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I think a lot of us hold ourselves back
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when it comes to the pursuit of anything
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that we actually want and when I say
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that I mean when it comes to ourselves I
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feel like we attribute so much and carry
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so much that it gets hard to take the
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steps necessary to get to our goals and
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when I say that I'm really meaning that
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you know you have to let yourself go to
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let yourself grow I feel like a lot of
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our grows is very much impaired by our
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inability to let go of our current idea
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of ourselves and that's why I think you
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know the whole point of breaking the
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habit of being yourself is understanding
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that who you are isn't
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necessarily entirely solid you know
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there's aspects of you that of course
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are going to remain unchanged but I feel
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like a lot of that is up to our
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distinction and up to how much of
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ourselves or how much I guess attention
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we give to those parts of ourselves that
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are seeking out change and it's also
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about the conscious choice that we make
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to tend towards something better for a
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specific part of us
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I feel like a lot of us try to take our
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negativity and whatever negative parts
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we have of ourselves and just cast them
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aside as if they shouldn't be part of us
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or as if as if they aren't part of us
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you know and I just talked about it in
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my last video but what we run from is
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already caught us and I feel like in
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that way if we're running from parts of
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ourselves then there's no escape and
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that's why I feel like the intention
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shouldn't necessarily be placed on
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running but facing whatever it is that
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we have internally and of course I can
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only say that with a grain of salt of
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course there's things in in life that
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you know people have to take their time
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to address and whatnot but when it comes
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to things that I think we want to get on
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top of and things that we want to change
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in general for our longevity and our
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life then we have to make that conscious
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intention and conscious effort to do so
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and it doesn't even have to be a stress
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thing I find I find that in letting
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yourself go it's it's about letting go
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of that stress I feel like a lot of us
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are maintained through some type of
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mental effort whether or not we're
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conscious of it and I feel like that
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drains our energy energy on a day-to-day
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basis I feel like a lot of people get
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tired of being themselves or expressing
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themselves in a certain way or feeling
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like they have to do this this that and
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other and jump over so many Hoops to
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find some type of comfort in their life
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and that's why I think the importance
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should always be placed in affirmation
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of the self and it's not even to say
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like you have to be delusional about who
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you are or have some type of conflix in
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your head I'm really just saying you
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have to treat yourself like a person and
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accept yourself the way you are so you
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can see the parts of yourself that you
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actually want to change and transform
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into something better and it's not about
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disregarding it's about your renovation
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of yourself understanding that the
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negative Parts you have are only in
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reference to the good ones and that's
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not to say you always have a lot a
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balanced amount of good and bad parts
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but to say that you know your patience
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is only measured by your
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impatience and that's what I mean by you
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know you have to live in reference to
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yourself and nothing else cuz if you
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live live in reference to yourself in
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that regard then that type of change is
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something you can see and you you can
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somewhat quantify but I feel like it's
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when we're trying to compare ourselves
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to that which is not us I.E other people
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or other situations other events then
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often we get caught up in the mental
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perception of whatever it is we're
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looking at and in that way our
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projection isn't necessarily a
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projection of our feelings but a
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projection of our feelings of an event
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or person circumstance back onto us and
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that's why I feel like we have we carry
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so much and that's also a part of
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Letting Go realizing that you don't have
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to perform for anybody you know all you
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have to do is be you and you don't owe
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anyone else an explanation in
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cultivating and instantiating who you
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are in this world and I don't mean that
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to say don't care about what other
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people thinks 100% I'm not saying don't
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listen to anybody of course you can
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listen to people but I feel like our
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listening to people is not something we
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should do in effort but in our
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willingness to do so and to that same
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regard we have to be willing to listen
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to
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ourselves I feel like pretty much a lot
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of I would even say everything I
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wouldn't say a lot most of the things I
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know about myself
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or any type of mindfulness in regards to
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my experience has come from me listening
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or me being present enough to see
