupture comes the pain the
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loneliness the estrangement the feeling
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that you are losing something when in
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fact you are just freeing yourself but
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what happens after that what comes after
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the distancing what is born from the
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silence in the last part we will talk
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about this about the rebirth that only
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happens when you have the courage to be
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misunderstood to be alone and to become
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whole on your
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own it's time to understand why the
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loneliness of the strong is the path to
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true
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freedom when you stop being available to
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everyone something profound begins to
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happen first comes the silence an
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uncomfortable silence that seems to
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scream inside you you wonder if you did
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the right thing if you are being too
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harsh if you are losing people who liked
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you but gradually this silence
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transforms it begins to cleanse to calm
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to heal and then comes solitude but not
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the solitude of absence it is the
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solitude of total presence your own the
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solitude of the strong the solitude of
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one who no longer betrays themselves to
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keep others close and in that space
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where there was once confusion clarity
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enters where there was once anxiety
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peace enters where there was once
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neediness a new kind of strength enters
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the strength of being whole within
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yourself carl Jung said that the process
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of individuation becoming who you really
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are requires you to distance yourself
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from the collective that you disidentify
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from the mask that you walk alone for a
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while
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and that is exactly what you are doing
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when you decide to become
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unavailable you are not fleeing the
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world you are returning to yourself it
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is at this point that you stop being a
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reactor and become a creator you cease
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to be shaped by circumstances and begin
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to shape your reality from within the
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people who feel uncomfortable with your
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absence they reveal that they never
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wanted you they wanted the role you
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played and now that you no longer fit
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they don't know what to do with you and
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that is liberating you will lose people
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but you will find yourself you will
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distance yourself from places but you
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will reconnect with your essence you
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will become
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misunderstood but finally you will begin
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to be respected because when you are no
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longer available for anything you become
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valuable rare unforgettable and don't be
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fooled this is a rebirth a new beginning
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the start of a life where you are no
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longer available for emotional crumbs
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for mind games for voids disguised as
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affection now you only accept what
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resonates with your peace with your
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truth with your wholeness and if you
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have made it this far it's because a
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part of you is already ready for this
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new path a part of you has already
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understood that being loved means
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nothing if for that you have to abandon
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yourself and that true self-love begins
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when you choose yourself even if it
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costs you to be alone for a
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while now tell me in the comments are
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you ready to be misunderstood rejected
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or even hated in the name of your inner
00:24:48
freedom are you willing to pay the price
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of being you if this message touched you
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if it made sense write in the comments I
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choose my
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peace let's see how many here are ready
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for this transition and don't forget
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keep watching the next video it's
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important much more than you imagine see
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you there
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