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certain CHS and certain things within
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myself and the more I become clouded by
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I guess what's going on around me or in
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terms of like I don't know things I'm
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trying trying to stress about or or
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things I think I'm vesting my value in
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the more I lose sight of that presence
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and the more I lose sight of myself cuz
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the more we spread ourselves out into
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other things this is that and other and
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distribute I guess our energy into
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events and circumstances and people and
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places that don't necessarily serve us
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and aren't us then that's where we lose
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it because in vesi I guess not even I
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wouldn't even say Just Energy but our
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attachment how much we allow some sort
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of external things to Define our
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internal Comfort internal peace and
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internal self that's how we lose it
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because we're instantiating it and
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putting it in other things other than
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ourselves and of course I say you have
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to put yourself in to get yourself out
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and what I mean by that is be fully
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present within the situation bring
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yourself to the situation so it's not
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fragmented it's not rehearsed it's not
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this is that other but it allows you to
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see how you actually are and you how
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actually interact with a certain
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stimulous circumstance and whatnot and I
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feel like in that way we're opening up
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the doors for our own
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understanding and I feel like knowledge
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of the self in a way is knowledge of the
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world I don't mean that in a sense to
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say if you know yourself you know
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everything about the world but to say if
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you know yourself well enough and you
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find comfort in that then you begin to
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explore
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it you begin to explore the world around
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you and I feel like that's sort of what
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brings Beauty to life is you know the
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happiness that ensues from your learning
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cuz I feel like as long as you're
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learning you can't fail and I feel like
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learning about yourself is all we ever
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tend to do and I feel like that's all
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anyone ever finds comfort in because
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they understand that maybe a specific
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action specific thing specific
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expression has made them see more of
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themselves and and by that thing they
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learn how to sort of Express themselves
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through a certain medium and I feel like
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it's that kind of expression it's that
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kind of thing that allows people to find
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comfort in real life I feel like that's
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what all artists and creative sort of do
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is Express their perspective through a
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specific medium and I feel like not to
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say that everyone has to be a creative
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artist but to say that everyone should
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do something creative and artistic any a
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way and it doesn't even have to be like
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drawing painting something this is and
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the other it could just be whatever it
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is that makes you feel most like
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yourself and I feel like in doing that
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thing we find it
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because it's always been right here with
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us and it's not it hasn't ever been in
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reference to anything else I feel like
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the only place you ever find yourself is
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where you are and it's just about taking
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a step back long enough to see that to
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see whatever it is in front of you you
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know in saying that you have to let
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yourself go to let yourself grow is to
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say that you have to give yourself space
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and I feel like a lot of us are
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accustomed to a very finite amount of uh
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Mobility when it comes to their
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expression and it comes to who they are
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you know and saying we have to break the
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habit of being ourselves I feel like a
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lot of people have themselves in some
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sort of rehearsed um played out thought
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of overthought expression of who they
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are and I feel like we shouldn't be
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subject to our own bias when it comes to
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our our expression and I don't mean that
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to say don't listen to yourself but I
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mean that to say understand what parts
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of yourself are from you and what's
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pulling your strings that's not from you
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and I feel like if you want to write
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your own story it has to be in reference
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to you and you have to be the one to
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hold the pen I'm not saying that you can
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Define everything you are and and
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everyone else will have to accept that
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but I have to say if you want to be
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something else you're embodiment is
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simply constringent on your your ability
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to give yourself space to be within that
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and what I mean by that is you have to
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open yourself up to different Avenues of
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expression in different modes of being
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you have to allow yourself to sort of
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occupy the space that you want to take
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up like if you want to be this specific
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occupation or you want to achieve this
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you have to bring that achievement to
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the present moment and I don't mean that
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in the sense like you have to go out
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there and just grab it and take it back
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but in the sense that you have to make
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it real enough in your head to give
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yourself I guess the presence and the uh
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Vision to see whenever those opport
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opportunities arrive cuz you have to be
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present enough to see and present to
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capitalize off of any opportunity that
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comes your way and you can't do that if
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we're constantly stuck in our mind
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especially about ourselves I feel like
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the way we worry about ourselves is sort
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of contradictory at times because it's
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that very worry that keeps us stuck and
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stagnant and not able to actually do
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what we want and do the things we need
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in order to mitigate that stress and I
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feel like a lot of times anxiety just
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needs an
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answer we have to answer our anxiety
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with sometimes and I don't necessarily
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mean with clinically diagnosed anxiety
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but in terms of the
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feeling I find that my anxiety at times
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is only mitigated by my ability to
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actually act upon whatever it is that's
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causing my anxiety and that's why I
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think it's important to be present
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enough to hear yourself as well cuz to
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run from feeling I feel like is a lot of
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times to run from yourself and you have
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to understand the implications of your
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certain feelings and why you feel
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certain ways about this this that and
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the other and I feel like at the end of
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the day those things always lead back to
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your answer namely yourself cuz I feel
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like if you can realize that you're the
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path to your own life and your your sort
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of not even just the vessel but the very
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thing that is the path it's about how
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much you attribute to yourself and how
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much you keep adding and how much you
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grow and how much you know reality you
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give to what it is that is you and I
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feel like once you get to to the point
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of I
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guess understanding that then all life
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becomes is just a
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big
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lesson a big opportunity for you to see
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other perspectives and see other things
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within the world and understand which
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things you want to I guess add on to
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your own PL add on to your own
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perspective to live your life in a way
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that's more beneficial to you I don't
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mean that in reference to Bringing
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others down cuz I feel like when it
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comes to self-improvement it's never in
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the degradation of other people but the
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affirmation of the
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self I feel like and once you genuinely
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do that it won't be about other people
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like I don't tell myself any
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affirmations like if I say what's to say
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something like oh I love myself I don't
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mean that to say like I love other
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people less or I or hate other people or
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hate somebody you know I feel like it's
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just about the relationship you have
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with yourself and I I feel like if we
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can realize that
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then we have to realize that we
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shouldn't be looking outside in regards
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to it like if I want to love myself I
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shouldn't have some type of conditions
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set up that are based on something
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external if my own self- Lov is
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something that's very internal and
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that's what's meant by not looking for
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external solutions for internal problems
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cuz I feel like a lot of our issues are
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really just a projection of our own bias
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onto the
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world and
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and recognizing that bias it's about
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somewhat taking that step
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forward to understand that a lot of what
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we face isn't necessarily an obstacle or
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or or something that we have to overcome
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but something we have to
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understand and I feel like in
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understanding our obstacles and in
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understanding this is that and the other
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it creates a pathway for you to walk
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straight through them because what you
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can understand you can actually interact
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with you can actually influence and I
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think if we can understand ourselves to
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that degree better then we can influence
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our own action better because what we do
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isn't necessarily always based on things
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outside of us but how we react
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internally and that might have been set
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up by something outside of us like your
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parents your growing up your
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circumstances your this is that and
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other but I think if we're present
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enough to realize negativity or some
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parts of ourselves are seeking out
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change then we have to be responsible
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enough to actually enact that change via
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our presence via Our intention
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and Our intention shouldn't really be
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placed on anything but being ourselves
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and being the best version of that self
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you know and doing your best and I feel
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like doing your best isn't always about
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success doing your best is really just
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about doing your best and and bringing
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the best foot forward regardless of the
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circumstance so whatever it is you come
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across can be something that you
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appreciate regardless our appreciation
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isn't necessarily constringent on other
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things to appreciate and what we are
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grateful for should not be in reference
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to other thing we things we're grateful
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for I feel like the intimacy of life is
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always characterized by treating
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everything as if it was new you know
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every situation every time you talk to a
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a person maybe you see them every day
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but it's a new experience and a new
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pathway you know and I feel like you
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learn so much more in that way cuz I
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feel like once we connotate something
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that's oh old or this is another we
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failed to listen to it we fail to see it
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too I feel like everyone and everything
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is always sharing some type of unique
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perspective in a way that I feel like
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can benefit everyone some people have
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certain parts of the answer I feel like
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figured out and it just takes an open
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ear and Open Eyes in order to see all
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the parts of ourselves that are
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expressed or at least seen and
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everything around
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us and in that way we are in a sense
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like a representation of all that's
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around us it just takes I guess
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conscious intention to see the ways in
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which we can learn from everything
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around us and I feel like accepting that
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you don't know everything opens your
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door to learning and I think the same
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thing works with
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ourselves we shouldn't treat ourselves
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like some solid thing that we know
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everything about when we always have
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things that sort of shake that idea like
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I express myself in a certain way and
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sometimes I'm like wow I didn't know
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like I had that that capacity within
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myself but I feel like we always have in
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it's just about how much reality we give
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to ourselves in terms of our ability to
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grow and ability to express that allows
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us to express ourselves in certain
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ways and I feel like any expression of
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the self should always be done in from a
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place of
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affirmation realizing that if you don't
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affirm what you do and you don't affirm
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I
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guess not even just yourself but your
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idea as well then you can't expect
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anyone else to and I think no
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expectation should be placed on anyone
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else to do that because you have to be
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one present enough to see yourself and
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be able to do your best but
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honestly
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honestly be honest with
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yourself cuz I feel like self-awareness
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is a is a great tool when it comes to uh
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self-development and that's not to say h
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be hyper aware of everything you do and
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then connotate it and and try to
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restrict yourself cuz you'll end up in
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the same place I feel like
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self-improvement is often a double edge
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sword when it comes to becoming a aware
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of yourself I feel like it's also about
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that Grace that you give yourself and
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also about how much of yourself you're
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willing to let go to allow good parts to
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come in like if I think this part of
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myself is negative the more I hold on to
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it the more I hold on to that idea the
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more I constantly enforce it with
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thoughts like oh I'm this way I'm this
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way I'm this way I'm this way negative
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affirmation the more it's going to be
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affirmed into my character and I think
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giving yourself room to grow or letting
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yourself grow is about opening your
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doors to other affirmation and not
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necessarily conting yourself in your
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head in any negative way and not
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contributing to your own negativity and
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I feel like once you get to the point of
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not contributing to your own negativity
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it just becomes
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a an effort to realize what you want
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instantiated within yourself cuz a lot
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of what's placed in life is what we give
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it and a lot of what's placed in
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ourselves is what we give ourselves and
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it doesn't even have to be an
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intentional thing cuz I feel like we all
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have thoughts we repeat and they might
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be thoughts you know given by Society or
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given by certain people in our family or
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certain events to certain situations but
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I feel like if we're conscious enough to
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realize that those things influence the
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way we think then we have to be the ones
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to posit some type of positivity within
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our own life to a point of allowing
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ourselves to grow and giving ourselves
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the necessary I guess stimulus and
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necessary whatever to overcome any
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obstacle that comes in our path so I
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guess if you made it this far in the
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video thank you so much I really do
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appreciate all of yall from the bottom
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of my heart
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um please take care of yourselves make
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sure you're treating yourself like a
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friend doing what you can with what you
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have right where you are um realizing
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that your growth isn't in reference to
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anybody but you um and I feel like
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that's one of the most important things
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when it comes to your self-improvement
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journey cuz we all get lost and we all
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get caught up in and trying to um I
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guess compare it to something
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else and I feel like ourselves doesn't
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have to be compared and contrasted in
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order to be seen it just has to
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be you know given the opportunity given
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the audience of yourself to see whatever
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it is that that's being expressed um all
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that's to be said thank you appreciate
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y'all
